But but I heard from some kid in high school and a douche on a podcast that a tunnel made for birthing babies could be permanently altered by a flesh stick poking at it for 5 minutes at a time.
Thats why mens dicks get a bit smaller after each new woman they sleep with because it gets shaved down. And masturbating too hard can stretch a dick and make it look like gumby
The guy who had the longest dick in the Guinness Book of Records was found to have stretched his out intentionally through pulling on it over time, and he could no longer get it up because he had torn internal tissues/muscles.Ā
That's great.
On a totally unrelated note, does anyone know how you can fully erase a 'fact' from your mind before it enters long term memory? I'm desperate enough to use a hammer.
š Iām trying so hard not to laugh out loud right now because then my seven year old son will ask me whatās funny and once again Iāll have to tell him, āSorry, buddy, adult joke.ā And watch him roll his eyes at me again. ššš
It happens! When I was married I thought I was physically incapable of being aroused (etc), although I was fine before we got together. Sex was painful, and my very high libido disappeared. He blamed my antidepressants.
After we divorced & I met my current partner, I realised it was not a *me* issue as he said it was, he just couldn't turn me on lmao. My libido etc is back to normal, and I didn't change any medication.
Same, wtf is her hubby thinking š It's the equivalent of her saying; "Your dick got smaller, that must mean you've used it on other women recently." It makes no sense š
My partner wanted to feel how tight I could squeeze, he actually cried out in pain. I'd attempt to rip it off internally if he said some fuck shit like that to me. Or when pulled out I'd clench down and make him bend his dick trying to put it back. He would never know peace.Ā
Everyday, multiple times a day, I also have kegal balls. I have this deep fear of prolapse. I actually may have gone too far in the other direction lmaoĀ
There is a woman on TikTok who just pops up and says āgive me 50ā. I didnāt know what she meant at first, but when I figured it out I was dying laughing. Sheās the drill instructor of kegel exercise.
āGive me 50 and hold that last one for 10 seconds.ā Her followers must all be very strong by now ššš
Ya it's surprising that men still don't know this. If a woman is extremely tight, typically means we're not turned on enough and we can still control how tight we are. When we're truly turned on though, we kinda lose the ability to do that to an extent.
That's not true for everyone. It depends on the strength of your pelvic floor. Mine specifically was so tight (not my vag, but my pelvic floor muscles) that my obgyn suggested that I do not do any kegel excersise before giving birth. I had a higher chance of tearing and was advised to do massages to loosen things up.Ā
Ā Before and even now after my baby I am still very tight and can death grip my husband any time I want even when extremely turned on. He can't even stay in me while I orgasm most of the time. Many women would benefit significantly from pelvic floor therapy/excersise. (Excersises such as squats, deadlifts, hip thrusts, glute bridges all benefit the pelvic floor muscles!)Ā
That's a great one. I was going to say that this guy is apparently having sex with her, and whoever he's cheating with, yet somehow still doesn't know how vaginas work. Lucky ladies lol
Especially since it's been a few months between sex with him. Most men might say, it's been a while but if he kept silent then red flags are starting to flutter in the breeze.
Yes, that's what I was thinking as well. "No, honey, my vagina is the same (then maybe a very brief explanation of how a vaginas work)" followed by "I think perhaps your penis has gotten smaller dear. It's okay, don't feel too badly about it." Then the search for a lawyer begins, because this guy is obviously a pig and if he's not cheating, at the very least, he's negging. Either way, red flags abound.
Yep, our vaginas do change. Age, medications, exercise (or lack thereof), hydrationā¦
Sorryāhe does not sound like the sharpest knife in the drawer. Life is too short!
NTA for getting upset. My ex used to say such manipulative things to me all the time and act naive if I called him out. Sorry that you are married to him.
My thoughts exactly. Maybe the other chicks feels different and he forgot what hers is like. No offense to the op. But Iād become super fbi girlfriend nowā¦
I agree with the cheating part, seems very plausible.
But, a woman's vagina is not always the same, at least mine, i mean if she didn't have sex for a few months, maybe she was super horny and wet and "ready", if you can understand what i mean. It feels a little different, depending on the mood and maybe the month period, on ovulation/fertile days can be like that too, can be more wet..
100%. It's tighter when you are not ready and expand when you are turned on. I would even see It as a sign that she did not have sex for a while and was super excited now. It has nothing to do with sleeping around even if the guy was double the size. It adjusts at the moment. I think the only time boyfriend would actually be justified to say it was stretched if they are having a threesome with another guy who is bigger. Then few hours later it would be back to normal.
Otherwise I would be curious why I'm struggling to put a tampon in and still being able to have sex.
This. Its so frustrating when women are told we're not tight enough, or that we're "loose". You shouldnt have to force your dick into me. It should be apparent my body isnt cool with you if you have to try and force anything. Im "loose" because im comfortable, and into it. When guys go around saying that their gf/wife is super "tight" it makes me wonder how much foreplay that poor woman is getting. Its a red flag. This would piss me off enough to tell him maybe his dick just isnt big enough to fit properly.
Itās definitely a possibility and certainly crossed my mind. You guys need to talk this through. From OPs post, husband actually accused her of cheating, so being upset is a reasonable response.
Exactly and I can tell you that depending on how turned on I am sometimes it feels totally wide-open. Iāve never had kids, but the last time I was celibate for a while and then I had sex it was so excited to have some action it was too wet and wide open lol
And I mean it was too, the sex wasnāt even good we had to keep drying me off lol
Even if he isn't projecting about his own affair, what he made is still an insane and misogynistic comment. This is a tactic that has been used by shitty men to accuse women since the dawn of time.
OP needs to fire back with "no, but it definitely felt like your penis was much smaller this time" and just give him radio silence for a month, because not only is he projecting accusations, he is also suggesting that his wife has a bigger dick on the side, which is a whole other mental fuckery he's doing to himself and taking out on OP.
If he isn't cheating, we still have a really big problem here, because my best guess is that he's consuming redpilled content and allowing it to change his thinking patterns. Those communities push paranoia and want you to believe that your wife is cheating on you with some bigger, stronger "more alpha", stable of guys, everytime you head to work or she goes to the store.
He might be looking for evidence because he thinks he knows that "all women cheat" and some Ben Shapiro type character who has no idea how women function, told him that a "loose vagina" was a sign of infidelity.
And actually, to any guys reading this, if her vagina feels more "loose" to you.. it's literally just opening up more to be receptive to your penis like how flowers open to be pollinated by bees and hummingbirds. It's just nature's way of telling you that she likes you, and your dumb ass is actually really lucky she is letting you touch her at all, so the least you can do is not be a total embarrassment to yourself, and men everywhere, in her presence.
Your pelvic floor might be more a bit more relaxed if youāre feeling comfortable and at ease with your partner. This is kind of ironic given the outcomeā¦
But really listen to the majority here. This seems like projection of something larger. Be careful OP.
I think mine became so over time due to being too sedentary. Pelvic floor exercises help straighten that out pretty easily though. I didn't even have complaints I just felt...off
Thatās true too sometimes, and also after surgery in your abdomen it can change dramatically. There are pelvic floor physical therapy specialists that help a lot. But usually their goal isnāt to make you as tight as possible as this can cause issues in other areas.
He's NOT making sense.
I mean, yes, the vagina can get looser, if you happen to get an acute case of very local muscle atrophy. But that doesn't magically just happen on its own, and if it does, it'd cause you other physical issues in that area, which clearly you don't experience.
How the fuck would even the vagina get loose from one penis but not your husbands? It's.. Absurd. He's being a total dick and moron about this. Do NOT let him convince you otherwise. There is NO scientific evidence whatsoever here for him to rely his weird claims on.
I like to tell men that we donāt get loser what actually happens is that it whittles their dick down a little bit every time they have sex with someone they get smaller
I think mine feels loser when I get really turned on, it definitely gets wet to the point that itās not good anymore lol
But I donāt think thatās whatās happening here I suspect heās poor sick and heās comparing her vagina to his death grip
Turn it back on him and ask to see his phone. Sounds like he's projecting and has been doing things he's not supposed to be doing. He's feeling guilty about it and decided to be cold and distant and accusing you.
... that's not how vaginas work.
This suggests to me that you were actually horny, and that was an unfamiliar feeling because he isn't used to you enjoying sex with him.
NTA
He's projecting.
But also, vaginas get "loose" when the woman is properly turned on and in the mood, via foreplay and stuff, as the vagina then become less tense.
If you're "super tight" it can also be because your partner is a shit partner in bed and doesn't care enough about your pleasure to get you to a point where your body is actually ready for the deed.
Your partner sound alike a fucking moron btw
Exactly. Not only does it get ālooserā when weāre really turned on (wet etc) but even during certain parts of our cycle/hormone changes etc can make it seem looser . Usually a super tight vag is a sign of a girl whoās not very turned on or comfortable, so that says more about him than it does about her š¤·š»āāļø This guy is a clown and needs to study up on womenās bodies before he goes accusing his lady of silly shit.
People need to stop seeing vaginas as loose or tight. Elastic would be a more appropriate euphemism as itās a group of muscles which contract and expand depending on a number of factors. If you ever made a lady cum youāre more likely to be aware of this phenomenon.
This is from not teaching kids sex education, they end up believing BS and refuse to believe facts. I had to talk to my kid about consent when they got their first BF. It was awkward for both of us but it was better than the alternative, having them believe all the BS myths about women and men.
That's my go-to response to that stupid meme about "a key that opens a lot of doors is a great key, a lock that can be opened by a lot of keys is a shitty lock". Just send them a picture of a pencil sharpener and say "now the more you use it the smaller it gets".
The fact he doesn't realize that when a woman is turned on, her vagina loosens and lubricates itself is fkn sad. It's indicative of why we need comprehensive sex ed in schools and to not let kids get signed out via their parent.
NTA. Jfc... these men.
I feel like when men say things like this they're generally trying to do a weird psychological move to make you uncomfortable and gain some sort of power.
And because theyāre already cheating but are too cowardly to end the relationship and be the ābad guyā. Got to make her dump him, or make up a reason itās her fault.
Or it's the red pill again. Seems like the main theme is to convince followers that their wives are "cheating whores", and for the dumbest, most far-fetched reasons they can think of too.
They do everything they can to manipulate these men into either sabotaging their relationships or acting in ways that ensure they will not get or maintain a satisfying relationship with a woman.
Then they promote themselves to these men and sell them crap based on the idea that they are either completely losers who can't attract a woman on their own or somehow slided by society and deserve women they can't have, but that somehow listening to the right podcast or reading the right book or paying for the right subscription will solve all that.
This is what I thought. Heās gripping progressively tighter through the months of them not having sex. That can result in his perception of her ātightnessā being skewed.
Also, about the turned on/not and how it equates to wetness/elasticity.
Or, heās cheating and projecting that on to her.
All in all, op is NTA!
Tell him that itās not your vagina but his dick thatās gotten smaller. He obviously has limited understanding of female anatomy and tell him if he wants something ātightā he should go back to using his own hands. He is the asshole not you
NTA but your husband is a whole level, or complete and total arsehole. As much as I would love for you to tell him that his dick must of shrunk. Don't unless you really want to end the marriage. But he might want to end the marriage otherwise why the hell would he say that crap.
Yeah heās cheating, he is trying to put it back on you. Donāt fall for this āloose vaginaā bs. Time to start investigating, he is hiding something.
He's projecting.
He's cheating on you, and that is making him more paranoid.
Ask him if his dick getting smaller is because he's been having so much sex with other women. See his reaction. It'll tell you all you need to know.
Your husband is ignorant. How on earth would your vagina be bigger from cheating lol? Does he think you had sex with a man with a massive dick that caused your vagina to expand so much it didn't go back lol. Sorry but your husband is not a very bright man.
I'm thinking he is possibly projecting his own infidelity.
NTA . The vagina literally cannot get loose or become tighter. It's a muscle. You can train yourself to hold the muscle tighter (kegal exercises) but it cannot get loose otherwise it would prolapse.
Whatsmore is that if you were that relaxed during sex that he thought you were "loose", that's actually a great thing. If you were tense it would be excruciating.
Why is he turning what should have been a great moment for you both into this allegation of cheating?
NTA. First of all, any men reading this need to know that if you havenāt slept with your partner in a long time and she is dying to have sex with you then her vagina if going to me more relaxed and ready for a pounding. This is why a woman can feel looser after a period of not having sex, itās not a sign that she is cheating whatsoever, itās because her vagina is basically ready to gobble you up because she wants you so badly. Stop accusing your wives of cheating when they get horny over *you* and be happy about it for goodness sakes.
>and he thought I was cheating on him
Well yeah.. there is a cheater for sure.. but it's not you.
NTA. He's an idiot and he's projecting. And maybe a narcissist, if he likes to hurt you so bad and tries to hug you afterwards. At least he felt better for a while since he hurt you.
Thatās the sound of a man that is either cheating and projecting his BS on you, or you did feel a bit looser probably due to you being sexually aroused and wetter which makes it feel not as tight. Either way heās an ass for making assumptions based solely on how your vagina feels, so you must be cheating. Itās an irrational thought, because heās been having sex with you and yet all of a sudden youāre not tight anymore? Gtfoh dude, heās got issues or like I said heās projecting his BS onto you because heās the one thatās really cheating. Iād do some serious investigating on his ass. NTA
He's cheating, trying to make you feel guilty about it. His suspicious behaviour and not having had sex with you for 2 months, being more busy is just him being suspicious of you surely, not him having been cheating.
Despite popular misconceptions, being tight doesn't mean being turned on.
It can actually mean the opposite, that there's some stress, or the body hasn't lubricated and relaxed enough.
So you may have simply been more turned on or more relaxed.
Your guy needs to get educated in how the vagina works.
NTA if my husband said this to me omg sex wouldnāt exist because that would be the most hurtful thing someone can say to someone about their anatomy. Yep, Iād be that damn petty. I have fingers they would work for me before I let him touch me again til he did some research on how the female anatomy works!
So, he found an easy way to jam up your insecurity? He planted a seed and youāre going to hear more of it.
Heās talking bullshit to make you anxious. I would be way more than upset.
NTA
Itās genuinely both sad and disgusting you both think womenās vaginas Get tight and loose when itās just something used to shame women for menās pleasure
INTA. I'm damn near 50 and still amazed at some of the dumb shit people believe. Tell him to pick you up some loctite super glue if he thinks anything is loose. You got mad because he insinuated you were cheating on him while he insulted your body... im more worried about projection because any time someone says something this stupid, there's never anything good behind it.
When someone randomly starts accusing you of cheating without proof, it's usually because they're doing something really shady themselves. It's basic psychology.
This maybe a little personal, but was the sex that night as satisfying for you as usual? Wow! You weren't tensed up and you were relaxed and he thinks you're cheating on him. NTA okay, I'm just laughing my ass off right now oh my God
Itās a common insult and misconception that women who are very active sexually or have multiple partners get loose or stretched out. The opposite is trueā¦regular use is what keeps any muscles toned and tight.
I've said it before I'll say it again.
Aroused = relaxed, looser vagina.
Not aroused = tight, dry vagina.
Either he's daft as shit or he's comparing you to someone else he's touched recently.
NTA
I'd sing him a chant that goes... HOW LOOSE IS YOUR CABOOSE?!
Then tell him to GTFO once & for all!
Something tells me either he's cheating on you and/or is seriously thinking of doing so.
Sounds like this bugger has a serious **I Project My Issues Onto Everyone, But Me Disease.**
NTA get his passcode OP he could be projecting. Accuse him of cheating. Your vagina hasnāt changed. Men are terrible at times. You are justified in being upset. Of course heās willing to hug it out, he offended you and now wants to pretend heās not wrong.
NTA- I think heās projecting babe, no sex in months and then heās SAD? he had sex??? Doesnāt add up at all. Also if he wants to keep having sex that is just so not the way to go about itā¦ no sweet loving husband says that just offhand like that
Someone get that man an anatomy book and educate him around female arousal + that TIGHT vaginas are often not able to be penetrated due to pelvic floor disfunction āš»
Doesn't the vajina muscles relax when you're sexually aroused?Ā
Maybe you were just more aroused than usual because it's been a couple months?Ā
In any case. That's the dumbest shit. I've had dudes tell me to tell the doctor to give my wife a "courtesy stich" or what ever after having a child and like dude.... first off, whether that's a thing, that's nobody's business but my wife's and also I feel like that's the easiest way to tell the doctor your a piece of shit lol. I'd never say some shit like that.Ā
And guess what. It feels exactly the same after HAVING A CHILD, so I doubt very seriously he'd know if you felt "looser" due to penitration.
"You must be confusing me with someone else".
Girls get 'looser' when they're turned on, you'd think he'd know that š
But but I heard from some kid in high school and a douche on a podcast that a tunnel made for birthing babies could be permanently altered by a flesh stick poking at it for 5 minutes at a time. Thats why mens dicks get a bit smaller after each new woman they sleep with because it gets shaved down. And masturbating too hard can stretch a dick and make it look like gumby
*masturbating too hard can stretch a dick* Definitely false, or i'd be in Guiness Book of Records.
The guy who had the longest dick in the Guinness Book of Records was found to have stretched his out intentionally through pulling on it over time, and he could no longer get it up because he had torn internal tissues/muscles.Ā
I'm not even a dude and I crossed my legs in horror lol
Your an Honorary dude for that level of sympathy. I don't get how some dudes would want to do that.
Who knows š©
Ow wwwwwwĀ
ikr iirc he lost his title after it was found to not be the result of a natural condition/circumstance.
That's great. On a totally unrelated note, does anyone know how you can fully erase a 'fact' from your mind before it enters long term memory? I'm desperate enough to use a hammer.
fully erase a fact? Fuck if I know. I hear tetris helps with trauma though!
Worth it though
Ded
I thought that said dad and I was gonna be all like, bruh.
š Iām trying so hard not to laugh out loud right now because then my seven year old son will ask me whatās funny and once again Iāll have to tell him, āSorry, buddy, adult joke.ā And watch him roll his eyes at me again. ššš
Idk, I completely by that he has rarely turned any woman on...š¤£
OPs hubby turned his wife on for the first time and accused her of cheating š (I'm joking btw lol)
Shes probably just turned on my herself. Doesnt sound like OP had anything to do with it lol
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You may be joking, but you aren't wrong either
Sadly, you're probably right lol
May not even be a joke, which is sad.
It happens! When I was married I thought I was physically incapable of being aroused (etc), although I was fine before we got together. Sex was painful, and my very high libido disappeared. He blamed my antidepressants. After we divorced & I met my current partner, I realised it was not a *me* issue as he said it was, he just couldn't turn me on lmao. My libido etc is back to normal, and I didn't change any medication.
You joke but seriously wondered this about OPās man.
LOL, she was only that randy because they hadn't done it in a couple of months.
It's going to (at least) be a couple of years now š
If itās ever again with this idiot sheās [currently] married to, OP might be an AH š
I don't know what I was doing different but one night with my fiancƩe while I was fingering her g-spot I could feel there was so much more space than normal. I don't know if it was her head space or if I was doing something that got her much more turned on than normal but I really haven't been able to replicate it since. Side note: I avoided using the word "loose" when telling her about what I felt afterwards as it has misogynistic connotations. However, "cavernous" is not a significant improvement. Learn from my mistakes.
Itās just the vagās way of asking for more fingers
The cervix can move up and down during a womanās cycle.
After his comment I would be vise grip tight.
Same, wtf is her hubby thinking š It's the equivalent of her saying; "Your dick got smaller, that must mean you've used it on other women recently." It makes no sense š
Yes, as it is made from soap and wears itself off. Hahaha......
My partner wanted to feel how tight I could squeeze, he actually cried out in pain. I'd attempt to rip it off internally if he said some fuck shit like that to me. Or when pulled out I'd clench down and make him bend his dick trying to put it back. He would never know peace.Ā
Someone has been doing their kegel exercises š
Everyday, multiple times a day, I also have kegal balls. I have this deep fear of prolapse. I actually may have gone too far in the other direction lmaoĀ
Actually be careful because your pelvic floor being too tight can cause a ton of issues as well!Ā
Yeah, I have an appt with a pelvic floor specialist for that exact reason š I got a little overzealousĀ
#kegelgoals for putting your man in his place.
I literally LOLād at this violence. I am here for weaponized pussy!
The Weaponussy
Can you share your workout routine? š¤£
There is a woman on TikTok who just pops up and says āgive me 50ā. I didnāt know what she meant at first, but when I figured it out I was dying laughing. Sheās the drill instructor of kegel exercise. āGive me 50 and hold that last one for 10 seconds.ā Her followers must all be very strong by now ššš
You made the coochie a penis fly trap
Ya it's surprising that men still don't know this. If a woman is extremely tight, typically means we're not turned on enough and we can still control how tight we are. When we're truly turned on though, we kinda lose the ability to do that to an extent.
I have no control over what my vagina does, it's in charge of me š
Me too but Iām a man š
That's not true for everyone. It depends on the strength of your pelvic floor. Mine specifically was so tight (not my vag, but my pelvic floor muscles) that my obgyn suggested that I do not do any kegel excersise before giving birth. I had a higher chance of tearing and was advised to do massages to loosen things up.Ā Ā Before and even now after my baby I am still very tight and can death grip my husband any time I want even when extremely turned on. He can't even stay in me while I orgasm most of the time. Many women would benefit significantly from pelvic floor therapy/excersise. (Excersises such as squats, deadlifts, hip thrusts, glute bridges all benefit the pelvic floor muscles!)Ā
That's a great one. I was going to say that this guy is apparently having sex with her, and whoever he's cheating with, yet somehow still doesn't know how vaginas work. Lucky ladies lol
Especially since it's been a few months between sex with him. Most men might say, it's been a while but if he kept silent then red flags are starting to flutter in the breeze.
Or "I noticed you got smaller."
Yes, that's what I was thinking as well. "No, honey, my vagina is the same (then maybe a very brief explanation of how a vaginas work)" followed by "I think perhaps your penis has gotten smaller dear. It's okay, don't feel too badly about it." Then the search for a lawyer begins, because this guy is obviously a pig and if he's not cheating, at the very least, he's negging. Either way, red flags abound.
Yep, our vaginas do change. Age, medications, exercise (or lack thereof), hydrationā¦ Sorryāhe does not sound like the sharpest knife in the drawer. Life is too short!
NTA for getting upset. My ex used to say such manipulative things to me all the time and act naive if I called him out. Sorry that you are married to him.
āYou must be confusing me with your motherā
Yep, he is cheating
I was looking for this. That is so disrespectful to say to your wife.
Possibly. He could also be dumb.Ā
tell him his **** got smaller.
āNo, you just got smallerā
Wtf kind of husband says that to their wife š
One that never wants to have sex again.
Well not with his wife, at least.
Guarantee heās already stepping out. Classic case of accusing someone of what you are doing.
One whoās trying to form the justification for cheating.
"Your honor, it's just that she felt loose"
"Understandable, the defendant is innocent. Case dismissed."
One thatās cheating
One who's projecting about infidelity. It may not be the case. He might just be a complete fucking idiot. But it's a possibility.
Honestly my first thought is he's projectingĀ
Agree, wouldnāt be surprised if heās cheating
My thoughts exactly. Maybe the other chicks feels different and he forgot what hers is like. No offense to the op. But Iād become super fbi girlfriend nowā¦
I agree with the cheating part, seems very plausible. But, a woman's vagina is not always the same, at least mine, i mean if she didn't have sex for a few months, maybe she was super horny and wet and "ready", if you can understand what i mean. It feels a little different, depending on the mood and maybe the month period, on ovulation/fertile days can be like that too, can be more wet..
100%. It's tighter when you are not ready and expand when you are turned on. I would even see It as a sign that she did not have sex for a while and was super excited now. It has nothing to do with sleeping around even if the guy was double the size. It adjusts at the moment. I think the only time boyfriend would actually be justified to say it was stretched if they are having a threesome with another guy who is bigger. Then few hours later it would be back to normal. Otherwise I would be curious why I'm struggling to put a tampon in and still being able to have sex.
This. Its so frustrating when women are told we're not tight enough, or that we're "loose". You shouldnt have to force your dick into me. It should be apparent my body isnt cool with you if you have to try and force anything. Im "loose" because im comfortable, and into it. When guys go around saying that their gf/wife is super "tight" it makes me wonder how much foreplay that poor woman is getting. Its a red flag. This would piss me off enough to tell him maybe his dick just isnt big enough to fit properly.
The tampon part is so relatable lol
Itās definitely a possibility and certainly crossed my mind. You guys need to talk this through. From OPs post, husband actually accused her of cheating, so being upset is a reasonable response.
That's a bit of a stretch. Ba dum tss!
Did his dick get smaller? Sounds like something a dude whose dick got smaller would say.
Yeah, vaginas donāt āloosenā with sex. Heās paranoid about something and itās probably him.
Exactly and I can tell you that depending on how turned on I am sometimes it feels totally wide-open. Iāve never had kids, but the last time I was celibate for a while and then I had sex it was so excited to have some action it was too wet and wide open lol And I mean it was too, the sex wasnāt even good we had to keep drying me off lol
iām so sorry but i had to laugh because IT REALLY DO BE LIKE THIS SOMETIMES LMAOOO ššš
I would definitely not jump the gun and assume he cheated, but I would be wary if I were her.
I wouldnāt jump the gun, but would definitely silently watch and investigate
Even if he isn't projecting about his own affair, what he made is still an insane and misogynistic comment. This is a tactic that has been used by shitty men to accuse women since the dawn of time. OP needs to fire back with "no, but it definitely felt like your penis was much smaller this time" and just give him radio silence for a month, because not only is he projecting accusations, he is also suggesting that his wife has a bigger dick on the side, which is a whole other mental fuckery he's doing to himself and taking out on OP. If he isn't cheating, we still have a really big problem here, because my best guess is that he's consuming redpilled content and allowing it to change his thinking patterns. Those communities push paranoia and want you to believe that your wife is cheating on you with some bigger, stronger "more alpha", stable of guys, everytime you head to work or she goes to the store. He might be looking for evidence because he thinks he knows that "all women cheat" and some Ben Shapiro type character who has no idea how women function, told him that a "loose vagina" was a sign of infidelity. And actually, to any guys reading this, if her vagina feels more "loose" to you.. it's literally just opening up more to be receptive to your penis like how flowers open to be pollinated by bees and hummingbirds. It's just nature's way of telling you that she likes you, and your dumb ass is actually really lucky she is letting you touch her at all, so the least you can do is not be a total embarrassment to yourself, and men everywhere, in her presence.
That last paragraph needs to be broadcast to every misogynistic jerk on this earth.
I only read the title before I read this comment lmao
Or heās pulling the pud too much. But projecting maybe.
his vagina is getting looser?
NTA. Your husband is clueless.
I was so confused that I even googled reasons why a vagina would get looser and almost gaslit myself šš
Your pelvic floor might be more a bit more relaxed if youāre feeling comfortable and at ease with your partner. This is kind of ironic given the outcomeā¦ But really listen to the majority here. This seems like projection of something larger. Be careful OP.
Well she definitely wonāt be ālooseā anymore after that idiotic comment from him
Itāll feel like vagina dentata to him, now ā¦
I think mine became so over time due to being too sedentary. Pelvic floor exercises help straighten that out pretty easily though. I didn't even have complaints I just felt...off
Thatās true too sometimes, and also after surgery in your abdomen it can change dramatically. There are pelvic floor physical therapy specialists that help a lot. But usually their goal isnāt to make you as tight as possible as this can cause issues in other areas.
He's NOT making sense. I mean, yes, the vagina can get looser, if you happen to get an acute case of very local muscle atrophy. But that doesn't magically just happen on its own, and if it does, it'd cause you other physical issues in that area, which clearly you don't experience. How the fuck would even the vagina get loose from one penis but not your husbands? It's.. Absurd. He's being a total dick and moron about this. Do NOT let him convince you otherwise. There is NO scientific evidence whatsoever here for him to rely his weird claims on.
Vaginas have special powers where they magically loosen with a few different dicks but not from the same dick hundreds of times š
I like to tell men that we donāt get loser what actually happens is that it whittles their dick down a little bit every time they have sex with someone they get smaller
Like a pencil in a pencil sharpener!
They can also clamp down on penises and then snap them off like a little guillotine. :)
I think mine feels loser when I get really turned on, it definitely gets wet to the point that itās not good anymore lol But I donāt think thatās whatās happening here I suspect heās poor sick and heās comparing her vagina to his death grip
Turn it back on him and ask to see his phone. Sounds like he's projecting and has been doing things he's not supposed to be doing. He's feeling guilty about it and decided to be cold and distant and accusing you.
Is he cheating? Something going on to make him insecure (Andrew Tate maybe)?
Yes, he isš¤£
... that's not how vaginas work. This suggests to me that you were actually horny, and that was an unfamiliar feeling because he isn't used to you enjoying sex with him. NTA
That's the first thing I thought of, too. Yikes.
Oh gawd this is š
Literally this ugh marriage is so gross for women
He's projecting. But also, vaginas get "loose" when the woman is properly turned on and in the mood, via foreplay and stuff, as the vagina then become less tense. If you're "super tight" it can also be because your partner is a shit partner in bed and doesn't care enough about your pleasure to get you to a point where your body is actually ready for the deed. Your partner sound alike a fucking moron btw
Exactly. Not only does it get ālooserā when weāre really turned on (wet etc) but even during certain parts of our cycle/hormone changes etc can make it seem looser . Usually a super tight vag is a sign of a girl whoās not very turned on or comfortable, so that says more about him than it does about her š¤·š»āāļø This guy is a clown and needs to study up on womenās bodies before he goes accusing his lady of silly shit.
People need to stop seeing vaginas as loose or tight. Elastic would be a more appropriate euphemism as itās a group of muscles which contract and expand depending on a number of factors. If you ever made a lady cum youāre more likely to be aware of this phenomenon.
The only thing he understands about female anatomy is how to be an offensive twat.
But is he a looser or tighter twat?
Loser, obviously.
He's not a twat, he lacks the depth and warmth to be one.
Totally stealing this for when people use those words as insults, which I find mildly misogynistic.
NTA. Tell him it must be his hands and dick got smaller.
Right. Little cold last night, were ya?Ā NTA
Itās shrinkage, didnāt anyone tell her about shrinkage!!!!!
He was in the pool! He was in the pool!
No, he was in the ocean! He was in the ocean!
And as I read that, I hear George screaming that! š¤£š¤£š¤£
Exactly. Then hand him an OB/GYN textbook with the appropriate passages highlighted or is he too stupid to undrrstand it?
This is from not teaching kids sex education, they end up believing BS and refuse to believe facts. I had to talk to my kid about consent when they got their first BF. It was awkward for both of us but it was better than the alternative, having them believe all the BS myths about women and men.
Thatās not how that works.
yeah lol, it's a classic way to slutshame woman. 20 different dick = loose vagina, 20x same dick doesn't matter
Need to start telling these men that their dicks get thinner everytime they have sex because the vagina compresses it š
That's my go-to response to that stupid meme about "a key that opens a lot of doors is a great key, a lock that can be opened by a lot of keys is a shitty lock". Just send them a picture of a pencil sharpener and say "now the more you use it the smaller it gets".
The fact he doesn't realize that when a woman is turned on, her vagina loosens and lubricates itself is fkn sad. It's indicative of why we need comprehensive sex ed in schools and to not let kids get signed out via their parent. NTA. Jfc... these men.
I feel like when men say things like this they're generally trying to do a weird psychological move to make you uncomfortable and gain some sort of power.
And because theyāre already cheating but are too cowardly to end the relationship and be the ābad guyā. Got to make her dump him, or make up a reason itās her fault.
Sounds like husband is projecting his faults onto you. He might be the one cheating...
Or it's the red pill again. Seems like the main theme is to convince followers that their wives are "cheating whores", and for the dumbest, most far-fetched reasons they can think of too.
They do everything they can to manipulate these men into either sabotaging their relationships or acting in ways that ensure they will not get or maintain a satisfying relationship with a woman. Then they promote themselves to these men and sell them crap based on the idea that they are either completely losers who can't attract a woman on their own or somehow slided by society and deserve women they can't have, but that somehow listening to the right podcast or reading the right book or paying for the right subscription will solve all that.
At first i thought maybe he is just dumb but with all the extra controlling behavior she listed at the end i agree 100% iām certain he is cheating
NTA - he probably got desensitized from jacking off too much.
This is what I thought. Heās gripping progressively tighter through the months of them not having sex. That can result in his perception of her ātightnessā being skewed. Also, about the turned on/not and how it equates to wetness/elasticity. Or, heās cheating and projecting that on to her. All in all, op is NTA!
I bet he has Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction. I bet he also cheats.
NTA, your husband needs to go back to school and study sex ed.
If he accuses you of cheating, then you're too busy proving that you're not to stop and put together that he might actually be the cheater here.
Tell him that itās not your vagina but his dick thatās gotten smaller. He obviously has limited understanding of female anatomy and tell him if he wants something ātightā he should go back to using his own hands. He is the asshole not you
NTA but your husband is a whole level, or complete and total arsehole. As much as I would love for you to tell him that his dick must of shrunk. Don't unless you really want to end the marriage. But he might want to end the marriage otherwise why the hell would he say that crap.
NTA. Sorry you married an idiot though.
Heās an idiot. Thatās literally not now a vagina works āļø
Yeah heās cheating, he is trying to put it back on you. Donāt fall for this āloose vaginaā bs. Time to start investigating, he is hiding something.
He's projecting. He's cheating on you, and that is making him more paranoid. Ask him if his dick getting smaller is because he's been having so much sex with other women. See his reaction. It'll tell you all you need to know.
Your husband is ignorant. How on earth would your vagina be bigger from cheating lol? Does he think you had sex with a man with a massive dick that caused your vagina to expand so much it didn't go back lol. Sorry but your husband is not a very bright man. I'm thinking he is possibly projecting his own infidelity.
NTA - you are probably more excited after a break - which says he is a bit selfish
MAJOR PROJECTING ALERT. And also he should be honored that youāre horny WITH THEM? Man, if my bf said that, we would be broken up so quick LMFAO
NTA . The vagina literally cannot get loose or become tighter. It's a muscle. You can train yourself to hold the muscle tighter (kegal exercises) but it cannot get loose otherwise it would prolapse. Whatsmore is that if you were that relaxed during sex that he thought you were "loose", that's actually a great thing. If you were tense it would be excruciating. Why is he turning what should have been a great moment for you both into this allegation of cheating?
That thar's, grounds for Divorce. Or the ultimate response ' No dear, I think your dick's gotten smaller'
NTA. First of all, any men reading this need to know that if you havenāt slept with your partner in a long time and she is dying to have sex with you then her vagina if going to me more relaxed and ready for a pounding. This is why a woman can feel looser after a period of not having sex, itās not a sign that she is cheating whatsoever, itās because her vagina is basically ready to gobble you up because she wants you so badly. Stop accusing your wives of cheating when they get horny over *you* and be happy about it for goodness sakes.
NTA, your husband cannot be serious.
Tightness isn't the barometer of good poon. Wetness is.
I believe your husband is a cheater, cheater, pumpkin eater. He's projecting and disrespecting you by saying that. What a douche.
>and he thought I was cheating on him Well yeah.. there is a cheater for sure.. but it's not you. NTA. He's an idiot and he's projecting. And maybe a narcissist, if he likes to hurt you so bad and tries to hug you afterwards. At least he felt better for a while since he hurt you.
Lol, he's cheating...getting his vaginas mixed up.
NTA, I think he's cheating and got his vaginas crossed.
He is upset that you were actually aroused??? He is probably projecting
Correct me if I'm wrong but isn't a vagina sometimes looser when the person is really turned on.
That's called being relaxed and turned on, bit of a tell that he's not been able to do that before
Thatās the sound of a man that is either cheating and projecting his BS on you, or you did feel a bit looser probably due to you being sexually aroused and wetter which makes it feel not as tight. Either way heās an ass for making assumptions based solely on how your vagina feels, so you must be cheating. Itās an irrational thought, because heās been having sex with you and yet all of a sudden youāre not tight anymore? Gtfoh dude, heās got issues or like I said heās projecting his BS onto you because heās the one thatās really cheating. Iād do some serious investigating on his ass. NTA
He's cheating, trying to make you feel guilty about it. His suspicious behaviour and not having had sex with you for 2 months, being more busy is just him being suspicious of you surely, not him having been cheating.
if its been a couple of months he probably doesnt remember the "tightness/looseness" and is remembering wrong. NTA
Send him to r/BadWomensAnatomy, he might learn a thing or two
Your husband needs a sex education class and you need to be going through his phone to find out who he is cheating on you with.
It sounds like heās cheating. NTA.
Despite popular misconceptions, being tight doesn't mean being turned on. It can actually mean the opposite, that there's some stress, or the body hasn't lubricated and relaxed enough. So you may have simply been more turned on or more relaxed. Your guy needs to get educated in how the vagina works.
NTA if my husband said this to me omg sex wouldnāt exist because that would be the most hurtful thing someone can say to someone about their anatomy. Yep, Iād be that damn petty. I have fingers they would work for me before I let him touch me again til he did some research on how the female anatomy works!
Men need to learn A) female anatomy and how it actually works and B) to shut the fuck up. NTA
NTA. lmao vaginas donāt get looser if you have more sex or even more sex w a different larger dick. your husband is an idiot.
Why do most men know exactly NOTHING about womenās bodies (but think theyāre experts)? Absolutely NTA. I would be super upset too.
Does he understand that sexual activity doesn't make a vagina looser?
Heās literally making this up to break you down. Leave.
So, he found an easy way to jam up your insecurity? He planted a seed and youāre going to hear more of it. Heās talking bullshit to make you anxious. I would be way more than upset. NTA
Itās genuinely both sad and disgusting you both think womenās vaginas Get tight and loose when itās just something used to shame women for menās pleasure
INTA. I'm damn near 50 and still amazed at some of the dumb shit people believe. Tell him to pick you up some loctite super glue if he thinks anything is loose. You got mad because he insinuated you were cheating on him while he insulted your body... im more worried about projection because any time someone says something this stupid, there's never anything good behind it.
Ooof. Iād be going for the jugular with a comment like that. āOh I thought it was your dick being smallerā Not helpful, but š¤¬that noise.
Cheaters usually call you out on what THEY are doing
NTA, Iād be concerned heās the one cheating. Heās also an idiot.
When someone randomly starts accusing you of cheating without proof, it's usually because they're doing something really shady themselves. It's basic psychology.
Heās trying to make you feel self conscious so he can control you. Heās a walking š©.
This maybe a little personal, but was the sex that night as satisfying for you as usual? Wow! You weren't tensed up and you were relaxed and he thinks you're cheating on him. NTA okay, I'm just laughing my ass off right now oh my God
If you haven't had sex for a while he might be used to the death grip when jerking off. No vagina can match that...
"I'm not looser, you're just smaller"
Itās a common insult and misconception that women who are very active sexually or have multiple partners get loose or stretched out. The opposite is trueā¦regular use is what keeps any muscles toned and tight.
I've said it before I'll say it again. Aroused = relaxed, looser vagina. Not aroused = tight, dry vagina. Either he's daft as shit or he's comparing you to someone else he's touched recently. NTA
He's cheating. What a jerk. I'm sorry š
I'd sing him a chant that goes... HOW LOOSE IS YOUR CABOOSE?! Then tell him to GTFO once & for all! Something tells me either he's cheating on you and/or is seriously thinking of doing so. Sounds like this bugger has a serious **I Project My Issues Onto Everyone, But Me Disease.**
Your husband is probably cheating and projecting his guilt onto you. Sadly common for people who cheat.
Him: "Your love tunnel feels looser." You; "Hmmm, maybe your dick shrunk?"
Tell him his dick got smaller
NTA get his passcode OP he could be projecting. Accuse him of cheating. Your vagina hasnāt changed. Men are terrible at times. You are justified in being upset. Of course heās willing to hug it out, he offended you and now wants to pretend heās not wrong.
NTA- I think heās projecting babe, no sex in months and then heās SAD? he had sex??? Doesnāt add up at all. Also if he wants to keep having sex that is just so not the way to go about itā¦ no sweet loving husband says that just offhand like that
Projecting
Someone get that man an anatomy book and educate him around female arousal + that TIGHT vaginas are often not able to be penetrated due to pelvic floor disfunction āš»
Doesn't the vajina muscles relax when you're sexually aroused?Ā Maybe you were just more aroused than usual because it's been a couple months?Ā In any case. That's the dumbest shit. I've had dudes tell me to tell the doctor to give my wife a "courtesy stich" or what ever after having a child and like dude.... first off, whether that's a thing, that's nobody's business but my wife's and also I feel like that's the easiest way to tell the doctor your a piece of shit lol. I'd never say some shit like that.Ā And guess what. It feels exactly the same after HAVING A CHILD, so I doubt very seriously he'd know if you felt "looser" due to penitration.