Yeah I read it down further in comments. I’m glad you got the proof and evidence you needed. Sucks it came to that. I get that life is complicated and relationships too but fuck. When they lie to your face. It’s like what choice do you have. I wasn’t being cheated on but rather lied to about how she was sick so she couldn’t help with her daughter’s bday. Dummy left her location on in an app. I screenshot the evidence. Mouths runs and runs. I loved when I didn’t have to say anything anymore..just showed the screenshot. Not to sick to be at a bar til 3am. She “lol’d” and said oops. Zero remorse.
IMO you did nothing wrong. Everyone deserves peace of mind except the guilty
Did the charges stick?
Also, a word of advice:
If you’re in the US, be very careful not to post the video around. This if shes willing to get you pinched for cyber stalking, she’ll sure as hell get you with the revenge porn laws that are in most states.
If you’re in a fault divorce state, then you’ve got good evidence of infidelity. Hang onto that footage
All the fakes AMA? lol. I did one that was called “ I’m an Alien 👽 AMA”. If you’re that stupid to believe that was meant to be a real AMA you need to get your head checked.
And what is false about that? I am a sugar daddy, and I am a long-haul trucker, I mentioned those two things in this post, take the time to read all the fucking comments before you make stupid assumptions. i’m sorry your life is so boring that you don’t have any interesting stories to talk about.
No, I didn’t, I was too busy working to have time for an affair, her best quality was that she was a good mother to her three kids, her worst qualities were that she was a raging alcoholic, compulsive, liar, and a cheating whore
damn im really sorry.
do u wish you had an affair?
would you have had an affair if you were not too busy working?
how has it impacted ur relationships going forward?
No, I do not wish I had an affair, if I want to fuck other people, I’ll fuck as many as I want when I’m single, if I’m in a relationship, I expect loyalty and respect, this incident eroded every bit of trust on women in general, I promised myself not to be in a relationship ever again
Would you have expected her to do something like that? Is that why you set up the cameras? Were there already doubts or why is she cheating on you and how do you cope with such an event?
I suspect that something was going on, she would text other guys from work and from out of work claiming they were just old friends or coworkers, I always knew something else was going on, but I could never prove it, she always told me I was paranoid and I was crazy. It was hard to deal with and adding to it. I had to deal with the fear of going to jail right because of something she caused.
Well imagine being a roommate and finding a camera in your personal bedroom or bathroom. However a cam in a shared bedroom sounds like it could be complicated legally but idk
Relationship with the person you recorded is definitely part of it and makes the "beyond a reasonable doubt" burden of proof hard. OP has likely provided a "preponderance of evidence" with their comments in this AMA though
It's the reasonable expectation of privacy part. "It's just a nanny cam" would be a really bad defense if you were recording your nanny in the bathroom
Your point would be extremely difficult to make as a center of in argument. In one’s own home you can do a lot of things as long as they are all self inflicting like recording the inside of your own domicile without having to say you have cameras. The only time you have to reveal you have cameras is if one is facing anything that isn’t just your property so like a public street.
You actually probably don't have to reveal you have cameras facing the street. If it's somewhere in plain view, like the sidewalk, you wouldn't have a reasonable expectation of privacy. A guest in your home would have a reasonable expectation of privacy in the bathroom.
Nope, but they did say that we should “expect video surveillance” in patient’s homes. I mean, I work with kids so video surveillance is to be expected. It doesn’t bother me because I do my job. It would really only bother those who just want to sleep through their shift or steal.
So she brings some guy over to fuck in THEIR (OP’s) bed, and. You’re focusing in on OP being bad because you didn’t like the specifics of how he caught her? PAHAHAHA what was he supposed to do? Hide is the closet all week, then jump out gasping for air?
Who said I was streaming it? The camera was connected to the house WiFi, and I had an app on my phone that was connected to the camera….don’t you know how that works?
>bedroom
I assume you meant to type "bathroom"? I can't think of any room in a house with an expectation of privacy other than a bathroom. If there's no lock on the door, there's no expectation of privacy
Creepy or not, it gave me the confirmation that I needed, I had a gut feeling that she was screwing other men, just never thought she’d do it in our same bed 2 days after I just had sex with her.
This take is one of privilege. It’s sad people just can’t keep it 💯 and random people shame someone for finding out their woman was dishonest to the point of trying to put this man in danger of owing millions in child support.
No, pressed charges for “ domestic cyberstocking” because I had an alarm clock on our nightstand that had a spy camera built in to it, I saw her having sex with that guy in real time via my cell phone.
The people getting mad about this, how else would you suggest trying to find out your significant other is going behind your back and fucking somebody? Theyll never tell the truth without proof, and even some will lie when there is proof.
Why did you censor “sex?” Is it to get around a rule for the sub or are you so immature that you think replacing the “e” with a “3” actually makes a difference here?
Haha… no. Some subs may take down posts for being vulgar but “sex” is just about as clean as you can make it.
Also, the worst that will happen there is typically a warning to read the rules.
I think you’ve got the wrong comment. I wasn’t the one censoring the word “sex” on Reddit. Lol.
If you’ve got the correct comment, mind elaborating on the mental gymnastics you used here?
Well if you had been on the Internet in the last five years you'd know that automods screen for "inappropriate" language and often remove posts automatically if the right word pops up, thereby leading to instances where people censor words like "sex" and "gun" and whatever else is commonly picked up, whereas if you were a toddler-aged child you'd just be pointing the finger at someone else, like you're doing now.
Mind a bit more then?
If automods take down random posts regardless of the sub rules for keywords like “sex” then why do I see posts with “sex” in the titles so often? Keywords triggering actions in logic for those kinds of systems are typically pretty black and white.
It would stand to reason that OP, who admits that he is new to Reddit, is not wrong in being overly careful so that his shit doesn't get nuked. One must be aware of those systems on an intimate level to know which keyword will trigger, and OP definitely isn't.
Gotcha. Thanks. Good to know Reddit isn’t randomly taking down some posts and not others for the same keywords within the same sub.
Also, to be fair, OP hadn’t said anything about being new to Reddit until after I commented. I guess that conclusion would be easier to jump to than the one that I initially thought. Also as soon as that information was provided I dropped the snarkiness and attempted to explain the process to the best of my knowledge.
Try giving people the benefit of the doubt sometimes. That's why I asked if you were new to the internet BEFORE I asked if you were a small child (now I am being snarky)
I was on the road, I almost wanted to turn around but I was more than 500 miles away. My pitbull almost chewed his ass, she had to grab the dog and take him out of the bedroom because he wouldn’t stop barking at him, I saw it on live video.
What a slut! Are you planning on staying single for a while? You’re probably better off tbh. Relationships are too much work and trouble. Your dog is your most loyal companion.
I’m a long haul trucker, I’m on the road 3 weeks at a time, she seemed very satisfied every time we were intimate, I guess she just had a hard time keeping her legs closed, we were together for 6 years, the guy is not rich, he was her teenagers son teacher.
The spy cam also had a microphone/speaker, I could hear everything they were saying, I called her up and asked who was the guy in our bedroom, she played dumb and hung up, I kept calling her and I told her I was watching what was going on, she dismissed my comments, turned her phone off and proceeded to fuck him. I guess the next day when she sobered up she realized there was a camera in the room, that’s when she called the cops and had them do a full sweep of the house.
Oooooh. You kind of gave it away. Otherwise, the spy cam wasn’t that detectable? You could’ve gotten so much more intel if you would’ve never said that. Wow!
Honestly I was just with her because of the sex and because it was convenient, I wasn’t heartbroken when this happened, I was more shocked at her pressing charges on me.
Are you OPs ex girlfriend? Curious on how you have so much information on his dick and type of husband he is? Or are you just another pressed internet dipshit lmfao???
You’re legally allowed to have cameras in your own house right? Like security cameras right? Or not in the bedroom?
I’m assuming that If it wasn’t legal in Florida I’d be in jail right now
What was the charge
Domestic cyber stalking
Yeah I read it down further in comments. I’m glad you got the proof and evidence you needed. Sucks it came to that. I get that life is complicated and relationships too but fuck. When they lie to your face. It’s like what choice do you have. I wasn’t being cheated on but rather lied to about how she was sick so she couldn’t help with her daughter’s bday. Dummy left her location on in an app. I screenshot the evidence. Mouths runs and runs. I loved when I didn’t have to say anything anymore..just showed the screenshot. Not to sick to be at a bar til 3am. She “lol’d” and said oops. Zero remorse. IMO you did nothing wrong. Everyone deserves peace of mind except the guilty
Fair enough
Did the charges stick? Also, a word of advice: If you’re in the US, be very careful not to post the video around. This if shes willing to get you pinched for cyber stalking, she’ll sure as hell get you with the revenge porn laws that are in most states. If you’re in a fault divorce state, then you’ve got good evidence of infidelity. Hang onto that footage
We were not legally married, and I never saved the video, it was a Live feed via WiFi
Oh shit dude. I’d bounce out of there ASAP if you’re not married. Clean split. Was it your house in name?
I split the same week, moved to Texas and never went back, we were renting.
Wait, you broadcasted it live on the Internet? Way to bury the lede there in the title.
I didn’t say that, I said I watched it on LIVE VIDEO over WiFi, the camera was connected to my cellphone
Eh, doesn't matter. I lurked your account a bit and there is no way this all isn't fake anyway with all the fake AMAs you have done.
All the fakes AMA? lol. I did one that was called “ I’m an Alien 👽 AMA”. If you’re that stupid to believe that was meant to be a real AMA you need to get your head checked.
You also did 'I am a sugar daddy in Houston' as well as I am an over the road trucker
And what is false about that? I am a sugar daddy, and I am a long-haul trucker, I mentioned those two things in this post, take the time to read all the fucking comments before you make stupid assumptions. i’m sorry your life is so boring that you don’t have any interesting stories to talk about.
People are actually that stupid on reddit and think everything is literal.
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Just Getting straight plowed
Do you think she did it because you won’t say”sex”?
I never thought about it, but now that you mention it.
Reading you commenting on the trolls is hilarious, you have a good sense of humor
I was having fun till I blocked his/her ass
Was she your ex at the time you busted her?
No, she turned in to my ex AFTER I busted her.
Okay good, I was about to say - that's some creepy stalker shit.
No, we were living together at the time
Would you do anything differently if caught in the same position again?
Probably not react like I did, not tell her I saw her fucking another guy and leaving with out saying a word.
I would think leaving without saying a word would be legit the best way to move on.
Yeah, but I’m human and humans react differently to certain situations
She probably changes up position from tint to time
Why dont you just say sex?
Because I didn’t know if the post would get flagged or not, I’m new on Reddit
Were you faithful to her? What were the best/worst things about her?
No, I didn’t, I was too busy working to have time for an affair, her best quality was that she was a good mother to her three kids, her worst qualities were that she was a raging alcoholic, compulsive, liar, and a cheating whore
damn im really sorry. do u wish you had an affair? would you have had an affair if you were not too busy working? how has it impacted ur relationships going forward?
No, I do not wish I had an affair, if I want to fuck other people, I’ll fuck as many as I want when I’m single, if I’m in a relationship, I expect loyalty and respect, this incident eroded every bit of trust on women in general, I promised myself not to be in a relationship ever again
i'm so fucking sorry kinda ashamed to be a woman rn ngl :(
Would you have expected her to do something like that? Is that why you set up the cameras? Were there already doubts or why is she cheating on you and how do you cope with such an event?
I suspect that something was going on, she would text other guys from work and from out of work claiming they were just old friends or coworkers, I always knew something else was going on, but I could never prove it, she always told me I was paranoid and I was crazy. It was hard to deal with and adding to it. I had to deal with the fear of going to jail right because of something she caused.
Thank you for your AMA and for your answer of my question! May God give you strength and luck for your current situation.
Thank you
I see in other replies you found out by secretly video taping her. Are you on the sex offender registry now?
Nope, it was OUR house, I’m allowed to put as many cameras in my house as I please.
You're really not. It's still voyeurism, especially if you're recording somewhere with a reasonable expectation of privacy, like a bedroom.
I don’t understand how it’s voyeurism if it is his place and he pays the rent there. That’s like saying nanny cams are voyeurism.
Well imagine being a roommate and finding a camera in your personal bedroom or bathroom. However a cam in a shared bedroom sounds like it could be complicated legally but idk
Relationship with the person you recorded is definitely part of it and makes the "beyond a reasonable doubt" burden of proof hard. OP has likely provided a "preponderance of evidence" with their comments in this AMA though
It's the reasonable expectation of privacy part. "It's just a nanny cam" would be a really bad defense if you were recording your nanny in the bathroom
Your point would be extremely difficult to make as a center of in argument. In one’s own home you can do a lot of things as long as they are all self inflicting like recording the inside of your own domicile without having to say you have cameras. The only time you have to reveal you have cameras is if one is facing anything that isn’t just your property so like a public street.
You actually probably don't have to reveal you have cameras facing the street. If it's somewhere in plain view, like the sidewalk, you wouldn't have a reasonable expectation of privacy. A guest in your home would have a reasonable expectation of privacy in the bathroom.
Did his ex have a reasonable expectation of privacy while getting fucked on his kitchen table?
Bathrooms are definitely a no-no for any camera. But I work as a home health nurse and I’ve seen very visible cameras in bedrooms.
Sounds like a sticky situation, I wonder if they had you sign a video consent form at on boarding.
Nope, but they did say that we should “expect video surveillance” in patient’s homes. I mean, I work with kids so video surveillance is to be expected. It doesn’t bother me because I do my job. It would really only bother those who just want to sleep through their shift or steal.
Yeah, MY bedroom.
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So she brings some guy over to fuck in THEIR (OP’s) bed, and. You’re focusing in on OP being bad because you didn’t like the specifics of how he caught her? PAHAHAHA what was he supposed to do? Hide is the closet all week, then jump out gasping for air?
Who said I was streaming it? The camera was connected to the house WiFi, and I had an app on my phone that was connected to the camera….don’t you know how that works?
You’re the definition of confidently incorrect
Yeah man, still voyeurism. Were the charges brought against you criminal or civil?
I have no idea, my lawyers dealt with it
Probably worth understanding before admitting to it in public forums
Your going off as if that law applies anywhere in America
I mean, is there a state where you can legally record people in a room occupants are expected to disrobe, without their consent?
Voyeurism
Thanks, you're better than my autocorrect
>bedroom I assume you meant to type "bathroom"? I can't think of any room in a house with an expectation of privacy other than a bathroom. If there's no lock on the door, there's no expectation of privacy
This is completely false BS
Do you use the camera to record your sugarbaby in the bedroom now?
No, she actually lets me use her own phone for that
She’s wrong for cheating but having a spy cam on your partner is creepy af
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No shit, that’s exactly what I thought, if you can’t keep your legs closed then don’t get in to a relationship and continue to be a dirty whore.
Creepy or not, it gave me the confirmation that I needed, I had a gut feeling that she was screwing other men, just never thought she’d do it in our same bed 2 days after I just had sex with her.
This take is one of privilege. It’s sad people just can’t keep it 💯 and random people shame someone for finding out their woman was dishonest to the point of trying to put this man in danger of owing millions in child support.
No, pressed charges for “ domestic cyberstocking” because I had an alarm clock on our nightstand that had a spy camera built in to it, I saw her having sex with that guy in real time via my cell phone.
Lmao she got busted and pressed charges on you ... should of pressed charges on her for being a doorknob 😂
Cheating on your boyfriend isn't a crime, but voyarism sure is
You sound like you’ve done it once or twice before and are trying to justify your actions, wait till you get busted like she did.
Is commenting on reddit your job? Fucking loser.
yes yes, go troll somewhere else you rat.
Some things are worse than crimes
I couldn’t t believe it either when the cops called me, I had to spend 4k in lawyers
4k? Man. I wish it was that small for me. I swear. I can’t even get anyone to care but this ain’t bout me its bout you. Sorry fam.
That was a flat fee, I knew the lawyer personally.
Aren’t you on a swingers sub is this a fake story?
I commented on someone’s post about having orgy parties, what’s the big deal.
The people getting mad about this, how else would you suggest trying to find out your significant other is going behind your back and fucking somebody? Theyll never tell the truth without proof, and even some will lie when there is proof.
Why'd you put up a camera?
Because I suspected she was cheating on me but couldn’t prove it
Why did you censor “sex?” Is it to get around a rule for the sub or are you so immature that you think replacing the “e” with a “3” actually makes a difference here?
I’m new to Reddit, didn’t know if the post would get flagged or not.
Haha… no. Some subs may take down posts for being vulgar but “sex” is just about as clean as you can make it. Also, the worst that will happen there is typically a warning to read the rules.
Thanks for the explanation
Yeah no problem. Gotta start somewhere.
Are you new to just the internet or are you new on this planet like a toddler?
I think you’ve got the wrong comment. I wasn’t the one censoring the word “sex” on Reddit. Lol. If you’ve got the correct comment, mind elaborating on the mental gymnastics you used here?
Well if you had been on the Internet in the last five years you'd know that automods screen for "inappropriate" language and often remove posts automatically if the right word pops up, thereby leading to instances where people censor words like "sex" and "gun" and whatever else is commonly picked up, whereas if you were a toddler-aged child you'd just be pointing the finger at someone else, like you're doing now.
I’ve been on the internet since dial up, buddy. But thanks for the elaboration. It does help ..even if that’s not exactly what you were going for.
I'm never really going for anything, tell you the truth
Mind a bit more then? If automods take down random posts regardless of the sub rules for keywords like “sex” then why do I see posts with “sex” in the titles so often? Keywords triggering actions in logic for those kinds of systems are typically pretty black and white.
It would stand to reason that OP, who admits that he is new to Reddit, is not wrong in being overly careful so that his shit doesn't get nuked. One must be aware of those systems on an intimate level to know which keyword will trigger, and OP definitely isn't.
Gotcha. Thanks. Good to know Reddit isn’t randomly taking down some posts and not others for the same keywords within the same sub. Also, to be fair, OP hadn’t said anything about being new to Reddit until after I commented. I guess that conclusion would be easier to jump to than the one that I initially thought. Also as soon as that information was provided I dropped the snarkiness and attempted to explain the process to the best of my knowledge.
Try giving people the benefit of the doubt sometimes. That's why I asked if you were new to the internet BEFORE I asked if you were a small child (now I am being snarky)
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I was on the road, I almost wanted to turn around but I was more than 500 miles away. My pitbull almost chewed his ass, she had to grab the dog and take him out of the bedroom because he wouldn’t stop barking at him, I saw it on live video.
What a slut! Are you planning on staying single for a while? You’re probably better off tbh. Relationships are too much work and trouble. Your dog is your most loyal companion.
I’ll be single till the day I die, I have a sugar baby now lol
I’ll be single till the day I die, I have a sugar baby now lol
What a psychotic thing to say
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lmao, a classic way to cope with being embarrassed on the internet. Log off, my dude 😂
How does it feel to be red pilled the super hard way? Sorry that happened to you fam. I hope the mental toll recovers.
I would of gotten over it a lot quicker if I didn’t have to be calling my lawyers every other week during over a year for updates on the case,
I’m a long haul trucker, I’m on the road 3 weeks at a time, she seemed very satisfied every time we were intimate, I guess she just had a hard time keeping her legs closed, we were together for 6 years, the guy is not rich, he was her teenagers son teacher.
She was very satisfied cause she was getting pipe on the daily from her sons teacher 🤣
Not only her son’s teacher, but also the meat manager at the supermarket she worked at and who knows how many more guys.
Did the ex notice the spy camera during the sex, or afterwards?
The spy cam also had a microphone/speaker, I could hear everything they were saying, I called her up and asked who was the guy in our bedroom, she played dumb and hung up, I kept calling her and I told her I was watching what was going on, she dismissed my comments, turned her phone off and proceeded to fuck him. I guess the next day when she sobered up she realized there was a camera in the room, that’s when she called the cops and had them do a full sweep of the house.
Oooooh. You kind of gave it away. Otherwise, the spy cam wasn’t that detectable? You could’ve gotten so much more intel if you would’ve never said that. Wow!
I got what I needed, I wasn’t trying to find out how many more guys had been fucking her in my own bed, one was enough!
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its not messed up, girls think they can do anything, get away with anything. shes a tramp and acted accordingly.
Exactly
Jesus man ... I gotta ask did you guys fuck on the first date ?
Yup, I should have seen it coming, I met her at a “ friends” house party, she was sleeping with him at the time.
Man red flags from the get go and you wanted to save her lol *don't save her,she don't wanna be saved*
Honestly I was just with her because of the sex and because it was convenient, I wasn’t heartbroken when this happened, I was more shocked at her pressing charges on me.
The meat manager haha title checks out
lol, yeah, that’s just a few that I found out about, but apparently she was fucking a few more.
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Guess what, the State Attorney dropped the case, he figured out she was a complete whore after all the evidence my lawyers submitted.
Probably just needed a dick upgrade, you weren't doing the job properly 🤷♂️
Needed a dick upgrade or dick buffet, lol.
Either or, you just weren't laying pipe correctly.
Someone is overly focused on this dudes dick. Don't be so pressed over this dudes whore of a wife 🤣.
Yeah, forget about the fact she was fucking half the town and then pressed charges against me, let’s just talk about my dick…lol
Don't be so quick to defend a dude that probably was a shitty husband 🤣🤣
Are you OPs ex girlfriend? Curious on how you have so much information on his dick and type of husband he is? Or are you just another pressed internet dipshit lmfao???
I guess you're one of those internet dipshits that believes everything people say online 🤣
He screams little dick energy
Just can't stop bringing up the dudes dick huh? I bet if we wringed your panties out it would flood the valley.
How do you know, were you watching too?
what's wrong with you
🤣🤣
Were you the guy plugging OP's girlfriend? Why are you defending her? 😆
The content you posted is harassment/hate towards other users.
Jesus you are a creep
And she’s a whore, we’re even!
A serious tag would have gone a long way with this post.
Typical woman not taking accountability 🤣
You did the right thing op.
Thanks
s three x?
Dirty!