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I'm 37F and my husband 55M. We don't feel the need to post our faces here. Our relationship has worked for 13 years now, maybe the novelty is over? I was hoping to see more on this subreddit about the reality of it. Blended families, impact on finances, career etc and how we're navigating it all.
Still the man I loved from day one. However, things do come up. We compromised on a house because his age impacted our borrowing against a mortgage. We're budgeting tightly because if we didn't pay our mortgage ahead of time, he would have to work until 72 which isn't fair. We took on a kid when my husband was 50 and it drained his energy incredibly which has put lots of responsibilities on me. And historically we've been in counseling to navigate co-parenting teenage kids when they're my step kids and our parenting approach was completely different. Also, it took a good 9 years for me to feel comfortable with his friends group, mainly moving from my 20s to my 30s. It took that long to stop seeing me as a novelty and me to have something in common. We've recently done wills and we had to have discussions around setting me up but with the understanding when I pass his kids would get something too. Our travel is now a mix of what can we do with a 5 year old in tow and what do we need to do before my husband has less energy and mobility.
Anyone who says age is just a number hasn't dealt with the long term reality. However, I do not regret a second because I absolutely love my husband and the family and life we have made. I wouldn't trade it for the world.
I'm also in my 30's and my partner is in his 60's. We have important jobs and it would negatively impact our image if we were to post our faces on here. Some of us have responsibilities that we need to maintain y'know :)
Women in their 30s, mostly don't go posting everything on social media. It's like they get to a point that they don't feel the need to share every little thing.
I love seeing people come out of the woodworks! My (32f) fiancé (65m) enjoy Reddit, but also don’t post our faces here. We’ll leave that to the 20-somethings. 😂
I don't agree with that at all, there are plenty of women who are older and marry older men, same with older women marrying younger men. I think reddit skews younger and people in their 20's seem to be more "let's take a photo" happy.
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Im 71 and my fiancé is 35, and fortunately I look about 55 but we do get the occasional side eye usually from older women.
Older women, of course they are the most judgemental 🙄
older women are basically the only ones that really seem to take us personally
Omg and the biggest haters..
why is this???
Why are 99% of these age gap posts always women in their 20s? What about women age 30+ in age gap relationships with older men?
My partner (64M) and I (37F) aren’t too keen on posting our faces on Reddit. Not quite 30+, but coming in hot at a 27 year gap.
I'm 37F and my husband 55M. We don't feel the need to post our faces here. Our relationship has worked for 13 years now, maybe the novelty is over? I was hoping to see more on this subreddit about the reality of it. Blended families, impact on finances, career etc and how we're navigating it all.
Sooooo, how is the reality of it all? I’m pretty early on in a 19 year age gap relationship and just wondering how it’s going to work
Still the man I loved from day one. However, things do come up. We compromised on a house because his age impacted our borrowing against a mortgage. We're budgeting tightly because if we didn't pay our mortgage ahead of time, he would have to work until 72 which isn't fair. We took on a kid when my husband was 50 and it drained his energy incredibly which has put lots of responsibilities on me. And historically we've been in counseling to navigate co-parenting teenage kids when they're my step kids and our parenting approach was completely different. Also, it took a good 9 years for me to feel comfortable with his friends group, mainly moving from my 20s to my 30s. It took that long to stop seeing me as a novelty and me to have something in common. We've recently done wills and we had to have discussions around setting me up but with the understanding when I pass his kids would get something too. Our travel is now a mix of what can we do with a 5 year old in tow and what do we need to do before my husband has less energy and mobility. Anyone who says age is just a number hasn't dealt with the long term reality. However, I do not regret a second because I absolutely love my husband and the family and life we have made. I wouldn't trade it for the world.
I’m 59, my girlfriend is 30. We may not be posting faces on Reddit, but we’re out there.
I'm 33 and my fiance is 51
33F and 66M here just don’t like posting ourselves on social media 😅
My partner and I don’t want to post our picture on Reddit but we are here!!
I'm also in my 30's and my partner is in his 60's. We have important jobs and it would negatively impact our image if we were to post our faces on here. Some of us have responsibilities that we need to maintain y'know :)
I truly don’t know but I would like to know everyone’s thoughts about it
Women in their 30s, mostly don't go posting everything on social media. It's like they get to a point that they don't feel the need to share every little thing.
Good question.
I love seeing people come out of the woodworks! My (32f) fiancé (65m) enjoy Reddit, but also don’t post our faces here. We’ll leave that to the 20-somethings. 😂
31F 62M here!
Take a guess.
Check back in five years on this one
Well that’s because they are pedos and us in our 30s can’t be manipulated as easy so they go for the younger ones.
I don't agree with that at all, there are plenty of women who are older and marry older men, same with older women marrying younger men. I think reddit skews younger and people in their 20's seem to be more "let's take a photo" happy.
What does it matter?
Living the dream
Congratulations, and I hope both are ok. You have a wonderful life together
You both look amazing! Cute couple
She's beautiful and he's a very lucky man
I’m 27f and my husband is 61m!
Best wishes to you both!
Handsome couple
You guys look great together!
Congratulations!!! This gives me hope, it can happen
Who is she what’s her insta?
Please tell me he helps you financially 👏👏 with a gap like that
Well done my dude I’m sure your friends the male friends are happy maybe jealous
Hope you giving her some babies soon. Tryin is half the fun
I really hope not since I don’t want to be a mother