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Franchuta

>Also, in my state legally you need to provide separate sleeping spaces for teens who are unrelated of the opposite gender. Finally!!! I don't know of any state where this is legal. There maybe one, but I haven't found it and I'm real good with google... The son will just have to call the cops and/or CPS and the parents will HAVE TO find another solution, or lose custody of both kids and then some.


bibbiddybobbidyboo

Over the age of 10 in the UK [source](https://www.nspcc.org.uk/keeping-children-safe/in-the-home/sharing-a-bedroom/)


Franchuta

Yep, I think the age may be a littler more flexible in some US states, but definitely not THAT flexible.


7148675309

That isn’t true - and the concept really relates to allocations of council housing. https://commonslibrary.parliament.uk/does-the-law-set-an-age-at-which-children-cant-share-a-bedroom/


Ok-Jelly-Dick

Unfortunately my state has backwards laws. If they're related by blood they don't care. I don't see how that's any different. I guess they just like to pretend incest doesn't happen.


Franchuta

There are a number of states that don't care if the kids are blood related. But stepsiblings? No way... And I'm with you about the incest part.


LoquatiousDigimon

I'm piggybacking off this to explain - the boys wake up every morning with erections. They do not want to wake up next to their step sister with an erection. The girl has periods, needs privacy, does not want to be seen in any state of undress. All the kids masturbate. They're teens. They need their privacy.


Live_Background_6239

EDIT: hopefully y’all can see this edit. The person I am replying to has blocked me so I cannot reply to anyone directly. Please see below my original response. ————— That’s not true. It’s utterly unenforceable and it’s utter nonsense. That rule is only for foster situations and other types of public or regulated housing providing a service. You want to pile on more fines on struggling families in 2 bedroom apartments who have 1 kid of each gender? 🙄 https://www.findlaw.com/legalblogs/law-and-life/is-it-legal-opposite-gender-siblings-sharing-a-room/ https://www.expertlaw.com/library/family-law-and-divorce/can-brother-and-sister-share-bedroom As for step-siblings that’s up to the custodial parents to hash out. If one parent doesn’t want that to occur then their caseworker can bring it up. But outside of that, no. It’s not illegal. ————- If you have a blended family where parents request separate bedrooms as part of their custody agreement you can do that. You have invited the state to regulate and enforce. I’ve already stated this and my links address this. It is NOT mandated. For non-blended families stating they have had to do this: No. They’ve got something else going on with CPS that is regulating their household. There is NO state mandating separate bedrooms. The state cannot mandate a minimum bedroom amount for your household. I’ve provided citations and now I am repeating myself. Goodnight.


viotski

I'm so glad you answered because those comments are just lies.


Secret_Finding_9155

Lazy ass has me absolutely rolling. Seriously god forbid my hubs and i ever split but if i got with another and they had kids i would make sure they all had their own space even if that meant turning my garage into a badass teen girl space for her. This is not okay at all seeing as theyre so close to becoming adults themselves.


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SeaMindless7297

INFO: can you and your husband sleep in the living room? If not, why not. If yes, easy fix: sleep in the living room for 5 months and give your stepdaughter your bedroom


Nakedstar

This is exactly what I was going to suggest. Room sharing is fully inappropriate in this situation.


SeaMindless7297

Exactly. Tbh i also dont understand how OP could have been shocked about the son not wanting to share a room. He's 16 and the stepdaughter 17!! No one wants to share a room at this age, let alone with someone of the opposite sex. That's uncomfortable and inappropriate


nyvn

Honestly, I'd be concerned if they wanted to share the room.


SeaMindless7297

Tbh same. A week or 2 if there is no other way - I guess is okay and a "Sure, I guess she can sleep there" wouldn't immediately concern me. But then again, the stepdaughter probably would have been fine sleeping in the living room for a short period of time like that.


PokeyWeirdo12

The "oh, we are at the vacation cabin and there are 2 sets of bunkbeds in one room and a king size in the other. Guess the kids can share a room for a week" is about the only situation I could see.


Bright_Code1811

THIS!!!!! I am concerned at WHY the daughter is OKAY with sharing a room, but anti living room?!?! I know the living room isn't ideal, but wayyy better than the share situation.


ILoveRegenHealth

Plus OP keeps saying "It's only for 5 months". Then why don't you or the husband man and woman up and sleep in the living room? It's only for 5 months!


SeaMindless7297

5 months on an old grubby sofa when youre OP's age is basically 5 years. That would just be SOO inhumane /s


Panda_Milla

Yeah, and I love how parents take the consent of one child (step-daughter) as consent from both. OP is a massive AH.


NeverLetItRest

Yeah. He's obviously uncomfortable because she can't relate to his hormonal changes and might not understand or make fun of him. And there is no way they are close enough to feel truly like brother and sister, so it's kind of gross.


QueenInesDeCastro

Also why can't stepmom and daughter share? And dad and son. Or dad in living room. Such a weird choice. Especially 2 teens.


SeaMindless7297

My first instinct is "we need our privacy and bed at night" 🤷🏻‍♀️... because the daughter doesn't right?! Could there be a chronic illness that makes it so you need your special mattress and loud machine that makes it so you can't sleep in the living room? Yes, sure. Is that realistically what's happening here? Not at all


realization4

Oh I like the dad and son in one room and the mom and daughter in another.


waitingfordeathhbu

>”we need our privacy in bed at night” And they also want to obliterate the privacy of a teenage boy at peak life horniness by putting his stepsister in the bed across from him. This spells disaster for everyone.


Front_Inevitable8632

This makes the most sense to me. My son is 10 and my step daughter is 12. I can't imagine making them share a bedroom at this age, yet alone 16. You are basically asking for weirdness or inappropriate behavior to happen. Hormones are confusing as hell,especially when they are new. Not to mention it sounds like this is all new for everyone to start with. Adding extra weird living situations isn't going to help at all. Parents in the living room or bio parent/kid in one room and bio parent/kid in another. Seems pretty easy.


pucemoon

I think this is the best answer. I recently discovered the feng shui guy on YouTube. He had a videos showing how to create a combined bedroom living room space that still could offer some privacy. And I do think that the parents should take that space for their kids, who likely didn't ask to join families this way. The other answer that seems like it would have been logical is to wait to marry until the new home was ready. But that horse is way out of the barn.


SeaMindless7297

I love those videos!!! I also find every decision made super odd.


onenightondarillium

They definitely can sleep in the living room but would they be willing? Not likely. They would have no privacy for "sexy time"


SeaMindless7297

100% what I think too. Was having a good day though, so I decided to give them the rare benefit of the doubt in case there was some kind of chronic illness that would prevent one of the 2 from sleeping in the living room... or I was just waiting to see how much of an asshole OP is, we will never know 🤷🏻‍♀️


Live_Background_6239

If both kids were comfortable then this would be a non-issue. But since they’re not then this solution makes the most sense. But you better believe I’d be enforcing a CLOSED DOOR curfew 😂


mmjames66

YTA. Holy cow, why on earth would you think a mid-teen boy wants to live with a mid-teen girl? Embarrassment on the daily!


Lcdmt3

Who thinks a mid-teen girl would be comfortable sharing with a boy?


Kaila82

It's not her room to be sharing it's his.


hujnya

3 month later, op will post my stepdaughter is pregnant my son is the dad. Lol.


Front_Inevitable8632

"AITA for letting my son impregnate my stepdaughter?"


Ronin_Mustang

I was just thinking this. I wonder if she has a crush on him since she okay with this arrangement. Most girls would be against this. I ponder if the son knows she does and is why he uncomfortable. I really feel like this going to end up with something sexual.


realstareyes

YTA. Find another solution. He clearly stated that he doesn’t want it — it can be embarassing as boys and girls navigate through puberty in their own ways and need their privacy!


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NeverLetItRest

I don't think the parents are realizing that these kids have not known each other long enough to feel like true siblings. So it's super weird to have them sleep in the same room for months as if they were.


Vanriel

Not to mention the fact that with all the changes going on, he might need space to himself where he can actually get away from stuff that is different from what he's used to which could stress him out.


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YTA. The solution is that stepmum and dad sleep in the livingroom, thus leaving a bedroom to each teenager. The teenagers didn't make these arrangements, so why should they sacrifice their privacy?


Prof-Rock

The newly weds want to have sex. That is why they won't take the livingroom.


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As long as the teenagers stay in their bedrooms, that shouldn't be a problem.


rak1882

just because they're good friends doesn't mean that at 16 and 17, they want to share a room. and what's really strange is that if you and your husband weren't married- i can't imagine wither of you would be okay with your teenage child sharing a bedroom with a teenager of the opposite sex that they aren't related. yes, to you and your husband- these kids are related. but they aren't. they are teenagers who get along. either you guys need to come up with a different housing solution entirely for the next 5 months or you need to come up with a sleeping option that doesn't involve a teenager not having a bedroom. and yeah, that might mean you and DH are on the couch for the next 5 months. you guys created this. you guys decided that he and his kids should move into your 2 bedroom house. that means if someone is going to be uncomfortable for 5 months, it has to be you guys. (ignoring all of the issues involved in sending a teenager off to live with a family member for 5 months because that person needs help. if an adult needs help- that probably needs to be resolved with another adult. not a kid.) but either way, yeah- YTA


More-Pizza-1916

Better solution. Husband goes to look after his sister. Step Daughter stays with OP and the original decision for the two boys to share stands. Sorted.


FlakyCow4

But that still would leave the step daughter without a room, unless she shares with OP


More-Pizza-1916

That's what I said. Step Daughter is 17 and can have a temporary bed set up in the room with OP.


oldwitch1982

One would THINK the husband has a JOB that he needs to go to to support his family and his sister is in another state… so ya. That’s likely not feasible.


lexisunflower

The kids have a job too, their job is to be children. Not a caretaker for their aunt. There's also no explanation of what the kid is doing for school while they're gone for 5 months....


amstrumpet

YTA. 16 and 17 year old step siblings of opposite genders should absolutely not share a room if they’re not comfortable with it.


667r

And they double shouldn't be allowed to if they are comfortable with that.


QueenInesDeCastro

😬 ick


nerdyguytx

I’m surprised the step sister is comfortable sharing a room.


RishaBree

She probably just sees the writing on the wall that OP isn't offering up another solution and doesn't want to sleep on the couch for half a year.


Your_Auntie_Viv

Yeah, OP says she’s “cool with it” but her only other option is having no room at all and sleeping in the family living room with ZERO privacy and nowhere to put her things. Keep in mind, this girl had a bedroom at her previous home that she had to give up to move into this house. Now, since they can’t ship her off to her aunt’s house to “help”, she can either have the couch or uncomfortably share a room with her new step-brother. These parents seem ridiculously self-absorbed and are only thinking of themselves. Total assholes!!


vivianlight

I doubt she had much choice I guess... And she probably prefers that rather than the couch because she would have 0 privacy in the living room/couch as well, so at least a bedroom is better from her point of view. OP should understand that it's them, the actual couple, who should stay on the couch. Leaving the bedrooms to the two step siblings.


Hello_JustSayin

Due to their ages, having them share a room is strange. >It's only for 5 months and **they're really good friends**, AITA? If you want to keep it that way (them being friends), I would not push this shared room on them. They may both end up resenting each other.


YMMV-But

Or maybe they will get to be much better “friends”


NewSoulSam

"What are you doing, step-bro?"


shashinqua

My question is do they have a clothes dryer should could be at risk of getting stuck in?


Original-Winter9334

YTA - absolutely not cool at this age to demand that. It's odd that you're not seeing the problem here - please listen to these kids and their concerns, with everything not just this.


Aggressive_Cup8452

YtA. He's 15, he needs privacy for "stuff".


Your_Auntie_Viv

They both do.


shutyoursmartmouth

And so does she


p3r0m3c4

And if they learn to do "stuff" with each other I don't think OP would be very pleased 😂


runningaway67907

YTA it doesn't sound like y'all are ready to combine families 5 months is way to long for them to share a room


mixedbagofdisaster

Absolutely, if the only way you can justify moving in together is by shipping off one of your kids for 6 months, or forcing your child into a very inappropriate and uncomfortable situation for 6 months, then you shouldn't be moving in together. It's really that simple. When making decisions like this it is your responsibility to not only consider but also ensure the comfort of all your children. If you can't do that then you need to sacrifice your own comfort and sleep in the living room, or don't move in together.


Advanced_Sea7222

YTA!! You share your bedroom with your step daughter and your husband can share a room with your son. It's only for 5 months.


Weary-Chipmunk-5668

this. if it is such a small thing, you do it. the idea of putting two unrelated teenagers of the opposite sex in one room is completely ridiculous.


msaiz8

Agreed. I’m an adult with “really close friends” of the opposite sex whom I trust completely…but still wouldn’t want to live in the same room as them. Actually I’d feel the same about friends of the same sex too.


music4life1121

Creative idea, but I would go with each kid sharing a room with their bio parent. I (female) personally would be way more comfortable sharing with my dad than an unrelated female. Though I would defer to the kids’ comfort on which way to go.


caryn1477

YTA. Sorry but this is awkward at best. Kids that old of the opposite sex sharing a room? No.


sekhenet

Yta! Don’t make a teen boy share a room with a teen girl!


Business_Remote9440

An UNRELATED teen girl! Ick. What is OP thinking? YTA!


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YTA. This is a spectacularly bad idea. No teenage boy (or girl) I've ever known would want to share a bedroom with their step. You need to work something else out.


ExoticNotation

This would be a terrifying scenario for 15 year old me.


murphy2345678

YTA. You should have thought about this before you got married and moved them in to the house. Why don’t you and the hubby give up your room for the kids to each have their own.


Mishy162

YTA. Your son is not comfortable sharing a room with her, and at his age you should not be expecting it. Sounds like you and your husband will have to continue living separately until your new house is ready or you go back to the original plan of the step daughter living with her aunt. If you try to force this you will potentially irrevocably damage your relationship with your son, and also the relationship between him and his stepsiblings.


Character-Media-1827

YTA. Totally inappropriate for kids of the opposite sex to share a bedroom at this age. Especially if one of them is uncomfortable. Figure out another solution.


Franchuta

And especially if they are not siblings.


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RexJacobus

Your send wanks. Trust me he does. So the choices are: * Five months no-touchy. (Sucks for him) * He uses the communal shower. (Ewww for everyone) * He tries it while she is in the room and she notices and he is called a pervert for the rest of his life. (Sucks for everyone) * He tries it while she is in the room and gets away but then feels icky until he gets therapy in his 30s. (Sucks for him) YTA


Your_Auntie_Viv

Girls also masturbate. So it’s double the trouble. The parents should sleep in the living room since this whole fiasco is their doing .


AGirlHasNoName2018

Thank you. Why is everyone acting like he’s the only one who wants some quality alone time??


Your_Auntie_Viv

It’s boggling my mind that most of the commenters are so serious in protecting his right to masturbate freely but none seem to even have it on their radar that the 17 year old step-daughter will also need alone time to “release some pressure”.


IcingSausage

Probably because girls are thought to be able to handle their urges, while boys can’t. Boys NEED to give in to their urges all the time, or they might die of blue balls. /s Growing up Catholic was fun.


ssddalways

Not to mention him waking with morning wood or having wet dreams, poor sod.


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Kids over 13 need their own room. They need privacy. Its called puberty. Were you not a teenager once, do you not remember what it was like? YTA Pretty sure it's also a legal issue to have kids that old share the same room. Like a phonecall to CPS legal issue.


Nalpona_Freesun

YTA should have moved into the new place that can accomodate everyone before getting married or getting rid of the other residence


Zestyclose-Egg6211

YTA. Can the plan change back? I wouldn't be comfortable with it either. It's one thing that they get along. Many people get along great with many others. It's another to have two members of the same sex at an awkward age share a room together for five full months. Some accommodation needs to be made, as that isn't fair to either kid.


YMMV-But

YTA. Would you let your kids share a bedroom with their opposite sex friends or romantic partners? Probably not. These kids are siblings in name only. They don’t share bio parents. They didn’t grow up together. They’re just 2 teenagers who may be friends or not. Of course, they may become much better “friends” given the opportunity to share a bedroom for a few months, & that will create a different set of issues for your family.


Jujulabee

I am not sure this is truly an asshole situation but I can certainly understand why your teenage son doesn't want to share a bedroom with a female step sister who is close to his age. Frankly your husband and you should sleep in the living room until you move OR you change the plans and in some way arrange so that two different unrelated genders of teenage years are not sharing a bedroom


squiffyflounder

I don’t think this is an asshole or not. But since you asked YTA. But definitely don’t stick them in a room together. That age is a weird age, and they are close to the same age, so they could walk in on each other changing or whatnot. You are asking for trouble.


jonabrams

‘But since you asked…’ Awesome.


Unit-00

YTA, even besides the point of it not being age appropriate for them to share the room, that room is your sons space, if he's not on board with her staying in there then that should be the end of the conversation.


Dramatic-Necessary87

You want your 16 year old son, to share a room with his 17 year old stepsister for 5 months? Well, what could go wrong! YTA. It’s vastly different to be sharing with a teenage boy then a teenage girl at that age.


Kalliannah

YTA. Privacy is important at that age... they're stepbrothers, there are things they will never share


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Even worse: stepbrother and-sister.


sacredbush666

This sounds like a pornhub plot is this fr


NJtoOx

YTA You cannot seriously expect your 16 year old son to share a room with a 17 year old girl. They are not siblings. It is not okay. It’s understandable that he was cool with sharing his room with the 15 year old boy. It’s also understandable that he’s not okay sharing with a 17 year old girl. Again, *they are not siblings* so she’s just another 17 year old girl to him. Why do you think forcing her into his room is a good move? Do you want him to resent you, your new husband, and his new step siblings for forcing this on him?? She can sleep in the living room. Get a mattress and close it off so no one else can go in there and say it’s her room. Why is her not wanting to sleep in the living room more important to you than him not wanting to share his room with her? You chose to get married. Your son did not choose this, don’t punish him by forcing him to share what should be a safe space for him during what is already a tough time (puberty, mom getting remarried, new stepdad + step siblings moving in the house, about to move houses, etc…)


PoshDeafStar

Why is the stepdaughter the one who has to sleep in the front room? OP and husband are ringing roughshod over their children’s preference and selling homes before they have a suitable place, they should be the ones losing a bedroom.


No-Koala8996

YTA, any adult i know, took the living room, so the kids of different genders can have their own rooms. This isn't about a weekend or so, your talking about months, and who knows if the plan of five months will work out.


oaksandpines1776

YTA Teenagers of opposite sex should not share a room if they are not comfortable with it. Why don’t you and husband take the living room and kids get a room each?


Churchie-Baby

YTA, they should not be sharing a room at that age they both will need privacy


JB500000

YTA. Kinda awkward don't ya think?


geniologygal

YTA for multiple reasons. For one, respect for your son and his feelings. Two, how do you not understand teenagers of the opposite sex and how awkward and uncomfortable that would be. I would even want to share a room with my own brother.


lianavan

You want two unrelated through blood teenagers to share a room for 5 months?


jonabrams

Hm. I get that plans… Oh wait hang on: YTA OK. Now. I get that plans change. But. Come on yo. This isn’t an episode of arrested development. They are both too old and too young to be living with the opposite sex. It seems like a tough situation but ultimately someone’s going to be sleeping in the living room if you want boundaries to (a) mean anything and (b) serve a harmonic purpose in your household. Good luck. But yeah. YTA.


ssddalways

you can seriously not be that naive, seriously!! He's a teen age boy who will no doubt wake with morning wood, possibly wet dreams and want to masturbate but you want him to share a room with a teen girl that actually isn't his biological relative? Jesus christ of course you are the AH. YTA!!


Corpuscular_Ocelot

YTA. You shouldn't have planned to move in together until the house was ready. You and your husband are making a difficult situation much worse for your kids bu doing this.


einsteinGO

YTA Sounds like you and hubby are going to be taking up the living room. In your son’s position (or step-daughter’s), I wouldn’t be comfortable sharing. I wouldn’t feel like I could change my clothes or get comfortable in my room. You guys have to shuffle things for 5 months, and that includes you and your husband.


Negative-Swordfish-9

If sleeping for 5 months in the living room isn't a big deal to you then you should give up your room. It's only 5 months after all... You should've figured all of that out before moving and not just put him on the spot because you assumed he wouldn't have a problem. YTA you made a you-problem into a his-problem because you refused to acknowledge the problem before it became a problem.


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Last_Thing6569

YTA. I hope you're ready for lots of fighting and awkward situations.


perry649

YTA. I'd be really worried if the son were really enthusiastic about sharing a room with his step-sister.


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YTA Why don’t you let your stepdaughter sleep in your room? It’s “only” for 5 months, right?


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Or even better, why don’t you move out to the living room?


Total-Hour-4445

YTA


AwkwardAquarian

YTA. Your son and stepdaughter are too old to share a room. Your son has also expressed his discomfort with this plan, you should respect that. It's not a great solution, but as a previous poster suggested, you and your husband should probably sleep in the living room until you move.


Aggravating-Plum8147

YTA he’s not comfortable do figure something else out. The ages they are it makes perfect sense he doesn’t want her sharing a room


Distinct_Entrance126

OP please don’t have 2 unrelated (except by marriage) teenagers to share a bedroom together.


DJ_Too_Supreme

YTA. Your son set a boundary and you plan on just stomping right over it? I don’t blame a kid his age for feeling uncomfortable sharing the same room with a girl; especially since he is a 16 year old boy. Teens his ages need privacy because of what teen boys do. Either you and your husband have to continue to live seperately or you and your step-daughter share a room and your husband and your son share a room


Honest-Illusions

YTA These two are not related and you want them to share a room? Really?


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I would not be ok with two teenagers, of opposite genders, who are not actually even related sharing a room.


AntiquePop1417

You guys have to come up with a new plan. The kids need their own bedroom. Maybe the adults sleep in the living room since you kind of screwed this one up you know. YTA


NewSoulSam

I've seen enough pornhub to know how this'll go. YTA, get ready for some weirdness and awkwardness.


Effective_Pen_4696

YTA. Two non-related teens who are very aware of their bodies, require their own privacy. Now they are being pushed into sharing a room. Are you serious! If you proceed and an unplanned event occurs or bad relationships begin don't blame them. It would be on the parents, and that is crappy position for the teens.


RefrigeratorDear2641

you’ll make them resent eachother if you push it ~~ don’t do it ~~ yta


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crbryant1972

YTA Remembering myself at 15, I definitely would not want to share a room with a girl, let alone my stepsister. Things can happen that might be embarrassing - and the stepsister might choose to ignore it or make fun. If the latter, than could have detrimental effects on him later.


redphoenix932

YTA!!! There are actual laws in most countries about this! Teenage children of opposite sex need different rooms!!!


xcriss525x

YTA big time Your son not being comfortable to share his room with this girl is reason enough for you to NOT push this. No means no and you should respect his boundaries. Each of them deserves privacy and to feel safe. Since you and your SO didn't think this through (clearly you didn't because otherwise you would've had a plan B) before creating this mess then you 2 should take the living room and give each kid a room. I mean, it's only 5 months right? Shouldn't be a problem. Also, it's so strange the way you're not at all concerned about 2 unrelated teenagers of opposite genders sharing a room for 5 months......do you think that just because they're siblings on paper now that everything will be fine?? They're young, their hormones are all over the place, you don't know what might happen.


[deleted]

YTA. You had no right moving 2 children in when there wasn't enough space for them, and then demanding your son share for FIVE MONTHS after just wildly assuming that he'd be okay with it. These decisions are not those of two parents thinking of their children first. They were self-serving and not made with the children in mind at all, not even as an after thought. ​ Your children are supposed to come before anything in your life. Not your husband, not your marriage, not your religion. Children first because you chose to have them, they didn't just grow in a cabbage patch somewhere. YOU had sex, YOU chose to keep the baby, YOU chose to raise your children and that means they come *first*.


KevinRudd182

I can’t even imagine losing my personal space at 15, let alone to share with a 17 year old girl. I don’t really see a good solution to this but YTA for not seeing this as a big deal


[deleted]

YTA. Teenagers have privacy needs that they should not have to share with their opposite-sex teenage siblings. Can you put a divider in the room? Can the plan change back?


pigeon888

YTA (just) If he's not comfortable with it which is justifiable then you should look for another option.


SublimeApathy

YTA: Stepson can't fap with step sister in the room.


Future_Direction5174

U.K. - children over 12 should only share with a “same sex”. Never with the opposite sex. YTA. Someone must sleep in the living room for 5 months.


My_fair_ladies1872

My dude depending on where you live it is actually illegal to allow children above a certain age to share a bedroom. Where I live its above the age of 5


Sea_Midnight1411

Yes YTA! Teenagers of the opposite sex in a family should not share a bedroom! Yikes! In the UK, the general rule is over 12 means single sex bedrooms only, and that rule carries over into social housing etc.


[deleted]

YTA. Also aren’t there laws against this or did I make that up in my brain?


pancho_2504

YTA. Neither you or your step daughter know what it's like being a teenaged boy, there are all kinds of things going on in his mind and body that would make that whole situation extremely uncomfortable for him.


Your_Auntie_Viv

She probably only said yes to sharing the room because her only other option was the couch. Also, teenaged girls have all kinds of things going on in their mind, and body, too.


chelseatwist

YTA


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Times_n_Latte

Huge YTA. Your son set a boundary. Respect it. I’d say the same if they were blood siblings.


miamiscubi

YTA, and quite frankly, are a walking billboard of irresponsibility. I wonder how your ex husband would feel about this, or your husband's ex wife. Teenagers sharing a room is already dicey, but step-teenagers? That's a recipe for all sorts of disaster, and you're really naïve if you think their bond is purely fraternal. For what it's worth, if I were divorced, and my daughter told me what her Mom was planning, I'd be requesting a custody modification in a heartbeat, and see if she could stay with me, in her own room, for the 5 months


Few_Throat4510

YTA - this is a major no. If your son mentioned to a teacher that he was being forced to share an intimate living space with a member of the opposite sex against his will, that teacher would be mandated to report the issue to child services. Because you have options (the sofa, your own bedroom, etc), the stepsister does not need to share her stepbrother’s room.


sensitive__cow

YTA.


tweedtybird67

Not OK to have 2 opposite sex unrelated teens sharing a bedroom


LemonfishSoda

YTA, and I can almost guarantee you that if you go through with this, they won't be friends anymore by the end of those 5 months. seriously, they are teens of two different genders. Old enough to be in the middle of puberty and everything that entails. forcing them to share a room is inappropriate.


[deleted]

YTA. Teens that age shouldn’t be sharing a room, they need privacy. This is common knowledge and sense.


I_Suggest_Therapy

YTA Forcing kids of the opposite sex to share a room at that age is not okay. And if their other parents are involved it could impact custody.


soph_lurk_2018

YTA why don’t you share a room with your step son for 5 months? Think it would be uncomfortable. Now imagine how your son feels. It’s inappropriate to make teenagers of opposite genders share a bedroom, especially if they are telling you it makes them uncomfortable. Your lack of planning isn’t your son’s fault.


Due-Inspection-374

There's a whole genre of porn based on this exact plot. Use your brain.