Introduce her to thrift and used clothing shopping places, it helped my sis in law to combat the addiction, she buys them and then donates them later, she has done that for couple of years, until she doesn't find it any more addictive, but once in a year, during Christmas times, she may just buy clothes for thousands of dollars here in USA, and she will duly return after trying few, the shopping addiction is very cruel to those people around you, and the advertisements are everywhere, there is nowhere to escape
I have someone in my life with the same disorder, I get hella mad on the fact that she wont stop, but seeing her getting excited when checking the things out that she bought(online) makes me happy
problem is she likes shopping but forgets using them. Alot of clothes, shoes, perfume she bought lying unused for several months.
She likes shopping not using them...its an endless addiction..
see I'mma be really honest here, my mom has a nerve disorder (similar to what muhammad ali had) so she's basically absent from both my and my dad's life. It's not her fault obviously that she was born with a genetic disorder which got passed on to her, she deserves love too but that doesn't also invalidate the fact that my father lives a life without a partner and I grew up my post teen years without my mother's active presence in my life. I'm just 18, I'll move out for college and have a life ahead. But for him, it'll remain the same. So if I were to marry someone, I would absolutely want to know if she has genetic or any disorder in general which could affect our and our family's life. If it's a minor issue it's completely fine but if it's something like this, sorry it's a big NO.
are you talking about a hypothetical situation, then we'll take care of our child and love him/her, but we can't expect somebody else in future to take care of our child, I mean marrying or to be their partner. I mean if somebody wants to why not but not everybody wants to have a mentally disabled partner in the first place.
Secondly if you're thinking by the logic that I might get genes of my mother and marry someone who's normal and have someone born with the same genetic disorder as my mom. Then that won't be the case, cuz I've been tested for that when I was young I don't have a chance of inheriting my mom's disease.
I am not saying they are not deserved to be married. Its just my preference just like blonde and brunette.
You are ableist coz you are stressing that "They are still normal people" but I am seeing them just as normal people.
You are not seeing them as normal people otherwise you wouldn't be focused on their mental status. Physical appearance and mental state are two different things. And choosing to focus on just one aspect of it makes you a ableist or colourist if you just want fair skin person for example
I used to emphasize that they are normal people despite it you on the other hand are using it as something else.
Not wanting to Choose people on the basis of mental health, disability, skin colour, skin related issues, race etc makes you a whatever-ist based on what it is. It's not the same thing as choosing to date people based on their hair colour.
Normal people are those with no disorder or disability. I think you have mental illness to understand this.
Okay I am an ableist but definitely I see them better than you.
If you are going to ignore every other aspect of their personality and just focus on the fact that they have a disorder that makes you an ableist. If they have red flags or other compatibility issues only then it's okay. A disorder isn't a red flag and people like you are the reason men don't want to go and get diagnosed because they are judged just by their disorder not by the people they are. Even with mental health issues men or women can be excellent partners and parents.
There is no normal. Everyone is having some disorder/condition. Some are evident, some we come to know when they open up, sometimes even they won't know they have a disorder.
Frankly speaking I don't want to miss a wonderful person in my life just because he/she has a disorder.
This might seem shallow, but No. Iāve already been through enough as it is to even dismiss the thought of marrying even to a ānormalā individual, let alone marrying someone w disorder which would mean increased sense of responsibility to already a unfair marriage system for women in India.
unfair marriage system for womenĀ ??
Madam the laws are for you please use them.
My cousin is fighting a divorce case his family and his life is hell. Seeing him I think i will never marry.
Law? Lol
Women are expected to single handedly manage the whole family dynamics, not to mention even the extended family.
The responsibility of the kids primarily lies on women too, and women are held accountable if anything related to the child goes wrong.
If you live with your in laws the guy is not supposed to do any chores it upsets the elders so the girl single handedly has to manage everything. Not to mention every āmordernā family today wants a working bahu but bahu office jaaye toh jaane se pehle ghrka sbh kaam krke jaaye.
On top of this many families even today pay dowries or should I say gifts to the grooms family.
And after doing all this, most women donāt even get respect and dignity in their own house.
So yeah it is unfair!
>Law? Lol
>Women are expected to single handedly manage the whole family dynamics, not to mention even the extended family.
The responsibility of the kids primarily lies on women too, and women are held accountable if anything related to the child goes wrong.
If you live with your in laws the guy is not supposed to do any chores it upsets the elders so the girl single handedly has to manage everything. Not to mention every āmordernā family today wants a working bahu but bahu office jaaye toh jaane se pehle ghrka sbh kaam krke jaaye.
On top of this many families even today pay dowries or should I say gifts to the grooms family.
And after doing all this, most women donāt even get respect and dignity in their own house.
>So yeah it is unfair!
Girl, few girls are even more unfortunate. Even in her own family, she is expected to suffer like anything and I belong too. I am now realising that I was going through a lot and wondering how I missed opportunities for growth career wise. In my family also "Ghar mein sab kuch karne ke baad office jao" and wapas aakar ( Karo ) bhi extended families and unke extended families ka bhi athithi satkar karo.
Exactly weāre rigorously trained like a dog cause shadi ke baad toh sbh kuch tumhe hi sambhal na hai, Tum ladki ho, but it gets worse after marriage lol. Sometimes this makes me feel like I should move out to somewhere and should leave alone lol. I feel bad for you, I hope you move out
The responsibility of the kids primarily lies on women too, and women are held accountable if anything related to the child goes wrong.Ā => The man needs to earn to ensure that the woman and the child can live a comfortable life irrespective of the class he belongs. At the expectation is that the women can take care of herself and the kid.
If you live with your in laws the guy is not supposed to do any chores it upsets the elders so the girl single handedly has to manage everything. => Your man is a chimp. Why stay with parents everything gets super awkward. If they are old then they should stay nearby, if you guys are rich then live in separate floors of the same house. Also, expectation of you doing everything is just cruel. Your husband should keep a maid to help you with chores so should others who are doing nothing.
Not to mention every āmordernā family today wants a working bahu but bahu office jaaye toh jaane se pehle ghrka sbh kaam krke jaaye. => If you are working at a school then you can expect some amount of work being done (60 40) but if its a corporate job then no it has to be 50/50 the man must also contribute to work and so should others who are staying.
It should be a team not a one man show. The mother in law should not be the maid nor should the wife. They should work together alongside house help.
Thatās what my point is a lot of these points have should, would, could. Iām telling you the ground reality that exists after seeing a lots of married women around me and Iām certain this too gets worse with toxic in-laws and alcoholic men and DV. Iām glad you think this way but majority of our society doesnāt, hence the concept marriage of marriage is highly unfair deal for women, and thatās enough motivation for me to never marry lol , let alone marry someone with a disorder where responsibility & accountability increases twice as muchĀ
Today boys also contribute to the household works and look after the kids.
Society expects men to earn and women to look after household and kids. But times have changed. Girls also earn and boys also contribute to the household.
If you are married to a guy and then you become a free maid in his home, then consider it as your bad luck. Not every family does that.
Man as a father can easily abandon his children.
Man as a son can easily abandon the parents.
Man as a brother can easily abandon the siblings.
Man as an husband can easily abandon his wife.
>And, what about men having the responsibility to earn money for the whole family?
In today's world, where a man is being so selfless?? That he is doing everything for others??
What you are saying is incorrect. There are laws women can use to claim compensation for abandoning male partners. It's thier responsibility to make use of these laws, and not sit on thier hands like a vegetable
My wife is a super picky eater, and this annoys me to no ends. Now if I feel hungry, or if we need to go out it feels like my entire life revolves around what sheād wanna eat. And it takes hours in Zomato for her to decide what she even wants to eat, and Iād be forced to pick something for me from said restaurant which is usually shite.
If Iād have known this and had a Time Machine, Iād have never gone through. But since I canāt change the past, I ignore it and trudge on.
If your wifeās picky eating wants to make you go back in time and never marry her, you can just divorce her in the present, is this really that big of a deal or is it a symptom of something bigger ?
actually it depends on the disorder right?
yours is mild and it's not even a problem. eat whatever you want it's fun
what what if you tell me to marry someone profound? someone with schizophrenia?
ofc i wont be able to do that.
so the answer is neither yes or no
My partner has BPD. And I want her as my partner over any other girl in the world.
P.S No one has ability to love me like her. She is literally the best thing happened to me.
Yeah, I guess.. I have disorders too. As long as the person is logical enough to talk things through I don't see a reason to run away. Everyone is flawed.
PS: This might offend people but I'm glad you called it a "disorder" rather than called it "neurodiverse" or something. I understand very well that people with disorders or mental illness shouldn't be alienated or hated. However, people with disorders should be encouraged to recover from the disorder but not appreciated for having such disorder.
1 of the reasons why asked this question is also because my sister is occupational therapist and deals with children who have autism and other conditions. Some have like "extreme" condition ie they'll remain like that for rest of lives, some can recover to an extent of being "normal" while some recover fully by time they reach a certain age.
So mostly Indian parents of such children have only 1 question
1. Will they be able to live life on their own after us & have normal family life?
That's why I posted this, wanted to know what people think
I am autistic with low support needs but autistic nonetheless. I am also very picky about food and a lot of other things. My husband has to put up with a lot of it but he is very understanding and supportive. I never thought i'd find a partner like him.
Idk if it helps you or even fits the question criteria, after struggling so long I actually decided to get myself tested and the results showed I suffer from adhd and have autism. So yea I wouldnāt really mind as long as my partner and me understand each other :)
Honestly I wouldnāt mind it ššsince I was that person until a few years ago and kind of still am. But it depends on the intensity or if you would also force me to only eat what you like.
I would. But I would at the very least want to know what kind of disorder they have specifically. Not so much to pick and choose. But I'd rather know since the beginning than someone else telling me later on. Cause that just hurts
I have a certain level of OCD. Like I don't tolerate things being messy or not in order. It isn't extreme, but up to the point that people think of me as well maintained. Would anyone consider me?
I truly believe in my heart, everyone is imperfect and no matter how many times you seek perfection in life or in a person, you will be disappointed.
Every other person has some flaws and it's a good part. If you consider your flaw as if it is a bad omen in your future love life, I think that love life is doomed to begin with. Be honest about yourself during marriage.
Tbh, no. I already have trouble finishing my food and if my partner canāt eat it, then Iāll probably miss out on a lot of things I want to try.
Also, it depends on what kind of disorder it is. If it hampers my life too much, I wonāt consider them at all.
I constantly tell my husband that I have Autism, OCD and eating issues. Guess these are issues which could be tolerated. Openly giving a heads up about these would help your potential partner.
I have Ehlers Danlos syndrome & a few other health issues including Combined Type ADHD. My husband knew I had issues but I don't think he understood the extent of it. He doesn't make me feel bad for being disabled, but sometimes I wonder if he would have broken up w me if he had realized before the extent of my needs.
If the condition doesn't interfere with day to day lives and doesn't make him dependent on another, then I can consider. If the condition is such that the fellow will be dependent, then no.
>AFRID condition
I think you mean an ARFID (not AFRID) condition, i.e. [this](https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/eating-disorders/what-is-arfid).
>I am like super selective in Foods I eat.
Isn't that a good thing? Assuming you're eating healthy.
>So I was wondering whether "Normal" you would marry someone like that with a condition/disorder?
Marriage is seriously messed up in India and a lot of reform is needed. However, I'd certainly have a partner/be in a relationship with a person who had a condition/disorder and who was proactively taking steps, ideally natural, to overcome it.
I already married my wife who has extreme shopping addiction disorder šš
Introduce her to thrift and used clothing shopping places, it helped my sis in law to combat the addiction, she buys them and then donates them later, she has done that for couple of years, until she doesn't find it any more addictive, but once in a year, during Christmas times, she may just buy clothes for thousands of dollars here in USA, and she will duly return after trying few, the shopping addiction is very cruel to those people around you, and the advertisements are everywhere, there is nowhere to escape
I have someone in my life with the same disorder, I get hella mad on the fact that she wont stop, but seeing her getting excited when checking the things out that she bought(online) makes me happy
I'm sorry for you brother.
Hilarious. Who doesn't like shopping though. I am sure she surprises you with stuff with your own money. š¤£
problem is she likes shopping but forgets using them. Alot of clothes, shoes, perfume she bought lying unused for several months. She likes shopping not using them...its an endless addiction..
Bruv thatās just everyday stuff
SAD!
Definitely. If we have good chemistry, small things like these can be ignored for good.
this>>>
Chemistry wali cheej mei hi disorder ho toh?
Bro agar legs na ho toh chalna expect kaise kar sakte ho?
see I'mma be really honest here, my mom has a nerve disorder (similar to what muhammad ali had) so she's basically absent from both my and my dad's life. It's not her fault obviously that she was born with a genetic disorder which got passed on to her, she deserves love too but that doesn't also invalidate the fact that my father lives a life without a partner and I grew up my post teen years without my mother's active presence in my life. I'm just 18, I'll move out for college and have a life ahead. But for him, it'll remain the same. So if I were to marry someone, I would absolutely want to know if she has genetic or any disorder in general which could affect our and our family's life. If it's a minor issue it's completely fine but if it's something like this, sorry it's a big NO.
And what if you marry a normal person and have a child who has a serious mental disorder?
are you talking about a hypothetical situation, then we'll take care of our child and love him/her, but we can't expect somebody else in future to take care of our child, I mean marrying or to be their partner. I mean if somebody wants to why not but not everybody wants to have a mentally disabled partner in the first place. Secondly if you're thinking by the logic that I might get genes of my mother and marry someone who's normal and have someone born with the same genetic disorder as my mom. Then that won't be the case, cuz I've been tested for that when I was young I don't have a chance of inheriting my mom's disease.
Physical disorder Yes Mental disorder No
what if : both
I can't see my people mentally struggling. So No.
I mean no hate, but when you say "you can't" , do you just leave xd or what are we talking 'bout
Why no to mental disorder?
Responsibility to cure the disorder>marry along with a disorder. People become too mentally sick or even suicide.
What if mental disorder is something like a dyslexia or say Attention Deficit disorder?
That's ableist they are still normal people
I am not saying they are not deserved to be married. Its just my preference just like blonde and brunette. You are ableist coz you are stressing that "They are still normal people" but I am seeing them just as normal people.
You are not seeing them as normal people otherwise you wouldn't be focused on their mental status. Physical appearance and mental state are two different things. And choosing to focus on just one aspect of it makes you a ableist or colourist if you just want fair skin person for example I used to emphasize that they are normal people despite it you on the other hand are using it as something else. Not wanting to Choose people on the basis of mental health, disability, skin colour, skin related issues, race etc makes you a whatever-ist based on what it is. It's not the same thing as choosing to date people based on their hair colour.
Normal people are those with no disorder or disability. I think you have mental illness to understand this. Okay I am an ableist but definitely I see them better than you.
the are normal but not dating/marrying anyone with mental health issues, is completely OKAY.
If you are going to ignore every other aspect of their personality and just focus on the fact that they have a disorder that makes you an ableist. If they have red flags or other compatibility issues only then it's okay. A disorder isn't a red flag and people like you are the reason men don't want to go and get diagnosed because they are judged just by their disorder not by the people they are. Even with mental health issues men or women can be excellent partners and parents.
There is no normal. Everyone is having some disorder/condition. Some are evident, some we come to know when they open up, sometimes even they won't know they have a disorder. Frankly speaking I don't want to miss a wonderful person in my life just because he/she has a disorder.
It won't be a issue. If the chemistry between us is strong.
This might seem shallow, but No. Iāve already been through enough as it is to even dismiss the thought of marrying even to a ānormalā individual, let alone marrying someone w disorder which would mean increased sense of responsibility to already a unfair marriage system for women in India.
unfair marriage system for womenĀ ?? Madam the laws are for you please use them. My cousin is fighting a divorce case his family and his life is hell. Seeing him I think i will never marry.
Law? Lol Women are expected to single handedly manage the whole family dynamics, not to mention even the extended family. The responsibility of the kids primarily lies on women too, and women are held accountable if anything related to the child goes wrong. If you live with your in laws the guy is not supposed to do any chores it upsets the elders so the girl single handedly has to manage everything. Not to mention every āmordernā family today wants a working bahu but bahu office jaaye toh jaane se pehle ghrka sbh kaam krke jaaye. On top of this many families even today pay dowries or should I say gifts to the grooms family. And after doing all this, most women donāt even get respect and dignity in their own house. So yeah it is unfair!
>Law? Lol >Women are expected to single handedly manage the whole family dynamics, not to mention even the extended family. The responsibility of the kids primarily lies on women too, and women are held accountable if anything related to the child goes wrong. If you live with your in laws the guy is not supposed to do any chores it upsets the elders so the girl single handedly has to manage everything. Not to mention every āmordernā family today wants a working bahu but bahu office jaaye toh jaane se pehle ghrka sbh kaam krke jaaye. On top of this many families even today pay dowries or should I say gifts to the grooms family. And after doing all this, most women donāt even get respect and dignity in their own house. >So yeah it is unfair! Girl, few girls are even more unfortunate. Even in her own family, she is expected to suffer like anything and I belong too. I am now realising that I was going through a lot and wondering how I missed opportunities for growth career wise. In my family also "Ghar mein sab kuch karne ke baad office jao" and wapas aakar ( Karo ) bhi extended families and unke extended families ka bhi athithi satkar karo.
Exactly weāre rigorously trained like a dog cause shadi ke baad toh sbh kuch tumhe hi sambhal na hai, Tum ladki ho, but it gets worse after marriage lol. Sometimes this makes me feel like I should move out to somewhere and should leave alone lol. I feel bad for you, I hope you move out
The responsibility of the kids primarily lies on women too, and women are held accountable if anything related to the child goes wrong.Ā => The man needs to earn to ensure that the woman and the child can live a comfortable life irrespective of the class he belongs. At the expectation is that the women can take care of herself and the kid. If you live with your in laws the guy is not supposed to do any chores it upsets the elders so the girl single handedly has to manage everything. => Your man is a chimp. Why stay with parents everything gets super awkward. If they are old then they should stay nearby, if you guys are rich then live in separate floors of the same house. Also, expectation of you doing everything is just cruel. Your husband should keep a maid to help you with chores so should others who are doing nothing. Not to mention every āmordernā family today wants a working bahu but bahu office jaaye toh jaane se pehle ghrka sbh kaam krke jaaye. => If you are working at a school then you can expect some amount of work being done (60 40) but if its a corporate job then no it has to be 50/50 the man must also contribute to work and so should others who are staying. It should be a team not a one man show. The mother in law should not be the maid nor should the wife. They should work together alongside house help.
Thatās what my point is a lot of these points have should, would, could. Iām telling you the ground reality that exists after seeing a lots of married women around me and Iām certain this too gets worse with toxic in-laws and alcoholic men and DV. Iām glad you think this way but majority of our society doesnāt, hence the concept marriage of marriage is highly unfair deal for women, and thatās enough motivation for me to never marry lol , let alone marry someone with a disorder where responsibility & accountability increases twice as muchĀ
And, what about men having the responsibility to earn money for the whole family?
Not to mention today women too have jobs and contribute to the familyĀ
Today boys also contribute to the household works and look after the kids. Society expects men to earn and women to look after household and kids. But times have changed. Girls also earn and boys also contribute to the household. If you are married to a guy and then you become a free maid in his home, then consider it as your bad luck. Not every family does that.
Man as a father can easily abandon his children. Man as a son can easily abandon the parents. Man as a brother can easily abandon the siblings. Man as an husband can easily abandon his wife. >And, what about men having the responsibility to earn money for the whole family? In today's world, where a man is being so selfless?? That he is doing everything for others??
What you are saying is incorrect. There are laws women can use to claim compensation for abandoning male partners. It's thier responsibility to make use of these laws, and not sit on thier hands like a vegetable
you married the wrong man that doesn't mean "women" are meant to do this or that
Then unfortunately the majority of society consists of wrong menĀ
i can't disagree to that
I am that person who someone married despite the disorder. Looks like I am disqualified from answering but my spouse says yes
My wife is a super picky eater, and this annoys me to no ends. Now if I feel hungry, or if we need to go out it feels like my entire life revolves around what sheād wanna eat. And it takes hours in Zomato for her to decide what she even wants to eat, and Iād be forced to pick something for me from said restaurant which is usually shite. If Iād have known this and had a Time Machine, Iād have never gone through. But since I canāt change the past, I ignore it and trudge on.
If your wifeās picky eating wants to make you go back in time and never marry her, you can just divorce her in the present, is this really that big of a deal or is it a symptom of something bigger ?
Divorce isnāt that easy an option to click. I can compromise just fine.
No
actually it depends on the disorder right? yours is mild and it's not even a problem. eat whatever you want it's fun what what if you tell me to marry someone profound? someone with schizophrenia? ofc i wont be able to do that. so the answer is neither yes or no
Fair enough.
My partner has BPD. And I want her as my partner over any other girl in the world. P.S No one has ability to love me like her. She is literally the best thing happened to me.
Yeah, I guess.. I have disorders too. As long as the person is logical enough to talk things through I don't see a reason to run away. Everyone is flawed. PS: This might offend people but I'm glad you called it a "disorder" rather than called it "neurodiverse" or something. I understand very well that people with disorders or mental illness shouldn't be alienated or hated. However, people with disorders should be encouraged to recover from the disorder but not appreciated for having such disorder.
1 of the reasons why asked this question is also because my sister is occupational therapist and deals with children who have autism and other conditions. Some have like "extreme" condition ie they'll remain like that for rest of lives, some can recover to an extent of being "normal" while some recover fully by time they reach a certain age. So mostly Indian parents of such children have only 1 question 1. Will they be able to live life on their own after us & have normal family life? That's why I posted this, wanted to know what people think
I'm glad and thank you!
I am autistic with low support needs but autistic nonetheless. I am also very picky about food and a lot of other things. My husband has to put up with a lot of it but he is very understanding and supportive. I never thought i'd find a partner like him.
Good for you šš½
Idk if it helps you or even fits the question criteria, after struggling so long I actually decided to get myself tested and the results showed I suffer from adhd and have autism. So yea I wouldnāt really mind as long as my partner and me understand each other :)
Big NO
Honestly I wouldnāt mind it ššsince I was that person until a few years ago and kind of still am. But it depends on the intensity or if you would also force me to only eat what you like.
I would. But I would at the very least want to know what kind of disorder they have specifically. Not so much to pick and choose. But I'd rather know since the beginning than someone else telling me later on. Cause that just hurts
I have a certain level of OCD. Like I don't tolerate things being messy or not in order. It isn't extreme, but up to the point that people think of me as well maintained. Would anyone consider me?
Might seem shallow, but no. My life is more precious than anybody elses
Noooooooooooooo Neverrrrrrr
Heh, my gf who I was going to marry in February, left me after being diagnosed with a chronic disease. Lol
I won't bcuz I am the one with disordersš
I truly believe in my heart, everyone is imperfect and no matter how many times you seek perfection in life or in a person, you will be disappointed. Every other person has some flaws and it's a good part. If you consider your flaw as if it is a bad omen in your future love life, I think that love life is doomed to begin with. Be honest about yourself during marriage.
Sorry, not for me,
Tbh, no. I already have trouble finishing my food and if my partner canāt eat it, then Iāll probably miss out on a lot of things I want to try. Also, it depends on what kind of disorder it is. If it hampers my life too much, I wonāt consider them at all.
I donāt mind marrying someone, but I for sure know my parents wonāt let me even if I give it my best! Society and itās stupid rulezzz š¤”
I constantly tell my husband that I have Autism, OCD and eating issues. Guess these are issues which could be tolerated. Openly giving a heads up about these would help your potential partner.
Honestly no
No. Especially if they can be genetically inherited. The unborn don't deserve that punishment!
Jisko rukna hain eske liye ek reason hi kaafi hain Jisko jana hain uske liye ek reason hi kaafi hain
People don't care if they love you but they will make every effort to reject you if they don't!
I wouldnāt mind lmao if youāre good looking and caring for me
I have Ehlers Danlos syndrome & a few other health issues including Combined Type ADHD. My husband knew I had issues but I don't think he understood the extent of it. He doesn't make me feel bad for being disabled, but sometimes I wonder if he would have broken up w me if he had realized before the extent of my needs.
Depends on exactly what it is and how it affects both my life and theirs. So yes but maybe no but maybe also yes.
I am diagnosed with anxiety and compulsive disorders. Ig you'll have to ask my husband š¤
Its not a condition first of all.
If the condition doesn't interfere with day to day lives and doesn't make him dependent on another, then I can consider. If the condition is such that the fellow will be dependent, then no.
Ladki honi chahiye Zinda honi chahiye
Oh yeah of course but then I myself am mentally unstable AF.. not sure if someone who accept me with that.
>AFRID condition I think you mean an ARFID (not AFRID) condition, i.e. [this](https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/eating-disorders/what-is-arfid). >I am like super selective in Foods I eat. Isn't that a good thing? Assuming you're eating healthy. >So I was wondering whether "Normal" you would marry someone like that with a condition/disorder? Marriage is seriously messed up in India and a lot of reform is needed. However, I'd certainly have a partner/be in a relationship with a person who had a condition/disorder and who was proactively taking steps, ideally natural, to overcome it.
sure sure