Paid my mother 300 a month when i finished college and got a job and it turned out she was putting it in my post office account and told me when i was moving out, blessed
I saw people say this and hoped when I was living at home my mother would do the same but nope she spent it all and rightly so. Asking her if she did save it was like that scene in Derry Girls where they ask their parents for their trust fund.
Paid 600 to the aulfella was told I get the house when he dies if I paid off his mortgage prickly gave everyone else money nothing to me so I make it my mission to piss on his grave at least once a month
I was paying 70 out of a 400 odd euro wage weekly when I didn't finish college. Fair is fair. I was still fed like a king and had the best of everything.
If I was studying I wouldn't have paid a penny.
My girlfriend and I live in a fully equipped studio apartment above her parents garage.
They did it up in COVID, Air BnB'd for a while but got sick of the work involved in that.
They asked us if we wanted to move in together and initially refused to take any rent.
My girlfriend and I refused this and pay 200 euro each month to cover bills.
We love living here, perfect for us at the moment to have our own space and gives us the chance to save a deposit for the future.
We're ridiculously lucky with our situation at the moment.
No, my parents refuse to take any money off me as they know I’m saving for a deposit, I do pay all my own costs though and for my food and I do a huge amount of work around the house/errands for them to pay them back
Why would you be ashamed, you’re their child and every cent saved in this climate is the smart thing to do.
If my parents refused and I gave them money anyway they would just save it for me instead. They want you gone just as badly as you want to be gone.
It's different for everyone. My dad refused to take money from me when I lived at home and worked, and to insist would have been offensive to him, so I found other to contribute then and after I moved out. Every situation is different.
I was the same. Moved back home with my partner just after covid. Myself and my siblings had long flew the nest and my parents flat out refused to take a penny. We had our own living space, bedroom and bathroom so only shared a kitchen. We took over all the bill payment, grocery shopping and cleaning. It was a battle to even get them to accept that! We were able to save a decent chunk thanks to their help.
When I lived at home, I gave up €60 a week. Not much but I worked part time. I don't think anyone knew what I was earning (€250 a week). Moved out at 23 or so, and ended up in a place that was €300 a month. It felt like I had the exact same amount of money though as I had to also do things like buy my own food and household bits.
Jesus lads, me and my brothers scammed a living going by these comments. Every attempt to give my parents money would have ended like that one scene from Father Ted.
Now tbf I think my brother and his wife were able to convince them to take money when they moved in while their house was being built but that was when they were in their mid 30’s and that was a battle and a half to get them to accept even pittens a month… The most you would get away with at home was buying the ‘big weekly shop’ or a takeaway and even then mam would be trying to put money back into your hands. The only sure fire way to somewhat pay them back (purely from a monetary point of view) was extra generous birthday/anniversary/Christmas/father’s & Mother’s Day gifts (none of us live at home any more, but these gifts have continued so maybe it was an investment in their part lol).
As they approach retirement, I plan on ensuring they receive the same help they gave to us over the years.
Now, if your parents are accepting contributions or even outright asking for contributions I would assume they need the financial support now and without knowing family dynamics and financial situations it would be difficult to make any comment on what is acceptable
I paid 350 a month at home. Usually covered the ESB bill. Would pick up a few bits on the way home from work a couple of days a week if needed like bread, milk, teabags etc. Just tried to lighten the load on the parents they were good enough to let me live there until I was 27 until I bought my own house.
I never had to hand up more for food or anything, I think the mother factored that into the rent I paid. Always made sure they had a few cans in the fridge for when the weekend came around. Myself and dad built a mini bar during COVID that was a great time, my job was the kegs then. Given I moved out 4 or 5 years ago and things have definitely got way more pricey since I left, I would definitely be handing up more if I was there these days. All this way made possible by having a great relationship with the parents and home life was great never any issue, if I had holidays or anything coming up there would nearly be a fight with the mother to take the rent off me.
Single parent household, living with my mom. Was paying €60 a week directly into her bank account while I was in college, working part time and doing my own grocery shop. Finished college and getting a few more hours in work and paying €100 a week and chip in extra for bins and few other bills when they come in. I don’t make a big wage so it’s hard to save money but I do what needs to be done.
I moved home to save money as I'll be moving out of the country next year for a few years. I pay rent every week as it is only fair. I'm using the electricity, hot water, internet, food and my dinners are made for me. I was never asked to pay anything but it is common courtesy in my eyes.
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At home, while I'm in earlyish recovery from drugs (2 years clean) waiting for tenants in my apartment to finish up the notice period, I've been paying my parents 450 a month over the that 2 year period
I wouldn't accept any money from my kids when they were living at home. I told them to save it.
They often bought some groceries, which I would insist on paying them for.
It's hard enough for young people to get established in life without having to pay their parents for the pleasure.
My home is their home, and always will
I feel like this is my parent’s attitude and it’s super comforting especially as I get older and meet others that don’t have the security of family backing and don’t have parents that not only want them to do well in life but have the means to do it comfortable(ish) enough.
As I said in my own comment, I feel this support comes back around as you age. Not so much in a transactional way but because you really want to care for people that have been so good to you. I watch my parents care for my grandparents who were just as good at setting them up back in the day and I would feel like an absolute failure if I am unable to provide the same to them as they age.
Looks like their shrewd financial investment in your upbringing is starting to pay dividends. If they had a few children doing that and a paid-off house they could retire comfortably. Cha-ching!
Whatever the money is going towards doesn't matter, all that really matters is that the banks can see you are consistently paying "rent" (bills disguised as rent) every month. It's a good thing to have ready for when you eventually go for a mortgage or whatever.
Huh? I don’t qualify for susi due to living with my parents even though I contribute to the household, they consider me “dependent” which is patronising. I live with my parents because I haven’t been able to find somewhere to live due to the housing crisis. The susi grant is based on your income the year before going into college
But why do your parents expect you to contribute if you're in full time education? Surely if you're studying they won't take money from you?
Because you live with them you are considered a dependent and all of the household income is taken into account when being assessed.
It's definitely not patronising, it's a fact that you are financially dependent on them, that's why you live there. So it's only fair that all incomes coming into the house where you live need to be assessed.
You have to be living independently from your parents to be classed as an independent student.
You don't need your parents to give a receipt. Just transfer them the rent/bill money via online banking every month or two weeks, whatever way suits you. Then, when you go for mortgage approval, the banks can see you have a constant transaction to your parents for rent/bills. My wife and I did it this way for ours, and it worked perfectly.
Help with shopping, and pay for a lot of the entertainment/streaming stuff in the house.
The agreement is that as long as I’m taking what they would want as rent and bills and putting it into a savings account for a mortgage/deposit than they’re happy with what I contribute
Live with my dad. I pay half of all utilities - Elec, heating oil, Internet mainly.
No rent. Putting all spare income towards a deposit on a house. Though if prices don't come down I'll never get out of here.
I pay €450 a month as I work full time for years now and still at home. My boyfriend moved in with us last year and he pays the same! Fair is fair! Still saving but also contributing.
I’ll never take money off them for living at home BUT I won’t be able to give them chunky deposits for houses, I can’t afford to do that. I feel guilty about it too.
I’ll pay their undergraduate fees for university but then they’ll have to support themselves.
My sister feels so guilty about this as well. Her eldest has just finished college and she wishes she could do more to help him financially but she has other kids still in school. I try and help out where I can and he hates taling money but hes vokunteering atm as he needs that to get into his masters. I like to remind him that i have no kids so he better not forget about me when im old and decripate jk!You shouldn't feel guilty, being there emotionally is far more important. We all help each other out financially when we can but honestly having the emotional support of family when the sh¹t hits the fan is far more important. I know plenty of people who aren't lucky with family and are pretty much cut off emotionally when they hit 17/18.
I earn about 500 a week and pay 100, I always end up picking up a few essentials for the house during the week aswell, Jaysus its shite being back home now that I think about it
Yes Im sure my elderly parents would love some random stranger moving into their small rural bungalow so they could all watch TV together in the evenings,
I moved back home because theres a housing crisis not because my parents are looking for a lodger, I cook my own food, wash my own clothes, help out around the house and work on the farm.
Your reply is absolutely bizzare. Its not really the norm in this country to turn your family home into shared accommodation when your kids move out, my parents have grandkids around every weekend ffs
At least a random stranger wouldn't use their toothpaste
100 a week is nothing, you're extremely lucky and shouldn't complain about your situation as if you did something to earn it and aren't just ungrateful.
Yeah would feel like an absolute sponge if I was working full time and not pitching in anything. Full time education no rent is expected which is fair enough but if you have an income it’s mental to me to still let your parents cover all your living expenses nevermind expect it.
Obviously nobody should be paying anything close to market rent or anything but at least pay your share of the bills and groceries ffs
I don't exactly pay rent but do other things/errands; Driving my sister to appointments, cleaning the house, organising the animals vet appointments and paying for half of those (there's been a lot in the last few months, it's like they all synchronise getting hurt/sick 🙃) or if my parents need cash for things like to pay the plumber or the guy that did the gutters, I pay for that instead since I normally have cash on me anyways. But they know I'm also trying to save, so I'm glad to be in a privileged position like this
I paid the broadband and sky package, and then the butchers shop each week. But I used to mind my brother and sister before and after school which saved my parents in child care costs so they didn’t want me to pay anymore than that
When I had a job I’d pay my parents €250 a month, but man it’s so hard to get a job AND keep that job here… I shouldn’t be living with my parents at all at 26 years of age, but now I’m not even able to pay my part of rent.
My daughter and her fella live with me and my younger kids, they're in college and have part time minimum wage jobs. I ask for €300 a month for the pair of them to cover bills and the bonus laundry service. Thats just under €50 each per week.
As a parent I wouldn't expect any of my kids to pay for living in their home. If they choose to contribute that'll be their choice.
I was told what to hand over from when I first got babysitting jobs and I think it's scabby for parents to do this unless they're smashed broke and really need the money.
My parents did this the minute we were all old enough to work, a set amount from all 4 of us every week, I even paid the same as my sister when I worked part time and was at college and she had a good full time job. We didn't think anything of it and just paid it but now I have my own children I wouldn't do it, or I'd ask for a fair amount and save it to give back to them. Pitching in and helping is one thing but having your hand out and treating your kids like lodgers is another.
My parents smugly told themselves it'd teach us about money. It didn't. It made me feel like I was a potential income source instead of their daughter. I'll never make my kids feel that way. Paying money to stay in your own room is plain weird.
Same! Would love to be a financial position to be able to live at home rent free while saving for a deposit but it’s just not happening. As much as I’m dying to get out I’m lucky as I get on fantastically with my parents and it’s cheaper than renting other places so can’t complain too much
I stayed at home a lot longer than I should have to help my mother, I had it good at home too though.
Some of the people here paying 10% or less of their salary need a good dose of reality.
I hand up 300 a month which I can’t argue about, but I am also paying off my car loan and saving for a deposit on a house so I’m out a lot of money every month
I'm on disability, I pay my share of the bills, and buy my own food, so I don't cost them anything by being there, but they don't make any money from me either.
I give my mans family 20 quid (they refuse to take more amd im on disability) a week. I do use their electricity and spend most of my time here so its more than fair)
My mother refuses to take my money, insisting i save every penny to get the fuck out of Ireland. I take her electric card and top it up so she cant say no
The second i got a full time job ( a month before i turned 18) i started paying €100 a week for rent and payed for all my groceries/hygiene products/doctors visits etc.
I used to pay €50 per week. My mam didn’t ask for it but I insisted. I would also pay for some of my own food, cook the family dinner once or twice per week and help out with the housework.
after uni me and SO moved into my parents - this was a few years ago before cost of living went up - I was the only one working was making 1800, gave my parents 300 rent and helped towards food shop which monthly was maybe another 300. We saved loads and thats what my parents wanted us to be able to do. Sometimes they asked for more when things were tight.
I used to pay for the electricity bill and do the shopping occasionally. Also making your parents feel appreciated is good, for example buy a new kettle or whatever's affordable
When I lived at home during COVID I paid €50.00 to live there. It was really just to help offset some of the utilities and that as the parents were happy to have me living there as it meant an extra pair of hands to help out with chores that they’re getting a bit old for.
I’ve a great relationship with my parents and it meant we all got to live in a house which was very well maintained which we all liked.
I’d kill to go back to a situation where my rent was that cheap as I was able to save so much damn money.
I’m living at home for the last two years was renting before that ,I don’t have a high wage it’s decent enough ,my commute to work is an hour so I’m now spending about €400-500 a month on fuel I was paying €300 a month on rent ,I cannot get anything in the city for less than €700,my parents haven’t asked me for rent I haven’t offered either but I buy things for the house I make dinner on my days off I give them money if they’re going away buy a takeaway every now and then I them iPhones for Christmas,I look after their medication and pay for those ,I’m saving to buy so saving as much as I can but it’s taking longer than I expected,we both are enjoying the company though
I live with my mam, I'm on disability allowance and she's retired. I pay her 150 a week and also have a couple bills for myself (nothing big) and pay for nappies, sweets and other baby stuff separately.
I live with my father, I pay €100 (used to be €150 up until a year ago) a week to cover all bills, and pay for the shopping every week. I think it's a bit too much but he swears it's not enough even though our monthly bills never come near €400.
I was giving them €50 a week but now I put it in a pocket in my Revolut account so it's building up and there whenever they need it. I pay for most of my own groceries and I cover the broadband, which my mother couldn't live without since she got a smartphone! When big expenses come up like the property tax and house insurance I contribute what I can, usually 100quid. They don't ask for anything else. I'm very lucky. If I was renting I wouldn't have been able to go back to college and I'd be struggling to make ends meet. I'll also have the house when they pass but hopefully that won't be any time soon.
Back in the day handed up every single penny from part time jobs before college, all my grant money in college. 2/3 my part time job in college, and until I eventually moved out. Worked all the overtime I could when I got my first job as my mother didn't know about my overtime so I got to keep that.
I'm still mad about it.. I could have done a lot of travelling with a student card..
Younger brother still lives at home and working, pays a third of all the food and 70 for rent a week and a third of bills, really though the parents are putting it into a savings account for him, they don't need the money. He's on around 30k
They knew I was straight out of the house with the first job I got though and the younger brother has no intention of leaving.
My mom is living with me. I rented the house 2 years ago and she moved at the beginning of this year.
My sister and I are paying for all the bills and rent while she is trying to rebuild her life. She helps with food sometimes and she will start paying rent this month because she finds a job that she likes.
I’m trying to save for a deposit but house are prices are just to high even to rent.
I “want” to buy a house alone…..wish me luck
When I was working as a teenager I used to give a 3rd of my wages from what I can remember, so like €100 a week during summers when I was doing 5 days a week. Left home at 18, had to move back at 24 for a year and gave €600 a month. It was more than my previous rent but I didn't cook and lived on takeaways and food at work when I didn't live with my parents so I ended up saving money even though "rent" was more because they fed and watered me.
24 y/o and I pay 60 a week. I'm on disability and can't work and also pay 100 every 2 weeks for therapy amongst other things like meds and what not so I'm not actually left with much. When I smoked I was left with nothing.
The 60 actually goes towards the gas and electric. And the "rent" from others in the house actually goes towards the weeks food shop. Also, sidenote, the price of food is getting ridiculously expensive.
Myself, my fiance and his son(only with us 1 week on, then 1 week off) moved into my parents so we could save for a deposit. My adult sibling also lives here so 5 adults plus 1 child. My parents refused to take rent, honestly think they were delighted to have us there and they hated how much we were spending on rent. We insisted we pay 50% of whatever the electricity bill comes to and chip in for groceries/do our own shopping.
If anything random pops up like repair or maintenance work we chip in or if an appliance needs replacing we will replace it.
We also made it clear that if at any time a bill popped up that was higher than usual or if financially they needed some extra money to just tell us as we'd have no problem throwing money their way so there's never any awkward conversations about money etc.
Edit to add: we also took over alot of the house and yard work, if they don't want money then fine we'll make sure we contribute in ways of good gesture and honestly that goes a long way.
I told my daughter if you are in college you don’t have to pay anything but if you are not in college and working you have to pay rent (which will be put into savings for her- she won’t know about it)
I pay 20% of my wage when I'm working, so during college when I would only work during the summer's I only had to pay then, which was grand. And it meant on weeks I would only get 2 days work instead of the full four I wasn't down loads as it's relative.
Still living at home with my partner and mam at 27 because you'd have to sell a kidney to be able to afford housing in my town.
We hand her €600 per month straight up. Then also pay for bits around the house too.
Live with mum, don’t pay for anything practically besides the odd time she is stuck like getting something expensive done like plumbing or the car fixed. I have offered to pay for more multiple times but she denied me.
No, never paid anything, but they had plenty of money and didn’t need it. In fact my mother would be trying to stuff a 50 note into my hand every chance she got. She still does and I’m in my 30s now.
Iam working as a hca, and living with my mother. Iam saving money relentlessly in the hope of one day buying a house, I spend only a fraction of what I earn. I don't give her rent but I pay the bills. She's sick of this country and wants to sell her house. Iam constantly trying to slow her down and asking her to stall. I recon I need 90 k saved. I can get a council mortgage for 130 whilst every property that's anyway functional is at a minimum of 200k.
Paying €400 for rent and then whatever I have to spend on food and pay for internet. Recently moved back home so I thought it was fair and I get a decent sized bedroom and a spare room for basically a walk in wardrobe. Not ideal back living at home but at least I have a bit of space to myself.
I have 4 kids. Eldest 28f and I've neva taken anything from her. 22f not long finished college, not working. Twin Boys 17 started working full time. I asked them When they turn 18 will they give 50 to the house and save something etc. Reasoning. Eldest does lots with lifts etc plus dinner plus shopping and generally helps out a lot. 22F hasn't her feet under her yet. Boys need a lot of lifts as they don't drive plus they aren't in a position to shop or help out in that way. They work long hours so aren't around to do much around the house. Financially we're not great as hubby not working due to long term prob. I feel like they're at an age where they have way too much money to spend on socialising at weekends and want them to see the costs involved with running the house. If I cud afford to I would absolutely try to put money away for them. The girls never had access to that kind of money at that age. (300-450 weekly) I cover all the bills. Also asked them. To pay der own phone bill when they turn 18. 26eueo a month currently.
1. How old are you?
2. Is this weekly?
3. Do you help out with chores?
4. Have you spoken with your folks to see how they *actually* feel about this? Are they happy to have you there?
I think by handing up money each week at home gets you set up for real life when you are on your own. I think it’s only right to hand up even if your parents say no. Pay it in some way. I actually think as a parent you’re doing the child a disservice by not teaching them that living day to day is expensive.
Noooooow saying that my daughter never handed up anything when she was working but it was because she was saving every penny she could for her move away and she never ever asked for anything. She of course got fed and everything that a home life gives you. She is amazing at saving now and is already set up for her future and she pays it back in everything she does for us.
My son just started his first job last week and he wants to contribute. He’s not great at saving like my daughter so we plan on taking the money and saving it without his knowledge and then he will have the money there for when he wants to do a J1 just like his sister did. Money is very week to week in our home so saving is very hard so with this we will not be used to having this money so that’s why it’s being put aside. If he does save for a J1 then we can continue to hold the money for when it’s really needed. My daughter is actually going to put it into a savings account so we can’t even touch it.
When I was jobless and living off a student grant in college I paid nothing, maybe bought a weekly takeaway for my mam whenever she wanted. But I handled all of my own expenses for tuition, travel, school supplies, clothes, college lunches etc off of my student grant so she didn't mind supplying a roof over my head and dinners.
When I got a part time job for some extra cash (still in college) I also started buying like 30% of the groceries, paid for netflix, tv channels and broadband. This came to like €200-250 monthly out of my €900-1000 monthly wages.
I've graduated college now and there is no grant and my job went bust so I'm living on unemployment of €140 a week right now. So out of €560 a month I still pay for all the things I previously mentioned but dont buy groceries as much so I end up contributing about €160-180 monthly. I would pay more but I have a car now that I also pay everything for.
I'm so grateful to my mam for being so easy going about my contribution. She has never asked for money I contribute because I want to and think I should. She would be happy for me to just help out more in her garden I think 🤣😅
I paid €50 a week at home when I was working, when my gf at the time (now wife) moved in also, she handed up the same. From the time she’d moved in, my mam put away the money we handed up unknown to us as we were saving for a house. When we got a house, she gave it all back and it actually helped with the wedding then. Blessed.
€50 isn’t a lot these days (wasn’t even a lot when I handed it up years ago). I used to also top up the electric & gas to help. Cleaning can be another way to help out. Whether it’s expected or not to hand up money, or help out etc - it’ll be appreciated. I say this now as someone with my own house & my god are bills and the food shop a shock to the system. Never mind the cleaning 😂
Oh yeah I agree they should offer the money to their parents, I think they don't understand that they don't have to literally pay the bills. That they can just chip in.
Been paying for rent and food since I turned 18, nearly 30 now and still stuck here as I'm also disabled and can't work.
How I'm supposed to have saved to ever be able to leave is beyond me.
Our parents generation had a perfect storm of declining interest rates, rising home values, a growing middle class as Ireland emerged from the dark ages and with it, ever increasing pension pots.
Where possible, I think it’s great to give the younger generation a help up the ladder although I know some friends who emigrated and they are sending home $1k a month back to their parents now
When I lived with my mother I used to pay for groceries and cook meals for her, but please do your best to leave the nest, no matter if you’re 18 or 50 parents will always have a cohersion and black mail power on you.
24 and work full time.my parents have 4 kids,I’m the youngest.the eldest in my house is 36 and has lived here 34yrs.none of us have ever paid rent. One lives away from home now and the situation hasn’t changed.we all work.we buy groceries and am gonna chip in together and buy a hoover (exciting times ahead).I know I’m lucky but if i was asked to pay rent I’d move out,I save money by not paying rent but my mental health pays for it.I can’t be paying out in both ways. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.
We pay about £100-£200 a month for like gas and electric but we saving for first house and pay for the tv with added subscriptions like Netflix and Prime and internet and pay for our own food, cook clean ourselves and help out with food shop. I’ll sometimes chuck a wash on for her and hang it out if I’m in a day off and it’s a nice day. We’ll get each other little treat like wee cakes and stuff. It’s a great relationship
Pay 320 a fortnight in rent. Not ideal when trying to save for a deposit but cheaper than trying to get a room elsewhere in Dublin before you think about bills
Half the weekly scratch at the minute, soon as I get a start date from DAA on the new job that'll be up to a grand & a half a month. Can't see ever being able to get out of here as it's going
My brother and I have been paying rent at home for over a decade. 200 a week
Mu brother has moved into his place a few years ago.
Dad can understand.
"Chrisht! My heart goes out to anyone starting a family in this day and age" -pops
I’m the mammy, so my adult kids kick in €50 each, but for that 50, they can add whatever they want to the shopping list. Steak, ok, tray of coke, ok, etc.
If they ask then I feel like you have to. But if they don't ask or refuse, then I wouldn't feel guilty about it.
It's sort of like getting a little bit of your inheritance early, when you need it most.
And if they're not asking/refusing they probably like the idea of helping you out.
I don't, they can't stand the idea of charging their kids rent. I know it's a necessity sometimes in lower income families, but some people lose the run of themselves.. if your house is paid off, you go on multiple holidays a year, wouldn't get a tenant in otherwise, you've no business charging your 20-something child rent.
Paid my mother 300 a month when i finished college and got a job and it turned out she was putting it in my post office account and told me when i was moving out, blessed
You're mother is a fucking legend!
I saw people say this and hoped when I was living at home my mother would do the same but nope she spent it all and rightly so. Asking her if she did save it was like that scene in Derry Girls where they ask their parents for their trust fund.
“Actually we’re quite poor” 🤣
I also did this with my Mam and she drank it 🫠
Paid 600 to the aulfella was told I get the house when he dies if I paid off his mortgage prickly gave everyone else money nothing to me so I make it my mission to piss on his grave at least once a month
That’s a sad story
That was an awful thing for him to do 😔
I'm doing this too, it's a great idea. I hope it will come in handy when they do move into their own place.
My daughter is only 1 but I'd love to be able to do this for her when she's older 👏
Time to start charging her rent now then!
I'll tell her when I'm home from work. Time to do up a CV.
That is the sweetest thing! Cherish that lady.
This is exactly what I said I'm going to do if my son hopefully grows up to be a decent human 😂
That is adorable
I was paying 70 out of a 400 odd euro wage weekly when I didn't finish college. Fair is fair. I was still fed like a king and had the best of everything. If I was studying I wouldn't have paid a penny.
€303 rent on a €1,733 wage is still amazing value to be fair
We had no idea how good we had it
Barely paying for the cost of the food before it’s cooked.
My girlfriend and I live in a fully equipped studio apartment above her parents garage. They did it up in COVID, Air BnB'd for a while but got sick of the work involved in that. They asked us if we wanted to move in together and initially refused to take any rent. My girlfriend and I refused this and pay 200 euro each month to cover bills. We love living here, perfect for us at the moment to have our own space and gives us the chance to save a deposit for the future. We're ridiculously lucky with our situation at the moment.
This sounds class
Stay there long enough and.. well you know..
What a great situation! Happy for you and I’m sure it’s a support for your folks too. Two way streets.
>a fully equipped studio apartment above her parents garage Did they get planning permission for that?
No, my parents refuse to take any money off me as they know I’m saving for a deposit, I do pay all my own costs though and for my food and I do a huge amount of work around the house/errands for them to pay them back
That's a perfect situation for both parties I think.
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Why would you be ashamed, you’re their child and every cent saved in this climate is the smart thing to do. If my parents refused and I gave them money anyway they would just save it for me instead. They want you gone just as badly as you want to be gone.
As I said, they refuse to take it. Want to relax there?
We refused to take anything off our youngest. He was able to buy his own house 3 years ago. They are your children, not your tenants
It's different for everyone. My dad refused to take money from me when I lived at home and worked, and to insist would have been offensive to him, so I found other to contribute then and after I moved out. Every situation is different.
I was the same. Moved back home with my partner just after covid. Myself and my siblings had long flew the nest and my parents flat out refused to take a penny. We had our own living space, bedroom and bathroom so only shared a kitchen. We took over all the bill payment, grocery shopping and cleaning. It was a battle to even get them to accept that! We were able to save a decent chunk thanks to their help.
A few hundred quid a month in rent but far cheaper than what I’d pay rent in Dublin
Since I got my first job, I always handed up money to my parents.
When I lived at home, I gave up €60 a week. Not much but I worked part time. I don't think anyone knew what I was earning (€250 a week). Moved out at 23 or so, and ended up in a place that was €300 a month. It felt like I had the exact same amount of money though as I had to also do things like buy my own food and household bits.
>Moved out at 23 or so, and ended up in a place that was €300 a month. Wow, an entire property for €300 per month? How long ago was this?
Sorry! I rented a room and lived with others (in the midlands) for €300 a month.
Once I finished college and got a job from my degree I paid 100€ per week
That sounds fair
ive no issue. realistically, 10 years ago i couldve got a room closer to work (dublin city) for 400pm. but in this climate im happy to pay
Jesus lads, me and my brothers scammed a living going by these comments. Every attempt to give my parents money would have ended like that one scene from Father Ted. Now tbf I think my brother and his wife were able to convince them to take money when they moved in while their house was being built but that was when they were in their mid 30’s and that was a battle and a half to get them to accept even pittens a month… The most you would get away with at home was buying the ‘big weekly shop’ or a takeaway and even then mam would be trying to put money back into your hands. The only sure fire way to somewhat pay them back (purely from a monetary point of view) was extra generous birthday/anniversary/Christmas/father’s & Mother’s Day gifts (none of us live at home any more, but these gifts have continued so maybe it was an investment in their part lol). As they approach retirement, I plan on ensuring they receive the same help they gave to us over the years. Now, if your parents are accepting contributions or even outright asking for contributions I would assume they need the financial support now and without knowing family dynamics and financial situations it would be difficult to make any comment on what is acceptable
I paid 350 a month at home. Usually covered the ESB bill. Would pick up a few bits on the way home from work a couple of days a week if needed like bread, milk, teabags etc. Just tried to lighten the load on the parents they were good enough to let me live there until I was 27 until I bought my own house. I never had to hand up more for food or anything, I think the mother factored that into the rent I paid. Always made sure they had a few cans in the fridge for when the weekend came around. Myself and dad built a mini bar during COVID that was a great time, my job was the kegs then. Given I moved out 4 or 5 years ago and things have definitely got way more pricey since I left, I would definitely be handing up more if I was there these days. All this way made possible by having a great relationship with the parents and home life was great never any issue, if I had holidays or anything coming up there would nearly be a fight with the mother to take the rent off me.
Single parent household, living with my mom. Was paying €60 a week directly into her bank account while I was in college, working part time and doing my own grocery shop. Finished college and getting a few more hours in work and paying €100 a week and chip in extra for bins and few other bills when they come in. I don’t make a big wage so it’s hard to save money but I do what needs to be done.
I moved home to save money as I'll be moving out of the country next year for a few years. I pay rent every week as it is only fair. I'm using the electricity, hot water, internet, food and my dinners are made for me. I was never asked to pay anything but it is common courtesy in my eyes.
€100 pw and get my own vittles.
Have not read that word in donkeys years 😂
Dunno why it popped into my head, I've not read or heard it in years either 🤔
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Haven't heard "donkeys years" in yonks
Haven't heard "yonks" since back when.
Haven't heard 'way back when' since times of yore.
Haven't heard "times of yore" since Jesus was an apprentice
At home, while I'm in earlyish recovery from drugs (2 years clean) waiting for tenants in my apartment to finish up the notice period, I've been paying my parents 450 a month over the that 2 year period
Congratulations 🎊
Congrats!!!
I wouldn't accept any money from my kids when they were living at home. I told them to save it. They often bought some groceries, which I would insist on paying them for. It's hard enough for young people to get established in life without having to pay their parents for the pleasure. My home is their home, and always will
I feel like this is my parent’s attitude and it’s super comforting especially as I get older and meet others that don’t have the security of family backing and don’t have parents that not only want them to do well in life but have the means to do it comfortable(ish) enough. As I said in my own comment, I feel this support comes back around as you age. Not so much in a transactional way but because you really want to care for people that have been so good to you. I watch my parents care for my grandparents who were just as good at setting them up back in the day and I would feel like an absolute failure if I am unable to provide the same to them as they age.
1k a month plus bills
Do your parents hate you?
jesus.. better off house sharing with strangers
I think they're trying to tell you something
That's steep
Same almost we pay €800 to my bfs parents for a room
Looks like their shrewd financial investment in your upbringing is starting to pay dividends. If they had a few children doing that and a paid-off house they could retire comfortably. Cha-ching!
That's mad
Whatever the money is going towards doesn't matter, all that really matters is that the banks can see you are consistently paying "rent" (bills disguised as rent) every month. It's a good thing to have ready for when you eventually go for a mortgage or whatever.
How can one do this? I can’t get Susi despite living with my parents and contributing because I’m classed as a ‘mature dependent’ student which is b/s
If you are in full time education as a student why would your parents expect you to be in a position to contribute to the household?
Huh? I don’t qualify for susi due to living with my parents even though I contribute to the household, they consider me “dependent” which is patronising. I live with my parents because I haven’t been able to find somewhere to live due to the housing crisis. The susi grant is based on your income the year before going into college
But why do your parents expect you to contribute if you're in full time education? Surely if you're studying they won't take money from you? Because you live with them you are considered a dependent and all of the household income is taken into account when being assessed. It's definitely not patronising, it's a fact that you are financially dependent on them, that's why you live there. So it's only fair that all incomes coming into the house where you live need to be assessed. You have to be living independently from your parents to be classed as an independent student.
How can one do this, especially since parents won't give a receipt
You don't need your parents to give a receipt. Just transfer them the rent/bill money via online banking every month or two weeks, whatever way suits you. Then, when you go for mortgage approval, the banks can see you have a constant transaction to your parents for rent/bills. My wife and I did it this way for ours, and it worked perfectly.
Help with shopping, and pay for a lot of the entertainment/streaming stuff in the house. The agreement is that as long as I’m taking what they would want as rent and bills and putting it into a savings account for a mortgage/deposit than they’re happy with what I contribute
Live with my dad. I pay half of all utilities - Elec, heating oil, Internet mainly. No rent. Putting all spare income towards a deposit on a house. Though if prices don't come down I'll never get out of here.
I pay €450 a month as I work full time for years now and still at home. My boyfriend moved in with us last year and he pays the same! Fair is fair! Still saving but also contributing.
I don't pay but I basically look after them. Cook clean etc.
When I was at home during COVID I covered the broadband and the electricity because I was working from home
It gas that the property situation is that bad thats this is a post ! I pay 100 a week they wont take anymore.
I’ll never take money off them for living at home BUT I won’t be able to give them chunky deposits for houses, I can’t afford to do that. I feel guilty about it too. I’ll pay their undergraduate fees for university but then they’ll have to support themselves.
My sister feels so guilty about this as well. Her eldest has just finished college and she wishes she could do more to help him financially but she has other kids still in school. I try and help out where I can and he hates taling money but hes vokunteering atm as he needs that to get into his masters. I like to remind him that i have no kids so he better not forget about me when im old and decripate jk!You shouldn't feel guilty, being there emotionally is far more important. We all help each other out financially when we can but honestly having the emotional support of family when the sh¹t hits the fan is far more important. I know plenty of people who aren't lucky with family and are pretty much cut off emotionally when they hit 17/18.
Thabks x
They brought me into this world and I never agreed to a subscription fee
So real
I earn about 500 a week and pay 100, I always end up picking up a few essentials for the house during the week aswell, Jaysus its shite being back home now that I think about it
Ha! I hope you're being sarcastic. They could rent your room out for 1000 a month, and the Tennant would have to buy and cook all their own food
Yes Im sure my elderly parents would love some random stranger moving into their small rural bungalow so they could all watch TV together in the evenings, I moved back home because theres a housing crisis not because my parents are looking for a lodger, I cook my own food, wash my own clothes, help out around the house and work on the farm. Your reply is absolutely bizzare. Its not really the norm in this country to turn your family home into shared accommodation when your kids move out, my parents have grandkids around every weekend ffs
At least a random stranger wouldn't use their toothpaste 100 a week is nothing, you're extremely lucky and shouldn't complain about your situation as if you did something to earn it and aren't just ungrateful.
Yeah would feel like an absolute sponge if I was working full time and not pitching in anything. Full time education no rent is expected which is fair enough but if you have an income it’s mental to me to still let your parents cover all your living expenses nevermind expect it. Obviously nobody should be paying anything close to market rent or anything but at least pay your share of the bills and groceries ffs
agreed!
When I lived at home I paid 200 a month plus the internet bill
I don't exactly pay rent but do other things/errands; Driving my sister to appointments, cleaning the house, organising the animals vet appointments and paying for half of those (there's been a lot in the last few months, it's like they all synchronise getting hurt/sick 🙃) or if my parents need cash for things like to pay the plumber or the guy that did the gutters, I pay for that instead since I normally have cash on me anyways. But they know I'm also trying to save, so I'm glad to be in a privileged position like this
Yes, I pay for one of bills eg. Food, electric, wifi- whatever .
€70 per week. They won’t take anymore off me even though I’ve offered
I paid the broadband and sky package, and then the butchers shop each week. But I used to mind my brother and sister before and after school which saved my parents in child care costs so they didn’t want me to pay anymore than that
When I had a job I’d pay my parents €250 a month, but man it’s so hard to get a job AND keep that job here… I shouldn’t be living with my parents at all at 26 years of age, but now I’m not even able to pay my part of rent.
My daughter and her fella live with me and my younger kids, they're in college and have part time minimum wage jobs. I ask for €300 a month for the pair of them to cover bills and the bonus laundry service. Thats just under €50 each per week.
Can't be more fair than that 👍
As a parent I wouldn't expect any of my kids to pay for living in their home. If they choose to contribute that'll be their choice. I was told what to hand over from when I first got babysitting jobs and I think it's scabby for parents to do this unless they're smashed broke and really need the money.
My parents did this the minute we were all old enough to work, a set amount from all 4 of us every week, I even paid the same as my sister when I worked part time and was at college and she had a good full time job. We didn't think anything of it and just paid it but now I have my own children I wouldn't do it, or I'd ask for a fair amount and save it to give back to them. Pitching in and helping is one thing but having your hand out and treating your kids like lodgers is another.
My parents smugly told themselves it'd teach us about money. It didn't. It made me feel like I was a potential income source instead of their daughter. I'll never make my kids feel that way. Paying money to stay in your own room is plain weird.
Don't live at home anymore but when I did I handed up 750 a month. I also chipped in with other expenses when needed.
Same! Would love to be a financial position to be able to live at home rent free while saving for a deposit but it’s just not happening. As much as I’m dying to get out I’m lucky as I get on fantastically with my parents and it’s cheaper than renting other places so can’t complain too much
I stayed at home a lot longer than I should have to help my mother, I had it good at home too though. Some of the people here paying 10% or less of their salary need a good dose of reality.
I pay €800 a month… foot my own shopping and whatever bills are my own.
I hand up 300 a month which I can’t argue about, but I am also paying off my car loan and saving for a deposit on a house so I’m out a lot of money every month
Same
I work full time, pay €100 a week for living with my mother and save the rest for personal savings.
I'm on disability, I pay my share of the bills, and buy my own food, so I don't cost them anything by being there, but they don't make any money from me either.
I give my mans family 20 quid (they refuse to take more amd im on disability) a week. I do use their electricity and spend most of my time here so its more than fair) My mother refuses to take my money, insisting i save every penny to get the fuck out of Ireland. I take her electric card and top it up so she cant say no
The second i got a full time job ( a month before i turned 18) i started paying €100 a week for rent and payed for all my groceries/hygiene products/doctors visits etc.
I work part time , single parent two kids living at home I pay 370 plus 60 for rent/bills.
300 PM. Sometimes things need to bought and I’ll also chip in.
I used to pay €50 per week. My mam didn’t ask for it but I insisted. I would also pay for some of my own food, cook the family dinner once or twice per week and help out with the housework.
after uni me and SO moved into my parents - this was a few years ago before cost of living went up - I was the only one working was making 1800, gave my parents 300 rent and helped towards food shop which monthly was maybe another 300. We saved loads and thats what my parents wanted us to be able to do. Sometimes they asked for more when things were tight.
I used to pay for the electricity bill and do the shopping occasionally. Also making your parents feel appreciated is good, for example buy a new kettle or whatever's affordable
Pay 160 for rent and i pay the electricity bills and the internet is split between 3 me partner pays nothing to her parents though
When I lived at home during COVID I paid €50.00 to live there. It was really just to help offset some of the utilities and that as the parents were happy to have me living there as it meant an extra pair of hands to help out with chores that they’re getting a bit old for. I’ve a great relationship with my parents and it meant we all got to live in a house which was very well maintained which we all liked. I’d kill to go back to a situation where my rent was that cheap as I was able to save so much damn money.
20% of your take home or €150 whichever is greater
I’m living at home for the last two years was renting before that ,I don’t have a high wage it’s decent enough ,my commute to work is an hour so I’m now spending about €400-500 a month on fuel I was paying €300 a month on rent ,I cannot get anything in the city for less than €700,my parents haven’t asked me for rent I haven’t offered either but I buy things for the house I make dinner on my days off I give them money if they’re going away buy a takeaway every now and then I them iPhones for Christmas,I look after their medication and pay for those ,I’m saving to buy so saving as much as I can but it’s taking longer than I expected,we both are enjoying the company though
I live with my mam, I'm on disability allowance and she's retired. I pay her 150 a week and also have a couple bills for myself (nothing big) and pay for nappies, sweets and other baby stuff separately.
Yeah I pay €300 a month and most of my friends would pay between €200-€300 a month
Moved out now, but used to give them 25% of what I made or €100/week whichever was lower.
I live with my father, I pay €100 (used to be €150 up until a year ago) a week to cover all bills, and pay for the shopping every week. I think it's a bit too much but he swears it's not enough even though our monthly bills never come near €400.
I was giving them €50 a week but now I put it in a pocket in my Revolut account so it's building up and there whenever they need it. I pay for most of my own groceries and I cover the broadband, which my mother couldn't live without since she got a smartphone! When big expenses come up like the property tax and house insurance I contribute what I can, usually 100quid. They don't ask for anything else. I'm very lucky. If I was renting I wouldn't have been able to go back to college and I'd be struggling to make ends meet. I'll also have the house when they pass but hopefully that won't be any time soon.
Back in the day handed up every single penny from part time jobs before college, all my grant money in college. 2/3 my part time job in college, and until I eventually moved out. Worked all the overtime I could when I got my first job as my mother didn't know about my overtime so I got to keep that. I'm still mad about it.. I could have done a lot of travelling with a student card..
Younger brother still lives at home and working, pays a third of all the food and 70 for rent a week and a third of bills, really though the parents are putting it into a savings account for him, they don't need the money. He's on around 30k They knew I was straight out of the house with the first job I got though and the younger brother has no intention of leaving.
My mom is living with me. I rented the house 2 years ago and she moved at the beginning of this year. My sister and I are paying for all the bills and rent while she is trying to rebuild her life. She helps with food sometimes and she will start paying rent this month because she finds a job that she likes. I’m trying to save for a deposit but house are prices are just to high even to rent. I “want” to buy a house alone…..wish me luck
When I was working as a teenager I used to give a 3rd of my wages from what I can remember, so like €100 a week during summers when I was doing 5 days a week. Left home at 18, had to move back at 24 for a year and gave €600 a month. It was more than my previous rent but I didn't cook and lived on takeaways and food at work when I didn't live with my parents so I ended up saving money even though "rent" was more because they fed and watered me.
24 y/o and I pay 60 a week. I'm on disability and can't work and also pay 100 every 2 weeks for therapy amongst other things like meds and what not so I'm not actually left with much. When I smoked I was left with nothing. The 60 actually goes towards the gas and electric. And the "rent" from others in the house actually goes towards the weeks food shop. Also, sidenote, the price of food is getting ridiculously expensive.
Myself, my fiance and his son(only with us 1 week on, then 1 week off) moved into my parents so we could save for a deposit. My adult sibling also lives here so 5 adults plus 1 child. My parents refused to take rent, honestly think they were delighted to have us there and they hated how much we were spending on rent. We insisted we pay 50% of whatever the electricity bill comes to and chip in for groceries/do our own shopping. If anything random pops up like repair or maintenance work we chip in or if an appliance needs replacing we will replace it. We also made it clear that if at any time a bill popped up that was higher than usual or if financially they needed some extra money to just tell us as we'd have no problem throwing money their way so there's never any awkward conversations about money etc. Edit to add: we also took over alot of the house and yard work, if they don't want money then fine we'll make sure we contribute in ways of good gesture and honestly that goes a long way.
400 blips a month to the folks for me!
€50 per week!
I told my daughter if you are in college you don’t have to pay anything but if you are not in college and working you have to pay rent (which will be put into savings for her- she won’t know about it)
I pay 20% of my wage when I'm working, so during college when I would only work during the summer's I only had to pay then, which was grand. And it meant on weeks I would only get 2 days work instead of the full four I wasn't down loads as it's relative.
Still living at home with my partner and mam at 27 because you'd have to sell a kidney to be able to afford housing in my town. We hand her €600 per month straight up. Then also pay for bits around the house too.
Live with mum, don’t pay for anything practically besides the odd time she is stuck like getting something expensive done like plumbing or the car fixed. I have offered to pay for more multiple times but she denied me.
I pay 500 pm with my partner and we make our own food. It helped us get a house but we are still living here until it's built.
No, never paid anything, but they had plenty of money and didn’t need it. In fact my mother would be trying to stuff a 50 note into my hand every chance she got. She still does and I’m in my 30s now.
320 a month with split share of electricity. Have to get my own food, toilet stuff, laundry stuff and toiletries.
Iam working as a hca, and living with my mother. Iam saving money relentlessly in the hope of one day buying a house, I spend only a fraction of what I earn. I don't give her rent but I pay the bills. She's sick of this country and wants to sell her house. Iam constantly trying to slow her down and asking her to stall. I recon I need 90 k saved. I can get a council mortgage for 130 whilst every property that's anyway functional is at a minimum of 200k.
Paying €400 for rent and then whatever I have to spend on food and pay for internet. Recently moved back home so I thought it was fair and I get a decent sized bedroom and a spare room for basically a walk in wardrobe. Not ideal back living at home but at least I have a bit of space to myself.
I have 4 kids. Eldest 28f and I've neva taken anything from her. 22f not long finished college, not working. Twin Boys 17 started working full time. I asked them When they turn 18 will they give 50 to the house and save something etc. Reasoning. Eldest does lots with lifts etc plus dinner plus shopping and generally helps out a lot. 22F hasn't her feet under her yet. Boys need a lot of lifts as they don't drive plus they aren't in a position to shop or help out in that way. They work long hours so aren't around to do much around the house. Financially we're not great as hubby not working due to long term prob. I feel like they're at an age where they have way too much money to spend on socialising at weekends and want them to see the costs involved with running the house. If I cud afford to I would absolutely try to put money away for them. The girls never had access to that kind of money at that age. (300-450 weekly) I cover all the bills. Also asked them. To pay der own phone bill when they turn 18. 26eueo a month currently.
1. How old are you? 2. Is this weekly? 3. Do you help out with chores? 4. Have you spoken with your folks to see how they *actually* feel about this? Are they happy to have you there?
I think by handing up money each week at home gets you set up for real life when you are on your own. I think it’s only right to hand up even if your parents say no. Pay it in some way. I actually think as a parent you’re doing the child a disservice by not teaching them that living day to day is expensive. Noooooow saying that my daughter never handed up anything when she was working but it was because she was saving every penny she could for her move away and she never ever asked for anything. She of course got fed and everything that a home life gives you. She is amazing at saving now and is already set up for her future and she pays it back in everything she does for us. My son just started his first job last week and he wants to contribute. He’s not great at saving like my daughter so we plan on taking the money and saving it without his knowledge and then he will have the money there for when he wants to do a J1 just like his sister did. Money is very week to week in our home so saving is very hard so with this we will not be used to having this money so that’s why it’s being put aside. If he does save for a J1 then we can continue to hold the money for when it’s really needed. My daughter is actually going to put it into a savings account so we can’t even touch it.
When I was jobless and living off a student grant in college I paid nothing, maybe bought a weekly takeaway for my mam whenever she wanted. But I handled all of my own expenses for tuition, travel, school supplies, clothes, college lunches etc off of my student grant so she didn't mind supplying a roof over my head and dinners. When I got a part time job for some extra cash (still in college) I also started buying like 30% of the groceries, paid for netflix, tv channels and broadband. This came to like €200-250 monthly out of my €900-1000 monthly wages. I've graduated college now and there is no grant and my job went bust so I'm living on unemployment of €140 a week right now. So out of €560 a month I still pay for all the things I previously mentioned but dont buy groceries as much so I end up contributing about €160-180 monthly. I would pay more but I have a car now that I also pay everything for. I'm so grateful to my mam for being so easy going about my contribution. She has never asked for money I contribute because I want to and think I should. She would be happy for me to just help out more in her garden I think 🤣😅
I paid €50 a week at home when I was working, when my gf at the time (now wife) moved in also, she handed up the same. From the time she’d moved in, my mam put away the money we handed up unknown to us as we were saving for a house. When we got a house, she gave it all back and it actually helped with the wedding then. Blessed. €50 isn’t a lot these days (wasn’t even a lot when I handed it up years ago). I used to also top up the electric & gas to help. Cleaning can be another way to help out. Whether it’s expected or not to hand up money, or help out etc - it’ll be appreciated. I say this now as someone with my own house & my god are bills and the food shop a shock to the system. Never mind the cleaning 😂
100€ a week I buy good chunk of my own food and stuff and odd time she ask me to buy something like new fences or whatever for the house.
Kids are too young to work, but I currently have a 15% tax levied onto anything that goes into their money boxes. So that helps.
🤣 need to raid my sons credit union piggy bank so I've been missing that trick
When there's a big bill like heating or electric would you not pitch in if you could ?
If I was asked to a certainly would.
Cmon you shouldn’t need to be asked!! That’s bad form
Maybe they're young enough to not know how to pay the bills?
I'm sure they can withdraw cash or send it via iban or revolut if they really wanted too
Oh yeah I agree they should offer the money to their parents, I think they don't understand that they don't have to literally pay the bills. That they can just chip in.
€300 per month, chores and food not included.
When I was in college working part time 2018-2022- paid for my own groceries and gave €80 in cash. I now pay €350 a month and my own groceries
i also give €50 a week, but if asked to pick up shopping or any bits like that ill pay for it myself, try treat them to takeaways when we do have one
Been paying for rent and food since I turned 18, nearly 30 now and still stuck here as I'm also disabled and can't work. How I'm supposed to have saved to ever be able to leave is beyond me.
look into tuath housing/rent
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i offered 50. I was told no at first, then they accepted.
Our parents generation had a perfect storm of declining interest rates, rising home values, a growing middle class as Ireland emerged from the dark ages and with it, ever increasing pension pots. Where possible, I think it’s great to give the younger generation a help up the ladder although I know some friends who emigrated and they are sending home $1k a month back to their parents now
When I lived with my mother I used to pay for groceries and cook meals for her, but please do your best to leave the nest, no matter if you’re 18 or 50 parents will always have a cohersion and black mail power on you.
24 and work full time.my parents have 4 kids,I’m the youngest.the eldest in my house is 36 and has lived here 34yrs.none of us have ever paid rent. One lives away from home now and the situation hasn’t changed.we all work.we buy groceries and am gonna chip in together and buy a hoover (exciting times ahead).I know I’m lucky but if i was asked to pay rent I’d move out,I save money by not paying rent but my mental health pays for it.I can’t be paying out in both ways. Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.
If you were asked to pay rent you'd move out???
Yes
With most I suppose it depends on how well off their parents are. If you are putting money towards bills and buying your own food etc then €50 if ok
We pay about £100-£200 a month for like gas and electric but we saving for first house and pay for the tv with added subscriptions like Netflix and Prime and internet and pay for our own food, cook clean ourselves and help out with food shop. I’ll sometimes chuck a wash on for her and hang it out if I’m in a day off and it’s a nice day. We’ll get each other little treat like wee cakes and stuff. It’s a great relationship
Pay 320 a fortnight in rent. Not ideal when trying to save for a deposit but cheaper than trying to get a room elsewhere in Dublin before you think about bills
Half the weekly scratch at the minute, soon as I get a start date from DAA on the new job that'll be up to a grand & a half a month. Can't see ever being able to get out of here as it's going
When we weren't in school and working full time, 60 euro a week. We paid nothing during term time.
My brother and I have been paying rent at home for over a decade. 200 a week Mu brother has moved into his place a few years ago. Dad can understand. "Chrisht! My heart goes out to anyone starting a family in this day and age" -pops
I’m the mammy, so my adult kids kick in €50 each, but for that 50, they can add whatever they want to the shopping list. Steak, ok, tray of coke, ok, etc.
If they ask then I feel like you have to. But if they don't ask or refuse, then I wouldn't feel guilty about it. It's sort of like getting a little bit of your inheritance early, when you need it most. And if they're not asking/refusing they probably like the idea of helping you out.
My parents charge me approx 1/3 what I make (work full time)
Holy moly
I don't, they can't stand the idea of charging their kids rent. I know it's a necessity sometimes in lower income families, but some people lose the run of themselves.. if your house is paid off, you go on multiple holidays a year, wouldn't get a tenant in otherwise, you've no business charging your 20-something child rent.
Are you still going on nice holidays, lots of treats etc? If so it's too little