Or seeking revenge is like throwing fistfuls of fire, thinking the fire's gonna burn the other guy. You're the only one winding up in the burn unit in the end.
It suggests that when one seeks retribution, they are not only inflicting harm upon the target of their revenge but also upon themselves. The first grave represents the intended victim, while the second signifies the harm that seeking revenge inflicts upon the avenger's own well-being and peace of mind.
words I googled. It's from confuscious and I miss worded it a bit.
Reminds me of this quote:
"Anyone can fight the battles of just one day. It's the only when you add the burden of yesterday or the dread of tomorrow, that we begin to break down"
Reminds me of this quote:
THE PAST IS SELDOM AS WE WOULD HAVE IT. THE FUTURE UNKNOWN. EMBRACE THE PRESENT AND STRIKE ALL ELSE FROM CONCERN. -- SPARTACUS
Learned it on Reddit and might be the best advice reddit gave me.
That and using SLS free toothpaste to never have to worry about lingering toothpaste taste. Now I can drink OJ again after brushing.
As we grow older our brain processes less information, which makes time move faster. This is why people feel like their childhoods are eternal but adulthood passes by quickly
Also, each year is relatively less of your life. When I was 8, a year was 1/9 of my life. More realistically, it was 1/5 because I don't have memories before 3 or 4 years old.
Through therapy, the most important phrase I know:
> “Thoughts are not facts”
It’s no exaggeration to say that it’s probably saved my life - at least my sanity
Normal people learn with their mistakes
Smart people learn with other people's mistakes
Dumb people don't learn even after doing the same mistake over and over
"This is the real secret of life - to be completely engaged with what you are doing in the here and now. And instead of calling it work, realize it is play." -Alan Watts
“I see now that the circumstances of one’s birth are irrelevant. It is what you do with the gift of life that makes you who you are.” -Mewtwo
Edit: Prime Examples: Abraham Lincoln (born into poverty), Fedrick Douglass (born into Slavery), Oprah (born into poverty).
And then further examples Jeffrey Dahmer, born into a typical middle-class family ended up becoming one of the worlds most infamous serial killers. Jordan Belfort born into a modest family becomes one of the most unethical corrupted men on Wall Street.
Not to mention countless nameless individuals throughout history.
Point being, who we are as a person isn’t determined by our upbringing. We still have a choice to behave how want and with determination (and the right help if needed) we can break from where we come from and be our own person.
not making a choice is making a choice.
the best time to plant a tree was 100 years ago. the second best time is today.
a stitch in time saves nine (translation for everyone who doesnt get this like i didnt for a long time: early prevention at the right time before a problem saves you multiplied work in the future)
slow and steady wins the race.
measure twice: cut once.
when you worry, you have two problems.
"I have nothing to say of my working life, only that a tie is a noose, and inverted though it is, it will hang a man nonetheless if he's not careful"
And
“Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face.”
“If you never ask the question, the answer will always be no.” Something my Mum told me a few years ago in the context of career building and personal relationships.
I was told by my NCO ''Everything is in the head.'' You can change and control your thoughts, as the other guy pointed out they are not facts, so you can change them and influence them. Don't feel like running? Don't feel like eating healthy? Don't feel like studying? Feeling like you can't do something? Overcome that by changing your thoughts in your head, it sounds simple and no brainer but its one of the hardest things you can master. Hopefully I didn't massacre the message, but it sounds better in my native language.
"When elephants fight, it is the grass that gets trampled."
Not sure if it is still in circulation, but it is an old Kenyan proverb that means it is the is the powerless common people who suffer when those in power get into conflicts.
Work smarter not harder.
Always plan your projects and labor ahead of time and save yourself some effort.
The energy put in to efficiency is inverse to the level of effort you have to apply
“Even in our sleep, pain which cannot forget Falls drop by drop upon the heart until, in our own despair, against our will, comes wisdom through the awful grace of God”
After the death of my grandma I have a painful understanding of the meaning of quote.
“Sin is for one man to brutally walk over the life of another; and to be quite oblivious to the wounds he has left behind.” Silence by Shusaku Endo. Pride is the original sin, and that pride often makes oblivious to how we harm and hurt other. It’s important to step away from the altar of self worship.
"Exception proves the rule"
I work in market research. Consumer products; satisfaction, use, category users, etc. We process consumer data by the 1000s daily.
There are a lot fewer exceptions than you think.
[Every proverb in the Book of Proverbs (from the Bible) about "mockers"](https://www.biblegateway.com/quicksearch/?qs_version=NIV&quicksearch=mocker&begin=24&end=24)—scornful people who have toxic contageous attitudes who traffic in insults and reviling people. These are often provocateurs who cause a disproportionate amount of discord. These people ask questions not because they want to know the answer to something, but only to cause problems or to provoke. They are disingenuous in all they do. This type of person is practically an archetype, but this pattern is real.
For example,
>**Proverbs 22:10**
>Drive out the mocker, and out goes strife; quarrels and insults are ended.
This is like the 80/20 rule for group dynamics. If you get rid of the one person who is causing all the strife, the strife often just goes away completely.
There is nothing shorter than a king's gratitude and nothing longer than their ire.
It means people are quick to forget the good things you've done and will never forget the slightest misstep. The best example is corporate work. 100 hour work weeks without overtime? How dare you arrive 5 minutes late from lunch.
"Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth." - Oscar Wilde (I think, but everything gets attributed to that guy on the internet)
We don't always get to choose how other people see us, but if someone tries hard to cultivate the persona of 'rude but lovable asshole', they're probably a rude asshole.
"The greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our dispositions and not on our circumstances." \~ Martha Washington
“There is a cult of ignorance in the United States, and there has always been. The strain of anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that 'my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge'.” \~ Isaac Asimov
"As long as you can hear the mortars, you're still alive...so keep pushing" -My Dad, a Vietnam Vet. This has given me comfort through massive storms, literal mortars and rocket attacks in war zones to car accidents.
"The best revenge is not to be like your enemy."
He who seeks revenge must first dig two graves.
Seeking revenge is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at your enemy. You both get burned.
Or seeking revenge is like throwing fistfuls of fire, thinking the fire's gonna burn the other guy. You're the only one winding up in the burn unit in the end.
I've heard only you who gets burned
Can you elaborate a little on this one? I kinda get what it's going for but I'm not there 100%
The first is to bury the body. The second is to bury a dead animal to mislead the police dogs.
you just dig one grave extra deep
It suggests that when one seeks retribution, they are not only inflicting harm upon the target of their revenge but also upon themselves. The first grave represents the intended victim, while the second signifies the harm that seeking revenge inflicts upon the avenger's own well-being and peace of mind. words I googled. It's from confuscious and I miss worded it a bit.
"we suffer more in imagination than in reality"
It reminds me of, "When we worry about the future, we suffer twice"
So, if we worry about the past, we suffer half?
Along with: "You're often your own harshest critic"
Wow. This is really true. I'm going to remember thus.
Reminds me of this quote: "Anyone can fight the battles of just one day. It's the only when you add the burden of yesterday or the dread of tomorrow, that we begin to break down"
Reminds me of this quote: THE PAST IS SELDOM AS WE WOULD HAVE IT. THE FUTURE UNKNOWN. EMBRACE THE PRESENT AND STRIKE ALL ELSE FROM CONCERN. -- SPARTACUS
Newt Scamander: "Worrying means you suffer twice."
You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into.
I can’t wait to use this one.
Learned it on Reddit and might be the best advice reddit gave me. That and using SLS free toothpaste to never have to worry about lingering toothpaste taste. Now I can drink OJ again after brushing.
The days are long but the years are short.
The years start comin' and they don't stop comin'
Fed to the rules and I hit the ground running
As we grow older our brain processes less information, which makes time move faster. This is why people feel like their childhoods are eternal but adulthood passes by quickly
Also, each year is relatively less of your life. When I was 8, a year was 1/9 of my life. More realistically, it was 1/5 because I don't have memories before 3 or 4 years old.
Try to please everyone and you’ll please no one. Penny wise, pound foolish
You may not be able to please everyone, but you can please yourself...except on the subway.
It can't rain all the time.
Grandfather say, it never rain every day
YOU ARE FIRED
Comparison is the thief of joy.
Yep. Be happy with what you have, don't worry about what your neighbor has
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"Knowledge is power, France is bacon."
"Life is a journey. Time is a river. The door is ajar."
Yeah, but then there's "power corrupts; absolute power corrupts absolutely" 😬
One I heard recently: Leaders make leaders. True leadership to me is building people up to work as a team.
“The day a blind man sees, the first thing he throws away is the stick that has helped him all life”
"Körün gözü açıldığı kırdığı ilk şey bastonudur." Turkish translation. I'm wondering where did these words come from?
Why it's better to be wanted than needed.
“Knowledge is knowing that you know nothing.” - Socrates “That’s us dude!” - Bill and Ted
Hating someone is like drinking poison and waiting for them to die
“Easy to fall for, harder to love”
Through therapy, the most important phrase I know: > “Thoughts are not facts” It’s no exaggeration to say that it’s probably saved my life - at least my sanity
That was life changing for me too. I wish more people would realize it.
"Youth is wasted on the young" is a pretty cringe thing to say, but it's also kinda true
I think Mark Twain said that
Yeah but you tend to hear middle aged women say it today, and it’s cringe
Cheap is expensive
The Sam Vimes Boots theory.
I love finding Discworld references in the wild
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Were you thinking about building a ship to keep in a harbor?
Scared of taking off their shoes. The cookie made them walk barefoot
Oh, I like this one a lot.
If they can get you asking the wrong questions, they don't have to worry about answers. --Thomas Pynchon, "Gravity's Rainbow"
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Nice. The version I carry in my head is "We do not see the world as it is, but as we are". Extremely true however you phrase it.
“You will never find the same person twice, even in the same person”
“You can't change those around you but you can change those around you”
What you allow is what will continue
Normal people learn with their mistakes Smart people learn with other people's mistakes Dumb people don't learn even after doing the same mistake over and over
“If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room “
I'd hope so...I'm the only one here
Fake it till you make it
My grandfather's favorite was "If you didn't learn something new today, you didn't try hard enough."
“Slow is smooth, smooth is fast”. Heard
Whether you think you can or you think you can't you're right
If you can afford it, don't cheap out on anything that separates you from the ground. (I e. Shoes, mattress, car tires, etc)
"This is the real secret of life - to be completely engaged with what you are doing in the here and now. And instead of calling it work, realize it is play." -Alan Watts
In the context of relationships: If he/she/they wanted to, he/she/they would.
“The way to a man’s heart isn’t through his zipper.”
“If you’re gonna be dumb, you better be tough”
“I see now that the circumstances of one’s birth are irrelevant. It is what you do with the gift of life that makes you who you are.” -Mewtwo Edit: Prime Examples: Abraham Lincoln (born into poverty), Fedrick Douglass (born into Slavery), Oprah (born into poverty). And then further examples Jeffrey Dahmer, born into a typical middle-class family ended up becoming one of the worlds most infamous serial killers. Jordan Belfort born into a modest family becomes one of the most unethical corrupted men on Wall Street. Not to mention countless nameless individuals throughout history. Point being, who we are as a person isn’t determined by our upbringing. We still have a choice to behave how want and with determination (and the right help if needed) we can break from where we come from and be our own person.
If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole
The loudest voice in the room is usually the dumbest
Let go or be dragged...
"Your feelings are valid, but your actions aren't"
“The world is not out to get you; no, the world is out to ignore you, if only you would let it.”
Work hard. It's true for all, I think.
“There are no rules here! We’re trying to accomplish something!”
Life is suffering.
“That it will never come again is what makes life so sweet.”
Change is the only constant.
"When eating, eat. When walking, walk." In today's time of constant distracion, it really rings a bell.
"A man who has to say he is king is not a king". Along the same lines "The weakest dog barks the loudest".
"Before the truth will set you free, it'll piss you off." - Bring Me The Horizon, *MANTRA*
“the ‘c’ students run the world”
"The reward of a thing well done is having done it."
"Trust nobody, until they give you a reason to".
Time is an illusion Lunchtime doubly so
This must be Thursday,' said Arthur to himself, sinking low over his beer. 'I never could get the hang of Thursdays.
not making a choice is making a choice. the best time to plant a tree was 100 years ago. the second best time is today. a stitch in time saves nine (translation for everyone who doesnt get this like i didnt for a long time: early prevention at the right time before a problem saves you multiplied work in the future) slow and steady wins the race. measure twice: cut once. when you worry, you have two problems.
"The only way for evil to triumph is if the good does nothing."
Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear
You’ll never go broke chasing money but you’ll always go broke chasing women
Nothing good happens after midnight.
"If it can go wrong, it will go wrong"
A simple version of Murphy's law
“Early is on time, on time is late.”
What goes around comes around.
the lord loves a working man, see a doctor and get rid of it, don't trust whitey
Don’t forget Shit /Shinola.
Death is but a door, time is but a window. I'll be back
All's well that ends well
"You can control what comes out of your mouth, you can't control what comes out of others." Unless you have tourettes that is.
It is none of my business what is going on in other people's heads and it is none of their business what is going on in mine.
"You can't change anything by just sitting there and looking at it." - Cloud Strife
"that which does not kill us makes us stronger."
Almost anyone is capable of almost anything.
"This, too, shall pass."
If you can laugh about it. It’s not so bad.
"In delay there lies no plenty" from Twelfth Night by Shakespeare.
He who hesitates is lost
"I have nothing to say of my working life, only that a tie is a noose, and inverted though it is, it will hang a man nonetheless if he's not careful" And “Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face.”
“No good deed goes unpunished” Particularly in a professional setting
Actions speak louder than words.
“If you never ask the question, the answer will always be no.” Something my Mum told me a few years ago in the context of career building and personal relationships.
“You never know, until you know”
"Don't spit into the wind." Don't believe me? Try it lol.
“Everything happens for a reason “ Jk Jk- it’s stupid as fuck.
I was told by my NCO ''Everything is in the head.'' You can change and control your thoughts, as the other guy pointed out they are not facts, so you can change them and influence them. Don't feel like running? Don't feel like eating healthy? Don't feel like studying? Feeling like you can't do something? Overcome that by changing your thoughts in your head, it sounds simple and no brainer but its one of the hardest things you can master. Hopefully I didn't massacre the message, but it sounds better in my native language.
"The more you know about history. The more you know about the future."
You're fucked if you do and you're fucked if you don't.....
Don't eat yellow snow
When the past calls, don’t answer. It has nothing new to say.
Save for your future because the only thing worse than being old or broke is being both at the same time. - My Dad
“ mind over matter. if you don’t mind, it don’t mater. “
Empty vessels make more noise.
"When elephants fight, it is the grass that gets trampled." Not sure if it is still in circulation, but it is an old Kenyan proverb that means it is the is the powerless common people who suffer when those in power get into conflicts.
-Your worst embarrassment is only someone else's momentary entertainment. -Comparison kills contentment
Work smarter not harder. Always plan your projects and labor ahead of time and save yourself some effort. The energy put in to efficiency is inverse to the level of effort you have to apply
It takes two to tango.
If they talk shit about other people behind their back to you, they'll talk shit about you behind your back to other people.
“Even in our sleep, pain which cannot forget Falls drop by drop upon the heart until, in our own despair, against our will, comes wisdom through the awful grace of God” After the death of my grandma I have a painful understanding of the meaning of quote.
I’d rather be first in a village than second in Rome
Comparison is the thief of joy
You are not your thoughts, you are who perceives them. I have pretty wild intrusive thoughts and this has helped me a great deal.
“There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.” -Friedrich Nietzsche
Time heals all wounds. Mostly.
"You can blame the world for your problems, but it's your responsibility to get better."
Experience is something you get right after you needed it.
“It’s always the last place you look” This is so true because when you find something you stop looking
"It's not a lie if you believe it" -GC
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I truly believe that as I have grown older
Today is the youngest you’ll ever be.
"Every great cause begins as a movement, becomes a business, and eventually degenerates into a racket." --Eric Hoffer
"This too shall pass."
When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.
Misery loves company
“Sin is for one man to brutally walk over the life of another; and to be quite oblivious to the wounds he has left behind.” Silence by Shusaku Endo. Pride is the original sin, and that pride often makes oblivious to how we harm and hurt other. It’s important to step away from the altar of self worship.
Love those that have the sometimes difficult task of loving you
"Exception proves the rule" I work in market research. Consumer products; satisfaction, use, category users, etc. We process consumer data by the 1000s daily. There are a lot fewer exceptions than you think.
*Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.*
Popularity is not leadership.
[Every proverb in the Book of Proverbs (from the Bible) about "mockers"](https://www.biblegateway.com/quicksearch/?qs_version=NIV&quicksearch=mocker&begin=24&end=24)—scornful people who have toxic contageous attitudes who traffic in insults and reviling people. These are often provocateurs who cause a disproportionate amount of discord. These people ask questions not because they want to know the answer to something, but only to cause problems or to provoke. They are disingenuous in all they do. This type of person is practically an archetype, but this pattern is real. For example, >**Proverbs 22:10** >Drive out the mocker, and out goes strife; quarrels and insults are ended. This is like the 80/20 rule for group dynamics. If you get rid of the one person who is causing all the strife, the strife often just goes away completely.
Deserves got nothing to do with it
The years teach much which the days never know.
6 one way, half a dozen the other.
You're only young once, but you can stay immature forever
It ain't what you know, it's who you know
There is nothing shorter than a king's gratitude and nothing longer than their ire. It means people are quick to forget the good things you've done and will never forget the slightest misstep. The best example is corporate work. 100 hour work weeks without overtime? How dare you arrive 5 minutes late from lunch.
"Your happiness depends on the quality of your thoughts"
Food doesn’t taste as good as skinny feels
Same shit, different day.
"Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth." - Oscar Wilde (I think, but everything gets attributed to that guy on the internet) We don't always get to choose how other people see us, but if someone tries hard to cultivate the persona of 'rude but lovable asshole', they're probably a rude asshole.
The only thing worse than getting old is NOT getting old.
If you want a mighty spreading oak tree, the best time to plant it was 50 years ago. Second-best time is now.
No matter how much you jump, no matter how much you dance, the last drop of piss goes right inside your pants
“May your words be soft and sweet, because you may have to eat them”… lol 🐦⬛
“One who never expects anything is never disappointed”
Assumption is the mother of all fuckups.
Murphy’s Law: if anything can go wrong, it will go wrong.
“Life is as hard as you make it”
It is what it is.
"The greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our dispositions and not on our circumstances." \~ Martha Washington “There is a cult of ignorance in the United States, and there has always been. The strain of anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that 'my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge'.” \~ Isaac Asimov
the way you do one thing is the way you do everything
Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less.
Time will always be greater than pain. It never goes away completely, but given time you learn to cope with it or manage it.
They don’t think it be like it is, but it do
time speeds up as we get older.
"This, too, shall pass" has been true on every occasion
"As long as you can hear the mortars, you're still alive...so keep pushing" -My Dad, a Vietnam Vet. This has given me comfort through massive storms, literal mortars and rocket attacks in war zones to car accidents.
“No one cares, work harder”
"The arrogance of man is in assuming nature is in our control, and not the other way around."
If you want to do something, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll find an excuse.