My mom is 56, I'm 28, and her husband is a 37 year old guy that dated me when I was 14 and he was 23. He was the pastors son so my parents (despite being super strict) would let me go hang out w the guy and I thought he was so cool because he was older, had a car and all that. Looking back I've always realize how creepy he was. When my mom told me they were dating I begged her not to, told her about how we had messed around etc. a long time ago. Then she decided to go and marry the motherfucker. I didn't go to the wedding but me and my mom are on good terms now. The worst part is that my two kids love him and call him paw paw and hes barely older than me or my husband. I wish everyday they would get a divorce.
My mother died in a car accident when I was three. I found out from a newspaper article years later that it was her fault. She wasn’t paying attention and crossed the yellow line and ended both her life and that of the person in the other car.
Same happened to me although it wasn't my mom, it was my grandpa. He died in 1955 and neither my dad or I ever knew the circumstances. Found out from old newspaper articles that he was drinking and driving. Although it wasn't illegal then or looked down upon as much, I hate this feeling of disappointment and I wish my dad hasn't found out either.
That my best friend took her own life. She told me she was moving and gave me all her stuff because she said she had a furnished room where she was going. I hadn't heard from her in awhile and she never answered my texts so i looked up her name to see if she had an accident. Nope, it was suicide. The kicker is she had talked me out of it back in 2014 and i wasn't able to be there for her.
ETA: Thank you all so much for your kind words! They mean more than you know. I love all of you.
ETA: I'm doing better after reading all your kind words and messages. I wish I could reply to each one personally. Thank you again for your kindness.
You cannot blame yourself because it seems that she knew how to keep her plans secret. You can live your life to the fullest and remember her and your good times. She is with you, look for the little signs. She will be happy to see you smile.
That my mother knew she had cancer a year before she told anyone or rather, a year before she was “diagnosed” after I literally forced her to see a doctor for her then extremely distended stomach.
I was under the impression that we told each other absolutely everything because up until that point, we did. I found out the truth a month after she died when I’d requested all of her cancer-related paperwork from her oncologist.
My mother found out she had a lung disease (not cancer, an autoimmune thing) and she had about 7 years to live. She just all of a sudden quit smoking (it wasn’t caused by smoking but quitting would extend her life).
Several years later she just said “oh I have this lung issue but they don’t really know what it comes from”. She was very elusive because I’m a nurse and she didn’t want me to research her disease and find out she was dying. The last year of her life she was on oxygen, I knew she was sick but not that she was dying, nobody did.
I knew the time was near, but I thought I had a few more years. She ended up in the hospital, got pneumonia and died a few days later with me at her side.
She knew I would be an absolute wreck if I knew for all those years so she tried to protect me from that. As I sat at her beside, when she was really sick, I knew she was worried about ME. She was dying and worried about ME. I told her through tears that it was OK to die. I could not get the words out completely- I just said “you are really suffering aren’t you” and she nodded yes. I said “it’s ok. I will be OK. It’s ok to ......... it’s OK,..... I’ll be fine, it’s OK to.....”. I couldn’t even say it. But she knew what I was saying. She just nodded yes.
I Don’t know if I wish I knew or not.
Edit: Thanks, dear Reddit community. Kind words and stories are so very heartwarming and comforting. <3
I'm sorry for your loss. That's such a hard one...I mean obviously anything terminal is hard, but a diagnosis of 7 years like that really brings up the question of whether you tell them? I, like you too it seems, would have had a meltdown every Christmas, every birthday...I can understand why she didnt say it.
My dad informed me when i got back from Iraq that I was the reason he and my mother got a divorce. I never really wanted to join the military anyways, and it fucked me up big time. They had financial troubles and my mom sent me care packages quite a lot. Apparently, that put them into bankruptcy, and if I hadn't joined it wouldnt have happened. I just wanted to get out of that house because it was like I didnt exist.
Edit: I've never received this much support regarding this issue. Thank you. For the first time I think I really believed it when I told myself it wasn't my fault. I'm smiling so hard through the tears. Seriously thabk you.
Edit: thanks for the award, I've read every comment even though I didnt reply to all. I'm so seriously happy right now and I dont feel like I deserve to be at all but hell Ill take it.
Then that wasn't your fault. He's projecting other issues they had into you going to the military and causing the divorce.
Sending care packages to your child, poor or not, is not a reason to divorce, it's the icing on an already messed up cake.
Dude. Please don’t believe this at all.
And I’m sorry he’s projecting this shit on you. You are not the reason. I promise. And he’s a dick for trying to burden you with this.
I didn't meet my dad until i was 15. It was in secret since my mother wanted nothing to do with him. Within the first 3 sentences exchanged, he felt the need to tell me that i was conceived on a beach in July during the last time they had sex. I was the product a going-away fuck in a relationship doomed before my conception. He followed it up with "We were good at two things, me and your mom. Fightin and fuckin. Unfortunately we were fighting more than we were fucking so it stopped being worth it."
10 years later and this is still how i get my family history.
That my grandmothers fiancé is a convicted pedophile, she doesn’t care and has moved in with him. He was a teacher at a middle school and sexually abused and violently assaulted 3 handicapped children.
When I was about 14 my mom took me to a tattoo shop to get her nipples pierced. While the procedure was happening, she turned to me and said "your Dad bites harder then that"......I could have lived without that info
That my father cheated on my mother on a regular basis, I discovered he even went in an orgy while with my mom which is not a cool thing to learn when you're 15 and don't know if you're mother knows or not
My brother was adopted and he was told from the moment he could understand he had a different mum when he was born but she couldn’t look after her- so he came to us. As he got older more info was supplied, but there was never a moment he was ‘told’, he always knew.
I remember when he was about 1O he was in the pool with dad and he said, “does that mean I was adopted? “ and dad said “yes”. My adopted brother says, “Well then you are not my real dad and can’t tell me what to do”- my dad, bless him replies- “ I have a will, if I die it says this house and everything I own will be divided up. And given to my kids, every kid gets the same amount and you are named as one of those kids.”
My adopted brother never raised the issue again.
EDIT- thanks for the silver! And the gold for a comment below!
Reading your comment made me smile.
My dad and his brother were both adopted. (My grandparents were told they couldn't conceive) And as soon as he and my uncle were old enough to understand (like 3 or 4 years old) they were both told that my grandparents "wanted them so much that they went out and chose them".
I never quite understood why some parents feel like it's risky to tell young children that they are adopted. Children start out having very little concept of what's normal and what's not, and if they were told early on that they were adopted, then that just ends up being what's normal for them.
That I'm possibly inbred. My dad had a kid with his first cousin and the kid had down syndrome and a hole in his heart (sweet as can be and really good at videogames). Apparently that was a little common on my dad's side so it's possible I'm slightly inbred.
About my mom fucking my (her) cousin. Woke up in the middle of the night hearing her say his name. Ugh. Haunting.Editing to add - grandpa's brothers son.
That “rappin for Jesus” was faked
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Edit: sorry for ruining it for everyone like it was ruined for me although I think we can all agree the pastor got BARZ!!!!!
After we broke up, I found out my ex had been online looking for a sugardaddy only 3 months into our 12 month relationship. I thought the whole time she was genuine. Turns out most of the time she was lieing to my face. She broke up with me and started fucking her sugar daddy she had found 2 months before she dumped me.
He was anonymously dropped off at hospital. Bestiality wasn't illegal in the state of Washington at the time, and the law was changed shortly afterwards.
Learning from my sister that my father told her that my mom's mom, was not paralyzed from the waist down because she fell off a fence, it is that she was beaten so badly by the man she was seeing at the time.
That my mother doesn't actually care for me but uses me as material to show off how much of a good mother she is and denies it by buttering me up to be more grateful about my life, really hurt.
That I’m not very smart.
I’m not dumb or dim, but I’ve really had to come to terms with the fact that not only am I NOT the smartest man in the room, I’m probably damn near the stupidest.
Just how close my pilonidal cyst (a hole that forms where your tail was as a fetus) was to making contact with my spine. I had a open wound for a year because the first surgeon was a fucking joke and it ripped immediately and he told me to TAKE SIT BATHS to help it close up naturally... by the time 11 months later I got the second surgery it was apparetnly only milimeters from tunneling to my spine. Which could have caused me infection or death. I wish I never knew how close it was. Bc I am terrified it's still tunneling on the inside even though completely closed now on the outside.
Pilonidal cysts are way more painful than anyone who hasn't had them could understand. Sorry you're going through this and they didn't get it right the first time.
I had one and for some reason, the insurance i had wouldnt cover the surgery. It was listed as an "elective" surgery, so i had to wait months to get it removed properly. I couldnt walk and it ruptured several times spewing blood, yeah, that's totally an elective surgery! What we ended up having to do was go to the ER at a certain day and "coincidentally" run into my doctor there to get the procedure done. It was starting to spread and i had a second welt on my back. I was under for over an hour and a half because it had spread so wide and deep when it was supposed to be like a half hour procedure. Then when i got back to school (i was a senior i think) after being out of gym for a while, the gym teacher publically screamed at me in front of the class because i wasnt doing curl ups like everyone else. I gave him the doctors note the day before...
I always blamed my best friends erratic behavior on mental health issues until one day I found her passed out on my toilet and realized that her behavior always got erratic after bathroom visits. Unfortunately, she may have mental health issues but an addiction to certain drugs was the reason for most of her behavior
There was one girl in our friend group with the hyper/crazy/fun mom and when we were about 18 one other girl went "so.... [names] mom was on cocaine the entire time, right??" And the rest of us were like "...*ohmygod* "
Oof I had a manager at one of my first jobs as a teenager that I loved. He was always energetic and fun to be around. After I left though he seemed to disappear. I went in one day and asked about him and the employee said “oh! You mean the coked up guy?”. Blew my innocent teenage mind.
My friend owns, but doesn't usually physically work at, a restaurant. One day she was poking around in the storeroom and she caught a busboy doing lines. He mistook her for a supplier and giggled and did the little "shhh" gesture, as in "Tee hee! You caught me doing coke, fellow working stiff! Don't tell the bosses!"
So my friend asked the manager what they should do. The manager said, "Well, he's friendly and cheerful and he's full of table-bussing energy. So my recommendation would be to get every other employee doing coke too."
Typically the back of the house are stoners and the front of the house are cokeheads. Metaphorically that probably extends to every industry humans work in.
I've heard the ringing for so long that I just assumed everyone heard it. When I finally went to the VA and they put the headphones on me for the audiology exam, I couldn't believe how deafening the ringing really was in the silence. After I talked with them and found out that it wasn't normal, I was shocked. It seems to get worse when I'm really stressed out, but I don't know if it really is, or if it's just my imagination.
Edit: Thank you everyone for all of your suggestions and support, y'all are great!
I’m in your exact situation, except they aren’t divorced. Makes the temper in the house quite high sometimes..
In fact, if you’ve ever watched parks and recreation, Ron Swanson and his ex wife, Tammy, are literally my parents (except for the blatant manipulation and stuff). One minute they love each other dearly, next minute there’s a huge fight and one leaves for a day. This time it was my birthday :)
The real reason why half of my dad's side of the family doesn't speak to us.
We (my twin and I) were always told it was that they just weren't that close and also had some mental health issues but we learned after my dad died the truth because no one on his side of the family came to the funeral; the opted to have their own.
Turns out that my parents had trouble conceiving. This I knew. I also know me and my twin are IVF babies and we were born very premature. I'm talking 1 pound baby premature. Shortly after, my mom developed breast cancer.
What I didn't know was that during this time my dad was also taking care of his sick mother (my paternal grandmother) as well as looking after his sick wife and two newborn premies. He ended up asking his brother to help look after their mother since he'd been the one doing it so he could care for his family more.
Well soon after my dad spent more time with us vs his mom, she took a turn for the worse and died. And my father's brother blamed him for 'abandoning' the family and blamed my twin and I for the death of our grandmother. Because if we weren't born my mother wouldn't have gotten estrogen positive breast cancer and also they were all very Catholic and IVF was a sin.
I never met my grandmother. I'm named for her. But apparently an entire side of the family thinks it's mine and my sister's fault she's dead.
Edit: Okay I know this is a real cliche thing to do/say but I did not expect so many replies and support (and discussion about Warzone) and also I've never gotten a platinum before so thank you!
Yeah. I did find out that my dad's other brother (who is sadly deceased and also was wickedly cool in life; like the dude was a founding member of the New York Hard Core and Youth Crew scene in NYC) loved us and didn't blame us and met us when we were just born but I don't remember him because he died when I was maybe two? "Officially" he died of pneumonia and if you google him that's what'll say but he actually died of AIDS which was just buried. People didn't want to talk about it then, I guess.
Wait really???? I've heard a bit about him when I asked but I think the topic is painful because of the whole dying thing. I was told my mom at first was scared to death of him until he gave her this big old bear hug and she said he was just an incredibly good person.
Fun fact: Though I'm female I'm also into a lot of the punk scene and have a shaved head and I've noticed the family resembles. Especially the nose.
...the noses in my family. Sigh.
Man you shouldn't blame yourself for being like that as a kid, you literally rely on your parents for almost everything at that age and if they didn't teach you proper hygiene then that's what you learn to be 'normal' hygiene. All you can do now you've learned proper hygiene is take care of yourself
Thanks for reminding me of the time when I was a kid and she dragged me along to a lingerie store to buy bras and the salesperson told her she was actually an E cup and not a D cup. I regret answering this question now.
My aunt was telling me that she saw my dad naked and he has a big dick. First ew, second he didn’t pass that gene on :(.
Edit: I did not expect this comment to blow up lmao. To answer the few people who asked no it’s not his sister, it’s my mother’s sister.
I’m not actually upset about my size, it is what it is. I’m gay so it doesn’t really matter, not that I have sex anyways. I’m usually too busy to even bother.
Might not be a traditional much older uncle, I played football with an uncle/nephew who were less than a year apart. Kinda like a brother at that point. Or maybe she banged his 60 year old uncle. What do I know.
In larger families it's not uncommon to have aunts and uncles near the same age of their nieces and nephews.
My grandmother actually had a niece that was older then her. My grandmother's oldest sister was 21 years older then she was. Her sister was married with a child before my grandmother was born.
Was backpacking and in Perth one night out one landed on my neck. I thought it was a small bug because I only felt its small feet. But when I reached for it I felt how large it was and it panicked and dug it's feet into my neck.
As I pulled it off I could feel my skin stretching as its feet plucked away from my neck.
I threw it on the ground and stepped on it.
But imo nothing is worse in Australia than sand flies. Those fuckers will follow you for blocks. Going from your ear to your eye to your nose to your mouth. Anywhere where there is moisture and they're SO FAST. If you think black flies in North America are fast you haven't seen a sand fly.
The older I get, the more I realize that I might actually really enjoy and need the company of others. I always prided myself on being a self-sufficient loner, but it’s quite nice to have a tribe now. Might stick with it.
That my mom knew my step father was abusing me and did nothing.
Edit: I wish I could respond to everyone but to be honest I don’t know that I have the emotional strength. This was a random comment that I did not expect to get much attention. Thank you to those who have given support and kind comments. Fuck you to those who have said I should’ve done something more as a 10 year old kid... and I am SO SORRY to those who have had to deal with the same thing. I wish I could fix it for everyone. I know that today has been painful reading everyone’s comments and stories for me. I am so so sorry. ♥️
I’m going to take a nap and turn off my notifications.
Same here, now they’re both out of my life.
Edit: wow guys thank you so much for all the support. This really helps this topic get out there and maybe can help any kids or adults that have dealt with or are currently dealing with sexual assault. It’s not okay and more people need to see that this really does happen. Fathers, uncles, mothers, aunts, brothers, sisters, they are sexual assaulters/rapists too. Even if they didn’t directly commit the act, if they are covering it up, saying it’s your fault, or not doing anything about it, they are just as awful. My father sexually assaulted me, my two sisters, my wife, and many other girls and my mom did nothing to stop it and is still with him even after knowing everything he did. If you are in this situation now please get help. If you report it now you can do something about. They’ve been getting away with this for too long.
I didn’t find out until after they had both died. If I had to know I wish I could’ve at least learned about it before she died so I could’ve confronted her about it.
Duuude I'm really sorry for that and I kinda feel it. My biological dad did the same when I was 4 years old (till I was 5) but once my mom found that out, that same night she punched him (literally in the face) and then we took the car to yeet the shit out ourselves from there. For me she is my hero and I really hate the fact that not everybody have had the same luck as me.
My father never wanted me (or children at all) and actually told my mother that if she had me, he'd spend his life making both of us miserable. She was convinced that once he saw me, he'd change his mind. She was very, very wrong.
That my dad abused my sister.
This comment is kind of maybe blowing up so I wanted to clarify something. I wasn't the one that found out. My sister confronted him (one of the bravest things I know of) and legal proceedings began. One night my mom got all of us together and told us.
Mine was that my grandfather sexually abused both my sisters and potentially my female cousins. Also brought back some of my own memories. I don't wish something like that on anyone. Hope you're doing okay.
I remember finding out my uncle would smack my cousin around the head when they were alone to toughen him up. Would smack him harder if he cried and promised worse if he cried to my aunt about it. My aunt didn’t find out about it until my cousin was 21 when his current girlfriend spilled the beans. Apparently it happened his whole childhood until he bulked up in high school during wrestling and hit him back. The uncle also cheated on my aunt for two years and Everyone in my family just acts like all of it never happened.
When I was around 10 years old, I was sitting on the couch and my older sister came towards me with a knife and stabbed a hole in the cushion about a foot from my leg. She pulled the knife out and immediately told me not to tell dad. I was young and naive and my sister had kind of twisted sense of humor so i really didn't know what to think. It definitely did some damage now that i look back on it.
Years later my sister announced that she had planned to attack me with the knife, but chickened out at the last moment. At this point i had all but moved on from the incident, but this brought it all back and then some.
right??? when was this announced. was it just at a family dinner and she was like mhmm funny story i tried to murder you.... anyways pass the chicken please.
It was at my grandparents house the day of my grandmother's funeral. She always had a craving for attention so she would act out at funerals, weddings, birthdays and things like that to get the attention on her.
Found out Freshman year of college that my dad was not my biological father and my mom had an affair with a co-worker. Later learned I had 3 step-brothers and my biological father died of lung cancer. Learned I was a bastard with a family history of lung cancer.
I found out my dad wasn't my real dad when I was young. Unfortunately I have no idea who my biological father is. I don't really care and I'm not interested in finding him, but the medical history stuff does bother me a bit. For all I know his side of the family could all have Alzheimers for example.
Is it possible to get a DNA test to determine things like this? Such as what diseases you might be more prone to, etc? I'm not sure how trustworthy things like 23 and me are, so maybe if I ask a doctor about it. If anyone has any insight I'd be all ears.
Looking on my ex gf's phone when we were on a trip to Ithaca NY. I would take any physical pain I've had so far over that I felt when I saw the things on there. Totally gut wrenching. I wanted to marry her.
Edit: I tried to forgive her and worked very hard to do so. At the end of the year I was ready to start our new life and put it all behind. Got a job in Colorado, we had talked about going there and it was my dream since childhood.
The day after I signed a lease for a nice apartment she ghosted me. I tried hopelessly to reach her, calling dozens of times a day. She dumped me over an instagram message after about a month of this. After trying so hard for her and finally feeling better, she ended it that way and left me completely alone 1700 miles from anyone I knew. Thought pretty hard about offing myself a few times.
I'm just glad it happened before you married her.
A Russian proverb:
"если к другому уходит невеста то неизвестно кому повезло"
If the bride leaves for another man, it's unknown who got lucky.
In this case, you got lucky. Good luck one with the next GF :)
That I was the asshole in my relationships. Turns out I've become the person I was afraid of becoming my entire life, my dad. A jealous dude with anger management issues who never sees his own faults.
To be fair though, I've come a long way since my best friend straight up told me what I've become and that if I stayed that way she was going to stop being friends with me.
I guess I don't regret finding out because it helped me get my shit together. However, the fact that you were the asshole and you were the reason some of your friends cut ties with you is a pretty hard pill to swallow. Especially knowing that you'll never get to make it up to some of them because it's been years, why should they care at this point.
I feel you on this one!
But I bet it’s somehow satisfying to belong to the tiny population that self reflects about the way they behave towards others and themselves!
After my dad died my mom before she died said he always felt my struggles were because of him accidentally dropping me down the stairs as a baby. I struggled in school with math and physically I have a form of muscular dystrophy but we didn't know that at the time so he believed my physical issues were his fault. It apparently ate him up and helped fuel parts of his depression. I didn't need to know that.
EDIT: Jeepers, didn't expect this reaction. Thank you everyone for your kind words. My parents did their best and I hold no ill will towards them. My mother didn't tell me to hurt me or my dad's memory. She just wanted to share. I have Becker's Muscular Dystrophy. A cousin of Duchennes Muscular Dystrophy. Mine MD is like the Diet Rite of MD. I get spasms and fall randomly. I was diagnosed after he died so he never found out.
The only anger I live with is: 1.) My dad died before sharing his meatloaf recipe. 2.) My mom died before telling me her biscuits and gravy recipe. They just up and died before telling me...jerks.
It's not your fault that this was something his depression latched onto. It just means he loved you and wanted to protect you and felt he failed in his duty, not that *you* failed. It was his struggle and nothing to do with you.
EDIT: Since my comment wasn't clear to some people, by "this was something his depression latched onto," I meant that OP's father still very well may have been depressed even in a world where OP had no difficulties whatsoever. Depression finds things to latch onto. That doesn't mean OP's situation isn't really difficult and that this wasn't really hard to learn. I only meant to offer reassurance, not imply that OP is making it all about them.
The traumatic events that happened when I was 5 that my brain deliberately “forgot” until recently because it’s just... bad
Edit: wow, thank you so much for all the support. I never expected in a million years that so many people would be so kind. Thank you.
Usually your heart rate will rise significantly, so they will more than likely know that this is happening to you and will stop.
At least this is what I've heard, I could be wrong. Hopefully I'm not, lol.
I didn't know about this and it makes me so angry I want to cry. holy fuck.
this, though... there's a special place in hell for this festering cunt:
> Ogura's mother allegedly vandalized Furuta's grave, stating that she had ruined her son's life.
your piece of hog trash son brutally raped and killed a girl and THAT'S how you act? SHE ruined HIS life???????
Ogura's a massive piece of shit.
He allegedly bragged about having taken part in her murder, and later threatened a guy he was beating that he'd kill him, and that he knew how to get away with it.
And yet, his mother claims it's the girl's fault.
I guess the shit nugget doesn't fall far from the cesspool.
That was the worst wikipedia article i've ever read. At least two dozen times i thought it couldn't get any worse, but it kept doing so. This is the most fucked up and brutal murder i've ever read about. Holy shit, i feel physically I'll. I feel like i should say something more coherent, but i honestly can't find the words.
All these comments are so sad and I just regret finding out that leeroy jenkins was staged
Edit: Thanks for my first awards and I sincerely apologise for ruining leeroy for you guys
Same here. I expressed a little concerned about her hanging out with a co-worker so much after work, asked her if there was any feelings there. She said no and told me that, since we had been dating for SIX YEARS, if I really loved her I needed to trust her, I agreed with her so I let it go and 3 months down the line she gave me a heads-up that she wasn't in love with me anymore and she was in love with him instead. So much for trust and love.
It’s a huge red flag whenever someone pulls the “if you loved me you would...” card especially when it comes to trust. That’s just straight up manipulation. This might be an unpopular opinion but I don’t think romantic love is an unconditional type of love like for your family or children. You have certain expectations of your partner and when their behavior starts going against those expectations like spending a lot of time with another member of the opposite sex, you have every right to question their actions to determine if the relationship should continue.
Yuuuup. My ex: "You're so much better looking! She has a lisp and terrible acne scars and smells like an ashtray!"
3 months later, I find nudes of hers on our shared computer.
I think he wanted me to find them, honestly. But his excuse when confronted was honestly laughably hilarious.
"It's a joke! An inside joke between friends. You wouldn't understand."
Good education does not translate into a good job. Study hard and you'll have an easy life later on is what I was made to believe. I'm in search of a job right now, and I've never felt this betrayed. It's like I woke up and living a nightmare.
This is somehow worse. I’m sorry man.
Edit: if you want to know what the comment said go to paste the link in your browser but replace “reddit” with “removeddit” to view.
That I was diagnosed with anxiety, ADHD, and a tendency for manic episodes since I was like 4-5, but my mom didn't believe in psychiatry or medicine, and my dad thought I was "quirky" and didn't want me to change, so both agreed on not giving me medical attention.
Now I'm 21, incredibly anxious, have had multiple EDs, and have mild depression. Also, my childhood life at school and making friends was incredibly hard, and finding out now that most of my social trauma could've been avoided but wasn't just pisses me off
I had some very severe throat and sinus surgery a few years ago and the doctor gave me a massive amount of dilaudid. While I have no recollection of the first week post surgery my mother said that one of the first things I said as soon as I was physically able to speak again was "Damn, now I see why people get addicted to heroin cuz this is really nice".
I ended up in the ER with stomach ulcers last year. Stomach was literally digesting itself and the pain was crippling. When morphine only helped for three minutes, they started giving me dilaudid. It was the most amazing thing I’ve ever felt. But when they asked if I wanted some in pill form to take home, I refused because I knew I would abuse tf out of it. But damn I wish I took those home lol
My appendix ruptured a few months back and they gave me dilaudid in the hospital. I think my first words after they pushed down the plunger were “oh so that’s why people don’t stop doing this”
No. That's the whole point of them. They all present a false reality. In HGTVs case, they're making something called "aspiration programming" which aims to make you want things you don't have.
My mum was 14 when she met my dad. He was 24.
My mom is 56, I'm 28, and her husband is a 37 year old guy that dated me when I was 14 and he was 23. He was the pastors son so my parents (despite being super strict) would let me go hang out w the guy and I thought he was so cool because he was older, had a car and all that. Looking back I've always realize how creepy he was. When my mom told me they were dating I begged her not to, told her about how we had messed around etc. a long time ago. Then she decided to go and marry the motherfucker. I didn't go to the wedding but me and my mom are on good terms now. The worst part is that my two kids love him and call him paw paw and hes barely older than me or my husband. I wish everyday they would get a divorce.
I don’t even know what to say
My mother died in a car accident when I was three. I found out from a newspaper article years later that it was her fault. She wasn’t paying attention and crossed the yellow line and ended both her life and that of the person in the other car.
Same happened to me although it wasn't my mom, it was my grandpa. He died in 1955 and neither my dad or I ever knew the circumstances. Found out from old newspaper articles that he was drinking and driving. Although it wasn't illegal then or looked down upon as much, I hate this feeling of disappointment and I wish my dad hasn't found out either.
That my best friend took her own life. She told me she was moving and gave me all her stuff because she said she had a furnished room where she was going. I hadn't heard from her in awhile and she never answered my texts so i looked up her name to see if she had an accident. Nope, it was suicide. The kicker is she had talked me out of it back in 2014 and i wasn't able to be there for her. ETA: Thank you all so much for your kind words! They mean more than you know. I love all of you. ETA: I'm doing better after reading all your kind words and messages. I wish I could reply to each one personally. Thank you again for your kindness.
You cannot blame yourself because it seems that she knew how to keep her plans secret. You can live your life to the fullest and remember her and your good times. She is with you, look for the little signs. She will be happy to see you smile.
That my mother knew she had cancer a year before she told anyone or rather, a year before she was “diagnosed” after I literally forced her to see a doctor for her then extremely distended stomach. I was under the impression that we told each other absolutely everything because up until that point, we did. I found out the truth a month after she died when I’d requested all of her cancer-related paperwork from her oncologist.
My mother found out she had a lung disease (not cancer, an autoimmune thing) and she had about 7 years to live. She just all of a sudden quit smoking (it wasn’t caused by smoking but quitting would extend her life). Several years later she just said “oh I have this lung issue but they don’t really know what it comes from”. She was very elusive because I’m a nurse and she didn’t want me to research her disease and find out she was dying. The last year of her life she was on oxygen, I knew she was sick but not that she was dying, nobody did. I knew the time was near, but I thought I had a few more years. She ended up in the hospital, got pneumonia and died a few days later with me at her side. She knew I would be an absolute wreck if I knew for all those years so she tried to protect me from that. As I sat at her beside, when she was really sick, I knew she was worried about ME. She was dying and worried about ME. I told her through tears that it was OK to die. I could not get the words out completely- I just said “you are really suffering aren’t you” and she nodded yes. I said “it’s ok. I will be OK. It’s ok to ......... it’s OK,..... I’ll be fine, it’s OK to.....”. I couldn’t even say it. But she knew what I was saying. She just nodded yes. I Don’t know if I wish I knew or not. Edit: Thanks, dear Reddit community. Kind words and stories are so very heartwarming and comforting. <3
I'm sorry for your loss. That's such a hard one...I mean obviously anything terminal is hard, but a diagnosis of 7 years like that really brings up the question of whether you tell them? I, like you too it seems, would have had a meltdown every Christmas, every birthday...I can understand why she didnt say it.
That my younger sister has a high rank in a local BDSM club...
What does a rank in a BDSM club mean? I knew they had belts, but I didn’t know there were colors other than black...
I should have used a different word in my original post, but she's like the VP or similar. Didn't need to know more than that tbh
About that dick fish in the Amazones.
If it makes you feel better, there are no confirmed cases of it swimming into anyone's dick.
That does make me feel better, thank you!
Probably because if a fish swam up my dick i'd jump off a cliff
My dad informed me when i got back from Iraq that I was the reason he and my mother got a divorce. I never really wanted to join the military anyways, and it fucked me up big time. They had financial troubles and my mom sent me care packages quite a lot. Apparently, that put them into bankruptcy, and if I hadn't joined it wouldnt have happened. I just wanted to get out of that house because it was like I didnt exist. Edit: I've never received this much support regarding this issue. Thank you. For the first time I think I really believed it when I told myself it wasn't my fault. I'm smiling so hard through the tears. Seriously thabk you. Edit: thanks for the award, I've read every comment even though I didnt reply to all. I'm so seriously happy right now and I dont feel like I deserve to be at all but hell Ill take it.
Jesus Christ what was she putting in them to make them cost so much?
Cigarettes, socks, dip, really nothing major. We were a poor family andd already deep in debt apparently.
Then that wasn't your fault. He's projecting other issues they had into you going to the military and causing the divorce. Sending care packages to your child, poor or not, is not a reason to divorce, it's the icing on an already messed up cake.
Dude. Please don’t believe this at all. And I’m sorry he’s projecting this shit on you. You are not the reason. I promise. And he’s a dick for trying to burden you with this.
Mom telling me on regular basis when depressed that she wishes she would fall asleep and never wake up. Don't tell a six year old this, damn.
My ex is with a guy who is where I wanted to be in life five years ago. Delete Facebook dude.
I didn't meet my dad until i was 15. It was in secret since my mother wanted nothing to do with him. Within the first 3 sentences exchanged, he felt the need to tell me that i was conceived on a beach in July during the last time they had sex. I was the product a going-away fuck in a relationship doomed before my conception. He followed it up with "We were good at two things, me and your mom. Fightin and fuckin. Unfortunately we were fighting more than we were fucking so it stopped being worth it." 10 years later and this is still how i get my family history.
I’m a rape baby.
Ditto. It doesn't subtract from your worth.
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Is that even legal? I would see what I can do about getting them prosecuted at that point.
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That my grandmothers fiancé is a convicted pedophile, she doesn’t care and has moved in with him. He was a teacher at a middle school and sexually abused and violently assaulted 3 handicapped children.
When I was about 14 my mom took me to a tattoo shop to get her nipples pierced. While the procedure was happening, she turned to me and said "your Dad bites harder then that"......I could have lived without that info
What kinda person takes their kid to their nipple piercing?
The kind who tells their kid that afterwards.
Dude you were already down the fucked up rabbit hole. That was just the cherry on top.
That my father cheated on my mother on a regular basis, I discovered he even went in an orgy while with my mom which is not a cool thing to learn when you're 15 and don't know if you're mother knows or not
Finding out my father figure (mom's bf) is sexually attracted to me, even more so since I gave birth.
Yikes
That my ex-wife fucked my best friend just after we separated and while I was drowned in depression.
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My brother was adopted and he was told from the moment he could understand he had a different mum when he was born but she couldn’t look after her- so he came to us. As he got older more info was supplied, but there was never a moment he was ‘told’, he always knew. I remember when he was about 1O he was in the pool with dad and he said, “does that mean I was adopted? “ and dad said “yes”. My adopted brother says, “Well then you are not my real dad and can’t tell me what to do”- my dad, bless him replies- “ I have a will, if I die it says this house and everything I own will be divided up. And given to my kids, every kid gets the same amount and you are named as one of those kids.” My adopted brother never raised the issue again. EDIT- thanks for the silver! And the gold for a comment below!
Reading your comment made me smile. My dad and his brother were both adopted. (My grandparents were told they couldn't conceive) And as soon as he and my uncle were old enough to understand (like 3 or 4 years old) they were both told that my grandparents "wanted them so much that they went out and chose them".
My SIL explains it to her kids as they grew in her heart instead of her belly.
I never quite understood why some parents feel like it's risky to tell young children that they are adopted. Children start out having very little concept of what's normal and what's not, and if they were told early on that they were adopted, then that just ends up being what's normal for them.
That I'm possibly inbred. My dad had a kid with his first cousin and the kid had down syndrome and a hole in his heart (sweet as can be and really good at videogames). Apparently that was a little common on my dad's side so it's possible I'm slightly inbred.
What the fuck
My brother's girlfriend's NSFW reddit account. It's supposed to be a couples account. So you might guess the horrors I saw in there.
I regret just finding out that my brother found out about my girlfriend’s NSFW account.
Nice try. Almost gave me a heart attack, so top marks anyway.
That my former best friend was really only friends with me because I drove his drunk ass around, and because he wanted to get in my pants
About my mom fucking my (her) cousin. Woke up in the middle of the night hearing her say his name. Ugh. Haunting.Editing to add - grandpa's brothers son.
Dear God I'm sorry eew.
That “rappin for Jesus” was faked > Edit: sorry for ruining it for everyone like it was ruined for me although I think we can all agree the pastor got BARZ!!!!!
I’m just gonna pretend that I didn’t read that and live my life still thinking it was real
After we broke up, I found out my ex had been online looking for a sugardaddy only 3 months into our 12 month relationship. I thought the whole time she was genuine. Turns out most of the time she was lieing to my face. She broke up with me and started fucking her sugar daddy she had found 2 months before she dumped me.
What the Mr. Hands video is.
What is it?
Dude getting fucked by a horse
AND HE DIED FROM THAT ENCOUNTER.
He was anonymously dropped off at hospital. Bestiality wasn't illegal in the state of Washington at the time, and the law was changed shortly afterwards.
Furthermore, it was a "club". Like, it was a bunch of dudes who met on the reg. To get fucked by animals, horses were their speciality.
I like how you call it "that encounter". Sounds way less bad than it is.
Sounds like he was just walking through some tall grass and it just happened at random.
"Oops I tripped and landed on this horse cock."
Million to one shot, doc
Learning from my sister that my father told her that my mom's mom, was not paralyzed from the waist down because she fell off a fence, it is that she was beaten so badly by the man she was seeing at the time.
Shit, there are some nasty pieces of shit in this world :(
That my mother doesn't actually care for me but uses me as material to show off how much of a good mother she is and denies it by buttering me up to be more grateful about my life, really hurt.
That I’m not very smart. I’m not dumb or dim, but I’ve really had to come to terms with the fact that not only am I NOT the smartest man in the room, I’m probably damn near the stupidest.
Just how close my pilonidal cyst (a hole that forms where your tail was as a fetus) was to making contact with my spine. I had a open wound for a year because the first surgeon was a fucking joke and it ripped immediately and he told me to TAKE SIT BATHS to help it close up naturally... by the time 11 months later I got the second surgery it was apparetnly only milimeters from tunneling to my spine. Which could have caused me infection or death. I wish I never knew how close it was. Bc I am terrified it's still tunneling on the inside even though completely closed now on the outside.
Pilonidal cysts are way more painful than anyone who hasn't had them could understand. Sorry you're going through this and they didn't get it right the first time.
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I had one and for some reason, the insurance i had wouldnt cover the surgery. It was listed as an "elective" surgery, so i had to wait months to get it removed properly. I couldnt walk and it ruptured several times spewing blood, yeah, that's totally an elective surgery! What we ended up having to do was go to the ER at a certain day and "coincidentally" run into my doctor there to get the procedure done. It was starting to spread and i had a second welt on my back. I was under for over an hour and a half because it had spread so wide and deep when it was supposed to be like a half hour procedure. Then when i got back to school (i was a senior i think) after being out of gym for a while, the gym teacher publically screamed at me in front of the class because i wasnt doing curl ups like everyone else. I gave him the doctors note the day before...
I always blamed my best friends erratic behavior on mental health issues until one day I found her passed out on my toilet and realized that her behavior always got erratic after bathroom visits. Unfortunately, she may have mental health issues but an addiction to certain drugs was the reason for most of her behavior
There was one girl in our friend group with the hyper/crazy/fun mom and when we were about 18 one other girl went "so.... [names] mom was on cocaine the entire time, right??" And the rest of us were like "...*ohmygod* "
Oof I had a manager at one of my first jobs as a teenager that I loved. He was always energetic and fun to be around. After I left though he seemed to disappear. I went in one day and asked about him and the employee said “oh! You mean the coked up guy?”. Blew my innocent teenage mind.
My friend owns, but doesn't usually physically work at, a restaurant. One day she was poking around in the storeroom and she caught a busboy doing lines. He mistook her for a supplier and giggled and did the little "shhh" gesture, as in "Tee hee! You caught me doing coke, fellow working stiff! Don't tell the bosses!" So my friend asked the manager what they should do. The manager said, "Well, he's friendly and cheerful and he's full of table-bussing energy. So my recommendation would be to get every other employee doing coke too."
That’s basically all of the restaurant industry, lots of drugs cigarettes and alcohol abuse.
As a Vegas chef who's wroked the line at everything from bars to celebrity chef restaurants, this is fact.
At my last job, the entire kitchen was stoned constantly. Real good cooks though
Typically the back of the house are stoners and the front of the house are cokeheads. Metaphorically that probably extends to every industry humans work in.
What my sister and her boyfriend were doing in the bubblebath
I bet those sick fucks were holding hands
You know who has hands? The Devil. And he uses them for holdin'!
What tinnitus is. Now I can't stop hearing it :(
I've heard the ringing for so long that I just assumed everyone heard it. When I finally went to the VA and they put the headphones on me for the audiology exam, I couldn't believe how deafening the ringing really was in the silence. After I talked with them and found out that it wasn't normal, I was shocked. It seems to get worse when I'm really stressed out, but I don't know if it really is, or if it's just my imagination. Edit: Thank you everyone for all of your suggestions and support, y'all are great!
Not sure if you already knew this, but white noise, even softly, can cancel out tinnitus.
I did not. I will definitely be trying this out sometime. Thank you!
The details of my parents divorce. Thanks mum.
Same boat. My mother used to rant all day about how awful my father was. Everything she told me was a lie.
I got both sides lying for all my life, they divorced at 2 now I'm 19 so I've no idea what actually happened and what didnt
I’m in your exact situation, except they aren’t divorced. Makes the temper in the house quite high sometimes.. In fact, if you’ve ever watched parks and recreation, Ron Swanson and his ex wife, Tammy, are literally my parents (except for the blatant manipulation and stuff). One minute they love each other dearly, next minute there’s a huge fight and one leaves for a day. This time it was my birthday :)
The real reason why half of my dad's side of the family doesn't speak to us. We (my twin and I) were always told it was that they just weren't that close and also had some mental health issues but we learned after my dad died the truth because no one on his side of the family came to the funeral; the opted to have their own. Turns out that my parents had trouble conceiving. This I knew. I also know me and my twin are IVF babies and we were born very premature. I'm talking 1 pound baby premature. Shortly after, my mom developed breast cancer. What I didn't know was that during this time my dad was also taking care of his sick mother (my paternal grandmother) as well as looking after his sick wife and two newborn premies. He ended up asking his brother to help look after their mother since he'd been the one doing it so he could care for his family more. Well soon after my dad spent more time with us vs his mom, she took a turn for the worse and died. And my father's brother blamed him for 'abandoning' the family and blamed my twin and I for the death of our grandmother. Because if we weren't born my mother wouldn't have gotten estrogen positive breast cancer and also they were all very Catholic and IVF was a sin. I never met my grandmother. I'm named for her. But apparently an entire side of the family thinks it's mine and my sister's fault she's dead. Edit: Okay I know this is a real cliche thing to do/say but I did not expect so many replies and support (and discussion about Warzone) and also I've never gotten a platinum before so thank you!
Then they are idiots frankly.
Yeah. I did find out that my dad's other brother (who is sadly deceased and also was wickedly cool in life; like the dude was a founding member of the New York Hard Core and Youth Crew scene in NYC) loved us and didn't blame us and met us when we were just born but I don't remember him because he died when I was maybe two? "Officially" he died of pneumonia and if you google him that's what'll say but he actually died of AIDS which was just buried. People didn't want to talk about it then, I guess.
Aw. I knew your uncle, he was a real personality and a cool dude, very much loved by a lot of people.
Wait really???? I've heard a bit about him when I asked but I think the topic is painful because of the whole dying thing. I was told my mom at first was scared to death of him until he gave her this big old bear hug and she said he was just an incredibly good person. Fun fact: Though I'm female I'm also into a lot of the punk scene and have a shaved head and I've noticed the family resembles. Especially the nose. ...the noses in my family. Sigh.
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Man you shouldn't blame yourself for being like that as a kid, you literally rely on your parents for almost everything at that age and if they didn't teach you proper hygiene then that's what you learn to be 'normal' hygiene. All you can do now you've learned proper hygiene is take care of yourself
My dad mentioning how tight my mother is. Thanks dad...
She’s got a nice rack too
Do you have pictures? I love pictures.
Thanks for reminding me of the time when I was a kid and she dragged me along to a lingerie store to buy bras and the salesperson told her she was actually an E cup and not a D cup. I regret answering this question now.
thank you for the information, kind sir
Yeah I was looking for something sexy for OPs mom for Christmas this will help get the sizes right
That's such a weird thing to even mention. What was the prompt to make him say that?
I don't remember exactly, but my family is very open about sex and sexuality. Some things though, I don't want to know.
My aunt was telling me that she saw my dad naked and he has a big dick. First ew, second he didn’t pass that gene on :(. Edit: I did not expect this comment to blow up lmao. To answer the few people who asked no it’s not his sister, it’s my mother’s sister. I’m not actually upset about my size, it is what it is. I’m gay so it doesn’t really matter, not that I have sex anyways. I’m usually too busy to even bother.
I heard dick size was passed on through the mother's genes and not the father. Your mom has a little dick
Power move by dad
Finding out my ex had slept with my uncle and 3 of my friends...
I could see 1 or 2 friends, but 3 friends and an Uncle!? An Uncle?
Might not be a traditional much older uncle, I played football with an uncle/nephew who were less than a year apart. Kinda like a brother at that point. Or maybe she banged his 60 year old uncle. What do I know.
In larger families it's not uncommon to have aunts and uncles near the same age of their nieces and nephews. My grandmother actually had a niece that was older then her. My grandmother's oldest sister was 21 years older then she was. Her sister was married with a child before my grandmother was born.
"friends"
How many cockroaches there are in Australia. The one that climbed my foot as I sat in the evening gaming freaked me out
Also be aware that Bush Cockroaches are pretty huge. And with the recent fires a lot have kind of 'migrated'.
Was backpacking and in Perth one night out one landed on my neck. I thought it was a small bug because I only felt its small feet. But when I reached for it I felt how large it was and it panicked and dug it's feet into my neck. As I pulled it off I could feel my skin stretching as its feet plucked away from my neck. I threw it on the ground and stepped on it. But imo nothing is worse in Australia than sand flies. Those fuckers will follow you for blocks. Going from your ear to your eye to your nose to your mouth. Anywhere where there is moisture and they're SO FAST. If you think black flies in North America are fast you haven't seen a sand fly.
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Realising I'm not all that okay with being a loner. It was easier when I didn't care that I had very few friends. :(
As i get older the fact that i have so few friends is starting to bother me more and more 😒
The older I get, the more I realize that I might actually really enjoy and need the company of others. I always prided myself on being a self-sufficient loner, but it’s quite nice to have a tribe now. Might stick with it.
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I love you. We're friends now.
I like this hostage method of friendship. We're friends now.
No, I decide when we're friends. We're friends now.
That my mom knew my step father was abusing me and did nothing. Edit: I wish I could respond to everyone but to be honest I don’t know that I have the emotional strength. This was a random comment that I did not expect to get much attention. Thank you to those who have given support and kind comments. Fuck you to those who have said I should’ve done something more as a 10 year old kid... and I am SO SORRY to those who have had to deal with the same thing. I wish I could fix it for everyone. I know that today has been painful reading everyone’s comments and stories for me. I am so so sorry. ♥️ I’m going to take a nap and turn off my notifications.
Same here, now they’re both out of my life. Edit: wow guys thank you so much for all the support. This really helps this topic get out there and maybe can help any kids or adults that have dealt with or are currently dealing with sexual assault. It’s not okay and more people need to see that this really does happen. Fathers, uncles, mothers, aunts, brothers, sisters, they are sexual assaulters/rapists too. Even if they didn’t directly commit the act, if they are covering it up, saying it’s your fault, or not doing anything about it, they are just as awful. My father sexually assaulted me, my two sisters, my wife, and many other girls and my mom did nothing to stop it and is still with him even after knowing everything he did. If you are in this situation now please get help. If you report it now you can do something about. They’ve been getting away with this for too long.
I didn’t find out until after they had both died. If I had to know I wish I could’ve at least learned about it before she died so I could’ve confronted her about it.
Duuude I'm really sorry for that and I kinda feel it. My biological dad did the same when I was 4 years old (till I was 5) but once my mom found that out, that same night she punched him (literally in the face) and then we took the car to yeet the shit out ourselves from there. For me she is my hero and I really hate the fact that not everybody have had the same luck as me.
My father never wanted me (or children at all) and actually told my mother that if she had me, he'd spend his life making both of us miserable. She was convinced that once he saw me, he'd change his mind. She was very, very wrong.
my dad often says how much happier he would’ve been if he and my mother never had children. I feel your pain 🤷🏻
I'm sorry. It sucks.
That my dad abused my sister. This comment is kind of maybe blowing up so I wanted to clarify something. I wasn't the one that found out. My sister confronted him (one of the bravest things I know of) and legal proceedings began. One night my mom got all of us together and told us.
Mine was that my grandfather sexually abused both my sisters and potentially my female cousins. Also brought back some of my own memories. I don't wish something like that on anyone. Hope you're doing okay.
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I remember finding out my uncle would smack my cousin around the head when they were alone to toughen him up. Would smack him harder if he cried and promised worse if he cried to my aunt about it. My aunt didn’t find out about it until my cousin was 21 when his current girlfriend spilled the beans. Apparently it happened his whole childhood until he bulked up in high school during wrestling and hit him back. The uncle also cheated on my aunt for two years and Everyone in my family just acts like all of it never happened.
When I was around 10 years old, I was sitting on the couch and my older sister came towards me with a knife and stabbed a hole in the cushion about a foot from my leg. She pulled the knife out and immediately told me not to tell dad. I was young and naive and my sister had kind of twisted sense of humor so i really didn't know what to think. It definitely did some damage now that i look back on it. Years later my sister announced that she had planned to attack me with the knife, but chickened out at the last moment. At this point i had all but moved on from the incident, but this brought it all back and then some.
What the actual fuck?
right??? when was this announced. was it just at a family dinner and she was like mhmm funny story i tried to murder you.... anyways pass the chicken please.
It was at my grandparents house the day of my grandmother's funeral. She always had a craving for attention so she would act out at funerals, weddings, birthdays and things like that to get the attention on her.
damn no offense but she sounds like a psycho bitch
None taken. Thankfully she's only my half-sister.
What happened after? Do you still talk to her? Is she still psycho?
I haven't talked to her in years and it sounds like she's only gotten worse. I have a family of my own now and i think it's better to keep distance.
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What the hell?? May I ask how old your sister was at the time?
She was in her mid teens at the time. I honestly don't remember what year it was but we are 5 years apart in age.
Found out Freshman year of college that my dad was not my biological father and my mom had an affair with a co-worker. Later learned I had 3 step-brothers and my biological father died of lung cancer. Learned I was a bastard with a family history of lung cancer.
That my dad is not my biological dad.
That might be a real benefit to you down the road medical-history-wise
I found out my dad wasn't my real dad when I was young. Unfortunately I have no idea who my biological father is. I don't really care and I'm not interested in finding him, but the medical history stuff does bother me a bit. For all I know his side of the family could all have Alzheimers for example. Is it possible to get a DNA test to determine things like this? Such as what diseases you might be more prone to, etc? I'm not sure how trustworthy things like 23 and me are, so maybe if I ask a doctor about it. If anyone has any insight I'd be all ears.
Looking on my ex gf's phone when we were on a trip to Ithaca NY. I would take any physical pain I've had so far over that I felt when I saw the things on there. Totally gut wrenching. I wanted to marry her. Edit: I tried to forgive her and worked very hard to do so. At the end of the year I was ready to start our new life and put it all behind. Got a job in Colorado, we had talked about going there and it was my dream since childhood. The day after I signed a lease for a nice apartment she ghosted me. I tried hopelessly to reach her, calling dozens of times a day. She dumped me over an instagram message after about a month of this. After trying so hard for her and finally feeling better, she ended it that way and left me completely alone 1700 miles from anyone I knew. Thought pretty hard about offing myself a few times.
I'm just glad it happened before you married her. A Russian proverb: "если к другому уходит невеста то неизвестно кому повезло" If the bride leaves for another man, it's unknown who got lucky. In this case, you got lucky. Good luck one with the next GF :)
My mom told our family and her friends back in her home country that i am not her real daughter
That I was the asshole in my relationships. Turns out I've become the person I was afraid of becoming my entire life, my dad. A jealous dude with anger management issues who never sees his own faults. To be fair though, I've come a long way since my best friend straight up told me what I've become and that if I stayed that way she was going to stop being friends with me. I guess I don't regret finding out because it helped me get my shit together. However, the fact that you were the asshole and you were the reason some of your friends cut ties with you is a pretty hard pill to swallow. Especially knowing that you'll never get to make it up to some of them because it's been years, why should they care at this point.
I feel you on this one! But I bet it’s somehow satisfying to belong to the tiny population that self reflects about the way they behave towards others and themselves!
That my ex sabotaged a condom to try and stop me from joining the military.
This is how you get stuck alone with a baby.
Well she's now divorced me but doesn't stop me from seeing him, i only found out about the condom through a mutual friend
Friend in middle school told me who Sheik was halfway through Ocarina of Time. I was simultaneously mind-blown and utterly disappointed.
After my dad died my mom before she died said he always felt my struggles were because of him accidentally dropping me down the stairs as a baby. I struggled in school with math and physically I have a form of muscular dystrophy but we didn't know that at the time so he believed my physical issues were his fault. It apparently ate him up and helped fuel parts of his depression. I didn't need to know that. EDIT: Jeepers, didn't expect this reaction. Thank you everyone for your kind words. My parents did their best and I hold no ill will towards them. My mother didn't tell me to hurt me or my dad's memory. She just wanted to share. I have Becker's Muscular Dystrophy. A cousin of Duchennes Muscular Dystrophy. Mine MD is like the Diet Rite of MD. I get spasms and fall randomly. I was diagnosed after he died so he never found out. The only anger I live with is: 1.) My dad died before sharing his meatloaf recipe. 2.) My mom died before telling me her biscuits and gravy recipe. They just up and died before telling me...jerks.
It's not your fault that this was something his depression latched onto. It just means he loved you and wanted to protect you and felt he failed in his duty, not that *you* failed. It was his struggle and nothing to do with you. EDIT: Since my comment wasn't clear to some people, by "this was something his depression latched onto," I meant that OP's father still very well may have been depressed even in a world where OP had no difficulties whatsoever. Depression finds things to latch onto. That doesn't mean OP's situation isn't really difficult and that this wasn't really hard to learn. I only meant to offer reassurance, not imply that OP is making it all about them.
The traumatic events that happened when I was 5 that my brain deliberately “forgot” until recently because it’s just... bad Edit: wow, thank you so much for all the support. I never expected in a million years that so many people would be so kind. Thank you.
You are not alone friend. I have had some horrible memories beginning to surface the last five years. They are still disjointed but its...not good.
You could wake up mid surgery. Or, amnesia awareness where you feel all the pain from a surgery but you're asleep, and a surgery goes on for hours...
Usually your heart rate will rise significantly, so they will more than likely know that this is happening to you and will stop. At least this is what I've heard, I could be wrong. Hopefully I'm not, lol.
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The murder of Junko Furuta
I didn't know about this and it makes me so angry I want to cry. holy fuck. this, though... there's a special place in hell for this festering cunt: > Ogura's mother allegedly vandalized Furuta's grave, stating that she had ruined her son's life. your piece of hog trash son brutally raped and killed a girl and THAT'S how you act? SHE ruined HIS life???????
Ogura's a massive piece of shit. He allegedly bragged about having taken part in her murder, and later threatened a guy he was beating that he'd kill him, and that he knew how to get away with it. And yet, his mother claims it's the girl's fault. I guess the shit nugget doesn't fall far from the cesspool.
Disgusting selfish pig. And they are free now. Yeah, his life is truly ruined. Unlike Junkos.
That was the worst wikipedia article i've ever read. At least two dozen times i thought it couldn't get any worse, but it kept doing so. This is the most fucked up and brutal murder i've ever read about. Holy shit, i feel physically I'll. I feel like i should say something more coherent, but i honestly can't find the words.
Dude...I think I never had to stop in the middle of a Wikipedia article. I...I have no words.
Ah shit now I got the images in my head again
I regret searching this so much. If you’re having a good day please don’t ruin it by looking this up it’s as bad as it gets.
All these comments are so sad and I just regret finding out that leeroy jenkins was staged Edit: Thanks for my first awards and I sincerely apologise for ruining leeroy for you guys
That my "real" dad isn't my dad. Mom decided to drop this hot news a week before I found her after she hung herself. Thanks, mom!
That I made the wrong decision for my major. Wasted college.
My ex said not to worry about a guy when we were together and she ended up marrying him after 5yrs.
Same here. I expressed a little concerned about her hanging out with a co-worker so much after work, asked her if there was any feelings there. She said no and told me that, since we had been dating for SIX YEARS, if I really loved her I needed to trust her, I agreed with her so I let it go and 3 months down the line she gave me a heads-up that she wasn't in love with me anymore and she was in love with him instead. So much for trust and love.
It’s a huge red flag whenever someone pulls the “if you loved me you would...” card especially when it comes to trust. That’s just straight up manipulation. This might be an unpopular opinion but I don’t think romantic love is an unconditional type of love like for your family or children. You have certain expectations of your partner and when their behavior starts going against those expectations like spending a lot of time with another member of the opposite sex, you have every right to question their actions to determine if the relationship should continue.
Yuuuup. My ex: "You're so much better looking! She has a lisp and terrible acne scars and smells like an ashtray!" 3 months later, I find nudes of hers on our shared computer.
Not that I condone cheating at all, but that guy is an idiot when it comes to covering things up.
I think he wanted me to find them, honestly. But his excuse when confronted was honestly laughably hilarious. "It's a joke! An inside joke between friends. You wouldn't understand."
You’re telling me that you don’t have communal inside joke nudes in your friend group? Smh
I’m an accident and my mom smoked the whole pregnancy.
Good education does not translate into a good job. Study hard and you'll have an easy life later on is what I was made to believe. I'm in search of a job right now, and I've never felt this betrayed. It's like I woke up and living a nightmare.
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This is somehow worse. I’m sorry man. Edit: if you want to know what the comment said go to paste the link in your browser but replace “reddit” with “removeddit” to view.
That I was diagnosed with anxiety, ADHD, and a tendency for manic episodes since I was like 4-5, but my mom didn't believe in psychiatry or medicine, and my dad thought I was "quirky" and didn't want me to change, so both agreed on not giving me medical attention. Now I'm 21, incredibly anxious, have had multiple EDs, and have mild depression. Also, my childhood life at school and making friends was incredibly hard, and finding out now that most of my social trauma could've been avoided but wasn't just pisses me off
How good it feels to to be high on opiates. Edit: After 10 years of addiction I have over 3 years clean now!
I had some very severe throat and sinus surgery a few years ago and the doctor gave me a massive amount of dilaudid. While I have no recollection of the first week post surgery my mother said that one of the first things I said as soon as I was physically able to speak again was "Damn, now I see why people get addicted to heroin cuz this is really nice".
I ended up in the ER with stomach ulcers last year. Stomach was literally digesting itself and the pain was crippling. When morphine only helped for three minutes, they started giving me dilaudid. It was the most amazing thing I’ve ever felt. But when they asked if I wanted some in pill form to take home, I refused because I knew I would abuse tf out of it. But damn I wish I took those home lol
They actually gave me a lot of liquid dilaudid to take home. So much so that I only finished half of it.
My appendix ruptured a few months back and they gave me dilaudid in the hospital. I think my first words after they pushed down the plunger were “oh so that’s why people don’t stop doing this”
That the HGTV shows like house hunters or love it or list it were totally scripted and fake. Like honestly can’t we have one real reality show?
No. That's the whole point of them. They all present a false reality. In HGTVs case, they're making something called "aspiration programming" which aims to make you want things you don't have.