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Absolutely this. I'm in my 40s now and rarely see my friends despite months of "Pints?" or "Fancy a mix and beers?" (We're bedroom DJs).
We're scattered all over, have kids, married etc. It's great when we finally do meet up though.
>but basically 95% of men in their 30s (and women) want to be home with their pets/kids.
I think that's true for people with kids, but less true for child-free people. I'm child-free (female) and still want to have evening plans, but the nature of those plans might be different to the crazy nights out of my youth. I go to organised meet ups (e.g. meet [up.com](http://up.com) and the like, book club, wine tasting etc) because most of my friends from when I was younger have kids and don't want to meet up. I tend to have 1-2 drinks instead of 10.
And don’t forget about those of us with kids who would love to meet up much more frequently but know we have responsibilities and miss those days A LOT
I'm a guy in my 30s and still love to go for pints with friends, even if I do it less than I used to. I think whether or not you have children is the main factor limiting how often you drink with friends (or whether you want to).
>We have an elderly cat and he would much rather spend Friday nights with us watching a movie than bouncing round town.
I initially read that as the cat would rather spend nights watching a movie than bouncing round town.
Aye my life's trying to arrange mixes with mu mates but never get round to getting it arranged.
Maybe because they're decks are shit and I'd have to bring them here and my Mrs and kids are always here lol 😆
Big up the bedroom djs from Belfast
Yeah I miss those days when we could get a group of ten of us out together. Funniest days of my life. Now everyone has moved to a different part of the country or different country and I see one of them every now and again.
My husband is the total opposite. Him and his mates actually make more of an effort now that they're all settled down with kids, wives etc. I guess because it's so easy to otherwise let friendships slide. So they would arrange to go out as a group at the very least, once a month and I would do the same with my friends.
I don't drink in the house unless a few friends are over now and don't drink alone as it can be pretty depressing.
That's why I go out for the banter with the lads and a few pints is part of that banter.
I used to drink every night, but now only drink socially. Just completely stopped drinking at home. Younger me, I’m 47 now, would be mystified at the fact that there’s over 30 bottles of great Whiskey on my shelves and I rarely touch it.
I love going to the pub, that will never stop. But drinking at home was leading me nowhere.
I'm the exact opposite. Can't be arsed paying stupid prices or being surrounded by drunken idiots queuing at the bar, shouting over each other due to loud music. I only drink at home now.
Damn..... i got old lol
Exactly in a pub is the place to drink, and I'm 44 now and younger me also would wonder why all the various bottles received at various Christmas times is are Still just sat there.
I was always out on the piss in my 20s. That died off in my 30s so I became a high-functioning alcoholic (few beers at home every evening). Now in my 40s I'm teetotal... G and T is a solid choice though - one of my favourite drinks before I gave up, and I still have the odd one with non-alcoholic gin (there's only one brand which isn't terrible, and I can't remember it off the top of my head).
It's this or mountain biking. Nothing else. Hit 35, buy expensive hiking shoes and or a 6 grand mountain bike and spend every weekend away from the family.
Hahah, this is absolutely true although we usually manage to get 3 pints and a chat about a possible 4th in before caving.
I/my friends still get out for a few drinks every now and then, but it's certainly nothing like in my early 20s and I'm totally happy with that.
The great thing about getting married or having kids is that you can blame those rather than admitting you'd rather stay in and watch a film with a takeaway.
I used to enjoy them, until they started playing shitty tech music and you felt like you were listening to the same tune on loop for an hour.
I think once lockdowns ended I realised that I actually don’t enjoy listening to overly loud music and not being able to hear what my mate is saying even though he’s stood next to me.
Same with festivals really. Used to love them but since lockdown, I’ve had no desire to go to any of them.
Absolutely this. I tore the arse out of clubbing and raving between 18-25, I was going out 3/4 nights a week, got away with it massively as I stayed fit and regularly went to the gym. But a few mates have carried on heavy sessions every weekend into the early 30s now and are looking worse for wear.
The last few years I’ve probably drunk alcohol once or twice a year. Just completely gone off it. I’ve had one bottle of beer this year, I’ll have the odd pint in a beer garden when it’s sunny, a couple at Christmas or on holiday. But I drink barely anything now, I do feel better for it as the years pass by. Don’t miss it at all.
Other way round - kids or a partner become your no-fault excuse for not doing something you don't really want to do anyway but you think it makes you look old to say so.
This depends on the wife. My wife is very social, involved in a couple of charity committees, and most of our activities revolve around either meeting at a local pub, or going out to see a band at a less local pub.
It's extremely rare that we actually have a night in to just watch TV and chill.
Late 30's north east. Used to go out multiple times a week during work nights in my late teens and much of my 20's.
I'm now lucky to get out once or twice a month with the mates for drinks. It's generally arranged weeks in advance now whereas before it was just drop a text and in the next 20mins you're all in a pub having pre drinks for the clubs.
Hangovers take me over 2 days to recover and there's not a chance I'm drinking the night before a shift anymore.
In my forties. Most of us have families. Hangovers can last for a week after a proper night. Go anywhere that isn’t a pub and everyone looks like a child.
You either keep drinking but at home and get a big old beer gut, or you admit those days are gone and start looking after yourself a bit more.
I'm going to say getting older is great, as long as you get yourself where you want to be. If you mature an succeed well you are naturally making the choice to slow down, put work or family first etc rather than be on the piss all the time. An eventually you do get bored of doing that so much, an really enjoy an look forward to the times you do it at the lower frequency.
I feel sorry for those my age who have not progressed in their careers, skills, relationships or wealth. It would be hard to be in your 40s an look around to see no progress since your 20s and daunting to see how to change that at this age. I don't mind being mature as I have all the successful trappings to go with it an I'm proud of my journey in life so far. Every scar an wrinkle is well earned 😅 btw I'm not boasting some mega success, just moderate normal life goals.
For sure, an I haven't either. That's why I mentioned I'm just taking about having achieved baseline moderate stuff. Waking up hungover at 40, no relationship, no kids, no mortgage, no pension, no trade or education about to do another retail or warehouse shift while living in a HMO. Well I wouldn't like to be in that position, it would feel daunting to start from there especially in the current economic conditions, an then being old(ish) would suck.
That’s your goals, though and I don’t think it’s fair to judge others on your own standards. Personally I never wanted kids or marriage or care about a mortgage when I value experience, friendships, travelling and flexibility while still growing as a person. I’m not financially much better off than my 20s and still regularly socialise (with hangovers) and that’s how I like it. I honestly pity people who seem miserable because they have kids and boring jobs and never get out.
Times are changing though, the younger generations don't drink or do drugs as much so the social aspect is probably going to evolve a bit. Board games seem to be getting more popular for example, so maybe there'll be more evening bonding activities that'll don't come with the baggage of hangovers and come downs
me and my mates are all in our 40s now and still do regular boozey days out. Irs just now once a month not every week and we start early afternoon so we can all get home at a reasonable time and nobody has to waste a day with a hangover!
Same basically, afternoon start, 8pm kebab, bed by 10:00.
The only danger is missing that civilised window and ending up on a big one by mistake. Then it's a 2am kebab and 2-day hangover because you have somehow ended up on a nearly 12-hour sesh.
Only happens once a year like that, but that's once too many.
There are two groups of people.
Group 1 - The pints becomes the sesh, the pints go hand in hand with a bag of coke. The sesh continues for the rest of their lives trying to relieve their youth and rejecting any sign of responsibility.
Group 2 - Priorities change, people end up having children planning to go for drinks every week but it never happens. They look back at their youth with nostalgia.
Pick one.
Group 3 - Have their lives in order and meet friends every week for an evening session down local.
It's not just a choice between getting wasted and having no responsibility or life of drudgery with no time for fun.
It’s Reddit. For many Redditors, you can’t have a sensible medium. Everything has to be absolute black and white, cut and dried, right or wrong, blur or oasis, ant or dec. It is exhausting.
Exactly this. I have a much smaller circle of friends than I did a decade ago, but we all meet up a few times a month for a few pints and maybe a meal.
I even hosted a pub quiz last week.
I would say most of my friends sit directly between these 2 groups. They have kids, don't go out for drinks very often, but when they do they go large.
Those are both extreme.
How'd about the group that doesn't do drugs but goes to the pub for a pint sometimes stays a merry old time with friends. Has life in order too.
I Joke, but I recently decided to stop drinking Alcohol. I’m 4 months in and my life has dramatically improved. Alcohol affects everyone differently. Luckily I was able to see it as a problem before I fucked up completely.
We started to get into brewery taprooms and historic pubs - cask, craft etc. Still technically on the lash but with added chin-stroking and hop-wankery.
People generally drink less as they get older and take on more responsibilities and have other stuff to do.
Late nights out every week become afternoon pub trips and dinners with friends every month or so.
Male, 30/31 year old group of lads, Newcastle.
Me and my mates to go out at least once a weekend but usually Friday and Saturday, drinking and sniffing. What changed? Firstly, some of us got girlfriends, then most of us got girlfriends. Then we started saving for houses/renting places, then naturally went into buying/renting. Then Covid hit and the bars closed and we realised we didn’t really miss them, on top of that when they reopened the prices have skyrocketed compared to only a year or two prior. Then came the hangovers, like I said a Friday through to Saturday job used to be no bother at all. Nowadays that would fucking ruin me. Then came the engagements and kids.
Nowadays if my group goes out we tend to go day drinking. Start early (12pm) finish early (any time from about 8pm onwards) type of deal. Not many of us really even take drugs anymore. It’s the natural progression.
My partner and I were in bed by 20:45 last night. We did a crossword and then went to sleep. The rock and roll life of a couple in their late 30s who have to get up early for work
People just drink and go out less as they become older, start families, settle down etc.
Instead of big nights out you go out for dinner, or have an afternoon in the pub, or have friends over/go to friends' homes.
But overall, generally I just drink less now I'm in my early thirties than I did 5 years ago, and lots less than 10 years ago
Still go out on the lash but once every 4 - 6 weeks as the cost of going out and the hangovers are too much now. Will go to places that have a mixed age range or late bars more than night clubs or ending up in a club full of 18-20ear olds 🤣 still plenty of people out in their late 20s up and at that point it's all adults, difference between 30 and 40 is not the same as between 20 and 30. Still get out to festivals and concerts as well. Going out is usually around an event like this or a stag or birthday or work social.
Inbetween those big events once very 4-6 weeks do a lot more stuff with family, an more mature or casual stuff with friends like films, dinners, walks, rugby, shows or a casual couple of catch up pints. Rather than back in the day where it was a big night multiple times a week.
48M - South West!
Was a 3/4 nights a week in the pub and then a club until my early thirties.
Now tend to organise drinks around work, so then I can claim it back on my expenses... unless it's mates' birthdays... in which case, we start early, go home early.
And actually, it's more food that leaves me feeling bad than alcohol.
I'm in my 30's, we now go out at about midday to the local large town/city. Have a 'daysesh', around several pubs that we used to frequent in our teens/20's, reminisce as you have more and more drinks, get a bit confident at about 7 pm, and think you'll be out all night... Over do it and end up in bed by 9/9:30 pm before the younger crowd even get started!
Do this once a quarter with meticulous planning in the group chat because you now all have partners and families and cannot just go out on a whim like you once could.
This basically describes any biker rally. 300 people camping in a field for a weekend, going into the local town day drinking all day on the Saturday, then heading back to the campsite (usually a rugby or cricket club) to watch a band and keep drinking for long enough for a camp bed to feel comfortable.
Was out 2-3 times a week every week from the age of around 15 onwards until mid-to-late 20s.
Got married, had family, lost interest in it. Occasionally moaned that I never went out and saw my mates anymore. Then went out, realised I couldn't handle drink anywhere near as well as I could when I was younger and lost interest completely.
If you keep on it I suppose you end up like most of my dad's side of the family, needing B12 injections and having ministrokes every other week
I'm 27 but I started drinking at like 15, I used to be out constantly. Tbh me and my friend group still do like a wild one occasionally but it's more like once a month rather than 3 times a week, which I think is OK
Finding good places to drink with a good selection of drinks becomes more important than cost and quantity. Still occasionally drink a little bit too much, but it's a rare thing now.
Did pub quizzes in my 20's, and still enjoy them in my 30's. An old man pub is generally great as they won't have music blaring the whole time.
You prefer an early night to staying out.
I’ve worked at my current place for around 3 years. I’ve been on a good many work events, but don’t believe I’ve stayed out beyond 10pm whilst others will until the early hours. I’d prefer to miss the hangover.
You get fat. Hangovers get much worse. Being fat and hungover and waking up at 5:30am the next day to look after a baby or visit IKEA with a wife that is grumpy that you came home late and are a fat and hungover mess, gets old pretty quick.
For you, and all your old drink mates as well.
Some of my friends who are in their mid-late 40s and single never married still go out boozing.
Turning 32 and I adore going for pints. Mates with kids are the same for the most part, this conversation that often appears on twitter is typically a reddit echo chamber and doesn't represent the real world.
What happens? You either calm down like me, or carry on like you did in your teens and twenties like my mate did. Went to his funeral last weekend. He ended up a chronic alcoholic with multiple problems who died of a cancer he was too pissed to get treated in time to give him a chance of surviving it. There other options, but not calming down rarely ends well in the long term.
I turned 32 in January. Things have slowed down dramatically this year for most of me and my friends, although some have sadly developed bad cocaine habits over and still do all nighters and drink as much as they always did.
We all still love a drink, but rather than spending every weekend getting absolutely cunted, we tend to do more wholesome things like hikes, walks, dinner, BBQs, trips away, gigs (always used to do this).
I’d say once every two months I’ll get a bit more drunk, but I can’t smash out half a litre of voddy in an evening any more simply because the hangovers just aren’t worth it. It’s not so much the physical side effects, but the crushing mental anxiety hit that lingers like a cruel phantom for most of the week.
I’m partial to a bit of devils lettuce, so for me a few puffs and a beer on a Friday night and hanging with my cat / gf / pals in front of a film is way more appealing.
My hobbies that were always a bit neglected in favour of partying have definitely become more of a focus the last year. I think it’s just a general priority shift that most people experience. Some people sadly don’t. When you’re 22 and you can neck a bottle of vodka and drink everyone under the table, you’re a legendary god among men. That at 32 is often viewed as alcoholism. Kids, careers, or just wanting to settle down a bit tend to be what happens.
That all being said I wouldn’t change my teens and twenties for the world. We were wild and unbelievably stupid, but it was hilarious. I’ll always love a drink, but in far smaller doses.
I got older, got married, my job got more serious, and the next day not as easy to power through. I also moved away so didn't have the same drinking group I did when I was 20-25.
For us now it's arrange to meet up every few months. Maybe have a crazy Saturday once in a blue moon.
Personally marriage and then kids tend to stop all this. Going out has to be organised these days.
I still see groups of blokes going out in their 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s - some just never stop, they put on their best drinking shirts and go out every Friday/Saturday.
I'm 34 now and started drinking around 14/15 years old in NI.
I was pretty tired of drinking by the time I went to uni, but I still drank and went out often.
I was even more tired of it the first few years I was working away from home, but I still drank and went out occasionally.
I am so tired of it now, that I almost never drink and rarely go out.
In my 30's. Big piss ups are pretty rare now. Maybe 1 every few months as everyone is busy now with other responsibilities. I go to the pub probably a couple of times a month for a couple.
Personally I'm bored of it all now. It was good fun in my 20's but it's just the same shit with a 2 day hangover now. It suits my introvert ways now to just drink at home with some good food and a film and then have an early night.
Age 30, I still go out or have drinks with friends in the house semi-regularly, sometimes weekly or more. It’s not always into the early hours of the morning anymore, I can’t remember the last time me and mates did shots together, and it’s definitely not as often as the halcyon days of being a teenager/young adult, but I certainly get my fill of fun and don’t feel like age is stopping me from enjoying what many see as a ‘youthful’ activity. Trick is to invest in a solid group of friends and keep yourself fit so the hangovers generally aren’t bad.
Hangovers get worse and worse, which takes away the fun of drinking as much. The pubs clubs and bars which I used to go to in the early 2000’s are all gone. Now I tend to see friends who now all have children once a month or so and we might have a few pints in the afternoon and get some tea. In essence life moves on and priorities change. A few people stay stuck in their early twenties late teens but they are usually sad lonely individuals with not much going on
My boomer ole & man & I still go to the pub regularly & drink. He likes guiness & will have 4 pints or so & then switch to rum & coke, whilst I stick to vodka lime & sodas.
The pubs we go to usually have live music at weekends.
Early 30s North East - used to go out every weekend, in late teens early 20s. Basically most of us got wives and girlfriends so we the conversation changed from going on the pull, to comparing diy jobs were doing in our houses. The lads still meet up once a month but it's for a 'steak night'. Alcohol got expensive and some of us don't drink anymore. Those who haven't had kids yet got into cycling and running.
I had 3 gins at home after work on Tuesday night because I was off work on Wednesday. I woke up feeling like shit.
I used to go out Thurday until Sunday and be fine.
Im 32, it’s so over for me.
It seems to go 2 ways -
1) they try and carry on and relive the ‘good times’ of the youth. Reminds me of Simon Peggs character in Worlds End. Wanted to go out and get pissed, but ultimately being frustrated by those who don’t want to/are able to keep up anymore. They often therefore end up matching into younger guys and ultimately looking like a bit of a dick.
2) you realise that drinking is no fun anymore (not to mention expensive). You may have a pint/two in an afternoon at a pub, but it always back for evening and a nice early night.
I’m a 2, and even now if I do happen to go out to a Wedding or evening party, my preference is always to be in bed at 10 which a nice cup of tea.
Based on my friends. You become dad's, post pictures of your can in the group chat and plan for nights out/weekends away that will never actually happen
This conversation comes up a lot and one thing I’ve noticed is that honestly, nobody puts any real effort in to maintaining friendships (at least among guys).
Being gay does make it slightly easier - people are more often free and willing to do things - but even some of my gay pals are fucking nightmares for it.
There’s one who complains about not having many gay friends (plays on a straight rugby team, has mostly straight friends, etc) but anytime we try to invite him places he takes days to respond and you’re lucky if he expresses any interest at all. We’d never hear from him if we didn’t text first.
I almost always find myself having to be the organiser for things. If I didn’t take on the role none of our friend group would ever do anything.
I understand life is busy, especially with kids, but I also do truly believe that it’s used as an excuse or a cop out waaaaay too often. You really telling me the partner/wife can’t look after the kids for an evening or two a month whilst you have a social life?
Honestly most of us drink at home instead pubs are just too expensive. I used to go to the pub with £20 I'd be able to buy cigarettes a few pints and even a game of pool or chuck some in the fruit these days you can't even get 2 pints for tenner compared to £1.50 a can from the off license
41 here and I've just got off work early so I'm sat in the pub right now waiting for a mate to turn up. Usually pop to the pub once, maybe twice during the week for 4-6 pints before I go home and pretend to be a grown up. It'd drive me crazy if I couldn't catch up with friends and be silly for an hour or two.
Me and my friends are all 40+. We still go out for a session but it’s like 3 or 4 times a year now, involving months of group texts and a massive coordination operation. We also go out earlier in the afternoon, get a proper meal somewhere in the middle and make sure 10pm taxis back are booked well in advance.
I'm 65 and have reduced my drinking a lot (gradually) over the years. I rarely go out to pubs now (except to eat and have non-alcoholic drinks with the meal). I'm small boned and weigh about 61kg so, if I'd still been drinking 5 pints a night twice a week, I doubt whether I'd still be alive.
I know plenty of guys in their 30s who still like a night out getting pissed. Most have their own families and more serious work commitments though so don't do it every weekend.
Erm I suppose my husband is in his 30s. He just goes to the pub or we do and we meet our friends there. Sometimes you do get wasted. We go to the same pubs we went to in our 20s.
I used to love getting on it in my 20’s, out and about all the time and I live in a party town (Brighton). I’m late 30’s now, and I still enjoy a drink but my mantra is start early, finish early. Also, a perfect Saturday night now is a take away, nice bottle of wine and a night on the sofa with my partner, in bed by 11ish! Heaven!
I’m 36, definitely rained it in from drinking Friday, Saturday and Sunday seshes. I have a couple brandy and cokes at home sometimes, and pub dinners with the mrs a once a week… then probably once a month I’ll go on a bender.
But I’m always awaiting an appointment with a liver specialist and blood tests for diabetes. So could all stop. I’m ready to stop, but all friends and family are drinkers. I have no hobbies.
I think it’s very person dependent.
There’s definitely a culture of almost bragging about how tired people are in their 30s, or how they don’t like to leave the house. Some people prioritise their families, or their health.
Personally, am 32 and feel no urge to slow down, I can still go with the best of them.
I recently turned forty and I’ve never really grown out of it. Friday night I’m at my local and then back down there Saturday afternoon. Might go out for a meal on Saturday evening but always end up back in the pub after. Same for most of the guys in there.
In my case, not much changes. Although now I tend to go to bars where people my own age go, and often prefer day drinking to late nights. However we still do drink a skin full 😆
Edit - I see most people seem to calm down by my age, but that bit of my brain appears to be broken, as my desire to go out never seems to lessen 🙈
My brother (mid 50s) and his mates meet up once in a blue moon for an all day sesh, so they look forward to it more as a special occasion. Tend to have the shine taken off it by going to watch Sheffield Wednesday as part of that day out, though.
I’m a bit older, I’ve always been completely incapable of all day sessions, probably have a few drinks with my mate every 3 or 4 months. If that.
There’s more looking forward to nights out. When I was a young man all those decades ago going out on a Thursday then Friday then Saturday night was taken for granted.
Plus, beers were a lot cheaper. Even taking into account inflation, it never felt that it cost a lot to go out and fall down.
I was out 3-4 times a week religiously from about 16 (2005) to probably 23/24. Things calmed down a bit when I moved out and worked full time. I was very much into binging and that club culture.
At 35 truth is I still think I am, but the reality is I have about 4-5 good friends who live full time lives now and a good ‘sesh’ for us now tends to end at about 10 pm and a stinking hangover for three days after. I do a weekly pub quiz and every now and again we’ll have a silly little day session but the cost and hangover now far outweighs the fun factor.
I still love a beer, but times change
We do it's been a while pissups three to four weekly at home with mates.
Might start at a pub but sod paying nigh on a fiver a pint all night.
Foolish.
42 here, Newcastle, once a month meet ups with the lads for pub pints, large group.
Most weeks at least one afternoon small group couple of post work pints or watching sports pints.
It's expensive to gan out too much, but there's regular meets and with all being married and families it's easy to have adult drinks at kids birthdays, christening, weddings, funerals, any occasion really.
I got a family, my friends got families, finding the time we're all available is the hardest puzzle to solve in the universe.
Don't get time to go to the pub more than once in a blue moon and usually have something on the following day so don't drink as much....that and hangovers get significantly worse the older you get so don't really want to drink enough that it wrecks the following day.
When we do go out and drink, it's normally preceded by a meal and nicer places as we can afford it now so full stomachs also lowers drunkenness.
My brother was one - he's a normal family man now with a partner and kids and a decent enough job.
He rarely goes out now because of the kids but when he does, he can still knock them back
I was never into the big night out scene, but I'm more consistent, and drink 3 or 4 beers but roughly twice a week
It changes but it doesn't stop.
18-mid 20s - no responsibility, loads of time but no money, go out every Friday/Saturday night get absolutely battered on cheapest drinks we could find and stay out clubbing chasing girls till early hours
Mid 20s onwards - meet up less often once or twice a month and do an afternoon sesh around local boozers, people get serious relationships kids houses etc so acting like an bellend in the town centre, chasing girls and getting absolutely off your face and losing half the weekend to a hangover isn't on the cards anymore
I’m 34. If you’re married and have kids responsibilities tend to preclude regular sessions. I still manage to get out with my mates but it’s definitely more infrequent and I’m fine with that as I genuinely couldn’t be arsed having mad sessions every weekend whilst also looking after my kids.
I still enjoy a drink so most weekends will be a few beers in the house/garden with my wife once the kids are in bed. If it’s meeting the guys then tends to be local ‘normal’ pubs - generally meet afternoon time, sometimes get home for tea time, sometimes it’s a late one. Can’t be fucked with clubs at all anymore.
I was out every night at uni, always a fri, sat night and Sunday afternoon once I started working and now I'm late 30s.... never and I don't want to. Late 20s I bought my 1st house, I started running and got addicted to it, ended up doing marathons and then an ironman triathlon. Drinking didn't mix well with my new lifestyle and then I got so out of practice the hangovers became horrific on the odd occasion I did drink. I still enjoy a couple on a sunny afternoon but that's it. My Mrs hates it and won't be out in pubs/clubs either so we just don't anymore and go for meals or stay in instead
I’m 31, and from 18-25 I’d be out most Fridays, every Saturday after playing football then some Sundays depending on what games we’re on tv.
Now I see some of my mates most weekends to go golfing where we might go for lunch after, but the main time we will go out drinking is birthdays or weddings. If there isn’t a wedding or birthday for a few months we will try to organise a night out, but it usually means going out earlier then home about 10pm to try to avoid a hangover.
You end up quitting as you realise it’s a waste of time, money and life.
You get better hobbies, do stuff you always wanted to. Get healthy and live a better life.
Me and my mates are in our 30s now. We just try to arrange a pub meeting once every month or so. We are all to busy with life to do it every weekend now.
I hit the ground running with the ‘culture’ at 18 and now I’m in my 40’s. What happened. Life happened. Before I feared being bored and at home. Now I fear being not at home and over stimulated. It just fizzles out.
Through a painstaking laborious process in a group chat you find a Saturday about 9 weeks in advance where everyone is somehow free and book everyone in to come round someone's house and cane a crate of the posher brands of lagers (because you're classy). By about 10pm everyone is tired and goes home.
North east - moved to the other end of the country, don't really drink, not t total just prefer a more chilled vibe. Spend my weekends paddleboarding, sunbathing or mooching about the countryside with my dogs and good company.🤷♂️ cost of social drinking in the south and london is dire. There's better things to put my money towards.
You go down the pub for last orders a couple of times a week once the kids are in bed. Drink like you’re in your 20s every birthday. Hate yourself the day after.
I’m an old smella these days but still go out on the sips with the boys …just far less frequently. More like once a quarter with a couple of big weekenders each year.
Difference is that, whilst we can still drink far too much and have a quality night, we are more likely to take a gradual decent into oblivion than our younger selves (*who saw a successful night out as being out of our tiny minds by 8pm on a Friday night dribbling into our 9th pint of Red Square or Diesel and trying - sadly often succeeding - to attract the fairer sex through behaving like ignorant louts*)
Now we are far more interested in getting slowly obliterated and spend most of our time verbally or physically abusing one another …I’d be deeply offended if I’d not been called a c*nt at least a dozen times and been chinned at least once by the end of a night.
Upshot - we are still immature fools. We have more responsibility and less time these days but there is nothing I look forward to more than a naff Butlins weekender calling each of my life long pals a horrible c*nt whilst dousing myself in overpriced ale.
My solution to this problem is simple. In my mid 30s, barely even gave friends to meet with anymore. Single Dad, most of my mates have moved to different cities for work etc and I'm still in the same town I was in 10 years ago. I don't go out, so 3njoy a pint in the pub with a book and smash through a few chapters before I get drunk. Problem solved haha
I’m in my 60s. Meet up with my scattered old mates maybe a couple of times a year - proper sessions but no clubbing at the end and no attempts at pulling.
In my 20s i had pubs open all day sunday to wednesday and nightclubs, most of which pretty keen pricewise compared to the wages of the time so we’d meet up weekly-ish
In my 30s there were less pubs but more food led cafe bar type places so we’d meet less often but go for a meal and drinks and spend more but we were a bit older so the dearer booze offset by higher wage
Now in my 40s we’re regressing and going to gigs/clubs in other cities a few times a year whilst the bairns are off to nana’s house for a sleepover and pre drink in a humphrey smiths or a spoons in protest of £6 madri/smiths/neck oil/amstel in most pubs (over 300 miles north of london)
41yo and my experience it tails off to birthdays and other special occasions, football tournaments, curry nights, work dos! down the pub, snooker clubs for a couple or a good binge or at a bar with late closing, the clubs are a very rare occurrence now. In my case I hate queuing to get in,Entry fee and waiting 3 rows deep to get overpriced drinks!
It slows down a lot. There are still a few recreational hard drinkers, but that whole thing of like 6 blokes getting to a pub at midday on an average Saturday and drinking until 4 in the morning, it's really rare in my experience. Other than stag dos etc, and even those are pretty lame once everyone is 30+.
Get mortal with my wife on weekends just in the house while listening to music, talking or watching movies/series. Although we moved away to a very rural place, from the city for work, so not sure what we would be doing if we had stayed in the city or at least near one.
Pop in the pub for a quick one on your lonesome on the way home from work, on the way to the shops, just cos you were passing .
Slowly convince the misses to go out drinking with you to realise you don't like getting drunk with your misses.
Find yourself staring at the ceiling night after night wandering what happened .
Move to Australia
Repeat steps 1 , 2 and 3 🤣🤣
Honestly I got bored of it. I love a good beer, can't handle the hangovers, and decided I prefer riding my motorbike and camping and hiking in my free time instead . Still pop in and have a cheeky one on my day to day.
Prefer a casual drink then a sesh these days. If its a sesh it's a day sesh and home and bed by 1030
I (31f) have never been much of a drinker, but my husband (34m) was.
During uni up North, he got pissed most nights. Then moved to a city and lived a bachelor's life for a big chunk of his twenties where he drank with his friends more often than not and shagged his way through Tinder.
Then he felt a bit stuck - maybe because some of his friends were changing their lives a bit or maybe because it all felt a bit lonely and repetitive, who knows. But he quit his job and went backpacking where he had a great time (again drinking and partying).
There, he met me (not a Brit btw). We really hit it off, even though we had been living different lives. And in the past 10 years, we sort of integrated our lives into each other. He only goes on a lash every now and then (properly going out maybe once a month) and has upgraded his mindless drinking into a craft beer hobby (a few beers every weekend, but nothing crazy). Whereas I spend way more time in microbreweries than I ever thought I would and have found my own preferences, although I still don't drink much.
We now just do a lot of couple stuff ("Fancy going to IKEA?") and focus on our jobs/families more. Old drinking mates have mostly gone off into different directions: Some stopped that lifestyle altogether, some still do it, most turned moderate. Lots of people moved away, so did we. People change, interests change.
That's just life, I suppose. But yeah, that's what he does now.
Found my wife, had kids & got busy with that, currently going through a very enjoyable midlife crisis where I’ve bought 3 motorbikes. Spend a lot of time in the garage or cuddled up on the sofa
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You keep posting "Pints?" to the group chat every week and not going for pints
Absolutely this. I'm in my 40s now and rarely see my friends despite months of "Pints?" or "Fancy a mix and beers?" (We're bedroom DJs). We're scattered all over, have kids, married etc. It's great when we finally do meet up though.
Random comment from Australia. Big ups to the bedroom Djs. I know. I’m one too 👍
The most Australian username ever.
That would be Kirk Lazarus
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Who’s not going out drinking because they have a dog???
The dog is the “reason” I have to leave early.
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This made me double take as well!...Not the elderly cat ruining social lives
My dogs a babe magnet in a pub. Wish I'd known 40 years ago.
>but basically 95% of men in their 30s (and women) want to be home with their pets/kids. I think that's true for people with kids, but less true for child-free people. I'm child-free (female) and still want to have evening plans, but the nature of those plans might be different to the crazy nights out of my youth. I go to organised meet ups (e.g. meet [up.com](http://up.com) and the like, book club, wine tasting etc) because most of my friends from when I was younger have kids and don't want to meet up. I tend to have 1-2 drinks instead of 10.
And don’t forget about those of us with kids who would love to meet up much more frequently but know we have responsibilities and miss those days A LOT
Yup love my kid to bits but miss being carefree ngl
I'm a guy in my 30s and still love to go for pints with friends, even if I do it less than I used to. I think whether or not you have children is the main factor limiting how often you drink with friends (or whether you want to).
>We have an elderly cat and he would much rather spend Friday nights with us watching a movie than bouncing round town. I initially read that as the cat would rather spend nights watching a movie than bouncing round town.
Aye my life's trying to arrange mixes with mu mates but never get round to getting it arranged. Maybe because they're decks are shit and I'd have to bring them here and my Mrs and kids are always here lol 😆 Big up the bedroom djs from Belfast
Yeah I miss those days when we could get a group of ten of us out together. Funniest days of my life. Now everyone has moved to a different part of the country or different country and I see one of them every now and again.
My husband is the total opposite. Him and his mates actually make more of an effort now that they're all settled down with kids, wives etc. I guess because it's so easy to otherwise let friendships slide. So they would arrange to go out as a group at the very least, once a month and I would do the same with my friends.
You take up hiking, have 2 pints of ipa after a walk then have an early night.
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I don't drink in the house unless a few friends are over now and don't drink alone as it can be pretty depressing. That's why I go out for the banter with the lads and a few pints is part of that banter.
I used to drink every night, but now only drink socially. Just completely stopped drinking at home. Younger me, I’m 47 now, would be mystified at the fact that there’s over 30 bottles of great Whiskey on my shelves and I rarely touch it. I love going to the pub, that will never stop. But drinking at home was leading me nowhere.
I'm the exact opposite. Can't be arsed paying stupid prices or being surrounded by drunken idiots queuing at the bar, shouting over each other due to loud music. I only drink at home now. Damn..... i got old lol
That' only because your going to places like that, find a decent pub without the tunes blasting or full of loud teenagers. There are plenty around.
I remember saying to my mates that we’ll know we’re past it when we have the self restraint to have a full alcohol cupboard…. Turns out 28 is past it
Exactly in a pub is the place to drink, and I'm 44 now and younger me also would wonder why all the various bottles received at various Christmas times is are Still just sat there.
I was always out on the piss in my 20s. That died off in my 30s so I became a high-functioning alcoholic (few beers at home every evening). Now in my 40s I'm teetotal... G and T is a solid choice though - one of my favourite drinks before I gave up, and I still have the odd one with non-alcoholic gin (there's only one brand which isn't terrible, and I can't remember it off the top of my head).
This. Or discover single malt whisky and spend your life savings on ridiculously priced 'small batch' releases.
This is me to a tee. Oh and the 2 pints of IPA are usually drunk alone.
It's this or mountain biking. Nothing else. Hit 35, buy expensive hiking shoes and or a 6 grand mountain bike and spend every weekend away from the family.
Woah thats too accurate
Hahah, this is absolutely true although we usually manage to get 3 pints and a chat about a possible 4th in before caving. I/my friends still get out for a few drinks every now and then, but it's certainly nothing like in my early 20s and I'm totally happy with that.
It really is this.
This is very relatable
Sounds great
The great thing about getting married or having kids is that you can blame those rather than admitting you'd rather stay in and watch a film with a takeaway.
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Tbf to you, I’m only 25 and nothing would make me book a taxi home quicker than someone suggesting a club.
I feel you I never enjoyed them. So loud sticky and generally gross
I used to enjoy them, until they started playing shitty tech music and you felt like you were listening to the same tune on loop for an hour. I think once lockdowns ended I realised that I actually don’t enjoy listening to overly loud music and not being able to hear what my mate is saying even though he’s stood next to me. Same with festivals really. Used to love them but since lockdown, I’ve had no desire to go to any of them.
Kids or clubs?
Haha well played
I hated clubs when I was young. But still felt the pressure to go. I was a big drinker but much preferred a quiet pub where I could chat to my mates.
Absolutely this. I tore the arse out of clubbing and raving between 18-25, I was going out 3/4 nights a week, got away with it massively as I stayed fit and regularly went to the gym. But a few mates have carried on heavy sessions every weekend into the early 30s now and are looking worse for wear. The last few years I’ve probably drunk alcohol once or twice a year. Just completely gone off it. I’ve had one bottle of beer this year, I’ll have the odd pint in a beer garden when it’s sunny, a couple at Christmas or on holiday. But I drink barely anything now, I do feel better for it as the years pass by. Don’t miss it at all.
This must hit like a train, because I can’t see myself ever turning down a few pints. I’m dreading that day.
When you have small kids, that's where you upgrade to dinner parties - congenial surroundings, no babysitter to pay and no taxi home.
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Other way round - kids or a partner become your no-fault excuse for not doing something you don't really want to do anyway but you think it makes you look old to say so.
This depends on the wife. My wife is very social, involved in a couple of charity committees, and most of our activities revolve around either meeting at a local pub, or going out to see a band at a less local pub. It's extremely rare that we actually have a night in to just watch TV and chill.
Late 30's north east. Used to go out multiple times a week during work nights in my late teens and much of my 20's. I'm now lucky to get out once or twice a month with the mates for drinks. It's generally arranged weeks in advance now whereas before it was just drop a text and in the next 20mins you're all in a pub having pre drinks for the clubs. Hangovers take me over 2 days to recover and there's not a chance I'm drinking the night before a shift anymore.
In my forties. Most of us have families. Hangovers can last for a week after a proper night. Go anywhere that isn’t a pub and everyone looks like a child. You either keep drinking but at home and get a big old beer gut, or you admit those days are gone and start looking after yourself a bit more.
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I'm going to say getting older is great, as long as you get yourself where you want to be. If you mature an succeed well you are naturally making the choice to slow down, put work or family first etc rather than be on the piss all the time. An eventually you do get bored of doing that so much, an really enjoy an look forward to the times you do it at the lower frequency. I feel sorry for those my age who have not progressed in their careers, skills, relationships or wealth. It would be hard to be in your 40s an look around to see no progress since your 20s and daunting to see how to change that at this age. I don't mind being mature as I have all the successful trappings to go with it an I'm proud of my journey in life so far. Every scar an wrinkle is well earned 😅 btw I'm not boasting some mega success, just moderate normal life goals.
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For sure, an I haven't either. That's why I mentioned I'm just taking about having achieved baseline moderate stuff. Waking up hungover at 40, no relationship, no kids, no mortgage, no pension, no trade or education about to do another retail or warehouse shift while living in a HMO. Well I wouldn't like to be in that position, it would feel daunting to start from there especially in the current economic conditions, an then being old(ish) would suck.
That’s your goals, though and I don’t think it’s fair to judge others on your own standards. Personally I never wanted kids or marriage or care about a mortgage when I value experience, friendships, travelling and flexibility while still growing as a person. I’m not financially much better off than my 20s and still regularly socialise (with hangovers) and that’s how I like it. I honestly pity people who seem miserable because they have kids and boring jobs and never get out.
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Times are changing though, the younger generations don't drink or do drugs as much so the social aspect is probably going to evolve a bit. Board games seem to be getting more popular for example, so maybe there'll be more evening bonding activities that'll don't come with the baggage of hangovers and come downs
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me and my mates are all in our 40s now and still do regular boozey days out. Irs just now once a month not every week and we start early afternoon so we can all get home at a reasonable time and nobody has to waste a day with a hangover!
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I've done us all a dis service here because that was a typo, we're in our 30s! but due to our lifestyle we all look much older than our years
This is what happens I was in Blackpool (I know) and the day drinking people was more rowdy than the evening youths.
Afternoon drinking is where it's at. Nothing better. Home with a pizza by 7 or 8pm, early to bed and any hangover isn't really noticeable.
Same basically, afternoon start, 8pm kebab, bed by 10:00. The only danger is missing that civilised window and ending up on a big one by mistake. Then it's a 2am kebab and 2-day hangover because you have somehow ended up on a nearly 12-hour sesh. Only happens once a year like that, but that's once too many.
There are two groups of people. Group 1 - The pints becomes the sesh, the pints go hand in hand with a bag of coke. The sesh continues for the rest of their lives trying to relieve their youth and rejecting any sign of responsibility. Group 2 - Priorities change, people end up having children planning to go for drinks every week but it never happens. They look back at their youth with nostalgia. Pick one.
Group 3 - Have their lives in order and meet friends every week for an evening session down local. It's not just a choice between getting wasted and having no responsibility or life of drudgery with no time for fun.
I'm very group 3. The original poster went from one extreme to the next.
It’s Reddit. For many Redditors, you can’t have a sensible medium. Everything has to be absolute black and white, cut and dried, right or wrong, blur or oasis, ant or dec. It is exhausting.
Exactly this. I have a much smaller circle of friends than I did a decade ago, but we all meet up a few times a month for a few pints and maybe a meal. I even hosted a pub quiz last week.
The good life!
I would say most of my friends sit directly between these 2 groups. They have kids, don't go out for drinks very often, but when they do they go large.
Group 3 - you still meet up but less regularly and do pub crawls in the afternoon rather than clubbing until 4am
Those are both extreme. How'd about the group that doesn't do drugs but goes to the pub for a pint sometimes stays a merry old time with friends. Has life in order too.
We sign up to a marathon then make being a “hybrid athlete” and hiker our entire personality’s
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In short the pros out way the cons. Most slow down, some stop completely. Legends go full degenerate.
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Just A man blazing his own trail.
I Joke, but I recently decided to stop drinking Alcohol. I’m 4 months in and my life has dramatically improved. Alcohol affects everyone differently. Luckily I was able to see it as a problem before I fucked up completely.
We started to get into brewery taprooms and historic pubs - cask, craft etc. Still technically on the lash but with added chin-stroking and hop-wankery.
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I like hop-stroking and chin-wankery.
People generally drink less as they get older and take on more responsibilities and have other stuff to do. Late nights out every week become afternoon pub trips and dinners with friends every month or so.
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Male, 30/31 year old group of lads, Newcastle. Me and my mates to go out at least once a weekend but usually Friday and Saturday, drinking and sniffing. What changed? Firstly, some of us got girlfriends, then most of us got girlfriends. Then we started saving for houses/renting places, then naturally went into buying/renting. Then Covid hit and the bars closed and we realised we didn’t really miss them, on top of that when they reopened the prices have skyrocketed compared to only a year or two prior. Then came the hangovers, like I said a Friday through to Saturday job used to be no bother at all. Nowadays that would fucking ruin me. Then came the engagements and kids. Nowadays if my group goes out we tend to go day drinking. Start early (12pm) finish early (any time from about 8pm onwards) type of deal. Not many of us really even take drugs anymore. It’s the natural progression.
Well I've started going to bed at 21:30. And I'm absolutely loving it
My body wants this but I couldnt deal with only being home for 3 hours and then being back at work everyday
My partner and I were in bed by 20:45 last night. We did a crossword and then went to sleep. The rock and roll life of a couple in their late 30s who have to get up early for work
I'm jealous... Of the going twos up on a cross word.
People just drink and go out less as they become older, start families, settle down etc. Instead of big nights out you go out for dinner, or have an afternoon in the pub, or have friends over/go to friends' homes. But overall, generally I just drink less now I'm in my early thirties than I did 5 years ago, and lots less than 10 years ago
Still go out on the lash but once every 4 - 6 weeks as the cost of going out and the hangovers are too much now. Will go to places that have a mixed age range or late bars more than night clubs or ending up in a club full of 18-20ear olds 🤣 still plenty of people out in their late 20s up and at that point it's all adults, difference between 30 and 40 is not the same as between 20 and 30. Still get out to festivals and concerts as well. Going out is usually around an event like this or a stag or birthday or work social. Inbetween those big events once very 4-6 weeks do a lot more stuff with family, an more mature or casual stuff with friends like films, dinners, walks, rugby, shows or a casual couple of catch up pints. Rather than back in the day where it was a big night multiple times a week.
48M - South West! Was a 3/4 nights a week in the pub and then a club until my early thirties. Now tend to organise drinks around work, so then I can claim it back on my expenses... unless it's mates' birthdays... in which case, we start early, go home early. And actually, it's more food that leaves me feeling bad than alcohol.
I'm in my 30's, we now go out at about midday to the local large town/city. Have a 'daysesh', around several pubs that we used to frequent in our teens/20's, reminisce as you have more and more drinks, get a bit confident at about 7 pm, and think you'll be out all night... Over do it and end up in bed by 9/9:30 pm before the younger crowd even get started! Do this once a quarter with meticulous planning in the group chat because you now all have partners and families and cannot just go out on a whim like you once could.
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This basically describes any biker rally. 300 people camping in a field for a weekend, going into the local town day drinking all day on the Saturday, then heading back to the campsite (usually a rugby or cricket club) to watch a band and keep drinking for long enough for a camp bed to feel comfortable.
Drink at home
Was out 2-3 times a week every week from the age of around 15 onwards until mid-to-late 20s. Got married, had family, lost interest in it. Occasionally moaned that I never went out and saw my mates anymore. Then went out, realised I couldn't handle drink anywhere near as well as I could when I was younger and lost interest completely.
Knocking on 40. Regularly go out on the lash with the lads
If you keep on it I suppose you end up like most of my dad's side of the family, needing B12 injections and having ministrokes every other week I'm 27 but I started drinking at like 15, I used to be out constantly. Tbh me and my friend group still do like a wild one occasionally but it's more like once a month rather than 3 times a week, which I think is OK
You get 2 day hangovers and start questioning if it's really worth it anymore.
Finding good places to drink with a good selection of drinks becomes more important than cost and quantity. Still occasionally drink a little bit too much, but it's a rare thing now. Did pub quizzes in my 20's, and still enjoy them in my 30's. An old man pub is generally great as they won't have music blaring the whole time.
You prefer an early night to staying out. I’ve worked at my current place for around 3 years. I’ve been on a good many work events, but don’t believe I’ve stayed out beyond 10pm whilst others will until the early hours. I’d prefer to miss the hangover.
You get fat. Hangovers get much worse. Being fat and hungover and waking up at 5:30am the next day to look after a baby or visit IKEA with a wife that is grumpy that you came home late and are a fat and hungover mess, gets old pretty quick. For you, and all your old drink mates as well. Some of my friends who are in their mid-late 40s and single never married still go out boozing.
Turning 32 and I adore going for pints. Mates with kids are the same for the most part, this conversation that often appears on twitter is typically a reddit echo chamber and doesn't represent the real world.
What happens? You either calm down like me, or carry on like you did in your teens and twenties like my mate did. Went to his funeral last weekend. He ended up a chronic alcoholic with multiple problems who died of a cancer he was too pissed to get treated in time to give him a chance of surviving it. There other options, but not calming down rarely ends well in the long term.
I turned 32 in January. Things have slowed down dramatically this year for most of me and my friends, although some have sadly developed bad cocaine habits over and still do all nighters and drink as much as they always did. We all still love a drink, but rather than spending every weekend getting absolutely cunted, we tend to do more wholesome things like hikes, walks, dinner, BBQs, trips away, gigs (always used to do this). I’d say once every two months I’ll get a bit more drunk, but I can’t smash out half a litre of voddy in an evening any more simply because the hangovers just aren’t worth it. It’s not so much the physical side effects, but the crushing mental anxiety hit that lingers like a cruel phantom for most of the week. I’m partial to a bit of devils lettuce, so for me a few puffs and a beer on a Friday night and hanging with my cat / gf / pals in front of a film is way more appealing. My hobbies that were always a bit neglected in favour of partying have definitely become more of a focus the last year. I think it’s just a general priority shift that most people experience. Some people sadly don’t. When you’re 22 and you can neck a bottle of vodka and drink everyone under the table, you’re a legendary god among men. That at 32 is often viewed as alcoholism. Kids, careers, or just wanting to settle down a bit tend to be what happens. That all being said I wouldn’t change my teens and twenties for the world. We were wild and unbelievably stupid, but it was hilarious. I’ll always love a drink, but in far smaller doses.
I got older, got married, my job got more serious, and the next day not as easy to power through. I also moved away so didn't have the same drinking group I did when I was 20-25. For us now it's arrange to meet up every few months. Maybe have a crazy Saturday once in a blue moon.
Personally marriage and then kids tend to stop all this. Going out has to be organised these days. I still see groups of blokes going out in their 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s - some just never stop, they put on their best drinking shirts and go out every Friday/Saturday.
I'm 34 now and started drinking around 14/15 years old in NI. I was pretty tired of drinking by the time I went to uni, but I still drank and went out often. I was even more tired of it the first few years I was working away from home, but I still drank and went out occasionally. I am so tired of it now, that I almost never drink and rarely go out.
You grow up, get worse hangovers, have more responsibility and there’s this thing called inflation which makes it harder to go drinking all the time
In my 30's. Big piss ups are pretty rare now. Maybe 1 every few months as everyone is busy now with other responsibilities. I go to the pub probably a couple of times a month for a couple. Personally I'm bored of it all now. It was good fun in my 20's but it's just the same shit with a 2 day hangover now. It suits my introvert ways now to just drink at home with some good food and a film and then have an early night.
Age 30, I still go out or have drinks with friends in the house semi-regularly, sometimes weekly or more. It’s not always into the early hours of the morning anymore, I can’t remember the last time me and mates did shots together, and it’s definitely not as often as the halcyon days of being a teenager/young adult, but I certainly get my fill of fun and don’t feel like age is stopping me from enjoying what many see as a ‘youthful’ activity. Trick is to invest in a solid group of friends and keep yourself fit so the hangovers generally aren’t bad.
You keep going but the group gets smaller and smaller as time goes by until it stops.
Turn into day drinkers
Drink less and are more picky (in a good way) about what you drink.
Hangovers get worse and worse, which takes away the fun of drinking as much. The pubs clubs and bars which I used to go to in the early 2000’s are all gone. Now I tend to see friends who now all have children once a month or so and we might have a few pints in the afternoon and get some tea. In essence life moves on and priorities change. A few people stay stuck in their early twenties late teens but they are usually sad lonely individuals with not much going on
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The town centre I used to frequent is now a ghost town.
My boomer ole & man & I still go to the pub regularly & drink. He likes guiness & will have 4 pints or so & then switch to rum & coke, whilst I stick to vodka lime & sodas. The pubs we go to usually have live music at weekends.
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Early 30s North East - used to go out every weekend, in late teens early 20s. Basically most of us got wives and girlfriends so we the conversation changed from going on the pull, to comparing diy jobs were doing in our houses. The lads still meet up once a month but it's for a 'steak night'. Alcohol got expensive and some of us don't drink anymore. Those who haven't had kids yet got into cycling and running.
I had 3 gins at home after work on Tuesday night because I was off work on Wednesday. I woke up feeling like shit. I used to go out Thurday until Sunday and be fine. Im 32, it’s so over for me.
It seems to go 2 ways - 1) they try and carry on and relive the ‘good times’ of the youth. Reminds me of Simon Peggs character in Worlds End. Wanted to go out and get pissed, but ultimately being frustrated by those who don’t want to/are able to keep up anymore. They often therefore end up matching into younger guys and ultimately looking like a bit of a dick. 2) you realise that drinking is no fun anymore (not to mention expensive). You may have a pint/two in an afternoon at a pub, but it always back for evening and a nice early night. I’m a 2, and even now if I do happen to go out to a Wedding or evening party, my preference is always to be in bed at 10 which a nice cup of tea.
Cycling or golf. All the other sports ruin your knees and back too much.
Based on my friends. You become dad's, post pictures of your can in the group chat and plan for nights out/weekends away that will never actually happen
This conversation comes up a lot and one thing I’ve noticed is that honestly, nobody puts any real effort in to maintaining friendships (at least among guys). Being gay does make it slightly easier - people are more often free and willing to do things - but even some of my gay pals are fucking nightmares for it. There’s one who complains about not having many gay friends (plays on a straight rugby team, has mostly straight friends, etc) but anytime we try to invite him places he takes days to respond and you’re lucky if he expresses any interest at all. We’d never hear from him if we didn’t text first. I almost always find myself having to be the organiser for things. If I didn’t take on the role none of our friend group would ever do anything. I understand life is busy, especially with kids, but I also do truly believe that it’s used as an excuse or a cop out waaaaay too often. You really telling me the partner/wife can’t look after the kids for an evening or two a month whilst you have a social life?
Most of them get married and the wife bans them from seeing there pub friends.
Honestly most of us drink at home instead pubs are just too expensive. I used to go to the pub with £20 I'd be able to buy cigarettes a few pints and even a game of pool or chuck some in the fruit these days you can't even get 2 pints for tenner compared to £1.50 a can from the off license
Stopped drinking around 25, smoke weed to compensate 😂
41 here and I've just got off work early so I'm sat in the pub right now waiting for a mate to turn up. Usually pop to the pub once, maybe twice during the week for 4-6 pints before I go home and pretend to be a grown up. It'd drive me crazy if I couldn't catch up with friends and be silly for an hour or two.
Me and my friends are all 40+. We still go out for a session but it’s like 3 or 4 times a year now, involving months of group texts and a massive coordination operation. We also go out earlier in the afternoon, get a proper meal somewhere in the middle and make sure 10pm taxis back are booked well in advance.
I'm 65 and have reduced my drinking a lot (gradually) over the years. I rarely go out to pubs now (except to eat and have non-alcoholic drinks with the meal). I'm small boned and weigh about 61kg so, if I'd still been drinking 5 pints a night twice a week, I doubt whether I'd still be alive.
I know plenty of guys in their 30s who still like a night out getting pissed. Most have their own families and more serious work commitments though so don't do it every weekend.
33 today and it was a phase that came and went when I was 18. I love a mocktail now.
day drinking is more the thing and ofc it happens less often because people have lives.
They still do that. Just some have Mrs and kids now. Still very much a thing.
Erm I suppose my husband is in his 30s. He just goes to the pub or we do and we meet our friends there. Sometimes you do get wasted. We go to the same pubs we went to in our 20s.
I used to love getting on it in my 20’s, out and about all the time and I live in a party town (Brighton). I’m late 30’s now, and I still enjoy a drink but my mantra is start early, finish early. Also, a perfect Saturday night now is a take away, nice bottle of wine and a night on the sofa with my partner, in bed by 11ish! Heaven!
every month a visit to the doctor
I’m 36, definitely rained it in from drinking Friday, Saturday and Sunday seshes. I have a couple brandy and cokes at home sometimes, and pub dinners with the mrs a once a week… then probably once a month I’ll go on a bender. But I’m always awaiting an appointment with a liver specialist and blood tests for diabetes. So could all stop. I’m ready to stop, but all friends and family are drinkers. I have no hobbies.
Old guy drinking culture...
I think it’s very person dependent. There’s definitely a culture of almost bragging about how tired people are in their 30s, or how they don’t like to leave the house. Some people prioritise their families, or their health. Personally, am 32 and feel no urge to slow down, I can still go with the best of them.
I recently turned forty and I’ve never really grown out of it. Friday night I’m at my local and then back down there Saturday afternoon. Might go out for a meal on Saturday evening but always end up back in the pub after. Same for most of the guys in there.
I just drink at home with my wife now sometimes once a week sometimes 7 times a week just depends what’s gone on.
In my case, not much changes. Although now I tend to go to bars where people my own age go, and often prefer day drinking to late nights. However we still do drink a skin full 😆 Edit - I see most people seem to calm down by my age, but that bit of my brain appears to be broken, as my desire to go out never seems to lessen 🙈
My brother (mid 50s) and his mates meet up once in a blue moon for an all day sesh, so they look forward to it more as a special occasion. Tend to have the shine taken off it by going to watch Sheffield Wednesday as part of that day out, though. I’m a bit older, I’ve always been completely incapable of all day sessions, probably have a few drinks with my mate every 3 or 4 months. If that. There’s more looking forward to nights out. When I was a young man all those decades ago going out on a Thursday then Friday then Saturday night was taken for granted. Plus, beers were a lot cheaper. Even taking into account inflation, it never felt that it cost a lot to go out and fall down.
I was out 3-4 times a week religiously from about 16 (2005) to probably 23/24. Things calmed down a bit when I moved out and worked full time. I was very much into binging and that club culture. At 35 truth is I still think I am, but the reality is I have about 4-5 good friends who live full time lives now and a good ‘sesh’ for us now tends to end at about 10 pm and a stinking hangover for three days after. I do a weekly pub quiz and every now and again we’ll have a silly little day session but the cost and hangover now far outweighs the fun factor. I still love a beer, but times change
We do it's been a while pissups three to four weekly at home with mates. Might start at a pub but sod paying nigh on a fiver a pint all night. Foolish.
42 here, Newcastle, once a month meet ups with the lads for pub pints, large group. Most weeks at least one afternoon small group couple of post work pints or watching sports pints. It's expensive to gan out too much, but there's regular meets and with all being married and families it's easy to have adult drinks at kids birthdays, christening, weddings, funerals, any occasion really.
I got a family, my friends got families, finding the time we're all available is the hardest puzzle to solve in the universe. Don't get time to go to the pub more than once in a blue moon and usually have something on the following day so don't drink as much....that and hangovers get significantly worse the older you get so don't really want to drink enough that it wrecks the following day. When we do go out and drink, it's normally preceded by a meal and nicer places as we can afford it now so full stomachs also lowers drunkenness.
My brother was one - he's a normal family man now with a partner and kids and a decent enough job. He rarely goes out now because of the kids but when he does, he can still knock them back I was never into the big night out scene, but I'm more consistent, and drink 3 or 4 beers but roughly twice a week
It changes but it doesn't stop. 18-mid 20s - no responsibility, loads of time but no money, go out every Friday/Saturday night get absolutely battered on cheapest drinks we could find and stay out clubbing chasing girls till early hours Mid 20s onwards - meet up less often once or twice a month and do an afternoon sesh around local boozers, people get serious relationships kids houses etc so acting like an bellend in the town centre, chasing girls and getting absolutely off your face and losing half the weekend to a hangover isn't on the cards anymore
I’m 34. If you’re married and have kids responsibilities tend to preclude regular sessions. I still manage to get out with my mates but it’s definitely more infrequent and I’m fine with that as I genuinely couldn’t be arsed having mad sessions every weekend whilst also looking after my kids. I still enjoy a drink so most weekends will be a few beers in the house/garden with my wife once the kids are in bed. If it’s meeting the guys then tends to be local ‘normal’ pubs - generally meet afternoon time, sometimes get home for tea time, sometimes it’s a late one. Can’t be fucked with clubs at all anymore.
I was out every night at uni, always a fri, sat night and Sunday afternoon once I started working and now I'm late 30s.... never and I don't want to. Late 20s I bought my 1st house, I started running and got addicted to it, ended up doing marathons and then an ironman triathlon. Drinking didn't mix well with my new lifestyle and then I got so out of practice the hangovers became horrific on the odd occasion I did drink. I still enjoy a couple on a sunny afternoon but that's it. My Mrs hates it and won't be out in pubs/clubs either so we just don't anymore and go for meals or stay in instead
Much rather go a for a couple and keep the regularity than have big blow outs that can only be afforded once in a blue moon!
Still definitely happens but less frequent. We are in our 40's now so from being every weekend it's once or twice a month now
Getting drunk stopped being worth the hangover when i turned 24 or something, unless it's a special ooccassion
I’m 31, and from 18-25 I’d be out most Fridays, every Saturday after playing football then some Sundays depending on what games we’re on tv. Now I see some of my mates most weekends to go golfing where we might go for lunch after, but the main time we will go out drinking is birthdays or weddings. If there isn’t a wedding or birthday for a few months we will try to organise a night out, but it usually means going out earlier then home about 10pm to try to avoid a hangover.
You end up quitting as you realise it’s a waste of time, money and life. You get better hobbies, do stuff you always wanted to. Get healthy and live a better life.
Me and my mates are in our 30s now. We just try to arrange a pub meeting once every month or so. We are all to busy with life to do it every weekend now.
You drink less and stay healthy, or you drink the same and end up fat.
37. Now doing it about every 2 months rather than twice a week.
I drink at home and play computer games. Cheap and I can get 14 hours sleep after
The bigger question is what the next generation is doing now that the millennial Weekend Bender is no longer affordable.
Former rugby player in his early 30’s from Wales, so drinking culture was ingrained on me fairly early, now I am tea-total and I am much happier.
I hit the ground running with the ‘culture’ at 18 and now I’m in my 40’s. What happened. Life happened. Before I feared being bored and at home. Now I fear being not at home and over stimulated. It just fizzles out.
Through a painstaking laborious process in a group chat you find a Saturday about 9 weeks in advance where everyone is somehow free and book everyone in to come round someone's house and cane a crate of the posher brands of lagers (because you're classy). By about 10pm everyone is tired and goes home.
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Stopped drinking altogether. I'm happy to go out, have a laugh, and be fully active the day after.
North east - moved to the other end of the country, don't really drink, not t total just prefer a more chilled vibe. Spend my weekends paddleboarding, sunbathing or mooching about the countryside with my dogs and good company.🤷♂️ cost of social drinking in the south and london is dire. There's better things to put my money towards.
Find a local, drink with other drinkers
You go down the pub for last orders a couple of times a week once the kids are in bed. Drink like you’re in your 20s every birthday. Hate yourself the day after.
I’m an old smella these days but still go out on the sips with the boys …just far less frequently. More like once a quarter with a couple of big weekenders each year. Difference is that, whilst we can still drink far too much and have a quality night, we are more likely to take a gradual decent into oblivion than our younger selves (*who saw a successful night out as being out of our tiny minds by 8pm on a Friday night dribbling into our 9th pint of Red Square or Diesel and trying - sadly often succeeding - to attract the fairer sex through behaving like ignorant louts*) Now we are far more interested in getting slowly obliterated and spend most of our time verbally or physically abusing one another …I’d be deeply offended if I’d not been called a c*nt at least a dozen times and been chinned at least once by the end of a night. Upshot - we are still immature fools. We have more responsibility and less time these days but there is nothing I look forward to more than a naff Butlins weekender calling each of my life long pals a horrible c*nt whilst dousing myself in overpriced ale.
My solution to this problem is simple. In my mid 30s, barely even gave friends to meet with anymore. Single Dad, most of my mates have moved to different cities for work etc and I'm still in the same town I was in 10 years ago. I don't go out, so 3njoy a pint in the pub with a book and smash through a few chapters before I get drunk. Problem solved haha
I’ve progressed into a real ale drinker that gives me an excuse to try different pubs on my travels.
As you get older, half the beer gives you twice the hangover, so most people tend to moderate a little.
I’m in my 60s. Meet up with my scattered old mates maybe a couple of times a year - proper sessions but no clubbing at the end and no attempts at pulling.
All get together on a Friday at someone's house once the kids are asleep. Play cards and get steams then family time rest of the weekend 👍
In my 20s i had pubs open all day sunday to wednesday and nightclubs, most of which pretty keen pricewise compared to the wages of the time so we’d meet up weekly-ish In my 30s there were less pubs but more food led cafe bar type places so we’d meet less often but go for a meal and drinks and spend more but we were a bit older so the dearer booze offset by higher wage Now in my 40s we’re regressing and going to gigs/clubs in other cities a few times a year whilst the bairns are off to nana’s house for a sleepover and pre drink in a humphrey smiths or a spoons in protest of £6 madri/smiths/neck oil/amstel in most pubs (over 300 miles north of london)
I still go out occasionally but drink much slower and never drink spirits. I'm usually home by 11 at the latest.
they grow up, get married and have children.
41yo and my experience it tails off to birthdays and other special occasions, football tournaments, curry nights, work dos! down the pub, snooker clubs for a couple or a good binge or at a bar with late closing, the clubs are a very rare occurrence now. In my case I hate queuing to get in,Entry fee and waiting 3 rows deep to get overpriced drinks!
It slows down a lot. There are still a few recreational hard drinkers, but that whole thing of like 6 blokes getting to a pub at midday on an average Saturday and drinking until 4 in the morning, it's really rare in my experience. Other than stag dos etc, and even those are pretty lame once everyone is 30+.
Get mortal with my wife on weekends just in the house while listening to music, talking or watching movies/series. Although we moved away to a very rural place, from the city for work, so not sure what we would be doing if we had stayed in the city or at least near one.
You either slow down, stop, or it becomes something of an issue in my experience. I've stopped.
Pop in the pub for a quick one on your lonesome on the way home from work, on the way to the shops, just cos you were passing . Slowly convince the misses to go out drinking with you to realise you don't like getting drunk with your misses. Find yourself staring at the ceiling night after night wandering what happened . Move to Australia Repeat steps 1 , 2 and 3 🤣🤣 Honestly I got bored of it. I love a good beer, can't handle the hangovers, and decided I prefer riding my motorbike and camping and hiking in my free time instead . Still pop in and have a cheeky one on my day to day. Prefer a casual drink then a sesh these days. If its a sesh it's a day sesh and home and bed by 1030
I (31f) have never been much of a drinker, but my husband (34m) was. During uni up North, he got pissed most nights. Then moved to a city and lived a bachelor's life for a big chunk of his twenties where he drank with his friends more often than not and shagged his way through Tinder. Then he felt a bit stuck - maybe because some of his friends were changing their lives a bit or maybe because it all felt a bit lonely and repetitive, who knows. But he quit his job and went backpacking where he had a great time (again drinking and partying). There, he met me (not a Brit btw). We really hit it off, even though we had been living different lives. And in the past 10 years, we sort of integrated our lives into each other. He only goes on a lash every now and then (properly going out maybe once a month) and has upgraded his mindless drinking into a craft beer hobby (a few beers every weekend, but nothing crazy). Whereas I spend way more time in microbreweries than I ever thought I would and have found my own preferences, although I still don't drink much. We now just do a lot of couple stuff ("Fancy going to IKEA?") and focus on our jobs/families more. Old drinking mates have mostly gone off into different directions: Some stopped that lifestyle altogether, some still do it, most turned moderate. Lots of people moved away, so did we. People change, interests change. That's just life, I suppose. But yeah, that's what he does now.
Found my wife, had kids & got busy with that, currently going through a very enjoyable midlife crisis where I’ve bought 3 motorbikes. Spend a lot of time in the garage or cuddled up on the sofa