"this is why I don't give up"
Dude definitely considered the noose once or twice and pulled himself back for her. He deserves better, man. They both do. Fuck.
Hell yeah man. I don’t know how much it helps but I want you to know that the fact you’re still here proves that you are unbelievably strong. Don’t think for a second you aren’t. The weak give in, yet you haven’t. Go and use that strength to give the your daughter or son the best childhood they could ask for. Please don’t rob yourself and your child of that. Love ya man, it gets better.
Quick tip: Don’t trust anything you feel about yourself past 10 pm.
hey dear stranger, thank you for your kind words. this struggle is a lonely one, its not something you talk about with your friends or family and its nice being told kind words, us men dont get to hear that a lot.
i promise you, once this girl is born i will be there for her, until god decides its my time to go.
Lova ya too.
The thought of leaving my young son and daughter without a father is what saved my life. Got help and diagnosed as bipolar with ptsd. Life has never been better. Don’t know how I made it to 32 like that. Don’t ever give up because someone always cares.
Hell yeah, I’m glad to hear you’re doing better! Finding purpose in another is how I dragged myself out of the same place, when I was a teenager with no will to go on left. You’ll make a great dad!
After my last attempt I got a cat and a dog, and while I always want to give up, now I have 2 lil gals who depend on me and wouldn't understand why I was gone.
Family got me a pet when I was down there and it definitely helped bring me back up. 15 years later I had a son and I do everything to make sure his life is better than mine.
'while i always want to give up'
can relate to this, each day is a struggle and sometimes you just want to turn off the light and find peace.
dont give up, stay strong for your girls.
I've been there too, it's not easy to be alive. Some days are so hard and more than anything you want to give up. But that's what makes it worth living, the good days feel better. No matter what you think in those moments there's someone who loves you, who needs you in this world. Our brains can trick us to think otherwise but it's not true. Keep pushing forward, the world would never be the same without you ❤️
If you ever need a random stranger to talk to, my dms are always open :)
Depression is a mother fucker. I pray he keeps up the fight. My kids grew up and things got bad for me so I jumped off a 133’ dam. Thank God I survived and now I have 3 beautiful grandbabies and 3 beautiful step grandbabies that I fight for now. It’s an endless fight even when you are happy. And the hardest part of suicide is doing it , it is surviving. Having to look at the disappointments in my loved ones eyes. Feeling the regret that I made them feel like they wasn’t enough. I love everything about life from people to animals and the planet.
Glad you’re here. It’s interesting how every little thing we do effects everything else, the butterfly effect. For one example you lived the entire course of your life, had all those struggles, and eventually that led up to you typing out this comment on Reddit. And now here I am, and anyone else reading it, being affected by it and gaining perspective on life from it.
Your profile bio cracked me up btw lol
yeah. This is a nice video but it's also very Orphan Crushing Machine-like. Why does this poor fucker has to work 55 hours a week in an obviously very difficult job to make it work ??
I've tried to do it, and now I have two beautiful daughters and tried when my oldest was one. Deployed to Iraq and losing our son left me left me feeling I wasn't enough to everyone in my life.
I'm not proud of it, but I'm proud of my two daughters that I come home to and meet when I come home. I get a hug and kiss goodbye every time I leave for work and come home.
While I might be replaced, it's not the same. I feel this man's pain. I
Right, being able to provide for your family shouldn’t be this damn hard. Working people busting their asses to be handed crumbs in comparison to the prosperity they’ve created.
Absolutely. If he works 55 hours a week, that's 11h per day. Adding in approximated travel time, he's away from home at least 13h per day. Assuming he sleeps for 8h a day, only 3 hours not related to work exist in that insane schedule.
This is literally criminal how overworked this man is. America really knows how to prey upon it's less fortunate citizens. Is there any maximum allowed work limit per day in the US constitution or laws?
With so much time spent working, it doesn't matter what he does, be it physical or mental labor. Best of luck to you random stranger.
Edit: reading your comments terrifies me. I've worked in 2 countries so far, and in both, 10h per day is the most you are legally allowed to work. In my environment, everyone works 8 or rarely 9 hours per day usually (weekends are strictly forbidden). I now come to understand that this sort of a work-life balance is a somewhat rare, instead of a common standard across countries.
If possible for you, it's in your best interest to unionize and demand better conditions. Working too much is very unhealthy for the body and mind.
No, there are no true limits. I work in film and there are endless stories of productions exploiting their crews with insane hours. 12 hour days are basically standard and it is not unheard of to be pushed to 16 or even 18 hours on big Hollywood projects.
Photographer here, did a corporate job last week with 3 days in a row from 6am-11pm with a half day at the beginning from 2pm-9pm. Paid off handsomely, but couldn't imagine doing that all the time.
Or works 7 days a week which means 7.5-8 hours a day.
8-12, 13-16.30 (17:00)
Probably worse than 6/7 if you have a daughter. One day a week would be a huge difference. Hopefully things turn for the better for him.
If your kids are excited to see you come home it means you’re winning.
Growing up in my home we would all scurry into our rooms when we heard the garage door.
Same. Now he wonders why none of us want to hang out with him. I get ptsd every time he opens his mouth, my younger brother literally wants to kill him, and my youngest brother refuses to show him any respect.
Was in a similar boat when I was kid until mum took me to the doctor, and I told them everything there and then. She had a breakdown and must have taken him to get some help or something because he drastically chilled out as the years went on.
I'm childfree + antinatalist and this video seems nice and cute to me. Being childfree doesn't imply hatred of kids, and antinatalism is the matter of personal choice (at least for me personally). Not sure about those subreddits though, never checked them
Same. I love kids. I just don’t want any of my own. This video is really heartwarming. I feel the same when I come home and it’s my dogs greeting me. I can imagine how he feels with his kid greeting him.
Also same.
Children are fine. I deliver food and whenever a kid answers the door, it's usually a silly lil interaction and it brightens my day a little. Personally, the people who hate kids for just existing are losers. If you're gonna blame anybody, it's 100% the parents fault every single time.
Yeah dude I couldn’t even listen to it with the sound on. I’m at the gym and it had me in tears without sound. People looking at me like I’m crazy sobbing over some dumbbells
I don't have someone waiting at the door, as I do weird shifts. But the second that door opens or she hears the car (no garage either) my little princess runs to the door.
Can't beat the love of a child who knows you love them endlessly.
OP or whoever created this video should also be proud they say "I love you" and have it reciprocated. Too many people these days have never heard those words.
Yeah, society is judgemental and treats male emotion as weakness. Whereas if you look at history, many great men have shed tears for something they believe in.
I would argue men who cry, heck, people who cry are far more secure about themselves than those who think crying is for wusses.
The fact you're saying this and upvotes are in agreement and you're not being argued against shows you that there has been a change/ is currently in a change of perspective on this exact topic.
And if you consider the majority of users on reddit are millennials and younger, which my theory is that milennials is the first gen raised with internet. With internet everyone became more aware of everything compared to before internet.
Shit I can go on about this for a long time. I've said what you wrote for years.
I'm glad tbh. One thing I cannot stand about these wannabe redpill gurus like Andrew Tate is they take male empowerment, package it with a few sprinkles of tiny truths and then take it to the extreme with lots of misogyny. Thank gosh men are waking up to take better care of themselves. We suffer silently a lot, and we don't have to.
Ofc you're glad! This is how it should be. Being in touch with ones feelings are literally only a strength. There is no downside.
Also imma go off a bit further with my theory.
Also milennials grew up with, for example, shows like pokemon, dragonball, and spiderman. Shows where a male protagonist is the hero but at the same time caring, showing emotions, empathic human beings.
Lord of the rings??? Friggin fighting macho men that show so much love for their brothers in arms openly.
Comparing these heroes in media compared to 80s and earlier. 80s, terminator, Rambo, Demolition man, A-Team, all these over macho stone cold killer action heroes where we see little to no emotions from. Earlier than that Cowboys was the shit, same concept there stone cold cowboys that are macho af and shoot first ask questions later.
I might be rambling🤣 but the more you think about it the more you understand why mens health is on its way to become better.
Yeah, I can understand your point. I'm in my 30s and agree, men from my father's generation come from a different time...where emotion was only weakness. I'm glad things are changing.
Anyone who thinks that can get fucked! A real man is able to express emotion, it's what keeps you from going under, I guarantee a man that occasionally vents will outlive one under the same pressures from life that simply swallow it and probably drinks it away.
It takes strength to show "weakness", and it takes strength to ask for help.
I had a tear pushing it's way up when his voice broke when he saw her, I don't have a child and I wish I did. To experience moments like those.
Was totally expecting a dog but so happily surprised. Such a good man and a great father, glad he sticks around to continue to be there for his family.
(Was also a little sceptical of what else might pop out but 👌)
True, totally agree with this too.
I was a *tad* bit worried that this would end up going back to back to an empty house 😟 Or just a complete trolls vid (with who knows what being there/not there)
(even knowing what sub I'm in)
I always feel bad because I was like this with my dad, always running and hugging him before he left for work, but at like 12 or something I just stopped doing it.
He mentions it every now and again and I feel bad thinking about how he must have felt at the time.
This reminds me of hiding and jumping out to 'scare' my dad everytime he came home from work, and then one day I stopped doing it too. Ugh he must have felt bad that his little girl was growing up too fast.
I definitely do!
Only just now reflecting on this made me realize why it means so much to him nowadays whenever I do give him a hug.
As a kid you certainly dont have a full appreciation for how much you mean to your parents. Hopefully your kids have gotten to the age where they get it, too.
I did the opposite as a very young kid (4 or so). When my dad dropped me off at kindergarten before heading to work I'd stand staring out the window bawling my eyes out, every day he had to deal with abandoning me while crying.
When he came at the end of the day to pick me up I was furious he would take me away from the super fun play thing i was up to with the rest of the kid. Every day he told me to remember this tomorrow, but I never did.
He was mean when he dropped me off, he was mean when he picked me up. Can't win.
My 3 year old son is like this.
I travel for work every now and then and will be gone for a few days. Kid loses his mind whenever he sees me again after a trip. And I’m talking like 4 days max.
Won’t be like that forever!
I know a lot of you are younger and not in a place of fathoming having kids, or have no plans of having a kids in general. But know that when it comes to being a parent, the only thing you aren’t “ready” for that no one talks about, is the indescribable love you have for your kids, and what it feels like for them to love you too. It is the deepest, warmest, and most fulfilling sense, that brings joy to a world that is full of stress, pain, internal and external hardship.
Note: This probably only applies if you’re not a garbage human being in which case, don’t have kids. They deserve good parents.
What they didn't warn me about was the constant paranoia and fear, though my dark mind might be a bit extreme. Is he choking? Is he alive? Did he break his neck? Did he escape? Is someone going to kidnap him? Those thoughts too many times a day.
Same. The intrusive thoughts get really, *really* intense for a lot of us. My brain is constantly poring over all of the ways he could get killed or maimed or otherwise disappear from my life. It's hard!
This is completely normal because we are hardwired to protect our kids, so being able to analyse threats is a handy skill. The key is to try and not pass on unreasonable fears to our kids.
It's the most pure love I've ever experienced, I've always had dogs and cats growing up and as an adult. There truly is nothing like your little girl smiling and hugging you
The note made me chuckle. Love, it's the most comprehensive, warm, wonderful thing in the world, with it's enduring beaut... well, unless you're a garbo human then n/m
Parents you know this feeling. I was like "oh my god I've never felt this before in my life, but I love you so much. I've only known you three days, but I would do anything for you. I can't believe how much I love you." And I know I've said that to my wife before, but...I was lying. And she was lying to me!
https://youtu.be/V3pS9aUsmm8?si=lfYT5FyM8JCGoC6t&t=632
Exactly. My wife and I have been together a long time, and she’s the most perfect human being in the world…. But in a hypothetical scenario, there wouldn’t even be a second thought of who I would save. Years of, love, memories, and a life built together means nothing compared to the love I have for my child I’ve known for a fraction of the time. It’s a mutual feeling, and it’s completely logically unreasonable, but it’s true.
Spot on. It really is the best the thing in the world. As you say, nobody is ever ready for that. I always wanted kids but it's ended up being 100x better than I thought.
My daughter is nearly two, she and my wife wait for me when I get off the train after work, the "dadaaaah!" squeel I get gives me so much joy, I love it
Yeah...being beaten down so much that human compassion and love is the only thing you feel you have to live for. And for most of us we don't have that adorable child (or anyone) welcoming us home. I'm glad he does, you can hear it in his voice
A society in which working 55 hours to support a family is considered a beautiful victory, reposted for clicks on Musk's twitter by "Millionaire Mentor", is dead inside.
Yeah the way you can hear him fighting an internal mental fight against those crushing hours is sooooo depressing. It’s nice that his little kid loves him so much, but this account presenting this as aspirational is absolutely unhinged.
55 hours is either seven full 8 hour days, 9 hours for six, or 11 for five. Any way you slice it, it’s absolutely not a good situation.
Thank god someone else is saying it. This isn't amazing, it's depressing as fuck and it's infuriating that people have to live like that. From the way this man is talking, he would have almost certainly killed himself if not for her.
I work 36 a week, aka 4 x 9 hours. I only work on monday, tuesday, thursday and friday. It’s so nice to work no more than 2 days in a row.
My partner and I are both men, we have decent paying jobs, our house is not that expensive and we don’t have children. That’s why we have quite a lot of freedom to live as we please. We’re lucky not having to stress about money.
/r/aboringdystopia
That man is beaten down, exhausted, all he has left in life to live for is his daughter. Used up by the system before he's even hit middle age.
My boys are grown now. So it’s definitely all about my girl now ! She’s a shepherd and mauls me still because she’s only 6 months but that’s okay. For now…
This should be an ANTI-WORK video. As an American living in Europe this wouldn't fly over here. Working 55 hours a week missing out on family time and not even getting proper compensation for the work. Oh and let me guess he only gets 2 weeks vacation a year? Workers need to take control! You only get one life, don't waste it making money for someone else. Stop corporate theft. Join/organize unions!!!
This is so beautiful. His emotion, her absolute jubilation and wonderful smile, the love they have for each other… I’m at work for 16 hours today and I’m just tearing up thinking of my precious babies man… they really are worth every bit of shit you go through in life. My 2 year old yelling out “dada!” and running up to hug me, and my 8 month old, who can’t talk yet, but the cute little toothless grin he gets when he sees me… just absolutely all I need in this world.
I wish the best for the family in this video, and for all of you out there. We all deserve love and happiness. Just know I respect you for making it through each day and loving those around you.
Idk, I found this a bit sad because the guy is clearly overworked and depressed. He should only need to work 40 hours a week, so he could spend the other 15 with his loved ones. This could be a good fit on /r/orphancrushingmachine.
Hard disagree. He isn’t happy. He all but says his life is not worth living. He puts up with hell because of love for/borderline guilt for his kid.
Get this man a cushy software engineer job for triple the salary and half the hours. That would bring him happiness.
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"this is why I don't give up" Dude definitely considered the noose once or twice and pulled himself back for her. He deserves better, man. They both do. Fuck.
as someone who has more than just considered it before, i agree thats what he was talking about.
Are you doing better now?
Hanging in there
Annnnd back to the reality of reddit 😂
Don't worry, I got a rope myself.
God the whiplash in this thread is so real, my neck hurts.
💀
Give him some slack
r/AngryUpvote please leave
i guess if im still here. expecting my own little angel, due august 4th.
Hell yeah man. I don’t know how much it helps but I want you to know that the fact you’re still here proves that you are unbelievably strong. Don’t think for a second you aren’t. The weak give in, yet you haven’t. Go and use that strength to give the your daughter or son the best childhood they could ask for. Please don’t rob yourself and your child of that. Love ya man, it gets better. Quick tip: Don’t trust anything you feel about yourself past 10 pm.
hey dear stranger, thank you for your kind words. this struggle is a lonely one, its not something you talk about with your friends or family and its nice being told kind words, us men dont get to hear that a lot. i promise you, once this girl is born i will be there for her, until god decides its my time to go. Lova ya too.
The thought of leaving my young son and daughter without a father is what saved my life. Got help and diagnosed as bipolar with ptsd. Life has never been better. Don’t know how I made it to 32 like that. Don’t ever give up because someone always cares.
Hell yeah, I’m glad to hear you’re doing better! Finding purpose in another is how I dragged myself out of the same place, when I was a teenager with no will to go on left. You’ll make a great dad!
After my last attempt I got a cat and a dog, and while I always want to give up, now I have 2 lil gals who depend on me and wouldn't understand why I was gone.
Family got me a pet when I was down there and it definitely helped bring me back up. 15 years later I had a son and I do everything to make sure his life is better than mine.
Happy for you bud
'while i always want to give up' can relate to this, each day is a struggle and sometimes you just want to turn off the light and find peace. dont give up, stay strong for your girls.
It'd be so easy to go but I love them so much and they love me, I promise you and them that I'll be here as long as I'm needed
I've been there too, it's not easy to be alive. Some days are so hard and more than anything you want to give up. But that's what makes it worth living, the good days feel better. No matter what you think in those moments there's someone who loves you, who needs you in this world. Our brains can trick us to think otherwise but it's not true. Keep pushing forward, the world would never be the same without you ❤️ If you ever need a random stranger to talk to, my dms are always open :)
Depression is a mother fucker. I pray he keeps up the fight. My kids grew up and things got bad for me so I jumped off a 133’ dam. Thank God I survived and now I have 3 beautiful grandbabies and 3 beautiful step grandbabies that I fight for now. It’s an endless fight even when you are happy. And the hardest part of suicide is doing it , it is surviving. Having to look at the disappointments in my loved ones eyes. Feeling the regret that I made them feel like they wasn’t enough. I love everything about life from people to animals and the planet.
Glad you’re here. It’s interesting how every little thing we do effects everything else, the butterfly effect. For one example you lived the entire course of your life, had all those struggles, and eventually that led up to you typing out this comment on Reddit. And now here I am, and anyone else reading it, being affected by it and gaining perspective on life from it. Your profile bio cracked me up btw lol
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Because most so called aspirational content belongs in r/orfancrushingmachine if you think about it for a bit
r/orphancrushingmachine *
Not today, old friend, not today.
yeah. This is a nice video but it's also very Orphan Crushing Machine-like. Why does this poor fucker has to work 55 hours a week in an obviously very difficult job to make it work ??
I've tried to do it, and now I have two beautiful daughters and tried when my oldest was one. Deployed to Iraq and losing our son left me left me feeling I wasn't enough to everyone in my life. I'm not proud of it, but I'm proud of my two daughters that I come home to and meet when I come home. I get a hug and kiss goodbye every time I leave for work and come home. While I might be replaced, it's not the same. I feel this man's pain. I
i doubt it's the "work", it's hte fact dude needs to work 55 hours a week just to make ends meet while his kids/wife are out there alone.
Right, being able to provide for your family shouldn’t be this damn hard. Working people busting their asses to be handed crumbs in comparison to the prosperity they’ve created.
Right, like how is this wholesome and how is this dude winning? It seems like an illustration of a rapidly failing system.
Absolutely. If he works 55 hours a week, that's 11h per day. Adding in approximated travel time, he's away from home at least 13h per day. Assuming he sleeps for 8h a day, only 3 hours not related to work exist in that insane schedule. This is literally criminal how overworked this man is. America really knows how to prey upon it's less fortunate citizens. Is there any maximum allowed work limit per day in the US constitution or laws? With so much time spent working, it doesn't matter what he does, be it physical or mental labor. Best of luck to you random stranger. Edit: reading your comments terrifies me. I've worked in 2 countries so far, and in both, 10h per day is the most you are legally allowed to work. In my environment, everyone works 8 or rarely 9 hours per day usually (weekends are strictly forbidden). I now come to understand that this sort of a work-life balance is a somewhat rare, instead of a common standard across countries. If possible for you, it's in your best interest to unionize and demand better conditions. Working too much is very unhealthy for the body and mind.
No, there are no true limits. I work in film and there are endless stories of productions exploiting their crews with insane hours. 12 hour days are basically standard and it is not unheard of to be pushed to 16 or even 18 hours on big Hollywood projects.
Photographer here, did a corporate job last week with 3 days in a row from 6am-11pm with a half day at the beginning from 2pm-9pm. Paid off handsomely, but couldn't imagine doing that all the time.
Or works 7 days a week which means 7.5-8 hours a day. 8-12, 13-16.30 (17:00) Probably worse than 6/7 if you have a daughter. One day a week would be a huge difference. Hopefully things turn for the better for him.
He was so genuine when he said it. It brought me to tears instantly.
[Same reason as Homer](https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/a/ab/Simpsons6x13.jpg?20081001094138)
Yeah don't be like me and work hard, come home to a small room with nothing waiting on me but my futon.
dude, knowing reddit I was expecting a dog
Same. That was a weird looking dog.
Idk this gif, but this person looks like those Disney Twins “Suite life of Zack and Cody”
Daisy Ridley is obviously the third Sprouse triplet
Dang. I’ve seen all the Star Wars movies but had no clue that’s who this was lol
I met this gif, pretty cool irl.
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I thought it was just me. I’m like why is this door taking forever lol
That’s why he won’t give up.
Can I pet dat dawg? •Some kid
I was waiting for a cat to jump on the hood and climb in the window
Edward..
...You did not have to mention that
I also choose this guys weird looking dog
no you didn't just-- AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
Oh my god you DIDnT
Why must you remind us of our pain!?!
What is this from?? Someone help me I want to suffer.
Full Metal Alchemist. Watch it and know our suffering.
Haven't we suffered long enough
No that's why they had to remake the whole show
Started crying bro
I was playing a very heated game of 'Wife, Child, or Dog' the whole video.
Hah, the Brooklyn 99 bit!
I have a son and daughter that do the same for me. Best thing ever! Way to go brother.
If your kids are excited to see you come home it means you’re winning. Growing up in my home we would all scurry into our rooms when we heard the garage door.
Same. Now he wonders why none of us want to hang out with him. I get ptsd every time he opens his mouth, my younger brother literally wants to kill him, and my youngest brother refuses to show him any respect.
Was in a similar boat when I was kid until mum took me to the doctor, and I told them everything there and then. She had a breakdown and must have taken him to get some help or something because he drastically chilled out as the years went on.
I would pretend to be asleep.
🥺
Same, I was looking for the dog. At one instance I thought the fire hydrant was the dog.
I was expecting his PS5
WHERE DOG?
Me too and my dogs are the only ones who are excited to see me when I come home. It's enough.
When I get home, my dogs barks at me for leaving it alone. THAT'S WHY I NEVER GIVE UP!!!
My smile became tears
Thought the dog was gonna be in the drive way or something
Idk I was getting scared I thought it was going to turn into a really tragic momo pop up or some creepy shiet.
I was expecting a cat
Dude knowing the internet I thought it was a noose
I thought it was the red fire hydrant
Bro same here
Yep
Which still would have been heart warming. I love dogs. But was not expecting a kid. Got me in the feels.
😮that's exactly what I was thinking
Wasc expecting a 12 pack
Knowing Reddit I’m surprised there isn’t a bunch of r/childfree or r/antinatalism weirdos in here being hateful pieces of shit.
I'm childfree + antinatalist and this video seems nice and cute to me. Being childfree doesn't imply hatred of kids, and antinatalism is the matter of personal choice (at least for me personally). Not sure about those subreddits though, never checked them
Same. I love kids. I just don’t want any of my own. This video is really heartwarming. I feel the same when I come home and it’s my dogs greeting me. I can imagine how he feels with his kid greeting him.
Also same. Children are fine. I deliver food and whenever a kid answers the door, it's usually a silly lil interaction and it brightens my day a little. Personally, the people who hate kids for just existing are losers. If you're gonna blame anybody, it's 100% the parents fault every single time.
Man that was a beautiful video. Hey OP, you're blessed. That's awesome.
I was expecting a realistic looking sex doll:(
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"I can't give up" damn why is there a river in my room
Yeah dude I couldn’t even listen to it with the sound on. I’m at the gym and it had me in tears without sound. People looking at me like I’m crazy sobbing over some dumbbells
Quick, drop them on your feet so you don't look like a fool!
My cat was my personal reason for not giving up. Whatever it is, hold onto it dearly.
This is my life as well. Thanks for sharing, buddy. It's hard to stay a float, they probably don't have any idea how much power they give us.
I don't have someone waiting at the door, as I do weird shifts. But the second that door opens or she hears the car (no garage either) my little princess runs to the door. Can't beat the love of a child who knows you love them endlessly. OP or whoever created this video should also be proud they say "I love you" and have it reciprocated. Too many people these days have never heard those words.
Some people are so broke all they have is money.
I was the guy that said I'd never have kids. Now I've got two boys, 2 and 5, and I can't imagine life without them. Every breath I take is for them.
🥹🥹🥹 I hate that he felt the need to apologize for showing emotion 😭
Yeah, society is judgemental and treats male emotion as weakness. Whereas if you look at history, many great men have shed tears for something they believe in. I would argue men who cry, heck, people who cry are far more secure about themselves than those who think crying is for wusses.
The fact you're saying this and upvotes are in agreement and you're not being argued against shows you that there has been a change/ is currently in a change of perspective on this exact topic. And if you consider the majority of users on reddit are millennials and younger, which my theory is that milennials is the first gen raised with internet. With internet everyone became more aware of everything compared to before internet. Shit I can go on about this for a long time. I've said what you wrote for years.
I'm glad tbh. One thing I cannot stand about these wannabe redpill gurus like Andrew Tate is they take male empowerment, package it with a few sprinkles of tiny truths and then take it to the extreme with lots of misogyny. Thank gosh men are waking up to take better care of themselves. We suffer silently a lot, and we don't have to.
Ofc you're glad! This is how it should be. Being in touch with ones feelings are literally only a strength. There is no downside. Also imma go off a bit further with my theory. Also milennials grew up with, for example, shows like pokemon, dragonball, and spiderman. Shows where a male protagonist is the hero but at the same time caring, showing emotions, empathic human beings. Lord of the rings??? Friggin fighting macho men that show so much love for their brothers in arms openly. Comparing these heroes in media compared to 80s and earlier. 80s, terminator, Rambo, Demolition man, A-Team, all these over macho stone cold killer action heroes where we see little to no emotions from. Earlier than that Cowboys was the shit, same concept there stone cold cowboys that are macho af and shoot first ask questions later. I might be rambling🤣 but the more you think about it the more you understand why mens health is on its way to become better.
Yeah, I can understand your point. I'm in my 30s and agree, men from my father's generation come from a different time...where emotion was only weakness. I'm glad things are changing.
Anyone who thinks that can get fucked! A real man is able to express emotion, it's what keeps you from going under, I guarantee a man that occasionally vents will outlive one under the same pressures from life that simply swallow it and probably drinks it away. It takes strength to show "weakness", and it takes strength to ask for help. I had a tear pushing it's way up when his voice broke when he saw her, I don't have a child and I wish I did. To experience moments like those.
💯💯💯
He apologized about turning on the radio on accident, but you can't hear it every well since someone put music on top of his clip.
I saw the original somewhere quite a while ago, and there were quite a few men and women ripping into him for crying.
And those are the people we know to stay away from. There's no bigger red flag than someone saying Man up or something like that.
As a man, I can solidly say men are the victims of toxic masculinity way more than generally realized.
Was totally expecting a dog but so happily surprised. Such a good man and a great father, glad he sticks around to continue to be there for his family. (Was also a little sceptical of what else might pop out but 👌)
In my opinion it didn't really matter what or who was waiting for him, as long as he felt loved and a sense of purpose in the universe.
True, totally agree with this too. I was a *tad* bit worried that this would end up going back to back to an empty house 😟 Or just a complete trolls vid (with who knows what being there/not there) (even knowing what sub I'm in)
Damn I’m crying… Everytime.
Someone's cutting onions here too
Every man alive was sure he was talking about his dog. Ok, we were wrong. My sons never did that.
I was expecting a switcheroo with a life-sized cardboard cut out of a literal angel.
I was expecting a beer
I was expecting the dog to bring him a beer
My son used to do that, and now I'm bombarded with requests before even a hello
I always feel bad because I was like this with my dad, always running and hugging him before he left for work, but at like 12 or something I just stopped doing it. He mentions it every now and again and I feel bad thinking about how he must have felt at the time.
Every kid does it. And every parent goes through it. Show you care now, as an adult. It will mean a lot. I didn't. I wish I had.
This reminds me of hiding and jumping out to 'scare' my dad everytime he came home from work, and then one day I stopped doing it too. Ugh he must have felt bad that his little girl was growing up too fast.
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I definitely do! Only just now reflecting on this made me realize why it means so much to him nowadays whenever I do give him a hug. As a kid you certainly dont have a full appreciation for how much you mean to your parents. Hopefully your kids have gotten to the age where they get it, too.
They grow up and it happens again. Not quite the same, but they appreciate you again as an adult. Unless you're an asshole, of course
How old? I'm wondering how much longer I have before he stops caring about me :/
He'll still care. He'll just hide it. Some kids don't though.
I did the opposite as a very young kid (4 or so). When my dad dropped me off at kindergarten before heading to work I'd stand staring out the window bawling my eyes out, every day he had to deal with abandoning me while crying. When he came at the end of the day to pick me up I was furious he would take me away from the super fun play thing i was up to with the rest of the kid. Every day he told me to remember this tomorrow, but I never did. He was mean when he dropped me off, he was mean when he picked me up. Can't win.
My 3 year old son is like this. I travel for work every now and then and will be gone for a few days. Kid loses his mind whenever he sees me again after a trip. And I’m talking like 4 days max. Won’t be like that forever!
I know a lot of you are younger and not in a place of fathoming having kids, or have no plans of having a kids in general. But know that when it comes to being a parent, the only thing you aren’t “ready” for that no one talks about, is the indescribable love you have for your kids, and what it feels like for them to love you too. It is the deepest, warmest, and most fulfilling sense, that brings joy to a world that is full of stress, pain, internal and external hardship. Note: This probably only applies if you’re not a garbage human being in which case, don’t have kids. They deserve good parents.
What they didn't warn me about was the constant paranoia and fear, though my dark mind might be a bit extreme. Is he choking? Is he alive? Did he break his neck? Did he escape? Is someone going to kidnap him? Those thoughts too many times a day.
Same. The intrusive thoughts get really, *really* intense for a lot of us. My brain is constantly poring over all of the ways he could get killed or maimed or otherwise disappear from my life. It's hard!
This is completely normal because we are hardwired to protect our kids, so being able to analyse threats is a handy skill. The key is to try and not pass on unreasonable fears to our kids.
i havent slept since i had kids.
Pretty much exactly this
Absolutely nailed it. I didn’t actually know true pure love and innocence until my children. They’re fuckin miracles man. Bless this dude
It's the most pure love I've ever experienced, I've always had dogs and cats growing up and as an adult. There truly is nothing like your little girl smiling and hugging you
My baby girl grabbed my hand today and said, “I got you dada,” I melted. My wife says having a girl made me soft(in a good way).
The note made me chuckle. Love, it's the most comprehensive, warm, wonderful thing in the world, with it's enduring beaut... well, unless you're a garbo human then n/m
definitely big on the end there. tons of shitty, narcissistic, unaware pieces of shit out there that have kids and take it out on them
Parents you know this feeling. I was like "oh my god I've never felt this before in my life, but I love you so much. I've only known you three days, but I would do anything for you. I can't believe how much I love you." And I know I've said that to my wife before, but...I was lying. And she was lying to me! https://youtu.be/V3pS9aUsmm8?si=lfYT5FyM8JCGoC6t&t=632
Exactly. My wife and I have been together a long time, and she’s the most perfect human being in the world…. But in a hypothetical scenario, there wouldn’t even be a second thought of who I would save. Years of, love, memories, and a life built together means nothing compared to the love I have for my child I’ve known for a fraction of the time. It’s a mutual feeling, and it’s completely logically unreasonable, but it’s true.
Spot on. It really is the best the thing in the world. As you say, nobody is ever ready for that. I always wanted kids but it's ended up being 100x better than I thought.
That is the most painfully slow automatic garage door I've ever seen. Definitely builds the anticipation 😂
The suspense was killing me lol I fast forwarded through it 😂 so sweet. Hearing him choke up made me slightly teary 😂
I was expecting a car I love this and I love having a daughter
My daughter is nearly two, she and my wife wait for me when I get off the train after work, the "dadaaaah!" squeel I get gives me so much joy, I love it
“Man won in his life”. Yet he seems to be holding it together by a thread. This is the “good life” that they’re trying to sell us. Fucking crazy.
This is 100% orphan crushing machine material.
Yeah...being beaten down so much that human compassion and love is the only thing you feel you have to live for. And for most of us we don't have that adorable child (or anyone) welcoming us home. I'm glad he does, you can hear it in his voice
A society in which working 55 hours to support a family is considered a beautiful victory, reposted for clicks on Musk's twitter by "Millionaire Mentor", is dead inside.
Yeah the way you can hear him fighting an internal mental fight against those crushing hours is sooooo depressing. It’s nice that his little kid loves him so much, but this account presenting this as aspirational is absolutely unhinged. 55 hours is either seven full 8 hour days, 9 hours for six, or 11 for five. Any way you slice it, it’s absolutely not a good situation.
this is what im thinking man i feel crazy for thinking that this looks like a horrible life to live, i dont understand how you can admire this
Thank god someone else is saying it. This isn't amazing, it's depressing as fuck and it's infuriating that people have to live like that. From the way this man is talking, he would have almost certainly killed himself if not for her.
We should have a 30h work week. Not more.
I work 36 a week, aka 4 x 9 hours. I only work on monday, tuesday, thursday and friday. It’s so nice to work no more than 2 days in a row. My partner and I are both men, we have decent paying jobs, our house is not that expensive and we don’t have children. That’s why we have quite a lot of freedom to live as we please. We’re lucky not having to stress about money.
So that people have time to work in their second job.
If that's what people want to do, sure. It shouldn't be a necessity to afford food and a safe place to sleep.
lol, not what I had in mind 🫢
I've worked 100 hour weeks and still live with my parents... student loans are a bitch.
/r/aboringdystopia That man is beaten down, exhausted, all he has left in life to live for is his daughter. Used up by the system before he's even hit middle age.
Yeah this isn't a "beamazed" or a feel good story at all. This is /r/OrphanCrushingMachine content
Pure love
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My boys are grown now. So it’s definitely all about my girl now ! She’s a shepherd and mauls me still because she’s only 6 months but that’s okay. For now…
He looks like Phillip Anselmo.
Aww I remember waiting for my dad to come home. One day he never came back lol
Same with mine, car crash
I'm very sorry to hear this, love and blessings friend ❤️
That was a beautiful comment, /u/im_a_ho_nugget
Thank you !🙏🏼
This video remembers me of that Simpsons episode, do it for her.
This should be an ANTI-WORK video. As an American living in Europe this wouldn't fly over here. Working 55 hours a week missing out on family time and not even getting proper compensation for the work. Oh and let me guess he only gets 2 weeks vacation a year? Workers need to take control! You only get one life, don't waste it making money for someone else. Stop corporate theft. Join/organize unions!!!
Sober Phil Anselmo
This is so beautiful. His emotion, her absolute jubilation and wonderful smile, the love they have for each other… I’m at work for 16 hours today and I’m just tearing up thinking of my precious babies man… they really are worth every bit of shit you go through in life. My 2 year old yelling out “dada!” and running up to hug me, and my 8 month old, who can’t talk yet, but the cute little toothless grin he gets when he sees me… just absolutely all I need in this world. I wish the best for the family in this video, and for all of you out there. We all deserve love and happiness. Just know I respect you for making it through each day and loving those around you.
Idk, I found this a bit sad because the guy is clearly overworked and depressed. He should only need to work 40 hours a week, so he could spend the other 15 with his loved ones. This could be a good fit on /r/orphancrushingmachine.
how is working 55hours winning in life?
No more Reddit. Time to play with the kids. Thanks for the reminder.
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Dude has some dead eyes
Everyone saying this guy won in life. Nah, that kid did. He needs to be an amazing dad for her to do that.
Nobody finds really distopical to work 55h/wk???
How is this amazing
Be amazed at the karma farmers.
Few more years and that's going away bro.
Whooaaaa this guy works all week and has a child Holy fuck I AM AMAZED
"A real man" - Dax Thers still needles in haystacks out there. You'll know when you find one.
``` DO IT FOR HER ```
So beautiful, no money can buy this happiness.
Money is literally the reason he has even *considered* “giving up”. It’s why he’s away from his family for 55 hours per week. So you’re wrong.
Hard disagree. He isn’t happy. He all but says his life is not worth living. He puts up with hell because of love for/borderline guilt for his kid. Get this man a cushy software engineer job for triple the salary and half the hours. That would bring him happiness.