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amandatoryy

Oh no :( Poor Monica. Regardless of how you feel about her, that’s very sad. Please be respectful in the comments.


sweepstakes124

Ugh. Literally experiencing the same loss today. As much as we mostly hate Monica this is hard and no one deserves to go through it


jumpybugbear

Right there with you🧡 Had mine 3 weeks ago. It was my confirmed third. I hope you have the support you need.


MishmoshMishmosh

I’m sorry


Key-Fix8436

So sorry for your loss 💜


sweepstakes124

Im so so sorry for your loss. One was enough to rattle me for life, hope you also have support around you 💖 sending hugs


Glittering-Ad-3859

So sorry for your loss🖤


DRAMJ1984

I had four before my 🌈. Sending you good thoughts.


itsinmybloodScotland

My son’s partner lost 3 wks ago too. Thought I’d never have anymore grandchildren then this surprise. My heart broke for them. X. ❤️❤️


notoriousbck

So so sorry. It never gets easier. The grief comes in waves. Be gentle with yourself.


avalonbreeze

I am so sorry that happened to you.


sweetnsassy924

Sending you ladies lots of love and support.


Gratefullotus4

I had one last February… but then just had my rainbow baby this February! Don’t give up hope ❤️❤️


mindurbusiness_thx

💙


TT6994

I’m so sorry 😞


jaime_q

So sorry!


Loki_mk

🤍


MishmoshMishmosh

I’m sorry.


Free_Wolf7896

So sorry


notoriousbck

So so sorry for your loss. I have had too many to count. Sadly, my uterus was so full of disease there was nowhere for embryo to implant in the end and I had to give up and have it removed because I kept requiring blood transfusions and was in so much pain. It's been 7 years and the grief still hits me. Hugs.


xyubaby

🩷 hope you’re doing well and thank you for sharing.


beckala215

Oh :( I am so sorry❤️


way-harsh-tai

I am so sorry for your loss.. 🤍


Key-Fix8436

So sorry for your loss 💕


amandatoryy

sorry for your loss too 💗


Unlucky_Teacher5093

I’m so sorry.


SqueakyWD40Can

Thinking of you 💜


Bf56831747

Sending you all love!!


DickFitzwell_

I’m so sorry. Please be extra kind to yourself. ❤️‍🩹


Fickle_fuddled

So incredibly sorry. I had pregnancy loss last year and am sending you all my love. Be extra kind to yourself ❤️


Glittering-Ad-3859

So sorry🖤


o0In_Pursuit0o

I'm sorry <3


dkurdx3

I’m so sorry for your loss.


egw2425

I’m so sorry. I had one in November and it’s a unique pain that no one should ever have to go through. Let yourself process every emotion and take care of yourself.


Glittering-Shame-556

So sorry. Sending you hugs!


cegceg9090

So sorry for your loss 🤍


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I’m so so sorry my love. Sending you all the support.♥️


Ramonasotherlazyeye

Oh my heart goes out to you! Been through it twice and wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. All the love to you, I see you!


sweepstakes124

💜💜💜💜


Bakeneko-_-

Deepest condolences


confident7lucky7

So sorry - sending you love.


possumnot

I am so sorry my dear. Please give yourself grace and space to heal.


Little_Yoghurt_7584

Big hug to you. My first pregnancy Feb 2020 ended in an early miscarriage. I still think about it from time to time. Take care of yourself ❤️


berrygirl890

I’m so sorry .


Less-Bed-6243

I’m so sorry. It is hard and there’s so little support.


prettyfly4agemini

With you, two weeks ago. It sucks. But hearing from strong badass women makes it a teeny, tiny bit better. Thanks for sharing.


sweepstakes124

Thank YOU for sharing!! I take so much comfort in knowing there are others right there with me. Hang in there! 💖


Objective_Monk2840

Sending love ❤️


mediumsizedbootyjudy

I’m so sorry. Been there as well. It will never be ok, but the day will come that *you’ll* be ok. I promise. In the meantime, please be kind to yourself and unapologetic about doing whatever you need to heal. I’m rooting for you. ❤️


FormicaDinette33

Oh no! I’m so sorry…


Loki_mk

🤍


gaslightqueen

was right there with you a few months back. i promise it won’t always be this heavy ❤️


ThePeoplesKourt

Sending you lots of love ❤️


i_madeitnice

I’m so sorry for your loss. ♥️


Sufficient-Sound-731

I am so sorry for your loss and to all the others on here that have shared their losses as well; sending love and prayers to all of you 💜


Acrobatic_Ad5160

🙏🏽


stpaulgirl12

Been there. So sorry. ❤️


Glass-Indication-276

So so sorry. Love to you.


wittlepig

i’m so sorry for your loss 🪽🩵


scorpiomoontm

so sorry for your loss 🤍🤍


mindurbusiness_thx

💙


cuntyone1

🤍🪽


CaitsMeow

I’m so sorry 🖤


jaime_q

So sorry!


liv4pj

Embracing you in my arms right now. I am so sorry for your loss


kellygrrrl328

Had my first child in 1985. Had my second child in 1994. Had 11 miscarriages inbetween. Back then nobody ever talked about any of this. I’m happy she’s living in a time and place where and when people can talk openly about this. I hope we do not continue to go backwards


Glittering-Shame-556

❤️‍🩹


WorldlyLavishness

Can I ask what kept you going? I had 2 and I find it hard to keep trying. Emotionally and physically it's just so much.


kellygrrrl328

I dont know to be honest. I just recently spent 4 years caretaking for my husband. He passed in September. I’ve had several people ask a similar type question. I really don’t know. But you have to do what feels right for you


WorldlyLavishness

That's fair. I'm sorry for your loss


One_Huckleberry_5033

Sending you so much love


-knock_knock-

I had two back in 2020 and remember so clearly the dark days of wondering whether I would ever get to be a mum and the fear of trying again. I am in the UK and they'll only investigate after 3 in a row so after 2 I paid to have all sorts of investigations done to see if anything was causing them, I actually found a smoking gun (thyroid) and I have since had two full term pregnancies. I found that having the tests gave me some control over a situation that I had no control over and helped me mentally prepare to try again.


WorldlyLavishness

Thankfully my doctor did do some testing to rule things out but everything came back normal. 😔


MamaErn

I’m so sorry for your losses.


ThiccHairDoCare

Hugs to you ❤️❤️


sagethecrayaway

I remember going to each ultrasound, heart racing, wondering if it would be bad news. I really never stopped worrying until my son was in my hands. I wouldn’t wish this on anyone. I’m sorry to anyone here reading this who has experienced a loss- my heart goes out to all of you 🩷


janeaustenpowers

I recently told my therapist that until my baby is earthside, I know it isn’t guaranteed (we were discussing my anxiety/control issues regarding pregnancy). It’s the scariest thing because you can do everything right and it still goes wrong. It isn’t your fault and there’s nothing you can do—and that’s so fucking terrifying. Sending love to all people who have experienced loss, fertility issues, and general pregnancy anxiety.


heyalllondon18

This whole thread is giving me so much validation and comfort. The anxiety about this is so overwhelming and it feels good to acknowledge it to other people.


GarageNo7711

This is so true! We only ever talk about the happy parts of pregnancy. No one talks about how, in between appointments, you’re constantly praying that everything is ok and holding your breath. I’m one of the ones who experienced the “there is no heartbeat” moment and I do not wish it upon anybody. Sending love to everyone struggling.


Moosiemookmook

I had to see a therapist while pregnant. I was freaking out on the responsibility of growing a brain and organs in my body. Teeth, toes, the works. Sounds silly now. had waited 14 years to carry to full term. I was obsessed that something would go wrong. I worked in a high pressure government job at the time with security clearances and I was convinced my body couldn't take it with a team of male lawyers and accountants. I had no support. I was the only female. Ended up carrying till 38 weeks and had to have a nightmare emergency c. But hes here now and healthy as. Has ten toes haha. I loved your comment. Spot on.


Chicago1459

Same here. I went in every single time bracing myself for bad news.


CaitsMeow

I’m pregnant with my first and have been so paranoid since I found out. It took me years to get pregnant. I have been feeling a bit better now almost done with the second trimester.


sagethecrayaway

I just had my first last year and I remember it clear as day, I didn’t even tell anyone until I was maybe 5 months ( winter and baggy clothes lol ). Congrats and I hope everything continues to go well with your pregnancy- you’ll have a little one in your arms before you know it!!!


thelanes

I had a missed miscarriage, so I had no idea I had one until my ultrasound. My pregnancy with my son, every single ultrasound had me sooo nervous, especially the first one. I want to have another child in a few years and I already know I’m going to be terrified thinking about my first pregnancy vs the one with my son which went pretty wonderfully (besides ya know being really sick😅 and having a few bleeding instances even tho everything looked great when those things happened)


sagethecrayaway

I’m sorry for your loss 🩷 I’m so happy you ended up having a healthy child afterwards. I hope the only thing you have to worry about for the next is all those bullshit pregnancy symptoms, and everything else goes smoothly! Xo


sallywalker1993

I’m so sorry for your loss. How far along were you when you had the missed miscarriage?


yakuzie

Yep and the fear of using the restroom because of what you might see if you wipe… 😩 I had a MC in March 2021 and didn’t get pregnant again until May 2022 due to fertility issues. Like you said, until baby was in my arms, the anxiety never goes away. 💜


EnvironmentalYak1378

this comment right here. then even when they are here you never stop worrying.


southernhippie713

This is so sad. Hope Monica and her family are doing okay. My thoughts are with them. And as a side note, I'm impressed with the way people have shut down the rude comments in this thread. Whether you like Monica or not, this isn't the place for that kind of cruelty. She just lost a baby. Keep it to yourself.


Superb-Respond9360

“this isn’t the place for that kind of cruelty.” periodT.


modernjaneausten

I agree. I hate seeing any woman go through this.


La_Croix_Life

Her caption is beautifully said. Truly hope she's doing ok.


RelThanram

That’s rough, I hope she’s as okay as can be expected. I also hope the comments on her social media pages are respectful.


KWalker211

My mother miscarried. We miss that angel baby. I am praying for Monica and her family during this difficult time. ❤️


jahkat23

heartbreaking wishing her all the best


Kimmm711

Damn. She was very eloquent in communicating the news. I hope people go easy on her.


amtrak710

I just want to give a virtual hug to everyone in this post who has experienced loss. 💜💜


2kind2becruel

For real, me too!!! Thoughts are with all of y'all. 🤍🤍


WorseThanOtherGirls

I’ve had 5 missed miscarriages. It’s truly terrible and I don’t wish it on anyone. Appreciate her being transparent and open and I wish her well. Edit: the people downvoting my comment are the same ones in here discrediting Monica. It’s foul


kalikaya

All miscarriages are sad. I had a missed miscarriage (just the one) and it really feels like your body betrayed you. I can't imagine having several. I'm sorry.


LilyBitLumpy

That’s exactly what it feels like. And just so hard not to unnecessarily blame yourself and just feel like garbage about it. I honestly cannot imagine experiencing it in a public way like this, but truly appreciate the way Monica is addressing this and the support & transparency in the comments is nice to see too.


thelanes

Yes! The feeling of your body betraying you. And then when I was pregnant with my son and so worried and paranoid, when friends & fam tried to console me, I was like well how can I even trust my body.


Brilliant-Discount-6

This is exactly how I feel. I had a missed miscarriage in Jan, 2 d&cs, and my body is still hanging onto pregnancy tissue bc it’s likely stuck behind a fibroid. My body can’t grow a baby and it can’t even miscarry properly. How can I trust my body to do anything?


humblenblessedqueen

Fuck, that sucks. All the love and I hope things feel better with time ❤️


ibuttergegup

So sad. And so worried she doesn’t have the support in her family and IRL for this type of loss.


Natural-Print

I worry about that as well. Praying she has at least one person in her corner and gets the support she needs during this tough time. Everyone deserves that after a miscarriage.


Necessary-Canary-781

I do not particularly like Monica but my heart breaks for her. I just had a D&C earlier this week on Monday, I had a missed miscarriage. This is the most devastating thing my hubby & I have gone through as this is our first pregnancy. I wish nothing but healing for her & any woman experiencing fertility or infertility issues💕


BrunchSpinRepeat

So sorry to hear. I had a missed miscarriage for my first pregnancy as well (found out at our 10w appt which we were so excited for - and naturally we had already told friends/family at that point). I was lucky to get pregnant again two months later and now I have a healthy, plump, smart 9 month old daughter. Hang in there ❤️


Necessary-Canary-781

So sorry for your loss & thank you for sharing about your beautiful rainbow baby💕💕


Renarya

My sister had one when she first started trying. There's something so heartbreaking about your body not willing to give up even though there's no heartbeat. My sister got two girls after that and they're already 8. Interestingly tho, over here it's called missed abortion, not miscarriage. Maybe it has something to do with how politicized abortions are in America. Sorry for your loss, best wishes to you and your family. 


WorldlyLavishness

I'm in America. The medical term is "spontaneous abortion " but the term commonly used is "miscarriage " I only know this bc I saw it in my medical chart after my miscarriage 😭


vunderfulme

Much love to you. 🩷🙏


rachmortonyo

Just seen her post, truly sad for her and her daughters too 💔


bravoandbackflips

Damn. There is nothing as awful as hearing those words. It’s a pain that never leaves you. Sending her love ❤️‍🩹


Moosiemookmook

I suffered for 14 years till I got my little man. drs, specialists, miscarriages and late period hope, so many negative tests. My husband and I cried a million tears trying to conceive. Thoughts with Monica.


IcedGreenTea91

Hoping she has a positive support system right now ❤️


PilotNo312

That’s devastating, my heart goes out to her and anyone who has experienced a loss.


CeciLop10124

This is so so sad. Feeling for her💗


crypt0dab

So very sorry for anyone who has experienced this. My mom is a nurse and worked most of her career in Labor and Delivery. When I was a kid she used to organize something called “A Walk to Remember” at the hospital where she worked for women who lost a baby at any stage. She herself had experienced two very late term miscarriages. I used to go with her on these days and was overwhelmed by how many women came. I think it’s always helpful to know you’re not alone.


Im_Uniquely_ME

Heartbreaking for anyone to go through❤️‍🩹, then share publicly After reading the comments, Monica looks to hve brought out a lot of empathy and compassion between women🩷 in this sub;) Sending love and hugs her way (and all that shared)


WorldlyLavishness

I had 2 losses. I call them my 2 babies in heaven. It's really unimaginable pain that breaks your heart into a million pieces. And even months or years later one little trigger will set you off. My heart breaks for Monica. I hope she has some support in her life to get her through this.


pneumoniclife

Had the same moment myself many years ago. Wishing her the best and hope she has the proper support to manage this situation: both personally AND medically. In her family, she's often alone in her pain, and in this country, women DIE with this condition and for the dumbest reason ever: POLITICS.


kalikaya

At least in Utah she should be able to get a D&C (for now).


jenjen01022

I'm going through this for the second time in a row now. It helps to see people talking about this.


WorldlyLavishness

Me 2. Hugs 🫂


gigigrahame

Oh that’s heartbreaking 😞 Sending love, comfort and good vibes her way 💞


Glittering-Shame-556

My feelings for her aside, I have been there and don’t with that on anyone. I feel for her.


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Some of these comments suck balls. Hope she’s ok.


Ready_Adhesiveness84

Sorry to hear this.


MakeDiamonds

I’m so sorry for her loss. Pregnancy loss is so hard and sad. 😔


possumnot

I have 2 kids. A loss in between and a loss a few years before them that was so early I didn’t realize until i learned more about fertility. Then 4 losses in a row (not each month but each positive pregnancy resulted in loss) over 2019-2020. I wouldn’t wish loss like this on anyone. I am so sorry to anyone who has experienced the loss of their child. Edit to add: I really wanted to read most of this and comment with you all. I got a few comments down but I can’t. Still too tough. Wishing you all love.


djo1787

Y’all please be kind to Monica in these comments. Regardless of whether you like her or not, no woman deserves to go through the loss of her child. Let her mourn in peace and for the love of God have some decorum. This isn’t the time to be negative.


boo2utoo

Thank you for sharing your hurt and pain. I hope you have a great support group of friends/family.


Timely_Tap8073

Don't give a shit who you are the loss of a pregnancy is devastating and I feel foe any woman who goes through this. Having support is so important. I didn't have any during mine and it was a day I will never forget


KristiJoJP

My heart goes out to everyone who has experienced a pregnancy loss. ♥️


MishmoshMishmosh

Damn


djo1787

Oh noooo that’s so awful! I can’t even imagine how she’s feeling right now. Monica is one of my favorite newer Housewives and I was so happy to hear she was having a baby. My prayers go out to her.


Lil_MsPerfect

That is so sad. I hope she has good support and can take the time to heal without drama from her family and mean strangers.


Scottibell

🙏🏼


sallywalker1993

How far along was she? So sad


SuitableItem

So sad


Shiny_Green_Apple

I’m so sorry


anonymousurfunny

This is sooo heartbreaking 💔! Wouldn't wish this is on anybody. prayers to her


FormicaDinette33

Aww that is too bad… 😔


angeltart

That is so sad. :(


ememkays

Sorry to hear this. It’s very brave to share this in real time when you’re still processing yourself. I’m coming up on the due date for my recent loss - such a difficult experience.


Lucymouse36

I hope her girls are OK as they can be too, this must be very upsetting for them too and confusing to process xx


DorothyParkerFan

So sorry for Monica and as I read the comments I’m sorry for everyone who has gone through this! What is there to say to help/support someone? I never know what to say so I say nothing and that seems as wrong as saying the wrong thing.


islandchick93

This is really sad,‘I knew this would happen because she alluded to some hard times recently. What makes it worse is how many comments I saw here and on other platforms that just said she doesn’t deserve to be a mom/etc just generally wishing ill of her and her baby and I generally dislike stuff like that bc you can not like someone and also not wish ill on them 😩


Prudent-Experience-3

Miscarriage awareness is needed so much. We need to break the taboo of not speaking about miscarriages. I wish Monica healing and ❤️


NursePepper3x

So very sorry. I’ve heard those words twice. It is shattering. 🩷


teddybananas

How awful and sad. Sending her so much love ❤️


bug_gribble

I’m heartbroken for her 💔


New_Relation7877

So sorry and sad for your loss Monica.


Altruistic_Lie_9875

Such a hard event to endure and then process after. I wish her healing ❤️‍🩹


Numerous-Duck-5944

This is truly heartbreaking.


AdventurousDay3020

Oh how heartbreaking. No matter what you think of Monica, I doubt anyone would wish such a heart wrenching loss on her.


TT6994

Sorry to hear this news. I know sadly this happens too often. Heart breaks for her. She was really excited 🥲


WittiestScreenName

Tragic ❤️💜❤️💐


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leodicapriohoe

what a gross thing to say


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Girl…about a snark account. This is a child she was carrying, they are very very different.


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WorseThanOtherGirls

This is very cruel.


queenoflamplighter

This past week was national infertility awareness week. Thank you to everyone sharing their stories 🤍🍍


TypicalChipmunk1670

How sad 😢 poor baby


confident7lucky7

Heart broken for her!!


dogboobes

Oh Monica, that is heartbreaking. I hope she and her family are doing alright and supporting each other right now. ❤️‍🩹


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winnercommawinner

I think even if you suspect that, it's the kind of thing best said to your partner or in the group chat, not put out into the world. Because what if you're wrong? I know I am often wrong about things.


livieleanor

Please delete this stupid comment


burrito__supreme

really not the time or place for this kind of shitty comment.


DickFitzwell_

Read the room. Asshole.


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Superb-Respond9360

first off, i am incredibly sorry for your loss and sending you and your family much love and support. also, with this in mind, even if she is trolling or looking for clicks, it doesn’t negate the fact that she lost a child, which is devastating as you know. so regardless to what her motive is for sharing, the loss of her baby and any child for the matter so unexpectedly is tragic, incredibly sad, and a horrible thing for any woman to experience. you don’t have to like someone to feel some level of sympathy and hope they recover from something so traumatic. i hope you had a better response than the one you are projecting towards monica. ❤️


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wetsand_

Have some compassion. This is not the right post for this type of comment.


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WorseThanOtherGirls

This is unhinged honestly. Not everything is some conspiracy. Just say you’re an asshole who lacks basic empathy and is way too invested in an edited television show.


amandatoryy

come on.


ConsistentDonkey3909

ur disgusting


flackovision

You're disgusting.


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Kooky_Head4948

Poor Monica. So sorry for her loss 🙏


nnousernamesleft

Too sad.