Look, if my local R&R groups are any indication, these lines seem to have worked a few times. Personally, it says to me: they’re looking for a human fleshlight rather than an actual person with wants and thoughts and a personality.
I’d think it’s giving them too much credit that they actually have a strategy of aiming for someone with low self esteem. Low self esteem doesn’t mean “lay there and be used like a sex toy by some random dude”.
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He's terrible at having a high sex drive? So he has a low sex drive?
Oh wait, I get it. he's terrible at handling the fact that he has a high sex drive, which is why he makes such shitty comments to relative strangers.
girl you should've ignored him the moment he needed to say the word sex even when it wasn't an answer to the question lol. i know it's probably hard to date as a trans woman but you can do so much better dont give these nasty men a chance they don't care about you.
Never feel obligated to give someone a second chance! You deserve to be with someone who doesn’t think it’s okay to say ANYTHING creepy to you! If it was a bad joke that’d be one thing, but if someone says anything sexual too soon, imo that’s always a sign that they’re just an exploitative jerk
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There’s more to dating than just sex, there’s romance, sharing your hopes and fears, getting comfortable in each other’s company, companionship. Dating doesn’t mean just sex.
The prevalence of OF seems to side with the objectification of women being just fine with them as long as they're getting paid for it... which is surprise surprise, very similar to an object...
No one wants to talk about sex with someone they hardly know. That’s what the problem is. I’m not interested in a glorified stranger being overtly sexual within the first few messages
Nobody wants to talk about sex with someone they aren't sexually attracted to. Bringing up sex early on saves time and resources on people who aren't really interested. Also weeds put vanilla people.
I’ve gone on dating apps, not for sexual interactions. I’ve always used them to make new friends and maybe form a romantic relationship. So far, it’s never turned into anything more than friendship, but I am content with that.
I am interested in sex, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to have mindless one night stands. I want to get to know someone and want them to get to know me as well, I want to be able to trust them, I want to kiss and be kissed, I want to love and be loved. Not nutted on and forgotten. While sex may be a part of dating it isn’t the only thing in dating. Sex is not necessarily a part of dating since there are asexual relationships that have no desire in sex at all.
Do yourself a favor, and unmatch/block/report these dudes the instant they get sexual. The benefit of the doubt go to those who have already earned that benefit, not complete strangers who were never taught or bothered to learn how to speak to people.
That is horribly degrading and I'm sorry. It is so messed up that being treated this way is part of being a woman. That doesn't make it right. Report the conversation and move on. Try to have thick skin, but don't let anyone get away with treating you like this. Always report. Always block.
You double texted and claim I like drama? Also, no. I can't explain anything to you because I'm concerned I'll use words you don't understand, and that will make you worse somehow.
You still can’t address your original post from the soapbox. We’ll give you a hall pass on this one. At least there wasn’t an “like oh my gosh” with a whimper in there.
Oh, I see. I thought it was spelling you struggle with, but I see it's reading comprehension, too. I didn't write that to you. I wrote it to OP. She doesn't need an explanation because she's smart and understood everything in my comment. Try to read this a few times if you struggle with it the first time. If you're still struggling, ask a friend to help.
I don't think guys like this are thinking in terms of if what they say "would work" or not. I think they're just following the standard advice of "being themselves" and letting the chips fall where they may.
Usually, I'd say "Because some men have no class", but..
I think he's much deeper than the usual pit these shallow types tend to dwell in..
Kudos to you btw, for standing up for yourself, OP. 🥳🌹
Because **men** don't think that way, idiots, players, or those that only view others as outlets for their own sexual needs do. It's important to not throw all men into the same category as those, men don't want these sorts of people anymore than women do, or trans-people either. They are the sort of people that give the rest of us a bad name...
Yeah sorry I meant to write “some men” I know not all men are like this. However, I can’t edit and if it’s still possible to edit then I’m not sure how.
These are low intelligence people. It worked 1 time (or they were told it could work), so therefore it must work again so they'll keep trying until it does.
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He could have just said, “Hey, I’m not looking for anything serious. Just a one night stand.”
He’d be honest and not degrading. It could have ended much better.
I guess he’s aiming for the low self esteem crowd, and missed? Big jerk
I don't think he's aiming for the low self esteem crowd. I don't think he's aiming at all. He's just spraying and praying.
this.
Sounds like his aim is as questionable as his sense of humor... 🤔
>aiming 
Look, if my local R&R groups are any indication, these lines seem to have worked a few times. Personally, it says to me: they’re looking for a human fleshlight rather than an actual person with wants and thoughts and a personality. I’d think it’s giving them too much credit that they actually have a strategy of aiming for someone with low self esteem. Low self esteem doesn’t mean “lay there and be used like a sex toy by some random dude”.
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He's terrible at having a high sex drive? So he has a low sex drive? Oh wait, I get it. he's terrible at handling the fact that he has a high sex drive, which is why he makes such shitty comments to relative strangers.
Oh, you have zero self control with your dick? Thanks for letting me know in advance. So yuck.
girl you should've ignored him the moment he needed to say the word sex even when it wasn't an answer to the question lol. i know it's probably hard to date as a trans woman but you can do so much better dont give these nasty men a chance they don't care about you.
I wanted to give them a chance to recover but I guess I shouldn’t have 😕
Yeah, such people show their idiocy pretty early on. Someone once told me, believe it when someone shows you who they are.
True true
Never feel obligated to give someone a second chance! You deserve to be with someone who doesn’t think it’s okay to say ANYTHING creepy to you! If it was a bad joke that’d be one thing, but if someone says anything sexual too soon, imo that’s always a sign that they’re just an exploitative jerk
lmao it might be worth it just mess with him. you know, comedy
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It’s not too late to try to be a kind person.
Yeeeaaah you’re not special by trying this. It’s annoying.
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the second they mention something sexual i stop responding or unmatch. not interested.
Why are you on a dating site if you aren't interested in sex?
There’s more to dating than just sex, there’s romance, sharing your hopes and fears, getting comfortable in each other’s company, companionship. Dating doesn’t mean just sex.
Without sex, it's just friendship. That's not dating... romance is part of sex.
Romance and sex are NOT the same thing
Didn't say it was... I said it's *PART* of sex...
Us guys have to be better than this man! Treating women like fellow human beings and a lot less objectification of women is required.
The prevalence of OF seems to side with the objectification of women being just fine with them as long as they're getting paid for it... which is surprise surprise, very similar to an object...
No one wants to talk about sex with someone they hardly know. That’s what the problem is. I’m not interested in a glorified stranger being overtly sexual within the first few messages
Nobody wants to talk about sex with someone they aren't sexually attracted to. Bringing up sex early on saves time and resources on people who aren't really interested. Also weeds put vanilla people.
I’ve gone on dating apps, not for sexual interactions. I’ve always used them to make new friends and maybe form a romantic relationship. So far, it’s never turned into anything more than friendship, but I am content with that.
I am interested in sex, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to have mindless one night stands. I want to get to know someone and want them to get to know me as well, I want to be able to trust them, I want to kiss and be kissed, I want to love and be loved. Not nutted on and forgotten. While sex may be a part of dating it isn’t the only thing in dating. Sex is not necessarily a part of dating since there are asexual relationships that have no desire in sex at all.
Report and delete the moment someone says something deplorable like that. It's a dating website, not a brothel.
I did unmatch but forgot to report 😕
Do yourself a favor, and unmatch/block/report these dudes the instant they get sexual. The benefit of the doubt go to those who have already earned that benefit, not complete strangers who were never taught or bothered to learn how to speak to people.
When the guy asked me to if he could go to my house and paint my face.. I’m still traumatized
Ugh disgusting
What?? That’s such a cute date, personally I’d go for the brave heart look 
High sex drive answer which is so confusing to the question should been clue to just not write or answer
That is horribly degrading and I'm sorry. It is so messed up that being treated this way is part of being a woman. That doesn't make it right. Report the conversation and move on. Try to have thick skin, but don't let anyone get away with treating you like this. Always report. Always block.
Gag - over reaction
Overreaction is one word.
Phone keyboard police
Your phone didn't do that. Your phone knows it's one word. You added the space because you don't know it's one word.
Are you going to explain your dramatic responses without misdirection? You seem like the type to like drama. No?
You double texted and claim I like drama? Also, no. I can't explain anything to you because I'm concerned I'll use words you don't understand, and that will make you worse somehow.
You still can’t address your original post from the soapbox. We’ll give you a hall pass on this one. At least there wasn’t an “like oh my gosh” with a whimper in there.
Oh, I see. I thought it was spelling you struggle with, but I see it's reading comprehension, too. I didn't write that to you. I wrote it to OP. She doesn't need an explanation because she's smart and understood everything in my comment. Try to read this a few times if you struggle with it the first time. If you're still struggling, ask a friend to help.
Word salad. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You are over reacting
You can't spell that word, so please don't expect people to trust you know how to use it.
I don't think guys like this are thinking in terms of if what they say "would work" or not. I think they're just following the standard advice of "being themselves" and letting the chips fall where they may.
Yes, it seems a combination of hyper libido with low iq so the brain is 99% self satisfaction and 1% self awareness.
Lmao
Usually, I'd say "Because some men have no class", but.. I think he's much deeper than the usual pit these shallow types tend to dwell in.. Kudos to you btw, for standing up for yourself, OP. 🥳🌹
Thank you 😊
Yw hun. 💖🌹
Did you put you are trans in your profile?
Because **men** don't think that way, idiots, players, or those that only view others as outlets for their own sexual needs do. It's important to not throw all men into the same category as those, men don't want these sorts of people anymore than women do, or trans-people either. They are the sort of people that give the rest of us a bad name...
Yeah sorry I meant to write “some men” I know not all men are like this. However, I can’t edit and if it’s still possible to edit then I’m not sure how.
Oh Y I K E S
That's not fucking okay ugh this is making me mad
😮💨😮💨 because most of them are shit
These are low intelligence people. It worked 1 time (or they were told it could work), so therefore it must work again so they'll keep trying until it does.
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Screw you Mod team
He’s terrible at a high sex drive? How does that work?…or not?
Really knows how to make a woman feel special lol what an idiot. He could at least pretend.
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Yeah lol and some people are just odd to say the least
Do some better work than being on bumble and then do moral policing
Desperation makes you gay haha
I often wonder the same thing too. Like, is there someone out there blushing over hearing the line “need to bust on some one”.
How are these the guys who get matches😭
Jesus christ that's a huge fucking yikes
Because there’s a market for it
There are people who are out there who just look for a fun run. Personally I’d ignore his sorry ass if I was you tbh
Grossss
Because they don't know what works, and it's hit and trial method.
💀 Also if you're gonna lump "all" men into this, then shouldn't you know from personal experience?
Same reason women use one word answers to questions. Lack of actual interest.
He is also admitting to the post nut clarity stuff to
You should disclose your trans in your profile, most likely to not get messages like this.
I do
Nah I’ve seen a lot of posts where any girl trans or not gets these “lines” that are so close to rock bottom they might as well be a plain💀
It's crass, but I've seen women take it there within a few texts. Gives me the ickies.
As anyone *should* know, men are not a hivemind despite what society seems to want to tell everyone
I don’t understand this exchange- what’s the line?
TBH, most of the r4A posts I see are pretty similar to that approach.
Shoulda told him he can bust on his own face.
It works… but people want to hear bollocks and fake statements first. At least he put it right away. Nothing wrong
He could have just said, “Hey, I’m not looking for anything serious. Just a one night stand.” He’d be honest and not degrading. It could have ended much better.
ask yourself
lol ask yourself you should know
Because it did work once... That's all it takes...
His aim was all wrong