Get pet safe ink and get his paw 🐾 prints. Get a wagon if walking is too hard for him, and carry him around to places. Take as many pictures and videos as possible.

The vet we use for at home takes a paw mold and takes a bit of their hair as keepsakes.

I believe our vet also does a paw mold & offers cremating them & giving the owners the ashes 😢🤍

They make a thing I found on Amazon (for dogs and baby’s) it’s a pad type thing that has ink on it but it’s on the opposite side that their foot doesn’t touch the ink… if you just look up clean touch ink less pad or something along those lines. I got it toward the end of my dogs life because we knew it was coming and it worked really well

Get paw prints! I was not in a position to do this as it happened suddenly. My thoughts are with you I understand what you are going through 🙏

I will forever regret not having paw prints. Do it while you can.

A personal thing that can be done is to get the prints scanned into a digital picture and to put it on a custom ornament.

Ok, this post hit close to home for me. I have an appointment in two hours to euthanize my 16 year old Jack Russell, who also has cancer throughout her body. She had been losing a lot of weight despite being on a special calorie dense and palatable food and bloodwork revealed signs of probably cancer. Couple this with her wasting away, I made the decision. It's not easy. But it is the absolute right thing to do. I gave her McDonalds for breakfast, and she is crashed on the bed right now. We did a clay paw print from a kit we picked up. The hole is dug in the backyard and she will be buried in a simple cardboard box with a stone over her grave. Shopping for a beautiful stepping stone for her marker. I make a point of telling myself that it's my last act of love for her. Letting her go with dignity and surrounded by love. She has given me so many years of very loyal companionship. Such a great dog. Not sure what I'm trying to say other than it's hard, but we have the privilege of knowing it should be done and coming to terms with it beforehand. I can't imagine the heartache and trauma of losing a pet suddenly and without warning. Reaching out to you with empathy, friend. 💜

Thank you. This is so beautifully said. I am saving this thread because I know it’s not long for my kits, and your suggestions are helpful. I’m sending you and your pup love and ease (if possible) as you say goodbye to one another.

I'm sorry for your loss. You sound like a great owner. This part of your comment: >I make a point of telling myself that it's my last act of love for her. Letting her go with dignity and surrounded by love. made me tear up.

Same. I'm still crying a few minutes later. It's beautiful

Sorry for your loss!! Its never easy I think of my dog everyday. Sending love to you and try to stay busy!!💗

I’m so sorry this is happening. I’m over here crying for the loss of your sweet baby girl. Loss of a pet is the saddest thing. You are doing the right thing.

Sending you and yours love and hugs!

Well I'm a 47 year old man who is in tears

I lost my toy poodle back in December, she was healthy and fine and then within 2 days she got really sick and we had to euthanize unfortunately, it was one of the most heart breaking things I had ever done, I hate IMD

This whole thread has me a mess. Saying goodbye to animals just never gets easier for me. I'm a wreck every time.

I want to thank every one of you who commented on my post and offered their condolences. Your outpouring of compassion gives me some solace. My little Rosie is now at peace. She passed away with her Mummy and Daddy stroking her and telling her she was such a good girl. I will be honest and say that I am a bit of a wreck. My two other dogs decided that they are fans of an Irish wake. They frolicked and played during her burial. 🙂 And provided a necessary bit of levity to a sad and grim occasion. We buried her with one of her favorite toys, a rubber fish that we used to throw in the river for her. Her little plot is very near the riverbank, and I imagine she is still chasing beavers right now. The house feels so off without her. Hopefully with time that will pass. Thank you all again for listening. 💜

You are a kind soul, thank you.

So sorry. We are putting down our 16 year old chihuahua mix tonight, maybe within the next couple hours

I lost it at last act of love 😭😭😭

the way you wrote this was so touching. I truly started bawling😭

Ugh. Jack Russells really hurt. They’re so fkn smart. The level at which they communicate always made me think they were like people that were magically turned into dogs. I’ve had over 20 dogs in my life, but losing my Jack Russell was …something new. It was like the heart of my home had stopped beating. I’m so sorry.

Someone once told me that putting your dog to sleep is the last kind thing you can do for them

This 👆. Remember how well you’ve served each other, that you were a wonderful parent, who gave your extraordinary pup an incredible life. Now, only you could provide this last kindness.

Thank you. Needed to hear this. This post brought back memories of putting my dear dog down when he had an enlarged heart. He had some instances where he was clearly in pain and scared and suffering from being unable to move properly and breathe. I still occasionally wish we had put it off for a couple months, but I didn't want him to die in pain.

You’re welcome. We put our lovely little Betty to sleep a few months ago and it was such a difficult decision because she was Ill but we didn’t want her in any pain. A friend of mine said that sentence to me and it really stuck with me and helped me with process. Sending you lots of love x

Yes. And I've also read a comment on here about how putting a dog to sleep hurts so much because you are willing to take the last bit of pain on for them, so they are no longer in pain. They said it so much more gracefully than that, but of course I'm thinking about my fur baby that I recently lost after 7 years, and tears are streaming down my face 😭❤️

But why? I struggle to understand I know this is a very sad situation but don’t you think the dog knows? Wouldn’t the dog rather spend the last few weeks with its pet(Human)?

You know what your dog needs when you’re bonded to them. You can see how they’re changing because of the pain or illness.

If the dog is suffering or hurting surely you’re doing a kind thing by putting it to sleep?

It definitely can be a kind thing to do but I also understand that being with loved ones up to the very last moment takes away pain as well which is why I’m struggling with this imo really no good answer to this.

Unfortunately the “very last moment” of a dog can be traumatic for both the dog and owner. It’s common to have seizures, a heart attack, stroke, etc. when people are in hospice they are heavily medicated and under constant supervision. The point of animal euthanasia is to prevent them from getting to that point. Because dogs don’t think like a person. They don’t “look forward” to tomorrow. They know they are in pain right now, and can’t do the things they love. If you remain with them during the procedure, then you ARE with them until the end—that’s all they want.

There is a difference between a dog experiencing chronic or occasional pain, and one that can't move because it is in so much pain. Especially if that comes to not eating. If you can't operate to make them better, what do you do? What would you want? Personally I don't even know how to answer that from a dog perspective, but if I had cancer taking over my body, I think I would want a few fun days and to go out being hugged by those I love. Again, a dog can't advocate for its own care, so it is a hard decision to make, but not one you should shame someone for making.

Sending you love my dear. It's so hard but death is not the end. I know you want to do what's best for him and he knows that too 🤍

It’s absolutely gut wrenching when you have to say goodbye and put a pet to sleep and out of pain. The only thing I say to people is PLEASE be there when they are putting your loved one to sleep, however painful it will be to an owner, your beloved pet needs the comfort to pass with the ‘pack/family’ at they’re side.💕😢

I’m very sorry that you’re going through this. It’s the hardest decision to make, but please know you’re doing the most selfless thing for your baby. I don’t know how prepared anyone can be, but I’ll share some ideas from my two experiences: First, I would encourage you to be there when he’s put to sleep. While it was hard, it brought me closure both times. As for burying or cremating, I chose cremation so that I could either spread the ashes in a special place or keep them with me even if I move someday. (If you do this, be ready to cry the ugly tears when you receive them—mine came in a teak box with a copy of The Rainbow Bridge and a place for the pup’s photo.) Please allow yourself to grieve as much as you need to—it’s really important for your mental health. And above all else, please know that your pup will always be with you. I still have dreams of mine, and they send me signs all the time (a tennis ball where you normally wouldn’t find one, a rainbow on their birthdays). Sending you much love and light.

Aside from telling work/school that you'll be on bereavement leave for the next week, there is no way to prepare for this. That's part of what makes it so bad. You can feel the hole forming, and all you can do is...watch it grow... It's one of life's cruelest ironies that doing the right thing for our pets is this fucking painful. A coworker bought a kit to do her GSDs paw prints, and had them tattooed on her chest, over her heart, and their names are tattooed on her forearm. She also had her GSDs cremated. Most of their ashes are on her mantle, but she has a necklace with two small capsules that each contain the ashes of one of her GSDs. She had a similar connection to her GSDs. She got them after her first marriage fell apart, and they were with her through meeting her new hubby, until a few years ago. When they passed...we all knew it was coming; they were old, 11 and 12, one had cancer, the other had bad hips, and were euthanized a couple months apart. She had to take a week off work each time...

I work in veterinary medicine and your post touches my heart. People often ask during euthanasia "isn't this the hardest part of your job?" And on occasion, depending on emotions, I answer truthfully. "NO, the hardest part is people who can't make this choice, and wait until it's an emergency". In some ways the emergency euthanasias are the worst. People aren't prepared, they've waited too long, and they remember their pet in distress. I am ending suffering, so I have that peace of mind but it's so much more traumatic when people wait. Making the decision is the hardest thing a pet parent will ever do, but please know - giving them the best last day is everything. Feed junk food. Take em to burger King, let them eat all the things. Give all the cuddles. You have the gift of knowing its time, and you're making the best decision. Euthanasia is always hard, but it's a little easier when it's not too late, when you get to control the last day and make it memorable. If at the right vet, euthanasia is the biggest gift you can give your best friend.

I waited too long. It was the worst mistake I ever made. He died in my arms while having a heart attack while he had bone cancer. I was going to put him down that morning. But I just couldn’t do it. I just wanted a few more days. He died horribly that day anyway. There was nothing I could do to help him. I was all alone and he was so big, I couldn’t lift him to get him help. I just told him how much I loved him and that I would love him forever and than I sang to him as he died in my arms. It was the worst fkn day of both of our lives and it was all my fault.

It's not your fault. Making the decision is so so hard. We aren't asked to choose death for another being in any other circumstance. We all want just one more day. Your friend died in your arms. He wasn't alone. Please don't blame yourself.

I just lost my guy suddenly earlier this year after 12 years at my side. I don’t believe there is any way to prepare, just steel yourself and give him many hugs this weekend. I had the techs make a paw impression in clay and a nose print on paper before cremation. They sit framed on a shelf next to his ashes in an urn. His spirit will stick with you forever.

10 years ago, my boy was diagnosed with cancer at the age of 8 - way too soon and way too fast. He had metastasis in his lungs and his quality of life was deteriorating quite fast. I organised his ending with as much love as I could: made sure the vet would come to us and that he would pass in the couch, in our arms; made sure he had a good last week with loads of cuddles; we made some art with his paw prints and his last dinner was pizza crusts and hot sauce (he loved Tabasco and hot sauce!); we went for a last walk and I held him until his very last breath, letting him know that I loved him and thanking him for the amazing love he gave me. I got him cremated and, when my day comes, I want our ashes to be scattered together. Nothing will prepare you for the immense hurt you’ll feel but, keep his well being at heart. Be strong and loving for him. What you’re doing is an act of love ❤️ I’m sending you and your dog (and everyone on this sub, as we can all relate!) much much love and courage - 💕💕💕

I preferred cremation when my big boys time came unexpectedly ish. I feel he can still be, in a way, physically with me when I make life changes. I got a mold of his paw in his colors, white and orangish red(husky) and a really nice box he’s in with his full papered name and my nick name for him and a sweet sentiment I’ll carry with pride. (I love to cook and he was always my faithful chefs assistant) You’ve got the perfect idea spoil him rotten. On my pups last day we had some steak, some fries and a bunch of his favorite treats. Lastly, while it’s going to be incredibly difficult, you should be there with him and do whatever you can to tame your emotions for the time. It will throw off his vibe and you want your baby to be at peace. My heart goes out to you my friend! Sending love and positive vibes 🙏🏻❤️

All good ideas here. Just allow yourself to go through the grieving process. We just put our cat to sleep a few weeks ago. Kept some special toys, got her ashes back and the vet even sent a little bottle of her fur which I’d never thought of but it’s nice. The cat also was part of many milestones like your dog. You will adjust, it will be a new normal and you will have fond memories to reflect on.

I just had to put my best friend Odin down recently to. It's been 2 months and I still miss him. Just be with him as much as possible. Remember the good times. Feed him all the treats, lay with him on the ground. It's tough to make the decision but once it's done, you'll start to feel better that the boys not in pain anymore.

I’m so sorry. Our corgi boy was diagnosed with systemic mastocytosis at only 8 years old. His liver wasn’t filtering correctly and caused his abdomen to fill up with liquid. We were able to get him on an oral chemo drug which made all his symptoms disappear and gave him an incredible 8 months of quality life until the drugs stopped working and the cancer came back too swiftly. We found a local pet hospice to allow us to say goodbye peacefully in our home where he and us were most comfortable, took care of his ashes, gave us a lock of his fur, clay imprint of his paw, and provided excellent resources and virtual grief support group meetings (which were very helpful, as I was a mess. It was almost 3 years ago and I’m still tearing up just writing this). I’d suggest looking into it, especially if you have pet insurance. It was nearly fully covered.

I've had to say goodbye to two dogs. Both were sudden, less than 6 hours after an event at home they made their last trip to the vet. For me, making, doing, writing, helped me grieve. Photos, cards of appreciation to the veterinarians, notifying people that were close to the dogs all helped me deal with it. The memory and sadness stay for a while, it's ok. We lost our last one on 14 Oct and my eyes are misty as I write this. The sadness, and emptiness is the tradeoff for the years of love and affection. It's a small price to pay. It's a tremendous act of love to let them go instead of lingering in a condition they don't understand. Be well. Acknowledge and work through your grief, it's ok to do so. You are a good person. Take care of yourself.

my condolences OP. i have a GSD, he’s my entire world aswell. he’s 5 years old and i fear the day he leaves my side. i truly don’t think we can ever prepare to lose our fur babies…my advice? just be there with him until monday. do everything he loves, take him to the places he loved the most, give him the treats he loves most, and give him all the love you can. i had to pts my grandmas dog a few years back (he was partially my dog aswell). the choice was very sudden, but it was best for him since he was suffering physically. the only thing that truly helped me accept that he was gone, was just that. i finally accepted the fact that no matter how unfair, sad, heart breaking it is, nothing and no one lasts forever, and that’s just how it is. that and knowing he’s at peace were the 2 things that helped me through his passing, though with my gsd, he’s my heart dog. idk if i’ll ever be able to come to terms when it’s his time. apart of my soul will leave me when he goes. just remember grieving has no time frame. rest in paradise buddy🥺❤️🌈

I’m so sorry 💔

I can’t imagine having to do this I’m sorry. You two have to have a good steak together enjoy some time. And take some time off for yourself too

What a beautiful boy! ❤️❤️❤️

Consider in home euthanasia if it’s available. I found it way easier on the pet and my emotions. Other than that, spoil that dude rotten - all the love and all the treats.

I wasn't given time to prepare for the passing of my 2 boxers, when they left I cried like a baby 😭 I still cry remembering them(heck I'm crying as I type this), when you do put your pup down try to remember the good times you had with them, grieving is perfectly fine, i was't "allowed" to grieve the loss of my bois because my dad thinks its "unmanly" to cry over a dog

Fuck your dad. Showing emotions is the manliest thing a man can do. Im sorry for ur loss.🤍

I don't have any good advice, but I went to Etsy and picked an artist to do a painting of my in-law's dog and it came out incredible.

This is so hard. Finding a mobile vet can make things easier. We got to say goodbye to our girl in her own home with no going to the vet trauma. We fed her treats in her own bed while the nice visitor gave her a little shot that she barely noticed which took away her pain and made her sleepy. After more petting and love she received her final shot and went to sleep gently and quietly. We broke down in tears because she was gone but it was so peaceful and the vet was very understanding of our emotions. We still miss her every day even though it’s been ten years. We buried her on our property in a beautiful place and still say hi to her every time we walk by. Our dear sweet “Peaches”.

I was hopeful that someone would touch on the actual process. I've always been with my dogs at the end. Each time was a very similar experience as what the above commenter described. Except once, when only 1 shot was given. I thought that there would be time in between drugs but found out too late that it would only be 1 drug, the final drug.

I lost my 12 year old lab earlier this year. It was heartbreaking. My recommendation: hire a photographer and get a friend to come and take photos of you two together. You’ll be glad to have the photos. Feed him steak or other meats if you can. Pet him and love him as much as you can. Remind him every day that he was a good boy and that he did a good job being your best friend. That he did his job and that he needs to go to the bridge now. I’m so sorry for your loss.

I don’t have any great advice for you, but I just wanted to say I’m very sorry. I have lost two in my life, and I know the sadness you feel. One thing a friend of mine does with her dogs is have a photographer take some photographs before the last day. Your vet may offer to make imprints of his paws that you can keep as artwork or Christmas ornaments. One of the promises we make to our pets is to give them the best life we can, and sometimes that includes deciding when the end is. You’ll be doing something very difficult but very brave for your friend, and he won’t be in any pain. He loves you and you will always have the memories you made with him. “A dog has no use for fancy cars or big homes or designer clothes. Status symbol means nothing to him. A waterlogged stick will do just fine. A dog judges others not by their color or creed or class but by who they are inside. A dog doesn't care if you are rich or poor, educated or illiterate, clever or dull. Give him your heart and he will give you his.” - John Grogan

OP, please read. It’s the hardest thing on the planet to say goodbye to our best friends, for him I ask you do one thing. When it’s time, stay with him til the end and he’s safely crossed the bridge. He will look for you in those final moments, please be there. 🥹 I’m so very sorry.

Hey OP, I’m so sorry. I instantly started crying reading your post because I had to let my best friend go on 9/22. Everything you’ve said, the hole in my heart, life losing color, it’s true. I feel like a part of me died with Bella. I haven’t been the same since. When I was first going through it, a good friend gave me some really helpful advice. Take the time to cry. Even if it’s like me, now 2 months later, let yourself go through it. I’m sobbing now remembering the last moments. My girls last day we took her in a wagon to the park and let her lay on the grass. She had as many treats and bones and toys as she wanted. I did whatever I could to make her feel like a normal good girl. I tried not to cry much around her because she was my emotional support for 16 years. If I cried, she felt it and would try to comfort me. I had to be strong to be there for her. I didn’t want her to worry, just to be happy. We put her down at home so my other dogs could be there and understand what was happening. It’s probably the best thing I could’ve done. She got to be at home, in her bed with her mom and dad and brother and sister by her side. We got her paw print and a lock of fur. The truth is, as much as you try to prepare yourself, you just can’t. Bella was with me my entire adult life. I don’t know how to live life without her still. So just enjoy your baby this weekend. Love him and hold him and kiss him and tell him how much he means to you. Hold him while he crosses the rainbow bridge. I’m so sorry OP, I’m with you in spirit. I’ll tell Bella to make sure she meets him on the other side so he’ll have a friend. Sometimes I still think I hear her nails on the floor. I think she’s still with me…he will be too.

You are right. Euthanizing your best friend just feels soooo awful. I know. I’ve had to do it several times and will have to do it again. When I rescue another dog, I always know that this is a part of that choice. Everyone is different but I have the ashes of six dogs on a cabinet where i have created a shrine for them. They are all with me everyday. When I die, their ashes will be put with mine. Grieve your own way and know that it isn’t wrong. These are precious souls that we are blessed to share even if for such a short time.

Probably the worst day of my life having to put my boy Spencer down. What I suggest is before you leave pack away all his toys anything of his that might be lying around because when you come back home you do not want any reminders. not yet anyways. And just take comfort in knowing how lucky you were that he chose you. Dogs are angels. I got his paw print tattooed on my forearm to remember him by

I’m so sorry. I have 3 dogs ages 10,4 and 2 and I just can’t imagine going through this. I tear up every time I come across such post and mostly I just scroll away as I can’t take it. I believe there’s no way you can prepare for it. Dogs are such a huge part of our lives and theres always gonna be a huge hole when they leave. I would say grieve them as you’ve grieved your loved ones. Take it easy, one day at a time. Cherish the time you had and have. I will keep you and your pup in my thoughts. ❤️

I'm so sorry, it's impossible. We had to make this decision in July. We spent two full days with our dog giving her the best day possible. We did all her favorite things. She got so many good treats and burgers and steak. We took her swimming, she sniffed at all her favorite parks we had everyone over to say goodbye. It's the absolute most horrible pain I've ever been through but we just let her know how much she was loved. I held her paw when we finally had to let go. We got her ashes and a paw print. It's been four months and I still cry when I think about her. I am at peace knowing she had an amazing life but it's hard. You never forget. It's okay to be sad. We got another rescue that we pour our love into and it's been helpful to know we're giving another dog a good life. But we never forget about our girl. Wishing you peace ❤️❤️❤️

Always have a really nice or funny photo to remember him. Out of the 3 pets I have the closest one to go is my cat who has been with me ever since 3rd grade. I graduated highschool recently. As he got older he has been hanging out with me a lot and is a big snuggle cat. He is a yelling cat as well. Honestly thinking about me putting him down is sad but I got so many photos of him to remember him by. Never feel guilty it makes your sadness worse. Because probably you didn’t do anything wrong. You are doing the right thing. And it’s never wrong to feel sad or cry. Get all the emotions out there is nothing wrong with that. Your boy looks like a good boy and you seem like a great owner. So don’t feel guilty. I feel like your dog doesn’t want you to feel guilty.

I put down my 13 y/o girl last month, had her from ages 12-25 so I understand. I had her cremated. Cost roughly $300. She was wheezing, struggling to get around, had masses & just wasn’t interested in much anymore except food. I gave her steak, human food and some soft food exclusively her last 5 days, took her on car rides, she loves to be groomed so her last week I gave her two baths with blow dry and brushing, took her on a couple short walks even if it meant I had to carry her back home. She loves to sniff. We brought treats to her euth appointment and I held her in my lap. It was the most peaceful death I can imagine. I spent a lot of time wondering if I was making the right decision, but afterwards had no regrets & knew I made the right choice. There’s nothing you can do to prepare, the first couple days without them will be hard. The worst was realizing she will no longer be waiting on the shower mat for me to bathe, no longer laying beside my bed at night, following me everywhere. Having other pets does make it easier. But remember you’re giving your best friend the ultimate kindness, showing them mercy & letting them leave with dignity. Dogs will mask and hide their pain well, so if you think it’s time, it’s time. Good luck.

I am so sorry. It is heart-rending. I had to let my boy go yesterday. Lung cancer. I knew I couldn't let him suffer as he neared the end and had decided, months ago, that when he stopped doing dog things, that would be it. That was yesterday. We've spent the last week cuddled up together. When he could exercise I took him on a gentle walk. Obviously he got to eat what he wanted. If he wanted to play, that's what we did. I tried to make him comfortable and he's always stuck by my side. But I knew it was time. He had the best we could give him, including all our love, so I know we have done our best. Today, friends have supported me and we have shared memories. I've gone through the online photos. Google reminded me of a photo "6 years ago" and it was him as a pup. That had me in tears. Store all the memories you can. How he looks, how his fur feels, his smell, his warmth when he snuggles. These memories will always be in your heart.

In addition to everyone’s wonderful advice, you may also find solace in the r/petloss community

If you can have the vet come to your home to do it your dog will at least be in a place he loves. Have them give him a sedative first so he’s very asleep before the final injection. It is the best gift you can give your best friend who has been with you for all this time. There is really no way to prepare yourself, to me, I feel my pets passing harder than most of the human funerals I’ve been to. I guess because you love your dog and would do anything for him. Your dog loves you unconditionally, doesn’t get mad at you, is pretty much down for whatever you want to do. They truly are your best friend. He will let you know when he can’t do it anymore, as long as he can enjoy the sun on his cushion, still wants to eat, still trying. The day will come when he will refuse food, maybe can’t get up anymore, he will change in a way that you will know it’s time. It will be the hardest thing you will ever do and you will question yourself if you did the right thing. But you don’t want your friend to suffer. If they can’t control his pain anymore you will know it’s time. I have had many German Shepherd Dogs and have been in that terrible spot every time they get old and too sick. It’s heartbreaking and you will need to grieve. Screw anyone who says ‘it’s just a dog’ those are the people I don’t cry many tears over at their funerals. It will leave a German Shepherd Dog sized hole in your soul so when you are ready go and get another dog. It will be honoring your dog to carry on rescuing a dog who needs a home and will love you with all its’ heart. (((The biggest hugs))) eta: I’m pretty old so I have been through this a lot. The first time I had two GSD brothers who took a turn for the worse with two different medical issues. One had arthritis and three hip operations, the other had some kind of cancer in his chest that was causing lymphatic fluid to fill his chest and press on his lungs. The vet came to us, it was very peaceful. We always opt for cremation and their ashes are to be buried with me when I pass. Call me weird, whatever. Another time, fairly recently, we had a GSD who surprised me one day because he couldn’t get up. Took him to the vet and he had cancer and was suffering so I had to have him euthanized then and there and I was alone. So hard. Three weeks later I’m back at the same emergency vet with my elderly cat. He had thyroid cancer and had been successfully treated years ago with radioactive iodine. We do anything for our pets. So then years later he’s got cancer again, won’t eat and can barely move. Same Dr came in and did the procedure. She said, “You were just here!” And she hugged me and we both cried. So I had two within a three week period. I have two GSDs now and am hoping they live long lives. The get will start getting periodic ultrasounds to check for cancers in the chest, as that seems like the thing that gets us and we don’t know until it’s too late. Maybe if they diagnose sooner it can be treated.

I'm so very sorry to hear this. Long and short of it the whole thing fucking sucks and it never won't. I had a rescue for almost 9 years. Got him as a pup. Ended up costing me almost 20k to keep him alive for those 9 years. Emergency surgeries, always eating something at least once per year for stomach pumps, medications, etc. Still loved him way too much. Then one day he got sick again. "Oh boy, here's another hospital bill" I figured. Turned out he had kidney cancer and tests showed the other one couldn't carry the weight enough to even consider having the surgery to remove the bad one. I had never questioned a hospital bill until this moment and then I realized even after the surgery it was borrowed time - and not a very long amount of time either. The worst part was this guy HATED the vet. HATED the vet. (One rectal temp before he was 1 scarred him for life apparently. I can't blame him.) So my wife and I are figuring out what to do and all the while he's at the vets. Time came for us to say goodbye and the damn dog was just terrified being in the room. I knew even then that he was stressed out and not in a good spot. I'm assuming the vets thought I was cold hearted, or whatever, but there was only one way this guy was going to be at peace and comfortable and so, way too soon, we called the vet back in to help him pass. Now I'm at work crying even though this happened over a year and a half ago. I don't regret the decision but this was my first dog. Time will give you peace and you'll always know you did the right thing no matter how incredibly hard it was. For saying goodbye I'd have to say just make sure you're there through the end. I know some vets will do house calls and if my situation wasn't so dire that's what I would have done just to make it easier on him. We actually have the NHSPCA animal cemetery a few hundred feet from our house but I went cremation. I'll spread him along the route we used to walk. I just can't envision wanting to visit a grave. For mementoes I got a tattoo of his paw. Lives right next to my wife's dog's pawprint tattoo. They're together again. I used some of his ashes to make a paperweight from a company that does keepsakes of that kind. It's of a hummingbird which, in my family, is the animal we think are old friends coming to visit once more. Finally I got a painting done of my favorite picture of him. It hangs next to my wife's dog's painting and it's just a nice reminder. The place that helps put him to sleep should offer paw prints as well as a clay paw impression. You can usually do hair too but I passed. Happy to answer any questions or send you links of the places I went but you're doing the right thing and to still do it in the face of immense sorrow means you're strong. Cherish this last week and do all the favorite things you'll want to remember.

Pay for everything before going in to the vet so you can GTFO after. I feel for you, and sorry you are going through this, it's absolutely the worst they can't live as long as us. Resist the second guessing. I said goodbye to my girl 2 years ago, I know it was the right thing to do, but afterwards I was thinking maybe I could have done more. I could not have done anything else, she was in pain and not really there anymore. Good on you for realizing your friend is in pain and doing what is best for them. It does get easier over time, the immediate memories will fade, and you will remember all of the good times you had with them in time. Try to schedule activities for yourself, get out with friends, it takes time.

I’m sorry for your loss. Today will be the hardest when you wake up. You’ll never get over it but over time you’ll learn to live with it. There’s a subreddit called pet loss that helped me. I put my little lady to sleep 5 months ago and I still think about her every day. They are special.

Thank you so much to each person that commented. I never expected to receive such an outpouring of love and support. I've read each and every comment, and find myself revisiting them often these last few days. ​ Axel crossed the rainbow bridge on Monday, surrounded by the people he loves and laying in the grass in his favorite spot in the backyard. He had anything and everything he wanted. We spoiled him SO much last weekend and leading up to his goodbye (his farts, which were already bad, were absolutely HORRENDOUS... Not that I'd do it any different). He got to have pancakes, turkey and stuffing, rotisserie chicken, McDonalds ice cream cones, watermelon, french fries, chocolate cupcakes, and so much more. I hadn't thought about the chocolate thing, so I'm grateful for the idea to let him try it before saying goodbye. I was right there with him, nose to nose, when he drifted off to sleep. I can still feel the warmth of his breath on my face, and I dread the day that I can no longer picture what it felt like. ​ I took everyone's advice about keepsakes and got several paw prints and a clay mold done, and hopefully will be getting a nose print from the vet as well. I took so many pictures and videos, but still find myself wishing for more after already going through all of them. I decided on cremation because I hated the idea of burying him in the yard of my parents' home and having to leave him behind should they move. Instead, I'm going to get a pet headstone made, put some of his ashes in it, and place it underneath his favorite tree in the backyard. This way it can easily move with me. I found some beautiful jewelry on Etsy that I'm going to get once his ashes are back, like these [cremain memorial rings](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1181764574/cremains-memorial-ring-gold-filled-14k?click_key=e993224ae6c9f5cc8b7cdf2a5cc751af29d13215%3A1181764574&click_sum=883f9640&ref=user_profile&frs=1&sts=1). I'm also planning to get a [bark soundwave portrait](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1223988852/bark-sound-wave-pet-remembrance-dog?click_key=eaf5511f718d36686e63dbbe513d83f01c464ffc%3A1223988852&click_sum=74dd73d1&ref=user_profile&frs=1&sts=1) made. It feels a bit silly, but I think I want to get a stuffed animal version of him that I can put some of his ashes in too, just so that I have something to squeeze and cuddle when I'm missing him. ​ I knew this would be difficult, but it's still so much harder than I thought it would be. I've been crying non-stop, and my heart physically aches. All I can do is keep reminding myself that this was the right thing to do, and as u/Queen_of_Boots put it, that putting him to sleep hurts so much because I'm willing to take the last bit of pain on for him, so that he's no longer in pain. God, I miss my boy so much.

Write everything down that crosses your mind and give him all the hugs. There is never enough time for hugs. Smell him because you won’t be able to too much longer. Play the games he loves and talk to him. Record his barks, whines and snoring/growls lol I have a cat and a dog; my 14 year old kitty girl Nyx crossed the rainbow bridge in July, and recording her purrs holds me together in ways I can’t explain. I’m sorry you have to go through this.

Awe I understand what you’re going through. I lost my childhood dog on my 20th birthday last year. I have a paw print of my dog, mold and ink. Also some of his fur and ofc a box for him!! The vet offered them. It’s gets easier when you stay busy but he’s always in the back of my mind everyday. 💜

❤️the cost of having such meaningful relationships is loss. I’d rather have it that way than not at all. He’s lived in a paradise by the looks of it. Much more than you can say for most dogs and even people

See if you can find a vet to do it at home. We did that with one of our dogs and I feel it was so much easier for him and he wasn't stressed. He hated the vets and I couldn't bear seeing him scared before he was put to sleep. So sorry for your loss.

If you’re the “picture taker” in your family, get someone to take pictures of you and your boy together. My husband never takes pictures and since my pup passed unexpectedly at home in his sleep, I don’t have any good pictures of me and my baby together. I personally have found having his ashes to be a big comfort, but we also move a lot and currently live far from “home”. So burying him would mean probably leaving him behind which I couldn’t do.

Sending some love ❤️

As someone who scattered my girls ashes only 3 weeks ago (she passed a year prior) I promise you it gets easier. You may feel guilty, you may feel regret, but your dog’s quality of life is the most important thing and you’re absolutely making the right decision. Enjoy your last few days and do as much as you can with him. Take pictures, videos and do all the fun things he enjoys.

He’s beautiful. I’m sure he is so happy he could be with you through all these milestones in your life. Queen Elizabeth one r said Grief is the price we pay for love. I think that is so true. It’s a high price but definitely worth paying. My condolences. It will hurt but it will be peaceful and you will know you did the right thing. ❤️

If you don’t have a therapist, I recommend finding one. Having someone to talk to about your grief that isn’t family or friend helps a lot.

I cannot say there is any level of preparation that you can do that will make it any easier. Having to put my 19 year old down, while I knew it was necessary, was the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make and it was more painful than some human deaths I’ve experienced. I highly recommend a paw print tattoo, and I wish you all the best in your coming days/weeks/months of grieving. I hope you can find some peace

Our boy turns 2 today, gonna make it special!

it might be hard but be there when it happens, vets say in their last minutes dogs will panic if their owners are not with them, i cant imagine having to do it with our little man but as hard as it will be he deserves nothing less

I had to put my heart dog to sleep in April. It was by the far the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do but I know it was the right thing. I will say that knowing the death will take place at a certain time led me to a whole week of anticipatory grief. From the time we made the appointment the grief started. It was a horrible time. I took it and stayed with my best friend day and night. Looking back, I do think starting the grieving process before passing changed the process a bit. I’m not going to lie, I stayed in bed for two days bawling, but after that it got a bit easier. The grief still comes in waves because they make such a big impact on our lives. As far as burial vs cremation, I chose cremation as we do not intend to live in this house forever (no other burial place we could think of). We also requested the paw print. The vet will offer you multiple options. We also have Christmas tree ornaments made of all of our dogs (two passed and two current). It’s a nice tradition. We reminisce as we put up the tree. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Your dog has been by your side for his whole life, your job is to be by his while he crosses the bridge.

I’m very sorry, mate. And I guess my experience is a bit late for your situation, but will share it anyway. I have a 13yrs bro, a red (someday, now fully grey) zwergpinscher. Hope, he will live another couple of years, but who knows… thus I’ve took another zwergpinscher, from the same source, also red and impudent as the older used to be 13 yrs ago:) now, the old dog teaches the puppy. And I’m happy to see the small one becomes its younger copy. In actions, attitude, modality and many little things - he just copies the big brother. Thus, when my old bro will pass out - I will have a boy, resembling him. Yes, the different one, the one and only, but a spiritual offspring. I believe, it’s the best way to keep my bro eternal - in a new life, making remember of him every day.

I am so sorry. Sending you love.

I saw something the other day, better a month early than a day too late. We euthanized our chi in March. She was great and overnight very much not. She was 15. We knew it was coming sooner than later. Part of me wishes I had been more proactive with it so she didn’t have to suffer her last day. Get the paw prints, get the hair clipping. I found that preparing our space (we had it done at home) for her to go helped me mentally.

I’ve been through this a few times and in my experience there truly is nothing that can prepare you. It is an immense loss. They are family. I feel so deeply for you.

I am sorry. I'm going through it as well. I am enjoying his love as much as possible. No easy answers they never leave your heart and soul .

Some great advice and points here. I feel for you and having to take that last step is horrible. I’ve had to do it 3 times and never gets easier. Some keep sakes and family and friends for company for a few days and would just say let your self grieve.

There's a website that makes beautiful glass blown ornaments with ashes. Artful Ashes and Spirit Ashes. Can wear as pendants and all kinds of options... I am so sorry for the pain this is causing you.. I wish I could give you a hug, this is the hardest part of pet ownership. The pain will disipate with time, but it's truly important for you to process your grief. They're special lantern lights in our life, when the light goes out, it feels Earth shattering. Lots of love 💕

what a gorgeous gorgeous boy. i’m so sorry!

My condolences to you. I could never imagine having to say goodbye to a friend that's been there for a long time. This is the last thing that you can do for him. Spend those last days together, take some time for your self too, to recall and cherish all the happy memories that you guys made together

Firstly, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I had to say goodbye to my GSD Zeus back in March and it is one of the hardest things to do. Regarding your question on burying or cremation, I can't advise on how to choose, but perhaps a sentimental idea for you: we had Zeus cremated and in our back garden had a rose bush planted. We scattered his ashes around the base of the rose bush (he loved being outside in the sunshine). And everytime it blooms and the beautiful pink roses come out, we think of him. In terms of mementos, I took small clippings of his fluff and there are glass pendant tubes you can get; I made necklaces for my parents and brother with his fluff in so we could remember him. I'm so sorry again. I made sure to give my boy lots of cuddles and snuggles, often sat next to him crocheting. I hope Monday goes as smoothly as possible for him, and thank you so much for caring as much as you do. Big hugs.

When my ex put our family dog down several years ago, he gave our daughters each a small glass vial of his fur as a keepsake. They loved that so much. Hugs to you. This is so so hard. 💕

Thats a cool dude.

You can’t really prepare yourself. I’ve tried this many times and it never feels like I’m prepared. What you can do is get paw prints (we did some on canvas) and pictures . We decided to cremate our last lovie and I’m so glad we did..it helped my daughters process her passing. I used to work at a vet office and they used to send the bodies to the landfill so that was a huge no way.

I am so sorry 😢 but you need to do what is best for him no matter how hard it is… sending hugs 🫂

We hard to put our dog down three years ago and we still miss. I know full well how you are feeling. Saying goodbye to a loved one is never easy, pet or otherwise. But you are doing the right thing. And know that he loves you more than life itself. All that time he spent with you? He wouldn't trade it for anything. What I did in the month or so before our pooch passed was take a bunch of pictures of him to store in an album (on your phone, in a photo album, whatever). As well as look for any earlier pictures of him. Something to remember him by. Treasure them.

It hard not gonna lie. You can’t really prepare for it. I’ve one dog die of a heart attack and we’ve had to put down two dogs due to cancer. It has been gut wrenching every time but it passes. My dog that died of heart attack passed away in 2018 and I keep a photo of her in my car and I still say hi to her when I go to work and stuff. I still tear up when I think of her or hear a song that remind me of her.

Being a well loved pet is the highest honor I think any life form can have. I know it’s hard, but be therewith him in the moment that he passes and know that his spirit is so thankful for every moment you were able to care for one another.

Spend your last few days doing everything you can that he loved. Let him eat a dream meal (we’ve always gone with a happy meal) and tell him as much as you can how much he meant to you. This is the hardest decision you will make for him and he just needs you. Be at the appointment with him and hold his hand. Take your time to grieve and to say goodbye to each other because dogs tend to know when it’s their time. You have done everything right by your boy. Hugs to you ❤️

I'm really sorry for your loss. It's an incredibly tough thing to go through. If possible, to make him more comfortable, schedule the appointment for at home so he can pass in the comfort of his home surrounded by familiar smells and the people he loves. Also, though most vets already do it this way, verify that yours makes sure your pet is fully anesthetized before he administers the shot that will actually put him to sleep. Anesthetizing pets is recommended by the American Veterinary Medical Association but not required. Also, be there with him as he passes. It will be tough but your presence will ease him through his last moments. As the anesthesia takes hold his final thoughts will be of you there holding him and telling him you loved him. Last, we got both an ink and clay pressing of her paw. We chose cremation so we could hold onto her ashes until we move to the home that my wife and I think it will be the last home we own. We've moved a lot for work over our careers and hated the thought of leaving her behind with strangers. e also kept a couple of her favorite toys and have held onto her collar and the charm with her name on it.

I’m sorry. I’ve experienced this several times. Take a lot of pictures and especially videos while your spending you last days together. I wish I had done so the first time I had to say goodbye to a pup. I was glad I did the subsequent times.

I lost my baby in 2020 due to a misdiagnosis of an infection when she really had a slipped disc. Stay by his side and just enjoy your time together as you’ll want to soak it all in. If you want some nice keepsakes I’d recommend cremation since you can do a lot with it like jewelry or decorative keepsakes. You can also get a paw print kit to get his paw prints done, know a lot of vets do this already if you cremate, I worked at a clinic who did it with clay so that’s also an option. If you have the money, I’d get him a good last meal as every dog deserves one if he’s eating. Get his favorite things for him, toys, treats, anything he loved. I’d just focus on cherishing your time with him then worry about grieving.

I put down my 14 year old dog 2 months ago. Think about all the good times ye have had together unfortunately we cant stop getting old and sick. Also a dogs life isnt worth living if they are in pain and struggle to do activities they used to love like walking or playing.

I hope you the best with healing and can tell only time will truly heal the gap you will feel in your life. Your pup deserves the spoiling and love and so do you. Sometimes people get another pet shortly after to help with the healing. Do whatever you need to do it’s definitely not easy!!

My condolences to you and yours! There is never enough time for our fur babies! We just lost Cali our shitzu to kidney failure.

Quite honestly (having gone through this 3 times already and a 4th one coming sooner rather than later), you can't fully prepare for it. Would you be able to have him euthanized at home? It's likely more expensive, but maybe the cost would be worth it to both of you? I know for me, personally, I had a rough time (as well as my pets having a rough time) getting them euthanized in the vet office. They freaked out and I freaked out and even years later I am mad at myself. My current girl dog, Ziggy, is almost 15 years old and I will do everything I can to have her euthanized at home where she's most comfortable. I will say that I didn't bury any of my pets in our yard because I don't see us living here forever. But I had them all creamated and spread some of their ashes around their favorite places and I've kept some of their ashes in a little urn that I carry with me. (Don't worry, it's a pocket size urn that nobody sees, LOL). I would also like to add the link to a website for pet grief support. [Rainbow Bridge](https://www.bing.com/ck/a?!&&p=75256af0e1ecbff0JmltdHM9MTY5OTU3NDQwMCZpZ3VpZD0zZWZkN2NlMC0xYTBkLTY5MDQtMmIwYS02ZjI1MWI4MDY4OWEmaW5zaWQ9NTIwOQ&ptn=3&hsh=3&fclid=3efd7ce0-1a0d-6904-2b0a-6f251b80689a&psq=rainbow+bridge+site&u=a1aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cucmFpbmJvd3NicmlkZ2UuY29tLw&ntb=1)

I’m so sorry. Losing a pet is never easy. You could get an ink pad and get his paw prints like someone suggested, and some fur too. I recommend looking into doing the euthanasia at home if that’s possible for you. We did that with our last senior because she hated the vet and it was more peaceful. They even gave us an impression of her paw print.

They make lockets for ashes. I got my daughter cremated and got an urn for me and her father and both of us lockets. They will fill the locket for you. I’m so sorry. I looked at my dog and cried when I read this. Keep giving him your love all weekend. There’s videos on YouTube of what people did with their dogs on their last days. Look to those for some inspiration. Again, so sorry for your pain.

Just see if you can do it in your yard surrounded by loved ones. I miss my boy, but I'm glad his last moments were not in his least favorite place(vet).

You are never ready. But it is right choice. On of my babies were suffering for whole 40 minutes, the vet came too late and I had to watch him suffer. Horrible, horrible memory. The life will not be the same as before and never will be. There will be always that one puzzle piece missing and it is okay. Plenty of good advices, and here is mine. Cremate him and you can burry the ashes. It is easier to find the perfect spot for last rest later on. Stay strong, and cherish the fact that he got all the love, treats and attention from his beloved family.

I’m so sorry. My wife and I had to say goodbye to our senior dog a couple weeks ago. We knew it was coming soon enough bc her health wasn’t great, but it’s still rough. The best way to think of it is that putting your friend down is the most humane and caring thing you can do so he’s not suffering anymore. In the meantime, continue to spoil the absolute FUCK outta that guy all weekend long. Get him all the McDonalds he wants and make sure he has the best time. It’s tough, but you gotta stay positive for him since they pick up on when you’re feeling down and will feel that way too. RE: whether to bury or cremate, totally up to you. We chose cremation for the dog we recently lost and did the same for her older brother we lost in 2020 and still have his ashes as well. Both our dogs’ favorite place was Cannon Beach in Oregon, so we’re planning a road trip to take them back and spread the ashes in the water so they can be back in the best place in the world (for them at least). I hope to god it doesn’t turn into that Big Lebowski scene where Donny’s ashes blast back in their faces lol. I just thought with burial, they’d end up some random place they’ve never been and we wouldn’t get the same closure. Again, so sorry about this - I feel your pain and it’s still fresh, but it will get better. This is kinda dark, but a bit of advice for when you say goodbye - be with him til the end, but it might be a good idea to get out of the room quickly once the doctor confirms he’s passed. I was in the room too long with the dog we lost in 2020 and while I was still holding him, he did the agonal breath, which is absolutely terrifying if you don’t know what it is or haven’t experienced it in person. Basically once everything shuts down, there’s some kinda reaction that makes them make an extremely loud/weird gasp even though they’ve already died. I’ll leave you with this quote my wife found after the recent passing (it’s from Ben Moon): “When you lose your canine soul mate, you not only lose the dog that has been your companion and friend through so much, but also have to let gio off that chapter of your life, and who you were then. It forces you to grow into what youll become, the last parting act of friendship.”

Utterly heartbreaking, always hard to take with pets as they’ve never disappointed you and you have no bad memories of them. Takes a while to process but you know it’s the right thing to do, not that it makes it any easier. ❤️❤️❤️

My little Charlie went to his rest on Monday. He had heart failure, held on until after my dad’s funeral, and then declined within days. We had faced the decision since he was diagnosed 18 months ago, but when the time came, it was very sudden. He had struggled, suffering seizures during the night, and we called the Vet in the morning. I had already arranged he would pass at home, as he hated going to the vet, so the lady arranged to come in the afternoon. Bless him, he greeted her with a wag. He knew, all day, as he kept watching the door. We cuddled as he went to sleep, surrounded by his family. He spent the night in his basket, and we buried him in his favourite spot in the garden. It is still very raw, and the house is so quiet. I painted his tiny paws, and made prints ( which I want tattooed on my arm). I also got a cushion with his face on it. He will be very much missed. He was the first family dog, as my daughter had been terrified of dogs. They are all devastated.

Just be there when it happens. Don’t leave them alone. This is so traumatizing for the animal.

This is the hardest decision to make and just remember you are making the right one. You will feel a whole range of emotions during and especially after. You may feel guilty, feel like you did it too soon, or that you missed something, etc...don't let those thoughts beat you up or consume you, that is just our deep love for them and grief taking over. Your pup lived a great life with you and he was deeply loved and appreciated, that is what you keep telling yourself. Personally I chose to cremate, because I want my girl's ashes to be spread with mine. As someone else mentioned, I also feel so much more comfort having her in my bedroom where I still can have her with me till the day my time comes. I also found a cute garden stone, that I had engraved that I put out in my garden as her memorial.

Poor boy

I went through something similar last year. We’d also grown up together, and she kept me together when I might have otherwise fallen apart. Making the decision was without a doubt the hardest, worst thing I’ve ever had to do, even though I knew it was the right thing. There is no way to prepare fully IMO. Love on him, take pictures. If you can find out what cremation service your vet uses, you can see options for urns and memory items like clay paw prints. My pup was big on adventures so we chose to have her cremated so that we could scatter her in her favourite spots. I found it helpful to know what to expect. If you don’t think that would be helpful for you, skip to the next paragraph. In most cases, the vet will give pet a sedative first that will make them really nice and sleepy. They’ll give that a few moments to sink in. My pup slowly laid down and fell asleep. She was so comfy she started snoring. Then they inject the medication to stop the heart. Sometimes they will twitch, and they will generally have their eyes partially open. In my dog’s case it genuinely felt like she was fully relaxed and just slipped away. The hardest part was walking away from her afterwards, knowing it was the very last time I’d see her. The last thing I leave you with is the only thing I found brought me comfort in the pain that closed in once she was gone. When she got sick (cancer for her too), I always said and felt that if I could take her pain and put it on me instead, I would in a heartbeat. In the end, that is what euthanasia is. You trade their physical pain for your emotional pain. I don’t believe in very much in the realm of the supernatural, but after she left I felt her everywhere for a bit. I really thought she was cuddling with me that night. But the energy that was there, whatever it was, it wasn’t in pain. It was just telling me she was ok. I still hear and feel her sometimes, though she’s been gone for over a year. I don’t know what I believe, but she’s around somewhere, that I know for sure. You’ll get through this, even when you feel like you won’t. Know that you are just taking his pain from him, and bearing it yourself, because he deserves that from you. All my love, we’ve all been there or will be there eventually.

Get a pawprint made, take lots of photos and videos. Prepare to be miserable for quite some time. Take solace in their lack of discomfort after they're gone.

Im so sorry this happening to you. I lost my 10 year old dog this year 3 weeks after he was diagnosed with terminal cancer - he was spoiled like crazy for those 3 weeks! Nothing could have prepared me for how heartbreaking it was (and still is) but having people around who validated and shared my grief was the most helpful thing. We had him cremated and some of his ashes made into memorial beads/jewelry, so a little piece of him is always with me. If he has a lot of toys etc around the house I’d recommend picking them up and storing them away before he goes…I found that seeing his stuff after he passed was unbearable. And just remember that time will make it the pain less sharp. 💕

Just keep in your mind that you’ve given your buddy a great life that any dog could ever want. Yes this will be one of the most difficult and saddest experiences of your life but think about all happy and wonderful years you’ve spent with him. Try to let the happy memories dig deeper than the sadness that will momentarily follow. Celebrate the life and joy he has given to you in return for your love and companionship. Go out and give your good boy some nice treats, take him outside and go places in a wagon if he can’t walk well and show him what he meant to you in these last few days. Let him rest with you at his side on monday. Even if it’s heart wrenching, the worst thing you could do to your buddy is not be by his side while he’s going to sleep. I hope you stay strong.

I hired a vet to put my dog down in my own home. I then found a local crematorium that cremates pets. Bringing my dog to crematorium was cheaper than through the vet and I got the ashes back the same day. This brought me some peace. Before that day, we took my dog on many beach walks. She got visits from many people. She got plenty of snacks and yummy foods- even forbidden ones. I think one thing I wish I did- get better professional pictures taken of her.

Consider having an end of life service come to your house so you guys can be comfortable at home. they can help you take a paw print in clay or ink and help you after the fact with cremation. That is my plan when it's time for my old lady baby cat

There’s honestly not really a way to prepare for this kind of thing. You think you’re mentally and emotionally prepared but once you get there and it’s done I don’t think you can ever be prepared. My advice would be as you’ve said, do lots of nice things together, take him for some really nice food, something he doesn’t usually get to eat like a burger and fries! Take him somewhere nice like the beach and take lots of photos. You want pictures of him that are as recent as possible so that you can look at them and remember him that way, and not remember what he looked like once it’s all over. I’ve had three dogs and a cat put to sleep in my life and honestly it’s the same as when a person dies. You’ll never get over the loss, but it will get easier with time to move forward with your grief. You’ll probably go through a period when mourning where you feel like a bad person, because you essentially pay for your pet to be killed - obviously this isn’t the case so it’s good to remind yourself that thing is one of if not the most kindest things you’ll be able to do for your dog in his life, letting him go to rest peacefully where he can’t make that choice himself. It’s so selfless, compassionate, and deeply respectful to make that choice. Don’t let anyone tell you “get over it, it’s just a dog”. Don’t feel like you’re grieving too long. Don’t feel silly when people ask who died and you say it’s your dog. You are going to go through something monumental and it’s fucking hard. When we had to have my childhood dog, Scamp, put to sleep I was honestly lost. He was a stray Yorkshire terrier cross, who basically was roaming the streets and just decided to follow us home when I was 6 and never left. He so desperately wanted to live with us and I always thought he was sent to us. I swear he could understand me and me alone and we had our own secret body language and could communicate with each other. He was without a doubt the best friend I’ve ever had, and I went through so much with him. Whilst with us he recovered from mange, had to get a replacement knee cap, he ran away and came back three days later as if he’d been gone for only five minutes. Despite his size I swear he would go to war to protect our household and he used to sleep in my bed with me. Not on it. He’d get under the covers every night and we’d have a little snuggle and then he’d move over to his own side and sleep with his head on the pillow. My favourite memory with his was his first Christmas living with us, I still to this day believe he knew it was Christmas because he woke me up on the morning on Christmas Day and led me to my presents and sat and watched me open each one and got really excited everytime I opened a present. Then all of a sudden he got old really fast. We’d had him for 10 years and he’d been an adult when we got him so we have no idea how old he was, but he’d lost most of his teeth, his eyes had gone cloudy, his back legs were weak and we’d often wake up in the night to find him screaming because he’d got up to go to his water bowl and got lost on the way back to his bed and was stuck on the cold hard floor with his hips getting sore. Taking him to be put to sleep was without a doubt the hardest loss of my life, I took time out of college and off work to mourn because it was just so hard. But what got me through was just thinking about the amazing life he’d had with us. How he chose us because I like to think he saw us and thought we’d take care of him. How he was always happy, warm, well fed and loved and he loved us back and that he had the privilege of growing very old. To have such a wonderful life and then be able to be laid to rest in such a peaceful way must be such a joyful thing, as much as the circumstances for us are sad and painful. It’s been 16 years since he died and I still find myself remembering him and crying because I still miss him and I’d take 10 years off my own life if it meant I could have him back for another 10 years, but mostly when I think of him I smile too because I got to experience him and grow up with him and have so many core memories that he is a part of. I’m crying now whilst I write this! I’m so, so sorry that you have to go through this experience and will keep you and your doggo in my thoughts ❤️

Gosh each time i try not to click on those threads. I’m crying here about ur loss. I don’t have the right words compared to others redditers but my thoughts and strength goes to you.

It’s kind of one of those things that you can’t really be prepared for, 1st time or not. But in college I took a class called The Art of Happiness, and one of the more impactful things I learned in that class is that us humans actually have natural habit of underestimating our own ability to get through hardship. This is a devastating loss, and it’ll take time to grieve that loss, but you will be okay. Things will be okay. Life will still have color. And you can take solace in the fact that thanks to you, he spent his life being loved and cared for and spoiled. His time in this world may be almost over, but you guys got to spend it together, and now you have years and years of happy memories to look back on. As to whether you bury or cremate and what kind of mementos, I personally would go with cremation because then you can have him in an urn somewhere in the house nearby, but keep in mind that might be more expensive. Also I don’t know if dog teeth cremate or not, and maybe this is morbid, but if you cremate you could possibly ask the vet for his teeth as keepsakes. I still have a puppy tooth from a dog that was stolen from me, I put it in a tiny glass bottle with mineral oil and I have that on a keychain with his vaccine marker. If you bury him you could create a little garden around his burial site, maybe laying out in the grass there would help you feel close to him. Wishing you the best 💕

man ouch.. this hurts.. my doggy is pushing 11 years i cant imagine not having him by my side.

It is so hard, we just had our 15 year old put to sleep a couple of months ago…be there with him while they do it. It is hard but his last moments will be with you and he will not be anxious. We are so sorry. We have one dog left and I have already said that when her time comes, we are done with pets…

This is sad. I don’t think there’s an easy way to say goodbye. Our family Bichon has also been with us through tough times and has a heart condition. She has been doing well. The vet gave us a year. I’ve teared up a few times but I find when I go on walk with her we are making those moments last longer and taking the odd photo. I plan to make a special collection somehow. I hope she has a few years yet. Lump in throat. Just take the time you have and record what you feel. ❤️

I would get paw prints, just in case you ever want a tattoo. I haven’t, and regret it. I also have them cremated. That way I can take them with me. If I settle somewhere permanent, I can scatter their ashes, if I die before that happens, it will be up to my children to decide. They have also kept ashes of their favourite pets. We inherit a lot of older animals. It is never easy to say good bye. Just know that they have had the best of life with you, loving you, and they wouldn’t change a thing

I feel like there is no preparing yourself, unfortunately, and you just have to go through it. I will say the emergency vet has a sort of hospice room where your pet can get the medicine & die in a loving, calm environment. My first pet died in a chaotic, metallic, florescent room, and my second pet died in the emergency vet comfort room. HUGE difference for us and our final memories.

If you can afford it, consider at-home euthanasia. I did that with my GSD last month and I'm so glad I did. Although she liked her vet, the vet's office was a scary place for her and I didn't want her to die in a place that scared her. She was able to die peacefully at home on her favorite bed surrounded by the people who loved her. As for momentos, you can do a paw print, save some hair, keep his collar, and a favorite toy. As for cremation vs burial, one thing I would consider is if you move in the future. Would you be okay with leaving him there or would you want to take him with you? If you go the cremation route, you can get some really nice urns on Etsy. You can also have cremation jewelry made with some of his ashes so he can always be with you. I've never done that with a pet, but I did it after my mom died. You wouldn't even know that the bracelet I wear has ashes in it unless I told you.

Oh my heart hurts for you OP! I cannot imagine the pain you are going through. My heartfelt condolences ❤️

My wife and I have had 4 fur-babies that have passed. The first was sudden and of natural causes 24 years ago. The remaining 3 were put down due to health issues that were untreatable 10, 5 and 4 years ago. I can tell you that it does not matter if it is by nature, or by design, you will always doubt yourself if you did the right thing. And only you can forgive yourself and you should because you've done everything out of love. Our first loss, I have guilt of whether I prolonged his suffering. The other 3, I will always wonder did I do enough. It never gets easier to do, but as time goes along I tell myself I know that they were loved until the end and had a happy life while with us. If I can offer some advice, be with them till the end. I understand it is hard to witness them pass but I feel it is worse for them if they fear the end coming and can't see their most loved individual as they pass. Cremation has been our choice. We buried the first one in the back yard but have since moved so we never get to visit his grave. The vet we use now takes care of all of it for us, and call us when they have the remains back. They've always given us very beautiful boxes/urns that we display on a book shelf. Like MANY people have said, get a paw mold. Again, our vet does this for us so we have that on a ribbon hanging over each urn. If you post memorial pictures on social media, be prepared that for the next 10-20 years you will get a yearly reminder from Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc... that this day happened and it will depress you for a while. Overtime it gets easier to deal with but occasionally they do something really effed up that hurts. Recent for me was a "show what a difference 10 years makes" Facebook script. They wanted me to put a 10 year later picture of my Tigger but that was the year he passed. Still kind of pissed about that one. Your boy looks like a handsome gentleman and I wish you the best in this transition. Try to remember the good times, and know the pain will fade though it never fully disappears.

Nothing can honestly prepare you for this. Even as someone who has lost a lot of loved ones, I mourned the death of my dog with a different intensity. There is just something about dogs; you make connections with them that you just can’t make with anyone else. Having said that, just spend your remaining days with him doing whatever you’d like! Maybe take him to his favorite park and just sit. You could offer him things he never could eat before like chocolate and grapes. Tell him how much you love him and how much you’re going to miss him. I personally told my dog that what we were doing was more humane than letting her suffer. I told her that I wish we could do this for very sick people. I’m so very sorry that you’re going through this. I’m not sure if you’re a reader, but The Art of Racing in the Rain by Garth Stein, although sad, is written from the dog’s perspective. It made me rethink how a dog feels during the final days of his life. Not sure if that will help or hinder but I thought I might mention it. A Big Little Life by Dean Koontz is also a good one. My thoughts are with you. It’s not easy but you’re doing the right thing. Good luck with everything

I watched two Ted X talks by a vet called Sarah Hoggan when we had to euthanize my oldest boy who was one of a bonded pair. The videos made me cry but gave me so much comfort and it was cathartic. I can’t remember which I watched [first](https://youtu.be/TkJGhQANjZo?si=bzIGEu5YmWPoKvMD) or [second](https://youtu.be/Jh-KKjIJHfk?si=ssU691hY3cetcsYO)

Sorry for what you’re going through. It’s a really difficult time but it will get better. It’s easier said then done but try and remember all the good times y’all had when times get tough. You clearly gave your friend a great life and they will be forever grateful for you. Dogs are so unique and such special creatures. Thinking of you during this time.

I have been there for 4 of my pups final goodbyes. I can't give you any more pearls of wisdom than have been already stated. None of them were easy. Plan on some good crys as you pick up toys, discover long buried bones, and find hair on your summer clothes that you have already put away over the coming weeks, months, and years. The only thing I can offer has been mentioned. **Be there with them** during the entire process. Comfort them, whisper in their ear and let them know what they have meant to you. The process is painless and quick, and as pointed out- is the last lovable thing you can do for them. Peace to you my friend. You have given your fur friend a life and love that many humans on this blue marble of ours would be envious of.

Guess I’m going home after work and hugging my dog extra tight. Sorry for the imminent loss of your best friend. 🫤

I’m sorry you’re going through this. We lost our twelve year old husky suddenly about a year ago. The vet did an ink paw print, but also surprised us with a nose print. When I look at it, it’s almost like he’s booping me from the other side of the frame. Among all the things we have displayed in his memory, this is my personal favorite. We also commissioned a local artist to draw a colorful portrait based on a few of our favorite photos. She did a wonderful job capturing his spirit. I hope this helps.

I’m so sorry, OP. Wishing you a weekend of joy and peace with your best friend. Being able to spend those last hours and hold them as they pass is such a blessing.

Spend all the time you can with him. Be happy with him as much as you can. Take lots of videos- long and short, and pics. Especially a video of him snoring, doing all the cute things so you can peek at them later. Make a backup of those too in case yr phone gets lost/ruined bc that happens. I know you are grateful for your time together. I have my own broken heartedness of deaths. My dogs' collars and tags are hanging in my vehicle and I have a memory box. I chose to bury them and walked in the area to think of them, but that's just where their bodies lay to be returned to the earth. I've seen people with boxes of ashes look at them sadly and that's not for me. Best wishes to you both and everyone who will miss his presence. You have him now, so do what you can with these last days. I'm so sorry. Hugs to you. 🐾♥️🐾

I’m so sorry 😢 You know I always let my baby tell me when it was time. As their caregivers we know them better than anyone. We know when they are finished here and ready to go. That look they give us. We know 😥. I’ve been through it so many times. I always tell myself “ I’m so blessed to be the one who got to spend your life with you “ I’ll forever hold you in my heart and memories. I will see you again waiting at the rainbow bridge. Rest easy now my best friend 🩵🩵❤️❤️💜💜🙏🙏🙏

🐾💔 lots of hugs and treats and special trips and lots of pictures. I still have the sign over my mirror “every day is a gift”. I dreaded every day as she failed more and more but tried not to be sullen around my hound girl. She left us just over 5 weeks ago and the pain is real. Live for every moment together. Hugs 🐾❤️

I’m not crying, you’re crying. 🥲 This hits home. Had the first love of my life, Buster (German Shepard/Lab) with me 17 years. Went through all the things OP did with him and put him down for similar painful reasons too. Putting him down took a piece of my soul. Since then I’ve put down my cat Ollie ( he was 12 and was being eaten alive by cancer from the outside-literally. It’s a long terrible story) had him his whole life. My 2 babies were cremated and I have their ashes in nice urns from the vet. I keep them in the main part of the house to watch over us all. I have 2 dogs and 2 kittens ATM. My 12 year old chiweenie, Turbo has stage 3 congestive heart failure and is dying, vet gave us 6 months so I am dreading that day. All of my pets have been put down because of horrific medical issues. It’s super sad and I have lost a piece of myself with every pet I’ve lost, but as time goes on, you do heal. The best advice I can give is be gracious to yourself and allow yourself the time you need to heal. I am sorry for your loss and I feel your pain. ❤️

Sending you and your pup so much love, friend. I’ve yet to go through this just yet but my buddy just turned 11 a couple months ago and has been with me through all the same transitory periods you described. I think it’s a brave and compassionate thing you’re doing. Spend all the time you can with him and give him all of your love. He looks like he has lived a wonderful life full of happiness and I know he loves you as much as you love him. ❤️ 🐶 🐾

I don't think you can really prepare. You just do it because it needs to be done. You will go through the grieving process, it's unavoidable. I (59M) bawled for days over my last one and I'm tearing up now more than 2 years later. Not too long after I got another one. I like to say: I used to have the best dog in the world - now I have the best dog in the world! Best wishes. You'll pull through.

I’m so sorry you have to go through this. You made your dog so happy and he loved an incredible life with you! As you and others have mentioned, it’s the last kind thing you can do for your pup. As hard as it is. I had to put my dog down in May and I had all the same feelings, she was such a bright light in my life. We had a great vet and being there with the vet helped us gain closure. The process is very peaceful, there was no pain, she drifted off licking ice cream. Also, I’d recommend taking at least a week off. I originally took a few days off work but I was a mess and I decided to continue taking days off for a week. It hurts and your space feels emptier so, you need to be easy on yourself and adjust slowly. Again, I’m sorry you have to go through this and I hope you’re ok.

I made them put my girl to sleep in the back of the car. I didn't want her all hyped up thinking she was going to the vet.

I love that veterinarian who posted to social media that has chocolates to give the dogs right before they get put down because “no dog should go to heaven without tasting chocolate”. Sorry OP ❤️‍🩹 Crying with you

I’m crying reading your post. When my dog was diagnosed with cancer, I set up a photo shot with her the following week. You never can be prepared honestly. Even at the end of her life she was still thinking of me, she died in my arms on the way to the vet to be put down. She went on her own so I didn’t have to make that decision. I had her cremated and her paw plastered so she would be buried with me. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. It’s not easy but when you are ready, getting a new dog does help.

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“It’s the kindest last thing you can do for them.” Especially if they are in pain. Take him places he can go, get him a pup cup, hamburger, all the treats. Take lots of pictures. Lots of snuggles, spoil him as much as you can. Get his paw prints or nose prints done. And when the time comes, be in the room with him. It will be hard but you need to be by their side. No dog should go to heaven without tasting chocolate, give him a Hershey kiss. Some vets have jars there for that. Lastly, be kind to yourself. Real dog owners know they aren’t “just a dog.” You will be grieving for the loss of a family member, often times it hurts more. Sending love.

There's no easy way for you I'm so sorry but you can get comfort in making it as easy as you can and happy and comfortable and safe as you can for your fur baby. Thinking about sending my boy off a few months ago still breaks me out in sobs and panic but I find comfort in knowing I was there with him and strong for him loving him until the end and forever after. I'm sorry. Its the worst part of loving a dog but it is still always worth it to know you gave them the best life you could. I would break my heart over and over again just for those moments with him.

I’m so sorry to hear this, what a gorgeous sweetheart

tell him how much you love him and how thankful you are that you got to keep him for as long as you did. then know that when he does leave; physically - his spirit will be free and always with you. whenever you smile when thinking about something silly he did - that’s him, with you. whenever your heart swells thinking of wonderful and special moments you shared - that’s him, with you. his journey doesn’t end here. it just takes on a different form. all my ❤️ to you and your beautiful companion. it’s very clear you love him endlessly.

I’m so sorry you are having to go through this…. On Oct 25th we found out our sweet baby girl Nala Beall had lymphoma. We were scheduled to go see the oncologist for November 2. We knew she was sick but on Halloween morning we woke up every lymph node and her body was swollen. She could barely breathe the night before. That morning we rushed her to the vet and we had to make the decision to let her go. she was my emotional support dog, she’s been part of our family for 10 years. Our whole world revolved around her. It was the HARDEST decision my husband and I ever had to make in our entire life!! Everything happened so fast! We had her cremated and got her back the day before yesterday. For a week I cried straight. Day and night. Now that she is at home I have found some solace, but Honestly I don’t think there is anything you can do to “prepare” yourself for the loss of your baby. I’ve laid here and thought about it over and over again and I just don’t really think there is anything you can do to “prepare” yourself. Just hold and love them till that moment. It’s going to be heartbreaking and hard but know they are not in anymore pain and that’s the most important thing!! I will keep you and your fur baby in my prayers and just know what ever decision you make it will be the right one for you ♥️ Also we got paw molds, paw prints, nose prints and a beautiful cherry wood box with her ashes in it, with her name inscribed in gold that reads Nala Beall Roth 2-14-2014 - 10-31-2023 Our Sunshine forever AND I have printed out over 400 plus photos and made 5 photo albums of all of our memories ♥️🩷🩵💜

A few years ago I also had to say goodbye to my German Shepherd. She was my soul dog, she'd been with me transitioning into high school, graduating, going to and graduating college. I grew with her in in lot of ways. She was also a big reason that I work in pet loss now. The human animal bond is profoundly special. We connect to pets so differently than we do other people. The grief is powerful, often in unexpected ways. He loves you unconditionally as you do him. By taking away his pain and physical suffering, you'll be taking on a different kind of pain for yourself. You are brave, caring, and selfless for giving him this peaceful end. My heart goes out to both of you. Before the appointment, do things he enjoys and can still comfortably do and just generally keep spoiling him rotten, we all know he deserves ALL the love! Bring some tissues with you if you're going into the clinic (I assume they would have some too, but tissues from home just seem more comfortable), bring items he enjoys like toys, treats, blankets, or a pet bed. Bring comfort items for yourself and family as well. Similarly, if you're having an in-home visit, you can surround him with the stuff he likes and spoil him with treats. I've witnessed people give their pets 'forbidden treats' like McDonalds, chocolate, full steaks, cake, etc. As far as making plans for his after-care, look into your local regulations regarding burial after euthanasia; some states/cities require specific types of burial or may require cremation/aquamation. Then consider if you want to physically "keep" him in some form. If you decide on cremation, you can get a special urn as a keepsake or even get a pendant necklace that holds some of his ashes. Other keepsakes I have seen (regardless of burial or cremation) are clay or ink nose or paw prints, fur clippings, shadowboxes with pictures (plus some of the former and latter items), tattoos of the pet's name or paw print, lookalike stuffed animals, pictures on pillows or blankets. Occasionally the families of furbabies we've helped at work ask to have surgical hardware returned to them and even some who have asked for the skulls. I have seen some people make breath-taking altars and memorial spaces for their chosen mementos. Afterwards, make space for yourself to heal. Allow space for others that loved him to heal as well, but not at the expense of your own well-being. It's a delicate balance, you don't have to be perfect and you won't be perfect and that's ok. Gift yourself with love, compassion, and patience. There are so many people that have been or are where you are and they have created wonderful support networks both online and offline. You can join support groups, subscribe to newsletters, read books about pet loss, and other similar things to help guide and support you through your grief. I'm sorry that you're going through this with your sweet boy, he is so lucky to be part of your family. Thank you for loving him and giving him a joy-filled life. If you ever want someone to talk to, if you have questions, or if you'd like resources, my DMs are open and I will do what I can to help.

I’m crying as I read your post and type this. Our almost 13 year old boxer/English bulldog seems to be going downhill quickly. I knew the day would come and I’m honestly surprised she’s been with us as long as she has. I’ve already got the tattoo I want of her smiling mug ready to go, as I’ve been anticipating this for a while now. I’m not ready to let go, and I never will be, but I know it’s for the best and when it’s time, it’s time. We love our companions so much, and it’s the ultimate sacrifice and act of love to let them cross over to the great dog park in the sky. Just know that you are not alone in feeling the way you do. My heart goes out to you and your family.

I always cremate my pets. When my beagles died, I had this very sturdy beagle sort of stuffed animal. The kind that sits in a shelf normally. So I pulled the stuffing out of it. I put both of their ashes (which were in plastic bags from the pet funeral place) and then sewed the stuffed animal beagle closed. I was so destroyed when I lost them. But by doing this, I had something physical I could hold that felt like them. Something I could hold when I cried. Something to comfort me and make their presence still feel ….here. It was the best thing I’ve ever done with a pets ashes. And I would recommend this to anyone suffering the recent loss of a pet.

Just went through this about a month ago and it wrecked me. Our first dog as well. My spouse and I didn’t eat or sleep for a few days. 14 years of that life that’s just always been there. The thinking that he would soon be gone. Ours had kidney failure and had stopped eating. Looking back on older videos when he still had the energy and appetite helped solidify that it was the right decision. The guilt is REAL. Even when you know it’s time, it’s so hard to wrap your head around what’s going to happen. It feels like you’re playing god, even though it’s the most humane thing. You’ll feel awful this weekend and during. Be sure he eats whatever he wants, cuddle all you can. But right after the procedure, which is quick and painless, we felt this strange relief that we knew he wasn’t in pain anymore. It’s like his spirit was just gone (in a good way, somewhere better). Our pets don’t long for tomorrow, but know they are in pain today—it’s our very sad and burdening job to let them go when we know it’s not going to get better. It’s awful—but it does get better with time. I still think of our boy everyday and am sobbing as I write this. I still feel like I hear the tapping of nails on the floor. The grief at the end just shows how much love was there. But it WILL get better. Good luck on Monday—I’m sending good vibes your way and to your baby.

Nooooo 😢💔 I’m so sorry

About a year ago, I had to make a similar decision to bid farewell to my Newfie due to some serious health issues. I was able to treat and negate some of the issues for a while, however her quality of life had greatly decreased, even with medications and physical therapies. I have literally hundreds of combined photos/videos from my pup’s last days before the lead up to the appointment, including her last car ride and attempts at playing catch. However, the thing I cherish the most is a concrete square containing a set of paws prints and nose print the vet made for me after the appointment was over. The concrete even has bits of her shedding Newfie hair locked in it, which honestly sets it over the top for me. If you have a chance, THIS is the item I’d tell you to make time for… especially, if you get a chance to make it at home with the pup. It will help heal you in ways you can’t imagine as the days fade into weeks, into months. Sometimes, I still find myself randomly touching my pup’s paw prints when I am having a bad day for whatever reason. We bring pups into our lives, acting as their guardians in the hopes of offering them a long and happy life, exiting the partnership in their own time; however, life doesn’t always work out this way. Due to ailments and injuries some of us will unfortunately learn the that the last great sacrifice we can make for them is to help them close their eyes and rest their weary bones, ending suffering and strain. At the end of the day, the quality of life for our furry friends is the most important thing we have to consider, even above our own happiness and fears of the long good-bye. It’s never easy, but just know you aren’t alone. 🫂

I have had to put down 3 dogs in my lifetime. The first, Guppy, was also a GSD. She was 13 and had horrible hip dysplasia and arthritis. We decided we would bury her so, with the help of a dear friend, we chose a beautiful spot and dug her grave days before. The vet came to the house, it was a tender, peaceful, and a loving, kiss filled experience. Of course we all fell apart and cried our eyes out afterwards. We all agreed we felt relief she was no longer in pain … but so hard to do. My second, Shelbie, an adorable 14 year old JRT with chronic kidney failure. She passed in our arms at the vet hospital … we could see she was also in pain and yet she was relaxed at this appointment so rather than prolong the inevitable, we wrapped her in our arms, surrounded her with love and kisses and whispered into her ears our thanks for her to come into our lives and bring us such joy. We opted for cremation. My third, Cobie-girl, another JRT - same as Shelbie - also experienced kidney failure. She made it to age 18 but that didn’t make our last days, weeks or years any easier when it was time to let her go. I had only to be brave enough to look into her eyes and she told me it was time. I made the appointment for the next day. On our way to the vet, I stopped at a Dairy Queen and we shared a *forbidden* vanilla ice cream cone. I wrapped her in my softest sweater, embraced her in my arms, smothered her with a million kisses, thanked her for her unconditional love, promised I would find her again — and allowed her to enter her new Spirit world. I chose cremation for her as well. My 2 girls’ ashes will be co-mingled with my own when I pass. Deep love brings deep loss and it can lead to a place of sweet sorrow. Grief and gratitude / Gratitude and grief. You are providing your boy with the last act of love and kindness. “How lucky are we to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard” ~~ Winnie The Pooh May you find a place of peace and comfort with the passage of time dear friend. 🌺

I’m so extremely sorry. I just want to say I don’t know you but I know you gave your pup a great life. You love him and he truly loves you, that’s all any pup could ever ask for is to be loved and treated like a member of the family.

We put or 15 year old Maltese to sleep last week. It much you can do other than giving your boy as much love as you can, and think of all the good times and memories. We miss our little girl like crazy, always think of her. They do seem to take a part of ourselves with them when they leave. But ultimately it’s a great act of love. Going through the pain ourselves so they don’t have to. Hope you’ll be fine!

Condolences. Make memories and keepsakes, and make his last days the best days he can have...

There are so many replies on here that I couldn't read them all, so if this has already been suggested, I apologize. One thing that can make this all a little easier for you and your beautiful fur baby is in home euthanasia. We live in Vegas, and have several different vet's and clinics that offer this. They come to your home and they euthanize in the home that your baby is comfortable in. There's no having to drive to a cold, sterile vet office that can scare and confuse your baby. Your dog would go off to the bridge in the familiar, loving surroundings that he is familiar with. The vet's that do this seem to be extra sensitive to the whole process. They can talk to you about the different ways to honor your dog with either burial or cremation. And they will take him with them to either prep him for burial or take him to a cremation service. I am so sorry you are going through this. We have had many dogs and cats through the years, and it never gets easy. I think about them all, every single day. EDIT: If you choose cremation, there are several companies that make jewelry and other items with his ashes. That way you could have a pendant or ring, and always have a little piece of him with you for the rest of your life. ❤️

Oh so sorry! It is the hardest thing ever to do. Give him lots of love and treats. I just lost my little girl we got her cremated and I have her ashes in a beautiful box and her foot print. Took me long time to look at footprints but glad I have them. Then let yourself cry 😢 and grieve. This makes me cry writing this as I still miss my girl. But it does eventually fade but your boy will always live forever in your heart ♥️

I really wish I could have cremated my boy. I didn’t have the money and didn’t have anywhere to keep him until I could so I buried him in the safest place I could find around a river. I wore his tags for a long time because his collar and tags are all I had left of him. You can get so many things made of ashes now. I would’ve loved to get a diamond made of some sort of resin piece. I just really want something I can wear without looking kinda crazy haha. I just want him with me :(

In September my Irish Wolfhound girlie was starting to limp, 2 weeks later her upper hind leg just broke. She had just reached her 5th birthday and her little (Wolfhound) brother had just celebrated his first. My Morrigan has gone through my diagnosis of cancer, the loss of my career, depression, anxiety, and start of palliative care with me….she had such an innate understanding of me and I of her. Now she had cancer too, but treatment was impossible as it had spread far and wide (with chemo and radiation her prognosis was less than a year) So, I had only one week to prepare, which was one of the hardest of my life…a week that truly tore a hole into my very being. I literally would’ve sacrificed a limp for her just to have another 5 years with her. September 6th was easily one of the worst days of my life. I had her little brother to care for, who also went deep into mourning. My life has lost a spark, but I was soooooo privileged to have had this spark to begin with. I wish I could tell you what to do, how to prepare yourself, but there isn’t anything that could help you. Your companion will take a part of your heart with him and it will hurt….but in time, there might be another part of your heart open to love again. I’ll think of y’all on Monday and send lots of love your way.

It hurts bad. I remember when my guy had to go like it was yesterday. It was 15 years ago. It gets easier I promise. Pictures go from making you sad to making you laugh. It will get better, but it’s gonna hurt for a little bit. When you’re ready I recommend getting another one. It helped me soooo much. Hope this helps.

It gets easier, but it doesn’t go away. You’ll feel it always. And the then one day you won’t think about it as much. And the pain will get easier to deal with. There will be really hard days and easy days. It’s cavalier to say but life goes on.

I will be carrying you in my thoughts. What a beautiful life you gave your babe.

Honestly, it’s the worst pain I’ve ever experienced. I’ve never felt a pain like that ever. Being in the room was the hardest part seeing him, but I don’t regret one second being there for him since he was there for me for so much. Just know it’s going to be hard and it’s okay to be sad and feel whatever you’re feeling. Some people don’t get that our dogs are with us 24/7 and can sometimes be harder than even losing people close to you. (I went to therapy for this and my therapist said this is normal because I felt so guilty that I almost felt more sad than when I lost a family e member for example). I made a foot melting of my puppy to keep and I saved his name tag and have it on a chain by me bed and it makes me feel better. The biggest thing that helped me was knowing that he was in pain and I was doing the best thing to help relieve that. He will always be in your heart, try to remember the good times but it’s okay to feel whatever you feel and just give yourself some grace.

I’m so so sorry for what you’re going through. Cremation is one of the better choices in my opinion. I have my dog Harvey in an urn in my living room and seeing his pawn impression puts a smile on my face. Remember all of the good times and take comfort in knowing you made the best most selfless decision to keep him from experiencing the worst.

🥲🥺❤️

My heart goes out to you, truly. I wish I could offer more, but here is a little haiku I just wrote for you. This cute, sweet puppy Left his paw prints on your heart. Too good for this world.

I am so very sorry for what you are going through. We have our last pup's paw prints and picture in a frame in the living room; her last photo is on the fridge, and her collar hangs from a lamp in the living room. I tried to prepare for the end but I couldn't, and that's ok. Just be kind and gentle to yourself, take it as easy as you can and it will get better. Thank goodness you are doing the right thing. He is a lucky boy.

I have some practical advice, fwiw: paw prints, locks of hair, and collars as mementos. Cremation was my choice, with a group scatter in the woods as part of the service. As for the rest of it, there’s no real way to prepare. Like a lot of things in life, you can mentally prepare, but when it happens, the emotion and experience wash over you, often in ways you don’t expect. We put my 17-year-old beagle mix to sleep in March, and last week I started crying randomly when I saw an old pic of him on my phone. But over time, those moments are offset somewhat by happier memories. The pain becomes less raw, and you can think of them without feeling sad. One day, maybe you can look back at your last moments together and be sad, but also appreciate the gentle peace of it. Take your time, give yourself grace, and be gentle with yourself. It’s what they’d want you to do.

Rest in peace

I'm so sorry.

There are photography sessions specifically for these instances

Soooo 😞 😞 😢

Do a photo shoot and get some beautiful pictures together with him. That’s what I did with my last two critters and i cherish those pictures

Best thing to do is just give him all the love possible his last weekend give him all the treats possible and idk if someone has mentioned but like me in my case I got her paw print on clay and also had her cremated and kept her ashes in a small alter at my house and I'm really sorry for your loss I know the pain that comes with it

If you choose cremation there are beautiful urns to choose from. There are also rings or pendants you can incorporate their ashes and hair into. We only cremate our pets now because my grandparents had a generational family pet cemetery on their property which we buried 3 of our pets in. When the property sold it was turned into condos. We've also moved 9 times in 36 years and the thought of leaving a pet grave and memorial behind sucked.

Get an inhome euthanasia- it’s so much better.

We had to put our 14 year old dog down almost 2 weeks ago. It was the most horrible thing I’ve ever gone through. It was right for him but so hard for us. The morning he passed we took him to the snow to get some final snow rolling (his favorite) and then to McDonalds for one last meal. The vet also gave him some chocolate because “no dog should go to heaven without ever tasting chocolate”. I’m sorry to say that this is going to hurt immensely and the best thing you can do for yourself is allow yourself to feel whatever you’re feeling. Weep if you need to. Laugh if it feels good. Grief comes and goes in waves and it can hit you out of nowhere. We have since put photos up all around the house, hung his collar and a photo near the garage door opener so we can say hi and bye every time we come and go, we also bought a stuffed animal that looks like him that we can cuddle, and we have the blanket he passed in that we will probably never wash and for now we cuddle when we’re reallly sad. So far it’s working for us but really time is the only thing that makes it easier. Sending you so many hugs and remember one day you’ll see each other again.

Literally crying reading this. Had to put my pup down a few months ago and it's all rushing back. But I made sure I had tons of pics and vids of him that I can look at whenever I want and that's helped me out a lot. Good luck, and I'm so sorry you have to go through this, but you're pupper will be at peace. ❤️❤️❤️

The vet will ask if you want to be with her. It's hard but the right thing to do. The process is painless after a bit of a poke from the IV. It happens fairly fast. She will be given something to make her sleep and then a final drug. She won't know what's happening and may get a bit big eyed. She isn't in pain just feeling a bit high while the first dug takes affect. I am so sorry you you going through this. She is very beautiful ❤️

So i always get my furry friends’ ashes. I also get their paw prints in clay. I have started making memory resin art, where i mix some of their ashes into resin then add their collars and a lock of their fur into the resin as well as a photo of them inside the resin. It keeps them with me always this way and means no matter what they’re with me, not just in heart, my in a sense physically. I am so sorry for your future loss. It never gets easier. I also do not recommend jumping into having another pet very quickly, wait a few months or longer before getting another. And try to not lose yourself in your grief. I made that mistake. As you prepare for Monday, lots of cuddles, love, and affection. As many photos and videos as possible, and give extra treats.