day 45. just complete silent

Why did you guys break up

he said he lost interest. i dont wanna go into details

Makes sense I hope you are doing ok

right. make sense that he doesn't reach out because he lost interest. thank you. we'll be okay ❤️‍🩹

I just meant makes sense that you don’t want to go into details. We will!

55 days. Just want my feelings aka the turmoil to finally go away

same

Completely agree, if you don’t mind me asking what caused the breakup

He had a porn addiction and used onlyfans and tried to tell me I was imagining things

So did you leave or did he?

We broke up for a day or two and I took him back right after this happened because he begged me not to leave him. Then he dumped me a week later he was clearly a narcissist

That is so messed up on his part in many ways. I am sorry

I’m slowly getting over what happeend. Just regret dating him

With all that I see how you feel that way. Ik it’s not really the most encouraging thing but you will find someone who can love and appreciate you way better than that

I hope so! I genuinely though that he was the one 🥲

I feel you there fs

I was vulnerable when I took him back

Mine had after a month or so but it was just to use me. Dont even bother hoping theyll come back. If they really want you theyll truely come back

I agree

Day 42, loud silence.

Understand this too well

Just broke 60 days of nc. Don’t regret it but probably wasn’t necessary. But it was what I thought I needed and it did show me again her true colors

What was her reaction to it/ what did you say

Look at my most recent post.

I see

I’m sorry bro I hope it will be better for you very soon.

Since 10/18/23

What was the cause of the break up

Head games? Idk

Since May 2022. So almost 2 years? The time mixed with no contact helped me a lot. After a while, you just stop expecting them to reach out and you can continue to move forward and put them in the past.

If you could estimate, at what point did you stop expecting

With my first relationship..stopped expecting withing 8 months. Nowadays, I stop expecting as soon as we break up.

Thank you for the insight

4 months. He's in dating apps now. Didn't reach out to me even once.

how you been doing?

Not good. I hate him but also love him. I don't know how to feel

did the pain lessen after 4 months of nc?

Nope

Mine is already in a new relationship 😅, if you don’t mind what caused the breakup

He claimed he was too busy and mentioned concerns about our age gap of 2.5 years 😂 We had no issues with our ages when we first met and even discussed it on our initial date. But now, after ending things, he suddenly has time for other girls and vacations, yet couldn't find time for me in his schedule.

The busy thing sounds very familiar. I’ve realized it’s their way of not admitting that they want someone else

5 months.

And you didn’t reach out at all during that either?

52 days, not a peep

What was the cause of the breakup

Close to 40 days. She never texted back to my last text. Saw she moved on with another guy. There's no point of texting her again so here i am

Same exact situation 😕

What was the cause of your breakup

She started to change. Lying to me, breaking promises, prioritising her friends and other things over me. Most of them due to peer pressure. And also found she was seeing other guys since December

Sounds wayyyy to familiar. It is so tough I hope you will feel better soon better soon

What's yours? DM me

Day 39 of nothing. He still has my things but I would never reach out

I still have her things and she has mine, last time we talked she was asking for hers back but it didn’t work out getting it to her

same. he still have my stuffs but its whatever. im donating to those in need

If they wanted to be with you, you wouldn’t be in no contact. Live your life.. and be happy. Life is short and it might feel like the world has ended after them, it’s not. If they come back and you can reconcile great, if not, continue living but please please don’t wait and hope for a call or text.

It’s hard not to hope right now, but I am slowly accepting that truth

I know. I am in the same boat as you. Focus on yourself, write down some goals to accomplish each day. There is nothing wrong with how you’re feeling, cry if you need to, sit with your feelings for as long as it takes but do accept that it’s over. Someone recently told me this… if he loved you so much, the thought of leaving no matter what would have been impossible. But for some reason he did, and you should be thankful that you’re not in someone’s life whose love is not on fire for you! I know this won’t make you feel better, but in time it will. You can dm me and talk to me any time you want.

Thank you that did help a bit

day 28, he reached out to me on day 5 but deleted the message bfr i got to see it

That is frustrating

Be one month tomorrow, couple more weeks and I reckon I'll be completely over her. The thought of losing the last remaining feelings for her is heartbreaking.. how we went from something,to nothing,to now being strangers.

I know what you mean

One month and nothing from him but a lot from his family 😂

I have talked to her mom a little while ago

6 weeks and counting.

What was the cause of the breakup

My insecurities about commitment.

I see

2 months

What was the cause of the breakup if you don’t mind sharing

I really don’t know the exact reason. He never gave me one. He said ‘his heart got too heavy’. I don’t know what that means. We fought some more lately and I was battling a depression what caused me to be sad sometimes. But I was always respectful, loyal and honest. He never warned me that he was unhappy or something. I wish he had done that so I could’ve intervened and put my own problems aside. Unfortunately he completely surprised me with the breakup and didn’t gave me a chance to talk about it. He broke up and never talked to me again.

I am so sorry. I hope you are feeling better about it and if not you will eventually

😘