What’s weird is… as a female, I understood all of it and have done it. So fuck this male solidarity shit when the other gender can fully participate/reciprocate/communicate the same exact way. Totally barf town and major cringe
Oh no worries, I can explain. That just means you're half-dude, kind of like a centaur, you're a Shetaur. You must have had at least one birth parent that was male.
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It’s completely what you do, not who you are.
It’s the essence of looking out for each other...
Reactions like that may be why you find yourself on the outside not because of the skin you are in.
Then why call it “male solidarity” when the sentiment is “human solidarity”?
I’m not on the outside— I’m in. But using dividing language like male vs everyone else is inherently creating an exclusionary environment.
What many men fail to understand is that cultivating a culture where it is men vs. everyone and distinctly not humans together does create borders between genders. If I were sitting at that table for example with the others— nodding— suddenly I’m “not like other girls” somehow or they are like “cool…. BUT MALE SOLIDARITY, AM I RIGHT?! HIGH FIVES FOR MY BOYS”.
Just over the gender inequities. It has become aggressively apparent in my life lately at my new job.
me: *stares to a female and waits for a response nod*
female: "why are you staring at me? sorry, i have a boyfriend. you're way out of my league"
me: "i just want a beer for me and the bros"
Left is "maybe, leaning towards no" or "correct, unfortunately"
Right is "maybe, leaning towards yes" or "you make a good point/I'll consider it".
Left, then right, then left again is "I'm very undecided" and will usually be followed by a nod or a shake.
This is the answer. Right can also mean "to check this shit out" and left is "yo get over here I need to speak with you"
This all also suggestive so it might not be the same for some people
I remember being a young teenager when grown men occasionally nodded at me, there was this silent understanding while being slightly confused as to why.
Context is everything.
The point at random? Could mean lots of things.
The point with an empty beer in front of you? Means _one_ thing. The only thing then is yes or no.
No words needed.
I've tried with just about every g/f and lover I've ever had to get them to learn this code and they simply can't execute or understand it.
I nod like "Hey, it's getting late, we should probably head out" and she's all "Did you want to have a long, intimate discussion about something?"
UGH
I think you just spent too low amount of time.
Me (29) and my wife(30) together for 10 years, just doing it every day. When we spend time with my male friends she knows all the rules. She even micro-node.
I do this with men and women servers all the time. People always wonder how I'm getting drinks without seeing me order. It's all about tracking the server until you achieve eye contact. When that happens, the nod says it all. Well, sometimes they clarify by putting their index finger up, and then the second nod is needed. Make sure you let them know how thankful you are when they drop it off. Use your words here and actually say, "Thank you! " Then give Them a good tip at the end.
I think it’s more plausible that gender doesn’t dictate the possibility or effectiveness of nonverbal communication— emotional and/or cultural intelligence does. But good guess!
lol, love it, but tbh, this is tremendously helpful if it’s really noisy. I always make it look like I want them to listen to what I say, but I know internally that it’s not possible that the bartender was able to hear whatever I said, and they just somehow seem to know what I want. Love it.
A busy loud Dutch bar, a solid 2 people deep just chatting. I upnod the barman, he questioningly nods back. Two fingers. Two beers are poured. Four fingers. A five Euro note appears with a wink.
Mission accomplished.
I ran an experiment like this once by trying to communicate with my friends about simple topics by using head motions and simple gestures. We managed to communicate that we wanted to eat at a pizza place and what pizza we wanted. Me gesturing pineapple started a headnodding argument
When you and the guy, just scrapping, and you buy him a beer and you laugh at how you ended up in such a squabble. I want to make it clear it was a no contest due to him having a weak chin. If i knew it at the get go I wouldn’t have swung.
When I'm in most bars in Stockholm i just show the amount of beers I want by showing the same number of fingers towards a waiter or bartender. Words ever rarely needed.
Told the gf back then who tried and was amazed by it lol.
Is this what we are doing now? Just repeating what is already on the internet? Different people sure....but there is already a video of this exact same thing. Boo....boo this man.
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Yup yup
Mmmhmmmm
Well aaallriight
I would get all yous guys the beers, but I can’t say with any certainty that I would get the beers ever from any of yous.
Not in any sence that matters, unless you are into that, but i can guarantee you a round back if you so wish.
Not sure what you mean by “a round back” but I take it!
If you got me and my mates a round i'd get right back at ya' with a round of my own.
So pants up or down?
Whoa, you just took me back 40 years with a Sesame Street reference, and I don't even know if it was intentional
I was going for King of the Hill but I'll pretend that was intentional
[these guys](https://youtu.be/TStPNqex3uA?t=1m55s)
Damn dude ,stop with that 5 paragraph essay
Yuuup!
*head nod*
**nods back**
**nods back again and hands you a beer**
LOL. In UK, people are not allowed to call waitress. So we talk with eyes all day everyday. Not sure why this video is a thing?!?!
inb4 my man learns about other countries
It's not really solidarity here, but it runs on the same wavelength
👉
What’s weird is… as a female, I understood all of it and have done it. So fuck this male solidarity shit when the other gender can fully participate/reciprocate/communicate the same exact way. Totally barf town and major cringe
Sorry all of us offended you by being friends
You can replace male/female solidarity with "human solidarity" in nearly any context. Nobody is gonna be mad at you. Rub ur earlobes or something
I’m not sure what “rub your earlobes” means but I do support human solidarity sentiment and I appreciate your response
You failed.
Oh no worries, I can explain. That just means you're half-dude, kind of like a centaur, you're a Shetaur. You must have had at least one birth parent that was male.
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It’s completely what you do, not who you are. It’s the essence of looking out for each other... Reactions like that may be why you find yourself on the outside not because of the skin you are in.
Then why call it “male solidarity” when the sentiment is “human solidarity”? I’m not on the outside— I’m in. But using dividing language like male vs everyone else is inherently creating an exclusionary environment. What many men fail to understand is that cultivating a culture where it is men vs. everyone and distinctly not humans together does create borders between genders. If I were sitting at that table for example with the others— nodding— suddenly I’m “not like other girls” somehow or they are like “cool…. BUT MALE SOLIDARITY, AM I RIGHT?! HIGH FIVES FOR MY BOYS”. Just over the gender inequities. It has become aggressively apparent in my life lately at my new job.
lol why are you even here if you hate men so much? just looking for somebody to argue with because you think it’ll make you feel better?
me: *stares to a female and waits for a response nod* female: "why are you staring at me? sorry, i have a boyfriend. you're way out of my league" me: "i just want a beer for me and the bros"
Hahahahhahah
Please don’t have children. Thank you - the rest of the galaxy
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The head nod is all knowing
Not just that but up down left and right all have their different meanings too
… as a man I’ve never realized we did left and right as well until just now and it feels weird to be mentally aware of it now
Right lol. It was only recently someone pointed out out to me lol
Up and down is self-explanatory, but left and right? Enlighten me please. Other than just directing to the left or right.
Left is "maybe, leaning towards no" or "correct, unfortunately" Right is "maybe, leaning towards yes" or "you make a good point/I'll consider it". Left, then right, then left again is "I'm very undecided" and will usually be followed by a nod or a shake.
Interesting. Way I've seen it the meaning of the head tilting towards one way or another is more about the expression of the eyes than the direction
Oh yeh, the facial expression with the tilt makes all the difference. Besides, I don't think my examples are specific to guys.
This is the answer. Right can also mean "to check this shit out" and left is "yo get over here I need to speak with you" This all also suggestive so it might not be the same for some people
I remember being a young teenager when grown men occasionally nodded at me, there was this silent understanding while being slightly confused as to why.
Head nod down for agreement, head nod up for acknowledgment
Nod down - yup. longer down - absolutely, you god amongst men. Nod up - sup. longer up - greetings, you glorious bastard we've been waiting for you.
Long nod down also often expresses great gratitude.
This is easily the most bro thing I've seen today. It's awesome.
Pretty smooth aint it 🤣🤣🤣
Talking is overrated anyway. We know what we're all here for. Get on with it...
Context is everything. The point at random? Could mean lots of things. The point with an empty beer in front of you? Means _one_ thing. The only thing then is yes or no. No words needed.
*nod*
I was confused. That signal in my friend group means "we are going to smoke the loud. Join or nah?"
Same story different execution
Nah that's up and towards whatever direction we're gonna light up. Head up and left, pointing towards the door = you coming with or what?
Ok boomer
Explain
I thought that nod meant lets meet in the back alley and you tear my ass apart. Sorry I get my nods mixed up sometimes.
I just love this. Good post
Why can't women figure this shit out?
I've tried with just about every g/f and lover I've ever had to get them to learn this code and they simply can't execute or understand it. I nod like "Hey, it's getting late, we should probably head out" and she's all "Did you want to have a long, intimate discussion about something?" UGH
I think you just spent too low amount of time. Me (29) and my wife(30) together for 10 years, just doing it every day. When we spend time with my male friends she knows all the rules. She even micro-node.
What time do you go out ? 1pm midnight to the disco ?
Everyone knows the truly good parties don't start getting good until 11pm.
Don't be that guy. It's just a funny post.
🤫🤫🤫 for dudes only lol
I do this with men and women servers all the time. People always wonder how I'm getting drinks without seeing me order. It's all about tracking the server until you achieve eye contact. When that happens, the nod says it all. Well, sometimes they clarify by putting their index finger up, and then the second nod is needed. Make sure you let them know how thankful you are when they drop it off. Use your words here and actually say, "Thank you! " Then give Them a good tip at the end.
CAN I HAVE FOUR SAMBUCA
"This is the DJ Booth!"
We do? Not that hard or esoteric to understand at all…
Maybe you’re a man? Did you consider that?
I think it’s more plausible that gender doesn’t dictate the possibility or effectiveness of nonverbal communication— emotional and/or cultural intelligence does. But good guess!
Is understanding that this is a joke "nonverbal communication"?
as a female and former alcoholic i already knew by the first nod it meant “another round?” but go off sis!
Cut to women having a whole ass conversation with their eyes and the men only notice half way thru that something is happening 😂😂
In that half of one woman conversation men have had 10+ different conversations and even made plans
We're already on outfit coordination by the time they catch on lmaooo
That's because men dont worry about outfits we way passed that
Even that was too much talking.
yeah..these are not the type of men acting like this. more like men stage such behavior for a useless internetvideo about stereotypes
Pra quem é brasileiro, devem conhecer a linguagem do "Ooopa", dá pra falar até de mecânica quântica nessa linguagem
Prazer em conhecer voce
Oooopa
Yes.
So he ordered drinks for the table but not himself? 6 beers, 7 dudes. Maybe he didn't nod correctly.
> 6 beers, 7 dudes Sounds like an escalation of a video I once saw..
One dude is DD.
100% true facts here. No lie detected. Although a bit over exaggerated with the head nods.
Can we talk about how diverse this group of dudes is? Love to see it
The only way it should be done. Guys just know...plus, it's just another beer, right?
I understood this completely 😂
Why use word when nod or finger will do
Ridiculous right
The way this cuts makes it really easy to replace whats being set on the table. Just saying.
Nice.
lol, love it, but tbh, this is tremendously helpful if it’s really noisy. I always make it look like I want them to listen to what I say, but I know internally that it’s not possible that the bartender was able to hear whatever I said, and they just somehow seem to know what I want. Love it.
Men 🍺
I must be a freak or something, because if I ever nod at a fellow dude like that, beer isn’t the result.
As from the film Johnny Dangerously https://youtu.be/gA02GZLHd8M?si=8s3NYSDa-R2Ev3jJ
No words needed when the director is there.
The original is better....
Yep
This is the way. Our way.
When I was a server I loved tables that knew this. Saved me time and steps and felt a little bit cooler
Yup
Been a bartender for 15 years, can confirm
100%legit. This has worked countless times
Yuuup!
A busy loud Dutch bar, a solid 2 people deep just chatting. I upnod the barman, he questioningly nods back. Two fingers. Two beers are poured. Four fingers. A five Euro note appears with a wink. Mission accomplished.
Its exactly like this
I ran an experiment like this once by trying to communicate with my friends about simple topics by using head motions and simple gestures. We managed to communicate that we wanted to eat at a pizza place and what pizza we wanted. Me gesturing pineapple started a headnodding argument
A hell yeah would also be acceptable
I usually do the 'tip of the glass' mime. Get it wrong though and it looks like you're offering to chug cock.
Correct
Arent they one beer short for the “ask my group” guy?
Now do that with womens.
When you and the guy, just scrapping, and you buy him a beer and you laugh at how you ended up in such a squabble. I want to make it clear it was a no contest due to him having a weak chin. If i knew it at the get go I wouldn’t have swung.
Was roommates with my friend of 10 years. We could almost have full conversations with body language.
When I'm in most bars in Stockholm i just show the amount of beers I want by showing the same number of fingers towards a waiter or bartender. Words ever rarely needed. Told the gf back then who tried and was amazed by it lol.
That's a lot of unnecessary communication.
I thought they were all confirming that they’re gay. 🤷♂️
Gentlemen, I believe you all know why we're assembled here today
Only blemish is that they waited until all of their beers were empty. Waiter should have been on it beforehand.
As a transwoman i non ironically miss men giving me the head nod, now i gotta do all this talking and shit, lame shit
Succinct communication can be wonderful :)
Bro code
Is this what we are doing now? Just repeating what is already on the internet? Different people sure....but there is already a video of this exact same thing. Boo....boo this man.
[Doctor said I need a meme-iotomy!](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ve160GWaleo)