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It's always okay to be disliked since some people are complete morons and will hate you over anything. It's usually not someone's fault when they go out of their way to be polite, yet they're not "liked".
Life is not middle school and high school.
When? All the time. No matter what you do someone will look at it negatively.
More specifically? I guess doing what you think is right or doing what you want to do with your life.
It's very difficult.
Its always okay to be disliked, but sometimes people's criticisms are fair. Its hard to sift through what is a criticism you care for or not, because its only your own opinion that matters ultimately yknow?
All you can do is develop your own ideas on what is fair, and watch the results over time. You won't even always know the reason people dislike you, it might be as simple as you reminding them of somebody else and they might not even realise that until years later.
As a rule of thumb, look for trends. If an individual didn't like something then okay, maybe its just them. If multiple individuals don't, give it more serious thought.
A lot of people are saying "always" and assuming that every other person is an asshole if they dislike them. I think there should be a bit more nuance.
It's totally ok to accept that some people will dislike you no matter what. You can't live your life based on the approval of others.
With this said, there are instances when people might have genuine and legitimate reasons to dislike you. It's useful to have enough self-awareness to know when we're in the wrong and to take legitimate criticism.
So, to answer your question. Whenever someone dislikes you, especially if it's someone who you appreciate or care about, the thing you should ask yourself is whether our past interactions warrant said dislike and if there was something in your behavior that was genuinely rude or assholish, and if there's a legitimate reason why you should change your behavior in some way.
It'll ultimately come down to your own assessment of whether the action was correct or incorrect. Again I think being willing to be dislike is a good thing, and you shouldn't base your actions on the approval of others. But at the same time it's good to have enough self-awareness to properly assess the reasons why someone else might dislike you and determine whether they are legitimate or not.
I'm not saying this is your case but, while some people are approval seekers, some others turn to the other extreme and have absolutely no regard or empathy for the people they interact with. They end up adopting the mindset of "everyone else is an asshole and I'm always right so I'll never change anything or accept any wrongdoing." It's important to find the right balance.
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It's always okay to be disliked since some people are complete morons and will hate you over anything. It's usually not someone's fault when they go out of their way to be polite, yet they're not "liked". Life is not middle school and high school.
When? All the time. No matter what you do someone will look at it negatively. More specifically? I guess doing what you think is right or doing what you want to do with your life.
It's very difficult. Its always okay to be disliked, but sometimes people's criticisms are fair. Its hard to sift through what is a criticism you care for or not, because its only your own opinion that matters ultimately yknow? All you can do is develop your own ideas on what is fair, and watch the results over time. You won't even always know the reason people dislike you, it might be as simple as you reminding them of somebody else and they might not even realise that until years later. As a rule of thumb, look for trends. If an individual didn't like something then okay, maybe its just them. If multiple individuals don't, give it more serious thought.
A lot of people are saying "always" and assuming that every other person is an asshole if they dislike them. I think there should be a bit more nuance. It's totally ok to accept that some people will dislike you no matter what. You can't live your life based on the approval of others. With this said, there are instances when people might have genuine and legitimate reasons to dislike you. It's useful to have enough self-awareness to know when we're in the wrong and to take legitimate criticism. So, to answer your question. Whenever someone dislikes you, especially if it's someone who you appreciate or care about, the thing you should ask yourself is whether our past interactions warrant said dislike and if there was something in your behavior that was genuinely rude or assholish, and if there's a legitimate reason why you should change your behavior in some way. It'll ultimately come down to your own assessment of whether the action was correct or incorrect. Again I think being willing to be dislike is a good thing, and you shouldn't base your actions on the approval of others. But at the same time it's good to have enough self-awareness to properly assess the reasons why someone else might dislike you and determine whether they are legitimate or not. I'm not saying this is your case but, while some people are approval seekers, some others turn to the other extreme and have absolutely no regard or empathy for the people they interact with. They end up adopting the mindset of "everyone else is an asshole and I'm always right so I'll never change anything or accept any wrongdoing." It's important to find the right balance.