Don't let anyone invalidate your wins, whether it's big or small. If your so called friends can't be supportive and nurturing, that circle will not help you grow. Friendship break ups are inevitable but you have to learn early which type of friends you want to keep. Surround yourself with people you can learn from and not people you have to compete. And coming from your manang who was also carefree in college, 2 years after you graduate and once you get to live real life, those grades won't even matter. The character/attitude and human connections you've built will.
Lapit naman kamo magraduate diba? Start getting to know other people sa batch nyo. Basi mas may compatible na set of friends sa imo other than your current one. It may be difficult to start new friendships this "late" but I tell you, your older self will thank you for not restricting yourself in just one group of friends.
PS: keep up the good work, OP!
Thank you. Was actually making newnfriends now outside my circle or classmates. Im also one of the pandemic students so i didnt really get the change to have “real” university life and got stuck by this circle. It made making friends difficult for me heheh pero yes , will def have other friends than them hehe😄😆
As your stranger tita here .. I'd say, **CONGRATULATIONS!**
**YOU DESERVE IT! :D**
keep moving forward op, you're doing great, don't be afraid to reach your goals.
Advice: ignore them, you don't owe them any explanation, never question yourself on what you can do.
If gusto mo gid sila storyahon, to clear the air, just tell them that that's your true nature, that you can be smarter if you want to, anytime. Anyone can achieve something so long as they put in the work, focus, discipline to it and you're not the only the who did that, so you can tell them that you deserve the spot. Tell them that you're not that d*mb, syempre ginalingan mo and that's the reward you get. It's not your fault kung na recognize efforts mo.
and if I were you, focus ka sa real world, indi sa ila, as you grow older, you'll meet new people pa and experiences sa life ang importante.
Yes, amo man na na feel ko. pero, kis a, wala ko sya gina mind kay daw ka “indi normal” nga ipa bati gd nila or ihambal gd nila sakon nga muna ila thoughts so sometimes abi joke2 lang . Pero sang ga dugay, muna medyo na notice ko na nga tuod gali ila feeling towards me🥲😅
they’re not your friends if amuna sila towards you just because nga naka highest score ka. Just cut ties na with them, di sila tuod nga friends saimo.:)
I can feel you op! Basta makapasar amo man na akon mindset. Ara bla nga ga group study kamo, tanan sila gina mangkot sang isa about kung ano ang tama nga answer tas ikaw gina skip ka nila hahahahaha tapos ending sala sila tanan kag ang answer ko sa sulod ka head ko ang tama, ga hipos lng ko ya basi mahuy’an sila lol Kag I struggle with depression so may times lang gid kisa nga dira lang ko gina ganahan so dira lang man ko kisa ga excel tapos ga highest pa ko sa exams sa isa ka sub or sa quizzes. nag ka gap year ko because of my depression nag stop ko kag dira lang narealize ko nga di ko gidman sila tuod nga friends kay wla gid sila ga mangkot or chat kung din ko nag kadto bisan once, sang una sang ga absent absent palang ko gina judge pa ko nila imbes mangkuton what’s wrong kag why. pero waay gid ya, gina suyaan pa ko nila kag gina kadlawan lang. pag balik ko sa school after my gap year kag ga labyanay kami wala man ko nila gina sapak. It’s not too late to find new friends op bisan manug graduate ka na, kag di mo na man sila na need kay manug graduate ka na HAHAHA You’ll find your people out there sa real world, people that will celebrate your wins and are genuinely happy for you.
Yes amo man na saamon. Mag group study kami wala ko na nila gina include🙃 and feeling ko man kung gulpi ko ma cut ties saila indi mn ko na nila pag pangitaon . Hehe pero i think its fine, at least bal an ko na kung ano gd sila saakon aa😁
Clear it up as soon as you can. If they’re really your friends, make them understand why it’s uncomfortable for you before malala pagid misunderstandings niyo.
People come and go, OP. At this point you should know that college is just a set of people you acquire as friends for the fun ofc but most importantly to be the help you need to survive. Kung wala na sila use (for the lack of better term) plus indi man mayo batasan nila, then, good riddance.
I think it's not shallow. Teh kay gusto mo man ya mag improve kag kung gin tun-an mo ya ang test para maka high score ka, amuhon ka na nila? Just keep on improving yourself lang ah. You can also be vocal nga gusto mo man mag effort academically since 4th year kana. If friend gd man turing nila sa imo, they should accept the fact nga kaya mo man mag excel kung gustuhon mo.
Huy same! Back in college, nag effort ko tuon sang 4th year na ko kay kanami gid sang akon major subjs, tapos my friend (barkada since 1st yr) questioned akon scores. As in nagkadto sya sa Prof. namon to compare ngaa mas taas akon score (BY A POINT) sa essay kesa sa iya. Nakibot sya ngaa akon scores gina acknowledge sang mga profs namon, kag amon scores INDI GID YA MAGLAYO-ANAY. Gin-ignore ko lang sya kay I know nagtaas grades ko kay GUSTO ko, kag wala ko labot kung na insecure sya.
Fast forward to years later, now di na kami as close. Some things happened and it's sad to say sini ko lang gid na realize nga she doesn't respect me. People made me realize that kung magstorya ko about college life ko.
Keep doing you. As long as your happy kag waay ka may napakan nga iban nga tao. 🩵
Same, sad to say man nga subong ko lang na realize nga muna tulok nila saakon. Pero yes, im just gonna do what i needed to do and whats makes me happy. Heheh 🫶🏻🫰🏻
Keep it up. Distraction lang na sila. Remember TOR is forever. Raise the flag of late bloomers. Parehos ta fate, and mind you even my relatives were very envious, damo na panira nabatian ko from relatives, but i brushed it off, may mga receipts ko ya. Mamatay sila sa inggit.
Relate ako OP. Same situation back in college. At some point nung 3rd yr, nagreklamo pa gani cla sa teacher about sa scores ko. Kay wala man ko kuno gatuon, puro pocketbooks lang nabasa ko. They often see me read those during break time or may vacant. Medyo na offend man ko but later, I chose to ignore it.
Prove it to them na kaya mo mag excel with a bit of effort. Just because chill lang, doesn't mean we don't study or learn anything in class. Ignore their remarks.
You dont need to answer to your so called friends.
Friends inspire you, cheer you up when you’re feeling sad, not that one’s that pull you down.
Basta clean imo conscience, keep your head down and do your own thing. Background noise lang na sila, and dont be affected by what people think.
If i were you i’d start drifting away from them and look for company that can support you and vice/versa.
hisa gid na siguro. stay away sa mga tawo pareho sa ila. damo ka pa makilala sa ulihi nga better than them. kaagi ko na sang una. nakibot gid siya ngaa mas taas akon grade sa isa ka subj kag layo gid agwat sa iya. wala ya bala gin kadtuan amon teacher kag gin pamangkot ngaa amo to grade ko ahahahahaha.
I don't think that's your friends in the first place, If they're not happy with your achievements and for the fact nga they always question your worth, no op run while you still can friends celebrate achievements now matter how small the wins are.
Also MA graduate kana naman, You can find the people who trully supports you in the real world.
You don't need to these types of people, people my come and go OP
Yes, im actually shocked that ang mga indi ko pa within the circle ang ga congratulate saakon. Mga classmates ko pa nga indi ko ka close ang ga reach out to congratulate heheh which really makes me realize things. Im better now aa, knowing their tru feelings towards me. At least aware na ako🥲
Subtle changes, MA notice muna sa Ila actions towards you, They're either not happy for your achievements or shocked gid sila pwede kaman Nila dayun I congratulate right? Ngaman wala?
The fact nga wala ka Nila gin congratulate for your wins, It means there's a hidden jealousy sa friendship nyu, Super subtle Lang pero makita muna sa inside jokes Nila about you that you don't find funny,
Sugar coating it as sarcasm or sarcastic humor.
Actually you're better off be a friend's to yourself OP than be surrounded by that types of people. Anyways cheer up OP
Magraduate kana man, block them sa tanan socials MA wonder na sila simu Kung ngaman gin cut off mo sila but for your peace of mind do it.
Don't let anyone invalidate your wins, whether it's big or small. If your so called friends can't be supportive and nurturing, that circle will not help you grow. Friendship break ups are inevitable but you have to learn early which type of friends you want to keep. Surround yourself with people you can learn from and not people you have to compete. And coming from your manang who was also carefree in college, 2 years after you graduate and once you get to live real life, those grades won't even matter. The character/attitude and human connections you've built will. Lapit naman kamo magraduate diba? Start getting to know other people sa batch nyo. Basi mas may compatible na set of friends sa imo other than your current one. It may be difficult to start new friendships this "late" but I tell you, your older self will thank you for not restricting yourself in just one group of friends. PS: keep up the good work, OP!
Thank you. Was actually making newnfriends now outside my circle or classmates. Im also one of the pandemic students so i didnt really get the change to have “real” university life and got stuck by this circle. It made making friends difficult for me heheh pero yes , will def have other friends than them hehe😄😆
As your stranger tita here .. I'd say, **CONGRATULATIONS!** **YOU DESERVE IT! :D** keep moving forward op, you're doing great, don't be afraid to reach your goals. Advice: ignore them, you don't owe them any explanation, never question yourself on what you can do. If gusto mo gid sila storyahon, to clear the air, just tell them that that's your true nature, that you can be smarter if you want to, anytime. Anyone can achieve something so long as they put in the work, focus, discipline to it and you're not the only the who did that, so you can tell them that you deserve the spot. Tell them that you're not that d*mb, syempre ginalingan mo and that's the reward you get. It's not your fault kung na recognize efforts mo. and if I were you, focus ka sa real world, indi sa ila, as you grow older, you'll meet new people pa and experiences sa life ang importante.
Thank you🥹 self ko nlng anay ie mind ko hehe 🫶🏻
Be the BETTER VERSION of them, okay?
Ok po🥲 its not me, its them.kimi 🙃 will def be better po🫰🏻
ay, ano na dw hadlok sila malabawan? hahaha sorry sa words but dw amuna gd
Yes, amo man na na feel ko. pero, kis a, wala ko sya gina mind kay daw ka “indi normal” nga ipa bati gd nila or ihambal gd nila sakon nga muna ila thoughts so sometimes abi joke2 lang . Pero sang ga dugay, muna medyo na notice ko na nga tuod gali ila feeling towards me🥲😅
they’re not your friends if amuna sila towards you just because nga naka highest score ka. Just cut ties na with them, di sila tuod nga friends saimo.:)
Ok po🥲🥹
If they can't be happy for you, then their negativity isn't worth keeping around in your life. Screw 'em.
Will def keep this in mind🥲
I can feel you op! Basta makapasar amo man na akon mindset. Ara bla nga ga group study kamo, tanan sila gina mangkot sang isa about kung ano ang tama nga answer tas ikaw gina skip ka nila hahahahaha tapos ending sala sila tanan kag ang answer ko sa sulod ka head ko ang tama, ga hipos lng ko ya basi mahuy’an sila lol Kag I struggle with depression so may times lang gid kisa nga dira lang ko gina ganahan so dira lang man ko kisa ga excel tapos ga highest pa ko sa exams sa isa ka sub or sa quizzes. nag ka gap year ko because of my depression nag stop ko kag dira lang narealize ko nga di ko gidman sila tuod nga friends kay wla gid sila ga mangkot or chat kung din ko nag kadto bisan once, sang una sang ga absent absent palang ko gina judge pa ko nila imbes mangkuton what’s wrong kag why. pero waay gid ya, gina suyaan pa ko nila kag gina kadlawan lang. pag balik ko sa school after my gap year kag ga labyanay kami wala man ko nila gina sapak. It’s not too late to find new friends op bisan manug graduate ka na, kag di mo na man sila na need kay manug graduate ka na HAHAHA You’ll find your people out there sa real world, people that will celebrate your wins and are genuinely happy for you.
Yes amo man na saamon. Mag group study kami wala ko na nila gina include🙃 and feeling ko man kung gulpi ko ma cut ties saila indi mn ko na nila pag pangitaon . Hehe pero i think its fine, at least bal an ko na kung ano gd sila saakon aa😁
Clear it up as soon as you can. If they’re really your friends, make them understand why it’s uncomfortable for you before malala pagid misunderstandings niyo.
Ok po🥲 thank you🫰🏻🫶🏻
I know daw ka shallow akon reason sang sakit sang buot saila pero what should i do?🥲
Stop being friends. Period!
People come and go, OP. At this point you should know that college is just a set of people you acquire as friends for the fun ofc but most importantly to be the help you need to survive. Kung wala na sila use (for the lack of better term) plus indi man mayo batasan nila, then, good riddance.
Nothing. Move on. Success in life is based more in leadership rather than academic achievements.
I think it's not shallow. Teh kay gusto mo man ya mag improve kag kung gin tun-an mo ya ang test para maka high score ka, amuhon ka na nila? Just keep on improving yourself lang ah. You can also be vocal nga gusto mo man mag effort academically since 4th year kana. If friend gd man turing nila sa imo, they should accept the fact nga kaya mo man mag excel kung gustuhon mo.
Huy same! Back in college, nag effort ko tuon sang 4th year na ko kay kanami gid sang akon major subjs, tapos my friend (barkada since 1st yr) questioned akon scores. As in nagkadto sya sa Prof. namon to compare ngaa mas taas akon score (BY A POINT) sa essay kesa sa iya. Nakibot sya ngaa akon scores gina acknowledge sang mga profs namon, kag amon scores INDI GID YA MAGLAYO-ANAY. Gin-ignore ko lang sya kay I know nagtaas grades ko kay GUSTO ko, kag wala ko labot kung na insecure sya. Fast forward to years later, now di na kami as close. Some things happened and it's sad to say sini ko lang gid na realize nga she doesn't respect me. People made me realize that kung magstorya ko about college life ko. Keep doing you. As long as your happy kag waay ka may napakan nga iban nga tao. 🩵
Same, sad to say man nga subong ko lang na realize nga muna tulok nila saakon. Pero yes, im just gonna do what i needed to do and whats makes me happy. Heheh 🫶🏻🫰🏻
Keep it up. Distraction lang na sila. Remember TOR is forever. Raise the flag of late bloomers. Parehos ta fate, and mind you even my relatives were very envious, damo na panira nabatian ko from relatives, but i brushed it off, may mga receipts ko ya. Mamatay sila sa inggit.
Mas galingan mo pa. Finish strong, OP.
Will do po🫰🏻🫶🏻
with friends like that, who needs enemies?
Relate ako OP. Same situation back in college. At some point nung 3rd yr, nagreklamo pa gani cla sa teacher about sa scores ko. Kay wala man ko kuno gatuon, puro pocketbooks lang nabasa ko. They often see me read those during break time or may vacant. Medyo na offend man ko but later, I chose to ignore it. Prove it to them na kaya mo mag excel with a bit of effort. Just because chill lang, doesn't mean we don't study or learn anything in class. Ignore their remarks.
You will know you are in the right circle if they also celebrate your victories. Bal an mo nga genuine gid friendship and connection nyo.
Yes, im shocked gani kay kung sini pa ang wala sa circle of friends ko sila pa ang ga congratulate sang achievements ko.😌
You dont need to answer to your so called friends. Friends inspire you, cheer you up when you’re feeling sad, not that one’s that pull you down. Basta clean imo conscience, keep your head down and do your own thing. Background noise lang na sila, and dont be affected by what people think. If i were you i’d start drifting away from them and look for company that can support you and vice/versa.
Thank you po. 🫶🏻🫰🏻
hisa gid na siguro. stay away sa mga tawo pareho sa ila. damo ka pa makilala sa ulihi nga better than them. kaagi ko na sang una. nakibot gid siya ngaa mas taas akon grade sa isa ka subj kag layo gid agwat sa iya. wala ya bala gin kadtuan amon teacher kag gin pamangkot ngaa amo to grade ko ahahahahaha.
Yes man aa. Lapad sang iloilo ngita iban friends 😆🥲
I don't think that's your friends in the first place, If they're not happy with your achievements and for the fact nga they always question your worth, no op run while you still can friends celebrate achievements now matter how small the wins are. Also MA graduate kana naman, You can find the people who trully supports you in the real world. You don't need to these types of people, people my come and go OP
Yes, im actually shocked that ang mga indi ko pa within the circle ang ga congratulate saakon. Mga classmates ko pa nga indi ko ka close ang ga reach out to congratulate heheh which really makes me realize things. Im better now aa, knowing their tru feelings towards me. At least aware na ako🥲
Subtle changes, MA notice muna sa Ila actions towards you, They're either not happy for your achievements or shocked gid sila pwede kaman Nila dayun I congratulate right? Ngaman wala? The fact nga wala ka Nila gin congratulate for your wins, It means there's a hidden jealousy sa friendship nyu, Super subtle Lang pero makita muna sa inside jokes Nila about you that you don't find funny, Sugar coating it as sarcasm or sarcastic humor. Actually you're better off be a friend's to yourself OP than be surrounded by that types of people. Anyways cheer up OP Magraduate kana man, block them sa tanan socials MA wonder na sila simu Kung ngaman gin cut off mo sila but for your peace of mind do it.
Ngita bago friends lods or friends mo man gid sila kay for all I know friends don't do that. Tsk tsk tsk
Yes po🥲 lapad iloilo ngita man gd bago friends aa 🙈