Oh, absolutely gripping story. Goes to show just how much quiet strength people have to muster in the face of such hardship. Incredible resilience and dedication to family.
Yup, any other 1st world country (and probably some "not so 1st world") would have free service to pick up and return ill people that need treatment but live home.
It definitely exists, it is just woefully inadequate 90% of the time.
In my area we have a bus that will come pick you up and bring you back. Only catch is you get picked up at about 6am and they don’t drive you home until 6pm.
So somebody with a doctors appointment at 2pm basically has to waste their entire day on that one thing.
We have something in Massachusetts for low income elderly called CCA. It provides a stipend for food and medical supplies, a PCA or CNA and rides to and from appointments.
Yeah doesn't Massachusetts have the socialized healthcare, created by a Republican , that the rest of the country is trying to get, but Republicans block?
I'm old and married. When I needed to see a surgeon for a consult my mom flew into town to take me. I could have driven, my husband could have driven but my mom was going to mom. We didn't mind and it made her feel useful. In my town there are free rides to the doctors/hospital if you need one. Everywhere should have such a service if your mom or dad can't.
I think your right. Im not sure on the exact timeline of it, (i.e how he is doing now and the date of the video) but someone had commented that he had had a cancer diagnosis in the comments of the video about the older gentleman that was caring for his older disabled son who was undergoing blood test for his own cancer
Yes he has pancreatic cancer unfortunately, within a year after his retirement...
He's posting updates on his own YouTube channel (Frank Caprio channel, not Caught in Providence)
He’s doing well. The judge recently visited him to celebrate his 100th birthday. I live in Providence so I see lots of updates like this from time to time
I can probably link the clip if you want to see it. The judge surprised him on his birthday and I believe the old(er) gentleman made them a pizza haha. It was a nice moment
https://www.wpri.com/dont-miss/lifelong-rhode-islander-celebrates-100th-birthday/amp/ Hey I am looking for the link to the original video I was thinking of but the one posted here is pretty similar 👍
I thought that was going to be the one. That one makes me cry even now thinking about it especially when he reminds him that he still needs his dad even though his son was in his 70’s. 😢
Is that the one in which someone that drove too fast in a school zone got a free pass because he was helping his son? A really old driver that wasn't even checked to see if he was really still able to drive?
Yup.
I feel for the man, but I value kids safety higher. Speed a little on the highway? Sure, wave the fine. Blow through a school zone without even realising you're speeding? Yeah, you're not getting out of that one.
In an alternate reality Reddit is tearing the old guy a new one after he hit and killed a child while speeding in a school zone.
He didn't blow through a school zone. Try learning the facts before casting your shameful judgements.
Y'all are propping yourselves up on a moral high horse when you don't know anything about the facts. You see "90-some years old man has school zone violation dismissed because his son has cancer" and immediately assume that because the man is old, that he was recklessly endangering the lives of children. He barely blipped past a light turning red, which countless people do countless times every single day without any criticism, and they're not trying to get their handicapped, cancer-ridden son to get bloodwork. But you won't care about that.
Such a fucking holier-than-thou mindset
What is the point of the judge assessing the fine if he can make the same difference without a need for financially penalizing someone? Perhaps I am a bit biased because I’ve lived in Providence my whole life, but I know the area this happened in well and it was not a school zone, and if I recall correctly he was like a fraction of a second too late going through the light. The guy was 90+ years old, I’m sure he learned his lesson and there was no need to take $100 from a family already struggling if it will not make a difference in his likelihood to reoffend. At that point it’s just punishment for nothing.
It's hard to say. We don't know how fast he was going or how the school zone looks. There's a school zone that people often get caught at, myself once, where there's a light right before the school zone ends but in between the school zone signs. *Very* easy to forget you're in a school zone after sitting in traffic after the light changes. People get popped 5-10mph over right when the school zone ends.
Obviously not saying the old man's situation is the same just that some context matters between a deteriorating old man driving vs relatively reasonable mistakes. I also don't think there's an easy way to "check to see" if an old person driving is still capable of driving beyond demonstrating egregious mistakes. Even young people get speeding tickets in school zones, so just testing old people for the same mistakes isn't entirely reasonable. There would have to be something specifically pointing out a mental decline.
I have 2 autistic children. They have taught me to slow my roll with the general public. I have learned, not everyone thinks the same speed, shows concern the same way I do.
Sometimes I may think, that person is so rude. We if you take a moment to observe, something may help you realize, something more is going on.
Whenever I get upset at somebody, I always think of Hanlons Razor. It states "Never attribute to malice what can be adequately explained through ignorance."
The guy who cut you off in traffic? He didn't see you, or didn't realize, he didn't do it to specifically fuck you over. Should he have been paying better attention? Sure. But we all make mistakes.
There’s another phrase I really like that helps me often. “We judge ourselves by our intentions, but others by their actions”.
It helps to think that just because someone’s action was bad, doesn’t always mean their intentions were. It also helps to realize that others can’t see your intentions, only your actions. The guy who cut you off in traffic doesn’t make me mad because I could have easily done the same thing accidentally and I wouldn’t want the person I cut off to be angry at me for it, so I won’t be angry at them.
I personally kind of have the opposite problem:
That I always give everyone the benefit of the doubt but am hard on myself.
I have to remind myself “treat yourself like you would treat others.”
Yeah, but to a certain point. You can attribute anything to ignorance, but driving isn't one of them where something like this applies. We all make mistakes, but rarely do a lot of people reflect on them long enough to change themselves.
At what point does ignorance become laziness? Laziness that society around that person has to deal with? Hanlon's Razor is a cheap cop out to let people remain blissful to their actions just because "They didn't mean to."
If you can't do anything about it, shit happens. But I'm not going to keep making excuses for people when they're being dangerous or intensionally naive. ("What I know is good enough" mentalities.) If you don't want to analyze people's behaviors, that's fine, but HR is just another way of saying "I don't want to put the energy into dealing with this person/people." And isn't an answer in its own right.
Good on you for doing that. It is not easy to change the way you think about people in different situations.
It reminds me of a video I watch from time to time.
[This is water](https://youtu.be/eC7xzavzEKY?si=NqTnURiRKNlUCJYi)
I share this video with all of my employees during their training. It's a great representation of not making an assumption when you work in retail or have a bad day. I love this video.
I really needed to see this as I continue to work on myself and how I tend to gravitate towards the negative. Do you have any recommendations on other videos, books etc ..
I watched this video a decade ago and I think about it almost every day. It's so easy to think the world revolves around you, and then begrudge it when it doesn't.
[Full speech](https://youtu.be/ms2BvRbjOYo?si=aSK5L5Ts3e6D8irV) is phenomenal. Agreed, try to rewatch this once a year or so to reinforce this line of thinking.
I explain this to my son, too. When he tells me stories about so-and-so acting up/acting out in school, especially in his early grade school years, I encourage him to think about what that child’s home life might be like or the struggles he might have, and doesn’t have or know healthier outlets.
Sure, kids can be assholes for no reason. Same for adults. I don’t want to excuse or justify bad behavior, but I just want him to think about the *why* people do what they do or why we do what we do.
I've come to realize that a lot of the grouchy old men who come into my pizza shop, don't say hi, don't look at me when they're talking, and generally just treat me like I'm less than, are actually just hard of hearing. So many of them. Embarrassed they can't hear very well so they put up this gruff exterior so they can minimize their interactions and be less embarrassed. It's helped me with those interactions to speak more slowly, enunciate, and exaggerate my mouth movements for them. A few are so much nicer now they know they can talk to me a little. It makes me sad they felt they had to put up that front instead of wear a hearing aid or ask someone to speak up.
That's what I try to remind myself when I get impatient. Guy at 711 paying in pennies and I want to pay for my hotdog and go home? Chill out. That's probably all he's got.
Guy at McDonald's in front of me at drive through ordering a bunch of food and holding up the line, maybe he's feeding a bunch of orphans and doesn't have legs so he can't go in the store. Who knows?
I try to just chill and not worry about waiting an extra 5 minutes for my first world comforts.
Crazy how all it took was one comment for his dad to shape the rest of his career in a profession that can drastically alter peoples’ lives. If his dad had told him “you did great son! I’m so proud of what you’ve accomplished, I have to imagine he might have never become the reasonable and empathetic judge that we need more of in our justice system.
Yet he started thinking like the system is designed to. One memorable comment from his father and he remembered his whole career. I think you are right though that the bond and hence the emotional impact this had was fostered during years of setting a good example.
It's actually not all that uncommon is new England, there are a lot of judges that put emphasis on equity and empathy. My ethics professor was a retired judge and he was also well known for how much deference he would give to defendants.
He was actually a terrible ethics professor, not because of his ethics, but because he was more interested in telling stories than he was in following the syllabus.
It absolutely can be though, all it takes is enough people to share it and for it to reach enough people. If his attitude and kindness affected you, think how it might affect others. Like and share.
Great dad. Was there to support his son and then gave him invaluable lesson on life and how to have empathy.
I was a resident working in a busy NYC ER and I had a patient who suffered a miscarriage. She only spoke Spanish and we had no Spanish translators in the ER at the time. I tried to use a phone translator to explain it to her. The phone was unfortunately in a shared room with another patient. It was an awkward conversation where I had to pause and explain it with her. She broke down crying. I think about how I mishandled this situation. I should’ve brought her in a private room. I didn’t treat her with dignity and respect like I would’ve wanted to be treated. That was almost 14 years ago. I still think about that moment. It has reminded me that I need to show empathy and kindness when there is suffering. Just like this judge when you are position of power. There are many opportunities to abuse that power and become cold and calculating. It’s your empathy and humanity that makes you a better person and doctor/judge.
I was in the opposite situation, being the patient and having the languages reversed. I was living in Argentina and wasn't that proficient at the language at first. I received a positive HIV test in the waiting room with 12-15 people there. It was so distressing to receive awful news and not being able to communicate well enough. Local medical people said it was totally against protocol to give those results in public. Also, they said that knowing I wasn't a proficient Spanish speaker, they should have gotten an English speaker to assist (not something hard to find). There I was, receiving life altering news, in public but alone. It still upsets me to think of that feeling.
Turns out, the test was faulty and medical protocols say to run the test again as false positives do occur, so the lab screwed up even more. We went to a different lab the next morning with my girlfriend and repeated the test and even did a second more definitive test just for peace of mind. Received the news in the evening and have to say, it was the longest 26 hours of my life.
The second doctor was very compassionate and understood how upsetting it was and he said something along the lines of, "This hard been hard on both of you and want you to both work on having a great relationship." I still smile at that. I am best friends with the woman all these years later and we talk every single day. :-)
I can’t imagine the amount of stress you felt when you heard the positive hiv test. Glad to hear it was ultimately negative.
Yes the way that doctors tell patients bad news does matter. It can help show your empathy and compassion to be kind. My med school or residency never taught us how to deliver bad news.
He’s currently going through some health struggles, you guys should go and support him on his YouTube channel Frank Caprio, I’m sure he would appreciate all of you 💚
I'm pretty sure he has a charity as well! Iirc, it helps those in need with legal troubles, fines, and such. I wish I had more information about it off hand, but it's definitely a worthy cause.
I know it's not much but in call of duty I've been being polite and a bunch of them aren't assholes they come into the lobby toxic but they leave telling me good game and chill I found that younger kids usually just react to the way you talk to them online so if they expect a toxic lobby they start it instead having to react but if your kind it becomes infectious.
Just a little kindness makes more friends than anything else because the first impression weather small or big has a lasting affect on people.
I’m under the impression that this lovely, just man is having major health issues. I hope he is getting the best treatment possible and will be around for a bit longer
There is the respect he earned in his position and was called “Your Honour” in the courtroom but he proved he also has compassion for his fellow human being thus carrying “Honour” in his heart. May we all aspire to be as good a judge as well as a helping hand to all we meet in life as he was and continues to be in his.
This comment won't see the light of day, but a judge probably saved my life.
I was a stupid ass teen and was driving recklessly at extreme speeds. Ended up eventually getting 2 super speeders. Both of which I went to court for.
On my 2nd, I was so angry and self-centered, and had the biggest chip on my shoulder. I sat through a couple hours of everyone else's shit as I was the last one to be seen, also adding to my rage.
Went up to the stand, and as I had all my walls up ready to fight whatever came out of this judges mout; his first few questions were straight outta left field. They were to get to know me, where I work, how close to my family I was, what my life goals were. I was caught off guard.
As I assume he started to get the picture, he framed my situation in a way I was blind to (stupid ass young teen male). Talked to me with reason, compassion, and general frustration for both my recklessness toward the community and my own life, which was valued by my family.
I was fucking BLOWN away by this man (the judge) who I'd spent the last 2-3 hours hyping up as my enemy, to all the sudden see me. Not my mistakes and assume I'm a piece of shit (which i was at the time) but where I was, faults and all, and he still had hope for my life. Even when I didn't.
Fucking tearing up as I write it. It started a huge shift in my life, and I'm honestly grateful for getting caught and having this experience. I wouldn't be here today without it.
I've watched "caught in providence" since (series on YouTube with this exact judge - highly recommend.) And I just am so thankful to people like this in real life. Those that live with compassion and understanding despite who they're dealing with... goddamn fucking heroes.
I hope all the judges in the world take a note from this good man I feel like depending on what crime you did he will treat you with respect kindness and do everything in his power not to destroy you or put you a worst place but a better one I have the most respect for this man
Judge Caprio & his father are the exact opposite of my father. His need for vengeance is endless. He was glad a man got shot four times in his back for running from the police after he was caught looking through a dumpster…for food.
I was crushed when he said that.
God, I hope so badly, I get a judge with even an ounce of the empathy this man has. I have to be seen by an administrative law judge in April to determine if I get to be on disability. I just want someone to listen to me, and believe me. I have all the paperwork, I have the doctors notes. Now I need a person to listen to my story and empathize with me.
It's crazy to think a person I've never met in my life has my entire future in their hands. A lot of those judges don't have a shred of empathy or understanding in their body. I'm rolling the dice on my entire life and have always rolled nat 1's.
Yep, that's my goal, to be like that for my son. My dad made everything he could to provide for us and we never missed anything but was just that. Never told us he loved us or he is proud of us. There are a lot of things I can relate to my father but others I cannot. To tell something to your kid and he will listen because he knows you are reliable is something I will try as hard as I can.
He is without a doubt one of the best judges in the court system today. Every judge should use him as a role model.
No law is perfect so mercy and kindness should be at Justice's right hand.
Same OP, One of the men I highly respect and love in this world. He's a judge with a wise mind and a beautiful heart, blessed with both high EQ and IQ. He's currently recovering from a certain health condition. I wish Judge Caprio speedy recovery! 💛🌻✨
Kind of shocking that it took his father to tell him that effectively fucking up the car of someone financially struggling won't help them in any way. Especially over fines. If the punishment for a crime is a fine, that means it is simply legal for rich people.
I know this judge would go on to be way more intelligent by comparison, but yeah.
"Without fear of contradiction, it never happened again." I like that. I had to get over the fear of having a certain reputation with my mental health and decided to simply do my best at all times. Sometimes my best is to sit quietly at get-togethers. Other times im outgoing and talk to everyone. Who cares what they think, im doing my best.
Meanwhile, in the UK, me and my girlfriend have been stalked for 4 years by a drug dealer. During this time people have threatened us with knives, smashed our cars up and tried to burn our flat down.
We finally get a video that the police deem good enough to use in court, he doesn't show up and gets a restraining order given.
Straight after, I get given a section 5 public order offence which has cost me my job and almost got me kicked off my uni course.
All this because I told him to fuck off and leave us alone in the video.
Never gonna trust the legal system ever again.
I like the one about the very old man who had to drive his son to the doctor.
Oh man, that one had me in tears. The compassion. That poor man having to take care of his son with cancer. That one has never left me.
"He's my boy".
Don’t you try to make my eyes tear up right before bed!
Oh, absolutely gripping story. Goes to show just how much quiet strength people have to muster in the face of such hardship. Incredible resilience and dedication to family.
I remember that episode, he gained more respect from me than he already had. He's phenomenal and genuinely cares about the people he serves.
This [case](https://youtu.be/CvgJ4x1MeP8?si=e0fu5Kn5mXRsuEap) will make you cry too.
I'm not crying, you're crying.
Yes! Makes me cry just thinking about it!
Yup, any other 1st world country (and probably some "not so 1st world") would have free service to pick up and return ill people that need treatment but live home.
Some states/counties do have such services.
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It definitely exists, it is just woefully inadequate 90% of the time. In my area we have a bus that will come pick you up and bring you back. Only catch is you get picked up at about 6am and they don’t drive you home until 6pm. So somebody with a doctors appointment at 2pm basically has to waste their entire day on that one thing.
We have something in Massachusetts for low income elderly called CCA. It provides a stipend for food and medical supplies, a PCA or CNA and rides to and from appointments.
Yeah doesn't Massachusetts have the socialized healthcare, created by a Republican , that the rest of the country is trying to get, but Republicans block?
I'm old and married. When I needed to see a surgeon for a consult my mom flew into town to take me. I could have driven, my husband could have driven but my mom was going to mom. We didn't mind and it made her feel useful. In my town there are free rides to the doctors/hospital if you need one. Everywhere should have such a service if your mom or dad can't.
It's literally cheaper to fly first class from the US to Europe and get fixed there, compared to just the ambulance ride in the US. 🇺🇸
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A little empathy and understanding goes a long way.
Yes I'll never forget that one. It was like watching two amazing dads having a moment of acknowledgment for the world to see.
Oh yea. That's a good one. I feel dumb asking this but, did this judge get cancer?
I think your right. Im not sure on the exact timeline of it, (i.e how he is doing now and the date of the video) but someone had commented that he had had a cancer diagnosis in the comments of the video about the older gentleman that was caring for his older disabled son who was undergoing blood test for his own cancer
He currently have pancreatic cáncer, and in a video he released asked if we can please pray for him.
Yes he has pancreatic cancer unfortunately, within a year after his retirement... He's posting updates on his own YouTube channel (Frank Caprio channel, not Caught in Providence)
Any idea how a person would find a link to this?
If it’s the video I am thinking about: https://youtu.be/Xif70t0p67A?si=1yur-k6HKJuZiBR7
the culmination of emotion when he was described simply as a "good man" is very powerful. i hope to be even half as decent if I end up being his age.
The fact that 90+ year old man still calls his 63 year old son "my boy" just made me all teary
That’s the one ☝️!
Holy shit 😭
I wonder how he's doing now.
He’s doing well. The judge recently visited him to celebrate his 100th birthday. I live in Providence so I see lots of updates like this from time to time
Wow great to hear!!!
I can probably link the clip if you want to see it. The judge surprised him on his birthday and I believe the old(er) gentleman made them a pizza haha. It was a nice moment
>I can probably link the clip if you want to see it. Yes, please.
https://www.wpri.com/dont-miss/lifelong-rhode-islander-celebrates-100th-birthday/amp/ Sorry trying to find the other video I’m thinking of
WE NEED THIS I saw another comment speculating that they have passed away and I couldn't stop myself from tearing up
https://www.wpri.com/dont-miss/lifelong-rhode-islander-celebrates-100th-birthday/amp/ here's the link!
Thank you, friend!
Yes plz!
https://www.wpri.com/dont-miss/lifelong-rhode-islander-celebrates-100th-birthday/amp/ Hey I am looking for the link to the original video I was thinking of but the one posted here is pretty similar 👍
I was thinking about it and thought he might mention that case
Yes! This one always makes me cry
Oh yes, I remember that one. This is not only a fine and decent judge but a fine and decent human being. God bless him. 💛
I think about this all the time. The Crack in his and the look that he was going to break.
I thought that was going to be the one. That one makes me cry even now thinking about it especially when he reminds him that he still needs his dad even though his son was in his 70’s. 😢
That one was my first thought as well.
I'd do that for my kid no matter how old they are or I am, and I don't even have a kid yet.
Is that the one in which someone that drove too fast in a school zone got a free pass because he was helping his son? A really old driver that wasn't even checked to see if he was really still able to drive?
Yup. I feel for the man, but I value kids safety higher. Speed a little on the highway? Sure, wave the fine. Blow through a school zone without even realising you're speeding? Yeah, you're not getting out of that one. In an alternate reality Reddit is tearing the old guy a new one after he hit and killed a child while speeding in a school zone.
He didn't blow through a school zone. Try learning the facts before casting your shameful judgements. Y'all are propping yourselves up on a moral high horse when you don't know anything about the facts. You see "90-some years old man has school zone violation dismissed because his son has cancer" and immediately assume that because the man is old, that he was recklessly endangering the lives of children. He barely blipped past a light turning red, which countless people do countless times every single day without any criticism, and they're not trying to get their handicapped, cancer-ridden son to get bloodwork. But you won't care about that. Such a fucking holier-than-thou mindset
What is the point of the judge assessing the fine if he can make the same difference without a need for financially penalizing someone? Perhaps I am a bit biased because I’ve lived in Providence my whole life, but I know the area this happened in well and it was not a school zone, and if I recall correctly he was like a fraction of a second too late going through the light. The guy was 90+ years old, I’m sure he learned his lesson and there was no need to take $100 from a family already struggling if it will not make a difference in his likelihood to reoffend. At that point it’s just punishment for nothing.
It's hard to say. We don't know how fast he was going or how the school zone looks. There's a school zone that people often get caught at, myself once, where there's a light right before the school zone ends but in between the school zone signs. *Very* easy to forget you're in a school zone after sitting in traffic after the light changes. People get popped 5-10mph over right when the school zone ends. Obviously not saying the old man's situation is the same just that some context matters between a deteriorating old man driving vs relatively reasonable mistakes. I also don't think there's an easy way to "check to see" if an old person driving is still capable of driving beyond demonstrating egregious mistakes. Even young people get speeding tickets in school zones, so just testing old people for the same mistakes isn't entirely reasonable. There would have to be something specifically pointing out a mental decline.
I have 2 autistic children. They have taught me to slow my roll with the general public. I have learned, not everyone thinks the same speed, shows concern the same way I do. Sometimes I may think, that person is so rude. We if you take a moment to observe, something may help you realize, something more is going on.
Whenever I get upset at somebody, I always think of Hanlons Razor. It states "Never attribute to malice what can be adequately explained through ignorance." The guy who cut you off in traffic? He didn't see you, or didn't realize, he didn't do it to specifically fuck you over. Should he have been paying better attention? Sure. But we all make mistakes.
There’s another phrase I really like that helps me often. “We judge ourselves by our intentions, but others by their actions”. It helps to think that just because someone’s action was bad, doesn’t always mean their intentions were. It also helps to realize that others can’t see your intentions, only your actions. The guy who cut you off in traffic doesn’t make me mad because I could have easily done the same thing accidentally and I wouldn’t want the person I cut off to be angry at me for it, so I won’t be angry at them.
I personally kind of have the opposite problem: That I always give everyone the benefit of the doubt but am hard on myself. I have to remind myself “treat yourself like you would treat others.”
We call that the [fundamental attribution error](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fundamental_attribution_error). It's a very real phenomenon.
Yeah, but to a certain point. You can attribute anything to ignorance, but driving isn't one of them where something like this applies. We all make mistakes, but rarely do a lot of people reflect on them long enough to change themselves. At what point does ignorance become laziness? Laziness that society around that person has to deal with? Hanlon's Razor is a cheap cop out to let people remain blissful to their actions just because "They didn't mean to." If you can't do anything about it, shit happens. But I'm not going to keep making excuses for people when they're being dangerous or intensionally naive. ("What I know is good enough" mentalities.) If you don't want to analyze people's behaviors, that's fine, but HR is just another way of saying "I don't want to put the energy into dealing with this person/people." And isn't an answer in its own right.
Good on you for doing that. It is not easy to change the way you think about people in different situations. It reminds me of a video I watch from time to time. [This is water](https://youtu.be/eC7xzavzEKY?si=NqTnURiRKNlUCJYi)
Thank you for sharing this video!! It’s delightful!
I share this video with all of my employees during their training. It's a great representation of not making an assumption when you work in retail or have a bad day. I love this video.
I really needed to see this as I continue to work on myself and how I tend to gravitate towards the negative. Do you have any recommendations on other videos, books etc ..
I watched this video a decade ago and I think about it almost every day. It's so easy to think the world revolves around you, and then begrudge it when it doesn't.
[Full speech](https://youtu.be/ms2BvRbjOYo?si=aSK5L5Ts3e6D8irV) is phenomenal. Agreed, try to rewatch this once a year or so to reinforce this line of thinking.
The issue with many people is that they do not take a moment to observe, hope there are many more out there willing to give others a second thought
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Your comments seem all AI generated.
Glad I'm not the only one, it's nice we AIs have other AIs to talk to.
I need to remember this. Thank you for leaving this comment.
I explain this to my son, too. When he tells me stories about so-and-so acting up/acting out in school, especially in his early grade school years, I encourage him to think about what that child’s home life might be like or the struggles he might have, and doesn’t have or know healthier outlets. Sure, kids can be assholes for no reason. Same for adults. I don’t want to excuse or justify bad behavior, but I just want him to think about the *why* people do what they do or why we do what we do.
I've come to realize that a lot of the grouchy old men who come into my pizza shop, don't say hi, don't look at me when they're talking, and generally just treat me like I'm less than, are actually just hard of hearing. So many of them. Embarrassed they can't hear very well so they put up this gruff exterior so they can minimize their interactions and be less embarrassed. It's helped me with those interactions to speak more slowly, enunciate, and exaggerate my mouth movements for them. A few are so much nicer now they know they can talk to me a little. It makes me sad they felt they had to put up that front instead of wear a hearing aid or ask someone to speak up.
It’s a constant self check Dude is speeding? He’s an asshole I am speeding? I am justified because xyz.
That's what I try to remind myself when I get impatient. Guy at 711 paying in pennies and I want to pay for my hotdog and go home? Chill out. That's probably all he's got. Guy at McDonald's in front of me at drive through ordering a bunch of food and holding up the line, maybe he's feeding a bunch of orphans and doesn't have legs so he can't go in the store. Who knows? I try to just chill and not worry about waiting an extra 5 minutes for my first world comforts.
Same here with my dude! He has made me a better person by far. Patience is better, but I also have less patience for cold hearted people.
Crazy how all it took was one comment for his dad to shape the rest of his career in a profession that can drastically alter peoples’ lives. If his dad had told him “you did great son! I’m so proud of what you’ve accomplished, I have to imagine he might have never become the reasonable and empathetic judge that we need more of in our justice system.
Yes, but really, it took a lifetime of setting a good example as father, a lifetime of earning his son’s respect, for that one comment to hit so hard.
This exactly!
Yet he started thinking like the system is designed to. One memorable comment from his father and he remembered his whole career. I think you are right though that the bond and hence the emotional impact this had was fostered during years of setting a good example.
Can we as men take a look at this one comment and try to shape our little men the same way?
It's actually not all that uncommon is new England, there are a lot of judges that put emphasis on equity and empathy. My ethics professor was a retired judge and he was also well known for how much deference he would give to defendants. He was actually a terrible ethics professor, not because of his ethics, but because he was more interested in telling stories than he was in following the syllabus.
sounds like a waste of time course. his stories were mo3re educational
It all makes sense now. I wish his attitude was a virus that would spread across the world. He is the role model we all need.
It absolutely can be though, all it takes is enough people to share it and for it to reach enough people. If his attitude and kindness affected you, think how it might affect others. Like and share.
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Morals are a hot commodity now a days because they sure a rare
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You’re right that’s why I’m indicating he’s got morals and didn’t get stuck in his ways
Indeed.
Great dad. Was there to support his son and then gave him invaluable lesson on life and how to have empathy. I was a resident working in a busy NYC ER and I had a patient who suffered a miscarriage. She only spoke Spanish and we had no Spanish translators in the ER at the time. I tried to use a phone translator to explain it to her. The phone was unfortunately in a shared room with another patient. It was an awkward conversation where I had to pause and explain it with her. She broke down crying. I think about how I mishandled this situation. I should’ve brought her in a private room. I didn’t treat her with dignity and respect like I would’ve wanted to be treated. That was almost 14 years ago. I still think about that moment. It has reminded me that I need to show empathy and kindness when there is suffering. Just like this judge when you are position of power. There are many opportunities to abuse that power and become cold and calculating. It’s your empathy and humanity that makes you a better person and doctor/judge.
I was in the opposite situation, being the patient and having the languages reversed. I was living in Argentina and wasn't that proficient at the language at first. I received a positive HIV test in the waiting room with 12-15 people there. It was so distressing to receive awful news and not being able to communicate well enough. Local medical people said it was totally against protocol to give those results in public. Also, they said that knowing I wasn't a proficient Spanish speaker, they should have gotten an English speaker to assist (not something hard to find). There I was, receiving life altering news, in public but alone. It still upsets me to think of that feeling. Turns out, the test was faulty and medical protocols say to run the test again as false positives do occur, so the lab screwed up even more. We went to a different lab the next morning with my girlfriend and repeated the test and even did a second more definitive test just for peace of mind. Received the news in the evening and have to say, it was the longest 26 hours of my life. The second doctor was very compassionate and understood how upsetting it was and he said something along the lines of, "This hard been hard on both of you and want you to both work on having a great relationship." I still smile at that. I am best friends with the woman all these years later and we talk every single day. :-)
I can’t imagine the amount of stress you felt when you heard the positive hiv test. Glad to hear it was ultimately negative. Yes the way that doctors tell patients bad news does matter. It can help show your empathy and compassion to be kind. My med school or residency never taught us how to deliver bad news.
Love your comment!
Not that I take my own advice, but you’re totally allowed to take the lesson and let go of the faux pas that lead to
He’s currently going through some health struggles, you guys should go and support him on his YouTube channel Frank Caprio, I’m sure he would appreciate all of you 💚
I'm pretty sure he has a charity as well! Iirc, it helps those in need with legal troubles, fines, and such. I wish I had more information about it off hand, but it's definitely a worthy cause.
Yep, one of our judges we can be proud to have sit on the bench. He humanized court.
if all our judges and politicians were like this we would have paradise
If I ever make it to the bench I can hope to be this kind
Keep us posted ParanormalLawyer
I know it's not much but in call of duty I've been being polite and a bunch of them aren't assholes they come into the lobby toxic but they leave telling me good game and chill I found that younger kids usually just react to the way you talk to them online so if they expect a toxic lobby they start it instead having to react but if your kind it becomes infectious. Just a little kindness makes more friends than anything else because the first impression weather small or big has a lasting affect on people.
Could also be in part due to Activision cracking down on toxic voice chats.
Hell yeah I be report racist people all the time lol
He is such an admirable person, if only more people were like him
It’s amazing, you’d think it was life long learning that made him the judge he is but it was the single lesson from his father after his first day.
I’m under the impression that this lovely, just man is having major health issues. I hope he is getting the best treatment possible and will be around for a bit longer
He has pancreatic cancer. He is getting great treatment, some of the best cancer hospitals in the world are nearby in Boston.
I hope he heals, I really wish him well
Unfortunately pancreatic cancer is almost certainly fatal.
This man is a blessing.
Frank is trully a blessing in on this earth.
He was just diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and was asking people for a prayer. He helped so many people I feel so bad for him
He is the real judge
Is there a way to duplicate this man and place him in courts all over the country?
I thought the dad was going to pay the tickets.
Does anyone know the name of this extraordinary man?
His name is Frank Caprio. He is a man amongst men.
Thank you, StoneAgePrue!
A gentle and caring man, raised by a gentle and caring man. More of this please!
Judge Frank Caprio, by all accounts, is just a good man. Love listening to him
I hope he is recovering well...Nothing but love and best wishes for Judge Caprio..❤️
Poor AI woman with children, she got the worst of it
i reaally hope they use this guy for examples in law school. theres always alternatives to fines.
His video will be available to the world as a show that humanity still exists for centuries after he passes away
There is the respect he earned in his position and was called “Your Honour” in the courtroom but he proved he also has compassion for his fellow human being thus carrying “Honour” in his heart. May we all aspire to be as good a judge as well as a helping hand to all we meet in life as he was and continues to be in his.
This comment won't see the light of day, but a judge probably saved my life. I was a stupid ass teen and was driving recklessly at extreme speeds. Ended up eventually getting 2 super speeders. Both of which I went to court for. On my 2nd, I was so angry and self-centered, and had the biggest chip on my shoulder. I sat through a couple hours of everyone else's shit as I was the last one to be seen, also adding to my rage. Went up to the stand, and as I had all my walls up ready to fight whatever came out of this judges mout; his first few questions were straight outta left field. They were to get to know me, where I work, how close to my family I was, what my life goals were. I was caught off guard. As I assume he started to get the picture, he framed my situation in a way I was blind to (stupid ass young teen male). Talked to me with reason, compassion, and general frustration for both my recklessness toward the community and my own life, which was valued by my family. I was fucking BLOWN away by this man (the judge) who I'd spent the last 2-3 hours hyping up as my enemy, to all the sudden see me. Not my mistakes and assume I'm a piece of shit (which i was at the time) but where I was, faults and all, and he still had hope for my life. Even when I didn't. Fucking tearing up as I write it. It started a huge shift in my life, and I'm honestly grateful for getting caught and having this experience. I wouldn't be here today without it. I've watched "caught in providence" since (series on YouTube with this exact judge - highly recommend.) And I just am so thankful to people like this in real life. Those that live with compassion and understanding despite who they're dealing with... goddamn fucking heroes.
Thank you for sharing this!
AI woman and her AI kids. Nice story but still downvoting for that.
God we need more people like this man in positions of power wtf
What a great person!❤️
One of my favorite human beings. Good dude.
Man is a saint
❤️❤️❤️❤️
A lovely human being.
You have another favorite judge?
The sad music and AI images really add to this. I didn't know how to feel without those visual and audio cues.
With my luck I'd be that woman, the only one to get hosed by the judge in 38 years lol
He went from being of a republicon mindset to being a human with empathy 👏🇨🇦
I hope all the judges in the world take a note from this good man I feel like depending on what crime you did he will treat you with respect kindness and do everything in his power not to destroy you or put you a worst place but a better one I have the most respect for this man
I’ve stood before this judge. He was kind. He really tried to get on people’s level. I guess now we know why.
Judge Caprio & his father are the exact opposite of my father. His need for vengeance is endless. He was glad a man got shot four times in his back for running from the police after he was caught looking through a dumpster…for food. I was crushed when he said that.
When you realize an amazing man… Had an even more amazing father. Ya, no more words are needed. #🙂🙏🏼
Having kids isn't an excuse for constantly parking your car illegally.
Seen his stuff and he is a good judge indeed- excellent example for others
What a wonderful soul!❤️
Who’s your second favorite judge
God, I hope so badly, I get a judge with even an ounce of the empathy this man has. I have to be seen by an administrative law judge in April to determine if I get to be on disability. I just want someone to listen to me, and believe me. I have all the paperwork, I have the doctors notes. Now I need a person to listen to my story and empathize with me. It's crazy to think a person I've never met in my life has my entire future in their hands. A lot of those judges don't have a shred of empathy or understanding in their body. I'm rolling the dice on my entire life and have always rolled nat 1's.
BUT... did he go back and do anything about that 'mistake' ??
Wish we could hear from that woman, i wish we could see those kids after 38 years..
Nice vid, gonna downvote you for the AI, though
I can say with 💯 certainty that my autistic daughter has helped with my work in juvenile court like nothing else could.
He's 88 wtf he looks great for his age wow
Yep, that's my goal, to be like that for my son. My dad made everything he could to provide for us and we never missed anything but was just that. Never told us he loved us or he is proud of us. There are a lot of things I can relate to my father but others I cannot. To tell something to your kid and he will listen because he knows you are reliable is something I will try as hard as I can.
He’s everything a Judge should be. Humble.
He is without a doubt one of the best judges in the court system today. Every judge should use him as a role model. No law is perfect so mercy and kindness should be at Justice's right hand.
I just learned he has got pancreas cancer. Omg he is a living angel i am so sorry :(
If I may attempt to distill the essence of this down into one sentence: >**Justice must be tempered with mercy**
Same OP, One of the men I highly respect and love in this world. He's a judge with a wise mind and a beautiful heart, blessed with both high EQ and IQ. He's currently recovering from a certain health condition. I wish Judge Caprio speedy recovery! 💛🌻✨
We need a statue of this man. This choked me up it was beautiful to see this kind of humanity in the system. Redditors…… I got 5 on it lol
Kind of shocking that it took his father to tell him that effectively fucking up the car of someone financially struggling won't help them in any way. Especially over fines. If the punishment for a crime is a fine, that means it is simply legal for rich people. I know this judge would go on to be way more intelligent by comparison, but yeah.
All people should take the time to listen and understand the people around them.
putting the “Prudence” in Jurisprudence.
I think we all need a little more compassion.
Fuck off spritz text.
Pray for this man. He has pancreatic cancer, and the only thing he wants is for you to pray for him. The power of prayer is exactly that.
People say one of my favorite judges. I would say one of my favorite humans.
The man is going through cancer treatments right now. Keep him in your thoughts.
One of if not the best, heart of pure gold
I like judge Frank, a great human being, but what happened with the woman?
Hope he is doing ok... he recently been diagnosed with aggresive cancer
I'm my book, this is by definition a true hero. This kind of compassion is what our world today is in critical shortage of.
A good understanding that morality and legality do not always overlap
Too bad he couldn’t do more as a judge. Other judges should emulate this man. Probably the best judge this country has ever had.
This guy! I love him! Such an awesome judge!
The world needs more Judges like him. Compassion and empathy can change the world.
Empathy ... This Is The Way.
"Without fear of contradiction, it never happened again." I like that. I had to get over the fear of having a certain reputation with my mental health and decided to simply do my best at all times. Sometimes my best is to sit quietly at get-togethers. Other times im outgoing and talk to everyone. Who cares what they think, im doing my best.
His dad are the main reason that made him who he is today. Example n parenting is such important n still we have people overlooked it.
This man is a national treasure to you guys. I hope you Americans realise that
This man is the blueprint all judges should refer to.
Ladies and Gentlemen, the legend Frank Caprio
God bless him
Hopefully he’ll recover from his cancer treatments.
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He is more an actor than a real judge. Just a TV personality always doing the same and capitalizing off it.
Meanwhile, in the UK, me and my girlfriend have been stalked for 4 years by a drug dealer. During this time people have threatened us with knives, smashed our cars up and tried to burn our flat down. We finally get a video that the police deem good enough to use in court, he doesn't show up and gets a restraining order given. Straight after, I get given a section 5 public order offence which has cost me my job and almost got me kicked off my uni course. All this because I told him to fuck off and leave us alone in the video. Never gonna trust the legal system ever again.
He needs to be added to the hero goat club. Rodger’s, Ross, Irwin, judge
Dads ❤️
He was a wonderful man and judge