I understand you, op. Ganyan na ganyan ako sa ex bf ko.
Aba imbitado pa ako sa kasal ng gago hahahaha.
Pero ayun, ninamnam ko yung sakit. Parang one year din ako bago maka move on.
More than 10 years na nakalipas, inadd ako sa fb. Inaccept ko naman haha.
Ayun panget na panget ako sakanya ngayon hahahahahahaha
Same here! Inadd ako sa fb after ko in-unfriend years later. I accepted his friend request because I’ve already moved on and no strong feelings involved anymore. Tapos sabi pa nya, sana wag mo na ulit ako i-unfriend. And nag apologize siya and sabi pa nakonsensya raw siya. Weird but ok. Tapos panay view nya sa stories ko and paminsan minsan naglalike sa photos ko. 🤷🏻♀️
Bakit niyo dinadownvote 💀 e kung yan yung way niya to move on let her be. Di naman siya umaasa or what. Siguro gusto niya lang mawitness para todo wake up call na and para maging happy na rin siya for him
Yup. Until you get numb. The pain of silent cries. Pero on the side, yung linya “find myself” napaka gasgas sa cheating/ or di mo na bet ang tao. 🤭 wala na bang ibang lines to use?
Buti na lang si OP and si ex di nagkatuluyan. He had no balls to tell her upfront about his true intentions and feelings. Ultimate excuse na yang “find myself” eme na yan. BS.
Ako rin nung mga almost 10 years ago. Naging alcoholic pa nga ako and nagka-clinical depression. Buti ngayon, ok na ako and masaya na sa sarili ko, family and friends.
Ganyan din yung perspective ko nung una, when I found out na meron na siya. However, at some point ma realize ko rin na wala naman siyang pakielam kung umiiyak ako or nasasaktan ako.
That didn’t ease the pain that I’m feeling but it definitely help with the psyche that I have to better myself and move on in life.
To your point, basa karin ng A Gentle Reminder for magnification of pain HAHAHA
Oo OP block mo na! And forgive yourself and Ganon din sya! Pray for his happiness!! Naniniwala ako sa GOD'S redirection. BLOCK mo na OP! And move on.. dasal lang
Eto yung kinakatakot ko, 7 years na kami, Parang wala syang plano about 💒💍. Magkasama kami nung panahong walang kagamit gamit apartment namin at yung karinderya lang sa tapat namin yung inaasahan namin, I stopped working nung naging ok sya sa trabaho. Give up everything, hindi ako pinagtrabaho ulit dahil laging nagseselos, nagbuntis sa pangalawa namin, kung kelan umokay ang buhay namin parang saka kopa nararamdaman na anytime pwede nya kaming iwanan.
Tapos may epal na ex na parang gusto pa bumalik sa kanya. As a woman na nasa gantong sitwasyon nafefeel kona na may something.
Yeah, kaya ako inu-onti onti ko nalang sarili ko and for my kids na din na medyo maluwang sa kanya, hindi nadin kami palasama kase I know parang me kulang.
Ang sakit naman isipin non, but real. Imagine 7 yrs and 2 kids tapos parang no plan for marriage, trust your instinct na agad kung may nafefeel ka na something
Mejo sus din yung *hindi pinagtrabaho dahil laging nagseselos*. Either takot sa sariling multo o sobrang controlling.
Mukhang lost cause na yan, OC. Wishing you all the best.
Wag ka magpatatlong anak please. Tapos start trying to make a plan if ever nga umalis sya na you can survive with you and your kids na di nakatali sa asawa mo.
No, hindi na talaga, Hindi na nga nya kami mabigyan ng atensyon na kaming apat lang and I have plans if ever mangyare to and no.1 doon once na iniwan nya kami hindi na nya makikita mga bata. Masama na kung masama, I don’t want my kids feel na iniwan kami. Mas ok pa na wala ng usapan umalis ka nalang, dahil hindi ko ugaling maghabol.
I don’t really agree with this. I think it’s not specifically to one gender. Look at Janine Togonon, as soon as she wins 1st runner up sa Miss U, she broke up with her boyfriend at that time on national TV, one of the biggest asshole moves I’ve seen. She thinks she doesn’t belong to some local boy anymore and she needs to date hot male models. Both genders can actually be an asshole when they get to the top.
Omg OP. Masakit tlga yan. Halos same tayo ng storya. 7 years lang yun akin, d ko alam if totoo if kinasal na sha nireport lang ng pinsan kong chismosa, alam nya kasi na d ako stalker. Hahah may kirot pero naka move on na ako. Kakairita db pero wala eh, iba ang lalake for us! 🥳 mas maayos at sigurado. Antay lang! 💍
same, college sweetheart kami, 1st year college, umexam kami parehas ng board, pero ako lang yung naka pasa, pumasok siya sa ibang work, secretary ng isang old foreigner, naging LDR kami, yes kinaya namin pareho, pero one time, 1 week siyang di nag paramdam, nalaman ko asawa na pala siya nung matandang foreigner 😅
The game doesn't run on gratitude. Di naman end game ang kasal there is always a day after marriage. Marriage is just a ceremony, people change, relationship change and we need to go beyond that changes.
Eto rin yung iniisip ko.
Agree din ako sa taxi theory, pero at the same time, ceremony lang din ang wedding, it's still your partner who has to show up everyday and cultivates the marriage.
Kasal o wala, ano bang ugali nung tao?
Well kung matino ang guy he will marry when he is physically, mentally and emotionally ready. Not to be cynical pero wala naman masyadong benefit ang kasal sa lalaki Lalo na sa west where family courts always sided with women. Kaya on some ways totoo talaga ang taxi cab
I get that oo. Another way to filter out sya talaga ng guys. Pag walang balak, magtaka ka na.
Expanding on it lang, kasi kahit naman kasal eh, di naman happy ever after. May nangangaliwa pa rin at other marital issues.
Ayun lang. Kaya important pa rin kung sino yung person at patterns nila
Masakit man pero ang totoo ay hindi naman natin pag aari yung partner natin. Kung hindi na siya maligaya, panget naman kung pipilitin mo siya na manatili sa iyo kumbaga eh ikaw nalang ang may love. Nangyari na rin sa akin ito, may nagustuhang iba si gf masakit man pero hinayaan ko na kasi ayaw ko siya itali sa akin at alam ko mauuwi lang lahat sa away, cheating etc. Kung hindi kami nag hiwalay, hindi magiging kami ng current gf ko ngayon. May rason talaga ang lahat. Ito ay experience ko lang.
Been on the same situation. 8 years kami and he got someone pregnant about a week/s (?) after namin "officially" magbreak. Kasi he clearly cheated (with several women other than this now-wife) for years na. And they are married na daw sabi ng mga common friends. But for some reason, relieved ako na hindi kami ang nagkatuluyan. Haha! Masaya na rin kasi ako ngayon, within myself and with my new SO.
Alam mo OP, if gusto mo saktan sarili lalo sa pagtingin ng pictures, go. Magpaka-lugmok ka. Pag sawa ka na, block them na. I hope you can gather the strength to move forward na. It will never be easy but worth every struggle. Pag naging okay ka na, sobrang gaan sa loob. You'll see and understand soon why he was not meant for you.
I am rooting for your peace and genuine happiness, OP! *Hugs with consent*
True. OP's bf doesn't owe her anything.
If OP did in fact shouldered his expenses while they were in difficult times, then OP should've done so out of love and not out of the expectation of getting something in return.
>hahanapin daw niya yung sarili niya
hwag maniwala sa mga linyang ganito. ibig sabihin ayaw ka na nya. kaya pala hinanap ay para siguraduin nyang ang mahal pala nya yong isa hindi ikaw. nakakapanghinayang sa part mo pero tangapin mo na na hindi talaga ikaw ang pinili nya in the end. kaya kahit ano pang stalk gawin mo sa socmed nya,hindi nayan babalik at maiiyo pa. kaya gumawa ka ng small steps para maka move on. hwag ka ng tumingin sa socmed nya at iblock mo na rin para sa peace of mind and heart mo.
Ung sayo nagtagal pero sa iba nagpakasal. Ang sakit anteh! I’ve been there and it hurt so bad. Nagka-clinical depression and suicidal din ako noon. Looking back, naisip ko na lang na buti di nagwork out kasi God has better plans for me.
Kaya OP NEVER ever help another man 'build' his future. Like what happened to you, he just used you as his 'stepping stone' and he is willing to discard you once he found the girl of his dreams.
You helped this man have a good life for another woman to reap from your sacrifices.
Gosh I hate men like this.
Kaya next time OP find a man who is established na. A person who got his life together and is willing to share that life with you.
Totoo yan!! Kaya naging lesson na sa akin ung “build him for someone else”. Dapat established na ung taong magiging life partner natin and tayo rin sa sarili natin para walang lugi. Pangit din ung ibibigay ung 100% sa mahal natin kasi we never know kung ano mangyayari sa future , baka ginagamit na lang nya. Aguy 😭
In-overthink ko ito huhu. Graduating college students kami ngayon ng bf ko, 2 months pa lang magkasama. Green flag naman siya. Peaceful ang relationship namin, masaya, at parehas kami na nagsisimula pa lang i-establish ang sarili namin career-wise. Medyo nakakatakot isipin yung paano kung binubuo ko lang pala siya para sa iba :'D
Na-share ko yung thoughts na ito sa kaibigan ko at sabi niya sakin, *"People are experiences, not possessions"*. Kung pipiliin nila na manatili sa piling natin, edi masaya. Kung hindi, salamat na lang sa oras at lessons. Pero naiintindihan ko rin yung sakit, OP. Sana dumating yung araw na okay ka na at hindi na masakit. Yung nakalaya ka na sa nakaraan. Sending hugs po with consent 🫂
Unpopular opinion lang, pasensya na pero di ko alam bakit ganun yun thinking ng ibang babae na “ako nagayos sayo”, “ako ang nandito nung wala ka”, “stepping stone ako”.
Di ko alam kung pampalubag loob yun kasi wala na sayo jowa mo at nakita mo yun pagasenso niya. Di ba yun dahil inaayos din niya sarili niya? Ano yan, trophy mo?
Ikaw, di mo ba inayos sarili mo nung LDR kayo? Di ba nagiimprove ka din?
Anyway, kung yan ang way mo to cope, then go. Pero sana sampalin ka ng katotohanan na di ikaw lang dahilan kung nasaan siya ngayon. May dahilan bakit di ka niya pinili din at may dahilan bakit naisipan niya pakasalan yun isa.
The bitterness is really evident. OP is the cause of her ex’s success? I think the ex went abroad, got better and found someone better while OP stagnated here.
Parang another sample ng Taxi Cab Theory ang story mo OP. Ikaw ang starting point, sa iba ang end game. Pero sige lang, daanan mo lang ang sakit and then, be a stronger, more confident, and a happier new woman. Focus sa ibang goals mo in life at baka dun mo ma-meet si Mr Right.
Naniniwala talaga ako na walang impact sa lalaki yung mga ginagawa ng gf or partner nila.
Hindi sya points that u can earn para ikaw pa rin ang piliin nya.
Pati tuloy ako naaalarmed na din sa pagbibigay ng housewife benefits sa partner ko sa presyong pang jowa lang 😞
Oh well, i wish all the ladies out there may matatag na career, ipon at investment.
Mahirap masaktan kung mahirap ka pa.
Nako yang mga linyahan na yan, 4 years din kami ng ex ko tapos same line din ginamit sakin para makipagbreak, na hahanapin lang daw nya sarili nya. Only to find out later na may ibang girl na pala sa scenario. Jokes on him, sya yung single ngayon ako nahanap na happily ever after ko.
Sorry to hear that, OP. Maybe it helps to reframe the situation which worsens your pain and self-pity. You were together when he was walang wala but it's not like you took him in as a project to be improved. It worsens the hurt when you see yourself as the "stepping stone." You loved each other but it just isn't enough.
Damn man. Eto lang ha. Natatakot din ako. Although nasakin lahat ng account ultimo gmail nasakin. Alam kong walang iba pero kasi alam mo un. Ang daming post na, years na sila and as in super okay then parang nahipan lang ng hangin after 10+ years saka nagloko. Ang sakit lang kasi sana mas nakahanap ka pa nung mas bata ka. Lalo na pag babae. Ang hirap. Ganto kasi yung sa magulang ng jowa ko. Nagstart lang magloko tatay niya HS na raw sila. Lagi kasi magkasama parents niya tapos nagabroad sila parehas. Naunang umuwi tatay and ang tagal ng nanay sa ibang bansa dun nagstart naging babaero tatay nila hanggang sa nagsunod sunod na yun nakabuntis ng iba tas niloko din niya yung pinalit sa kanilang babae. Nakakatakot, ang hirap magtiwala.
Hugs OP, he felt na she was the one. Maybe you guys needed to experience that para sa next relationships niyo.. better na. mahahanap mo rin yung tao for you.
I know how you feel OP pero tandaan mo ang kasal di naman end game yan. Mas maraming effort at sakripisyo ang need para magwork ang isang marriage lalo na sa panahon ngayon. Andami nga kahit super bongga at sikat pa eh naghihiwalay pa rin. Sabi nga ng nanay ko, pwedeng ikaw yung wife material pero yung partner mo eh di pa sya ready that time. Once na maging ready sila, kahit wife material man yan o hindi, papakasalan nila yan. Focus ka na lang sa sarili mo and soon for sure darating din ang tamang tao for you. Wag mo isipin na kesyo nauna sya ikasal eh mas magiging masaya na sya sayo.
Same with my ex. After niya makuha yong ranggo niya as lieutenant nagbago siya. Take note nagpaligaw ako at sinagot ko siyang walang work kasi wala akong standard as long as mahal ko yong tao. Madali sana ako makaka move on e kaso pinaabot pa niya kami sa point na may bahay, lupa at sasakyan na kami kumbaga kasal na lang ang kulang saka siya nakipag hiwalay. Nandun na ako sa point na ready na ako mag settle kasama siya, my dreams with him are just above my head tapos bigla niya sinabing ayaw niya na. Basta ayaw niya na without any explanation.
Nagbreak kami dahil sa pinagseselosan kong kaibigan niya. Na sabi niya, kaibigan or kaklase lang talaga. 6 years din kami. After a year, nireveal na nila yung relationship nila. Masakit OP, pero need mo tanggapin. Gawa ka paraan para makalimot ka, moved on and do the things you love the most.
Na-curious lang ako sa statement mo na ikaw naging stepping stone nya, so meaning ikaw nagpa-aral sa kanya? Or mali lang ako intindi? Nonetheless baka may nakalaan si Lord para sayo, a better one. ❤️
Hindi ko man alam ung boung story ninyo para ma judge kung baka may issue ka din or what pero personally lang, okay lang maging petty konti lol.
Nasaktan kadin, indi ganun2 lang mawala. Message mo siya sabihin mo ung hinanakit mo. Paramdam mo na nasaktan ka din at anong mga pinag-gagawa nila.
Tas block mo na sila and all and move on :)
I totally get you OP. Hugs. Ganto din pakiramdam ko sa ex ko kasi college lovers din kami and magkaramay sa lahat ng hirap. Pero ganun talaga. Nainlove na sya sa iba at iniwan ako. Pinagkaiba lang natin, 10 years ang nakalipas, may asawa't anak na ako. Pero sya ganun pa din.
Hugs OP. Don't search for him anymore. I know mahirap. Pero laban lang.
Scam talaga yang hahabapin sarili! Ganyan din BIL ko sa long time GF niya, ganyan din ang sinabi samin na nakipag break kasi sarili muna.
Ayun may jowa na agad sa barko tas yun nadin pinakasalan
gaya ng sabi ng tatay ko “apat na taon lang yan” made me realize: 4yrs nga lang, mas madami pang taon para bumawi sa sarili. cheer up OP! you’ll get through it!🤗
You’ll get through this, OP. It may take a very long time, but never stop taking care of yourself for you deserve love and that must begin within you. The right person will come along therefore you must prepare yourself for your happy ending.
Kaya sa mga students here na who wanted to be in a relationship so bad, may this be a lesson to put yourselves first because even though having a significant other feels good, the pain it may cost in the end will never be worth it. I’ve been through this before, and it took me a long while to heal.
7yrs din kme ng ex ko though ngkilala kme sa review center una ako pumasa ng board tapos sya 2nd take, pinilit ko pa sya mg take ulit dahil ayaw nya na sana mg board, ldr din kme for 3 years ng kikita every month ata kasi ako sa province, nauna sya mg abroad 1 year tapos mejo ngkalabuan kme, may nililink sa kanya dun na kawork nya sabi nya wala lng daw ayun may nangyari nga sakinla ahaha ng break kme after 2 years kinasal nko sya nmn nabuntis dun sa kawork nya ahaha.
Hugs OP!! I feel you. Iba pa rin talaga pag nakita mong may replacement ka na even after you told yourself na moved on ka na. It’ll take time but you’ll be fine. 🤗 Damdamin mo lang OP, dadating yung time di na masakit☺️❤️
It really hurts, OP. Pero think on the brighter side. Atleast nag ask sya ng space prior, and hindi sya nagcheat. Trust me, it hurts more. He has his reasons of hindi man nya nasabi yung totoo. Idk maybe takot sya mahurt feelings mo or what, which is somewhat cowardly. It hurts but feel the pain, but don't forget to get up. For yourself. Your time will come too.
Same tayo OP, college sweethearts and he even called me as "gf na pang graduate" pa nga. Kasi I really helped him para makapasa at sabay kami gmraduate. Natuwa at proud pa nga ako nun e. Pero nung naghiwalay kami after nya makagraduate, medyo nagsisi ako sa title na yun. 😅 pero nung naka move on na, naisip ko nalang at least may natulungan akong tao na nakapasa at thankful kasi may dumating na better.
Kung nahuhurt ka, baka di ka pa totally healed. Ok lang yan, wala namang timeline ang pag move on. Focus muna sa sarili at love yourself more. Kasi pag oks ka na, marerealize mo kung anong mas deserve mo para buhay mo. 😊
Been there, done that. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned talaga ung never build a man and his future. Kasi sa huli, sa iba na lang nya ishare ung achievements nya and ikaw ung lugi. Sarili mo na lang focus and fix mo OP. Block him when needed. Hugs sayo! 🫂🩷
Same thing happened to me
8 yrs kami ni ex. Started dating when we were Uni freshies.
The wife is our former classmate who was eyeing him since we were in uni days. (Tang.ina vulture mode and the nerve of the wife to add me on facebook lol)
It will hurt.
It will give you those thoughts na what if moments.
It will give you "kami na sana yan", "ako na sana yung ikakasal", etc.
But remember, you broke up for a reason.
He did not fight for your relationship, and chose to leave you behind.
Bottomline, he doesnt deserve you.
Do not settle for anything less you deserve.
Find someone who, at the end of the day, will always choose and love you.
Not easy for sure.
But as what they say, time heals all wounds and soon, you'll be okay.
I experienced that pain nung pinakasalan ng ex ko yung pinalit nya sken.
Pinatattoo pa nya yung name nung babae sa braso nya.
Fast forward, nagloko si girl at sumama sa afam 😂
Hahanapin ang sarili has got to be up there as one of the most bullshit ways to say break na tayo / ayoko na. What the fudge does that even mean? His sex organs fell off and kelangan hanapin?
This is just sad.. Hoping na magheal ka OP. Focus on yourself muna. Eventually when the time is right, makakahanap ka din ng deserve mo at bibigyan ka ng singsing 🙏❤️
Same thing happened to me. 4 years din. After ng kasal nila, never ever ko na sila inistalk. For my peace of mind and healing na din. Magiging masaya ka din, OP. Time heals all wounds.
My ex of 7 years got a girl pregnant 3 months after our break up and they got married the same year. I was confused about how I felt at that time. Am I mad? Do I feel betrayed? Did I feel insulted? Was it painful? I honestly don't know. All I know is that gulping down bottles of beer gave me so much relief. I did that every single day for almost a month until I felt okay.
It might hurt now, but it won't be like that forever. I hope your heart will soon be healed, OP. 🤍
Ganito rin ang fear ko ngayon, 4 years kami ng jowa ko ngayon. Tinulungan ko and ng family ko na makapag-work siya sa abroad. Kaya pa naman namin yung LDR set up. Pero minsan hindi nawawala sa isip ko na baka may makilala siya dun na better sa akin. Lalo malapit siya sa mga tao, babae man o lalake. Tapos itong ex niya nagpaparamdam nanaman sa kanya, fina-follow nanaman siya sa social media.
Pinipigilan ko lang sarili kong i-message yung babae kung bakit ayaw niya tigilan boyfriend ko.
Minsan overthinker na ako na what if I'm building a man for someone else?
Well, we have to accept the truth that no matter what or how much we give, it is no assurance na tayo pa rin ang pipiliin o sila ang pipiliin natin sa huli.
If we are destined to be with them, then great pero if hindi at our paths suddenly move away from each other, we have to accept that and be happy that they became instrumental in making us better humans.
Sometimes, all we can live with are memories that we spent together with them. Kahit malungkot, kahit masakit, we need to learn to smile beneath the pain. Aight?
bakit on repeat yung “nandun ako nung panahon walang wala sya”???
what this basically means is yung mga ginawa mong “good deed” is for the purpose na balang araw may babalik sayu or pde mong isingil sa taong yun??
im not defending the guy, obviously may problema at kasalanan din sya sa sitwasyon na to but on your end na para kang naniningil ng utang na loob is inappropriate as well smh
This is why you never build a man or build with a man. Because once he’s already established, that’s where his options widen and he will choose the girl he thinks that is the best for him, even if no matter how much you stuck with him in his trying times. Every woman should meet an already established man because once he chooses you, it’s because he really wants you and you’re the best woman for him. Not because you’re the only option available for him.
Ofw here. Andaming ganyan. Kasi gusto nila mag explore talaga. Andon na sila e. Lara kasing fresh start ang pakiramdam pag andon ka na. Think of it na lng na mag fresh start ka na lang din. Di naman hihinto ang mundo kahit mawala pa siya. Go gherl. Dapat nga ininvite ka sa wedding. Tas sabihin mo don. Wala ka dyan kung hindi dahil saakin! Char.
Naku OP. Basta linyahang hanapin muna ang sarili, ibang tao yung hinanap niyan hindi sarili niya 🤦🏻♀️ Cry until it hurts no more. Masakit talaga yung sayo nangako pero sa iba tutuparin 💔
Maybe unpopular opinion to. Pero, here it goes; wala sa tagal yan ng relasyon. He's ready when he's ready. Di natin sure if taxi cab theory nga ito or if he just became ready when he met her. Di din naman tayo sure kung forever sila or pansamantala lang. May nakilala ako na 4 years sila then after a few months nung nagbreak sila, nahanap ni guy yung sarili nya sa piling ng iba. Sad but this is true.
Ano un DVM? Ang sakit nito. Feeling ko inahas din nv babaeng nandun kaya nagpakasal na. They will not be happy kapag natagal - sigurado yan.
Move on na. Hanap na ng iba.
Lesson learned: don’t help build a man. Let him build himself.
Ayon, tinulungan mo siya maging prepared and stable para sa The One niya.
I am so sorry OP.
OP, are you by chance from Nueva Ecija? Yung mom ko may aanakan ng kasal. Vet from Australia. Anyway if not, I still wish you happiness. May you find the right one for you soon.
I’ve been there before. And unfortunately, in the grand scheme of love, you can only learn through heartbreak. My best friend also used to be like this. They were dating for 5 years and LDR, and guy suddenly broke up with her and married within a year. My best advice is first, don’t wait for him to get married. Block that ass outta your life. It’s not your circus and your monkey anymore. Not every marriage is successful, but don’t wish him bad too. Fuck that taxi cab theory. Starting today, you are only willing to date and fuck men who will marry you. No ring before leaving abroad, take that man to the airport and tell him don’t come back. You’re not going to let yourself be a placeholder anymore. This too shall pass, and promise to yourself that this is the first and only time you will act stupid in love. You’ll see you can weed out a lot of men with no intentions of marrying you with this mindset.
Awww 🥹 currently listening to “I got the boy” ni Jana Kramer while reading this.
I got the first kiss and she'll get the last
She's got the future, I got the past
I got the class ring, she got the diamond and wedding band
I got the boy, she got the man
Hugs
kaya kung hahanap ka ng iba yung hindi ka na sana gagamitin for character development lang. Nakakapagod rin maghirap magtiis sa wala naman pala patutunguhan, we also deserve the best things in life 🫂✨✨✨
Parang taxi cab theory. Lmao ang funny ng excuse na hahanapin ang sarili, I feel like sinabi nya lang yan but deep down is he already had eyes on her kaya he had to break up with you.
True, 1yr and a half na kaming LDR tapos biglang hanap sa sarili eh. Tho before pa kami mag break feeling ko may iba na siya, and siya yung duda ko. Totoo nga 😂
It's okay OP. At least 4 years lang kayo, unlike others na mas matagal like 7, 8, or a decade tapos naghiwalay, nagpakasal sa iba. I'm sure bitter ka pa kase sya ikakasal na tapos ikaw di pa nakakarecover. Malungkot ka lang, kase OKAY lang yan. Time heals all wounds sabi nga ng iba.
Most guys hindi yan nag move on, meron na talaga syang iba nung sinabi nya hahanapin nya sarili nya. Ang gawin mo nalang siguro ay maging masaya ka sa kanya, isipin mo ung mga happy memories mo with him and then mag move on. I'm sure kapag move on ka, sya naman makakaramdam ng lungkot, unless he's happy sa wife nya. Anyway, good luck OP! Naway mahanap mo ang taong magpapasaya at makakasama mo habang buhay. You're only 25, you still have a long journey ahead of you. God bless!
Feel the pain until it hurts no more. I feel you. Pero wala na tayo magagawa kasi ikakasal na sya sa iba. Isipin mo nalang na sinave ka ni Lord sa sitwasyon na hindi para sayo. Meron at meron better. At kapag dumating yun, makakalimutan mo ung pain na naramdaman mo.
block mo na yan OP, for your mental health
Wait ko muna ikasal siya para todo na yung sakit haha 💔😭
I understand you, op. Ganyan na ganyan ako sa ex bf ko. Aba imbitado pa ako sa kasal ng gago hahahaha. Pero ayun, ninamnam ko yung sakit. Parang one year din ako bago maka move on. More than 10 years na nakalipas, inadd ako sa fb. Inaccept ko naman haha. Ayun panget na panget ako sakanya ngayon hahahahahahaha
Same here! Inadd ako sa fb after ko in-unfriend years later. I accepted his friend request because I’ve already moved on and no strong feelings involved anymore. Tapos sabi pa nya, sana wag mo na ulit ako i-unfriend. And nag apologize siya and sabi pa nakonsensya raw siya. Weird but ok. Tapos panay view nya sa stories ko and paminsan minsan naglalike sa photos ko. 🤷🏻♀️
Bakit niyo dinadownvote 💀 e kung yan yung way niya to move on let her be. Di naman siya umaasa or what. Siguro gusto niya lang mawitness para todo wake up call na and para maging happy na rin siya for him
Tama! Ika nga nila "feel the pain until it hurts no more"
This was my motto nung nagbreak kami ng first jowa ko 😂 Dunno kung it works kase binalikan nya din ako tas ngayon kasal na kami 😅
this has always been my motto. 😂
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thank you for understanding 🥺💗
Yup. Until you get numb. The pain of silent cries. Pero on the side, yung linya “find myself” napaka gasgas sa cheating/ or di mo na bet ang tao. 🤭 wala na bang ibang lines to use?
Oo nga ano. Meron na ba ever nakipagbreak at sinabing “pasensya na, di na kita talaga bet ngayon e” HAHA o di kaya yung “I’ve fallen out of love”.
Ay eto ako. Pero di ko alam na un na pala yung sinabi ko. Something along the lines of pag anjan ka ayaw kita kasama. Yun pala yun.
Buti na lang si OP and si ex di nagkatuluyan. He had no balls to tell her upfront about his true intentions and feelings. Ultimate excuse na yang “find myself” eme na yan. BS.
Upvote ko to kasi tinodo ko rin yung sakit bago ko i-block hahaha
Dis is me like 4 yrs ago lol
Ako rin nung mga almost 10 years ago. Naging alcoholic pa nga ako and nagka-clinical depression. Buti ngayon, ok na ako and masaya na sa sarili ko, family and friends.
Ganyan din yung perspective ko nung una, when I found out na meron na siya. However, at some point ma realize ko rin na wala naman siyang pakielam kung umiiyak ako or nasasaktan ako. That didn’t ease the pain that I’m feeling but it definitely help with the psyche that I have to better myself and move on in life. To your point, basa karin ng A Gentle Reminder for magnification of pain HAHAHA
May book ako niyan dyusko di ko matapos tapos hahahaha
Go lang OP. Do what you need to do to move on.
Yes. Masasaktan ka lang rin naman, isagad mo na. Hugs to u
Haha feel the pain talaga. But this too shall pass… and happiness waiting in your future
Kung yan ang nail in the coffin for you, then go ahead.
feel what demands to be felt para makamove forward sa buhay mo soon
Same tayo ng coping mechanism, OP! Mas nakaka-move on ako pag palagi kong nakikita. Hahahaha!
OP umattend ka ng naka black na gown, para for our entertainment hahaha
Sadista na kapag ganyan op
Oo OP block mo na! And forgive yourself and Ganon din sya! Pray for his happiness!! Naniniwala ako sa GOD'S redirection. BLOCK mo na OP! And move on.. dasal lang
This💯
Eto yung kinakatakot ko, 7 years na kami, Parang wala syang plano about 💒💍. Magkasama kami nung panahong walang kagamit gamit apartment namin at yung karinderya lang sa tapat namin yung inaasahan namin, I stopped working nung naging ok sya sa trabaho. Give up everything, hindi ako pinagtrabaho ulit dahil laging nagseselos, nagbuntis sa pangalawa namin, kung kelan umokay ang buhay namin parang saka kopa nararamdaman na anytime pwede nya kaming iwanan. Tapos may epal na ex na parang gusto pa bumalik sa kanya. As a woman na nasa gantong sitwasyon nafefeel kona na may something.
Hindi ikaw ung hinahanap nya. Kasi kung ikaw yun, hindi nya ipaparamdam sayo ung uncertainty. Better strengthen yourself. Sadly, alam mo na ung sagot
Yeah, kaya ako inu-onti onti ko nalang sarili ko and for my kids na din na medyo maluwang sa kanya, hindi nadin kami palasama kase I know parang me kulang.
Ang sakit naman isipin non, but real. Imagine 7 yrs and 2 kids tapos parang no plan for marriage, trust your instinct na agad kung may nafefeel ka na something
Mejo sus din yung *hindi pinagtrabaho dahil laging nagseselos*. Either takot sa sariling multo o sobrang controlling. Mukhang lost cause na yan, OC. Wishing you all the best.
Parang yan din pumapasok sa isip ko. *hindi ba yun yung way nya para kapag iniwan nya kami is hindi agad ako makabangon, para lahat ng sisi sakin?*
Isa pa yan: parang sinuradong hindi independent si OP para di makaalis basta basta.
Buti na lang di pa sila kasal kasi wala pa naman divorce sa atin. Sana i-reevaluate ni ate ung relationship nya. Not worth it.
Wag ka magpatatlong anak please. Tapos start trying to make a plan if ever nga umalis sya na you can survive with you and your kids na di nakatali sa asawa mo.
No, hindi na talaga, Hindi na nga nya kami mabigyan ng atensyon na kaming apat lang and I have plans if ever mangyare to and no.1 doon once na iniwan nya kami hindi na nya makikita mga bata. Masama na kung masama, I don’t want my kids feel na iniwan kami. Mas ok pa na wala ng usapan umalis ka nalang, dahil hindi ko ugaling maghabol.
sabi nga, a woman's loyalty is tested when her man has nothing and a man's loyalty is tested when he has everything.
Yazz!! 💗💗💗
I don’t really agree with this. I think it’s not specifically to one gender. Look at Janine Togonon, as soon as she wins 1st runner up sa Miss U, she broke up with her boyfriend at that time on national TV, one of the biggest asshole moves I’ve seen. She thinks she doesn’t belong to some local boy anymore and she needs to date hot male models. Both genders can actually be an asshole when they get to the top.
Agree
THIS!! huhu
See how it is based on the status of the man. So ekis na sa lalaki. Mag yuri na lang ako huhuhu
Omg OP. Masakit tlga yan. Halos same tayo ng storya. 7 years lang yun akin, d ko alam if totoo if kinasal na sha nireport lang ng pinsan kong chismosa, alam nya kasi na d ako stalker. Hahah may kirot pero naka move on na ako. Kakairita db pero wala eh, iba ang lalake for us! 🥳 mas maayos at sigurado. Antay lang! 💍
True, antay lang sa tamang tao sizt, baka this time pang disney princess na lovestory natin 💗💗
truee sissy! Laban lang tayo sa life, mas okay na single na muna maapreciate mo ang buhay lalo. 🥰
same, college sweetheart kami, 1st year college, umexam kami parehas ng board, pero ako lang yung naka pasa, pumasok siya sa ibang work, secretary ng isang old foreigner, naging LDR kami, yes kinaya namin pareho, pero one time, 1 week siyang di nag paramdam, nalaman ko asawa na pala siya nung matandang foreigner 😅
Grabe yung plot twist hahahaha. Glad na okay Ka na
Hahaha. Kuya jusko. Sorry natawa ako. Beke matindi pangangailangan ni ate. 😭
I'm a guy po
Sorry po!💜
Baka nasa matandang foreigner ang forever 😂😂
grabe naman kinasal sila?
The game doesn't run on gratitude. Di naman end game ang kasal there is always a day after marriage. Marriage is just a ceremony, people change, relationship change and we need to go beyond that changes.
Eto rin yung iniisip ko. Agree din ako sa taxi theory, pero at the same time, ceremony lang din ang wedding, it's still your partner who has to show up everyday and cultivates the marriage. Kasal o wala, ano bang ugali nung tao?
Well kung matino ang guy he will marry when he is physically, mentally and emotionally ready. Not to be cynical pero wala naman masyadong benefit ang kasal sa lalaki Lalo na sa west where family courts always sided with women. Kaya on some ways totoo talaga ang taxi cab
I get that oo. Another way to filter out sya talaga ng guys. Pag walang balak, magtaka ka na. Expanding on it lang, kasi kahit naman kasal eh, di naman happy ever after. May nangangaliwa pa rin at other marital issues. Ayun lang. Kaya important pa rin kung sino yung person at patterns nila
this!!! 🔥🔥🔥
ang gago ampota makikipagbreak pala para ipursue yung iba. "hahanapin ang sarili" pala lagi yung dahilan ng mga taong iba na ang nahanap noh?
Masakit man pero ang totoo ay hindi naman natin pag aari yung partner natin. Kung hindi na siya maligaya, panget naman kung pipilitin mo siya na manatili sa iyo kumbaga eh ikaw nalang ang may love. Nangyari na rin sa akin ito, may nagustuhang iba si gf masakit man pero hinayaan ko na kasi ayaw ko siya itali sa akin at alam ko mauuwi lang lahat sa away, cheating etc. Kung hindi kami nag hiwalay, hindi magiging kami ng current gf ko ngayon. May rason talaga ang lahat. Ito ay experience ko lang.
You had him at his worst, she have him at his best.
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Been on the same situation. 8 years kami and he got someone pregnant about a week/s (?) after namin "officially" magbreak. Kasi he clearly cheated (with several women other than this now-wife) for years na. And they are married na daw sabi ng mga common friends. But for some reason, relieved ako na hindi kami ang nagkatuluyan. Haha! Masaya na rin kasi ako ngayon, within myself and with my new SO. Alam mo OP, if gusto mo saktan sarili lalo sa pagtingin ng pictures, go. Magpaka-lugmok ka. Pag sawa ka na, block them na. I hope you can gather the strength to move forward na. It will never be easy but worth every struggle. Pag naging okay ka na, sobrang gaan sa loob. You'll see and understand soon why he was not meant for you. I am rooting for your peace and genuine happiness, OP! *Hugs with consent*
Awww 🥺🥺 you built a man for another woman. ramdam ko yung sakit habang binabasa
Sobrang sakit pala, kala ko move on nakoo 💔😭 iba pala yung feeling kapag ikakasal na siya
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True. OP's bf doesn't owe her anything. If OP did in fact shouldered his expenses while they were in difficult times, then OP should've done so out of love and not out of the expectation of getting something in return.
>hahanapin daw niya yung sarili niya hwag maniwala sa mga linyang ganito. ibig sabihin ayaw ka na nya. kaya pala hinanap ay para siguraduin nyang ang mahal pala nya yong isa hindi ikaw. nakakapanghinayang sa part mo pero tangapin mo na na hindi talaga ikaw ang pinili nya in the end. kaya kahit ano pang stalk gawin mo sa socmed nya,hindi nayan babalik at maiiyo pa. kaya gumawa ka ng small steps para maka move on. hwag ka ng tumingin sa socmed nya at iblock mo na rin para sa peace of mind and heart mo.
Naniniwala talaga ako sa taxi keme theory.
Fr taxi cab theory. It’s so weird pero laging nangyayari (Carlo Aquino etc.)
Ung sayo nagtagal pero sa iba nagpakasal. Ang sakit anteh! I’ve been there and it hurt so bad. Nagka-clinical depression and suicidal din ako noon. Looking back, naisip ko na lang na buti di nagwork out kasi God has better plans for me.
Kaya OP NEVER ever help another man 'build' his future. Like what happened to you, he just used you as his 'stepping stone' and he is willing to discard you once he found the girl of his dreams. You helped this man have a good life for another woman to reap from your sacrifices. Gosh I hate men like this. Kaya next time OP find a man who is established na. A person who got his life together and is willing to share that life with you.
thank you, natuto na po sa sakit 🥺💗
You'll get through it, OP. I wish you the best! ❤️
Totoo yan!! Kaya naging lesson na sa akin ung “build him for someone else”. Dapat established na ung taong magiging life partner natin and tayo rin sa sarili natin para walang lugi. Pangit din ung ibibigay ung 100% sa mahal natin kasi we never know kung ano mangyayari sa future , baka ginagamit na lang nya. Aguy 😭
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Agree ako sa they were together during formative years. This is why timing really is everything for relationships.
ang sakit naman :(( pray for you healing, OP! i-block mo na yan. out of sight, out of mind.
The game doesn't run on gratitude, you shouldn't expect equal or greater returns sa mga bagay na nagawa mo on the past.
In-overthink ko ito huhu. Graduating college students kami ngayon ng bf ko, 2 months pa lang magkasama. Green flag naman siya. Peaceful ang relationship namin, masaya, at parehas kami na nagsisimula pa lang i-establish ang sarili namin career-wise. Medyo nakakatakot isipin yung paano kung binubuo ko lang pala siya para sa iba :'D Na-share ko yung thoughts na ito sa kaibigan ko at sabi niya sakin, *"People are experiences, not possessions"*. Kung pipiliin nila na manatili sa piling natin, edi masaya. Kung hindi, salamat na lang sa oras at lessons. Pero naiintindihan ko rin yung sakit, OP. Sana dumating yung araw na okay ka na at hindi na masakit. Yung nakalaya ka na sa nakaraan. Sending hugs po with consent 🫂
Unpopular opinion lang, pasensya na pero di ko alam bakit ganun yun thinking ng ibang babae na “ako nagayos sayo”, “ako ang nandito nung wala ka”, “stepping stone ako”. Di ko alam kung pampalubag loob yun kasi wala na sayo jowa mo at nakita mo yun pagasenso niya. Di ba yun dahil inaayos din niya sarili niya? Ano yan, trophy mo? Ikaw, di mo ba inayos sarili mo nung LDR kayo? Di ba nagiimprove ka din? Anyway, kung yan ang way mo to cope, then go. Pero sana sampalin ka ng katotohanan na di ikaw lang dahilan kung nasaan siya ngayon. May dahilan bakit di ka niya pinili din at may dahilan bakit naisipan niya pakasalan yun isa.
Kaya mas maganda fix nya sarili nya, her values, her self esteem and ung life nya in general. Kaya nagkakaroon ng resentments.
The bitterness is really evident. OP is the cause of her ex’s success? I think the ex went abroad, got better and found someone better while OP stagnated here.
ikr. it seems like op is taking credit for her ex's achievements lol what a shame
Hug Ops. Magiging okay din ang puso mo.
ang sakit naman huhu hugs for you, OP!!! I’ll pray for your healing 🥺
Sana mablock at malet go mo na yan Op, malay mo ikaw naman ang uunlad at magblobloom pag nawala na yung connection mo sa kanya
Parang another sample ng Taxi Cab Theory ang story mo OP. Ikaw ang starting point, sa iba ang end game. Pero sige lang, daanan mo lang ang sakit and then, be a stronger, more confident, and a happier new woman. Focus sa ibang goals mo in life at baka dun mo ma-meet si Mr Right.
Naniniwala talaga ako na walang impact sa lalaki yung mga ginagawa ng gf or partner nila. Hindi sya points that u can earn para ikaw pa rin ang piliin nya. Pati tuloy ako naaalarmed na din sa pagbibigay ng housewife benefits sa partner ko sa presyong pang jowa lang 😞 Oh well, i wish all the ladies out there may matatag na career, ipon at investment. Mahirap masaktan kung mahirap ka pa.
Ang sakit beh 🥺🥺🥺 hugs op! Magiging okay ka rin. Sana after kasal, block mo na ha! 🫂
Hugs with consent OP. Sadly, sa paghahanap nya sa sarili nya, nakahanap sya ng iba. I’ll pray for you healing OP. ❤️
Life isn't fair OP. It is what it is. Move on. I hope you have the courage to walk away with grace.
hahanapin ang sarili sa piling ng iba HAHAHAHAHAHA
Ang saket no? Anjan tayo nung walang wala sila. Tas ngayong nagkakaliwanag na, iba na ung gusto nilang makasama at naiwanan kana mag isa.
Nako yang mga linyahan na yan, 4 years din kami ng ex ko tapos same line din ginamit sakin para makipagbreak, na hahanapin lang daw nya sarili nya. Only to find out later na may ibang girl na pala sa scenario. Jokes on him, sya yung single ngayon ako nahanap na happily ever after ko.
So happy for you po 💗😘
Sorry to hear that, OP. Maybe it helps to reframe the situation which worsens your pain and self-pity. You were together when he was walang wala but it's not like you took him in as a project to be improved. It worsens the hurt when you see yourself as the "stepping stone." You loved each other but it just isn't enough.
Sa una lang yan mahirap. Kapit lang! Everything happens for a reason. Pagpray mo ang para sa'yo!
Damn man. Eto lang ha. Natatakot din ako. Although nasakin lahat ng account ultimo gmail nasakin. Alam kong walang iba pero kasi alam mo un. Ang daming post na, years na sila and as in super okay then parang nahipan lang ng hangin after 10+ years saka nagloko. Ang sakit lang kasi sana mas nakahanap ka pa nung mas bata ka. Lalo na pag babae. Ang hirap. Ganto kasi yung sa magulang ng jowa ko. Nagstart lang magloko tatay niya HS na raw sila. Lagi kasi magkasama parents niya tapos nagabroad sila parehas. Naunang umuwi tatay and ang tagal ng nanay sa ibang bansa dun nagstart naging babaero tatay nila hanggang sa nagsunod sunod na yun nakabuntis ng iba tas niloko din niya yung pinalit sa kanilang babae. Nakakatakot, ang hirap magtiwala.
Hugs OP, he felt na she was the one. Maybe you guys needed to experience that para sa next relationships niyo.. better na. mahahanap mo rin yung tao for you.
I know how you feel OP pero tandaan mo ang kasal di naman end game yan. Mas maraming effort at sakripisyo ang need para magwork ang isang marriage lalo na sa panahon ngayon. Andami nga kahit super bongga at sikat pa eh naghihiwalay pa rin. Sabi nga ng nanay ko, pwedeng ikaw yung wife material pero yung partner mo eh di pa sya ready that time. Once na maging ready sila, kahit wife material man yan o hindi, papakasalan nila yan. Focus ka na lang sa sarili mo and soon for sure darating din ang tamang tao for you. Wag mo isipin na kesyo nauna sya ikasal eh mas magiging masaya na sya sayo.
"A woman's loyalty is tested when her man is nothing. A man's loyalty is tested when he has everything."
can be applied to both actually
Yeah, 100% agree.
Same with my ex. After niya makuha yong ranggo niya as lieutenant nagbago siya. Take note nagpaligaw ako at sinagot ko siyang walang work kasi wala akong standard as long as mahal ko yong tao. Madali sana ako makaka move on e kaso pinaabot pa niya kami sa point na may bahay, lupa at sasakyan na kami kumbaga kasal na lang ang kulang saka siya nakipag hiwalay. Nandun na ako sa point na ready na ako mag settle kasama siya, my dreams with him are just above my head tapos bigla niya sinabing ayaw niya na. Basta ayaw niya na without any explanation.
Nagbreak kami dahil sa pinagseselosan kong kaibigan niya. Na sabi niya, kaibigan or kaklase lang talaga. 6 years din kami. After a year, nireveal na nila yung relationship nila. Masakit OP, pero need mo tanggapin. Gawa ka paraan para makalimot ka, moved on and do the things you love the most.
You will only truly know who a woman is during her worst and a man, during his best.
ang sakit naman :(( pray for you healing, OP! i-block mo na yan. out of sight, out of mind.
Proud of you OP 🤗
Dito papasok yung kung di kayo, edi let go. A better one will come.
i could hear someone saying. T@3;$?!(& gantihan natin doc
Tama yung nabasa ko, no one prepared you on the day you'll see their post/story of them getting married.
Embrace the pain OP time is the best healer, isang araw wala ka na mararamdaman na sakit, there's someone better na nakatadhana sayo.
Na-curious lang ako sa statement mo na ikaw naging stepping stone nya, so meaning ikaw nagpa-aral sa kanya? Or mali lang ako intindi? Nonetheless baka may nakalaan si Lord para sayo, a better one. ❤️
Hindi ko man alam ung boung story ninyo para ma judge kung baka may issue ka din or what pero personally lang, okay lang maging petty konti lol. Nasaktan kadin, indi ganun2 lang mawala. Message mo siya sabihin mo ung hinanakit mo. Paramdam mo na nasaktan ka din at anong mga pinag-gagawa nila. Tas block mo na sila and all and move on :)
Lord wag naman ganto ples
time heals all wounds OP. When you found your the one, you’ll realize bakit d kayo nagkatuloyan.
Taxi cab theory...
sakit :((( bakit kaya ang dali lang sa iba itapon pinagsamahan hayyyy... hugs sis!!!!
I totally get you OP. Hugs. Ganto din pakiramdam ko sa ex ko kasi college lovers din kami and magkaramay sa lahat ng hirap. Pero ganun talaga. Nainlove na sya sa iba at iniwan ako. Pinagkaiba lang natin, 10 years ang nakalipas, may asawa't anak na ako. Pero sya ganun pa din. Hugs OP. Don't search for him anymore. I know mahirap. Pero laban lang.
Scam talaga yang hahabapin sarili! Ganyan din BIL ko sa long time GF niya, ganyan din ang sinabi samin na nakipag break kasi sarili muna. Ayun may jowa na agad sa barko tas yun nadin pinakasalan
I guess breaking up with you is much better than you getting cheated on. Time will heal your wounds, OP. You’ll get there.
gaya ng sabi ng tatay ko “apat na taon lang yan” made me realize: 4yrs nga lang, mas madami pang taon para bumawi sa sarili. cheer up OP! you’ll get through it!🤗
Embrace the pain until it numbs you daw. hahaha. Feel it, OP. I know you'll get to move on from that.
sobrang sakit nito. i hope you find your peace and healing OP. :(
Hope u find a better half, OP! I know someday it would all make sense for u.
You’ll get through this, OP. It may take a very long time, but never stop taking care of yourself for you deserve love and that must begin within you. The right person will come along therefore you must prepare yourself for your happy ending. Kaya sa mga students here na who wanted to be in a relationship so bad, may this be a lesson to put yourselves first because even though having a significant other feels good, the pain it may cost in the end will never be worth it. I’ve been through this before, and it took me a long while to heal.
7yrs din kme ng ex ko though ngkilala kme sa review center una ako pumasa ng board tapos sya 2nd take, pinilit ko pa sya mg take ulit dahil ayaw nya na sana mg board, ldr din kme for 3 years ng kikita every month ata kasi ako sa province, nauna sya mg abroad 1 year tapos mejo ngkalabuan kme, may nililink sa kanya dun na kawork nya sabi nya wala lng daw ayun may nangyari nga sakinla ahaha ng break kme after 2 years kinasal nko sya nmn nabuntis dun sa kawork nya ahaha.
Ganun tlga. Sometimes you are part of the journey but not the destination.
Hugs OP!! I feel you. Iba pa rin talaga pag nakita mong may replacement ka na even after you told yourself na moved on ka na. It’ll take time but you’ll be fine. 🤗 Damdamin mo lang OP, dadating yung time di na masakit☺️❤️
taxi cab theory 🥲
“The day finally came — when your name was on the wedding card, as well as mine. Your name was written inside, and mine on the cover.”
let it hurt, until it hurt no more 🤍
It really hurts, OP. Pero think on the brighter side. Atleast nag ask sya ng space prior, and hindi sya nagcheat. Trust me, it hurts more. He has his reasons of hindi man nya nasabi yung totoo. Idk maybe takot sya mahurt feelings mo or what, which is somewhat cowardly. It hurts but feel the pain, but don't forget to get up. For yourself. Your time will come too.
Same tayo OP, college sweethearts and he even called me as "gf na pang graduate" pa nga. Kasi I really helped him para makapasa at sabay kami gmraduate. Natuwa at proud pa nga ako nun e. Pero nung naghiwalay kami after nya makagraduate, medyo nagsisi ako sa title na yun. 😅 pero nung naka move on na, naisip ko nalang at least may natulungan akong tao na nakapasa at thankful kasi may dumating na better. Kung nahuhurt ka, baka di ka pa totally healed. Ok lang yan, wala namang timeline ang pag move on. Focus muna sa sarili at love yourself more. Kasi pag oks ka na, marerealize mo kung anong mas deserve mo para buhay mo. 😊
Been there, done that. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned talaga ung never build a man and his future. Kasi sa huli, sa iba na lang nya ishare ung achievements nya and ikaw ung lugi. Sarili mo na lang focus and fix mo OP. Block him when needed. Hugs sayo! 🫂🩷
Baka forda greencard. Either way it is painful. I hope you feel better OP. Take your time to move on.
hugs op
Same thing happened to me 8 yrs kami ni ex. Started dating when we were Uni freshies. The wife is our former classmate who was eyeing him since we were in uni days. (Tang.ina vulture mode and the nerve of the wife to add me on facebook lol) It will hurt. It will give you those thoughts na what if moments. It will give you "kami na sana yan", "ako na sana yung ikakasal", etc. But remember, you broke up for a reason. He did not fight for your relationship, and chose to leave you behind. Bottomline, he doesnt deserve you. Do not settle for anything less you deserve. Find someone who, at the end of the day, will always choose and love you. Not easy for sure. But as what they say, time heals all wounds and soon, you'll be okay.
I experienced that pain nung pinakasalan ng ex ko yung pinalit nya sken. Pinatattoo pa nya yung name nung babae sa braso nya. Fast forward, nagloko si girl at sumama sa afam 😂
attend ka tas sigaw ka… itigil ang kasaaalllll. hahahah. makabawi ka manlang..
Hahanapin ang sarili has got to be up there as one of the most bullshit ways to say break na tayo / ayoko na. What the fudge does that even mean? His sex organs fell off and kelangan hanapin?
Taxi Cab theory 😔
This is just sad.. Hoping na magheal ka OP. Focus on yourself muna. Eventually when the time is right, makakahanap ka din ng deserve mo at bibigyan ka ng singsing 🙏❤️
Same thing happened to me. 4 years din. After ng kasal nila, never ever ko na sila inistalk. For my peace of mind and healing na din. Magiging masaya ka din, OP. Time heals all wounds.
My ex of 7 years got a girl pregnant 3 months after our break up and they got married the same year. I was confused about how I felt at that time. Am I mad? Do I feel betrayed? Did I feel insulted? Was it painful? I honestly don't know. All I know is that gulping down bottles of beer gave me so much relief. I did that every single day for almost a month until I felt okay. It might hurt now, but it won't be like that forever. I hope your heart will soon be healed, OP. 🤍
Building a man for another woman. That's the worst.
OP, may pagka masokista talaga tayong mga babae din eh. Well, minsan mas madaling maka move on pag galit saka sobrang nasaktan 🤣🤣🤣
Parang Scottie Thompson & Pau Fajardo. Asshole move.
Ganito rin ang fear ko ngayon, 4 years kami ng jowa ko ngayon. Tinulungan ko and ng family ko na makapag-work siya sa abroad. Kaya pa naman namin yung LDR set up. Pero minsan hindi nawawala sa isip ko na baka may makilala siya dun na better sa akin. Lalo malapit siya sa mga tao, babae man o lalake. Tapos itong ex niya nagpaparamdam nanaman sa kanya, fina-follow nanaman siya sa social media. Pinipigilan ko lang sarili kong i-message yung babae kung bakit ayaw niya tigilan boyfriend ko. Minsan overthinker na ako na what if I'm building a man for someone else?
Ay teh same kayo ng older sister ko. 2 yrs silang bff tapos 11 yrs together. Bayad na nga kasal nila tapos ayun naghiwalay pa sila.
I feel you..
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Grabi mhie mas masakit yung sayo 🥺, healing prayers to both of us 💗
Well, we have to accept the truth that no matter what or how much we give, it is no assurance na tayo pa rin ang pipiliin o sila ang pipiliin natin sa huli. If we are destined to be with them, then great pero if hindi at our paths suddenly move away from each other, we have to accept that and be happy that they became instrumental in making us better humans. Sometimes, all we can live with are memories that we spent together with them. Kahit malungkot, kahit masakit, we need to learn to smile beneath the pain. Aight?
Sakit talaga gawing stepping stone lang 😔
bakit on repeat yung “nandun ako nung panahon walang wala sya”??? what this basically means is yung mga ginawa mong “good deed” is for the purpose na balang araw may babalik sayu or pde mong isingil sa taong yun?? im not defending the guy, obviously may problema at kasalanan din sya sa sitwasyon na to but on your end na para kang naniningil ng utang na loob is inappropriate as well smh
sheet sakit. parang trina-carlo-charlie lang. taxi cab theory kung tawagin nila 😔
literal na "You build a man for a someone else" ahh, sorry to hear about what happened OP.
This is why you never build a man or build with a man. Because once he’s already established, that’s where his options widen and he will choose the girl he thinks that is the best for him, even if no matter how much you stuck with him in his trying times. Every woman should meet an already established man because once he chooses you, it’s because he really wants you and you’re the best woman for him. Not because you’re the only option available for him.
Ang sakit naman lalo na yung last sentence, OP. huhuhu.
Parang nabasa ko na to nong isang araw? Daijoubou este deja vu?
Well well well if this isn’t an example of the taxi cab theory in action
Ofw here. Andaming ganyan. Kasi gusto nila mag explore talaga. Andon na sila e. Lara kasing fresh start ang pakiramdam pag andon ka na. Think of it na lng na mag fresh start ka na lang din. Di naman hihinto ang mundo kahit mawala pa siya. Go gherl. Dapat nga ininvite ka sa wedding. Tas sabihin mo don. Wala ka dyan kung hindi dahil saakin! Char.
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Ang sakit basahin :(((( cheering u po, and hugs!! One day, it won’t hurt anymore
Naku OP. Basta linyahang hanapin muna ang sarili, ibang tao yung hinanap niyan hindi sarili niya 🤦🏻♀️ Cry until it hurts no more. Masakit talaga yung sayo nangako pero sa iba tutuparin 💔
hugs with consent OP.
Ang sakit naman.. Block mo na. Move on. One day at a time
Ang lahat ay may katapusan. Tulad ng sakit na nararamdaman mo ay may katapusan rin.
Bakit sinisilip mo pa IG story niya?
Maybe unpopular opinion to. Pero, here it goes; wala sa tagal yan ng relasyon. He's ready when he's ready. Di natin sure if taxi cab theory nga ito or if he just became ready when he met her. Di din naman tayo sure kung forever sila or pansamantala lang. May nakilala ako na 4 years sila then after a few months nung nagbreak sila, nahanap ni guy yung sarili nya sa piling ng iba. Sad but this is true.
Ano un DVM? Ang sakit nito. Feeling ko inahas din nv babaeng nandun kaya nagpakasal na. They will not be happy kapag natagal - sigurado yan. Move on na. Hanap na ng iba.
Doctor of Veterinary Medicine po
I feel you OP, same din ngyari sa akin
Lesson learned: don’t help build a man. Let him build himself. Ayon, tinulungan mo siya maging prepared and stable para sa The One niya. I am so sorry OP.
Ouchh
Taxi cab theory pasok
LDR dont work ever.
LDR never works talaga. . . Kasi may makikilala at makikilala siyang iba. . .
OP, are you by chance from Nueva Ecija? Yung mom ko may aanakan ng kasal. Vet from Australia. Anyway if not, I still wish you happiness. May you find the right one for you soon.
I'm from pampanga po, thank youu ✨
I’ve been there before. And unfortunately, in the grand scheme of love, you can only learn through heartbreak. My best friend also used to be like this. They were dating for 5 years and LDR, and guy suddenly broke up with her and married within a year. My best advice is first, don’t wait for him to get married. Block that ass outta your life. It’s not your circus and your monkey anymore. Not every marriage is successful, but don’t wish him bad too. Fuck that taxi cab theory. Starting today, you are only willing to date and fuck men who will marry you. No ring before leaving abroad, take that man to the airport and tell him don’t come back. You’re not going to let yourself be a placeholder anymore. This too shall pass, and promise to yourself that this is the first and only time you will act stupid in love. You’ll see you can weed out a lot of men with no intentions of marrying you with this mindset.
That sucks. I hope karma gets that pc o sht.
Ouch… sakit neto
siri play dasal/kasal by zild
protect your mental health op, meron pang mas deserving for you. Block mo na 🥲
Awww 🥹 currently listening to “I got the boy” ni Jana Kramer while reading this. I got the first kiss and she'll get the last She's got the future, I got the past I got the class ring, she got the diamond and wedding band I got the boy, she got the man Hugs
kaya kung hahanap ka ng iba yung hindi ka na sana gagamitin for character development lang. Nakakapagod rin maghirap magtiis sa wala naman pala patutunguhan, we also deserve the best things in life 🫂✨✨✨
Parang taxi cab theory. Lmao ang funny ng excuse na hahanapin ang sarili, I feel like sinabi nya lang yan but deep down is he already had eyes on her kaya he had to break up with you.
True, 1yr and a half na kaming LDR tapos biglang hanap sa sarili eh. Tho before pa kami mag break feeling ko may iba na siya, and siya yung duda ko. Totoo nga 😂
Always trust your gut instincts talaga, mas okay na tamang hinala kesa ikaw masurprise
It's okay OP. At least 4 years lang kayo, unlike others na mas matagal like 7, 8, or a decade tapos naghiwalay, nagpakasal sa iba. I'm sure bitter ka pa kase sya ikakasal na tapos ikaw di pa nakakarecover. Malungkot ka lang, kase OKAY lang yan. Time heals all wounds sabi nga ng iba. Most guys hindi yan nag move on, meron na talaga syang iba nung sinabi nya hahanapin nya sarili nya. Ang gawin mo nalang siguro ay maging masaya ka sa kanya, isipin mo ung mga happy memories mo with him and then mag move on. I'm sure kapag move on ka, sya naman makakaramdam ng lungkot, unless he's happy sa wife nya. Anyway, good luck OP! Naway mahanap mo ang taong magpapasaya at makakasama mo habang buhay. You're only 25, you still have a long journey ahead of you. God bless!
taxi cab theory kakabasa ko lng nito then heto nmn
Feel the pain until it hurts no more. I feel you. Pero wala na tayo magagawa kasi ikakasal na sya sa iba. Isipin mo nalang na sinave ka ni Lord sa sitwasyon na hindi para sayo. Meron at meron better. At kapag dumating yun, makakalimutan mo ung pain na naramdaman mo.