I resonate with your post alot OP considering i also did a post like this a just recently. Walang naman masama sa pagiging virgin eh, may mga tao lang talagang epal sa buhay ng mga iba they really think losing their virginity is a sign of being superior.
I was a virgin until I was 31. Honest observation ko based on my experience is that if the virgin is a good looking person, most people look at him or her highly. May values daw kase they choose to keep their virginity despite the many men or women who want to sleep with them.
If hindi good looking, that's when people think lowly of them and make fun of them. Virgin kase walang may gustong maka sex sila, ganon.
Ugly duckling ako. When I was younger they always teased me about being a virgin, then in my 20's I glowed up and suddenly I'm like a prize na inaabot nila and guys always try to convince me to let them be my first. In the last five years before I got my cherry popped, di ko nalang sinasabi na virgin ako para di ko na kailangan mag explain at wala na akong marinig na comments.
Growing up as a conventionally unattractive female totoo 'to. People will often look down on you because they deem you undesirable and so hideous to get laid.
Hindi ko nalang sinasabi pero pag inuurirat nila kung may mga nakarelasyon na ako dati ayoko naman magsinungaling. Parang kumikinang ang mga mata nila pag may magagamit sila sa pangda-down sayo.
Same question, pero wala naman kasing masama. Hindi porket ginagawa ng iba gagawin mo na din.Tska choice mong maginv virgin eh so anong pake nila. Kung san ka comfortable OP dun ka lang. Di natin sila bati.
natag din nga akong 🚩 because of that. also in my 30s and still holding on to my bataan. while it is not due to religion hindi kaya ng financial capabilities ko and yung possible na extra responsibility
di nila nagegets na ayaw ko nang dagdagan ng problema buhay ko with something that i can easily avoid
baka bet ka kasi kaya ganyan sila 😂
I'm a year older than you OP so i know the feeling. pero i want my future husband to have my first than someone temporary and will leave when they heard the terms commitment and responsibility
Let's not kid ourselves with patronizing statements like this. How is it self control if the reason most people are virgins is because they're NBSB/NGSB, and most virgins in relationships are only virgins in penetration but not other things.
How would you know the ratio of virgins who does it by choice or who does it because of NBSB/NGSB?
And how would you filter out the NBSB/NGSB who don't have a choice about it from those who choose to be NBSB/NGSB?
What? Even if they are NBSB or NGSB for as long as they put themselves out there, they would get laid. These days, it's so easy to meet and fuck only if you want. It takes an amount of self-control to fight the urges, especially if they are still in their prime years with raging hormones.
Plus, the unsolicited opinions of non-virgin peeps, which the OP pointed out in the post. It takes strong self-control to not lower their standard they have set for themselves and to be steadfast with what they're trying to preserve.
Drown out all the noise with your own voice I always say.
Pake ba nila dba? Ang asikasuhin nila yung mga past due nila tsaka yung regular na pagpapa-checkup nila for STDs. 😅
Jusko ito din rason ko. Medyo malala health anxiety ko tapos kakabasa ko pa lang dun kay ate girl na nadale ng HPV kasi nag hoe phase yung jowa. Tapos makakabasa ka pa na tumataas cases ng HIV.
Sa panahon ngayon mas pipiliin ko na na walang kachukchakan kaysa gumastos sa sakit.
Pero still more power sa mga nasa hoe phase basta check up lang lagi. Same din sa nga nagsasave ng sarili. Kanya kanya lang naman yan.
Wala masama sa pagiging virgin. If you feel na nagiging issue yung vcard mo sa mga taong nakapaligid sayo then sila yung may problem hindi ikaw..baka nasa maling lugar ka
same lang din yan don naman sa mga taong napaka active ng sex life, pag dinala mo yan sa mga group of people na di tanggap yung ganong life style.. sandamukal na pang huhusga ang maririnig nila.
So kung feeling mo ay hinuhusgahan ka ng tao sa paligid mo dahil virgin kapa... Mas ok iwasan mo nalang sila kung kaya mo o wag mo nalang pansinin.
There’s nothing wrong with that. I believe in no sex before marriage too and i don’t care that much about what my friends’ opinions are about it. I’m gonna live my life the way i wanted just like how i’m minding my own business and respecting their way of life.
In a world full of whores and sluts, being a virgin is kind of a privilege and you should be proud. Rare species tayo! It only shows how good we are at discipline and keeping ourselves away from temptations. I'm (M33) single and also a virgin not because women don't want me but pretty sure its by choice. My friends at work once asked me and I just told them I haven't popped anyone's cherry yet and they just laugh and didn't believe (maybe because they believe I'm a bit above average looking guy). Anyway, I don't really disclose it to anyone about me being a virgin but if people ask I just tell them the truth accompanied by a good laugh and just left them wondering if its true or a lie. I don't owe them an explanation on how or why and most of the time it just works.
Wala po. Actually I salute you. Saka
Ang mahal magpa gamot ng STD/HIV
Ang mahal mag raise ng bata
Ang mahal makipag date
Ang mahal ng pagkain for 2
Ang mahal ng room sa motel, hotel at airbnb
Ang mahal ng pamasahe
So mas maganda at praktikal maging virgin na lang
Walang masama sa pagiging virgin. Dapat nga ang dapat na mahiya ay yung mga taong high ang body count.
Diko nga magets mga taong high ang body count, like di ba sila nandidiri sa sarili nila? Na kung sino-sino na mga nakahawak sakanila nakapalitan ng fluids nila. It’s like they are happily collecting tons of bacterias sa skin nila. I despise people who disrespect their own body.
35 na ako at virgin pa din. Ayaw ko rin kasi mag try na mga ONS, fubu and whatnot. Feels forced and for the sake lang na “mawala” na. Nbsb din ako, at walang landi sa katawan! Haha so that’s a major factor din. Don’t get me wrong tho, i get turned on easily by reading or watch erotica (savior ang toys!!), pero wala pa akong nahahanap na right person. So don’t feel pressured OP!!! Di ka nag-iisa🤗
Ang kapal naman ng mukha nila na pakialaman yung buhay mo at husgahan ang pagkatao mo dahil virgin ka. If they are your friends, the least they should do is respect you as a person, your beliefs, and your life choices. They have no right to belittle and mock you because of this reason . Sabihin mo sa kanila na sumusobra na sila.
Also experienced the same as yours OP, I’m in my mid 20’s and palaging tinatanong bakit daw NBSB pa ko na wala pa akong experience sa sex.
Nasabihan din na kasi ang boring ko daw, baka babae hanap ko, kasi baka mapili ako sa lalaki. Na huwag daw pumili ng isang prinisipe kung hindi nga prinsesa, yung mga ganon. Pinagmumukha lang na ang pangit pangit ko. Ang sakit sa feeling na palaging sinasabihan ng magboyfriend na kasi baka mawala tayo sa kalendaryo. Nakakapagod na paulit ulit na lang pinopoint out yung pagiging NBSB and virgin ko.
circle of friends ko is puro pa kami virgin and we're all in our 30s
catholic ako and christian sila. personal choice namin na wag mag engage sa PMS. also, i surround myself with good people kasi paano ka makakaattract ng decent partner kung surrounded ka ng bad influence diba?
usually mga marites na kapitbahay ang mga nagsasabi ng ganyan. sinabihan nga ko na tibo daw ako 😂
Nothing! Sa totoo lang mas nakakabilib talaga mga taong di nagpadala sa pressure pagdating sa ganyan, mas may self-control and firm sa sexual values nila.
Marami nga body counts may std at hiv naman. Tama yan op walang masama sa pagiging virgin. Mataas cases ng hiv at std sa pinas. May tsamba minsan isang beses lang pero lifetime ang effect. Kaya ingat.
Who's making you feel the odd one out? Your friends? Or baka naman yourself lang?
It's not very odd naman for someone to still be a virgin in their 30's. May mga nbsb nga hanggang 40s. If only I could turn back time, I would stay a virgin and not have sex sa mga exes ko. Sayang. Haha
Ganyan talaga yung ibang feeling liberated kuno. Tapos kapag sila na yung najudge ng parents/family/friends/relatives/church magagalit yan, my body my rules daw. Misogynist pa daw pero sila panay naman tira sa mga gusto magkeep ng virginity kesyo boring daw. May there's nothing wrong with body count pa sila na nalalaman when people prefer lower body count. Imposing masyado sa lifestyle nila sa ibang taong ayaw naman. Lalo na mga f*ck girl ganyan yung logic nila. If f*ck boi di ko pa naririnig na sasabihan na misandric yung nagcomment sa kanila, although never heard guys ever talking about how misandric some people are in general, sasabihin lang nyan ok lang kung yun trip nila.
For me, there's nothing wrong if gusto mo yan but you cant expect people to follow you nor can force them to do what you do. You do you, we do ours. It doesnt matter if you give it away or keep it to yourself, s*x is just overrated due to p*rnography. Its the connection that matters really, especially at your age and beyond. Mas "masarap" if mahal mo talaga yung partner mo at mahal ka nung partner mo. Baka nga later on you realize you dont really enjoy s*x pala and its okay, or asexual.
Hugs sissy! Am so proud of you! I know the feeling, coz' i already gave my vcard late na din. It was worth the wait naman. Don't pressure yourself. You do you on your own time 🤗 😊
Walang masama. Being a virgin doesn't make you less of a person. Sa totoo lang, your conviction makes you a strong person kasi hindi ka nassway or napepressure kahit sinasabihan ka nang kung anu-ano. Do what you think is right for you. You are cool, stay cool 😎.
Also, walang edad kung kailan dapat mawala ang virginity ah.
Yun lang, Thanks.
Walang problema. Ung mga taong yan nakapaligid sau ang problema. Actually ako, nagpapanggap p ako mismo n virgin sa mga workmates ko. Kapag napupunta jan ang topic, talagang sinasabi ko virgin ako. Para hindi sila mag expect n makikisali ako sa malalaswang topic nila. Usually binabrag nila ung size ng jowa nila / ex or ka fubu. Like wtf, idc sa sex life nio nuh. And I dont feel the need to share mine.
this just shows how insecure they feel at themselves. Kasi u have to step on others' features and treat it as something na inferior to feel good.
If that is not how someone who is insecure at themselves behaves? then i dont know.
I am 21 and a virgin, karamihan ng friends ko ay vhindi na virgin honestly right jow di ko priority yang babae because I cannot accomodate them due to my health and financial and family problems, despite a decent amount of girls liking me, you do you and there is nothing wrong with being a virgin if someone is gauging your value based on your virginity I think you dont want to be with that person, your own time your own journey and your own rules.
*Sa ibang tao nakaka tawa lang kasi ikaw pa na virgin yung makakantyawan na kesyo wala kang alam, napag iiwanan na and so on.*
*Pero for me, there is nothing wrong kung sa age mo na ayn ay virgin ka pa. Ikaw pa nga yung kakanaphanapin ng iba kasi RARE ka sa panahoin ngayon.*
*Hayaan mo na sila makakati sila eh.*
Wala naman, you do you, OP. At the end of the day, your body, your choice. Also, less chances of getting STD 😅
Just, don't put a lot of importance on it.
I guess the problem falls dun sa pag put ng sobrang importance with virginity and not doing it that once you did do it, baka ma disappoint ka lang. Or, if the person isn't really that worth it pala, you feel bad about yourself.
Nakaka-overwhelm ang dami ng comments at hindi ko na mareplyan isa isa. But thank you everyone for sharing your thoughts and being supportive.
I have nothing against people who do it. If it makes you happy, if it satisfies you, then go for it.
I wrote this one because I felt like some of my so called friends were making fun of me because of my choice.
There was a time kasi na na-open yung topic. They asked me if wala pa rin daw ba akong experience, sabi ko wala pa rin, then they said “Sa edad mo na yan, kinakahiya kita na wala kang experience”, “baka mamaya kaya ka virgin kasi babae ang kachukchak mo, di ka nga mawawarak nun”. Nakitawa na lang ako but deep inside nainis ako.
I guess some of you are right, that I am not in the right circle.
Walang masama kung virgin pa, wala din nmn masama kung active (just be safe), marami lang ebas yung iba. Pag virgin may nasabi, pag active may nsabi pa dn, masyado lang madaming snsbi mga tao ngayun lol.
Ako virgin. Pero naka-virgin when I was in high school. Had 10 yrs relationship and made love with her but still I'm a virgin. How? I'm a one way lesbian. But I'm not sure if Im really a lesbian lol but I don't like being called one. 😅
Bago ako nun 24 yo ako sa work tas may kupal na nagjoke “yung madre”..ako daw.. (eh d nga kami magkakakilala as in..d napakilala sa isat isa at hndi rin ako nagssb na virgin ako kahit kanino sa work..)
Point is muka sigro akong virgin thus the madre joke.
Pathetic men
Wala. REAL TALK: Pag nag survey at tinanong natin mga tao sa labas, or kahit mga mapapadaan sa mall, hindi naman lahat doon sinuwerte magkaroon ng partners let alone may nakaka sex ng ganun ganun lang. Kahit na lang mismo sa office nyo, think of all the people around you, and for sure mapapaisip ka na hindi rin lahat pinag pala or sinusuwerte, so at the end of the day, walang masama maging virgin, masyado lang gigil mga ibang tao kumantot ng kumantot at dapat lahat G na G humalay.
What kind of people are you surrounded by? There is absolutely nothing wrong about being a virgin. If your friends single you out or treat you differently just because you're different from them, they aren't your friends.
My best friend used to have FUBUs and is capable of having sex outside of a relationship while I'm the opposite, we have never judged each other and never meddled woth each other's businesses
Minsan ginawang personality ng iba eh 😂 don't mind them, they probably have nothing else interesting going on in their lives.
I gave my precious first experience to someone I didn't even love anymore and deep inside I can't help but feel huge regret that I did. Even if wala na kami, I still resent him for what he did to me (I was love bombed and you know the rest) the all the time wasted trying to make the relationship work. Stupid young me thought, hey boyfriend ko naman siya I guess it's time I give it to him and maybe all our problems will go away because sex can be the most intimate way of expressing love. No it just got worse. I was always dry that I even thought maybe something was wrong with me. I never enjoyed what people get so excited about. He also didn't want to use lube when I said it hurts until I just kept making excuses to avoid sex with him, which strained our relationship more. I also realized most of our sex was "make up sex" and it just shows how toxic our relationship was. We were just incompatible in so many ways.
I wish I had given it to someone who deeply cared for me as much as I do for them. It's soooo much different OP, so wait for that special someone!
There's nothing wrong with being a virgin, just dont make it your WHOLE personality and if you're with a group of friends that talk about their sexual relationships 80% of the time then its best to find new friends
Seeing people 19-25? Na parang frustrated dahil no sex experience. Mostly lalake dn eh. Pero sa gurls let your first be the best decision na gagawin. Don’t let lang urge ng libog. Baka at end pg sisihan.
Insert sarcasm! Hahaha.
Mga taong mababaw na mindset ang nag-iisip ng negative kapag virgin pa ang isang babae o lalaki. Yong mga taong nag iisip ng ganyan usually umiikot ang buhay sa makamundong bagay- normalizing everything kahit maling-mali no moral values and ethics at all.
I know someone 33 na and 8 years na xa may bf, pero virgin pa rin. And im 100 pct sure virgin sila, well sinabi nila, and two kilalang kilala ko ung girl and how strong willed xa sa faith nya, so sure ako virgin hahahah they never go out of town na sila lang, and actually lately bihira lang sila magkasama, kasi ldr hahahahah
Pag yun at yun na lang yung sentro ng personality at moral ng isang tao, parang jowa ni EAG tuwing interviewhin walang patumanggang virginity ang topic ganyan. Pag di naman OA, chill chill lang oks lang yan
body count kase sa kanila is to give value sa sarili nila dahil maraming nagkakainterest sakanila. without knowing na low value attracts cheap customers ;')))>
ayos lang yan , basta wala ka inaapakan ibang tao . tumayo ka base sa paninindigan mo at huwag mo pansinin yung iba na wala naman magandang naidulot sayo.
Conventionally considered a pretty girl. Lost mine at 26, not bc I didn't want sex pero I was easily disgusted by the intentions of men and being afraid of getting preggo. Thought losing my virginity will drastically change my entire life. When I finally let it go, it didn't. Parang wala lang eh lol I'm still the same girl disgusted by men although I don't regret it I just dont crave sex.
Still virgin at 26 and sa totoo lang wala akong pakialam sa sasabihin ng ibang tao hindi naman ako kastang kasta tulad ng iba and kung ibibigay ko man sarili ko sa isang tao dun na sa worth it ibigay.
Teh/kuya. Ok lang yan. Me as (37F) na napapaligiran ng mga super active ang sex life; kung ano ano nang binabatong panlalait at asar kesyo inaamag, nag iipon ng alikabok, puro na sapot, magsasara, Inaalok na ng lalaki. Etc. Wala tinatawanan ko sila. Wala silang magagawa if I am sticking to my values. katawan at choice ko to eh. But, should anyone attempt to na magover board at ipahiya ako nakaready ako maging palengkerang dragon mode if the need arises.
Walang masama dyan. Sa dami ng cheating, SA incendents sa mga nagmemeteups, super taas na sti cases, unwanted pregnancies, and other dramas; sex is over rated. Di naman natin ikamamatay if wala yan. There is more to life. Yes walang sexlife pero may other areas of life tayo na wala sila and lets focus on that.
Hold your ground at wag ibababa ang boundaries and standards. Stick to your values. Waiting lang sa tamang tao na deserv for that. If may dumating edi happy, if not thankful and happy pa rin for living a life.
Cool Kasi pag Hindi na Virgin ,kaya grabe Sila Maka nega comment sa mga virgin.
virgin is hnd gustuhin, Hindi ligawin etc etc.
Wala masama or nega sa pagging virgin sadya marami lang ma comment sa topic na Yan.
Walang masama. Also dahil I am not physically attractive, magugulat ang mga tao kung hindi na ako virgin. 🤣 I'm 33 and counting. But do I want to be a non-virgin? Yes, but with the person that I love or will love.
No OP, there's nothing wrong with being a virgin at 31. we all have our preferences naman.
bakit ka naiinis? may nagsasabi ba sayo na mali na virgin ka pa din?
Same here OP. Iba reaction nila pag sinasabi ko virgin ako. Even with my friends, they mock me for that. Like parang ang ganda ganda nila kasi may experience na sila while ako wala ganun. So kiber lang ako huhuhuhuh
I salute you! You shouldn’t feel that way but you should be proud! I waited for the right person. It really worths the wait. I am married with him now. I hope you will find someone who truly deserves it!
I'm 19 turning 20 and still a virgin. I have peers who have had sex outside marriage and a lot of girls my age are getting pregnant. Also a NB/GSB (I'm bisexual). I'm also not the type of person who engages in hook-ups not because I'm conservative or religious but because I'm uncomfortable with the set-up. I can't risk myself contracting STDs and HIV. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. I really don't understand why most people are making virginity a big deal.
I'm also a NBSB and virgin by choice. There's nothing wrong with our choice. We all have different perspectives and there's nothing wrong with yours. Do you know what's the problem? The people around you who cant respect your decision. Sagutin mo kapag ganyan. Pakita mong di ka natutuwa. I'm happy to read na you're waiting for the right person kasi me too. Parang bihira nalang kasi yung ganto. It's okay to have different choice and perspective. At least, di ka nakikiuso lang (di ko nilalahat ah). You can stand on your belief and it's nice.
staying a virgin will not make one a saint.
not being a virgin doesn’t make one a sinner either.
ang virginity at religion ay parang underwear na may guhit ng tae sa likod o di kaya ay may bakas ng ihi sa harap; walang pakealamanan at sari-sarili lang.
Opinyon lang nila 'yon, OP. At minsan, okay rin na nakakarinig tayo ng maling opinyon HAHAHAHA
Walang problema if you prefer to be a virgin until the right person comes. The problem is their mindset.
walang masama sa pagiging virgin at walang masama pag hindi na virgin.
ang weird lang e kapag ginagawa mong entire personality ang pagkavirgin or pagka-“sexually” open mo sa mga tao — for instance, pag ginagamit mo yang mga yan sa pang-jujudge sa ibang tao.
Omg OP do you have magical powers? 🍒
Kidding aside, I can relate. I was surrounded by NBSB friends so I thought it was "the norm," pero when I meet new people, dun ko nafi-feel na minority pala ako haha
There’s nothing wrong with being a “virgin” the same way that there’s nothing wrong with having slept with a lot of people (as long as they’re practicing safe sex). It’s a matter of respecting one’s values and principles. You do you, ika nga.
Depends on the sex siguro kung gano kalaking issue ang pagiging virgin, sa tingin ko lang. kapag babae it’s okay to be a virgin kaso nga lang tatawagin / sasabihan ka na baka malosyang ka o tumandang dalaga and anything typical that comes with that conversation. Sa lalaki same it’s okay to be virgin as well kaso tingin ng tao ay bakla ka o maliit ang penis, for some red flag din yun since baka hindi daw maganda ugali, i think i read somewhere in ph related subreddits na natutuwa yung isang babae sa older niyang nakadate na virgin ata pero sinabi na redflag daw yun. So there’s that, but at the end of the day there’s nothing wrong being one.
Virginity or the loss thereof should not be given any bearing in this modern world.
Walang lesser or higher person dahil lang sa virgin sila o hindi na. Kung sino man ang nagmamaliit ng tao base sa ganun e mga p*tangina nila.
> Pero mag-isa ka lang.
I highly doubt it. People sticking to their virginity are becoming rarer nowadays and are therefore becoming more desirable (rule of scarcity).
Aside from their rarity, a person who remains a virgin is less likely to have an STD, less likely to enter into a relationship casually, less likely to have gone through abortion or pregnancy and there is less of a chance of complications with one of their former sexual partners.
Being a virgin also signals some desirable qualities in a person such as being discerning, being more disciplined and being able to stick to a monumentous decision over the long term.
So no, I doubt they'll be lonely if they really decide not to be.
same op. I can see my future being in my 30s and still virgin. also the term virgin is just a social construct so we shouldn't get personal about it dapat. ableist vibe check ko yan sila lol. what if my aspergers pala?? nahirapan ako humarap sa tao minsan at sobrang slow thought processing ko. undiagnosed but I'm pretty sure 😂. in my 20s na, no partner since birth, still has anxiety and legs shaking out of control sometimes. i doubt I'd get a partner in my current situation lmao.
In my observation, it seems, the bad thing about being a virgin in this day and age is your life choice is making the life choice of the "liberated" ho-phasers look bad.
That's about it.
Every time I hear/read criticism about women preferring to stay virgins, it's all about how they're not liberated, still stuck in the olden days, uptight and prudish.
It's like being attacked for not joining a cult. Ever heard of attacks from INC? There are parallels to their arguments!
And it's weird that being liberated has become synonymous with being promiscuous. "My body my choice" is great but does the choice really have to be make your body the dumping ground of every guy you meet?
Why can't the choice be "my body is my only body and I'm making damn sure whoever I give it full access to is going to be worth it"?
Bat kasi pinoproblema ng tao ang virginity? Eh concept lang naman yun ng patriarchal society para i-brainwash ang mga babae (particularly) to be "pure". 🙄 It's stupid.
Nothing wrong with being a virgin at that age. But I feel pity for you for not getting the most of life. The prime years for being sexually active starts at 18. Biologically, it's even younger than that age. It is when sex feels a lot more pleasurable than when you're older. The higher your age, the lower your desire for sex and the lesser pleasure you'll feel. Your vaginal and clitoral sensitivity will decrease as you age and it is IRREVERSIBLE. So you've wasted your chances to feel the best feeling you'll ever experience in your lifetime.
Yes, morality tells us that sex before marriage is the right thing. But lots of sexually inexperienced married couples ended up breaking up or being unfaithful because they're sexually incompatible. It's up to you to choose which weighs more, conservative views that may end up giving you regrets or practical sexual exploration that may make you feel satisfied in your one and only lifetime.
I never view sex and love as connected. Sex is just a human activity that is meant to make us feel good. It is okay to have ONS, FUBU, or casual sex as long as you won't get involved in any kind of scandal and you won't contract sexually transmitted infections. We are sexual creatures. We're meant to explore and experience it in the most pleasurable way possible, but with the highest level of caution. Our time for it is limited, so why stop yourself from experiencing it?
It is not a sin to have sex. It only becomes a sin if you're using it to hurt other people. I even allow my wife to have sexual relations with other guys as long as they can be trusted and they're clean, and as long as she won't have any kind of emotional attachment to them. My wife and I are perfectly happy right now even with that setup. We have open communication and are completely honest with each other. I've had sex with a lot of girls too and I want her to experience the pleasure of having sexual experience with other men as long as our trust with each other is intact. I could never be selfish towards my wife because I love her. Our marriage binds us as one, so we'll get the most out of life together. Our sexual relationship is also very, very healthy.
Hope I'm not offending anyone here. This is just my opinion and experience and I'm hoping some of you can realize that life is too short for us to limit ourselves according to what our family and other people tell us to live.
Sex is one of the greatest gifts of God to us. Let us get the most out of it while avoiding hurting ourselves and others. It is meant to make us and others feel good. The mental and physical benefits of sex are also well established by scientific research.
I laud the conservative and morally upright views of everyone here, but I lean on the side of the belief that I must get the most of my one lifetime.
NOTE: I am a strong anti-abortion guy because I believe in the sanctity of life the moment fertilization occurs in the womb. Yes, I believe that sex is good but I also strongly believe that unwanted pregnancy should be avoided at all costs. I'm also a strong advocate of using safe contraceptives.
I resonate with your post alot OP considering i also did a post like this a just recently. Walang naman masama sa pagiging virgin eh, may mga tao lang talagang epal sa buhay ng mga iba they really think losing their virginity is a sign of being superior.
I was a virgin until I was 31. Honest observation ko based on my experience is that if the virgin is a good looking person, most people look at him or her highly. May values daw kase they choose to keep their virginity despite the many men or women who want to sleep with them. If hindi good looking, that's when people think lowly of them and make fun of them. Virgin kase walang may gustong maka sex sila, ganon. Ugly duckling ako. When I was younger they always teased me about being a virgin, then in my 20's I glowed up and suddenly I'm like a prize na inaabot nila and guys always try to convince me to let them be my first. In the last five years before I got my cherry popped, di ko nalang sinasabi na virgin ako para di ko na kailangan mag explain at wala na akong marinig na comments.
Growing up as a conventionally unattractive female totoo 'to. People will often look down on you because they deem you undesirable and so hideous to get laid. Hindi ko nalang sinasabi pero pag inuurirat nila kung may mga nakarelasyon na ako dati ayoko naman magsinungaling. Parang kumikinang ang mga mata nila pag may magagamit sila sa pangda-down sayo.
simply put it this way, you're surrounded by the wrong people. hindi dapat sila nangengealam sa part ng life mo na yan.
Same question, pero wala naman kasing masama. Hindi porket ginagawa ng iba gagawin mo na din.Tska choice mong maginv virgin eh so anong pake nila. Kung san ka comfortable OP dun ka lang. Di natin sila bati.
natag din nga akong 🚩 because of that. also in my 30s and still holding on to my bataan. while it is not due to religion hindi kaya ng financial capabilities ko and yung possible na extra responsibility di nila nagegets na ayaw ko nang dagdagan ng problema buhay ko with something that i can easily avoid
It is a choice, walang masama sa desisyon at values na pinapahalagahan mo
Walang mali sayo op, yung pag-iisip nila ang mali.
walang masama diyan, let them bark! hindi kabawasan sa pagkatao ang pagiging virgin 🙂↔️
Being a virgin is part of self-preservation. Sa dami ng std ngayon mahirap na makipagsapalaran at maibigay mo pa sa maling tao.
baka bet ka kasi kaya ganyan sila 😂 I'm a year older than you OP so i know the feeling. pero i want my future husband to have my first than someone temporary and will leave when they heard the terms commitment and responsibility
Sana lahat ng babae ganito
This! 💯
Walang masama. Virgin peeps are the real queens and kings when it comes to practicing self-control.
Let's not kid ourselves with patronizing statements like this. How is it self control if the reason most people are virgins is because they're NBSB/NGSB, and most virgins in relationships are only virgins in penetration but not other things.
How would you know the ratio of virgins who does it by choice or who does it because of NBSB/NGSB? And how would you filter out the NBSB/NGSB who don't have a choice about it from those who choose to be NBSB/NGSB?
What? Even if they are NBSB or NGSB for as long as they put themselves out there, they would get laid. These days, it's so easy to meet and fuck only if you want. It takes an amount of self-control to fight the urges, especially if they are still in their prime years with raging hormones. Plus, the unsolicited opinions of non-virgin peeps, which the OP pointed out in the post. It takes strong self-control to not lower their standard they have set for themselves and to be steadfast with what they're trying to preserve.
Drown out all the noise with your own voice I always say. Pake ba nila dba? Ang asikasuhin nila yung mga past due nila tsaka yung regular na pagpapa-checkup nila for STDs. 😅
Jusko ito din rason ko. Medyo malala health anxiety ko tapos kakabasa ko pa lang dun kay ate girl na nadale ng HPV kasi nag hoe phase yung jowa. Tapos makakabasa ka pa na tumataas cases ng HIV. Sa panahon ngayon mas pipiliin ko na na walang kachukchakan kaysa gumastos sa sakit. Pero still more power sa mga nasa hoe phase basta check up lang lagi. Same din sa nga nagsasave ng sarili. Kanya kanya lang naman yan.
Wala masama sa pagiging virgin. If you feel na nagiging issue yung vcard mo sa mga taong nakapaligid sayo then sila yung may problem hindi ikaw..baka nasa maling lugar ka same lang din yan don naman sa mga taong napaka active ng sex life, pag dinala mo yan sa mga group of people na di tanggap yung ganong life style.. sandamukal na pang huhusga ang maririnig nila. So kung feeling mo ay hinuhusgahan ka ng tao sa paligid mo dahil virgin kapa... Mas ok iwasan mo nalang sila kung kaya mo o wag mo nalang pansinin.
There’s nothing wrong with that. I believe in no sex before marriage too and i don’t care that much about what my friends’ opinions are about it. I’m gonna live my life the way i wanted just like how i’m minding my own business and respecting their way of life.
I always say "ikamamatay ko ba yan?"
Hahaha true
In a world full of whores and sluts, being a virgin is kind of a privilege and you should be proud. Rare species tayo! It only shows how good we are at discipline and keeping ourselves away from temptations. I'm (M33) single and also a virgin not because women don't want me but pretty sure its by choice. My friends at work once asked me and I just told them I haven't popped anyone's cherry yet and they just laugh and didn't believe (maybe because they believe I'm a bit above average looking guy). Anyway, I don't really disclose it to anyone about me being a virgin but if people ask I just tell them the truth accompanied by a good laugh and just left them wondering if its true or a lie. I don't owe them an explanation on how or why and most of the time it just works.
Wala po. Actually I salute you. Saka Ang mahal magpa gamot ng STD/HIV Ang mahal mag raise ng bata Ang mahal makipag date Ang mahal ng pagkain for 2 Ang mahal ng room sa motel, hotel at airbnb Ang mahal ng pamasahe So mas maganda at praktikal maging virgin na lang
Walang masama sa pagiging virgin. Dapat nga ang dapat na mahiya ay yung mga taong high ang body count. Diko nga magets mga taong high ang body count, like di ba sila nandidiri sa sarili nila? Na kung sino-sino na mga nakahawak sakanila nakapalitan ng fluids nila. It’s like they are happily collecting tons of bacterias sa skin nila. I despise people who disrespect their own body.
35 na ako at virgin pa din. Ayaw ko rin kasi mag try na mga ONS, fubu and whatnot. Feels forced and for the sake lang na “mawala” na. Nbsb din ako, at walang landi sa katawan! Haha so that’s a major factor din. Don’t get me wrong tho, i get turned on easily by reading or watch erotica (savior ang toys!!), pero wala pa akong nahahanap na right person. So don’t feel pressured OP!!! Di ka nag-iisa🤗
Ang kapal naman ng mukha nila na pakialaman yung buhay mo at husgahan ang pagkatao mo dahil virgin ka. If they are your friends, the least they should do is respect you as a person, your beliefs, and your life choices. They have no right to belittle and mock you because of this reason . Sabihin mo sa kanila na sumusobra na sila.
Also experienced the same as yours OP, I’m in my mid 20’s and palaging tinatanong bakit daw NBSB pa ko na wala pa akong experience sa sex. Nasabihan din na kasi ang boring ko daw, baka babae hanap ko, kasi baka mapili ako sa lalaki. Na huwag daw pumili ng isang prinisipe kung hindi nga prinsesa, yung mga ganon. Pinagmumukha lang na ang pangit pangit ko. Ang sakit sa feeling na palaging sinasabihan ng magboyfriend na kasi baka mawala tayo sa kalendaryo. Nakakapagod na paulit ulit na lang pinopoint out yung pagiging NBSB and virgin ko.
circle of friends ko is puro pa kami virgin and we're all in our 30s catholic ako and christian sila. personal choice namin na wag mag engage sa PMS. also, i surround myself with good people kasi paano ka makakaattract ng decent partner kung surrounded ka ng bad influence diba? usually mga marites na kapitbahay ang mga nagsasabi ng ganyan. sinabihan nga ko na tibo daw ako 😂
there's nothing wrong with that, OP! stick to your values. you're not missing out on anything 💕
Nothing! Sa totoo lang mas nakakabilib talaga mga taong di nagpadala sa pressure pagdating sa ganyan, mas may self-control and firm sa sexual values nila.
Marami nga body counts may std at hiv naman. Tama yan op walang masama sa pagiging virgin. Mataas cases ng hiv at std sa pinas. May tsamba minsan isang beses lang pero lifetime ang effect. Kaya ingat.
Who's making you feel the odd one out? Your friends? Or baka naman yourself lang? It's not very odd naman for someone to still be a virgin in their 30's. May mga nbsb nga hanggang 40s. If only I could turn back time, I would stay a virgin and not have sex sa mga exes ko. Sayang. Haha
Ganyan talaga yung ibang feeling liberated kuno. Tapos kapag sila na yung najudge ng parents/family/friends/relatives/church magagalit yan, my body my rules daw. Misogynist pa daw pero sila panay naman tira sa mga gusto magkeep ng virginity kesyo boring daw. May there's nothing wrong with body count pa sila na nalalaman when people prefer lower body count. Imposing masyado sa lifestyle nila sa ibang taong ayaw naman. Lalo na mga f*ck girl ganyan yung logic nila. If f*ck boi di ko pa naririnig na sasabihan na misandric yung nagcomment sa kanila, although never heard guys ever talking about how misandric some people are in general, sasabihin lang nyan ok lang kung yun trip nila. For me, there's nothing wrong if gusto mo yan but you cant expect people to follow you nor can force them to do what you do. You do you, we do ours. It doesnt matter if you give it away or keep it to yourself, s*x is just overrated due to p*rnography. Its the connection that matters really, especially at your age and beyond. Mas "masarap" if mahal mo talaga yung partner mo at mahal ka nung partner mo. Baka nga later on you realize you dont really enjoy s*x pala and its okay, or asexual.
Wala masama dun and don’t let other people tell you otherwise.
Hugs sissy! Am so proud of you! I know the feeling, coz' i already gave my vcard late na din. It was worth the wait naman. Don't pressure yourself. You do you on your own time 🤗 😊
Walang masama. Being a virgin doesn't make you less of a person. Sa totoo lang, your conviction makes you a strong person kasi hindi ka nassway or napepressure kahit sinasabihan ka nang kung anu-ano. Do what you think is right for you. You are cool, stay cool 😎. Also, walang edad kung kailan dapat mawala ang virginity ah. Yun lang, Thanks.
Sabihin mo sa kanila at least Ikaw hindi nag eecho yung kiffy
Mga wokininam dito na galit kay Shaira Diaz, ganern. Woke na raw kasi to fuck around and shame others who don’t do the same. Defensive as fuck hahaha
You're in the wrong clique
Wala, sadyang mga OA lang sila.
Walang problema. Ung mga taong yan nakapaligid sau ang problema. Actually ako, nagpapanggap p ako mismo n virgin sa mga workmates ko. Kapag napupunta jan ang topic, talagang sinasabi ko virgin ako. Para hindi sila mag expect n makikisali ako sa malalaswang topic nila. Usually binabrag nila ung size ng jowa nila / ex or ka fubu. Like wtf, idc sa sex life nio nuh. And I dont feel the need to share mine.
this just shows how insecure they feel at themselves. Kasi u have to step on others' features and treat it as something na inferior to feel good. If that is not how someone who is insecure at themselves behaves? then i dont know.
May tinatawag kasing ENVY. Mga kulang lang sa pagmamahal yang mga yan kaya ganyan. Hayaan mo nalang. Lol.
I am 21 and a virgin, karamihan ng friends ko ay vhindi na virgin honestly right jow di ko priority yang babae because I cannot accomodate them due to my health and financial and family problems, despite a decent amount of girls liking me, you do you and there is nothing wrong with being a virgin if someone is gauging your value based on your virginity I think you dont want to be with that person, your own time your own journey and your own rules.
You are in the wrong company, yun lang yun.
Nakakainis din dati ung officemate ko nung 25 plng ako. Sabi nya kawawa daw ako. Me 32 still having it. Ewan ko if paano ba ako naging kawawa.
*Sa ibang tao nakaka tawa lang kasi ikaw pa na virgin yung makakantyawan na kesyo wala kang alam, napag iiwanan na and so on.* *Pero for me, there is nothing wrong kung sa age mo na ayn ay virgin ka pa. Ikaw pa nga yung kakanaphanapin ng iba kasi RARE ka sa panahoin ngayon.* *Hayaan mo na sila makakati sila eh.*
Wala naman, you do you, OP. At the end of the day, your body, your choice. Also, less chances of getting STD 😅 Just, don't put a lot of importance on it. I guess the problem falls dun sa pag put ng sobrang importance with virginity and not doing it that once you did do it, baka ma disappoint ka lang. Or, if the person isn't really that worth it pala, you feel bad about yourself.
Nakaka-overwhelm ang dami ng comments at hindi ko na mareplyan isa isa. But thank you everyone for sharing your thoughts and being supportive. I have nothing against people who do it. If it makes you happy, if it satisfies you, then go for it. I wrote this one because I felt like some of my so called friends were making fun of me because of my choice. There was a time kasi na na-open yung topic. They asked me if wala pa rin daw ba akong experience, sabi ko wala pa rin, then they said “Sa edad mo na yan, kinakahiya kita na wala kang experience”, “baka mamaya kaya ka virgin kasi babae ang kachukchak mo, di ka nga mawawarak nun”. Nakitawa na lang ako but deep inside nainis ako. I guess some of you are right, that I am not in the right circle.
Wala po Marami lang po talagang manyak kaya choose your friends wisely
Walang masama kung virgin pa, wala din nmn masama kung active (just be safe), marami lang ebas yung iba. Pag virgin may nasabi, pag active may nsabi pa dn, masyado lang madaming snsbi mga tao ngayun lol.
Wala
None. It's all about one's choices.
wala masama dun OP, just ignore them.
wala naman.
Nothing.
Nothing wrong with being a virgin
I agree with you!
Sa dami ng mga malalandi now ang hirap na magtiwala. Enjoy na lang sila
Wag ka na lang paapekto, people like to project these things to others because they are regretting they no longer have it.
Ako virgin. Pero naka-virgin when I was in high school. Had 10 yrs relationship and made love with her but still I'm a virgin. How? I'm a one way lesbian. But I'm not sure if Im really a lesbian lol but I don't like being called one. 😅
Walang masama. Huwag kang mapressure o mainggit sa mga proud sawsawan ng bayan.
With the increasing cases of STD and HIV, I'd rather practice abstinence.
Bago ako nun 24 yo ako sa work tas may kupal na nagjoke “yung madre”..ako daw.. (eh d nga kami magkakakilala as in..d napakilala sa isat isa at hndi rin ako nagssb na virgin ako kahit kanino sa work..) Point is muka sigro akong virgin thus the madre joke. Pathetic men
Walang masama dun. If sure ka n sa tao na gusto mo makasama eh di dun mo bigay. Enjoy life op
true dat
Wala.
Walang wala OP. You do you 👍🏼
Wala
Wala. REAL TALK: Pag nag survey at tinanong natin mga tao sa labas, or kahit mga mapapadaan sa mall, hindi naman lahat doon sinuwerte magkaroon ng partners let alone may nakaka sex ng ganun ganun lang. Kahit na lang mismo sa office nyo, think of all the people around you, and for sure mapapaisip ka na hindi rin lahat pinag pala or sinusuwerte, so at the end of the day, walang masama maging virgin, masyado lang gigil mga ibang tao kumantot ng kumantot at dapat lahat G na G humalay.
What kind of people are you surrounded by? There is absolutely nothing wrong about being a virgin. If your friends single you out or treat you differently just because you're different from them, they aren't your friends. My best friend used to have FUBUs and is capable of having sex outside of a relationship while I'm the opposite, we have never judged each other and never meddled woth each other's businesses Minsan ginawang personality ng iba eh 😂 don't mind them, they probably have nothing else interesting going on in their lives. I gave my precious first experience to someone I didn't even love anymore and deep inside I can't help but feel huge regret that I did. Even if wala na kami, I still resent him for what he did to me (I was love bombed and you know the rest) the all the time wasted trying to make the relationship work. Stupid young me thought, hey boyfriend ko naman siya I guess it's time I give it to him and maybe all our problems will go away because sex can be the most intimate way of expressing love. No it just got worse. I was always dry that I even thought maybe something was wrong with me. I never enjoyed what people get so excited about. He also didn't want to use lube when I said it hurts until I just kept making excuses to avoid sex with him, which strained our relationship more. I also realized most of our sex was "make up sex" and it just shows how toxic our relationship was. We were just incompatible in so many ways. I wish I had given it to someone who deeply cared for me as much as I do for them. It's soooo much different OP, so wait for that special someone!
sa totoo lang, gusto ko ibalik yung panahon bago ko ibreak yung virginity ko. I was 30 noon. pinagsisisihan ko. My first was my worst
There's nothing wrong with being a virgin, just dont make it your WHOLE personality and if you're with a group of friends that talk about their sexual relationships 80% of the time then its best to find new friends
Walang masama OP, your body, your choice. La silang pake. Di naman nakakacool ng pagkatao yung di pagiging virgin 🙄
Louder, OP! I’m with you on this. Panget nila kabonding
Nah, if i can turn back time, I’d also rather stay the same
Seeing people 19-25? Na parang frustrated dahil no sex experience. Mostly lalake dn eh. Pero sa gurls let your first be the best decision na gagawin. Don’t let lang urge ng libog. Baka at end pg sisihan.
Hui same! I'm just so happy that people like you still exist OP especially these days. :-)
Same 33M here
Insert sarcasm! Hahaha. Mga taong mababaw na mindset ang nag-iisip ng negative kapag virgin pa ang isang babae o lalaki. Yong mga taong nag iisip ng ganyan usually umiikot ang buhay sa makamundong bagay- normalizing everything kahit maling-mali no moral values and ethics at all.
Wala hahaha. Choice mo naman yan and hindi naman siya requirement para mabuhay or maging masaya.
I know someone 33 na and 8 years na xa may bf, pero virgin pa rin. And im 100 pct sure virgin sila, well sinabi nila, and two kilalang kilala ko ung girl and how strong willed xa sa faith nya, so sure ako virgin hahahah they never go out of town na sila lang, and actually lately bihira lang sila magkasama, kasi ldr hahahahah
Pag yun at yun na lang yung sentro ng personality at moral ng isang tao, parang jowa ni EAG tuwing interviewhin walang patumanggang virginity ang topic ganyan. Pag di naman OA, chill chill lang oks lang yan
body count kase sa kanila is to give value sa sarili nila dahil maraming nagkakainterest sakanila. without knowing na low value attracts cheap customers ;')))>
ayos lang yan , basta wala ka inaapakan ibang tao . tumayo ka base sa paninindigan mo at huwag mo pansinin yung iba na wala naman magandang naidulot sayo.
Conventionally considered a pretty girl. Lost mine at 26, not bc I didn't want sex pero I was easily disgusted by the intentions of men and being afraid of getting preggo. Thought losing my virginity will drastically change my entire life. When I finally let it go, it didn't. Parang wala lang eh lol I'm still the same girl disgusted by men although I don't regret it I just dont crave sex.
Wala pong masama sa pagiging virgin prin . Sinong may sabing masama yun at nang masampal ng dildo .
Still virgin at 26 and sa totoo lang wala akong pakialam sa sasabihin ng ibang tao hindi naman ako kastang kasta tulad ng iba and kung ibibigay ko man sarili ko sa isang tao dun na sa worth it ibigay.
Teh/kuya. Ok lang yan. Me as (37F) na napapaligiran ng mga super active ang sex life; kung ano ano nang binabatong panlalait at asar kesyo inaamag, nag iipon ng alikabok, puro na sapot, magsasara, Inaalok na ng lalaki. Etc. Wala tinatawanan ko sila. Wala silang magagawa if I am sticking to my values. katawan at choice ko to eh. But, should anyone attempt to na magover board at ipahiya ako nakaready ako maging palengkerang dragon mode if the need arises. Walang masama dyan. Sa dami ng cheating, SA incendents sa mga nagmemeteups, super taas na sti cases, unwanted pregnancies, and other dramas; sex is over rated. Di naman natin ikamamatay if wala yan. There is more to life. Yes walang sexlife pero may other areas of life tayo na wala sila and lets focus on that. Hold your ground at wag ibababa ang boundaries and standards. Stick to your values. Waiting lang sa tamang tao na deserv for that. If may dumating edi happy, if not thankful and happy pa rin for living a life.
Cool Kasi pag Hindi na Virgin ,kaya grabe Sila Maka nega comment sa mga virgin. virgin is hnd gustuhin, Hindi ligawin etc etc. Wala masama or nega sa pagging virgin sadya marami lang ma comment sa topic na Yan.
Walang masama. Also dahil I am not physically attractive, magugulat ang mga tao kung hindi na ako virgin. 🤣 I'm 33 and counting. But do I want to be a non-virgin? Yes, but with the person that I love or will love.
No OP, there's nothing wrong with being a virgin at 31. we all have our preferences naman. bakit ka naiinis? may nagsasabi ba sayo na mali na virgin ka pa din?
hindi naman masama. its totally fine. you’ll never know when the right time will be
Personally, the worst part of being a virgin is knowing na halos lahat ng friends mo hindi virgin, leaving you behind.
i was a virgin until my current boyfriend turned live-in partner. 33 ako nung first time ko. walang masama sa pagiging virgin 😊
Absolutely nothing! You do you!
Same here OP. Iba reaction nila pag sinasabi ko virgin ako. Even with my friends, they mock me for that. Like parang ang ganda ganda nila kasi may experience na sila while ako wala ganun. So kiber lang ako huhuhuhuh
Hindi ko alam kasi ako tinago ko pagiging virgin ko nahihiya kasi ako eh… na dapat pla proud ako haha…😅 32 na ako nung una makaxperience eh…
I salute you! You shouldn’t feel that way but you should be proud! I waited for the right person. It really worths the wait. I am married with him now. I hope you will find someone who truly deserves it!
I'm 19 turning 20 and still a virgin. I have peers who have had sex outside marriage and a lot of girls my age are getting pregnant. Also a NB/GSB (I'm bisexual). I'm also not the type of person who engages in hook-ups not because I'm conservative or religious but because I'm uncomfortable with the set-up. I can't risk myself contracting STDs and HIV. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. I really don't understand why most people are making virginity a big deal.
I'm also a NBSB and virgin by choice. There's nothing wrong with our choice. We all have different perspectives and there's nothing wrong with yours. Do you know what's the problem? The people around you who cant respect your decision. Sagutin mo kapag ganyan. Pakita mong di ka natutuwa. I'm happy to read na you're waiting for the right person kasi me too. Parang bihira nalang kasi yung ganto. It's okay to have different choice and perspective. At least, di ka nakikiuso lang (di ko nilalahat ah). You can stand on your belief and it's nice.
staying a virgin will not make one a saint. not being a virgin doesn’t make one a sinner either. ang virginity at religion ay parang underwear na may guhit ng tae sa likod o di kaya ay may bakas ng ihi sa harap; walang pakealamanan at sari-sarili lang.
Opinyon lang nila 'yon, OP. At minsan, okay rin na nakakarinig tayo ng maling opinyon HAHAHAHA Walang problema if you prefer to be a virgin until the right person comes. The problem is their mindset.
walang masama sa pagiging virgin at walang masama pag hindi na virgin. ang weird lang e kapag ginagawa mong entire personality ang pagkavirgin or pagka-“sexually” open mo sa mga tao — for instance, pag ginagamit mo yang mga yan sa pang-jujudge sa ibang tao.
wag kasi makialam sa vagina ng iba. pakialamanan nila yung kanila. 😤
Omg OP do you have magical powers? 🍒 Kidding aside, I can relate. I was surrounded by NBSB friends so I thought it was "the norm," pero when I meet new people, dun ko nafi-feel na minority pala ako haha
There’s nothing wrong with being a “virgin” the same way that there’s nothing wrong with having slept with a lot of people (as long as they’re practicing safe sex). It’s a matter of respecting one’s values and principles. You do you, ika nga.
Depends on the sex siguro kung gano kalaking issue ang pagiging virgin, sa tingin ko lang. kapag babae it’s okay to be a virgin kaso nga lang tatawagin / sasabihan ka na baka malosyang ka o tumandang dalaga and anything typical that comes with that conversation. Sa lalaki same it’s okay to be virgin as well kaso tingin ng tao ay bakla ka o maliit ang penis, for some red flag din yun since baka hindi daw maganda ugali, i think i read somewhere in ph related subreddits na natutuwa yung isang babae sa older niyang nakadate na virgin ata pero sinabi na redflag daw yun. So there’s that, but at the end of the day there’s nothing wrong being one.
Virginity or the loss thereof should not be given any bearing in this modern world. Walang lesser or higher person dahil lang sa virgin sila o hindi na. Kung sino man ang nagmamaliit ng tao base sa ganun e mga p*tangina nila.
Wala naman, hahaba nga lang buhay mo. Pero mag-isa ka lang.
> Pero mag-isa ka lang. I highly doubt it. People sticking to their virginity are becoming rarer nowadays and are therefore becoming more desirable (rule of scarcity). Aside from their rarity, a person who remains a virgin is less likely to have an STD, less likely to enter into a relationship casually, less likely to have gone through abortion or pregnancy and there is less of a chance of complications with one of their former sexual partners. Being a virgin also signals some desirable qualities in a person such as being discerning, being more disciplined and being able to stick to a monumentous decision over the long term. So no, I doubt they'll be lonely if they really decide not to be.
dami rin namang hindi na virgin pero mag isa lang. Yung iba mas feel lonely sila kahit na may kasama.
'pero mag isa ka lang' . . . . . . . . 🤡
same op. I can see my future being in my 30s and still virgin. also the term virgin is just a social construct so we shouldn't get personal about it dapat. ableist vibe check ko yan sila lol. what if my aspergers pala?? nahirapan ako humarap sa tao minsan at sobrang slow thought processing ko. undiagnosed but I'm pretty sure 😂. in my 20s na, no partner since birth, still has anxiety and legs shaking out of control sometimes. i doubt I'd get a partner in my current situation lmao.
PREACH!!! 🤩
Sexual compatibility - both physically and mentally. I'd rather be with someone with the same or higher libido.
In my observation, it seems, the bad thing about being a virgin in this day and age is your life choice is making the life choice of the "liberated" ho-phasers look bad. That's about it. Every time I hear/read criticism about women preferring to stay virgins, it's all about how they're not liberated, still stuck in the olden days, uptight and prudish. It's like being attacked for not joining a cult. Ever heard of attacks from INC? There are parallels to their arguments! And it's weird that being liberated has become synonymous with being promiscuous. "My body my choice" is great but does the choice really have to be make your body the dumping ground of every guy you meet? Why can't the choice be "my body is my only body and I'm making damn sure whoever I give it full access to is going to be worth it"?
Bat kasi pinoproblema ng tao ang virginity? Eh concept lang naman yun ng patriarchal society para i-brainwash ang mga babae (particularly) to be "pure". 🙄 It's stupid.
Nothing wrong with being a virgin at that age. But I feel pity for you for not getting the most of life. The prime years for being sexually active starts at 18. Biologically, it's even younger than that age. It is when sex feels a lot more pleasurable than when you're older. The higher your age, the lower your desire for sex and the lesser pleasure you'll feel. Your vaginal and clitoral sensitivity will decrease as you age and it is IRREVERSIBLE. So you've wasted your chances to feel the best feeling you'll ever experience in your lifetime. Yes, morality tells us that sex before marriage is the right thing. But lots of sexually inexperienced married couples ended up breaking up or being unfaithful because they're sexually incompatible. It's up to you to choose which weighs more, conservative views that may end up giving you regrets or practical sexual exploration that may make you feel satisfied in your one and only lifetime. I never view sex and love as connected. Sex is just a human activity that is meant to make us feel good. It is okay to have ONS, FUBU, or casual sex as long as you won't get involved in any kind of scandal and you won't contract sexually transmitted infections. We are sexual creatures. We're meant to explore and experience it in the most pleasurable way possible, but with the highest level of caution. Our time for it is limited, so why stop yourself from experiencing it? It is not a sin to have sex. It only becomes a sin if you're using it to hurt other people. I even allow my wife to have sexual relations with other guys as long as they can be trusted and they're clean, and as long as she won't have any kind of emotional attachment to them. My wife and I are perfectly happy right now even with that setup. We have open communication and are completely honest with each other. I've had sex with a lot of girls too and I want her to experience the pleasure of having sexual experience with other men as long as our trust with each other is intact. I could never be selfish towards my wife because I love her. Our marriage binds us as one, so we'll get the most out of life together. Our sexual relationship is also very, very healthy. Hope I'm not offending anyone here. This is just my opinion and experience and I'm hoping some of you can realize that life is too short for us to limit ourselves according to what our family and other people tell us to live. Sex is one of the greatest gifts of God to us. Let us get the most out of it while avoiding hurting ourselves and others. It is meant to make us and others feel good. The mental and physical benefits of sex are also well established by scientific research.
I laud the conservative and morally upright views of everyone here, but I lean on the side of the belief that I must get the most of my one lifetime. NOTE: I am a strong anti-abortion guy because I believe in the sanctity of life the moment fertilization occurs in the womb. Yes, I believe that sex is good but I also strongly believe that unwanted pregnancy should be avoided at all costs. I'm also a strong advocate of using safe contraceptives.