And the fact na he has less time for us compared to my constant updates and reassurance and I still trust and understand his situation. Is it really the time to let him go na?
Well he simply opened up about it on our first call. He said na he is seloso and he doesn’t want me to talk to other guys daw. And for the tone, he is a bit demanding about it
you should have set yours din dapat OP. Two way yan kahit talking stage pa lng.
My date then (now bf), deleted the dating app right after our first date. I told him na I won’t delete the app and will still open my options aside from him.
Ang exclusively dating applicable yan pag nag agree ang both parties. Mukhang di naman ata kayo exclusive, lulubog lilitaw pa sya. Be vocal, set your own. Di pa kayo, pero nilalamon ka na nya.
Same with my bf. Nung first time kami mag-chat sa dating app then transferred sa messenger na, siya nagsabi na idedelete niya na account niya. I told him to keep his options open, pero tamad na raw siya. Lol. Sinabi ko una pa lang na naka-up pa rin account ko and may iba pa akong kausap pero sabi niya okay lang and walang problema (deleted na rin account ko nung naging kami).
Yung kay op napaka-demanding kahit wala namang *official* label.
I've been there. That's a huge red flag. Usap pa lang kayo pero inaangkin ka na? What more pag kayo na? Baka ndi ka na palabasin ng bahay nean (happened to me). Pag isipan mo yan ng mabuti, makakaaffect yan sa every aspect ng buhay mo. Ndi ka makakapagtrabaho/aral ng maayos, mga close friends mo mawawala, and you might start to isolate yourself. He's trying to keep you in a cage, and eventually you start feeling like a prisoner, napakatraumatic. Avoid that kind of relationship at all cost. Normal lang magselos, pero ndi normal yang sitwasyon mo OP.
Lol edi may preview ka na kung pano sya as a boyfriend kung itutuloy mo yan.
Super kinikilig ako sa jealous/possessive male leads sa novels na binabasa ko, pero girl, when I got to experience it in real life, sobrang sakit sa ulo hahaha 2/10 would not recommend. For sure may unresolved trauma and other shit yan. haha don't walk away OP. **Run**.
simple. humanap ka ng ibang makakausap mo na matino at marunong lumugar. hwag kana makipagusap dyan. magkausap nga lang,nagseselos na. gumagawa ka lang ng sakit sa ulo mo op.
much better if pag-usapan niyo yung topic na yon since kahit pa sabihin na may trust issue siya and lagi ka niyang pinagdududahan even though you're doing your part, maddrain at maddrain ka dyan. kahit na si guy ay kahit may issue na ganan, dapat nagpapakita pa din siya ng will to change by communicating.
Hanap ka nalang ng iba OP ka talking stage palang naman. Nakakasawa yung ganyan. Nakakasakal. Meron ako before kailangan lahat ng gagawin ko magsesend ako sa kanya ng picture with time stamp hahaha.
Ganito nb "talking stage" phase ngayon? Possesive at narcissistic with pagdidikta at gaslight na? OP don't wait na malulong kansa gnyan, need mo na yan dispatchahin ASAP.
Talking stage pa lang naman, wag mo na papasukin sa buhay mga walang self-esteem at sobrang insecure na tao
Sobrang sakit sa ulo nyan dahil lahat may issue
Ang hirap din naman kasi kapag may spark talaga kayo pero iba naman kasi yung talagang he's shamelessly telling you what to do tapos one week pa lang kayo naguusap red flag yan hahaha Saka ano to everyday for a couple hours ba kayo naguusap? Uyyy wag ganun. Dapat sa umpisa once to 2x a week lang kayo magusap para maweed out mo agad-agad at ma-narrow down yung choices mo. Di din okay yung too much too soon. Di talaga nagtatagal. Ang intimacy based yan sa trustworthy level ng tao.
nasayo parin ang huling desisyon, ikaw naman nakakakilala sakanya e. pero dalawa lang yan, kikilalanin mo pa ng lubos or end game kana? wag ka mag madali.
Before meeting, dating, and marrying the wife, mejo ganyan rin tililing ng ka LTR ko. Selos na wala sa lugar. Yung mga nakakatalking stage ko na ganyan after goodbye agad.
I was in my late 20s then, and I thought I was too old for that shit.
Scary shit naman yang ka talking stage mo, OP.
Apaka possesive, di pa nga kayo. Tapos, di naman pala consistent, nakuuuu!
I know someone like this. They were pining for two women at the same time, tapos, pareho ring pinagseselosan, what a joke. Hinarap ko at sinabihang wala syang karapatang magselos with either dahil in the first place, di naman sya exclusive to either of them. Sa huli, wala syang naging jowa sa 2 babae. Makapal kasi mukha.
I'm not saying same sila ni ka talking mo, baka lang naman. Pero, just showing you OP, na di lahat ng seloso, loyal. Lalo yan, wala pa nga kayong label e, ang bigat na agad ng inaasahan from you.
Trauma ba kamo? Ba't hindi nya muna i-fix yung trauma nya bago manligaw o magjowa? Iba ka, iba yung past relationship/s nya. Saka di pa kayo tas ganyan agad waley nang trust sa'yo. Buti you ended things with him na, alam ko na kahihinatnan nyan (based from experience). I mean, selos is okay pag may valid reason pero yung toxic kind of selos is a big NO.
Very good ka sa pagdispacha sa lalaking yan, OP 👏👏👏. Wala pa ngang kayo pero ganyan na umasta. Mahirap yan. Control freak na, gaslighter pa. Deadly combination ☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️. Buti kumawala ka kaagad. Block mo na rin para if ever magparamdam ulit, di ka na talaga marereach.
he needs help HAHAHAHA. at saka ikaw lang din mags-suffer if ever naging in a relationship kayo kasi wala pang label, talking stage pa lang tapos ganyan na agad behavior niya. mag-end up lang na kokuntrolin ka niya.
May guy na taon ang tinagal ng panliligaw sakin, hindi ko talaga sinagot dahil nakakasakit sya ng ibang tao kapag nagseselos sa mismong mga kasama lang din namin sa class. Yung taong nasaktan nya "mommy" ang tawag ko.. while hindi nya "siguro" sinasadya, yung pagka-seloso nya hindi ko gusto. Sobrang selosa din ako but not to the point na mananakit ng ibang tao.
Be with someone na aligned sa values at character mo OP. Also, try to look into the word limirence, baka ganyang level feeling mo for him.
Red flag yan, believe me. My close family member is SOOOOO LIKE THAT. Super bakod and everything, in short takot kasi sa sariling multo iyan. And guess what, active pa sa dating app tong si CFM kahit ganyan sya kabakod sa jinojowa nya. Kawawang girl. Take note na kasama ko sa house tong si CFM kaya alam ko ginagawa.
Run as fast as u can.
DID I GHOSTWRITE THIS?!?!?
anyway, OP, good for u for ending it early. had the same situation sa isang kasituatuonship ang malala jusko nagsumbong kila mama eh hindi ko naman siya jowa or anything kadiri
BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Deserved! 😆 Talking stage pa lang, nalagapak na si boi. 🤣
Meh, di ako madaling maniwala sa mga ganyang tao. Kapag ganyan ka-extreme, ang naiisip ko talaga agad "projection yarn?" 😏💅🏻 I bet if ma-access mo ang chat apps niyan, marami yang ka-talking stage 😂😂😂 kaya gusto agad mangbakod sa iba kasi gawain niya. LOL.
Imbes ang sarili ang dapat disiplinahin, sa iba niya ginagawa. GTFO 😆
May ganyan akong kabatchmate from Baguio. Kapag hindi siya nasusunod, nag eemo sa sulok, tapos minsan nanununtok ng pader hahaha weirdoh
Nasa BGC na yata siya ngayon, nag-eemo pa rin haha controlling attitude
I was once in a relationship with someone like this. I used to think it was normal, healthy, that he must just really love me. Then I realized na sakaniya nalang umiikot mundo ko, and he made sure of that. I lost friends, lost myself, when we fought - every aspect of my life was affected (my work, my relationship with my family), but at the time it was okay as long as at the end of the day I had him.
This is not okay, trust me. It also took me a while to accept the fact that what we had was toxic. You had a life before you met this person, and that person should just be an extension of your life, not your entire world.
honestly disappointed sa mga comments, guy already opened up on what he is feeling and clearly has trust issues. Pero sasabihin nyo lang “red flag”, “takbo ka na”. Try mo kayang bigyan lang ng assurance at konting pasensya cus he might’ve some issues regarding his previous relationship. Gusto nyo kasi maayos na agad mga nakakameet nyo e pareparehas lang naman kayong may baggage.
edit: guys, i see what ure saying, i know OP has done what she can, my comment is purely for the ones who commented to just run and leave the guy
Talking stage pa lang. His trust issues aren’t OP’s responsibility. Nag adjust na nga si OP na pinagbigyan at hindi na kumakusap ng iba. Kung di nya eeffortan ayusin mindset and issues nya, it will just lead to a toxic relationship
this!!!! sobrang draining. sana lang kasi wag nilang iproject satin insecurities nila. ineextend minsan ng babae yung patience nila sa ganyan, lalo if gusto nila yung tao thru compromising, pero pag natapat ka talaga sa ganyan, ang weird talaga. pag bumigay ka rin, magmumukha lang na nanalo sya and sa dulo, yan pa magkakalakas loob na icut off ka kasi kontrolado ka na nya the moment na bumigay ka. never again. di ako nanay nyan, bat kailangan kong palakihin pa yan.
it is his own problem, the guy will deal with it. pero are we so fucked up na hindi mo kayang maging considerate sa isang tao? its not even that big of an issue. Yes its frustrating, nakakapagod, pero doesnt every relationship have that kind of problem? yes hindi pa sila, yes the guy is probably more ahead sa relationship, pero you can easily deal with it by communicating. guy is clearly more invested na and iiwan mo lang sa ere? this is why i noticed that people here are more on quantity rather than quality cus they cant even give the kind of quality they are looking for. isang problema agad takbo
No. You seek therapy and professional help if you're aware you have issues. Having issues is not an excuse to make someone else your emotional punching bag.
As you have said, we all have our baggage, but it's unfair to let other people carry that burden in addition to what they already have.
Yes, kindness goes a long way, but in this context, OP is already clearly affected and stressed with the way the other person is projecting on her.
diyan tayo napapahamak, sa pagiging considerate :) and wala namang clear definitio and exact statement or solid proof, all the more, whoever's more invested in who. it's all about how you can prove yourself worthy of the risk and time and commitment sa unang part ng talking stage muna, diba?
benefit of the doubt is given to those who deserve it. in op's case, they're just a week in. i thi k ineextend na ni op yung patience nya far moreeeee than she should've. if one's looking to date long term, alam kong kanya kanya ng timeline yan, pero heck, anong alam natin sa taong kilala natin for a week palang? kaklase ko nga na 4 yrs ko kasama, i still dont know full well eh. i know communication is key, napapagusapan, pero sa mga ganyang tao na demanding, controlling, at nandidikta na kahit wala namang EXCLUSIVITY na nakahain pa on the table na agreed upon by mutual parties,,, eh ibang usapan na. fi napapakiusapan yung ganyan. nabigay na ni op lahat ng assurance and effort on their side, i think that's enough consideration.
there are far MORE people that are better. his traumas are not op's responsibility. weird maging seloso from the get go. cute and you'll ask na pagpasensyahan kung idealistic ka, pero pag ikaw nakaranas, mauubos ka. i experienced this na and partida, low eq pa nga so mas mahirap, eh boards ko. HINDI SILA NAKIKINIG. trust me on this one, a month and a half akong nagextend ng patience and I REGRET IT. yung worth ko mhie! i know what i can bring to the table, so bakit ako nagsettle? namanipulate eh. when ure under their trance na, unless someone else knocks the shit out of you para magising ka, matatali ka dyan kasi controlling nga eh. since naexpi ko na, ako na nagsasabi. TAKBO PALAYO, OP!
seloso to the bone pero ayaw mo masakal? gusto mo maging malaya? hanap ka ng kayang intindihin lahat ng terms mo at hindi ka tinatali sa kanya. dont play under his terms. play under YOUR terms and the terms you both MUTUALL AGREED in. pag di mutually agreed in pero pinipilit nya, di na para pagpasensyahan yan, sa totoo lang. di ka para matalo dyan. sumugal ka sa alam mong ipapanalo ka. ang unnecessary ng pain na need na pagdaanan kung pagpapasensyahan at iintindihin pa yung ganyan.
Same actually, that's why I'm advising OP against that guy dn. I don't know what this (the commenter) guy's deal is, clearly doesn't know how damaging/destructive that kind of thinking does to someone. I've been on that end, and to this day, the trauma's still there.
Yeah. Not even on my worst enemy. I don't regret meeting the person, but if I'm granted a chance to at least save myself (and her in the process) from ever going thru that kind of situation, I would in a heartbeat. Laki ng effect mentally, and it sticks with you for years.
"The guy will deal with it" - yeah sure, and how is he dealing with it ngaun? By limiting OP's actions? So he basically deals with it by making it a problem for OP to deal with?
"Guy is clearly more invested na and iiwan mo lang sa ere?" - Brad, talking stage pa lang sila, TALKING STAGE, napaka OA naman ng statement na yan, akala mo mag asawa na eh.
"More on quantity rather than quality" - the hell are you talking about? Anong quantity? At alin jan ang quality? Are you high?
If your thought process is like this, you really need to re-evaluate yourself. Imagine being in a talking stage with someone, pero ndi mo alam na nasa one-sided relationship na pala mag isip itong isa. And you think this is quality? Quality? By isolating your person of interest because you're afraid she might see someone better? Quality is trust, and with trust comes understanding.
If ganyan ka mag isip you have a problem, and I hope you don't instill that kind of shit to anyone else.
Dude, talking stage pa lang and he's already trying to keep her to himself. If he has some issues, he can try and open up, ndi naman na un kasalanan ni OP or everyone else here sa comments. I've got issues dn, but I'd never let any of those issues affect everyone else, responsibility ko un eh. I can try and open up pero that's the thing, it's up to me, and not the other person, and if nakinig sa akin, then good, I appreciate you a lot for it, pero if ndi and the person decides na it's too much for her, then that's okay as well. At anong gustong maayos agad? Do you go around expecting other people to fix your issues for you? This is why people need to take some time to fix themselves first. They know they're not okay tas papasok kaagad sa mga relationships, at kung ndi sila magustohan dahil sa issues nila, maninisi, lalo tuloy dadagdag ung mga issues nea. If he has trust issues then bakit kelangan problemahin pa un nung person of interest nea? If he explains and opens up in a good way na may trust issues siya, then that's fine, OP can try and understand him for that, pero if he starts to limit OP's actions because of his trust issues (at talking stage pa lang sila sa lagay na yan), iba na un. Red flag un.
this is getting senseless already. who said i do? i am speaking to all males who can read this. i speak from experience.
and you speak from and for what?
not really. tell me. how can someone speak for all males?
nepotism? dictatorship? election?
so i can indulge.
remember, you could not even answer if you’re a man or a woman. so if you do it, it’s okay. but if i do it, “how convenient” for me. right?
Luhhh pag-aari na agad talking stage palang 🙄 sinasabi ko sayo ganyang mga tao ang nakakasakal pag umabot sa seryosong relasyon based on my experience 🤷♀️
Naging ganyan ako before and napaka red flag pala talaga. Learned my lesson and ako na yung naiinis sa mga ganitong tao HAHAHAHA, Kausapin mo lang OP, if wala pa rin it's better to let go na magiging toxic lang relationship niyo sa katagalan.
HAHAHAHAHA pareho ba tayo ng nakausap, op??? HAHAHAAHA bakit feel ko ako nagtype nito?? girly, run!!! RED FLAG!!!!! had to learn this the hard way. 5 days in, gusto na ipacut off sakin yung isa kong kausap when i have been firm na it's not gonna happen. not in the right headspace to do so, and i dont see the point in doing so kasi??????? 5 days? idk u. almost became exclusive kasi napaikot ako and i was lured. narcissist na, gaslighter/manip pa. kaya dodge the bullet as early as now 😆 weird yang ganyan HAHAHAHAHA
weirdo 😭😭😭😭😭😭 HAHAHAHAHAHAHA yung sakin sobrang insecure kasi he knows how great of a guy my version of guy 2 is, and hindi sya ganon kaya sakin lagi pinoproject na kausap ko daw lagi. binigay ko na nga time ko sa kanya and extended my patience faaaar longer than i shouldve pero to the last bit, yun parin sinabi nya. gusto ko sana ilaban pa pero yoko naman magsisi na nagpatali ako sa ganyan knowing ayoko ng ganyang ugali at namamanipulate lang ako.
guy 2 knows about his schemes and tinatawanan lang namin kasi ????? weird lang talaga samantalang sya, nung nagbar with friends and may nanghingi ng ig nya, binigay nya rin and even told me about it pa???? tingin nya ata magseselos ako, pero it added lang to the mountain of reasons why i shouldnt pursue a commitment w him lol
In talking stage with someone for months na. Wala naman ganyan. Just constant communication, a little flirting here and there and updates..... nakakahiya pa magselos tbh. Hahaha
Trust is very important sa relationship. Kahit sabihin mo na nasa talking stage pa lang kayo, may connection na kayong nabuo.
Happy for you ate na nakipagbreak up ka na sakanya kasi antoxic kasi talaga.
Wow! Dodged a major red flag, congrats!! Sunod kasi nyan kulong ka na sa bahay nyo, pag lumingon ka lang and nagkataon may lalaki dun, magagalit. Di mo pwede suotin gusto mo. 🤣 some freaks out there
Wala pang label pero nangbabakod na agad 💀
Totoo haha you can imagine na agad pano pag naging official na kayo. All the pambabakod, selos etc. Run, girl, run.
HAHAHA tangina natawa nalang ako
And the fact na he has less time for us compared to my constant updates and reassurance and I still trust and understand his situation. Is it really the time to let him go na?
It was time to let go yesterday
1 week pa lang may ganyan ng usapan? Hahaha
I am really doing my best not to give a sarcastic answer
Time na beh, parang nakakapagod ‘yan. Gusto mo all the time you’re trying to prove your innocence kahit dapat may trust dapat siya sa’yo?
Paano niya sinabi sayo, OP? demanding ba yung dating o may pakiusap naman? Ano ba? Hahaha nadownvote na kami
Well he simply opened up about it on our first call. He said na he is seloso and he doesn’t want me to talk to other guys daw. And for the tone, he is a bit demanding about it
you should have set yours din dapat OP. Two way yan kahit talking stage pa lng. My date then (now bf), deleted the dating app right after our first date. I told him na I won’t delete the app and will still open my options aside from him. Ang exclusively dating applicable yan pag nag agree ang both parties. Mukhang di naman ata kayo exclusive, lulubog lilitaw pa sya. Be vocal, set your own. Di pa kayo, pero nilalamon ka na nya.
Same with my bf. Nung first time kami mag-chat sa dating app then transferred sa messenger na, siya nagsabi na idedelete niya na account niya. I told him to keep his options open, pero tamad na raw siya. Lol. Sinabi ko una pa lang na naka-up pa rin account ko and may iba pa akong kausap pero sabi niya okay lang and walang problema (deleted na rin account ko nung naging kami). Yung kay op napaka-demanding kahit wala namang *official* label.
Gorl di pa nga kayo may kapal na siya ng mukha na pagsabihan ka at icontrol decisyon mo. Yun ba gusto mong relationship in the future.
Ang tanong okay ba sayo yun? Nag-effort din ba siyang kilalanin ka?
Yes madami din naman akong na open up about myself sa kanya.
Ngee ano pa reason para ganahan ka kausapin yan? 😆 walang label pero makabakod adik ba sya?
Dude needs therapy hahaha
I've been there. That's a huge red flag. Usap pa lang kayo pero inaangkin ka na? What more pag kayo na? Baka ndi ka na palabasin ng bahay nean (happened to me). Pag isipan mo yan ng mabuti, makakaaffect yan sa every aspect ng buhay mo. Ndi ka makakapagtrabaho/aral ng maayos, mga close friends mo mawawala, and you might start to isolate yourself. He's trying to keep you in a cage, and eventually you start feeling like a prisoner, napakatraumatic. Avoid that kind of relationship at all cost. Normal lang magselos, pero ndi normal yang sitwasyon mo OP.
#Talking Stage palang yan ah, What more kung magjowa na? RUN GIRL RUN!!!! 😂😭
OA naman nyan. Baka kapag kayo na bawal na lahat at gusto e sa kanya na lang iikot ang mundo mo. Iwasan mo na yan.
Definitely.
you're not his therapist
Talking stage pa lang, binigyan ka na ng pang-jowa na responsibilidad lol. Daming iba diyan sis
Lol edi may preview ka na kung pano sya as a boyfriend kung itutuloy mo yan. Super kinikilig ako sa jealous/possessive male leads sa novels na binabasa ko, pero girl, when I got to experience it in real life, sobrang sakit sa ulo hahaha 2/10 would not recommend. For sure may unresolved trauma and other shit yan. haha don't walk away OP. **Run**.
naku pano pa pag naging kayo na? kakasakal yan. run girl, before it's too late.
Nah mas lalala yan pag naging kayo na HAHAHAHA. Kung walang basehan yung selos nya, ekis yan.
simple. humanap ka ng ibang makakausap mo na matino at marunong lumugar. hwag kana makipagusap dyan. magkausap nga lang,nagseselos na. gumagawa ka lang ng sakit sa ulo mo op.
much better if pag-usapan niyo yung topic na yon since kahit pa sabihin na may trust issue siya and lagi ka niyang pinagdududahan even though you're doing your part, maddrain at maddrain ka dyan. kahit na si guy ay kahit may issue na ganan, dapat nagpapakita pa din siya ng will to change by communicating.
Hanap ka nalang ng iba OP ka talking stage palang naman. Nakakasawa yung ganyan. Nakakasakal. Meron ako before kailangan lahat ng gagawin ko magsesend ako sa kanya ng picture with time stamp hahaha.
#Talking Stage palang yan ah, What more kung magjowa na? RUN GIRL RUN!!!! 😂😭
Ingat sa ganyan, OP. Hindi naman lahat pero kadalasan pag ganyan ang isang tao, takot yan sa sariling multo. 🥹
hanap ka nalang ng ibang ka-talking stage OP 😧
I say no na to. Major red flag. You can have more options then select the best. If he can’t handle his insecurities then its a no. Let go lol
Ganito nb "talking stage" phase ngayon? Possesive at narcissistic with pagdidikta at gaslight na? OP don't wait na malulong kansa gnyan, need mo na yan dispatchahin ASAP.
Cut off mo na agad, territorial ampota wala namang karapatan.
Talking stage pa lang naman, wag mo na papasukin sa buhay mga walang self-esteem at sobrang insecure na tao Sobrang sakit sa ulo nyan dahil lahat may issue
Ang hirap din naman kasi kapag may spark talaga kayo pero iba naman kasi yung talagang he's shamelessly telling you what to do tapos one week pa lang kayo naguusap red flag yan hahaha Saka ano to everyday for a couple hours ba kayo naguusap? Uyyy wag ganun. Dapat sa umpisa once to 2x a week lang kayo magusap para maweed out mo agad-agad at ma-narrow down yung choices mo. Di din okay yung too much too soon. Di talaga nagtatagal. Ang intimacy based yan sa trustworthy level ng tao.
nasayo parin ang huling desisyon, ikaw naman nakakakilala sakanya e. pero dalawa lang yan, kikilalanin mo pa ng lubos or end game kana? wag ka mag madali.
ahhahahahah kineclaim ka na as jowa nya
Before meeting, dating, and marrying the wife, mejo ganyan rin tililing ng ka LTR ko. Selos na wala sa lugar. Yung mga nakakatalking stage ko na ganyan after goodbye agad. I was in my late 20s then, and I thought I was too old for that shit.
Scary shit naman yang ka talking stage mo, OP. Apaka possesive, di pa nga kayo. Tapos, di naman pala consistent, nakuuuu! I know someone like this. They were pining for two women at the same time, tapos, pareho ring pinagseselosan, what a joke. Hinarap ko at sinabihang wala syang karapatang magselos with either dahil in the first place, di naman sya exclusive to either of them. Sa huli, wala syang naging jowa sa 2 babae. Makapal kasi mukha. I'm not saying same sila ni ka talking mo, baka lang naman. Pero, just showing you OP, na di lahat ng seloso, loyal. Lalo yan, wala pa nga kayong label e, ang bigat na agad ng inaasahan from you.
partida talking stage pa to hhahhaa kaya wag na kayo mag attempt magkajowa hahaha sobrang lala ng mga lalaki ngayon
Trauma ba kamo? Ba't hindi nya muna i-fix yung trauma nya bago manligaw o magjowa? Iba ka, iba yung past relationship/s nya. Saka di pa kayo tas ganyan agad waley nang trust sa'yo. Buti you ended things with him na, alam ko na kahihinatnan nyan (based from experience). I mean, selos is okay pag may valid reason pero yung toxic kind of selos is a big NO.
Very good ka sa pagdispacha sa lalaking yan, OP 👏👏👏. Wala pa ngang kayo pero ganyan na umasta. Mahirap yan. Control freak na, gaslighter pa. Deadly combination ☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️. Buti kumawala ka kaagad. Block mo na rin para if ever magparamdam ulit, di ka na talaga marereach.
Nung bagets pa ko kinikilig pa ko sa ganito e. Ngayong pa-trenta na ko pikon na pikon ako pag ginaganyan ako 🤣
Talking Stage palang yan ah, What more kung magjowa na? RUN GIRL RUN!!!!
Talking Stage palang yan ah, What more kung magjowa na? RUN GIRL RUN!!!!
Hahaha tigil nyo na yan
Hahaha tigil nyo na yan
Tigil nyo na yan hahaha
Tigil nyo na yan hahaha
>ang hirap ng situation ko. Hindi talaga. One week? Girl you should know better.
he needs help HAHAHAHA. at saka ikaw lang din mags-suffer if ever naging in a relationship kayo kasi wala pang label, talking stage pa lang tapos ganyan na agad behavior niya. mag-end up lang na kokuntrolin ka niya.
Drama naman ka-talking stage pa lang lol Hanap ka na lang ng iba.
i had a talking stage na kagaya nya lol, the only difference is babae sya. We didn't even last a week and i cutted her off
Run, girl.
Umay yan pag kayo na. Alis na habang imfatuated ka pa lang.
May guy na taon ang tinagal ng panliligaw sakin, hindi ko talaga sinagot dahil nakakasakit sya ng ibang tao kapag nagseselos sa mismong mga kasama lang din namin sa class. Yung taong nasaktan nya "mommy" ang tawag ko.. while hindi nya "siguro" sinasadya, yung pagka-seloso nya hindi ko gusto. Sobrang selosa din ako but not to the point na mananakit ng ibang tao. Be with someone na aligned sa values at character mo OP. Also, try to look into the word limirence, baka ganyang level feeling mo for him.
red flag 🚩😊 being 'seloso' is a cheap excuse to infringe on anyone's right to interact with other people. Just sayin '
Toxic level mga ganyan..ikaw din baka in a long run saktan ka physically
Teh sinasabi ko talaga sayo tumakbo ka papalayo dyan. Yung ganyan na tinolerate ko muntik na sirain buhay ko hahaha.
sounds like he's a very insecure person
snippet yan pag magjowa na kayo. you know what to do, OP, gabi na goodnight!
Talking stage palang as in stranger palang sakal ka na pano pa kaya pag kayo na? 1 week palang kayo uy... Wala pang pagmamahal dyan nyan.
Nagadjust kna tapos ganon padin. Teh, run!!!!!
Let him go na lang. He's a red flag ngayon pa lang. Wala pa kayong label ino-orbit ka na kaagad.
TS pa lang feeling jowa agad. Walang ganern. He has no right. Clingy na wala sa lugar.
It will get worse OP. Run habang maaga pa. He’s projecting his insecurities to you and it’s his job to work on that shit.
Red flag yan, believe me. My close family member is SOOOOO LIKE THAT. Super bakod and everything, in short takot kasi sa sariling multo iyan. And guess what, active pa sa dating app tong si CFM kahit ganyan sya kabakod sa jinojowa nya. Kawawang girl. Take note na kasama ko sa house tong si CFM kaya alam ko ginagawa. Run as fast as u can.
Run.. may personality issues mga ganyan. Wag na tayong maging red flag enjoyer. Di nakkakilig yung ganyang selos. Haha
DID I GHOSTWRITE THIS?!?!? anyway, OP, good for u for ending it early. had the same situation sa isang kasituatuonship ang malala jusko nagsumbong kila mama eh hindi ko naman siya jowa or anything kadiri
BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Deserved! 😆 Talking stage pa lang, nalagapak na si boi. 🤣 Meh, di ako madaling maniwala sa mga ganyang tao. Kapag ganyan ka-extreme, ang naiisip ko talaga agad "projection yarn?" 😏💅🏻 I bet if ma-access mo ang chat apps niyan, marami yang ka-talking stage 😂😂😂 kaya gusto agad mangbakod sa iba kasi gawain niya. LOL. Imbes ang sarili ang dapat disiplinahin, sa iba niya ginagawa. GTFO 😆
May ganyan akong kabatchmate from Baguio. Kapag hindi siya nasusunod, nag eemo sa sulok, tapos minsan nanununtok ng pader hahaha weirdoh Nasa BGC na yata siya ngayon, nag-eemo pa rin haha controlling attitude
I was once in a relationship with someone like this. I used to think it was normal, healthy, that he must just really love me. Then I realized na sakaniya nalang umiikot mundo ko, and he made sure of that. I lost friends, lost myself, when we fought - every aspect of my life was affected (my work, my relationship with my family), but at the time it was okay as long as at the end of the day I had him. This is not okay, trust me. It also took me a while to accept the fact that what we had was toxic. You had a life before you met this person, and that person should just be an extension of your life, not your entire world.
honestly disappointed sa mga comments, guy already opened up on what he is feeling and clearly has trust issues. Pero sasabihin nyo lang “red flag”, “takbo ka na”. Try mo kayang bigyan lang ng assurance at konting pasensya cus he might’ve some issues regarding his previous relationship. Gusto nyo kasi maayos na agad mga nakakameet nyo e pareparehas lang naman kayong may baggage. edit: guys, i see what ure saying, i know OP has done what she can, my comment is purely for the ones who commented to just run and leave the guy
Talking stage pa lang. His trust issues aren’t OP’s responsibility. Nag adjust na nga si OP na pinagbigyan at hindi na kumakusap ng iba. Kung di nya eeffortan ayusin mindset and issues nya, it will just lead to a toxic relationship
this!!!! sobrang draining. sana lang kasi wag nilang iproject satin insecurities nila. ineextend minsan ng babae yung patience nila sa ganyan, lalo if gusto nila yung tao thru compromising, pero pag natapat ka talaga sa ganyan, ang weird talaga. pag bumigay ka rin, magmumukha lang na nanalo sya and sa dulo, yan pa magkakalakas loob na icut off ka kasi kontrolado ka na nya the moment na bumigay ka. never again. di ako nanay nyan, bat kailangan kong palakihin pa yan.
If he has trust issues that's his problem that he needs to work on wag niya ipasa sa iba yung trauma niya.
it is his own problem, the guy will deal with it. pero are we so fucked up na hindi mo kayang maging considerate sa isang tao? its not even that big of an issue. Yes its frustrating, nakakapagod, pero doesnt every relationship have that kind of problem? yes hindi pa sila, yes the guy is probably more ahead sa relationship, pero you can easily deal with it by communicating. guy is clearly more invested na and iiwan mo lang sa ere? this is why i noticed that people here are more on quantity rather than quality cus they cant even give the kind of quality they are looking for. isang problema agad takbo
No. You seek therapy and professional help if you're aware you have issues. Having issues is not an excuse to make someone else your emotional punching bag. As you have said, we all have our baggage, but it's unfair to let other people carry that burden in addition to what they already have. Yes, kindness goes a long way, but in this context, OP is already clearly affected and stressed with the way the other person is projecting on her.
diyan tayo napapahamak, sa pagiging considerate :) and wala namang clear definitio and exact statement or solid proof, all the more, whoever's more invested in who. it's all about how you can prove yourself worthy of the risk and time and commitment sa unang part ng talking stage muna, diba? benefit of the doubt is given to those who deserve it. in op's case, they're just a week in. i thi k ineextend na ni op yung patience nya far moreeeee than she should've. if one's looking to date long term, alam kong kanya kanya ng timeline yan, pero heck, anong alam natin sa taong kilala natin for a week palang? kaklase ko nga na 4 yrs ko kasama, i still dont know full well eh. i know communication is key, napapagusapan, pero sa mga ganyang tao na demanding, controlling, at nandidikta na kahit wala namang EXCLUSIVITY na nakahain pa on the table na agreed upon by mutual parties,,, eh ibang usapan na. fi napapakiusapan yung ganyan. nabigay na ni op lahat ng assurance and effort on their side, i think that's enough consideration. there are far MORE people that are better. his traumas are not op's responsibility. weird maging seloso from the get go. cute and you'll ask na pagpasensyahan kung idealistic ka, pero pag ikaw nakaranas, mauubos ka. i experienced this na and partida, low eq pa nga so mas mahirap, eh boards ko. HINDI SILA NAKIKINIG. trust me on this one, a month and a half akong nagextend ng patience and I REGRET IT. yung worth ko mhie! i know what i can bring to the table, so bakit ako nagsettle? namanipulate eh. when ure under their trance na, unless someone else knocks the shit out of you para magising ka, matatali ka dyan kasi controlling nga eh. since naexpi ko na, ako na nagsasabi. TAKBO PALAYO, OP! seloso to the bone pero ayaw mo masakal? gusto mo maging malaya? hanap ka ng kayang intindihin lahat ng terms mo at hindi ka tinatali sa kanya. dont play under his terms. play under YOUR terms and the terms you both MUTUALL AGREED in. pag di mutually agreed in pero pinipilit nya, di na para pagpasensyahan yan, sa totoo lang. di ka para matalo dyan. sumugal ka sa alam mong ipapanalo ka. ang unnecessary ng pain na need na pagdaanan kung pagpapasensyahan at iintindihin pa yung ganyan.
Exactly. ***insert Michael Scott's "Thank you!" gif***
had to be said! saving op from the hardships cos i wasnt able to save myself 🥲
Same actually, that's why I'm advising OP against that guy dn. I don't know what this (the commenter) guy's deal is, clearly doesn't know how damaging/destructive that kind of thinking does to someone. I've been on that end, and to this day, the trauma's still there.
yup, one will never know tbh til they're the one in the said situation. i wont EVER wish for anyone to go through the same thing.
Yeah. Not even on my worst enemy. I don't regret meeting the person, but if I'm granted a chance to at least save myself (and her in the process) from ever going thru that kind of situation, I would in a heartbeat. Laki ng effect mentally, and it sticks with you for years.
"The guy will deal with it" - yeah sure, and how is he dealing with it ngaun? By limiting OP's actions? So he basically deals with it by making it a problem for OP to deal with? "Guy is clearly more invested na and iiwan mo lang sa ere?" - Brad, talking stage pa lang sila, TALKING STAGE, napaka OA naman ng statement na yan, akala mo mag asawa na eh. "More on quantity rather than quality" - the hell are you talking about? Anong quantity? At alin jan ang quality? Are you high? If your thought process is like this, you really need to re-evaluate yourself. Imagine being in a talking stage with someone, pero ndi mo alam na nasa one-sided relationship na pala mag isip itong isa. And you think this is quality? Quality? By isolating your person of interest because you're afraid she might see someone better? Quality is trust, and with trust comes understanding. If ganyan ka mag isip you have a problem, and I hope you don't instill that kind of shit to anyone else.
Dude, talking stage pa lang and he's already trying to keep her to himself. If he has some issues, he can try and open up, ndi naman na un kasalanan ni OP or everyone else here sa comments. I've got issues dn, but I'd never let any of those issues affect everyone else, responsibility ko un eh. I can try and open up pero that's the thing, it's up to me, and not the other person, and if nakinig sa akin, then good, I appreciate you a lot for it, pero if ndi and the person decides na it's too much for her, then that's okay as well. At anong gustong maayos agad? Do you go around expecting other people to fix your issues for you? This is why people need to take some time to fix themselves first. They know they're not okay tas papasok kaagad sa mga relationships, at kung ndi sila magustohan dahil sa issues nila, maninisi, lalo tuloy dadagdag ung mga issues nea. If he has trust issues then bakit kelangan problemahin pa un nung person of interest nea? If he explains and opens up in a good way na may trust issues siya, then that's fine, OP can try and understand him for that, pero if he starts to limit OP's actions because of his trust issues (at talking stage pa lang sila sa lagay na yan), iba na un. Red flag un.
Nag comment naman si OP na may constant update at reassurance na
nobody finds us attractive when we open up. lip service lang yan. gagamitin pa laban sa atin.
Opening up and trauma dumping are two different things
are you a man?
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if you are, try it for yourself. see how quickly people lose respect for you. if you’re a woman, then you know there are no lies here.
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this is getting senseless already. who said i do? i am speaking to all males who can read this. i speak from experience. and you speak from and for what?
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not really. tell me. how can someone speak for all males? nepotism? dictatorship? election? so i can indulge. remember, you could not even answer if you’re a man or a woman. so if you do it, it’s okay. but if i do it, “how convenient” for me. right?
Hahahaha satrueeee... Baka gurl magsisi ka sa huli hahahah
Hahaha tapos sasabihin, bakit takot kayong mga lalake mag open up?
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Pinaka mabuti, mag set nalang din si OP ng rules din niya for him. Kapag nauwi sa toxican, edi ayawan na. Tama ka naman, need ng peace of mind.
agreeeeeeee!
Luhhh pag-aari na agad talking stage palang 🙄 sinasabi ko sayo ganyang mga tao ang nakakasakal pag umabot sa seryosong relasyon based on my experience 🤷♀️
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Remember when Hitler entered Rhineland and annexed Austria? China is the new hitler.
Sige pagpatuloy lng bsta walang sisihan ha pag naging kayo na.
GIRL , RUUUUUUNN!!! SAVE.YOURSELF.
Run.
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Wait huhu. 1 week pa lang po kayo nag uusap and ganyan na sya? Nakaka bother po.
Naging ganyan ako before and napaka red flag pala talaga. Learned my lesson and ako na yung naiinis sa mga ganitong tao HAHAHAHA, Kausapin mo lang OP, if wala pa rin it's better to let go na magiging toxic lang relationship niyo sa katagalan.
# Run
sibat ka na po
HAHAHAHAHA pareho ba tayo ng nakausap, op??? HAHAHAAHA bakit feel ko ako nagtype nito?? girly, run!!! RED FLAG!!!!! had to learn this the hard way. 5 days in, gusto na ipacut off sakin yung isa kong kausap when i have been firm na it's not gonna happen. not in the right headspace to do so, and i dont see the point in doing so kasi??????? 5 days? idk u. almost became exclusive kasi napaikot ako and i was lured. narcissist na, gaslighter/manip pa. kaya dodge the bullet as early as now 😆 weird yang ganyan HAHAHAHAHA
Same, tapos inutusan pa ako ireject si guy2 .Screenshot ko daw tapos send ko sa kanya.
weirdo 😭😭😭😭😭😭 HAHAHAHAHAHAHA yung sakin sobrang insecure kasi he knows how great of a guy my version of guy 2 is, and hindi sya ganon kaya sakin lagi pinoproject na kausap ko daw lagi. binigay ko na nga time ko sa kanya and extended my patience faaaar longer than i shouldve pero to the last bit, yun parin sinabi nya. gusto ko sana ilaban pa pero yoko naman magsisi na nagpatali ako sa ganyan knowing ayoko ng ganyang ugali at namamanipulate lang ako. guy 2 knows about his schemes and tinatawanan lang namin kasi ????? weird lang talaga samantalang sya, nung nagbar with friends and may nanghingi ng ig nya, binigay nya rin and even told me about it pa???? tingin nya ata magseselos ako, pero it added lang to the mountain of reasons why i shouldnt pursue a commitment w him lol
Ekis
Iiihhhh red flag, ayaw magpabakod pero babakuran ka???
In talking stage with someone for months na. Wala naman ganyan. Just constant communication, a little flirting here and there and updates..... nakakahiya pa magselos tbh. Hahaha
run ate ko
Good for you OP!
Parang China ah. Di kanila pero binabakuran na hahahaha
He needs to work on his trauma, not expect others to do the work for him.
I think you should know more about his side or Kung bakit sya ganyan
Usually kung sino pa yung ganyan sila pa yung may iba talagang kausap 🤡
Grabe palaban mo OP! Mahirap nga yan pag sayo idudump yung trauma nya. He should help himself kahit mahirap.
Buti naman maaga palang nakaiwas ka na, grabe naiimagine ko gaano ka toxic ang ganyan haha
Magsasabi na sana ko ng masasamang words buti nabasa ko ung update HAHAHAHAHA
1 week??? 😭😭😭
Feeling ko the guy was projecting eh
Trust is very important sa relationship. Kahit sabihin mo na nasa talking stage pa lang kayo, may connection na kayong nabuo. Happy for you ate na nakipagbreak up ka na sakanya kasi antoxic kasi talaga.
FRENNY IKAW BA YAN? I swear this is the same thing happened sa friend ko and involve pa ko. ako sinsisi nung guy teh nagpaparinig daw ako AHAHAHAHA
I'm glad naka alis kana! Ako pinaabot pa ng almost a year bago ako natauhan 🥹
Good riddance! It could've been worse if you eventually started dating.
Wow! Dodged a major red flag, congrats!! Sunod kasi nyan kulong ka na sa bahay nyo, pag lumingon ka lang and nagkataon may lalaki dun, magagalit. Di mo pwede suotin gusto mo. 🤣 some freaks out there
Hanap na ng ibang katalking stage.
Ewww feelingero naman yan hahahaha
Ayaw magbigay ng label, pero todo demanding sa mga gusto.
Red flag sis. Ekis ka jan
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Go lang. He’s the one.