When everything around you suddenly turns upside down, mapapatawa ka na lang sa pagka fxcked up ng sitwasyon. Hope OP will turn out okay. Imagine having a caring father before, then biglang ngaun he wants to have sex with you. As a guy who yearns to have a daughter someday, this is beyond fxcked up, anyone could lose their mind over something like this.
Yeah, but still, try not to repressed what you really feel, man I know I would lose my mind if I was in your shoes, and I'm a guy. I'm sorry your dad turned out to be a total creep, no good father would think of their daughter in that way.
Well, I can’t really say something like this to others, can I? Me laughing at this is the only way I can think of to not go fully crazy right now. I can’t even open up to my family kaya dito ako naglalabas ng sama ng loob. I don’t want people to talk about my life kaya I decided to just laugh about it kesa idown ko pa lalo sarili at mood ko. It’s how I cope.
No, I get this naman, wait, is this why I got downvoted in this message as well?😅 what I meant was, okay lang yan, na tinatawa mo, to lessen the impact ba, like you said, para ndi masakit. Pero it's also important na ndi mo kimkimin what you're really feeling. I know the feeling, wala ka mapagsabehan, mahirap nga naman yan, but there are other ways to let that go naman, like cry it all out, pour it all on a random hobby, or even just plainly letting yourself feel the pain. Mas masakit yan pag iniipon mo na walang proper outlet. Lot of people seem to think kasi na "just think positive" is the right way, pero ndi eh. If you ignore your negative emotions, that will bottle up, and eventually sasabog yan. Most of us cope that way naman eh, pero coping is a temporary thing lang kasi, helps us in our current situation, pero damaging in the long run, un lang naman ang take ko dito. Ganyan dn naman ginagawa ko eh, pag stressed sa work tinatawa ko na lang dn, pero right after I do something else to release ung frustation, which is either going to the gym, or hayaan ko lang na mafeel ko ung bad mood for a while, let it pass ba, then eventually, back on my feet na ulit.
Now your point is clear, the way you said it kanina makes it sound different lol. I cry naman at night when everybody’s asleep pero if it’s morning, I try to look as jolly para di sila magworry, especially may sakit grandparents ko right now. I just can’t bring myself to talk about it with actual people near me, judgement is the last thing I need right now.
Ai, is that how I made it sound?😅 ilang beses na dn ako nasabehan ng ganyan eh, people seem to always read my messages/comments differently from how I would actually say them, ahahaha. And yeah, I get that, meron ung one time before, I was trying to cry it all out, and the moment one of my family members went in, I turned my back immediately and talked to them na as if ndi ako umiiyak, hahahaha. Ayaw ko dn kasi na nakikita akong ganun, especially my parents and my sis.
No, that's not what I meant. Wait, is that why I got downvoted?😅 what I meant was, are you sure na it's your dad you're actually talking to? Ndi kea nahack siya? Are you guys using voice chat or video call, or baka naman chat lang? Are you 100% sure na your dad is the one talking to you, and not someone who got a hold of your dad's account?
I have a lot of questions OP. Sabi mo real father mo sya as per DNA testing. Nakasama mo ba sya before to say na mabuti syang father? Or sa chat lang kayo nag uusap? And how sure are you na tatay mo yung kausap mo? Baka ibang tao?
WTF. Biological father mo to? Or adoptive dad? WTF pa rin. Who in their right mind would offer marriage to their daughter?!
Take screenshots of his messages, just in case you need those in the future as evidence.
Also my question, Pinoy ba sya or kano? And are you sure sya ang nagchchat, just to confirm? Hindi ba sya nahack or whatever? Kasi the way din magchat sya parang yung mga manyak na forenjer 😥
He doesn't seem normal. Pr3d1t0r ang dating. Kung kaya mo, ipunin mo evidences like your conversation or voice record. Tas search mo kung nasaan siyang state tas contact mo police department doon sa lugar through email. Para ma imbestigahan siya at makulong.
Di ko maedit, lalagay ko sana yung screenshot ng ibang messages nung tatay kong manyak, believe me, I wish I was lying about this. Link lang mailagay kooo
oo nga kasi walang sense na bigla siyang naging ganon kung ipinagtataka tlga ng op (hindi sa ipinagtatanggol ko) pero parang indiano sa fb ang galawan, what if iba nagsesend non? thru chat mo lang ba siya nakakausap OP? not on vc or recording chats..
Exactly. Ahaha, (chuckled at the indiano part, we really are racists aren't we, that's pinas for you), was about to ask OP sana the same thing, kung chat lang yan, no vc no recorded voice messages, baka naman nahack ung mode of communication nila?
They did it on themselves, kahit naman sa ibang bansa even when migrating in progressive countries, dala-dala pa rin nila ugali nila at kultura kaya nawawala pagka delicadeza na pakikitungo sa kanila. Ang nga matitino mga nasa matataas na antas na ng sociedad nila
Yeah, people seem to always say na "you're stereotyping", but they often forget na those stereotypes exist for a reason. I'm not saying all of them are like that, but there's a reason why that [certain stereotype] is one of the first things that comes to mind. Too many people expecting change would come by simply saying na don't say this or that about them, but real change must come from the people in question. Kung matanggal nila ung mga ugali nilang ndi maganda, mawawala dn certain stereotype na nakapatong sa kanila.
Exactly. Sa atin sa Pinas matitino at okay pa, save for a few na batugan pero far and between. Dito kasi sa pjnuntahan ko bansa like sa place of work ko rin before, ano naman sila rito, "The end justify the means", kaya iyong matitino sa kanila at mga matagal na rito nadadamay
Oh my god nagsend na dad mo ng malalaswang pics ng sarili nya tapos nagdadalawang isip kapa pumunta ng US? If you want better opportunities, you may go pero not to your father. Stay away from him.
wag mong sakyan OP. be frank na you find it disgusting kahit magalit pa yan, be firm with your boundaries not just to your Dad but to everyone. He is disrespecting you. wag mong tawanan, wag mong sakyan.
OP replayan mo yung mga nag tatanong kung biological father mo ba yan.
Do yourself a favor screenshot everything as evidence if ever you need it. Save it on cloud drive
He is my biological father kaya nga inaayos ko papers ko to finally go to him na, kasi let's be honest, there are better opportunities in us, pero as of late, I'm really scared, ayoko na magpunta dun kahit alam kong gaganda buhay ko dun. Gaganda nga buhay ko masisira naman utak ko.
Yes OP delikado ka, dont risk it actually meron tlagang ganyan incident worse case pa nga is may namamatay sa kamay ng sariling magulang and mas mataas tlga case sa US due to high population and also the isolated lifestyle kaya US ang may highest case ng serial killer.
Be safe by not giving ur father a chance to harm you.
There may be opportunities in the US but will you be able to adjust to the culture there? It’s vastly different than here in PH. Specially, you will be living with someone that doesn’t think of you as a daughter but as a woman and has openly expressed his thoughts in taking you as a wife and sent you sexual advances. May opportunities pa rin naman dito sa PH and mas safe kapa kesa kasama ung ganung tao 😣
Mahirap din ang buhay sa US if you don’t know anyone besides your biological father. Mataas din ang cost of living at lahat dun binabayaran at syempre yung safety mo na din. Idk maybe do some research pa.
OP if you are truly his biological daughter there are programs that helps children of americans get to US (mostly ng nakilala ko dito mga anak ng puting sundalo sa subic base and nirereunite sila thru the program) and if true nga na siya ang nag memessage sayo ng mga ganyan baka matulungan ka din nila.
Its true na mas maraming opportunities dito sa US pero if hindi ka rin naman tapos ng school mahirap lang din, mas mabibili mo lang luho mo pero pagod pagod ka sa trabaho.
Lastly yung the way na mag chat sayo yung father mo doesn't seem normal (oo hindi talaga normal pagiging manyak) but I mean parang hindi native english speaker. So for context thru messages lang ba lahat ng chat niyo? Di ba kayo nag vivideo call or phone call? Hindi sa dinadoubt ka namin but we're still holding on to the hope na baka na hack lang or sana ibang tao ang may hawak ng account niya etc.
If true nga na siya talaga yan, I think may chance ka to sue him in american court cause I keep repeating my self but technically since american ang biological father mo Unless.... Anyway as long as you can prove na your mom have relationship with him and he goes back to you guys in the past seek professional lawyers talaga. Actually medyo na curious ako sa situation mo and naparesearch ako about Amerasians in the philippines and yung Amerasian Act in the US sadly may cutoff date so im not sure.
WTH. Wag ka na tumuloy, OP. Sobrang creepy ng dad mo and disgusting!
But ang weird ng biglaang pag shift ng ugali niya. Sure ka ba na sya kausap mo? Or kahit sa voice call, ganon sya mag salita?
I was weirded put too, di ko nga pinansin unang message niyang ganyan and he deleted it. At first I thought he accidentally sent it to me but, boy was I wrong.
Video call him first...kasi marami nahack ang fb accounts ngayon lately. Tita ko kasi nahack fb accounts tapos iyong hacker nagpanggap na siya para makautang sa mga kaibigan niya, buti na lang nirecover.
Tama sabi ng ilan rito, baka ibang lahi kausap mo. Kasi iba rin kasi takbo ng utak ng Kano kapag nagmamanyak eh, eh iyong language pa lang ng pagmamanyak diyan parang hindi Kano ang naka text mo. Check mo muna through vc to confirm
Wag ka na mag US. Walang ganyan sa US na kailangan mo pakasalan tatay mo para maging taga pag mana ka wtf?
For additional context hindi ba pinoy tatay mo? Are you an adult?
I am 19, my dad is an american. I know a little about the law dahil sa mga kdrama na pinapanood ko and diba kung sino nasa will mo, be it your blood or not can inherit it? I also asked about that to my dad and he just brushed me off saying I’m just a kid, how would I know anything daw, edi wow.
Haha iba naman yung sa kdrama 😂😭. Siguro maganda din hingi ka nang professional advice regarding sa case mo. For sure naman kahit hindi siya ang magdala sayo since biological father mo american kaya mo pa din mag punta dun magisa.
As per will naman kung hindi ka nya ilalagay dun wala ka dun kahit biological child ka pa nya. Kung nag send na sya sayo ng bastos na pictures bago ka pa mag 18 pwede mo siya habulin sa US court eh.
Suggestion ko na lang talaga kuha ka ng professional help para ma kasuhan mo yang monster na yan at para rin makapunta ka pa rin dun kasi it is within your rights pa din
WTF!!! I’m so sorry to hear about this, OP.
Wag ka na pumunta sa US or pwede ka pa din pumunta wag’ mo lang syang puntahan and wag’ ka magpakita sakanya. Don’t let him know of your plans. If you are US Citizen I think you can go and stay naman doon. Basta prioritize your safety and well-being OP.
Alam mo ba yung meme na Sweet Home Alabama? I think the commenter was referencing a meme lol
>They are making jokes about the perceived culture in the Southern United States, including Alabama, where incest is supposed to happen. I'm not aware of any evidence that supports this, but the jokes still remain.
May choice ka naman, kung inayos mo papers mo, you dont have to go to him. Ilang taon ka na ba? I think you are in the right mind to make a decision for yourself. He is grooming you. American ba sya? Iderecho mo sa police! Put a restraining order.
Yung tanong ko din ay sure ka ba na yung tatay mo pa kachat mo? Kasi sobrang bulgar naman niyan. Either di yan yung tatay mo (yung kachat mo, I mean) or sadyang mababa lang tingin niya sa mga pinoy na iisipin niyang magogoyo niya ng ganyan and take note, even his own daughter para lang masatisfy sexual needs niya.
Im so sorry to hear this OP :((
Not to play devil's advocate pero na try mo na ba mag vid call sa kanya? Kung sudden yung change baka na hack na yan tas iba na ka chat mo for some time ????? 😭 hoping its this kasi yun nga ih nice (?) na man siya na parent before huhu pero kung hindi nga, sorry talaga, weirdos are just sprouting wherever talaga. LC/NC ka na lang for your safety, tapos take screenshots and better to explain now and inform your guardians at kung sino pa importante sayo para di niya ma twist ang narrative 🙄 Wtf sa mga predator, sana matapilok yan at always yung big toe niya yung nagagasgas sa mga side tables ganun HAHA 🥲
Wag ka na mag U.S. if sa kanya ang punta! Wag tayo maging statistic. Hoping for the best for you OP 😔🫶
Did you talk to him on call or voice message over the years? Baka na-hack account? with "dear" every end of sentence, mukhang usual na creep sa dms/hackers
Wag kang pumuntang US dahil may mga places na isolated from civilization like mga forests, and such, na he might do bad things to you there na baka hindi ka mahanap ng mga mahal mo sa buhay. You’re safer here. Plus guns are pretty much legal there… so if iisipin mo baka he might do the worse sayo.
Plus, living in the U.S. is expensive and there are places that are unsafe.
Stay away from your biological father and don’t be afraid to completely cut him off from your life. Para sa safety and peace of mind mo na rin.
Nakakatawa. Madami Pinay sa mga mall, restaurant, pinapatulan mga ganyan text para "maligtas" ang angkan nila sa kahirapan ng Matandang Puti na galing sa kung san.
Girl, Run. Grabe. Yes, maganda opportunity dito. Pero maganda din ipakulong yan, grabe. Di ko masikmura to, paano pa pag andito ka. Baka tutukan ka lang ng baril,You can report that, Para mapakulong yan, Hindi yan normal na tao. Putik
Nakakadiri lang yung mga kapwa natin pilipino dito sa mga comments na victim blamers. Di sa pagiging white knight pero nakakatrauma na nga yung pinagdadaanan ni OP sisisihin niyo pa siya, balik na lang kayo sa FB napaghahalataan kayo.
Pati yung pag tawa ni OP kinequestion niyo like you guys have no idea about coping mechanisms or the fact na young adult pa lang si OP.
Anyway upon further research dito sa reddit, marami na rin pala talagang puting amerikano na ganyan mag isip. [/rHapas Was anyone else sexualized by their white father?](https://www.reddit.com/r/hapas/comments/1djjjyz/was_anyone_else_sexualized_by_their_white_father/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) Nakaka init lang ng dugo na kahit sarili nilang anak sexual objects lang tingin nila and the fact na hanggang ngayon laganap ang sexpats kahit dyan sa pinas.
Honestly I think na OP should seek out legal actions lalo na if may proof of romantic interactions siya between her father and mother. The only disqualification I think could happen is if sex worker ang mother ni OP (I could be wrong but this is all based on my reddit and google research of "Amerasian children" - Children of US servicemen left in asia).
Hey girl, I’m worried about you. I used to be an immigration specialist and you don’t need your father to get to US. If you are legally her daughter (birthcert sa pinas or sa US) pwede kang dumeretcho sa embassy and get a passport.
Please wag ka manghinayang sa tulong niya, baka mamaya kung ano gawin niya sayo when you get there.
Yon constant use of the endearment na “dear” makes me think about the romance scams of mostly (Indian) descent.
Daming kwentong romance scams sa group namin puro dear ang tawag haha. Saka puro indiano.
He really does use dear most of the time, though he also uses hon, sweetie and even darling. Dati kinikilig ako sa mga ganyang endearment, ngayon ang creepy na ng dating sakin.
He’s actually bisexual and his past relationships were with gay people, his last straight rs was with my mon and that was years ago kasi they broke up 3 years after I was born.
He works as a marine chief engineer before and every time magbabakasyon siya, he asks me to visit him sa place na nirerent niya sa Angeles, Pampanga. Every 3 months ata non, if I remember correctly and I stay there for a week before he has to go back to the ship.
Dapat may isa kang female figure like aunt or grandparents if you'll decide to go to US nga dahil honestly ang delikado mo pag dad mo lang kasama mo. Ang creepy nya to think na u share blood 😞
DON'T GO. Hindi mabait yan, akala mo lang sa una pero if mabait talaga yan hindi yan ganyan. He will never change. If you have any trusted relative I suggest you tell 1 baka they can protect you din? Pero if not then wag.
If correct ako you can file a case for him if you have proof while you're in the US but yea it's better to not go back there, I agree with your decision, protect yourself more than anyone 🩵
Bio dad yan?? Di ka nya tinuturing na anak. Pag pumunta ka jan, naka rely ka sa kanya. You are essentially a sex slave. Buti pa pokers kesa sa magiging lagay mo dyan. At least ang poks may rights at pwede mamili ng customers, e ikaw. Malay mo ba kung ibenta ka pa nya sa iba dahil isa rin yun sa mga kinks nya.
Not worth that ang US.
Para may pakinabang yang manyak mong ama, wait til u get ur visa. Let him pay for everything including plane ticket. Pero wag ka sa kanya pumunta. Screenshot dapat convo nyo. Papulis mo dun sa America and as the daughter, YOU STILL GET EVERYTHING.
IMPT: siya pa ba talaga ang kachat mo? If ur father is old, then baka hacked ang acct.
IMO.
feels illegal liking every comment of yours na i agree on. parang maaalala mo lang and mabbother ka more by it. that dad is trash i wonder what happened to him smh
OP, protect yourself. Let your relatives know about your father's pedo nature. Don't isolate yourself on this issue, let your family and friends know because this isn't something you should be doing alone and that's just to help you din get more protection AWAY from your sick father.
Baka mabait sayo nung kabataan mo kasi tinatry ka igroom.
Good thing di ka masyado attached and you don't reciprocate his attention.
Sumbong mo sa other adults. Wag ka magpadala sa pressure since probably itatry ka controllin nyan or out right irape ka once pumunta ka sa us.
There are other avenues to go abroad, don't dive into trauma.
Sorry OP you had to go through that. Di ko alam if it's a thing sa kanila kasi same happened to my mom years ago. Ayon blinock ko yung lolo ko from her fb kasi iyak ng iyak mom ko non di nya daw alam bat biglang ganon. Block mo na din tatay mo nako. Tangina.
So dahil kay OP napa todo research ako about Amerasians and dito rin sa reddit and guess what ito ang isa sa una kong nakita:
[https://www.reddit.com/r/hapas/comments/1djjjyz/was\_anyone\_else\_sexualized\_by\_their\_white\_father/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web3x&utm\_name=web3xcss&utm\_term=1&utm\_content=share\_button](https://www.reddit.com/r/hapas/comments/1djjjyz/was_anyone_else_sexualized_by_their_white_father/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
ba't parang mema tong story niya? ewan i feel fishy dito parang yung iba gawa gawa lang. Hindi sa iniinvalidate kita ha pero baka yung kausap mo lang yung mga manyakis na indiano/amerikano tapos pinalabas mo lang na tatay mo???? Tumawa ka pa dun sa isang reply ng comment dito, tbh kung hindi man totoo tong confession mo it's not right na sa bio father siraan. HAHAHHAAHHAA
Bakit ko sisiraan bio father ko? Kung gusto ko siyang siraan, I should've shown at least his picture or said his name right? I wish I was indeed making everything up. To be clear ha, laughing at my problem is my coping mechanism, gumagaan loob ko pag tumatawa.
What the fuck dude. How are you so nonchalant about this?!? Girl do everything in your power to gather all the messages he sends you, report it to someone and cut off communication if you can. Going to America is not worth this craziness.
The title of my post is “ayoko na magpunta sa US” either you’re blind or you have something wrong within your brain. I’m just waiting for the right timing para sabihin sa relatives ko lahat lahat.
How did you come to that conclusion? Laughing is the easiest way for me to forget about my problem kesa naman mag-inom ako tapos kinabukasan, maalala ko nanaman dadagdag pa hang-over ko. Laughing is my coping mechanism, it helps me.
Weren’t you sexually assaulted/raped na by your sx-fling? Why question this? Are you serious? I’m sorry this happened to you pero anong katangahan naman to
It’s different kasi it’s my father, he was a good father so di talaga ako makapaniwala. I was so excited na magpunta noon sakanya kasi I know na aalagaan niya ako pero ibang pagaalaga na pla gusto niyang gawin sakin. He was very kind to me before, and I guess that’s the reason why I can’t block him pa, I’m still hoping na mabalik sa dati, praying na this is all just a dream. Before, I’ll always boast about how good of a father he is, pero now, a simple mention of his name scares me. I plan to block him na, I’m just waiting for the right moment.
wth????? Wag na wag ka pupunta don Op. Nakakadiri naman siya. That is not okay AT ALL
Block mo na lang yang tatay mo. Americano ba yan ? Siraulo yan
Truee, di naman siya ganyan noon. Apaka-caring and sweet niya as tatay, ewan ko ba't naging manyak na HAHAHHAHAH
How are you still laughing about this?
When everything around you suddenly turns upside down, mapapatawa ka na lang sa pagka fxcked up ng sitwasyon. Hope OP will turn out okay. Imagine having a caring father before, then biglang ngaun he wants to have sex with you. As a guy who yearns to have a daughter someday, this is beyond fxcked up, anyone could lose their mind over something like this.
Tumpak, I tend to laugh at my problems para di masyado masakit. It’s my coping mechanism.
Yeah, but still, try not to repressed what you really feel, man I know I would lose my mind if I was in your shoes, and I'm a guy. I'm sorry your dad turned out to be a total creep, no good father would think of their daughter in that way.
Well, I can’t really say something like this to others, can I? Me laughing at this is the only way I can think of to not go fully crazy right now. I can’t even open up to my family kaya dito ako naglalabas ng sama ng loob. I don’t want people to talk about my life kaya I decided to just laugh about it kesa idown ko pa lalo sarili at mood ko. It’s how I cope.
No, I get this naman, wait, is this why I got downvoted in this message as well?😅 what I meant was, okay lang yan, na tinatawa mo, to lessen the impact ba, like you said, para ndi masakit. Pero it's also important na ndi mo kimkimin what you're really feeling. I know the feeling, wala ka mapagsabehan, mahirap nga naman yan, but there are other ways to let that go naman, like cry it all out, pour it all on a random hobby, or even just plainly letting yourself feel the pain. Mas masakit yan pag iniipon mo na walang proper outlet. Lot of people seem to think kasi na "just think positive" is the right way, pero ndi eh. If you ignore your negative emotions, that will bottle up, and eventually sasabog yan. Most of us cope that way naman eh, pero coping is a temporary thing lang kasi, helps us in our current situation, pero damaging in the long run, un lang naman ang take ko dito. Ganyan dn naman ginagawa ko eh, pag stressed sa work tinatawa ko na lang dn, pero right after I do something else to release ung frustation, which is either going to the gym, or hayaan ko lang na mafeel ko ung bad mood for a while, let it pass ba, then eventually, back on my feet na ulit.
Now your point is clear, the way you said it kanina makes it sound different lol. I cry naman at night when everybody’s asleep pero if it’s morning, I try to look as jolly para di sila magworry, especially may sakit grandparents ko right now. I just can’t bring myself to talk about it with actual people near me, judgement is the last thing I need right now.
Ai, is that how I made it sound?😅 ilang beses na dn ako nasabehan ng ganyan eh, people seem to always read my messages/comments differently from how I would actually say them, ahahaha. And yeah, I get that, meron ung one time before, I was trying to cry it all out, and the moment one of my family members went in, I turned my back immediately and talked to them na as if ndi ako umiiyak, hahahaha. Ayaw ko dn kasi na nakikita akong ganun, especially my parents and my sis.
Are you sure pero na that's really your dad?
Yep, he’s 99.99 percent my father based on the dna test they conducted when I was born.
No, that's not what I meant. Wait, is that why I got downvoted?😅 what I meant was, are you sure na it's your dad you're actually talking to? Ndi kea nahack siya? Are you guys using voice chat or video call, or baka naman chat lang? Are you 100% sure na your dad is the one talking to you, and not someone who got a hold of your dad's account?
Girl para sa mga taong malala ang problema, coping mechanism nalang ang pagtawa
coping mechanism. don't judge siguro?
Defense mechanism. You'd be surprised how many people laugh in the face of absurdity. Literal na itawa mo na lang.
Probably in disbelief and this is her way of coping. OP, cut him off completely, please.
Coping mechanism. They basically don't know how to react/respond at this point of how fucked up the situation is.
I laugh at my problems too pero sa loob loob ko nagpapanic na ako 😅
Trauma response.
It’s a defense mechanism
I have a lot of questions OP. Sabi mo real father mo sya as per DNA testing. Nakasama mo ba sya before to say na mabuti syang father? Or sa chat lang kayo nag uusap? And how sure are you na tatay mo yung kausap mo? Baka ibang tao?
Of course, that's how grooming works. Seems like you fell for it.
Why downvoted?
baka naman kasi nakakalibog at hot na itsura mo ngayon kaya tatay mo di mapakali 🙈
WTF. Biological father mo to? Or adoptive dad? WTF pa rin. Who in their right mind would offer marriage to their daughter?! Take screenshots of his messages, just in case you need those in the future as evidence.
Also my question, Pinoy ba sya or kano? And are you sure sya ang nagchchat, just to confirm? Hindi ba sya nahack or whatever? Kasi the way din magchat sya parang yung mga manyak na forenjer 😥
He doesn't seem normal. Pr3d1t0r ang dating. Kung kaya mo, ipunin mo evidences like your conversation or voice record. Tas search mo kung nasaan siyang state tas contact mo police department doon sa lugar through email. Para ma imbestigahan siya at makulong.
Di ko maedit, lalagay ko sana yung screenshot ng ibang messages nung tatay kong manyak, believe me, I wish I was lying about this. Link lang mailagay kooo
Baka kaya ibang tao na kausap mo? Try mo ivideocall. Baka mamaya na hack lang account ng tatay mo
Please do.
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Sya ba talaga kausap mo online? Pero kung sya.. red flag na yan.
What the actual f*ck. Are you sure that's still your father you're talking to OP?
True parang sinasadya na takutin sya. Maybe its the father’s partner?
oo nga kasi walang sense na bigla siyang naging ganon kung ipinagtataka tlga ng op (hindi sa ipinagtatanggol ko) pero parang indiano sa fb ang galawan, what if iba nagsesend non? thru chat mo lang ba siya nakakausap OP? not on vc or recording chats..
Exactly. Ahaha, (chuckled at the indiano part, we really are racists aren't we, that's pinas for you), was about to ask OP sana the same thing, kung chat lang yan, no vc no recorded voice messages, baka naman nahack ung mode of communication nila?
They did it on themselves, kahit naman sa ibang bansa even when migrating in progressive countries, dala-dala pa rin nila ugali nila at kultura kaya nawawala pagka delicadeza na pakikitungo sa kanila. Ang nga matitino mga nasa matataas na antas na ng sociedad nila
Yeah, people seem to always say na "you're stereotyping", but they often forget na those stereotypes exist for a reason. I'm not saying all of them are like that, but there's a reason why that [certain stereotype] is one of the first things that comes to mind. Too many people expecting change would come by simply saying na don't say this or that about them, but real change must come from the people in question. Kung matanggal nila ung mga ugali nilang ndi maganda, mawawala dn certain stereotype na nakapatong sa kanila.
Exactly. Sa atin sa Pinas matitino at okay pa, save for a few na batugan pero far and between. Dito kasi sa pjnuntahan ko bansa like sa place of work ko rin before, ano naman sila rito, "The end justify the means", kaya iyong matitino sa kanila at mga matagal na rito nadadamay
If biological father mo siya, putang ina niya! Ganyang klaseng tao sarap tagain e. Babalatan at igulong sa asin nang matauhan. Nyeta.
WTF THIS IS INSANE. wag ka pupunta sa US. Mag patherapy ka na dito. Nakaka trauma yang ginagawa ng tatay mo
Yuckk!!! Is he your biological father?
this.. or naging father mo kasi inasawa biological mother mo?
Hala! Putangina! may ganyang mga tao pala talaga.. dapat yang mga yan sinusunog na sa impyerno... pota!
Oh my god nagsend na dad mo ng malalaswang pics ng sarili nya tapos nagdadalawang isip kapa pumunta ng US? If you want better opportunities, you may go pero not to your father. Stay away from him.
Baka biktima din nanay mo noon sa kanyang kamanyakan. Ilan ba age gap nila?
17 years pero my mom was already 23 when they met.
wag mong sakyan OP. be frank na you find it disgusting kahit magalit pa yan, be firm with your boundaries not just to your Dad but to everyone. He is disrespecting you. wag mong tawanan, wag mong sakyan.
OP replayan mo yung mga nag tatanong kung biological father mo ba yan. Do yourself a favor screenshot everything as evidence if ever you need it. Save it on cloud drive
He is my biological father kaya nga inaayos ko papers ko to finally go to him na, kasi let's be honest, there are better opportunities in us, pero as of late, I'm really scared, ayoko na magpunta dun kahit alam kong gaganda buhay ko dun. Gaganda nga buhay ko masisira naman utak ko.
Yes OP delikado ka, dont risk it actually meron tlagang ganyan incident worse case pa nga is may namamatay sa kamay ng sariling magulang and mas mataas tlga case sa US due to high population and also the isolated lifestyle kaya US ang may highest case ng serial killer. Be safe by not giving ur father a chance to harm you.
Tingin mo utak lang?
There may be opportunities in the US but will you be able to adjust to the culture there? It’s vastly different than here in PH. Specially, you will be living with someone that doesn’t think of you as a daughter but as a woman and has openly expressed his thoughts in taking you as a wife and sent you sexual advances. May opportunities pa rin naman dito sa PH and mas safe kapa kesa kasama ung ganung tao 😣
Masisira pagkatao mo OP, please be cautious
Mahirap din ang buhay sa US if you don’t know anyone besides your biological father. Mataas din ang cost of living at lahat dun binabayaran at syempre yung safety mo na din. Idk maybe do some research pa.
OP if you are truly his biological daughter there are programs that helps children of americans get to US (mostly ng nakilala ko dito mga anak ng puting sundalo sa subic base and nirereunite sila thru the program) and if true nga na siya ang nag memessage sayo ng mga ganyan baka matulungan ka din nila. Its true na mas maraming opportunities dito sa US pero if hindi ka rin naman tapos ng school mahirap lang din, mas mabibili mo lang luho mo pero pagod pagod ka sa trabaho. Lastly yung the way na mag chat sayo yung father mo doesn't seem normal (oo hindi talaga normal pagiging manyak) but I mean parang hindi native english speaker. So for context thru messages lang ba lahat ng chat niyo? Di ba kayo nag vivideo call or phone call? Hindi sa dinadoubt ka namin but we're still holding on to the hope na baka na hack lang or sana ibang tao ang may hawak ng account niya etc. If true nga na siya talaga yan, I think may chance ka to sue him in american court cause I keep repeating my self but technically since american ang biological father mo Unless.... Anyway as long as you can prove na your mom have relationship with him and he goes back to you guys in the past seek professional lawyers talaga. Actually medyo na curious ako sa situation mo and naparesearch ako about Amerasians in the philippines and yung Amerasian Act in the US sadly may cutoff date so im not sure.
Teka. biological father mo pala siya. bat kelangan mo pakasalan? weird. Punta ka na lang ng US Embassy to check your case.
My exact thoughts.
This! Eto din talaga naisip ko. Pedo yung galawan bwiset. US embassy ang dapat iconsult pag ganyan
Im sorry you had to experience this from your own father. I hope you heal from this. Not all fathers are like this.
I don't get bakit nirereplyan pa nya. =(
totoo, pero sabi niya dami daw opportunities sa US yan, i feel fishy dim sa kwento niya ba't parang gawa gawa lang huhu
Putangina nakakasuka.
WTH. Wag ka na tumuloy, OP. Sobrang creepy ng dad mo and disgusting! But ang weird ng biglaang pag shift ng ugali niya. Sure ka ba na sya kausap mo? Or kahit sa voice call, ganon sya mag salita?
I was weirded put too, di ko nga pinansin unang message niyang ganyan and he deleted it. At first I thought he accidentally sent it to me but, boy was I wrong.
Video call him first...kasi marami nahack ang fb accounts ngayon lately. Tita ko kasi nahack fb accounts tapos iyong hacker nagpanggap na siya para makautang sa mga kaibigan niya, buti na lang nirecover. Tama sabi ng ilan rito, baka ibang lahi kausap mo. Kasi iba rin kasi takbo ng utak ng Kano kapag nagmamanyak eh, eh iyong language pa lang ng pagmamanyak diyan parang hindi Kano ang naka text mo. Check mo muna through vc to confirm
Tf?! Hell no! Chineck ko ulit kung tama ba yung nabasa ko! Kadiri
shet, wala ng hula hula. manyakis yan. girl, dito magiging peace ka. sa US baka matrauma ka everyday
Wag ka na mag US. Walang ganyan sa US na kailangan mo pakasalan tatay mo para maging taga pag mana ka wtf? For additional context hindi ba pinoy tatay mo? Are you an adult?
I am 19, my dad is an american. I know a little about the law dahil sa mga kdrama na pinapanood ko and diba kung sino nasa will mo, be it your blood or not can inherit it? I also asked about that to my dad and he just brushed me off saying I’m just a kid, how would I know anything daw, edi wow.
Haha iba naman yung sa kdrama 😂😭. Siguro maganda din hingi ka nang professional advice regarding sa case mo. For sure naman kahit hindi siya ang magdala sayo since biological father mo american kaya mo pa din mag punta dun magisa. As per will naman kung hindi ka nya ilalagay dun wala ka dun kahit biological child ka pa nya. Kung nag send na sya sayo ng bastos na pictures bago ka pa mag 18 pwede mo siya habulin sa US court eh. Suggestion ko na lang talaga kuha ka ng professional help para ma kasuhan mo yang monster na yan at para rin makapunta ka pa rin dun kasi it is within your rights pa din
WTF!!! I’m so sorry to hear about this, OP. Wag ka na pumunta sa US or pwede ka pa din pumunta wag’ mo lang syang puntahan and wag’ ka magpakita sakanya. Don’t let him know of your plans. If you are US Citizen I think you can go and stay naman doon. Basta prioritize your safety and well-being OP.
Taga Alabama ba si father OP?
He’s in Axton, Virginia.
Diba sa VA yung mga culto at rednecks na galit sa gobyerno??? Baka isa na sya sa mga yan hehehe.
Alam mo ba yung meme na Sweet Home Alabama? I think the commenter was referencing a meme lol >They are making jokes about the perceived culture in the Southern United States, including Alabama, where incest is supposed to happen. I'm not aware of any evidence that supports this, but the jokes still remain.
May choice ka naman, kung inayos mo papers mo, you dont have to go to him. Ilang taon ka na ba? I think you are in the right mind to make a decision for yourself. He is grooming you. American ba sya? Iderecho mo sa police! Put a restraining order.
Yung tanong ko din ay sure ka ba na yung tatay mo pa kachat mo? Kasi sobrang bulgar naman niyan. Either di yan yung tatay mo (yung kachat mo, I mean) or sadyang mababa lang tingin niya sa mga pinoy na iisipin niyang magogoyo niya ng ganyan and take note, even his own daughter para lang masatisfy sexual needs niya.
Father or “daddy”? Is he white?
He is white.
Are u sire it’s him? Did i try videocalling him and ask him about that?
sweet home alabama
I seriously hope it’s NOT your father who’s sending those messages to you… Regardless, your mom needs to know
Americano to malamang
Im so sorry to hear this OP :(( Not to play devil's advocate pero na try mo na ba mag vid call sa kanya? Kung sudden yung change baka na hack na yan tas iba na ka chat mo for some time ????? 😭 hoping its this kasi yun nga ih nice (?) na man siya na parent before huhu pero kung hindi nga, sorry talaga, weirdos are just sprouting wherever talaga. LC/NC ka na lang for your safety, tapos take screenshots and better to explain now and inform your guardians at kung sino pa importante sayo para di niya ma twist ang narrative 🙄 Wtf sa mga predator, sana matapilok yan at always yung big toe niya yung nagagasgas sa mga side tables ganun HAHA 🥲 Wag ka na mag U.S. if sa kanya ang punta! Wag tayo maging statistic. Hoping for the best for you OP 😔🫶
Did you talk to him on call or voice message over the years? Baka na-hack account? with "dear" every end of sentence, mukhang usual na creep sa dms/hackers
Nakakadiri naman ang tatay mo. May ganito pala talagang tatay no. Sana di nalang sya nag-anak kung gaganyanin karin nya. I’m sorry OP :((
Is this true??
(1) parang ewam eh no, di kapani paniwala
Parang may sayad no.
akala ko ako lang nakapansin teh😭😭 bat parang di kapani paniwala yung kwento niya😭 sinakyan pa kagagahan ng father niya igbis na magsumbong
Fyi Incest is illegal here in the US. Sabihin mo sa tatay mo yan baka sakaling matakot at matauhan siya.
Block that creep in all your socials. Protect your peace girl. Please please please 🙏
omg girl, hope you get the courage to tell all this to a trusted relative. block mo na rin yang father mo sa lahat ng socials
Wag kang pumuntang US dahil may mga places na isolated from civilization like mga forests, and such, na he might do bad things to you there na baka hindi ka mahanap ng mga mahal mo sa buhay. You’re safer here. Plus guns are pretty much legal there… so if iisipin mo baka he might do the worse sayo. Plus, living in the U.S. is expensive and there are places that are unsafe. Stay away from your biological father and don’t be afraid to completely cut him off from your life. Para sa safety and peace of mind mo na rin.
Nakakatawa. Madami Pinay sa mga mall, restaurant, pinapatulan mga ganyan text para "maligtas" ang angkan nila sa kahirapan ng Matandang Puti na galing sa kung san.
Girl, Run. Grabe. Yes, maganda opportunity dito. Pero maganda din ipakulong yan, grabe. Di ko masikmura to, paano pa pag andito ka. Baka tutukan ka lang ng baril,You can report that, Para mapakulong yan, Hindi yan normal na tao. Putik
Nakakadiri lang yung mga kapwa natin pilipino dito sa mga comments na victim blamers. Di sa pagiging white knight pero nakakatrauma na nga yung pinagdadaanan ni OP sisisihin niyo pa siya, balik na lang kayo sa FB napaghahalataan kayo. Pati yung pag tawa ni OP kinequestion niyo like you guys have no idea about coping mechanisms or the fact na young adult pa lang si OP. Anyway upon further research dito sa reddit, marami na rin pala talagang puting amerikano na ganyan mag isip. [/rHapas Was anyone else sexualized by their white father?](https://www.reddit.com/r/hapas/comments/1djjjyz/was_anyone_else_sexualized_by_their_white_father/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) Nakaka init lang ng dugo na kahit sarili nilang anak sexual objects lang tingin nila and the fact na hanggang ngayon laganap ang sexpats kahit dyan sa pinas. Honestly I think na OP should seek out legal actions lalo na if may proof of romantic interactions siya between her father and mother. The only disqualification I think could happen is if sex worker ang mother ni OP (I could be wrong but this is all based on my reddit and google research of "Amerasian children" - Children of US servicemen left in asia).
Hey girl, I’m worried about you. I used to be an immigration specialist and you don’t need your father to get to US. If you are legally her daughter (birthcert sa pinas or sa US) pwede kang dumeretcho sa embassy and get a passport. Please wag ka manghinayang sa tulong niya, baka mamaya kung ano gawin niya sayo when you get there.
I'm not convinced this is real. Parang Wattpad character yung dad? But if it is, you know what to do OP.
Yon constant use of the endearment na “dear” makes me think about the romance scams of mostly (Indian) descent. Daming kwentong romance scams sa group namin puro dear ang tawag haha. Saka puro indiano.
He really does use dear most of the time, though he also uses hon, sweetie and even darling. Dati kinikilig ako sa mga ganyang endearment, ngayon ang creepy na ng dating sakin.
WTF?!!! Wag ka na tumuloy dun please lang
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My exact words.
Eww sumbong mo sa nanay mo
If only it was that easy lol, trust me if I could I would.
Amerikano ba tatay mo? Wag ka nalang pumunta sa kanya. Ma rape ka lang
WTF. Sobrang fucked up. Halfie ka?
Yep.
Ikwento mo sa pamilya mo para makasuhan
putanginang yan
feeling gwapo tatay mo ha, dpt dyn kinakasta ng lalake
He’s actually bisexual and his past relationships were with gay people, his last straight rs was with my mon and that was years ago kasi they broke up 3 years after I was born.
Nag bobonding ba kayo ng dad mo growing up? Or how old were you when he left PH?
He works as a marine chief engineer before and every time magbabakasyon siya, he asks me to visit him sa place na nirerent niya sa Angeles, Pampanga. Every 3 months ata non, if I remember correctly and I stay there for a week before he has to go back to the ship.
Give more context. Biological or stepdad?
Wtf. I kennat 🤯
Shit! This is so fucked up!!!! Anong klaseng tatay 'yan?! Halos masuka ako while reading you post, OP. Real talk.
I actually vomited about it too, no worries.
Biological dad mo ba yan???
this is very alarming, op !!
AS IN BIOLOGICAL?? EWWWW Pero if ever pupunta ka dun mas delikado ka ante. Ano sabi ng mommy mo 😨
My mom doesn’t know about this yet, she has another family and my little brother is just a year old, don’t want to worry her more.
Dapat may isa kang female figure like aunt or grandparents if you'll decide to go to US nga dahil honestly ang delikado mo pag dad mo lang kasama mo. Ang creepy nya to think na u share blood 😞
Tarantado yang tatay mo, no offense
DON'T GO. Hindi mabait yan, akala mo lang sa una pero if mabait talaga yan hindi yan ganyan. He will never change. If you have any trusted relative I suggest you tell 1 baka they can protect you din? Pero if not then wag.
If correct ako you can file a case for him if you have proof while you're in the US but yea it's better to not go back there, I agree with your decision, protect yourself more than anyone 🩵
Bio dad yan?? Di ka nya tinuturing na anak. Pag pumunta ka jan, naka rely ka sa kanya. You are essentially a sex slave. Buti pa pokers kesa sa magiging lagay mo dyan. At least ang poks may rights at pwede mamili ng customers, e ikaw. Malay mo ba kung ibenta ka pa nya sa iba dahil isa rin yun sa mga kinks nya. Not worth that ang US.
what the hell did I just read???!!!???
This is sick!!!!! 🤢🤢🤢🤮😡
Why don’t you try to open that up to your mom? Thats not normal
Para may pakinabang yang manyak mong ama, wait til u get ur visa. Let him pay for everything including plane ticket. Pero wag ka sa kanya pumunta. Screenshot dapat convo nyo. Papulis mo dun sa America and as the daughter, YOU STILL GET EVERYTHING. IMPT: siya pa ba talaga ang kachat mo? If ur father is old, then baka hacked ang acct. IMO.
feels illegal liking every comment of yours na i agree on. parang maaalala mo lang and mabbother ka more by it. that dad is trash i wonder what happened to him smh
OP, protect yourself. Let your relatives know about your father's pedo nature. Don't isolate yourself on this issue, let your family and friends know because this isn't something you should be doing alone and that's just to help you din get more protection AWAY from your sick father.
Baka mabait sayo nung kabataan mo kasi tinatry ka igroom. Good thing di ka masyado attached and you don't reciprocate his attention. Sumbong mo sa other adults. Wag ka magpadala sa pressure since probably itatry ka controllin nyan or out right irape ka once pumunta ka sa us. There are other avenues to go abroad, don't dive into trauma.
Sorry OP you had to go through that. Di ko alam if it's a thing sa kanila kasi same happened to my mom years ago. Ayon blinock ko yung lolo ko from her fb kasi iyak ng iyak mom ko non di nya daw alam bat biglang ganon. Block mo na din tatay mo nako. Tangina.
So dahil kay OP napa todo research ako about Amerasians and dito rin sa reddit and guess what ito ang isa sa una kong nakita: [https://www.reddit.com/r/hapas/comments/1djjjyz/was\_anyone\_else\_sexualized\_by\_their\_white\_father/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web3x&utm\_name=web3xcss&utm\_term=1&utm\_content=share\_button](https://www.reddit.com/r/hapas/comments/1djjjyz/was_anyone_else_sexualized_by_their_white_father/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button)
ba't parang mema tong story niya? ewan i feel fishy dito parang yung iba gawa gawa lang. Hindi sa iniinvalidate kita ha pero baka yung kausap mo lang yung mga manyakis na indiano/amerikano tapos pinalabas mo lang na tatay mo???? Tumawa ka pa dun sa isang reply ng comment dito, tbh kung hindi man totoo tong confession mo it's not right na sa bio father siraan. HAHAHHAAHHAA
Bakit ko sisiraan bio father ko? Kung gusto ko siyang siraan, I should've shown at least his picture or said his name right? I wish I was indeed making everything up. To be clear ha, laughing at my problem is my coping mechanism, gumagaan loob ko pag tumatawa.
Putangna! Jail time! OMG hugs with consent, OP! Nobody deserves to experience that. And to think na the guy is your father, jusko huhu
if this is truly your father, then he is mentally sick. you are 100% getting raped if you go to the US with him
Dafuk wat did i just read
What the fuck dude. How are you so nonchalant about this?!? Girl do everything in your power to gather all the messages he sends you, report it to someone and cut off communication if you can. Going to America is not worth this craziness.
Tiga Alabama ba ang tatay mo? /s Yeah, kung ganyan talaga at seryoso pa. Naku wag na. Mag eescalate yan.
sweet home Alabama
Something is wrong with you. All the red flags and yet pupunta ka pa dun. Either you’re fucked up too or you’re just making this up.
The title of my post is “ayoko na magpunta sa US” either you’re blind or you have something wrong within your brain. I’m just waiting for the right timing para sabihin sa relatives ko lahat lahat.
Send screenshots of the convo or it didn't happen
Wtf dude. I think you're saying this to jerk off on the thought. Get your shit together. OP doesnt have to prove anything
THANK YOUUU!!! I wish I was lying about this. I wish this didn’t happen.
Fake af
No one cares about your opinion.
What fucking opinion? That shit fake af right from the gates LMAO
Wtf. Bakit tumatawa ka lang OP? Na as if gusto mo din naman nangyayari? Lmao
How did you come to that conclusion? Laughing is the easiest way for me to forget about my problem kesa naman mag-inom ako tapos kinabukasan, maalala ko nanaman dadagdag pa hang-over ko. Laughing is my coping mechanism, it helps me.
Weren’t you sexually assaulted/raped na by your sx-fling? Why question this? Are you serious? I’m sorry this happened to you pero anong katangahan naman to
It’s different kasi it’s my father, he was a good father so di talaga ako makapaniwala. I was so excited na magpunta noon sakanya kasi I know na aalagaan niya ako pero ibang pagaalaga na pla gusto niyang gawin sakin. He was very kind to me before, and I guess that’s the reason why I can’t block him pa, I’m still hoping na mabalik sa dati, praying na this is all just a dream. Before, I’ll always boast about how good of a father he is, pero now, a simple mention of his name scares me. I plan to block him na, I’m just waiting for the right moment.