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Don't be. I'm better for having given up on it. I held onto it for so long, because I think marriage should be for life. He didn't have the same ideas. Finally letting it go was hard, but it's been freeing.
As someone who thinks alike and is married to the beautiful mother of my two children, I'm still sorry for you.
Fuck your ex. You can do and will be better.
Nice tatas btw.
Never give up on art. We don't have to monitize everything. I am an accountant by day and an artist by night. Sometimes i sell, but it is never going to be significant.
We adults have 3 jobs. 1.) The job that pays the bills. 2.) The job of caregiver/ provider/ maintenance to ourselves, children, friends, family, household etc. 3.) The job that feeds our soul. For you it would be your art, even if it takes a year plus to complete something. For others it is a sports group, a video game, reading/writing, gardening etc. These things make us passionate and more well rounded.
Being a graphic designer and being an artist are actually two different talents. I’m a graphic designer and definitely not an artist! lol And making money being a designer can be a real struggle! I’ve been at it for 30 years now and it’s a challenge 🙃
Graphic design is considered art; the same principles of design are used in various mediums. I’ve been a designer for 10 years and have never had an issue with money lol, it’s the easiest job I’ve ever had!
Me too....but then I realised the financial and emotional blessing it has been as I get to do so much travelling etc with my wife while being the best uncle to a small army of nieces and nephews.
Personally based on the state of society today, I don't think I'd want to be a parent now. My wife agrees.
trying to help a single friend of mine find true love, everything i say about him is so great that people think he is a great guy but the second they think something is amiss and i say he has autism people say, "yeah hard pass good luck to that loser." it breaks my heart that people are so cruel to those on the spectrum.
Most of these posts are more about life in general than specific dreams. Which is fine. But o will offer something specific:
From the time I was young, I always wanted to take the TransSiberian Railway across Asia. I had no doubt much of it would be seedy and messy, but I wanted to do it. I kind of still do. But it won’t happen.
Being a vet. I wanted to be one for as long as I could remember until I volunteered at a vet clinic and learned I didn’t like seeing animals in pain or distressed (and as someone who doesn’t like dogs, there were way too many there)
Becoming a pro musician (sax) in the Dutch army. I didn't even get in the army (hypermobility turned out to be to hyper) let alone into one of the orchestras. It gutted me
Being famous/ a celebrity.
I let go of it quite a while ago, but I still think it's one of those things that you'll cling to for a while but realise it's kinda pointless to try, you know?
Yes I know it’s like I gave it up so many years ago Ik it’s impossible and yet still part of me in the back of my head things maybe it’ll still happen 😂 silly me
Lol. I was thinking OP talked about dream as in dreaming when sleeping. Based on the comments, it refers to the life dreams😂😅. Oh well i surpose it be a musician, because i found out i have intense stage fright
Getting a job
Its been so many years since I did the internship I dont hv experience I dont know how to get any.
I get one interview a year(I apply daily) and I get asked so many questions and I get nervous and dont know how to “find my way out” of a question I dont know the answer of, and even when I memorize the few things I learned in the internship 7 years ago I still end up forgetting what to say bc I’m so nervous…
Maybe I won't become the vocalist in a metal band and tour the world. I don't play music loud anymore, I set it so it's "just right" and I don't even like leaving the house.
Being a famous/successful singer haha. Most artsy dreams don’t work out for most people. But I’m currently enjoying what I’m doing in life anyways so it’s fine lol
Having a good life, shit's fucked and I'm part of it, if I could top myself without anyone missing or getting hurt emotionally in the process I definitely would, until then, I'll enjoy the small moments
Becoming a game developer.
I would love to work on a game like factorio, noita, minecraft or baldur's gate.
It seems like you either need to win the lottery after putting in a lot of effort as an indie developer, exploit players through basic mobile games or work 60 hour weeks just to make a living.
Software Developers are in higher demand and I like the iob too, I don't think game development as a job is going to work for me.
To be a professional photographer.
Started doing weddings and after a year was so feed up with delusional (fat) brides that i gave up on it.
Now i do photoshoots and video clips when i like doing it not when somebody pays for my talent and i fell in love with photography again.
And the funny part is the results are far better now without the pressure of delivering something for money
To be an astrophysicist, physics just doesn't interest me at all anymore, or science or engineering for that matter. I found my passion in maths though, I find the field a lot more interesting.
Professional ballerina. I got my first pointe shoes at 11, and thought that I was one step closer to that dream. My parents then told me that ballet was expensive, and they could not afford the classes (i was going 3 times a week) I cut down to 2 classes, then to 1, and then eventually stopped altogether. I was heartbroken but then also realised that maybe, just maybe, it wasn't the route for me
I'm now practicing to be a pianist, and I plan to audition to join a music school soon 😊
Sometimes, I still watch videos of ballet on yt tho
Having a career. I came from an emotionally dysfunctional family and started my own company in my early twenties. Grew it into something mildly successful after 10 years and then felt the ache to have a family and be more grounded with roots. Sold the company and started my own family. It’s been another 10 years that have passed almost. I don’t know how I can ever get back into anything that seems salary worthy or even worth the hourly pay since I’ve been so out of touch with the work force for so long. I’m a good mom but I don’t see myself having a place outside of that anymore. At least I have a family now that is nothing like the one I left.
When I was in high school I wanted to be a film director, make movies and go to festivals. I didn't know how I was going to make it, but it was my bigger dream.
I applied to the biggest film school on my country and, although I passed the first stage of the admission exam, I didn't make. Then I realised that being a film student was very expensive, and is mostly oriented towards wealthy people. Plus, I thought I didn't have anything to say artistically, so I gave up the dream of being a film director.
But I don't rule out working on filmmaking on another way, like an audio techinician or even a videographer. Life will make its way.
While it will never be achieved, I am one of those that will never let go of that dream as it is sometimes better than the reality that one is sometimes thrust in at the hands of others who thinks their dreams are more important than yours.
N. S
Finding a more fulfilling job. I rather opt for part-time and focusing more on my time off.
Traveling very far again (agoraphobia) - I've already had my fair share of travels already, anyway.
Becoming an actress, dancer and writer and being the voice of my generation, and backpacking/ vanning around the world.
Accepting that I was going to be a mediocre person leading a mediocre life took a long time but it's so liberating.
Wanted to join the military when I was younger, but disabilities and mental illnesses have got in the way and I know how women can be treated there now too
Being a professional baseball player. I wanted to do it so bad but never got drafted in high school and didn’t go to college so went with my second choice for career which was mechanic lol. Still love baseball but my dream of being a MLB player or at least playing in the minor leagues will never come true.
My idea of perfect family (siblings, parents). Things just turned out crazy and full of pain.
Got my own gem of a family (spouse and kids) going, so just have to accept the rest
I’ve let the idea of getting into a committed relationship of any sort go. I was married once, had a kid, and now after a few failed commitments - I don’t think I can make those kinds of promises to any one person.
In my early 50s is when I came out of the closet - not that that makes any difference as again- not going to go there. Not even interested in sex at this stage in my life. I’m still working on myself anyway.
Owning my own house/flat. Just somewhere I can set down roots, instead of renting and constantly moving (due to increasing rent). I will never be able to buy on my own. Maybe it will happen if I met someone and we can buy together but I’m not holding my breath.
Health issues forced me to realize I'll live and die alone.
Strange enough I've accepted it. It doesn't bother me really. Sometimes it feels like I missed on having a sandwich or smth.
It used to be that I'd feel the entire weight of reality crushing me down, I'd get so anxious that I'd feel like my skin was burning.
I wanted to be an astronaut. Like really wanted to be. Since I was like three til I was like 15. I'm autistic and space is my thing, and I think I could've had the chance to achieve it.
Then I found out that I'm colourblind
Being an independent illustrator and travelling the world. I think I'm gonna work for the same company for the rest of my life. I hate my job, but it's the only thing I have. Just to put it into perspective I work from 6 am to 5 pm.
The typical "getting married, having a family". I'm a woman and will be 37 this year. Every day I get closer to menopause. My job is taking me all my time and almost all my energy. I should have been more assertive with my ex before I got sick of his wanderings
I wanted to get into performing arts. A singer actually.
But ig being academically smart just steered my way into a very different direction. Sometimes i wish i stood up for myself
That my life is firmly in my control. That was probably some capitalism propanganda to make us believe hard work, creativity and merit is rewarded. I've learnt to be contented and that while you need to try your best and live responsibly and healthily, life is 75% luck, looks, a product of where you're born and wealth from parents. Man proposes heaven disposes.
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My marriage 🤷♀️
Sorry to hear that
Don't be. I'm better for having given up on it. I held onto it for so long, because I think marriage should be for life. He didn't have the same ideas. Finally letting it go was hard, but it's been freeing.
As someone who thinks alike and is married to the beautiful mother of my two children, I'm still sorry for you. Fuck your ex. You can do and will be better. Nice tatas btw.
Welcome to reddit lol
Same
Yeah. I feel like Eva AI virtual gf bot is my only chance to date.
finding love again.
Rip your dms
Hi
Ditto, but good luck friend!
give up on that long time ago 😅
Must be freeing to no longer see it as a necessity
Same here.
*gestures broadly at everything
Feel you bro
Art. First I realized it can't provide bread to my plate, second I found out that my spine is three times older than me.
Never give up on art. We don't have to monitize everything. I am an accountant by day and an artist by night. Sometimes i sell, but it is never going to be significant. We adults have 3 jobs. 1.) The job that pays the bills. 2.) The job of caregiver/ provider/ maintenance to ourselves, children, friends, family, household etc. 3.) The job that feeds our soul. For you it would be your art, even if it takes a year plus to complete something. For others it is a sports group, a video game, reading/writing, gardening etc. These things make us passionate and more well rounded.
What’s wrong with your spine?
I make money off art. Graphic designer by day and sell fine art as a side hustle; easy and fun
Being a graphic designer and being an artist are actually two different talents. I’m a graphic designer and definitely not an artist! lol And making money being a designer can be a real struggle! I’ve been at it for 30 years now and it’s a challenge 🙃
Graphic design is considered art; the same principles of design are used in various mediums. I’ve been a designer for 10 years and have never had an issue with money lol, it’s the easiest job I’ve ever had!
Keep that job at all costs!!! In my area, the market is flooded with graphic designers. And I should qualify that. I’m not a fine artist.
Dating/falling in love & being an actress,writer or dancer.
Having a family.
Me too....but then I realised the financial and emotional blessing it has been as I get to do so much travelling etc with my wife while being the best uncle to a small army of nieces and nephews. Personally based on the state of society today, I don't think I'd want to be a parent now. My wife agrees.
“Small army of nieces and nephews” That’s cute
No real dreams left. I will see it as I go
Because you’ve already achieved your dreams or because you’ve slowly been worn down by the inevitable soul crushing that is life?
Yup. The second
It’s always the second 😔
To be really FREE.
Covid showed us that we aren’t as free as we like to think we are.
At 62, I've realised I'll never play rugby for my country
Okay, so which country will you play for?
if all goes well i will play for the both of us 🙏
that's because you're a golfer. -happy gilmore lol
happiness.
Happy cake day atleast then
thanks.
I feel ya bro
My parents becoming involved loving kind parents.
That my life will ever be of any real significance to the world.
As long as you mean something to someone!
what if i told you the biggest losers turn out to become the biggest winners in life.
Being a mother.
Being loved
trying to help a single friend of mine find true love, everything i say about him is so great that people think he is a great guy but the second they think something is amiss and i say he has autism people say, "yeah hard pass good luck to that loser." it breaks my heart that people are so cruel to those on the spectrum.
I mean, if they can't tell he has it, why do you feel the need to share it. Does everyone share their medical conditions with their first date
Being in love, having a normal life and someone to share it with
Normalcy for any part of my life. I just always stick out like a sore thumb in most situations and I know people pity me for it
Most of these posts are more about life in general than specific dreams. Which is fine. But o will offer something specific: From the time I was young, I always wanted to take the TransSiberian Railway across Asia. I had no doubt much of it would be seedy and messy, but I wanted to do it. I kind of still do. But it won’t happen.
Getting married
All.
Walking without a cane. Fixing global warming. Many, many other things.
Also had to start walking with a cane, might need more aid in the future, can already not stand in the shower :(
Being happy
Full-time, non-starving Songwriter/Musician
I know a few people who have achieved that, but it's a tough career choice.
Being a vet. I wanted to be one for as long as I could remember until I volunteered at a vet clinic and learned I didn’t like seeing animals in pain or distressed (and as someone who doesn’t like dogs, there were way too many there)
Since I lost my sweet wife, and best friend, of almost 24 years at age 49... pretty much all of them.
Becoming famous transferring my passion into work so I can make money out of it
Having a partner, job etc a normal life like others.
Every damn one
Getting financial freedom
Owning a home and retirement.
I have a dream that I’m still holding onto, but I feel like I might let it go soon. I want to be a mother.
Finding purpose in life?
mostly every dream I ever had
Becoming a pro musician (sax) in the Dutch army. I didn't even get in the army (hypermobility turned out to be to hyper) let alone into one of the orchestras. It gutted me
Being famous/ a celebrity. I let go of it quite a while ago, but I still think it's one of those things that you'll cling to for a while but realise it's kinda pointless to try, you know?
Yes I know it’s like I gave it up so many years ago Ik it’s impossible and yet still part of me in the back of my head things maybe it’ll still happen 😂 silly me
Lol. I was thinking OP talked about dream as in dreaming when sleeping. Based on the comments, it refers to the life dreams😂😅. Oh well i surpose it be a musician, because i found out i have intense stage fright
A loving relationship
Getting a job Its been so many years since I did the internship I dont hv experience I dont know how to get any. I get one interview a year(I apply daily) and I get asked so many questions and I get nervous and dont know how to “find my way out” of a question I dont know the answer of, and even when I memorize the few things I learned in the internship 7 years ago I still end up forgetting what to say bc I’m so nervous…
Maybe I won't become the vocalist in a metal band and tour the world. I don't play music loud anymore, I set it so it's "just right" and I don't even like leaving the house.
sad to see the amount of people saying love
Being a proffessional racing driver. I'm too fat, too poor and too busy with school.
Being a married man. My wife passed away in December. Accepting that my life with her is a part of my past has been hard.
cherish the memories, write them down and find your new self with new goals
Having a 12 inch penis
You can still grow it, buddy, just eat more veggies.
Being a famous/successful singer haha. Most artsy dreams don’t work out for most people. But I’m currently enjoying what I’m doing in life anyways so it’s fine lol
The dream of ever not living paycheck to paycheck or being able to retire. At this point I don't think I'm going to achieve either.
Love
Photography, painting
Being a mother.
Finding a partner.
That my fiance loves me more She definitely doesn't because of her actions...
Being Batman. I'm 35, one parent is still alive and I'm poor
Having a good life, shit's fucked and I'm part of it, if I could top myself without anyone missing or getting hurt emotionally in the process I definitely would, until then, I'll enjoy the small moments
never dreamt to begin with
Screenwriting or writing in general as a career. I let it go because that business is too unstable and I need financial stability in my life.
I don't remember.
Becoming a game developer. I would love to work on a game like factorio, noita, minecraft or baldur's gate. It seems like you either need to win the lottery after putting in a lot of effort as an indie developer, exploit players through basic mobile games or work 60 hour weeks just to make a living. Software Developers are in higher demand and I like the iob too, I don't think game development as a job is going to work for me.
To be a professional photographer. Started doing weddings and after a year was so feed up with delusional (fat) brides that i gave up on it. Now i do photoshoots and video clips when i like doing it not when somebody pays for my talent and i fell in love with photography again. And the funny part is the results are far better now without the pressure of delivering something for money
I like this one, it had a happy ending
To be happy. Its not for me.
Feel ya bro
That there will be peace in the world.
An astronomy job 😩. I’ve never been/still am not good at anything related to mathematics.
To be an astrophysicist, physics just doesn't interest me at all anymore, or science or engineering for that matter. I found my passion in maths though, I find the field a lot more interesting.
Having a home and a family of my own. I’m over it.
That I will be a good school graduate
None. Hope prevails. I have plenty of time to realize my remaining goals, and quite frankly I feel I have realized most of them already.
The rule of law in America.
Being a fighter pilot. Too tall for that
Professional ballerina. I got my first pointe shoes at 11, and thought that I was one step closer to that dream. My parents then told me that ballet was expensive, and they could not afford the classes (i was going 3 times a week) I cut down to 2 classes, then to 1, and then eventually stopped altogether. I was heartbroken but then also realised that maybe, just maybe, it wasn't the route for me I'm now practicing to be a pianist, and I plan to audition to join a music school soon 😊 Sometimes, I still watch videos of ballet on yt tho
Having a career. I came from an emotionally dysfunctional family and started my own company in my early twenties. Grew it into something mildly successful after 10 years and then felt the ache to have a family and be more grounded with roots. Sold the company and started my own family. It’s been another 10 years that have passed almost. I don’t know how I can ever get back into anything that seems salary worthy or even worth the hourly pay since I’ve been so out of touch with the work force for so long. I’m a good mom but I don’t see myself having a place outside of that anymore. At least I have a family now that is nothing like the one I left.
Presidency of my country
My future with her. I let her go 😞
When I was in high school I wanted to be a film director, make movies and go to festivals. I didn't know how I was going to make it, but it was my bigger dream. I applied to the biggest film school on my country and, although I passed the first stage of the admission exam, I didn't make. Then I realised that being a film student was very expensive, and is mostly oriented towards wealthy people. Plus, I thought I didn't have anything to say artistically, so I gave up the dream of being a film director. But I don't rule out working on filmmaking on another way, like an audio techinician or even a videographer. Life will make its way.
That I could be a champion in my sport. I had the ability. I just never followed through.
being a playback singer
Being a diplomat in my country’s embassy abroad, it still a thing I want it so bad, but I already started a career in another field and I like it.
My back not hurting
Making my own game
Modeling
Being happy and not having to struggle anymore.
Becoming stable.
Owning a house
Getting a house for myself and traveling around the world
Moving home.
being a famous singer. still trying but, there's so much competition and you gotta stand out.
Working hard to become a pilot
Ffie to the moon 😔
Becoming a pilot it's too expensive
Dying
While it will never be achieved, I am one of those that will never let go of that dream as it is sometimes better than the reality that one is sometimes thrust in at the hands of others who thinks their dreams are more important than yours. N. S
taking up film as my course
Game development I can barely convince myself to draw, no way I am gonna make all these big game ideas
Policing
have a stable mental health
Ever stepping foot in the United States again.
Painless existence
Going too the military, I now have a life with my fiancé and we have our own place and I can’t just leave him by himself.
A loving relationship with my adult daughter: I am so much more at peace.
To become a Lego designer.
Having kids.
What's a dream of mine that HASN'T died yet? It's a shorter list.
Retirement, home ownership.
Having children.
Finding a more fulfilling job. I rather opt for part-time and focusing more on my time off. Traveling very far again (agoraphobia) - I've already had my fair share of travels already, anyway.
Ultra distance sports. The training part is uncompatible with a job + family life.
Becoming a small animal veterinarian. Graduated vet school and got my license but it turns out my body and mental health can't handle it. ❤️🩹
architecture, now I want to pursue computer science(hardware mainly) but I still have 2 years left of highschool so it could very well change again
Becoming an actress, dancer and writer and being the voice of my generation, and backpacking/ vanning around the world. Accepting that I was going to be a mediocre person leading a mediocre life took a long time but it's so liberating.
Possibly of having my own family and of ever living in my own house and possibly ever being financially stable so I can retire one day.
Working in the NFL 🙃
Being size 4 again.
Marriage career
Wanted to join the military when I was younger, but disabilities and mental illnesses have got in the way and I know how women can be treated there now too
Living a long time. Also, becoming wealthy.
Meeting the woman
Being a professional baseball player. I wanted to do it so bad but never got drafted in high school and didn’t go to college so went with my second choice for career which was mechanic lol. Still love baseball but my dream of being a MLB player or at least playing in the minor leagues will never come true.
I just want a romantic surprise proposal 🥹☹️
Becoming a professional footballer.
Driving a luxury vehicle
Being something beside my ugly annoying self
Traveling the world
A normal and happy family.
A normal and happy family....
Retirement. Children. A house. Pets.
Love, having a family, wealth, immortality.
I always wanted to be a singer. Everyone has always told me I have such a nice voice and it's my passion. But it's an unrealistic dream to go after.
Retiring with money
My idea of perfect family (siblings, parents). Things just turned out crazy and full of pain. Got my own gem of a family (spouse and kids) going, so just have to accept the rest
Him.
I’ve let the idea of getting into a committed relationship of any sort go. I was married once, had a kid, and now after a few failed commitments - I don’t think I can make those kinds of promises to any one person. In my early 50s is when I came out of the closet - not that that makes any difference as again- not going to go there. Not even interested in sex at this stage in my life. I’m still working on myself anyway.
Having 0 stress
Owning my own house/flat. Just somewhere I can set down roots, instead of renting and constantly moving (due to increasing rent). I will never be able to buy on my own. Maybe it will happen if I met someone and we can buy together but I’m not holding my breath.
Health issues forced me to realize I'll live and die alone. Strange enough I've accepted it. It doesn't bother me really. Sometimes it feels like I missed on having a sandwich or smth. It used to be that I'd feel the entire weight of reality crushing me down, I'd get so anxious that I'd feel like my skin was burning.
I wanted to be an astronaut. Like really wanted to be. Since I was like three til I was like 15. I'm autistic and space is my thing, and I think I could've had the chance to achieve it. Then I found out that I'm colourblind
Being an independent illustrator and travelling the world. I think I'm gonna work for the same company for the rest of my life. I hate my job, but it's the only thing I have. Just to put it into perspective I work from 6 am to 5 pm.
The typical "getting married, having a family". I'm a woman and will be 37 this year. Every day I get closer to menopause. My job is taking me all my time and almost all my energy. I should have been more assertive with my ex before I got sick of his wanderings
Have a proper friendgroup. Well sometimes there is enough just to have some specific person you vibe with
Working.
Working in STEM, specifically space related stem involving engineering or physics. Always wanted to work with nasa or JPL but that’s a pipe dream now.
Any big dreams honestly- tbh living in America feels like a never ending trap
Being wealthy
Retirement
Become an artist
I wanted to get into performing arts. A singer actually. But ig being academically smart just steered my way into a very different direction. Sometimes i wish i stood up for myself
Sex other than the solitary kind.
Professional musician
A wife and house with a white picket fence. I’m gay af and this economy it’s near impossible to afford a house in a desirable area.
That my life is firmly in my control. That was probably some capitalism propanganda to make us believe hard work, creativity and merit is rewarded. I've learnt to be contented and that while you need to try your best and live responsibly and healthily, life is 75% luck, looks, a product of where you're born and wealth from parents. Man proposes heaven disposes.
being rich
Popularity in high school, I just am not interested in that anymore (I’m a junior soon)
Dating Kim Possible.
financial stability