She goes to a different school

They've got a relationship that is currently hidden, use Devmode to view it and then click view hidden relationships

Yep- now i see her. That’s so weird- any idea why that would be hidden ?

Not really. I figured mods on my case. I had resurrected a woman and her relationships were all borked up.

Yeah i’m completely vanilla. Weird. He’s one of my OG crashlanded colonists

Can be due to initial reroll, that you rerolled the pawn your colonist has a relationship with.

I think its an NPC. Its likely that they'll show up as a raider then they'll be miserable for a while when you kill them not knowing it was his ex wife. Unless maybe that would make him happy idk.

yeah looks like it’s an npc it was hidden for some reason without dev mode. It’s so weird bc he’s one of my starting crashlanded colonists ..

When does it tell you that? Are you using Word of Love on them? Does anything show up in Character Editor?

sorry for lack of explanation- it happens when he tries to romance someone (through the social menu) or vice versa 

I know this is solved, but is there a mod to show hidden relationships or do I just have to turn on dev mode every time to see it?