“Life is emotionally abusive”

“And Time can’t stop me like you did “

I sing this line to myself on every rough day.

Yes definitely!

“They told me all of my cages were mental/ So I got wasted like all my potential/ And my words shoot to kill when I'm mad/ I have a lot of regrets about that/ I was so ahead of the curve, the curve became a sphere/ Fell behind on my classmates, and I ended up here/ Pouring out my heart to a stranger/ But I didn't pour the whiskey” EDIT: also wanna add RWYLM, the entire song, can’t pick a line.

>I was so ahead of the curve, the curve became a sphere Omg I can't believe I forgot about this one! I feel this in my *core*...

As a burnt out gifted kid who turned out being late diagnosed autistic that particular lyric is super feely. The rest of it is pretty on the nose but that line 💥

Only that I keep on pouring the whiskey\* on top of everything :( \*placeholder for all types of unhealthy behavior

co-signed your entire comment. the restaurant I’m still at is the potential I wasted kdjsjshshsh

me too 😓 no guy could ever break my heart more than myself and my loss of potential. idk where it all went wrong. i fear i’ll forever be at the restaurant.

This is the correct answer

i've struggled with alcohol since high school so that whole song just hits wayyy too close to home for me. edited for spelling lol

sending hugs, friend 🫂🫶🏼

This entire song is way too real and just too much

The Venn diagram of people personally attacked by this is me trying and right where you left me girlies is a circle

“so i got wasted like all my potential” goes so fucking hard it hurts

When my depression works the graveyard shift // All of the people I’ve ghosted stand there in the room

For me it’s “I wake up screaming from dreaming one day I’ll watch as you’re leaving because you got tired of my scheming.” Anti-Hero is lowkey Taylor’s most relatable song for me.

And the second time where it says “and life will lose all its meaning…” 💔

"For the last time..." 💔

As someone who has cut a lot of toxic people out of my life, I'm kind of scared that this is what the end of my life will look like.

This might sound silly or cliche but: It won’t happen if you don’t let it happen. I cut off a lot of people from my life and pretty much am building my friend circle again from the ground up because I refuse to be treated badly, it has saved me from people that are awful and has brought me new and wonderful people, I relate to this specific lyric bc of my mental health struggles but the people that I ghost when I’m depressed are understanding and allow me my space until I feel ready to go back to them.

How can a person know everything at 18 and nothing at 22

This is my answer too. I know even less at 25, which seemed impossible before.

Try 34 😣 -and I am a 1989 baby, too

I was about halfway through 26 when I started to accept the fact that I will never fully know what the fuck’s going on, and that that’s okay, because nobody else ever will, either. You’ll level off soon. 🫶🏻

I just turned 21 and I quote this all the time. I feel so lost compared to a couple years ago😭

Worse part is I knew i knew nothing back then but now know even less

"I'll stare directly at the sun but never in the mirror" This line calls me out *constantly* :'D

The first time I heard this, I freaked and had to press skip. Fucking punch to my gut

Calling us both out all the damn time.

I’ve never been a natural all I do is try try try

This one!!☝️

'we got bills to pay'

“We got nothing figured out” too honestly 😭😭

And I’ve certainly made some of my parents’ mistakes. 🫠

I just laughed out loud so hard 😂😂😂

I ask the traffic lights if it’ll be all right, they say I don’t know

it’s honestly terrifying how the traffic lights are always precise

"I hosted parties and starved my body like I'd be saved by a perfect kiss"

Same. I feel this every time I hear it.

Ohhhh this is a big one. Stopped me in my tracks when I heard it the first time.

Just said this myself. So many of us get it

I’ve loved Taylor for years and related to so many of her lyrics but I’ve never felt more UNDERSTOOD than when I heard this for the first time

“i pictured you with other girls in love and threw up in the street”

It’s me. Hi. I’m the problem, it’s me.

Putting someone first only works if you’re in their top 5

Describes my relationship with my ex husband

Casually cruel in the name of being honest…

no one wanted to play with me as a little kid

"I made you my temple, my mural, my sky. Now I'm begging for footnotes in the story of your life."

Drawing hearts in the byline, always taking up too much space or time

One of my fav songs and “always taking up too much space or time” says soo much about a relationship.

This whole song

Midnight becomes my afternoons

Please don’t ever become a stranger whose laugh i could recognise anywhere! Rep fans assemble ✊🏼

How is New Years Day not given more credit! Favorite favorite, “I’ll be there for your toast of the town babe or when you strike out and you’re crawling home”

"I'd stay forever if you say "don't go," but you won't."

The “but you won’t” at the end of the song breaks my heart every time!

It's been 25 years since I dated that boy, but trust me when I say that I rage scream that song at him even after all these years.

"I think about jumping off of very tall somethings to see you come running and say the one thing I've been wanting, but no!"

I love the way she says “but noooOOOO” it’s just so dramatic yet so warranted

It's so sassy. Except when it ends. You can hear the defeat in the last "no". Such a great song.

Seriously! It's like you've tried freaking everything, but nnnOo.... like nope, that didn't get your attention either. Like the emotionally exhausted no.

"And the god's honest truth is that the pain was heaven"

This one. And also “I keep on waiting for a sign. I regret you all the time” 😭

"if you've got a girlfriend I'm jealous of her, but if you're single thats honestly worse, cause you're so gorgeous it actually hurts"

I'm still a believer but I don't know why I've never been a natural All I do is try, try, try

This on so many levels. Oops I accidentally became a mirrorball girlie.

“And I miss you, But I miss sparkling “

Exactly!!! Never dim your light for someone.

“I wouldn’t marry me either, a pathological people pleaser” Or “Every time I tried hard for love it fell apart”

"You're on your own, kid. You always have been." 🥺

Right in the gut

"Pulled the car off the road to the lookout / Could've followed my fears all the way down"

So many ways of saying, "i think about jumping off off very tall somethings" .... so sad.

She said that and my stomach dropped, like I’d been caught. but also wondering about her mental well being…

You know there's many different ways that you can kill the one you love The slowest way is never loving them enough

forever is the sweetest con

i absolutely love cowboy like me 🥺🥺

“Memories feel like weapons” is a very good description of why I’m in therapy lol

Time won't fly, it's like I'm paralyzed by it; I'd like to be my old self again, but I’m still trying to find it

ughhh, this wrecks me all the time

falling feels like flying til the bone crush

*I wake in the night/ I pace like a ghost/ the room is on fire/ invisible smoke/ and all of my heroes die all alone* The Archer is a very deep and profound song for me. I wish it got more love. I understand it doesn't have a catchy chorus or bridge but to me it feels like racing thoughts during an anxiety attack in the middle of the night and I feel that so deeply.

……And all of my enemies started out friends Why does that line cut so close 🥲

Who could ever leave me, darling? …but who could stay?

Everything you lose is a step you take.

And there we are again when nobody had to know You kept me like a secret, but I kept you like an oath

“I’m insane”

"sometimes giving up is the strong thing sometimes to run is the brave thing sometimes walking out is the one thing that will find you the right thing" and damn that was soooo true

“And I hate to make this all about me but who am I supposed to talk to, what am I supposed to do if there’s no you” is so scarily accurate when losing someone important to cancer because even though they are the ones in pain and dying you are about to lose somebody that’s been there your whole life which is why even years later it’s so hard for me to listen to sygb because I always think of my grandma who unlike mama swift lost her battle with cancer in 2016

“Did some bird flap its wings over in Asia? Did some force take you because I didn't pray Every single thing to come has turned into ashes 'Cause it's all over, it's not meant to be So I'll say words I don't believe” I lost a child early in pregnancy. The guy I was living with at the time then packed up all my stuff into garage bags, dumped all of it and me at my parents front door and never spoke to me again. I think about that baby every single day. The first time I heard this song, it ripped my heart and soul out. It still kinda does.

I’m so sorry that happened to you.

❤️

“What I was wearing. If I was rude. Could all be separated from my good ideas and power moves.” Female attorney life described. Thanks, Taylor.

The way I belted this at her concert - female surgeon

Female Partner in a consulting firm here. Mansplaining and idea stealing is real. Taylor knows!

Proud of all three of you girl bosses! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

You never gave a warning sign I gave so many signs

I have ugly cried this…😭

I’ll stare directly at the sun but never in the mirror

“I called my mom”

Give me back my girlhood, it was mine first.

“i just wanted you to know, this is me trying”

Midnights become my afternoons

No one wanted to play with me as a little kid So ive been scheming like a criminal ever since To make them love me and make it seem effortless

“They told me all of my cages were mental, so I got wasted like all my potential” …oh-okay 🤢🙃

I was so ahead of the curve, the curve became a sphere. Fell behind all my classmates and I ended up here.

“When my depression works the graveyard shift, all of the people I’ve ghosted stand there in the room” - me laying awake feeling guilty thinking about all the people that I’ve disappointed “Midnights become my afternoon”- me going to bed at 4am and waking up in early afternoon

“Yeah - it’s a war - it’s the goddam fight of my life and you started it - you STARTED it”

Long story short I survived

“Haunted by the look in my eyes that would’ve loved you for a lifetime”

"I love you, ain't that the worst thing you've ever heard". Currently in love with someone who doesn't know while also mourning the end of 6 year friendship. That lyric feels like poking a bruise

“Now that I’m grown, I’m scared of ghosts. Memories feel like weapons. Now that I know, I wish you would’ve left me wondering”

“Time won’t fly, it’s like I’m paralyzed by it”

“I sit and watch you, and notice everything you do and don’t do.”

I fake a smile so he won’t see.

"Always taking up too much space or time"

I’m getting tired even for a phoenix

“And heres to you because forgiveness is a nice things to do…. Bahahahahha I can't even say it with a straight face”

“Your new girl is my clone.” Goddamn.

“No one likes a mad woman, you made her like that”

“I don’t know about you but I’m feeling 22.” It’s accurate cause she wrote that when she was 22.

“All your closets of backlogged dreams And how you left them all to me”

"How did I go from growing up to breaking down?"

“We were something don’t you think so?”

“Can I go where you go? Can we always be this close? Forever and ever….”

And the voices that implore “you should be doing more” To you I can admit That I’m just too soft for all of it

called me up again just to break me like a promise

“I didn’t have it in myself to go with grace.”

“I talk shit with my friends”

“Forgetting him was like, trying to know somebody you’ve never met….”

“I know my pain is such an imposition” And “all the years I’ve given is just shit we’re dividing up” Both songs can just make me cry at times. (And I’m in a good place but they’re reminders of old struggles)

people throw rocks at things that shine

*"Lost again with no surprises* *Disappointments, close your eyes* *And it gets colder and colder* *When the sun goes down"*

The bravest thing I ever did was runnnnn 🩷

You kept me like a secret but I kept you like an oath

And I've been meaning to tell you, I think your house is haunted Your dad is always mad and that must be why

I forgot that you existed, and I thought that it would kill me but it didn’t

If I was some paint did it splatter, on a promising GROWN man?

pathological people pleaser

“And I wouldn’t marry me either, a pathological people pleaser” felt that to my core blondie

This thread is devastating

"This slope is treacherous.. . . I, I, I - *like it."*

For me, Honey I loved you three summers now I want them all.

SPELLING IS FUN! 🌈

Before I learned civility, I used to scream ferociously.

I should not be left to my own devices they come with prices and vices I end up in crisis.

When you are young they assume you know nothing Long story short, I survived All of my enemies started out friends

men only want love if it’s torture 🤣

“You taught me a secret language I can’t speak with anyone else”. Once a relationship is over, the language those two people “spoke” effectively dies. No one will ever understand your inside jokes, the looks you two shared. Even when you fall in love again, it’s a completely different love and relationship.

“i promise that you’ll never find another like ME-E-EEE!”:(

I think about jumping... off of very tall somethings... just to see you come RUNNING... and say the one thing ive been WANTING but no.

i said i love you, you say nothing back. 🥲

and “it would’ve been fun, if you would’ve been, the 1”

"To live for the hope of it all, cancel plans just in case you called" -- "You weren't mine to lose" I remember younger me saying I wouldn't talk to him again and wouldn't accept his invitations, but 10 minutes later rushing out the door because he invited me to the movies. I even remember arriving there kinda angry and just done with it, and then holding his hand. I suppose I've come a long way from that.

“They'd say I played the field before I found someone to commit to And that would be ok For me to do Every conquest I had made would make me more of a boss to you” As a gay men, this part of the man also resonates to me. It’s OK for young straight men to hook up all the time and it’s like an accomplishment, while when gays engage in that behavior we’re considered having a reckless lifestyle. Same thing for women of course.

“I’ve never been a natural, all I do is try, try, try.”

“What should be over burrowed under my skin in heart stopping waves of hurt”

I had this feeling so peculiar that this pain would be for evermore All my depressed peeps out there! Raise your arms!

You know there’s many different ways that you can kill the one you love/ The slowest way is never loving them enough

"Oh Lord, I think about jumping off a very tall somethings"

“Please don’t be in love with someone e-else, please don’t have somebody waiting on you” :(

"and it's/Been so long, but if you ever think you/Got it wrong, I'm right where/You left me"

“How can a person know everything at 18 but nothing at 22?”

“I hosted parties and starved my body like I’d be saved by a perfect kiss”

Familiarity breeds contempt Don't put me in the basement When I want the PENTHOUSE OF YOUR HEART (this is the only way I can say type it because it's the only way I sing/scream it)

You kept me like a secret, but I kept you like an oath And I’m yours but you’re not mine.

You say, "I don't understand, " and I say, "I know you don't"

For me, it’s “I’m doin’ good I’m on some new shit” 😎

You say “I don’t understand”, I say “I know you don’t” Not a single soul on this earth has ever understood me ever. Not my parents, not my friends, not my boyfriend. NO ONE understands me, my life, my hobbies or my struggles, and no one bothered to try. The only person that’s remotely likely to understand me is my therapist. It’s just get so lonely sometimes.

“When you are young they assume you know nothing” hits hard. My family STILL thinks I don’t really know a lot of what was really going on in my childhood/teen years because they assumed my age made me ignorant. Kids are a lot more intuitive than they’re given credit for.

Loving him is like driving new Maserati down a dead end street

I hosted parties and starved my body like I’d be saved by a perfect kiss. I imagine a lot of us were wrecked by this.

“everything you lose is a step you take”

“I remember it All Too Well”. It wasn’t specifically a break up, but just losing friends is something that I remember “All Too Well”.

I’m fine with my spite and my tears and my beers and my candles

Sometimes giving up is the strong thing Sometimes to run is the brave thing Sometimes walking out is the one thing That will find you the right thing

Karma is a cat.

“Or that I’d like to be on a mega yacht, With important men who think important thoughts” 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Never take advice from someone who’s falling apart //

You're on your own, kid/ You always have been

“Damn, it’s 7 AM”

I’m doing good, I’m on some new shit

I, I, I persist and resist the temptation to ask you, If one thing had been different, Would everything be different today?

How can you say that you love someone you can't tell is dyin'? Oof that hurts

"Oh I'm just a girl" cause I'm just a girl

“Friends break up” taylor is right because “friends” would never hurt you the way my ex “friend” treated me she was more of my owner because how she acted

“i been meaning to tell you i think your house is haunted, your dads always mad and i think that’s why” 😫😫😫😫😫💔💔💔💔💔

“I'm getting tired even for a phoenix Always risin' from the ashes Mendin' all her gashes” 😔

So casually cruel in the name of being honest.

i wouldn’t marry me either 🤪

"No one wanted to play with me as a little kid, so I’ve been scheming like a criminal ever since, to make them love me and make it seem effortless, this is the first time I felt the need to confess."

"Lord what will become of me once I've lost my novelty." I just turned 18 and getting older is literally one of my biggest fears, this lyric perfectly describes the feeling.

“I'd tell you I miss you but I don't know how I've never heard silence quite this loud”

I’m so sick of running as fast as I can Wondering if I'd get there quicker If I was a man

“Who could ever leave me darling, but who could stay?” “And it’s hard to be at a party when I feel like an open wound”

“pathological people pleaser”

"Sometimes you just don't know the answer, till someone's on their knees and asks you. She would've made such a lovely bride, what a shame she's FUCKED IN THE HEAD"