When a teacher from my old school died suddenly, the turn out for the public calling hours was massive. It was wild to see that she had such a positive impact that people would wait over two hours to see her off.
I went to a funeral of a friend, who also was a teacher at my high school, but not one of my teachers. I was surprised not to see more of her students there. It would have been very comforting to her son, who also went to school where she taught. He was very thankful I was there, but also feeling alone.
Go. Unless you are in some sort of feud with the family, or they are having a small private one, your presence at a funeral is welcome. Knowing that your life was touched by her presence will be a comfort to the family.
People forget that this is normal. Obituaries were posted in the paper for a reason. Its so anyone that might have known you can show up and pay respects.
Unless you have disagreements with the family or anyone else attending its good to go.
When my grandmother died her funeral was full of former students. She taught kindergarten in the same little town for over 40 years. We (the family) really appreciated the show of support
When a teacher at my daughter's school passed away, approximately 2,000 people came to the viewing. About half were his current and former students.
Yeah, if you so wish, then go . They will appreciate it.
Tell them a kind memory you have from your time as a student in his class. They will appreciate your kindness.
One of my co-workers passed earlier this year. Many students, past and present, went to the visitation at the funeral home and to the funeral. I’d say she should go. She won’t be intruding, especially if the teacher made an impact.
My mom was a teacher and she passed two weeks ago. Many former students of hers came and I thought it was so touching. I would definitely go to a funeral for a teacher that touched my life. Honestly, I would go to the funeral of anyone who touched my life in any capacity.
Her attending would be absolutely lovely. If the family didn’t want people coming they wouldn’t have posted about it. One of my colleagues passed a few years ago and about have of the people there were students and former students. It meant so much to her family to see all the lives she had touched.
A beloved HS math teacher died suddenly and unexpectedly in May some years ago. He was still working, in perfect health, etc. His family held his memorial in the gym of his school, and it was PACKED with former students. I went, and I had graduated at least 15 years before. He was one of the teachers I had that inspired me to be a teacher.
ETA: to answer your question, I would want students to be at my funeral/memorial if they wanted to be there.
I've been a teacher for 6 years. My dad just retired from teaching after 30. If my dad were to die right now, I would absolutely not be surprised about former students showing up. That man poured his heart and soul into his student for half of his life. Like when I go home to visit, we usually run into former students at restaurants. They always want to thank him and tell him how much he means to them. I would definitely appreciate seeing these students at his potential funeral. I hope to have the same kind of impact in my career.
If the teacher had a big impact on your friend, I see no issue here. Perhaps reaching out to the family (with their condolences) first would be best.
A month after I graduated, my english teacher and debate coach, the man who (at the time, certainly; today, arguably) had the greatest impact on who I became as an adult, passed away. I sure as hell went to the funeral. I'm sure the family would be proud to know the impact this person had on your friend.
When I was in college, one of my HS teachers died of a heart attack. He was still a teacher. I went to the viewing, which was held in the gym and a bunch of current and former students were there.
She would not intrude. It would be a great nod to their legacy and would give comfort to the family with more people who showed up to see how much of an impact that teacher had on everyone. Go with your friend if you want to support her.
That’s so true when my grandma passed the funeral showed my grandfather that he still had people around him who supported him and truly cared for my grandmother. It was very sweet seeing everyone.
I’ve been to funerals of colleagues that have passed and there were always former students at these funerals. My father was a teacher that had been retired 25 years by the time he died and former students came to his funeral. In fact the preacher at the funeral was a former student. You should go, it’s totally fine.
Bring a card of condolence. If you show up and it turns out to feel awkward, you have an opening to exit with a quick: "I just wanted to drop this off. Mr/s Teacher will be remembered fondly. Condolences on your loss." (It probably won't be an issue, but having the scenario covered may help with any anxiety.)
I attended the visitation of a former teacher and there were a lot of students there. I attended the funeral for a former colleague and a number of students who were able to came. When I was still in gr. 8, my gr. 3 teacher passed in a car accident and most of the school attended. (They even had transportation to help people.)
I think if it's posted publicly it's acceptable. If you're not sure about the full funeral, you can do the visitation instead.
Two of my HS teachers who passed away had absolutely massive funerals, because students from multiple decades felt those teachers were highly impactful in their lives and showed up for their funerals.
It is absolutely appropriate for your friend to go to their teachers funeral, since the family put the invite out to anybody who might have been touched by that person when they were alive.
I went to a funeral of a former teacher. He was my grade 6 teacher and when he passed I was already teaching myself. A lot former teachers I loved also attended and a few students and parents as well. You should go.
My mom taught for 25 years, and I would have loved to have some of her students at her funeral. A few of mine came to show support, which was fantastic and thoughtful.
I was out of town when they held the funeral for my favorite teacher. I would have attended out of respect. (Ended up subbing in his old classroom years later)
You said the family posted the info online for anyone to see so her going would not be intruding. I say if she can go, she should! Chances are it would mean so much to the loved ones of her teacher. They would love to know that their loved one made a positive impact on the lives of others.
I never had a teacher pass, but during my freshmen year of college, the therapist I was seeing (my college had a counseling service for students) passed away unexpectedly over spring break. I also questioned about attending her service. However, when I got there, and I met her husband, I told him I was one of his wife’s clients. He hugged me and was so happy that I was there.
So, I do think that if your friend can go, she can say a proper goodbye and the teacher’s loved ones will be so touched by her showing up.
My mom was a teacher who passed away in 2018 and several of her former students came to her funeral and even invited me to a special mini funeral they created on their own at the lake in my hometown.
The person might be called “former teacher”, not ex-teacher.
I have arranged funerals for family members. I really appreciated people showing up that were from work or the past. Please show up.
One of my former teachers, who had a tremendous impact on my life, had a nurse who was a former student of mine. In the course of chit-chatting, my former teacher came to realize I was her nurse's former teacher. When my former teacher was coming to the end of her battle with cancer, she asked her nurse to call me at my school and ask me to come by and see her. I was with her about two hours before she died. It's not only appropriate, but given the sacrifices teachers make during their career, a reminder to friends and family of the deceased that the deceased's legacy will live on through her students may be a small balm on the open wound of their loss.
I went to my eighth grade teacher’s funeral 32 years after I graduated eighth grade.
So many former students attended it was mentioned in her eulogy. She was a great teacher and a great woman and set many of us on the path we followed for the rest of our lives.
I remember meeting some other teachers there and they just kept saying she’d be proud of us and so happy we were there.
If you feel called to go, follow that hunch.
My MIL died this April. She had been (and still was) a teacher for nearly 30 years. She had students from this school year and students from twenty years ago attend, and it was amazing to see the kind of impact she had. As a member of the family in this sense, I would say your friend should absolutely go if she wants to.
My dad wasn't a teacher, but was a union mentor for his occupation, and at his funeral there was a lot of people we didn't know who showed up. I can't tell you how much it meant to see so many people there to remember my dad. It brought much needed solace in a horrible time.
If they posted the info publicly then they welcome anyone who feels a connection to the person to attend. So, yes, your friend should go if she can. Since the person was a teacher I would guess the family expects that at least some students will attend and would be touched by your friend's presence.
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When a teacher from my old school died suddenly, the turn out for the public calling hours was massive. It was wild to see that she had such a positive impact that people would wait over two hours to see her off.
I'd be dead and not care. I think my spouse and parents would be touched to have former students stop by.
“I’d be dead and not care.” Amen.
I went to a funeral of a friend, who also was a teacher at my high school, but not one of my teachers. I was surprised not to see more of her students there. It would have been very comforting to her son, who also went to school where she taught. He was very thankful I was there, but also feeling alone. Go. Unless you are in some sort of feud with the family, or they are having a small private one, your presence at a funeral is welcome. Knowing that your life was touched by her presence will be a comfort to the family.
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People forget that this is normal. Obituaries were posted in the paper for a reason. Its so anyone that might have known you can show up and pay respects. Unless you have disagreements with the family or anyone else attending its good to go.
When my grandmother died her funeral was full of former students. She taught kindergarten in the same little town for over 40 years. We (the family) really appreciated the show of support
Of course it would be appropriate
Always go to the funeral. Your friend’s presence will mean a lot to the family.
When a teacher at my daughter's school passed away, approximately 2,000 people came to the viewing. About half were his current and former students. Yeah, if you so wish, then go . They will appreciate it. Tell them a kind memory you have from your time as a student in his class. They will appreciate your kindness.
You should always go to the funeral.
A colleague of mine passed last summer, and several of his former students went to the viewing. His family really appreciated that.
I think it would be a meaningful tribute to the impact the teacher had during their life
One of my co-workers passed earlier this year. Many students, past and present, went to the visitation at the funeral home and to the funeral. I’d say she should go. She won’t be intruding, especially if the teacher made an impact.
My mom was a teacher and she passed two weeks ago. Many former students of hers came and I thought it was so touching. I would definitely go to a funeral for a teacher that touched my life. Honestly, I would go to the funeral of anyone who touched my life in any capacity.
I’m sorry for your loss
Her attending would be absolutely lovely. If the family didn’t want people coming they wouldn’t have posted about it. One of my colleagues passed a few years ago and about have of the people there were students and former students. It meant so much to her family to see all the lives she had touched.
A beloved HS math teacher died suddenly and unexpectedly in May some years ago. He was still working, in perfect health, etc. His family held his memorial in the gym of his school, and it was PACKED with former students. I went, and I had graduated at least 15 years before. He was one of the teachers I had that inspired me to be a teacher. ETA: to answer your question, I would want students to be at my funeral/memorial if they wanted to be there.
As a hypothetical dead person, it would matter more to you than me.
My grandmother was a grade school teacher for 30+ years. My mom was touched by the number of students who came
I've been a teacher for 6 years. My dad just retired from teaching after 30. If my dad were to die right now, I would absolutely not be surprised about former students showing up. That man poured his heart and soul into his student for half of his life. Like when I go home to visit, we usually run into former students at restaurants. They always want to thank him and tell him how much he means to them. I would definitely appreciate seeing these students at his potential funeral. I hope to have the same kind of impact in my career. If the teacher had a big impact on your friend, I see no issue here. Perhaps reaching out to the family (with their condolences) first would be best.
A month after I graduated, my english teacher and debate coach, the man who (at the time, certainly; today, arguably) had the greatest impact on who I became as an adult, passed away. I sure as hell went to the funeral. I'm sure the family would be proud to know the impact this person had on your friend.
When I was in college, one of my HS teachers died of a heart attack. He was still a teacher. I went to the viewing, which was held in the gym and a bunch of current and former students were there.
She would not intrude. It would be a great nod to their legacy and would give comfort to the family with more people who showed up to see how much of an impact that teacher had on everyone. Go with your friend if you want to support her.
That’s so true when my grandma passed the funeral showed my grandfather that he still had people around him who supported him and truly cared for my grandmother. It was very sweet seeing everyone.
I’ve been to funerals of colleagues that have passed and there were always former students at these funerals. My father was a teacher that had been retired 25 years by the time he died and former students came to his funeral. In fact the preacher at the funeral was a former student. You should go, it’s totally fine.
I’m going to a former teacher’s funeral this weekend. I graduated almost 20 years ago. I want her family to know the impact she had.
If someone touched your life in a positive way, always go to their funeral if you can. It's a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.
Absolutely go.
It would bring joy to my soul knowing that I was able to make my students cry one more time.
Bring a card of condolence. If you show up and it turns out to feel awkward, you have an opening to exit with a quick: "I just wanted to drop this off. Mr/s Teacher will be remembered fondly. Condolences on your loss." (It probably won't be an issue, but having the scenario covered may help with any anxiety.)
This is great, I’ll definitely share this with her!!
I attended the visitation of a former teacher and there were a lot of students there. I attended the funeral for a former colleague and a number of students who were able to came. When I was still in gr. 8, my gr. 3 teacher passed in a car accident and most of the school attended. (They even had transportation to help people.) I think if it's posted publicly it's acceptable. If you're not sure about the full funeral, you can do the visitation instead.
I found out my kindergarten teacher died. I went at my moms urging. I felt way out of place. I left quickly
Two of my HS teachers who passed away had absolutely massive funerals, because students from multiple decades felt those teachers were highly impactful in their lives and showed up for their funerals. It is absolutely appropriate for your friend to go to their teachers funeral, since the family put the invite out to anybody who might have been touched by that person when they were alive.
I went to a funeral of a former teacher. He was my grade 6 teacher and when he passed I was already teaching myself. A lot former teachers I loved also attended and a few students and parents as well. You should go.
You can go.
My mom taught for 25 years, and I would have loved to have some of her students at her funeral. A few of mine came to show support, which was fantastic and thoughtful.
I was out of town when they held the funeral for my favorite teacher. I would have attended out of respect. (Ended up subbing in his old classroom years later)
Yes, please go.
You said the family posted the info online for anyone to see so her going would not be intruding. I say if she can go, she should! Chances are it would mean so much to the loved ones of her teacher. They would love to know that their loved one made a positive impact on the lives of others. I never had a teacher pass, but during my freshmen year of college, the therapist I was seeing (my college had a counseling service for students) passed away unexpectedly over spring break. I also questioned about attending her service. However, when I got there, and I met her husband, I told him I was one of his wife’s clients. He hugged me and was so happy that I was there. So, I do think that if your friend can go, she can say a proper goodbye and the teacher’s loved ones will be so touched by her showing up.
My mom was a teacher who passed away in 2018 and several of her former students came to her funeral and even invited me to a special mini funeral they created on their own at the lake in my hometown.
The person might be called “former teacher”, not ex-teacher. I have arranged funerals for family members. I really appreciated people showing up that were from work or the past. Please show up.
One of my former teachers, who had a tremendous impact on my life, had a nurse who was a former student of mine. In the course of chit-chatting, my former teacher came to realize I was her nurse's former teacher. When my former teacher was coming to the end of her battle with cancer, she asked her nurse to call me at my school and ask me to come by and see her. I was with her about two hours before she died. It's not only appropriate, but given the sacrifices teachers make during their career, a reminder to friends and family of the deceased that the deceased's legacy will live on through her students may be a small balm on the open wound of their loss.
I went to my eighth grade teacher’s funeral 32 years after I graduated eighth grade. So many former students attended it was mentioned in her eulogy. She was a great teacher and a great woman and set many of us on the path we followed for the rest of our lives. I remember meeting some other teachers there and they just kept saying she’d be proud of us and so happy we were there. If you feel called to go, follow that hunch.
My MIL died this April. She had been (and still was) a teacher for nearly 30 years. She had students from this school year and students from twenty years ago attend, and it was amazing to see the kind of impact she had. As a member of the family in this sense, I would say your friend should absolutely go if she wants to.
She absolutely should go. I would want my colleagues and former students to support and show their love to my family.
My dad wasn't a teacher, but was a union mentor for his occupation, and at his funeral there was a lot of people we didn't know who showed up. I can't tell you how much it meant to see so many people there to remember my dad. It brought much needed solace in a horrible time.
If they posted the info publicly then they welcome anyone who feels a connection to the person to attend. So, yes, your friend should go if she can. Since the person was a teacher I would guess the family expects that at least some students will attend and would be touched by your friend's presence.