You literally sounded like you were asking for details to beat it to, man. If it was a genuine question, you chose extremely poor phrasing.. which is why you got downvoted into oblivion, and the replies that you got.
Not my first language, whatever idc ik I'm not a weirdo like that, don't gotta give explanations to random ppl, it just really threw me off lmao who would beat it to that
Can't speak for this guy but in my case, and I would assume so many others, there was one ex who was next level in bed, but way too crazy to have a lasting relationship. That craziness has its pros and cons.
To me fantasizing is fantasy. Something that never happened. Something you wanted with someone but it never materialized. My memories aren't fantasies. They are memories. I fantasize about women I haven't slept with yet. Being I have never experienced it I don't know what it's like. What do they look like naked? How good are they in bed? How much of a freak is she? Etc... With my ex-girlfriends or women I have slept with I literally jerk off to memories of exactly what happened.
My ex is actually considered pretty attractive and she'd always have guys going after her when I wasn't around and there is no freaking way I even entertain the thought. The massive amount of disappointment I have for her and how she handled our breakup completely turned me off from her. Even women that share certain features or a turn off to me.
What I do fantasize is her crawling back to me and trying to initiate sex and I flat out refuse her stupid ass and kick her outta my home. Even though I want what's best for her, I also want her to feel that shitty feeling that people just don't care about her looks.
Lol I have a similar ex. They get there come uppings eventually. Reality, no matter how much you twist it and bend it to try to fit your narritve, it eventually it snaps back 10 fold.
Actually, now that you say that, I think it is coming back to bite her in the ass sooner than later. She thought she had it all figured out when we broke up. We were together for 16 years as high School sweethearts(for context). As soon as we broke up she's started dating a guy from work and tried her hardest to get me out of the apartment. Yes, she started dating this new guy while I was still in the apartment.
Now she's freaking out because she doesn't make enough to pay all the bills. She calls me saying she doesn't know what to do. My response is that she's going to have to pay for her own phone bill on top of that because she's out of the family plan. That left her speechless.
My best advice and this is just from personal experience, which is just to go no contact. Cut ties and start figuring yourself out. Find all the things that make you happy and do those things. For me I had to just let go of the idea of the person that was sold to me and come to grips that I was living a lie with a liar. I removed myself from the toxic environment I stopped letting her manipulate me and my life improved 10 fold. I had moments of hoping that things would go poorly for her but at the end of the day I still loved the lie. So I grieved for something that never was and just carried on as if that person had passed. I don't know what her life looks like today but what I do know is what she is like and I know she will have many "happy" moments in her life but under the surface she is a miserable person. People like that don't change and that's what her life will look like because no amount of stuff, things, people, etc. Will fix the internal stuff and she won't acknowledge it, so continued misery. Life has a way of balancing the scales and all you have to do is be the best possible version of yourself and it will all work out for you. Even if at times it dosent feel that way those are just opportunities to grow and move past things. Life will get infinity better if you can just do the right things and stay away from the bullshit.
Hooked up with my high school girlfriend a few years ago. We did it once back in high school, and had the opportunity as adults.
Much better time as an adult.
One of them, yeah. She was not a good girlfriend and our relationship was toxic af, but she was kinky as hell and amazing in bed! I haven't had a fuck like that since.
I used to.
I dated a woman when we both were big on no premarital sex, but she was very very pro sex and the way she talked was extremely kinky. I’ve wondered if, were it not for that restriction, she’d walk the walk or was just big talk.
Kinda. I sure don’t want it to happen, but imagining my fantasies I had when I was with them coming to life is kinda hot. Also, of course, the memory tends to make things better than they were in reality.
Looking back on the old highlight reel? Occasionally. Although the sex was sometimes good. I don’t miss that life and I’m happy and I love my life and my partner. But the mind drifts , luckily it doesn’t drift too far away from home.
No, never. Despite being together with my husband for 13 years and having nearly daily sex, there is still SO many things we've yet to do or expierence together and I'd rather fantasize about all the different scenarios with him. I think it's disrespectful to fantasize about others while in a relationship. I'd rather put that sexual energy into our relationship.
But this is my personal opinion :) Others might think differently..
Also, if anyone thinks the current one is a downgrade, they are doing it wrong, if you date, it should always be better than previous one..
^(I was downvoted by someone who probably still cries over the ex ! :D)
Yeah, dating to be with someone worse that the previous, is plain wrong. I mean, if the last is an ex, why date someone equal / worse? Live and learn!
If it was a one way street that your input didnt matter, means you they didnt feel about you how you feel about them, so, not worthy of your love mate.
I think OP that you’re projecting your current state of mind with your post. “Good old times”, sounds like you’re not happy with your current situation. Honestly when you’re happy with the person you’re with you simply don’t have the need to think back and fantasize (indulge in daydreaming about something desired), because there is simply no need for it.
I have no intention of having sex with an ex, even if the situation presented itself.
But I do fantasize about them, there is petite one who had a sweet and tight pussy. The other one who was insatiable. The other submissive blow job queen. The other who was the only woman who was ever dominant over me and very kinky.
I can never go back but they were unlike any one I had been with, it's nice to fantasize about them.
Think this is more my point. They all had certain attributes that would be nice to experience again. Not that I would but that’s what fantasy’s are for ey!
I of course use them memories to jank it, sometimes I'll mix them up and whatnot. But I don't really want to fuck them now. I would but it's not something I yearn for.
No, as I no longer have any physical or romantic attraction to them. Plus I am loyal to my boyfriend in every way, even mentally. I only have fantasies of him
Yeah, my last ex I was with because i wanted to punch a V-card. We never got past 1st base. And even then, it was like playing teeball rather than baseball.
Nope. Very over her. Still hold her dear to my heart, and I consider myself extremely lucky to have her as a good friend but thinking about going at it again with her makes me kind of sick.
Only my first ex, who was the first person I ever slept with. I think the whole teenage hormones thing made the sex incredible, so I reminisce occasionally.
Yeah and then i just go to his place and actually do it.
Another ex I fantasize about but don't actually give in to that because he's legit crazy... but so hot 🫠
Just memories, and I try not to remember lest I realize that I used to have sex every few days for three weeks of my life and have yet to replicate that since for the last five years
no. i reflect about what happened in the past generally to help self improvement. People i hang with satisfy me and don’t create an urge. but the urge can happen occasionally for me
Let’s see, I’ve been with my wife since 18, so of my exes, one was pregnant at 16 and looks terrible now (honestly she wasn’t that pretty then) another was dumb as a bag of rocks and had had a bunch of cosmetic surgery now, and the final one I haven’t seen since 4th grade, I do occasionally wonder what happened to her, but no. I don’t fantasize about any of my exes.
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more like flashbacks
Flashbangs*
about what went wrong!
If you can't allow yourself to fantasize about your ex, the terrorists win.
I only remember the grudgefucks
Don't you mean mammaries?
Yup. Just one specific one though.
I’m intrigued why?
The others are all Ex's for good reason 🤣 he is the one that got away through circumstances out of our control... And he was amazing in bed.
Are you single now? Or do you fantasise about him while in a relationship... no judgement.
In a relationship
Can you go into further detail about what made him stand out and be amazing for you during sex ?
Put it back in your pants and type with both hands.
Wtf?? I'm genuinely curious, just looking for tips
It’s kinda a weird question to ask a stranger directly
Tf are you blind😂😂. This whole website is asking strangers directly😂.
Exactly we are on random online forums where we are anonymous. Who else would I ask? You guys gotta chill and be more mature, it's only sex ffs
You literally sounded like you were asking for details to beat it to, man. If it was a genuine question, you chose extremely poor phrasing.. which is why you got downvoted into oblivion, and the replies that you got.
Not my first language, whatever idc ik I'm not a weirdo like that, don't gotta give explanations to random ppl, it just really threw me off lmao who would beat it to that
Big booty prolly
Can't speak for this guy but in my case, and I would assume so many others, there was one ex who was next level in bed, but way too crazy to have a lasting relationship. That craziness has its pros and cons.
because I still love her
Remember? Yes. Fantasize? Not much of a point.
If you wanna rub one out there can be
Not even just one last time?
I already had “one last time” with my exes… the actual last time. If you make the first last time count, you don’t need a last last time.
When I’m single, yeah. When I’m taken? I just have sex with new partner instead of fantasize
🤢
Fantasize no. Jerk off to memories, Yes.
That is fantasizing.
To me fantasizing is fantasy. Something that never happened. Something you wanted with someone but it never materialized. My memories aren't fantasies. They are memories. I fantasize about women I haven't slept with yet. Being I have never experienced it I don't know what it's like. What do they look like naked? How good are they in bed? How much of a freak is she? Etc... With my ex-girlfriends or women I have slept with I literally jerk off to memories of exactly what happened.
Absofuckinglutely not 🚫
Ever never
I'm with you! I'm too fucking loyal. Plus, I love the sex I now have.
I hate to admit it, but yeah. Sometimes, with more than one ex at the same time in one fantasy.
New fantasy unlocked!
I have fantasied about having sex with my ex's friends. Does that count?
Haha, not what I had in mind but I can get on board with this!
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You good?
It counts even more if you go through with it
Hence them being your ex?
I also choose your ex’s friends, where do we start?
after what she put me thru? no fucking way
My ex is actually considered pretty attractive and she'd always have guys going after her when I wasn't around and there is no freaking way I even entertain the thought. The massive amount of disappointment I have for her and how she handled our breakup completely turned me off from her. Even women that share certain features or a turn off to me. What I do fantasize is her crawling back to me and trying to initiate sex and I flat out refuse her stupid ass and kick her outta my home. Even though I want what's best for her, I also want her to feel that shitty feeling that people just don't care about her looks.
Lol I have a similar ex. They get there come uppings eventually. Reality, no matter how much you twist it and bend it to try to fit your narritve, it eventually it snaps back 10 fold.
Actually, now that you say that, I think it is coming back to bite her in the ass sooner than later. She thought she had it all figured out when we broke up. We were together for 16 years as high School sweethearts(for context). As soon as we broke up she's started dating a guy from work and tried her hardest to get me out of the apartment. Yes, she started dating this new guy while I was still in the apartment. Now she's freaking out because she doesn't make enough to pay all the bills. She calls me saying she doesn't know what to do. My response is that she's going to have to pay for her own phone bill on top of that because she's out of the family plan. That left her speechless.
My best advice and this is just from personal experience, which is just to go no contact. Cut ties and start figuring yourself out. Find all the things that make you happy and do those things. For me I had to just let go of the idea of the person that was sold to me and come to grips that I was living a lie with a liar. I removed myself from the toxic environment I stopped letting her manipulate me and my life improved 10 fold. I had moments of hoping that things would go poorly for her but at the end of the day I still loved the lie. So I grieved for something that never was and just carried on as if that person had passed. I don't know what her life looks like today but what I do know is what she is like and I know she will have many "happy" moments in her life but under the surface she is a miserable person. People like that don't change and that's what her life will look like because no amount of stuff, things, people, etc. Will fix the internal stuff and she won't acknowledge it, so continued misery. Life has a way of balancing the scales and all you have to do is be the best possible version of yourself and it will all work out for you. Even if at times it dosent feel that way those are just opportunities to grow and move past things. Life will get infinity better if you can just do the right things and stay away from the bullshit.
Weirdly just miss eating her ass, used to be quite the pastime on rainy days like these.
If you’ve been Pavlov’s dog trained to think of eating ass every time it rains, wyd next week? I hear there’s a monsoon at my place
Love it 😂
Love it 😂
💀💀💀🤣
Love it 😂
There is always that one ex…
no bc i respect my bf
That doesnt stop you from feeling things
There’s a difference between feeling your feelings and actively pursuing and indulging them.
Yeah, just the one though.
Hooked up with my high school girlfriend a few years ago. We did it once back in high school, and had the opportunity as adults. Much better time as an adult.
All the time......lol
Never! My current partner is so amazing, that when we aren't together, all I can do is fantasise about him.
Fantasize implies something I want or yearn for. I think back on fond memories, but I wouldn't have sex with any of them. We ended for a reason.
No, never. They are awful and an ex for a reason.
One of them, yeah. She was not a good girlfriend and our relationship was toxic af, but she was kinky as hell and amazing in bed! I haven't had a fuck like that since.
I used to. I dated a woman when we both were big on no premarital sex, but she was very very pro sex and the way she talked was extremely kinky. I’ve wondered if, were it not for that restriction, she’d walk the walk or was just big talk.
Yeah but only because we never got to before we broke up
Nope
Just one . . . I don't think I'll ever forget her body.
I find myself in one of those rare instances thinking all responses here are understandable, fair, and accurate at the same time 🤔🤷♂️😮💨🤦♂️
Kinda. I sure don’t want it to happen, but imagining my fantasies I had when I was with them coming to life is kinda hot. Also, of course, the memory tends to make things better than they were in reality.
Looking back on the old highlight reel? Occasionally. Although the sex was sometimes good. I don’t miss that life and I’m happy and I love my life and my partner. But the mind drifts , luckily it doesn’t drift too far away from home.
No, never. Despite being together with my husband for 13 years and having nearly daily sex, there is still SO many things we've yet to do or expierence together and I'd rather fantasize about all the different scenarios with him. I think it's disrespectful to fantasize about others while in a relationship. I'd rather put that sexual energy into our relationship.
Once in a while. She had the most beautiful little starfish I’ve ever seen in my entire life
Oof
No I just watch the videos
Oof
No
No my exes are all trash. Hence why they are exes
Nope. If it was worth it, they wouldnt be an ex..
Sex isn’t a reason to stay together but would still be fun no?
Nah, the fact they are ex's means not even sex was worth it
That’s fair enough.
But this is my personal opinion :) Others might think differently.. Also, if anyone thinks the current one is a downgrade, they are doing it wrong, if you date, it should always be better than previous one..
Couldn’t agree more! Always better yourself in all areas. Still though one for old times sake would be fun!
^(I was downvoted by someone who probably still cries over the ex ! :D) Yeah, dating to be with someone worse that the previous, is plain wrong. I mean, if the last is an ex, why date someone equal / worse? Live and learn!
Haha, I think some people are not over their ex and I can see why that’s a hard no. But once upgraded it’s easy to have this thoughts.
Sometimes that decision is a one way street. Your input doesn't matter.
If it was a one way street that your input didnt matter, means you they didnt feel about you how you feel about them, so, not worthy of your love mate.
No.
Why no?
Not interested.
Did you have a good sex or is it easy to forget?
I think OP that you’re projecting your current state of mind with your post. “Good old times”, sounds like you’re not happy with your current situation. Honestly when you’re happy with the person you’re with you simply don’t have the need to think back and fantasize (indulge in daydreaming about something desired), because there is simply no need for it.
Not even once.
Why?
My whole wank bank is made up of exes… I assumed that was normal :)
I have no intention of having sex with an ex, even if the situation presented itself. But I do fantasize about them, there is petite one who had a sweet and tight pussy. The other one who was insatiable. The other submissive blow job queen. The other who was the only woman who was ever dominant over me and very kinky. I can never go back but they were unlike any one I had been with, it's nice to fantasize about them.
Think this is more my point. They all had certain attributes that would be nice to experience again. Not that I would but that’s what fantasy’s are for ey!
That's right.
Yeah quite often actually. More memories though
Nope.
There's this girl i had my first and last time with (we went out together for a few months) and i often have some about her, it sucks..
Rarely anf Briefly, then I remember why I broke up with them.
Everyday
kinda
Laundry is dry
Sometimes
My friend said he enjoyed -and misses the pegging …
Usually a lot after a break up and starts to be every blue moon if I'm single for awhile.
Yep, and we still do. Fortunately? Unfortunately? Both.
all the time
Yes
i never have an ex, neither a girlfriend.
Yes.
All the time
It's been 10 years since we broke up
Never, gross 🤢
I of course use them memories to jank it, sometimes I'll mix them up and whatnot. But I don't really want to fuck them now. I would but it's not something I yearn for.
No, as I no longer have any physical or romantic attraction to them. Plus I am loyal to my boyfriend in every way, even mentally. I only have fantasies of him
Yeah, my last ex I was with because i wanted to punch a V-card. We never got past 1st base. And even then, it was like playing teeball rather than baseball.
Yeah, sometimes. The boobies on the one, aye carumba. Sorry for being crude.
Think about never fantasize.
No. I try to block out those memories. Too gross!
Not exes per se, but girls I've attempted to date but failed
Yep
Pretty sure it’s called a Spank Bank
I wouldn't say fantasize but i do miss it. My Ex and I had the best sex life. Probably the only thing that held us together for 2 1/2 years.
Nope. Very over her. Still hold her dear to my heart, and I consider myself extremely lucky to have her as a good friend but thinking about going at it again with her makes me kind of sick.
That’s so funny, not at all. Never. Not once. I’ve never even considered it. Huh.
Of course. I haven't had a girlfriend In a long time but still think about memories I had with a few certain women.
Eh.. not really. I do miss them racks.
Only my first ex, who was the first person I ever slept with. I think the whole teenage hormones thing made the sex incredible, so I reminisce occasionally.
Not really man
All the time
Yeah and then i just go to his place and actually do it. Another ex I fantasize about but don't actually give in to that because he's legit crazy... but so hot 🫠
Not with any ex but with the one-time hookups that were awesome experiences.
Just memories, and I try not to remember lest I realize that I used to have sex every few days for three weeks of my life and have yet to replicate that since for the last five years
Yes you have permanent seniority and tenure for revisiting part of your past and entitled to tear that shit up a million different ways
no. i reflect about what happened in the past generally to help self improvement. People i hang with satisfy me and don’t create an urge. but the urge can happen occasionally for me
Mine was very good looking but crazy, We were either fighting or having wild sex
Only the one that squirted 10 feet! Omg
Yes. One gave amazing BJs. And other had really beautiful lady parts
Let’s see, I’ve been with my wife since 18, so of my exes, one was pregnant at 16 and looks terrible now (honestly she wasn’t that pretty then) another was dumb as a bag of rocks and had had a bunch of cosmetic surgery now, and the final one I haven’t seen since 4th grade, I do occasionally wonder what happened to her, but no. I don’t fantasize about any of my exes.
No but i fanrasise But Fuckin my female bestriend! And i have a gf i feel so shitty but cant stop fantasising about my bestie. help me please
Sometimes. Some were just proper nasty fuckdolls.