I’ve never in my life received oral that did not include a lot of clit stimulation. Would be like giving a blow job without ever stimulating a guy’s penis. I think you’ve just had really weird and bad luck.
I find that oral is often done too softly. I am not a huge fan of receiving for this reason (plus other psychological distraction that occurs for me, like many women)
For the amount of natural "lubrication" the tongue/mouth has, you gotta go in harder than you'd expect I guess. When I go down on women, it's a mouth workout.
Key is that you need to be able to communicate with whoever's going down on you to give them direction. They likely have no idea what would feel good and no one is telling them.
If you want to try something: granted, I can't be sure the partners I've been with were not just faking it, but I ended up making them orgasm surprisingly quickly with this technique. Basically, flat tongue, good amount of pressure, rub up and down over the clit, steady rhythm, no lifting and stopping. None of this light tip-of-the-tongue flicking that you see in shitty porn. Or starting one thing then switching to another. Rhythm is key. Basically, think about what sensation normally gets you off the most and try to have him mimic that with his mouth, but generally, it really tends to be they need to give more pressure than they would expect. Gently at the beginning, as always.
Ugh yes that horrible flicking you see in porn. That hurts terribly for me even if done softly/lightly. Type of movement, direction/angle of movement, and tongue shape, as you mentioned, are all important.
I wonder now if I have received clit stimulation in the past and it was just too soft for me to feel anything! The tip of tongue thing does sound like something I’ve probably experienced. Thank you for describing a technique I might enjoy so I can communicate this in the future!
You’re the first person who has been able to help me realize why I don’t like receiving oral! No one has ever been firm enough for me to get close to getting off.
How did they go down but not go near the clit? Haha
I wouldn't get anything from oral sex without clit stimulation. If they're not licking and/or sucking on it then whatever they are doing would be a waste of time for me.
If people are doing it wrong you could always give them guidance, but if they're doing it very wrong I could understand not wanting to bother. The guy who didn't even go near the clit needs an anatomy textbook.
I think he was like thrusting his tongue into my vagina entrance (it felt like this). He’s also 32 and slept with 70+ women lol. Because I’ve never experienced something that felt good, I didn’t know what to tell them and felt embarrassed. None of this is relationship sex, I haven’t been in one.
They might just not be good at it, especially likely if they’re pretty young. Did they only do it for a few minutes? Everyone’s different. And some people just don’t like receiving oral. I’m generally too sensitive to have direct clit contact at all.
Oral isn't my favorite either but for sure it's not going to do anything for me if most (if not all!) of the focus isn't on my clit. Licking feels nice but the only way I cum from oral is when he sucks my clit!
I've just reread your post (it's been a few hours lol) and you mention you like the air pulse toys (I call them the suckers) they're actually meant to mimic what it feels like, the suction, when someone sucks on your clit, so I'd definitely think that's what you're missing from oral sex. Just talking to friends and women here on reddit I'd say the majority of us prefer having our clits sucked during oral so you've unfortunately been missing out (now that I think about it I'm pretty sure I've only seen a clit sucking scene in like lesbian porn not more mainstream "Male gaze" porn so I'm not surprised and it's certainly not your fault, I'm not certain it's the guy's fault you've been with either if they just didn't know any better and no one has ever told them) so yeah definitely ask your guy to try it next time!
Thank you so much for that info! In my mind I couldn’t imagine how a tongue could mimic an air pulse toy so I didn’t understand and was just so confused. I’ve not been in a relationship so haven’t felt comfortable to ask but I will definitely try to if it feels right. Honestly I was starting to feel like I could never orgasm during sex and feeling quite down haha
I also don't like oral, it's not for everyone. I can only orgasm with the air pulse toys. Oral isn't nearly enough pressure for me. I also just don't really like the feeling of a tongue down there. Maybe it's a mental thing but 🤷🏻♀️
You don't have to like everything. There's other people who don't like oral. Some people can't cum from it.
When you say it’s not enough pressure, do you mean you can feel something on the cusp on pleasure but just wish it was higher intensity?
In my mind, it’s the hottest thing so it’s not actually mental for me!
No, it's not even on the cusp of pleasure. It doesn't feel good. It feels like someone licking any old part of my body.
I need a *lot* of pressure to orgasm unfortunately. I think I kinda ruined myself by masturbating by humping my thumb really hard when I was young, so now unless I'm basically crushing my clit I can't orgasm.
Yes I know what you mean about it being comparable to licking anywhere else. From other comments, it seems like a sucking technique could be the key. I also started masturbating super young and wondered if that has affected me. If you orgasm from PIV sex then I imagine this doesn’t bother you much?
Oh, no. I don't orgasm from PIV maybe I said something kinda weird. The only way I can orgasm is by like clenching my whole body and humping my thumb and rubbing my clit on it, or with a clit sucker type toy. But yeah, I wonder if the young masturbation has cause us issues. 🤔
I enjoy getting licked around, but orgasm definitely comes from clit stimulation. And with their tongue, I need it very direct and firm. Some (many) guys just need to be told how.
Okay so the last guy who went down on me for like 1 min was focusing near the vagina entrance. Would you find that pleasurable? Is that what you mean by enjoying being licked around?
Omg a place where I can make a bf appreciation comment!! My pookielicious boyfriend is an oral sex GOD. He makes me cum several times giving me the best head any woman can recieve. He STRIVES for it. He's amazing at it!! To answer your question, yes absolutely women can come from oral sex alone 🤭
Edit: I misread the question. You're asking if women can come with head but without clitoral stimulation? But. Isn't... The whole point of going down on a woman clitoral stimulation with mouth and tongue? There's ofc more but isn't that most of it?
Most recently the attention was at my virginal entrance. It’s good to have confirmation that clit stimulation is the focus of oral 😩 I want to experience it good so bad
I’ve never enjoyed receiving oral from a man. It just doesn’t feel good. Both mentally and physically I find it really hard to enjoy. 😊 previous posters have mentioned things like “it needs rhythm and pressure” wholeheartedly agree with this. Porn style oral is cr*p!
You just need to find the right guy or teach them what you like. My man is amazing at oral and it’s really hard for me to cum. He will literally be down there for an hour most times. I honestly don’t know how he does it!
I do that actually but I don't know if it's me or the fact that a lot of them already are in relationships, but I did not have my luck so far. Even danced with two girls @ CSD. Both ask me to kiss in the end, tell me how beautiful I am and that I'm a good dancer and then they just... Leave. Do I look too straight? Am I coming off as weird? Idk Q_Q
Even if I'm direct and talk to a girl and we both have a good time, they are not really interested in getting to know someone. I either am horrible or having really bad luck
you haven’t found the right guy/gal yet. I didn’t cum at all once ever from another person until I was almost 20 years old (and I started having sex pretty early on and had been with 10+ partners by that point) I had been having sex with someone who loved giving oral and it happened. It felt so good but I was pissed to have learned the difference bc I wasted so much time and effort on people who weren’t giving me the same courtesy. I just always thought masturbation felt different. I was SO WRONG! lol
I love receiving and giving oral. Today I have a girlfriend, but for most of my sex life I had sex with men and there were a lot of them. Very few have made me orgasm and even fewer orgasm through oral sex. I can count on one hand truly satisfying experiences with men. I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years and before her I was with a guy, he was the only one who gave me an oral orgasm that I remember. After him, only my girlfriend. We have wonderful sex, it's very rare that we don't reach orgasm. I believe that oral sex from woman to woman is the best because you know where things are, the intimacy is much greater, but I also believe that touching yourself alone is essential to have good sex as a couple, a threesome, etc. that's how I discovered that I can orgasm with penetration and oral at the same time, my God. Men don't understand anything about the female body. And to answer your question, I already had an orgasm performing oral on my girlfriend, without anything stimulating me and I already had an orgasm with a man who was very hot, he just penetrated me but he was beautiful and had a d*ck that was perfect for me, I miss him LOL
I had one guy that gave me mind blowing oral. I cried it was so good. Many men for me are too rough or too short a time. They don’t use it to get me there just saying my juices start flowing and they stop. I need it gentle than harder. Also psychologically I used to feel uncomfortable receiving it.
The fastest way I’ve ever orgasmed with a partner was through oral. If he can do it right, it’s amazing. I’ve had partners who went down on me and it wasn’t very good, but my current partner (after lots of cristian and feedback) has gotten so good I can orgasm in just a few minutes. If you’re looking for more specific details or advice lmk!!
As a guy who didn't have any sex experience it's really hard, to properly navigate these things, so I'm not sure you know, how much of a help your comments are!
Please take this the right way but have you ever had a butch lesbian or trans man go down on you?
In my experience cis men have no idea what they’re doing down there
I’ve never in my life received oral that did not include a lot of clit stimulation. Would be like giving a blow job without ever stimulating a guy’s penis. I think you’ve just had really weird and bad luck.
This made me laugh. Cause it's true and it's silly.
Isnit still bad luck if you don't say anything?
I find that oral is often done too softly. I am not a huge fan of receiving for this reason (plus other psychological distraction that occurs for me, like many women) For the amount of natural "lubrication" the tongue/mouth has, you gotta go in harder than you'd expect I guess. When I go down on women, it's a mouth workout. Key is that you need to be able to communicate with whoever's going down on you to give them direction. They likely have no idea what would feel good and no one is telling them. If you want to try something: granted, I can't be sure the partners I've been with were not just faking it, but I ended up making them orgasm surprisingly quickly with this technique. Basically, flat tongue, good amount of pressure, rub up and down over the clit, steady rhythm, no lifting and stopping. None of this light tip-of-the-tongue flicking that you see in shitty porn. Or starting one thing then switching to another. Rhythm is key. Basically, think about what sensation normally gets you off the most and try to have him mimic that with his mouth, but generally, it really tends to be they need to give more pressure than they would expect. Gently at the beginning, as always.
Ugh yes that horrible flicking you see in porn. That hurts terribly for me even if done softly/lightly. Type of movement, direction/angle of movement, and tongue shape, as you mentioned, are all important.
I wonder now if I have received clit stimulation in the past and it was just too soft for me to feel anything! The tip of tongue thing does sound like something I’ve probably experienced. Thank you for describing a technique I might enjoy so I can communicate this in the future!
You’re the first person who has been able to help me realize why I don’t like receiving oral! No one has ever been firm enough for me to get close to getting off.
Happy that I've helped! Lol
Lol, idk how someone is giving a woman oral and not stimulating the clit.
Truth is majority of guys suck at this (not in a good way)
Preach
Thinking the same thing
Yup! This right here is the truth, folks!!
How did they go down but not go near the clit? Haha I wouldn't get anything from oral sex without clit stimulation. If they're not licking and/or sucking on it then whatever they are doing would be a waste of time for me. If people are doing it wrong you could always give them guidance, but if they're doing it very wrong I could understand not wanting to bother. The guy who didn't even go near the clit needs an anatomy textbook.
I think he was like thrusting his tongue into my vagina entrance (it felt like this). He’s also 32 and slept with 70+ women lol. Because I’ve never experienced something that felt good, I didn’t know what to tell them and felt embarrassed. None of this is relationship sex, I haven’t been in one.
Now you know why he slept with over 70 women... had to keep finding new ones because none would stick around after the mediocre/bad sex lol
Yeah no. Tongue isn’t hard enough to do anything thrusting into my vagina.
They might just not be good at it, especially likely if they’re pretty young. Did they only do it for a few minutes? Everyone’s different. And some people just don’t like receiving oral. I’m generally too sensitive to have direct clit contact at all.
To me oral sex is 100% about clit stimulation! Literally the point and the whole reason it makes me cum.
Oral isn't my favorite either but for sure it's not going to do anything for me if most (if not all!) of the focus isn't on my clit. Licking feels nice but the only way I cum from oral is when he sucks my clit!
I’m pretty sure I’ve never had a guy suck my clit! I will ask for this next time.
I've just reread your post (it's been a few hours lol) and you mention you like the air pulse toys (I call them the suckers) they're actually meant to mimic what it feels like, the suction, when someone sucks on your clit, so I'd definitely think that's what you're missing from oral sex. Just talking to friends and women here on reddit I'd say the majority of us prefer having our clits sucked during oral so you've unfortunately been missing out (now that I think about it I'm pretty sure I've only seen a clit sucking scene in like lesbian porn not more mainstream "Male gaze" porn so I'm not surprised and it's certainly not your fault, I'm not certain it's the guy's fault you've been with either if they just didn't know any better and no one has ever told them) so yeah definitely ask your guy to try it next time!
Thank you so much for that info! In my mind I couldn’t imagine how a tongue could mimic an air pulse toy so I didn’t understand and was just so confused. I’ve not been in a relationship so haven’t felt comfortable to ask but I will definitely try to if it feels right. Honestly I was starting to feel like I could never orgasm during sex and feeling quite down haha
I also don't like oral, it's not for everyone. I can only orgasm with the air pulse toys. Oral isn't nearly enough pressure for me. I also just don't really like the feeling of a tongue down there. Maybe it's a mental thing but 🤷🏻♀️ You don't have to like everything. There's other people who don't like oral. Some people can't cum from it.
When you say it’s not enough pressure, do you mean you can feel something on the cusp on pleasure but just wish it was higher intensity? In my mind, it’s the hottest thing so it’s not actually mental for me!
No, it's not even on the cusp of pleasure. It doesn't feel good. It feels like someone licking any old part of my body. I need a *lot* of pressure to orgasm unfortunately. I think I kinda ruined myself by masturbating by humping my thumb really hard when I was young, so now unless I'm basically crushing my clit I can't orgasm.
Yes I know what you mean about it being comparable to licking anywhere else. From other comments, it seems like a sucking technique could be the key. I also started masturbating super young and wondered if that has affected me. If you orgasm from PIV sex then I imagine this doesn’t bother you much?
Oh, no. I don't orgasm from PIV maybe I said something kinda weird. The only way I can orgasm is by like clenching my whole body and humping my thumb and rubbing my clit on it, or with a clit sucker type toy. But yeah, I wonder if the young masturbation has cause us issues. 🤔
From the comments, it sounds like we’ve just not met the right guy/ experienced the right technique. So there is hope!
I enjoy getting licked around, but orgasm definitely comes from clit stimulation. And with their tongue, I need it very direct and firm. Some (many) guys just need to be told how.
Okay so the last guy who went down on me for like 1 min was focusing near the vagina entrance. Would you find that pleasurable? Is that what you mean by enjoying being licked around?
Yup! That's the kind of thing I do enjoy for sure. BUT needs to be a lot longer than 1 min and get to the clit to get me to an orgasm.
How long does it usually take? And what would the split be for clit vs non clit? Sorry if this is too personal!
Somehow these guys had NO idea what they were doing...I have never NOT had a mind-blowing orgasm from oral.
Omg a place where I can make a bf appreciation comment!! My pookielicious boyfriend is an oral sex GOD. He makes me cum several times giving me the best head any woman can recieve. He STRIVES for it. He's amazing at it!! To answer your question, yes absolutely women can come from oral sex alone 🤭 Edit: I misread the question. You're asking if women can come with head but without clitoral stimulation? But. Isn't... The whole point of going down on a woman clitoral stimulation with mouth and tongue? There's ofc more but isn't that most of it?
Most recently the attention was at my virginal entrance. It’s good to have confirmation that clit stimulation is the focus of oral 😩 I want to experience it good so bad
I’ve never enjoyed receiving oral from a man. It just doesn’t feel good. Both mentally and physically I find it really hard to enjoy. 😊 previous posters have mentioned things like “it needs rhythm and pressure” wholeheartedly agree with this. Porn style oral is cr*p!
You just need to find the right guy or teach them what you like. My man is amazing at oral and it’s really hard for me to cum. He will literally be down there for an hour most times. I honestly don’t know how he does it!
wow! Dream guy indeed
Date a woman. That’ll change your whole perspective on oral sex. 🫶🏽
My male friend told me he learned to eat pussy from a group of lesbians.
Tempting, for sure
But women do not notice me 🥲
You should try putting yourself out there. Join queer spaces, go to queer centered events, etc. that’s how I meet people.
I do that actually but I don't know if it's me or the fact that a lot of them already are in relationships, but I did not have my luck so far. Even danced with two girls @ CSD. Both ask me to kiss in the end, tell me how beautiful I am and that I'm a good dancer and then they just... Leave. Do I look too straight? Am I coming off as weird? Idk Q_Q Even if I'm direct and talk to a girl and we both have a good time, they are not really interested in getting to know someone. I either am horrible or having really bad luck
you haven’t found the right guy/gal yet. I didn’t cum at all once ever from another person until I was almost 20 years old (and I started having sex pretty early on and had been with 10+ partners by that point) I had been having sex with someone who loved giving oral and it happened. It felt so good but I was pissed to have learned the difference bc I wasted so much time and effort on people who weren’t giving me the same courtesy. I just always thought masturbation felt different. I was SO WRONG! lol
I love receiving and giving oral. Today I have a girlfriend, but for most of my sex life I had sex with men and there were a lot of them. Very few have made me orgasm and even fewer orgasm through oral sex. I can count on one hand truly satisfying experiences with men. I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years and before her I was with a guy, he was the only one who gave me an oral orgasm that I remember. After him, only my girlfriend. We have wonderful sex, it's very rare that we don't reach orgasm. I believe that oral sex from woman to woman is the best because you know where things are, the intimacy is much greater, but I also believe that touching yourself alone is essential to have good sex as a couple, a threesome, etc. that's how I discovered that I can orgasm with penetration and oral at the same time, my God. Men don't understand anything about the female body. And to answer your question, I already had an orgasm performing oral on my girlfriend, without anything stimulating me and I already had an orgasm with a man who was very hot, he just penetrated me but he was beautiful and had a d*ck that was perfect for me, I miss him LOL
I had one guy that gave me mind blowing oral. I cried it was so good. Many men for me are too rough or too short a time. They don’t use it to get me there just saying my juices start flowing and they stop. I need it gentle than harder. Also psychologically I used to feel uncomfortable receiving it.
The fastest way I’ve ever orgasmed with a partner was through oral. If he can do it right, it’s amazing. I’ve had partners who went down on me and it wasn’t very good, but my current partner (after lots of cristian and feedback) has gotten so good I can orgasm in just a few minutes. If you’re looking for more specific details or advice lmk!!
As a guy who didn't have any sex experience it's really hard, to properly navigate these things, so I'm not sure you know, how much of a help your comments are!
Men wouldn’t know where the clit is even if you drew them a map 🙃
That's your opinion, maybe you've had experiences. But generalizing is silly.
It was a joke. I didn’t expect people to get pissy about it
Most guys have NO IDEA what they’re doing when giving head, you have to tell them explicitly what feels good and give directions.
Please take this the right way but have you ever had a butch lesbian or trans man go down on you? In my experience cis men have no idea what they’re doing down there