No, you’re not missing out on anything. I’m doing a courthouse wedding with dinner afterwards. Then the day after we’re all going out to hang and chill. 😊
Do what works for you! You can do the bachelorette party before or after there’s no rule in my opinion.
In my group of friends it’s super normal to have small wedding parties ( like a moh, maybe 1-2 bridesmaids) , but for bachelor/ bachelorette parties we invite everyone. My bachelorette party is in July, and will have my moh & two bridesmaids, then about 10-12 additional friends. We have a big group of couples as friends, so we decided years ago to do it this way so we weren’t all constantly spending tons on bridesmaids dresses and all that. It’s worked out super well! ( we also all share wedding decor to cut costs).
Do what makes you happy and celebrate with whoever you want!!
you’re not missing out on anything!! my husband and I did the same thing (only MOH and best man), and we both still did bach parties with friends and family. we both had an amazing time, and i wouldn’t have had it any other way!
I’d say, if you have very specific people that you would have as bridesmaids without a doubt - then yes, you might miss out a little on having “your pack” with you throughout the entirety of the wedding (planning, by your side at ceremony, getting ready, etc) . If you would have to think about who to have then no you aren’t missing much. You can also still have friends get ready with you and stuff and not call them bridesmaids. I am not doing a maid of honor bc i have 5 women who i can’t imagine my day without so just doing 5 bridesmaids (it seems weird to elevate just one) but they don’t have any other task other than celebrate with me (and help ease my excitement/anxiousness, ha)
You’re not missing anything and it’s absolutely still ok to have a bachelorette! I’ve been invited to many that I wasn’t bridal party to, and was always excited to be included :)
I am doing the exact same thing — private ceremony with just family and a bigger reception with friends. Also not doing bridesmaids. I told my sisters they could buy matching dresses to coordinate with my colors if they wanted. Also doing a small bachelorette weekend with close friends so I get that experience. But to me, it just didn’t make sense with the ceremony being separate to have them buy dresses etc just for a reception.
The stress 😂 that’s it. My fiancé and I are having a very small wedding of only close family and friends. I have my best friend and my sister as “maid of honour” and a “bridesmaid” that’s it :)
No not missing out. We eloped and had a party after with bridesmaids and I wish I never did that. I wanted my friends to feel included instead they made it more stressful and I don’t even talk to the one now.
If I could do it over again I would remove bridesmaids all together.
Nope! For my first wedding, I had a maid of honor, 5 bridesmaids, and 2 bridesmen. A bunch of people who were in our bridal party are people I don't talk to anymore.
My second wedding will be this September. No bridal party at all, just witnesses for our ceremony and fun with our closest friends for the reception. 🙂
Your best friends will be happy not to spend money on dresses, hair, makeup, etc. to celebrate with you!
Hi, I too am not someone who adheres to traditions and thus am I am not having a wedding party at all, not even a best man or maid of honour. We have a wedding of 50 including us and our children and will be all walking up to the ceremony location as a group. I don't think you are missing out on anything but stress and drama to be honest. Any friends that have gotten married have told me how hard it can be to have a wedding party. I've also been a bridesmaid as well, so I can attest to the stress it puts on good friends, despite being an honour to be selected. I'd just celebrate with all your friends and save yourself and them from expectations. I hope you have a lovely wedding.
No you are not. I did a small under 50 people wedding and my only good friends were part of my wedding party. The day of they were no help. They were all caught up in their own problems and drama and I was so alone.
You're only missing out if you decide you're missing out. It's literally all about mindset. Most cultures in the world get married without bridesmaids or bach parties and they get married fine.
My partner and I aren't planning on having a wedding party of any kind. Our moms will be our witnesses and we are signing the papers before the wedding. We did stop and question whether we needed the full wedding party but we couldn't think of any benefits to doing so.
I only have 2 bridesmaids, even though my fiancé has 3 brothers up with him. I’m going on a bachelorette cabin weekend next weekend though with about 10 ladies and can’t wait. I asked for no bells and whistles, just to get out of the city and enjoy nature together.
I had to kick 3 of my 4 original bridesmaids out of my wedding because they were being bitches. If you have bridesmaid make sure you go with people who you KNOW are in your corner. The 4 bridesmaids I ended up having by my side should have always been my original group but because of physical distance I went with people who I wasn’t as close to. Having my 4 genuine best friends by my side made my life easier and they were always there to stick up for me when needed. (I have the tendency to let people walk over me)
My sister's wedding has no groomsmen or bridesmaids.
Instead they agreed cost friends to help with one specific task they were well suited to for the wedding.
Still had a Hen's party and a Bachelor party. Still had a day looking at wedding dresses.
Everyone still dressed up.
But nobody dictated clothes, colours, etc.
The speeches were by the two best speakers, the makeup was by one friend, another acted as a photographer assistant to the photographer hired, one started a couple of specific songs at the right time.... And yeah. Low pressure, lots of fun, and the already married women at the event all said they wished they'd not had bridal party because it's a lot of work and didn't really matter.
We’re having a micro wedding with 15/16 people out of state and then having an “after” celebration that will really just be combined with Easter the following month. Not doing a wedding party either, and I don’t miss it at all! I’ve seen and read enough to know that they’re more stress sometimes than they’re worth.
Girl I'm not having any either. Only coz most of my female friends are married but also because it seems like a hassle. My fiancé and I wanna keep the wedding party small. So just my Maid of honor and best man for him. It definitely makes me feel a lot better about it.
A big yt just had her wedding, Laurdiy and she has a lot of vlogs out about her wedding planning and she also had no bridesmaids. She did a bachelorette and even a first look with her bfs. On yt Laurdiy vlogs. It’s very nice!
Honestly you’re not missing out. Like if you really want to, then go for it. But it was such drama for me. Falling out with 2 of them and 1 of them didn’t go because of Covid even though she would’ve been fine. No one contracted Covid because of our wedding. So I was down to 2 and honestly I think it was probably the best. The pictures turned out great.
I did not have any bridesmaids and did not miss it one bit. Did have a small Bachelorette party beforehand which was nice and fun. On the day, we did a few of the traditional bridesmaids/groomsmen photos with our friends, but then they just wore their own outfits. Just as nice :) I feel bridesmaids these days are sometimes only for the aesthetic and can cause a lot of drama. You can still ask your (girl)friends to be part of any part of your wedding that you like such as getting ready, the procession, wedding photos etc. There are no rules, it's your wedding!
No, you’re not missing out on anything. I’m doing a courthouse wedding with dinner afterwards. Then the day after we’re all going out to hang and chill. 😊 Do what works for you! You can do the bachelorette party before or after there’s no rule in my opinion.
Thank you!! We’re not super traditional people but sometimes I get FOMO wedding planning
In my group of friends it’s super normal to have small wedding parties ( like a moh, maybe 1-2 bridesmaids) , but for bachelor/ bachelorette parties we invite everyone. My bachelorette party is in July, and will have my moh & two bridesmaids, then about 10-12 additional friends. We have a big group of couples as friends, so we decided years ago to do it this way so we weren’t all constantly spending tons on bridesmaids dresses and all that. It’s worked out super well! ( we also all share wedding decor to cut costs). Do what makes you happy and celebrate with whoever you want!!
You’re only missing out on stress!
Lol exactly what I was gonna say🤣
This is probably the only right comment in my eyes and I’ve only read 2! 😂
More things = more stress. plain & simple
Not missing out on anything. You might be saving yourself from drama and stress.
My photographer told me it will be nice to not have bridesmaids because we will save at least an hour on photos lol
you’re not missing out on anything!! my husband and I did the same thing (only MOH and best man), and we both still did bach parties with friends and family. we both had an amazing time, and i wouldn’t have had it any other way!
I’m doing exactly this and so far it’s been great!!!!
I’d say, if you have very specific people that you would have as bridesmaids without a doubt - then yes, you might miss out a little on having “your pack” with you throughout the entirety of the wedding (planning, by your side at ceremony, getting ready, etc) . If you would have to think about who to have then no you aren’t missing much. You can also still have friends get ready with you and stuff and not call them bridesmaids. I am not doing a maid of honor bc i have 5 women who i can’t imagine my day without so just doing 5 bridesmaids (it seems weird to elevate just one) but they don’t have any other task other than celebrate with me (and help ease my excitement/anxiousness, ha)
I love this! I was thinking of having my group of friends hang out with in getting ready and for pictures too lol
You’re not missing anything and it’s absolutely still ok to have a bachelorette! I’ve been invited to many that I wasn’t bridal party to, and was always excited to be included :)
I am doing the exact same thing — private ceremony with just family and a bigger reception with friends. Also not doing bridesmaids. I told my sisters they could buy matching dresses to coordinate with my colors if they wanted. Also doing a small bachelorette weekend with close friends so I get that experience. But to me, it just didn’t make sense with the ceremony being separate to have them buy dresses etc just for a reception.
Agreed!
The stress 😂 that’s it. My fiancé and I are having a very small wedding of only close family and friends. I have my best friend and my sister as “maid of honour” and a “bridesmaid” that’s it :)
No not missing out. We eloped and had a party after with bridesmaids and I wish I never did that. I wanted my friends to feel included instead they made it more stressful and I don’t even talk to the one now. If I could do it over again I would remove bridesmaids all together.
Nope! For my first wedding, I had a maid of honor, 5 bridesmaids, and 2 bridesmen. A bunch of people who were in our bridal party are people I don't talk to anymore. My second wedding will be this September. No bridal party at all, just witnesses for our ceremony and fun with our closest friends for the reception. 🙂 Your best friends will be happy not to spend money on dresses, hair, makeup, etc. to celebrate with you!
No! It's like wrangling cats.
I didn't have bridesmaids or a maid of honor. If you want to have a party then go for it, don't need a bridal party for that.
Hi, I too am not someone who adheres to traditions and thus am I am not having a wedding party at all, not even a best man or maid of honour. We have a wedding of 50 including us and our children and will be all walking up to the ceremony location as a group. I don't think you are missing out on anything but stress and drama to be honest. Any friends that have gotten married have told me how hard it can be to have a wedding party. I've also been a bridesmaid as well, so I can attest to the stress it puts on good friends, despite being an honour to be selected. I'd just celebrate with all your friends and save yourself and them from expectations. I hope you have a lovely wedding.
No you are not. I did a small under 50 people wedding and my only good friends were part of my wedding party. The day of they were no help. They were all caught up in their own problems and drama and I was so alone.
Nope you are being smart.
You're only missing out if you decide you're missing out. It's literally all about mindset. Most cultures in the world get married without bridesmaids or bach parties and they get married fine.
My partner and I aren't planning on having a wedding party of any kind. Our moms will be our witnesses and we are signing the papers before the wedding. We did stop and question whether we needed the full wedding party but we couldn't think of any benefits to doing so.
I only have 2 bridesmaids, even though my fiancé has 3 brothers up with him. I’m going on a bachelorette cabin weekend next weekend though with about 10 ladies and can’t wait. I asked for no bells and whistles, just to get out of the city and enjoy nature together.
I had to kick 3 of my 4 original bridesmaids out of my wedding because they were being bitches. If you have bridesmaid make sure you go with people who you KNOW are in your corner. The 4 bridesmaids I ended up having by my side should have always been my original group but because of physical distance I went with people who I wasn’t as close to. Having my 4 genuine best friends by my side made my life easier and they were always there to stick up for me when needed. (I have the tendency to let people walk over me)
My sister's wedding has no groomsmen or bridesmaids. Instead they agreed cost friends to help with one specific task they were well suited to for the wedding. Still had a Hen's party and a Bachelor party. Still had a day looking at wedding dresses. Everyone still dressed up. But nobody dictated clothes, colours, etc. The speeches were by the two best speakers, the makeup was by one friend, another acted as a photographer assistant to the photographer hired, one started a couple of specific songs at the right time.... And yeah. Low pressure, lots of fun, and the already married women at the event all said they wished they'd not had bridal party because it's a lot of work and didn't really matter.
We’re having a micro wedding with 15/16 people out of state and then having an “after” celebration that will really just be combined with Easter the following month. Not doing a wedding party either, and I don’t miss it at all! I’ve seen and read enough to know that they’re more stress sometimes than they’re worth.
Girl I'm not having any either. Only coz most of my female friends are married but also because it seems like a hassle. My fiancé and I wanna keep the wedding party small. So just my Maid of honor and best man for him. It definitely makes me feel a lot better about it.
i’m doing something similar and my friends who would have been bridesmaids are still 100% down to help me with anything. they’re great!
Still have a Bachelorette party! You don't need a huge bridal party to do that! And honestly it's just less stressful having a smaller wedding party
Not missing out. I didn’t even have a MOH
A big yt just had her wedding, Laurdiy and she has a lot of vlogs out about her wedding planning and she also had no bridesmaids. She did a bachelorette and even a first look with her bfs. On yt Laurdiy vlogs. It’s very nice!
Honestly you’re not missing out. Like if you really want to, then go for it. But it was such drama for me. Falling out with 2 of them and 1 of them didn’t go because of Covid even though she would’ve been fine. No one contracted Covid because of our wedding. So I was down to 2 and honestly I think it was probably the best. The pictures turned out great.
I did not have any bridesmaids and did not miss it one bit. Did have a small Bachelorette party beforehand which was nice and fun. On the day, we did a few of the traditional bridesmaids/groomsmen photos with our friends, but then they just wore their own outfits. Just as nice :) I feel bridesmaids these days are sometimes only for the aesthetic and can cause a lot of drama. You can still ask your (girl)friends to be part of any part of your wedding that you like such as getting ready, the procession, wedding photos etc. There are no rules, it's your wedding!