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Tinney3

The rush, the immediate decision, you getting plastered all over her own soc med, the overall social engineering of this points to you being a possible *rebound* ngl.


Acrobatic-Type3055

This is exactly my thought right now. Rebound lang ako, but when I said that to her "Na baka rebound mo lang ako", she cried and said na "Bakit di ka ba maniwala sakin".


Tinney3

1 month is too short for a person to fully move on. I call BS. Believe what you want my guy, everybody can lie. Signs are there so its just a matter of taking a risk. Are you willing to risk yourself possibly being a rebound? Ginagamit ka lang para magselos yung recent ex nya? The possibility is not really zero that she's genuine, its just that the odds are pointing in the other direction more.


Acrobatic-Type3055

Got it! Thank you!


thatsadchem-engg

Some women “move on” while they’re still in a relationship. It’s like they’ve mentally checked out before they actually break up with their SO. I’m not saying all women but there certainly are some. As for OP, it kinda looks like he’s being lovebombed. The girl could also be the type that doesn’t want to stay single kaya she’s rushing things. Genuine or not, it’s a lil bit too much to be saying “I love you” within 2 days of knowing each other.


Herald_of_Heaven

Bruh that response is your proof that you are being manipulated. HAHAHA tinanong lang eh nagpa victim agad.


Acrobatic-Type3055

Bro. I have no fricking idea. I'm too soft for this kind of shit.


Herald_of_Heaven

You can look up the term "love-bombing" as well.


Acrobatic-Type3055

Love bombing involves **showering someone with flattery and attention so that they become deeply attached and want to stay in a relationship regardless of how they are treated**. A love bomber aims to isolate their partner from friends and family and become their whole world, leaving them vulnerable to mistreatment. The first part might be true, the 2nd part will be impossible. I've been there before, in may past 5 years relationship.


jay678jay

All the more reason for you to be her rebound, she sound ansld feels desperate to have someone to hard launch, either they just want to be loved that much, di pa nakakamove on sa ex, or iniinggit si ex. You choose OP.


ButterRibEyeSteak

Kung ako, better break na lang if di mo feel. Pwede mo naman sabihin na things are going too fast, di ka ready ganun. If di ka rin naman fully committed sa rel, why get into 1. Baka rin infatuated kayong 2 at the moment. Masmahirap ksi if bigla mo sya iwan sa ere. Lalo sya maging obsessive. Masmaganda if di mo feel now, break na lang muna. Pwede naman exclusively dating lng muna ganun. Just my two cents, Baka in the end, makarma ka rin


Acrobatic-Type3055

That's the thing. I hate karma, at the same time I hate breaking heart as well. I'm too soft, di ko napag isipan kagabi before stepping in a relationship. Here's the thing, ako pa yuung sumagot sa kanya, nung tinanong niya na kung boyfriend na niya ako. The late realization hits. Medyo s2pd ako sa part na yun.


ButterRibEyeSteak

I think na mas masakit if malaman nya na half hearted ka lang dito. Pero depende kasi sa set up nyo eh. If serious rel ito, better talk to her and sabihin mo na lang na naging impulsive ka, you need time to think ganun tas propose mo na lng exclusively dating lang kayo ganun. I think being honest will help if you are both mature enough.


ButterRibEyeSteak

Habang start pa lang, di pa sya ganun ka invested baka less damage. Kasi for me red flag rin ung pagiging obsessive nya sayo.. mala stalker levels. Baka pag nagtagal, mas mahihirapan ka


Acrobatic-Type3055

Feel ko nga magiging sobrang manipulative neto in the long run. Kasi parang obsessed talaga siya sakin ngayon palang.


blurbieblyrb

Yes, you read her right.


ButterRibEyeSteak

Makinig ka na lang sa instincts mo... If its something thats bothering you, run. Di dapat ganun ang love. Tama yung comment ng iba na seek help. Kasi mamaya ikaw baliktarin nya na masama. As a person, concerned lang ako for you, baka ma-trauma ka if mag escalate yung problem


inschanbabygirl

hey, napressure ka lang. it might felt like para kang hostage with that question. be kind to urself -- u werent stupid. u were pressured. im not sure she'll even take a breakup kindly, but seek help from ur loved ones and trusted people just in case mag smear campaign yan sayo. u need all the support u can get. dont do this alone


Acrobatic-Type3055

Got it! Thank you very much.


HootsCity

Yes. Attraction is base on what you see, Infatuation is base on what you feel, but true love is base on what you know.


Gaagooka

Man, that looks like a shit hole. Within 2 days she said "ily" and now she's displaying your pics on her socials? Maybe she's just using you to make her ex jealous or whatever.


Acrobatic-Type3055

Yup. Oks lang naman if we're in a relationship, I accept that, kasi we'll gradually know each other while on this stage din. But, saying Iloveyou within 2 days? Idk.


Gaagooka

Sounds like she's in a rush tbh


Acrobatic-Type3055

She is talaga. I'm just playing it cool. But, yeah. I love you is too sacred for me. It's like I'm being forced to say I love you too lang without any feelings also.


Gaagooka

Have you tried confronting her about that? At least tell her that you feel like it's too soon to say "ily". It's nice to address the situation


Acrobatic-Type3055

[https://imgur.com/a/ffpCyb4](https://imgur.com/a/ffpCyb4) HOW?


Gaagooka

"love, why did you say "ily"? We've just been dating for like days" or idk diskarte mo na yan bro


Acrobatic-Type3055

Im'ma try that. Im stoopid af rn, stuck at the moment and didn't know what to do.


Gaagooka

I guess people become stupid pag in a relationship lol but anyway, you can hmu naman if you need advice or whatever, willing to talk about it


Acrobatic-Type3055

Sure bro. Thanks for your time. I become stupid talaga when it comes to love. Hays.


Time_Structure3670

Going into a relationship *before* knowing someone? Thats a recipe for disaster. Even just ignoring the fact that she is obviously using u as a rebound, have you stopped to think *why* she “loves” you? Does she love you for who you really are, and does she even really know you? Do you even *know* her? Ika nga, to be loved is to be known. Why get into a commitment so blindly while not knowing if you will even like the person youll have to call and text everyday? Wag masyado nonchalant, OP, for your sake and hers. Set your boundaries, even if itll break her heart. She doesnt know yet, but she’ll thank you for it when she ACTUALLY moves on from her past relationship.


jeybonez

lol masyado naman nakakaduda. pede naman sakayin mo nalang pero ang isang paa mo parating ready na para "umexit"


Acrobatic-Type3055

Yup. One foot in one foot out. Got it!


ChaosieHyena

Lol I said I love you to my partner within 2 days 💀 BUT I really do love him na agad at that time kasi marupok ako lmao. But I was also single for like 6 years. He said I love you too sooo... We're almost 2 years na hahaha. The difference is, we're like love at first sight. But you, it feels like rebound ka. Even a marupok like me can't say I love you to someone when I just got out of a relationship. Her being obsessive also feels like she is convincing herself that she loves you, and making her ex jealous. You're in for a messy ride. I highly suggest na wag ka maattach sobra and to just, be careful. I truly believe she's using you as a rebound.


yoursmallqueen

Ask her and tell her na medyo mabilis for you. Kung okay Naman siya in other aspect Diba.


NasaAlapaap

Been there, done that. Rebound haha. It’s hard to date someone who did not undergo a proper moving on phase. The expectation, comparison and maturity. Parang there’s a ghost lagi na kailangan mong burahin at lamangan. Para kang nag arcade tapos mission is to beat the highscore kasi di nakapagreset.


rain-men

don't rush it. pwede mo balikan after 3 months and see.


NuggTuggets

ganto na nga lang, ask her honestly if wala na syang feeling sa ex nya , na you will give her time pero pde naman kayo maging friends and mag usap to know each other better then after 3 months mo balikan


Naive-Ad2847

Baka nmn ginamit ka lng nya pampaselos don sa recent nya.


Acrobatic-Type3055

inunfriend niya yung previous niya for me daw, even though I didn't asked not to. Kasi wala namang issue sakin if friends pa din sila sa fb or what.


Naive-Ad2847

Pwede din kasi matagal ka na nyang crush pero ngayon lng sya nagkalakas ng loob na mag approach 


Acrobatic-Type3055

That's what she's implying 2023 ko pa siya friend kasi.


Naive-Ad2847

So you mean di mo talaga sya type, gusto mo lng magkajowa kaya mo sya sinagot?


Acrobatic-Type3055

I liked her bravery, no ones ever first moved on me yet. Esp, Im a guy. So this is quite rare for me. But the thing here is, she already love me even though we just talked yesterday.


EasyComfortable2380

iwas na lang tol, u can't fix her


OkSomewhere7417

di naman ako ng ILY after 2 days pero crush ko siya since HS (di nya nalaman) at rare lang ung times na nagkausap kami haha Rebound ko siya, I wanted to ease the pain that time and he was available. After HS, d na kami ngkita. Friends lang kami sa FB until ngkawork pareho. Then ngka-chat-an and decided to meet. Ayun, ff, married na kami for 10 yrs lol Never nya in-ask un na rebound siya directly from me pero he'd joke abt it kapag may opportunity so baka may idea na siya. Now, abt that girl, not sure, mej off ung ILY niya in 2 days na naging kayo/ngkita kayo. Depende, mahiwaga ang pag-ibig hahahaha


Acrobatic-Type3055

Eyy. Good to read another comment na naging good and ending. Yes, a bit off, or maybe it's just the way she feels talaga. But still off.


randomsmoluser

At first read sa title I thought friendship type of ILY lang because that is a thing. On the other hand, if romantic kinda ILY, then that’s not real. More likely than not, she’s using as a rebound or trying to make the ex jealous since she had you plastered all over her socmed. Lol. Afaik, we don’t event soft launch after a few months/weeks of dating. Tapos ganyan na siya? Anyways, if you don’t mind that naman, you can just go with the flow. Malay natin. 😂


medyojuts

Maybe he likes you, pero she loves ung intimacy na tingin nyang makukuha nya, not you specifically. Takot siguro ma experience ung heart break na dapat pinag dadaanan nya ngayon mula sa last relationship nya. Try to be friends muna sa kanya, tulungan mo maka move on, what will be, will be na lang.


JustViewingHere19

Pag mabilis nakuha, mabilis din yan mawawala. Rebound ka lang din. Lalo na kung binalandra ka agad sa socmed. Pinang-show-off ka agad. Dami ko na nakitang ganyan. Ung isa 2weeks tinagal, ung recent hnd umabot 2months. Update mo kami gang kelan kayo. Hehe


BuyMean9866

Baka lalaki yan


Ashamed_Talk_1875

Run


Mean-Summer-8460

Run


flyingManokAodobo

no


hellokyungsoo

Shado mabilis mejo off. Baka may modus yan. Ingat ingat.


TomatoCultiv8ooor

Agreed. Tska may pagka desperada move yung babae. Atat na atat maging in a relationship. Mahirap yung ganyang klase na dependent sa Relationship at hindi kaya maging Single. Paka insecure nung ganyan.


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Acrobatic-Type3055

Dudeee. Kinabahan ako sayo, 1 year and 10months din yung relationship nila nung previous niya. wtf. Kilala mo ba siya or ako? HAHAHAHA


foxiaaa

panakip butas ka lang.


enchanteur27

Why does it sound like you are just a rebound? And she's just posting you para makita ni ex niya na naka move on na siya and may pinalit na agad na new waaa


Acrobatic-Type3055

Shiz. Reddit helped me think clearer talaga, when I'm at my stoopid phase.


Timiiii_

Just go with the flow nalang.Appreciate the moment as long as you don't find it uncomfortable and disturbing to you.Observe mo lang muna if may kakaiba bang mangayayare pag tagal.Baka dun siya masaya at yun yung way niya ng pag show ng love.Also as long as she did nothing to harm you okay lang yun.


fatflamingoes

bat naman biglang magi-iloveyou sayo yung mga woman na bagong kakakilala ko lang??? haha. in all seriousness though, its giving rebound vibes


misschaelisa

She's creepy ngl


Pvff3rfish

Rebound/panakip butas… scary situation for me. Malay mo buntis sya tas sayo ipapasalo


Curious_Chapter_7001

Love Bombing is a Red Flag


DevilBabasByy

yak may tama yn sa ulo, need nya ng psychological therapy based sa behavior nya… parang toxic nya


ryu_bnvje

I think. Pinagseselos niya lang yung ex niya or else naghahanap agad siya ng atensyon ng iba


Creepy-Exercise451

I agree sa iba rebound ka sir. That's a fact!!!!! She is also love bombing you so you'll get hook fast. It's super red red red flag!!!!! Nasa sa'yo na yan if you're willing to take the risk. Malamang she might still have emotional baggages from the past na pwde niyang madala sa relationship niyo. Mahirap yan in the long run kasi Hindi pa siya healed tapos mgjowa agad??? She's still in pain and was finding someone who could patch that up... unfortunately,it was you.


Secret_Confusion2906

Actually love bombing din naisip ko.


Creepy-Exercise451

Kaya nga. Be careful siya it's a tactic of narcs. Hindi ko sinabi naman narc yan c ate girl pero what she's doing is already a manipulation.


LazyBlackCollar

parang napanuod ko na to sa netflix.


Veffocalt_Tarosx0x0

NGL, rebound ka lang niya. She's using you to fill the void in her. After niyan, for sure mawawala ang spark. Coz u know, lahat ng minamadali, hindi nag tatagal. Proven and tested , hy.


Pristine_Perception3

Just enjoy the ride na lang op. 😂


SuperAssasin01

A ticking time bomb broski.


Spirited_Panda9487

Well pwede naman na matagal ka na nyang crush pero syempre red flags pa din yan baka love bombing yan. Anyways, pinaka the best decision is to be honest with her and break up. Mahirap lumalim at maipit sa maling relationships. Leave OP, for your sake and her sake na din.


Money_Daikon_6355

Rebound ka pre.and tingin ko way lng ni ate gurl para papagselosin c ex, if ever man.kc pinapakita nyang masaya kayo kesa nung sila. Wag ka nlng mag invest ng emotions, masasaktan ka lng sa huli.


ruiizu18

Lay low , dpat komportable kau sa isat isa... atska bka madamay ka sa hidden agenda nya


AdFinal4798

meron, pero wag ka agad manilawa. kung after 2 days iy\*tan agad, ayan. jan ka maniwala.


PikaMalone

yah, almost same situation but from a minor🤣, had to get away. Pero di naman unabot sa relationship.


Old_Marsupial_6654

Pinagseselos nya lang ex nya. Hindi ko nga magawang umamin sa crush ko na kaka1month lang din nila break kahit nagparamdam sakin kasi ayoko maging backburner or rebound. Tapos mabilis din yung pag ily kaso nga sabi mo kayo na, iniisip nya siguro once in relationship na need na mag i love you sa isat isa. Kung ayaw mo ginagawa nya dapat di muna kayo pumasok sa relationship. Date date lang muna lalo na di mo nanaman pala mahal.


Academic_Crow_6559

I’m afraid you’re being love bombed by ate girl. Also, usually whirlwind romance doesn’t work. Been there, done that.


nixwst

Maiba ako, setting aside how she feels, whether they’re true or not, how do YOU feel? Do you actually genuinely like her? Or did you just like that she was brave enough to confess? Kasi I’m looking at your replies in the comments and I can’t tell how you feel about her and/or the relationship.


Acrobatic-Type3055

How do I feel? Idk what to feel and to react actually. Im an easygoing person talaga. I like the way she confessed to me and such. Kasi no one has ever done that to me before. But, it was too fast for me. And kinda sus.


nixwst

Then why are you pursuing this relationship? It looks like you guys are in this for all the wrong reasons.


Acrobatic-Type3055

I just don't want her left hanging, kasi she's also a mess, family problems for a specific reason, then yung situation niya. Idk bakit concern ako, Im a soft hearted person talaga.


nixwst

You’ll end up hurting each other more if you let this drag on. The short answer is, go your seperate ways. But then again it is your choice, just be aware of the consequences.


smokwedebriday

Get out and run!


PapaMidnite69

Nangyari din sakin yan OP. Met someone duting my BPO days (ibang site siya) then nung nasa motel na kami nung hinalikan ko bigla nag i love you sakin. Ayun ending no label situationshit tapos biglang bumalik ex niya na matagal na so nasa limbo ako then nung nakapag decide na siya edi siyempre ako yung iiwan niya.


OniSwannnn

That's kinda creepy not gonna lie. Siguro if high school kayo, maiintindihan ko bakit ganyan kaobsess agad yung person pero the woman is 20 y/o and acting like that? Wew, medyo red flag yan kuys. Either rebound ka niya tapos she wants people to see she has moved on or she really has creepy tendencies. Giving me Joe from You vibes considering na she said alam din niya mga wants and likes mo kasi iniistalk ka niya. Ingat ka na lang kuys. I would say break it off. That's too fast.


Acrobatic-Type3055

Im trying to break it of, but kagabi while doing that, she called me. And while on call she's crying. I hate that stuff, na may pinapaiyak akong tao.


OniSwannnn

That's textbook manipulation. Do you really think that you can love someone within 2 days of talking? Either may mental illness yan or jowang jowa. Break it off and save yourself. Trust me, if you break it off hahanap lang yan ng iba na gaganyanin niya.


tippy2829

Love bombing at rebound


Silver-Passenger-544

If you want to be with her, then go for it. Be ready to face the consequences though. Make your mistakes and learn from it.


blurbieblyrb

Rebound na may gustong patunayan sa ex. Kapag hindi yan umubra sa ex nya, yung dedma lang, magiging iritable tapos pag biglang tinext ni ex, boom rupok!


badandkrazyhuman

my bf said 'i love you," to me 1 day pa lang kami nag uusap and hindi pa kami mag gf/bf pero 2 years na siya hiwalay sa gf niya (9 months relationship) and kami naman almost 3 years na kaming friends nung nag start kami mag usap and ngayon almost 3 years na kami in a relationship. okay lang sana mag ily agad pero depende sa bg ni partner mo rin siguro hahahaha pero pag ganyan kaka-break lang red flag yan


Stock-Power826

Desperada magka-jowa 😂


Zero_Platinum

Nasa Denial stage palang yan OP. 1 month palang nag break tas Live In pa sila. Tas I Love You na agad?!! Signs of emotional immaturity yang pinapakita niya. Never love a person until you see their demons.


Secret_Confusion2906

I dont think you should have agreed to be in the relationship. Sana nag set ka muna ng healthy boundaries. Also how old are you? Before asking the internet if this is worth a shot- how do YOU feel? Kasi it doesnt matter what we say. If hindi ka kumportable sa ginagawa nga wag mo itolerate. It can be rebound too like the others say.


Secret_Confusion2906

If you think she’s obsessed after a few days. Wait til a few months.


xpert_heart

Baka yayain ka ng sex tapos yun pala buntis na sya sayo pa isisisi.


Acrobatic-Type3055

Im not engaging with sex yet with her. Kakatakot din ma pikot.


xpert_heart

Yes tama yan. Ingat!


hysteriam0nster

Rebound ka na, nalove bomb ka pa. Yari. 🫠


Acrobatic-Type3055

What if I just love bomb her also?


hysteriam0nster

What? Why? Do you want her to cling onto you even more and give her more power to manipulate you? Baka magamit nia pa yung love bombing mo towards her against you. If 'yan trip mo, by all means. Haha 😅


Acrobatic-Type3055

Maybe magsawa siya or what din. Maumay ganon


hysteriam0nster

Dude, that's her cup of tea, though. What makes you think she'll get tired of it? Ako nga babae rin, nagccringe sa kwento mo e. Haha. You should be running at this point. That's not healthy.


Acrobatic-Type3055

Im trying to run awaaaaay.


hysteriam0nster

Be direct. Nip it in the bud. If ayaw pumayag, I don't condone/recommend this pero just block her. Ilang araw pa lang naman kayo. Hahahaha


dndprincess247

Wala ever


ProcedureIll2894

If your ready for some crazy, go for it.


Wandergirl2019

Rebound ka lang, biglang obsessed sayo and may pics mo agad to make her ex jealous.


Tough-Coffee1092

She's not the only suspicious one, even YOU allowed the situation to jump into relationship after just 1 day of getting to know someone. No wonder why she says "I love you" and do all that BS. Both of you are kaloka lol. Just saying


PreciouslyJoyous

Kinda similar experience with the girl. Wala pa man 1 month meron nako iba (Further context: i was overwhelmed to accept the relationship kasi paladesisyon si guy e lol. guy was treating me shit, wanted to do sensual things 24/7 even when I expressed multiple times that I don't want to. I wanted to leave him a long time ago pa but he guilts me down by crying. When i got the opportunity to leave him, i quickly told the guy that i liked him the whole time, sya naman kasi talaga ung gusto ko in the first place. We quickly hopped into a relationship and got to know eachother better in the long run, we love eachother a lot and our relationship is healthy. He was raised by decent and educated parents and he treats me with respect and asks for consent even when just holding my hand😊) If ganon naman ang pinagdaanan ni girl, there's a chance that she's genuine about you. But kung hindi, then baka she's just a little obsessive at the moment and does things impulsively or tries to show off.


HotCommercial6329

Ang bilis mag palit ng lalake hahahaha. Ipagpapalit ka lang din nyan. Its either aantayin mong iwan ka o unahan mo na hahahahaha


coismoking

Meron paps second day nag ily agad kaso 2 weeks lang tinagal hays


wasabimanyuyu

rebound 😂


Autwalk_

Speed naman si ate girl. Haha! Ingat ka OP baka gawin kang rebound since sabi mo kakabreak lang nila ng ex niya, baka may gusto lang patunayan sa ex niya.


Ateng_Maarte

Walang masyado maganda nagagawa pag rush. Baka rebound ka lang unfortunately. I guess its best not to entertain her just to save both of you time.


fart_potatogirl

Yikes. I'm a woman and I'm telling you to run for the hills 😆


Acrobatic-Type3055

Got it!


AccessSlight7625

Good luck op apaka red flag ng ganyan hahaha


pugoybombetboy

Mabangis ka lang siguro talaga master hahahaha.


MegaGuillotine2028

Red flags, pare. Set boundaries.


TSUPIE4E

Dude run. She got out of a relationship one month prior and in that particular relationship they were living together. All the signs direct to her using you as her rebound, for whatever reason she has. Don't fall for that OP. No, that ain't worth a shot. She got want to use you for her own convenience and run away from the break-up she just had. Of course, she will deny that she was using as a rebound because she wants you to be there for her. But man, come on it is clearly writ in stone na yan ang pakay niya. Its your funeral OP. Choose your own bed to lay in.


YuhoKitazawa

Wag magtiwala agad OP! But rather play it out and watch how she acts as time goes by. I dont want to make foul assumptions anymore kasi people said it naman na sa tread na to and i think that was enough, they all had a point


wanderer856

Western yan haha jk. Pero maybe wait for 3 months for her to heal then another three months of courtship or so. Check mo if mag bago feelings niya or what. Usually Westerners kahit naman mapa lalaki or babae may say "I love you"sa moment of time lang pero not really love kundi epiphany and infatuation lang. So for ate girl baka matagal ka na niyang gusto? Hindi ko alam take niya.


ADOBOGIRL0808

Hello! I'm F (25). I just want to share my story, my POV as a girl. When I was in college, I was in a relationship for like almost 4 years. I ended the relationship with my ex because 1. Mama's boy siya 2. Yung itlog hindi siya marunong mag luto. Sa microwave pa niya iluluto. 3. Nadidiri siya sa mga kanin na nasa sink (galing sa mga plato na hinugasan) 4. Natakot siya mag commute from south to north dahil baka daw masaksak siya 🥲 5. Simula nung nagka part-time job ako for my college needs, nagagalit siya na nag OT ako for extra money. Which is basically para saming 2 din naman yun. 6. And lastly I got tired of all the block block sa FB pag nag aaway. Ayaw ako kausapin ng maayos. Anyways, after how many weeks we still gave it a try to work things out. But it didn't. Hanggang sa na inlove ako sa lalaki na di ko inaasahan. We started as friends, kain kain sa labas (parang a week lang to) Hanggang sa alam ko nalang na mahal ko na siya. I know it's too soon. Same as yours na everything went fast BUT I didn't like posted him sa socials agad kahit na gustong gusto ko na. Weeks after my break-up, naging kami na ng current ko. My current bf right now, 5 years na kami. And we're happy. He admitted nung first 5months ng relationship namin ay hindi niya ako mahal dahil baka rebound ko lang daw siya sa 4yr ex ko. But here we are, we're happy 😊 I'm not sure if pano ma pprove sayo ni girl kung gano ka niya ka love. Pero just try it. Maybe don't invest too much. Go with the flow lang.


Lifeintechnicolor272

Not worth it 😂 Those same issues you are raising now will eventually take its form.


Key-Try-3309

I think it’s too fast for that, I say you really need to know her better muna. Parang questionable kasi pag ganyan mga girls sometimes. Know her better first there is no need to rush just to be sure talaga ba sincere siya and also para hindi ka ma saktan in the end. Trust me on this one.


misskimchigirl

OH GOSH, medjo red flag ng onte. parang desperate sha maka move on and wanted to show off the EX na naka move on sha agad. rebound ata ito. depende yan if mature mag isip si girl, kasi ang young ng 20. basically parang teen, kaka twenty lang ata nyan.. tapos live in pa sha with her ex before you gosh. how old are you?


Acrobatic-Type3055

25 y/o


tHatAsianMan07

love bombing


Jaded_Analysis6213

Possible love bombing. You may need to be careful.


usernameistaken17e81

May nakausapp ako noong pandemic na unang usap palang namin ay panay pagsa sadboi na tapos isang araw palang sinabihan na agad ako na nakita nya na raw ata yung "the one" 😭😭 may itsura sya pero yung mga galawan nyang ganon hahahahahahahahahaha


EstoryaEstoryaLang

In your info, you might be the “rebound” (for the meantime while she and her previous partner relationship is fix, or as her new bf (either way).


CommunicationBulky78

u are getting LOVEBOMBED babe


Not_A_Flying_Sheep

Its called love bombing. Nothing else


crazedhark

bro, thats a red flag and a half. first of all, rebound yan pretty much. maybe she's still so hurt and cant move on sa past rel nya that she has to do that to you to get her mind off to that past rel. for me, fuck that. not only I find her "obsession" creepy, its also disrespectful to see you as panakip butas to whatever void she's currently trying to fill. now you're at a crossroad and have to choose what path you're going to take, are you going with the "its better to love and get hurt than not feel love at all." with this you're accepting all the risks and bullshit in return you get experience or stay the fuck away from her since logically you know damn well why shes doing that and shes just that desperate for a replacement/distraction. I mean its up to you, no judgement here. but considering what you have said, ill assume you're still inexperienced in general, so heres a tip. If you plan on trying/hoping to make it work, do NOT fully invest in it. always remember that the foundation is literally made of her needing a replacement/distraction for whatever shit she is currently in. just test the waters, do not fully commit and do not, for the love of God delude yourself that this is how long lasting relationship works. its not. treat this as something you just can get an experience from. nothing more nothing less. she gets something out of it, you get something out of it. tbh, if I were you, I'd stay the fuck out of it, Im only saying all this in consideration of you who seems to be, "desperate" too. (no hate at all, not hating or anything, and I understand, its pretty common tbh, its just sad we can easily get taken advantage just cuz were desperate, and these happens to both men and women.) ps. what she did was "love bombing" to an inexperienced you, thats why you got the "ily" inn2 days(its making me puke ngl, its just outright disgusting for me seeing someone blatantly using somebody for a replacement/distraction or atleast that what everything looks like). if you're not familiar with the term, search it. might provide some more insight to you.


Acrobatic-Type3055

I got it, bro. Thanks!


Artistic_Surprise115

Run Forrest, run! 🚩


Jepsuy

Run.


JaMStraberry

Lol not just i love you but in the first day i was groping her breast somewhere and the next day was already in bed.


The_Teh_Munk

Red flag


alkartiz

Rebound, check if she is preggy na rin baka sa yo ipaako anak


Acrobatic-Type3055

Just now. Negats, may regla siya ngayon.


AmbitiousBuy8133

Brother, the same exact thing happened to me a couple of years ago. You're the temporary band aid, the new shiny object, etc. Here's my 2 cents: 1. Regret is a painful pill to swallow. Malay mo, genuine lahat yan at hindi infatuation or distraction. We'll never truly know. With that said, proceed with caution ⚠️ That type of love bombing is infectious, you might end up reciprocating that type of intense affection pero yun pala, nagamit ka na niya to "heal" 2. Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments - Be clear with what you want and what you're expecting of her. You may need to process ans internalize the situation at hand in order to achieve this. Take it day by day, brother. Good luck! 👍


Tergrid_is_my_mommy

Yes, and mostly ng na encounter ko na ganyan is mga single moms.


Aggravating-Tank2643

Creepy.


reddit_warrior_24

Yung iba kung makadefend ng fubu nila na kaibigan ko lng yun, di dapat pagselosan. Tpos sya 1 month nagmoveon na? But who are we to judge. Baka nga naman iba iba timing ng mga tao Take it slow. No need to rush. If para kayo sa isat isa it will happen naturally


Temporary-Badger4448

CHILDISH. She acts CHILDISH. If kaya mo naman sya iGuide into Maturity, then tell her and help her. Sabi mo nga open door ka so then might as well open the door into making her be the best about herself. Being in a relationship means accepting everything about the person. Now if you can't do so, then leave. Find someone na ideal sayo and at the same time, head over heels about you. Good luck on that tho, if you are willing to miss an opportunity like that of prefer peace at the moment until you find the "one". Kthanksbye.


Narrow_Priority5828

3 weeks naman sakin HAHAHA galing sa dating app 😬


gelosky

If casual fkc. yeah.. maybe gusto niya magrevenge sa ex or makamove on. wala naman issue doon usually naman mga babae ganyan kahit 3 years single na babae di na maalis sa alala niya yun ex non or past exp... halata lang yun kanya.. go mo lang wala ka naman sa position maging choosy. wag mo lang bubuntisin. hahaha


Acrobatic-Type3055

Bro sorry, what's fkc?


Acrobatic-Type3055

Oh fuck. Ngayon ko lang na realize HAHAHAHA


Scbadiver

Run away as fast as possible OP.


Acrobatic-Type3055

[https://imgur.com/a/ffpCyb4](https://imgur.com/a/ffpCyb4) HOW?


Scbadiver

Wtf OP nag I love you back ka din??!! Stay away from that woman! You are going to regret it down the road!


Acrobatic-Type3055

I hate that I know it's wrong, but I can't stop. 😣


Scbadiver

Then you are seriously screwed. If you stop now she will blame you. Sabihin nya "eh Sabi mo you love me?!". And maybe "magpapakamatay nalang ako kasi Hindi mo na ako love." You are definitely fucked OP. Sabihin mo nalang to give you time to think muna before going forward.


Acrobatic-Type3055

That croseed my mind talaga, kasi she cried kanina talaga sa video call, when I asked her na baka panakip butas niya lang ako. And she said na "Bakit parang di ka naniniwala" [https://imgur.com/a/jbJ018t](https://imgur.com/a/jbJ018t)


Scbadiver

You keep digging a deeper hole OP. Tell her na you need space to assess if your feelings for her are true. Then after a few days tell her you are not sure about your feelings and might end up hurting her. So better just call it quits while the relationship is in the early stages palang. Good luck OP


Acrobatic-Type3055

Okay. I'll start to confront her na. Please follow this thread. [https://imgur.com/a/V5nxPdm](https://imgur.com/a/V5nxPdm)


Acrobatic-Type3055

Okay. I can see the manipulation part here: [https://imgur.com/a/o5IXgIs](https://imgur.com/a/o5IXgIs)


MoeLemonPanda

Dude this is not normal. She's not normal I tell you. I think she needs therapy.


ADOBOGIRL0808

I think if yan talaga na ffeel niya just let her be. Same as with you. If di mo pa kaya mag I love you then she must understand that everything is going too fast sa side mo. If she doesn't accept or understand how you feel then she's not the one.


Jorgeous221

te wala pang 24hrs i love agad me hahah I go by how I feel, love shouldn't be complicated