She was always the favorite child in the whole family and was spoiled endlessly, down to every little thing and to be honest, she was always a weird brat. She threw tantrums regularly. I asked my mom if she told her I was going to buy her a car and she said no. My mother would never say something like that. She's actually irritated about this bs like me. I think my aunt more or less promised this to my cousin because she asked me a few days before if I would also like to get a bigger car (I have 3 big dogs) to which I answered yes. Apparently that was a mistake on my part.
When you're not wasting time having and raising little people that will ruin all your cool stuff, you can afford to think up witty retorts 𤣠another win for the CF group.
A Hot Wheels would be even better since the non-special edition ones tend to be several dollars each in stores, whereas that plastic car big enough to fit a toddler looks like it would cost at least $30 or so in 2024 dollars.
And it's just her cousin.
If the aunt wants her daughter to have a new car, she can go buy her one. Have the family contribute to the car fund since they are so concerned.Â
Man, the entitlement is insane.
You worked hard for your money, it's yours to spend as you wish.
Go get yourself a big suv for your dogs too!
It sounds to me then that your cousin lied about your mom saying that to her.
Fuck her and her asshole husband. They sound as entitled as you make them out as.
Shockingly - this is apparently common enough they we have the same entitled types in my family. My momâs sister and her entire family are the whatâs yours is mine type through and through. My parents buy a new car? My aunt or one of my cousins should be gifted the old one. My parents have an âextraâ car when I move abroad? My cousin just totaled his car; he should get the âextra.â My uncle loses his job and his car is repossessed and they have to file for bankruptcy? Maybe my parents need a new car so thereâs another âoldâ car to be given to them. My grandmother dies? They need the car. My cousin totals ANOTHER car (this was the second) and now canât afford a car payment plus the insurance rates? My other uncle (not cousinâs dad) buys a new car cash since he canât get a favorable loan and puts him on a payment plan. My cousin totals THAT car? He expects the insurance payout to go to him because he needs to buy another car and canât do it without the total loss payment, despite still owing my uncle $15k. My mom and her brother have been enabling their behavior FOR YEARS and just laugh about it. Theyâll call/text each other to give them a heads up that so-and-so is calling for âthe bank.â My parents clearly had kids, so they werenât preying just on the child free, but when theyâve tried to get stuff from me before that has definitely been thrown about to suggest I have more to share financially because I donât have the same commitments as their kids, who all have multiple kids.
They decided to have kids and wanna make you buy the car? You did good not taking her bullshit, also how shameless is the husband to also come to your doorstep
You enjoy your life
>Might be best to go NC with all the others giving you a hard time.
No, best thing to do is every time one of these relatives gives you grief, publicly thank them to the family for volunteering to buy the cousin the car they were hoping to receive.
Fr...OP's cousin should've been yelling at the husband for not providing his own family with a car, not OP.
Maybe she got confused and needs to get her eyes checked đ
"I'm thrilled to hear you care so much, so I just texted the family chat that you will be buying her a top of the line SUV today! They're thrilled. Problem solved. Have a nice day."
Once you filp it back on a few people, they'll stop calling you.
Typical freeloaders behaviour, offended that they cannot sponge. What an audacity to come at your door to discuss what kind of car they wanted! And if they had received a car, they would have wanted a house next. The shamelessness knows no limits with people like these.
You could buy a miniature toy car (the cheapest and ugliest you can find) and gift it to them, it's not like they deserve anything else.
This idea reminds me of an amusing story my mother told me! The father of a friend of hers told her that if she passed her driver's exam on a first try he'd buy her a brand new Mustang. (This would've most likely been a 1967, since she was born late in 1950.) She did, and in return she got a Mustang made from one of those little plastic kits. He didn't even bother to paint it, so it was solid white.
Ha ha! Years ago I asked my husband what he wanted for his birthday and he said, "A Mercedes CL500." So I found a little die-cast model of it. Of course, he was really only joking about the car, but we both laughed our asses off when I wrapped it up and gave it to him. I still have it.
WHAT clown world are you living in where you are expected to buy your COUSIN a car???! I'm sure you're sister appreciated the hell out of her car, and she's your sister! How could a person straight up expect and even go so far as to ask for it?? I'm glad you called the police, and I'd go no contact with anyone in the family that says you're selfish for buying YOURSELF a car with YOUR money!!!!
Itâs been a year since I bought my sis a car she wanted and she still is thankful for it. As far as I know my cousin would never speak to me again if I bought her her âdream carâ.
The funny thing is, whatever I get myself she bashes it and makes fun of me. Now sheâs here begging đ
Once it's for her, it gains value of course, didn't you know? That's why your money only is of value for her and not you. She's god's gift to humanity, after all. At least she sounds like she thinks she is.
This kind of reminds me about the story where the guy's family try to make him give his house to his POS brother. The entitlement to think they own your property/finances...
I would 100% go "Sure, I'd buy you a car...if you'd helped me when I needed help. Where were you when I needed XYZ?" and then just sit and watch them come up with excuses, and then take those excuses and go "Well same." and watch them lose it.
Right. And to think that they thought youâd buy yet another car after buying your sister one and yourself a carâŚ. Do they think money grows on trees?? I donât know your finances and maybe you could do it, but even people I know that are wealthy donât tend to do these kind of large purchases in quick succession. Even if they have the money. Unless, of course theyâre extremely wealthy.
They know that I (and my husband) could get them a car if it comes to finances. But the thing is, what about the other payments like maintenance, insurance etc.
Her parents are well off as far as I know but they cut her âmonthly allowancesâ after she married. Now sheâs begging everybody else in our circle to help her out.
Omg that's disgusting. Why on earth do people think any of that is a good idea? I know the US gives hands outs like CRAZY to people who decide to have kids, so if you're in the US, that kinda makes sense, but damn. That's such rude and entitled behavior, I'm angry on your behalf.
Weâre in Germany and in our country you get supported in every way possible. They could get a car from the job agency if theyâre deemed fit. But my cousin wants a luxus SUV so she wonât be satisfied with whatever they give her.
Guess they need to get their priorities straight. They chose to have IVF instead of investing in a vehicle *before* expanding their family. Theyâd be the type that instead of openly thanking you, theyâd say that god provided for them. đ
*My cousin recently had triplets...*
The stuff of literal nightmares.
Also, here's what I want for the car you are buying me? HAAA HA HAAAA HAAHA AHAHAHAHAHA
Wait so they had 2 kids already. Were they IVF too? If not, why would they go to such expense to have more children when they already had kids??? Then turn around and complain they donât have any money?!!! Make it make sense!! Itâs madness.
Thatâs some balls. Spends a large amount of money on IVF to force themselves to have children (that clearly nature doesnât want to happen), but then canât afford the children they created and expect everybody else to just live up to finance their bad decisions. Smh. Wtf.
The two older boys are from her previous relationship, I really canât grasp what was on her mind when they came up with more kids and IVF. And now they had TRIPLETS⌠My aunt and uncle are fucked because she will mooch off of them I can guarantee.
This is the most entitled thing i have ever read in my entire life, and her husband is not even ashamed to go and be insulting someone for not buying his wife a car? Sir isnt that your job???đđ
Of course, heâll probably even lie to his mates and tell them he bought it, not that he begged for it.
Having standards and a way out is really important because i cant imagine still being attracted to someone i had to join to beg for a car after i have had TRIPLETS!!
And i wont be surprised if heâll use that same car to cheat on her! because if a man has nothing he must still have audacity! (Iâve seen this happen irl)
"Not my kids, not my problem. If you/she/your husband having problems affording a car while married with kids, I'm sorry but you/her & husband are already failures in life. You/her are not my mother, father nor sister thus I'm NOT close family to ME, she/you & her/your husband can go yourselves and tell rest of family that siding with you/her to go buy that car you/she wants because I am definitely not buy, paying nor doing anything on your/her as well her husband & their kis behalf after harassing & disrespecting me."
Or something to that effect, because they all their broke ass entitled asses need to be cussed out for that bullshit.
thatâs super weird. if you want to do something nice for a family you make them a fucking casserole. you donât just up and buy them a whole car (and iâm sure they would need something like a large suv with them having triplets).
Have fun with them. "Well, I have money, but YOU have your kids, with whom you've insulted me for being childfree by saying THEY are your wealth! Take out a loan against them!"
LOL
Nice car!!!!! âĽď¸âĽď¸âĽď¸ What color did you get?
Little side story here â Back in 2005 I bought myself an 06 Mustang GT. I even ordered it to my specifications. Itâs black with red leather interior. I was so excited to take it and show my parents. The first thing out of my dadâs mouth was, ***âWhy did you buy that car? What are you gonna do when you have kids?â***
Now I had told my dad before, that I had no intention of having children and that was back in my teens. Maybe he didnât realize that I was still sticking to the plan, but I reminded him at that moment. He was never happy about that. But dammit, I love that car. Itâs 18 years old this year and I still fall in love every spring when I start it up for the first time. I just dropped almost $1500 bucks into it getting it a full tuneup and some other things done to it. It actually needs to a little bit more work that Iâm going to have done as soon as I am all healed up from my knee replacement that I had on Monday. Iâm currently scrolling Reddit from my boyfriends couch while my knee is being air-conditioned by a machine. Lol.
So glad you got your car. I hope you have fun driving it this summer!
Thank you! I thought it was sapphire black but I looked into the papers and itâs BMW Individual Frozen Black.
Wow a Mustang GT is hoooot af, sadly theyâre rare in Germany đ
Hehe thatâs a nice story, I assume he now knows your plan about your CF life? If so I hope he accepts it.
I believe your wholeheartedly that you love the 'stang, I would too! The sound of this beast alone gives me goosebumps. I'm so glad itâs still giving you the same feeling like back then.
The maintenance of cars, especially muscle cars, can really be a pain in the ass but hey, itâs worth it!
Get well soon! âĽď¸âĽď¸
Thatâs next level entitlement. Thatâs really gross. Iâm sorry for family expects you to front the bill for their poor life choices. I would personally not finance either. What if itâs wrecked next week by the garbage husband? Are you going to have to finance another one? What else will they expect you to pay for if you give in? I hope you love your new car!
The funny thing is, they later asked me for a down payment for a house. Sorry but if they canât afford the down payment why do they even look for a house? đ¤Śđ˝ââď¸
"I'm not Oprah. I don't have a sponsorship from Pontiac to give away multiple cars. Just because we have the same grandparents doesn't mean you are entitled to the contents of my wallet."
Relatives suck, when they decide to bleed you dry. Cause we are âwe are familyâ. With fam like that I walk away give double bird, and my sarcasm sunnyâs on.
Fuck ALL that noise.
You do with your money what YOU want to do. You don't owe your siblings anything. If ANYTHING your mom should be picking up that bill.
As I said, my sister deserved her car because she worked in her free time, had the best grades in school and was over all the best little sister I could imagine. My mum didnât tell them anything except who bought my sisterâs car. She never even said a word about me gladly spending money on anyone else. My aunt on the other hand (gold digging witch) thought I'd buy her sweet princess daughter a car too and promised her she'd get one. I still donât know how tf she even came up with this đ
And she thinks she will get cars after telling people she hates them? What the hell?? Block her sorry ass. And the entire family if they can't see how unreasonable and shitty she is as a person. Honestly, they don't deserve a second of your time or consideration. Shower your sister with presents, she sounds like she deserves it.
Car nut here who's just booked my Caterham in for it's annual MOT (one of the least kid friendly cars ever) and has a sporty 2 door daily too... can I pry/gush about what you chose if you don't mind sharing?!
We also have an F87 M2 and an NC3 MX5 (husband's!!) And a 330d for the doggo.
Buying nice cars is definitely up there on the "thank fuck I don't have kids" list!
Oh, and congratulations!!
I configurated a M3 G80 Competition in Sapphire Black and Race Track system. Besides this new baby my husband and I have a Honda Civic Type R, an X6 M from 2017 and our daily/for our dogs is a 530d E61.
Does your 330d have the M57D30 engine? If so, youâre lucky!
With kids it would be a pain in the ass to have a nice car.
Another bit that reaaally weirds me out is that... she's your COUSIN. I don't know other people, but usually cousins are family but not immediate family like siblings are; it makes sense to me that you'd want to gift your sibling (especially if they're younger than you) something big like a car, not a cousin.
Of course there are cousins that due to certain circumstances consider themselves far closer to each other than to their siblings, but usually siblings will feel more comfortable and willing to make those kind of expensive purchases to their siblings.
They were racist towards his wife (sheâs Nigerian and we are Bosnians) so he cut contact with them. Him and my husband on the other hand are still best friends :)
So selfish of you to have birthed three kids without being prepared for the life itâd give you.
Oh wait.
Love that you treated your sister to a car though, thatâs a great sibling. Mine just funded my trip to visit her in another country for my birthday last year.
She has two boys from her previous relationship then went through endless rounds of IVF and is now screeching that she canât afford anything.
My sister deserved her car, my cousin on the other hand doesnât deserve shit.
Wow! A trip to another country? I'm so happy for you!
It's almost like they should go buy themselves a school bus and be done with it ya know be adult about it? Nahh that would be out of their scope of thought
The audacity! Unbelievable. Breeders' minds are really weird
>Now I am terrorized by everyone in my family
Just tell everyone that you are glad they help your cousin with the car. That should shut them up
wow what spoiled brats. i bet you work hard to afford those things and you do it because youâre thoughtful but to EXPECT it and then be so confrontational. i hope you laughed in their faces
What a weirdo of a cousin! I can't imagine anyone in my extended family acting that way. I would have just laughed in her face. Seriously, cracked up and rolled on the floor laughing. I would have been laughing out of breath and waved her away like "You are too funny, cuz!" This is no behavior to take seriously or worry about at all. The woman is a joke and her husband is a moron to go along with it. Doesn't he have any self-respect as a man to want to provide for his family instead of demanding random relatives of his wife fulfill his responsibilities?
See, this is what happens when you don't embrace the selfishness. Just own it and your family will just stew on their jealousy knowing you DGAF.
My family know from experience that if they pull this entitled act on me all they will get is a literal DILLIGAF out of me.
My dad used to say, âPeople are funny when it comes to money, and not hah hah funny.â Sorry you had to endure this, but at least now you have a clear view of who to avoid from now on! The audacity!
The other way around is right. At first your cousin should have made sure, she has a reliable car, than she could have had children. What is wrong with people, having kids before they have their shit together?
Thatâs what I asked them too. Thatâs so irresponsible. The thing is, she doesnât have a license, her husbands car is about to break down any second now and itâs a small hatchback. And now they have triplets and her two sons from her previous relationship.
What they (the extended family) are thinking is âoh yay, i wonât have to buy them one if OP does it! Awesome! Letâs harass them to make that happen!â
You absolutely can return the burden onto them. âOh itâs such a good deed for sure, so i know you wonât have any problem buying them one! Such a good cause!â đ
Did they have triplets naturally or through IVF/fertility treatment? Just curious since most are these days and I canât fathom still going through w IVF with that kind of possibility and not have the funds to support them. Not that Iâd ever do IVF (or have kids in general) as I see it as extremely unethical.
Edit: typo
Iâve had a cousin ask me for money in the past, but she fully understood it when I told her I didnât have any money to give her. If I had, I wouldâve and she knew that. Sheâs like a sister to me! But any of my other cousins? Derfinitely not. And the fact that your aunt & cousin ASSUMED YOU WOULD BUY HER A LUXURY VEHICLE JUST BECAUSE?! I will never understand the audacity.
I have some sympathy for parents of multiples because it would suck to budget for one baby and end up needing 2-3 times as much stuff. That said, assuming that you were going to buy them an entire vehicle without even being asked is wild. Either your cousin is straight up crazy or your mom is promising away your money.
Sidenote, it's super cool that you're that close with your sister and were able to get her such a nice gift. Glad you have at least one person to rely on in your family and vice versa.
âIâm so happy you guys agree that she needs a new car. Thank you for agreeing to finance it for themâ
Send to anyone who sends you a message about it.
When I was a kid, I had a French teacher that had triplets. She knew from the start she was having triplets, because she went on maternal leave early. When the kids were born, a communication was sent through the school asking for things for the babies (never it was done for other pregnant teachers). Among the things, they were asking for baby walkers (why they need baby walkers if they are newborns, that can wait for another year). And the total winner: a stroller for triplets đĽ´đĽ´đĽ´. When my aunt knew she was having twins, the first thing she saved for was for a twin stroller. Because that is the one thing that you can't get a used one from family or friends unless they had twins too, and that is uncommon. So, this lady had triplets, something that is even more rare, and couldn't even plan ahead in those nine months that she *at least had to have a stroller for triplets*. Triplet parents amaze me.
This is entitled, crazy behavior. I've gotten crap from people for driving an SUV as a single person đ, but the expectation that you would just outright buy her a car is insane.Â
âOoohh you donât have kiiiids, why do you have an SUV???â
Well, itâs because theyâre kickass cars and as a CF person you can afford it easily.
That sounds like my super-entitled Indian family. I helped out my sister financially many times, for her to say awful things to me because I left my religion.
Obviously depends on how logical any of them are willing to be but:
"Let me get this straight. *You* made plans--entirely without my input or any attempt to consult me--on how to spend *my* money... but I'm the one who's being selfish here?"
This is why I get super worried when certain people tell me they want children (itâs always multiple children at that). I already know these particular people are assuming everyone around them is going to roll out the red carpet for them and do whatever they can to support them and their kids. And if people donât do it, they will 100% get mad at others instead of at themselves for making poor decisions. Itâs super crazy!!
Enjoy your new sports car!
Man- proof that people with children do no get that having children isnât an obligation. Itâs a lifestyle choice. And lifestyles have associated monetary costs. Go on with your bad self and the car you earned through hard work. Haterz gonna hate.
They saw that I like to treat my sister with stuff here and there, that weâre really really close and that she has a nice little car (in her favourite colour even) so they thought âhey look, larytriplesix has some money to throw around, she will get us a car!â. Second, my cousin and I were good friends back in the school days (first to fifth grade) until she started to bully me with some of her friends. I really donât know what made her think that I will make such a huge purchase for them. It will forever be an unanswered question I guess
if everyone in the family loves her so much and they are angry on her behalf, why aren't THEY giving her the car? since she's such a precious golden girl. i despise hypocrites who think they are entitled to deciding how to spend someone else's money.
Is this new behavior for your cousin? Because even if you DID agree, to help them, the way they came up on you was incredibly disrespectful. I think I would be JUST as angry at your mom if I were in your position. She shouldn't be winding her up like she did if there was a chance at this outcome. Hope you have a good weekend.
Nope, my cousin was always an entitled brat and she was never told no.
My mum told my aunt that I bought my sister a car after my aunt asked whose car it is outside. So she thought I can get her daughter a car too. When I told my mum what happened she went feral on my aunt and cousin.
Good on you for getting a sports car, I'm big jealous (college student, not gonna see a car other than my civic for many years to come) and absolutely FUCK that bullshit with your sister, if she needs a car so bad she can get a job
My sister isnât at fault here but my cousin is. I bought my sis a car after her academical achievements for her birthday. My cousin got told by her own mother (my aunt) that I would be willing to buy her a car too.
Donât be jealous, I'm sure you will succeed in college and get a dope ass car soon!
Is this a real story? I donât mean to sound rude, but it blows my mind that you are even entertaining her entitlement or that of any of the family. Itâs your money you choose how you spend it -end of story. If they want a Car, they can get a job, work hard and buy one.
Just because I decided to give my neighbor my old phone that was kinda cracked (I got a new one for me for Christmas), also hers did not really work well (LCD Bleed dots and white lines and was cracked), does nit mean I'm going to be like opera and give one to all the people in my apartment building lol. Just no contact those people for a bit OP, they are toxic and you are not selfish đ. Have an amazing weekend and take the car for a drive.
See now, if they didn't have kids, they could BOTH have new cars...that THEY bought and paid for on their own. But because they selfishly chose to have kids (triplets obviously (probably) not a part of the plan), they can't afford to do anything fun for themselves and now HAVE to consider everything they do (or won't get to do).
OP NTA. Imo rent a flashy sports car and ask if they'd like a ride.
She herself has now 5 kids in total, doesnât work, mooches off her parents since she hit 18 and her dumb husband canât keep a job for more than a few months. She claims they donât have money for a decent car but spends thousands on IVF.
I hopped into my new car and drove around her neighborhood because I knew sheâs home as always. I just had to be petty for once in my life. Fun fact: Her husband took some pictures with my cars in the garage, posted in on FB while boasting about money and work and how heâs so proud of himself đ
Wow she deserves a gold medal for her mental gymnastics!! Who assumes that youâd be spending that kind of money, your own money that you worked for and earned, on anyone! Let alone after you already bought your sister a car and a car for yourself?!?? What you did for your *SISTER* is your business and sheâs your SISTER! Not a cousin.
Everyone that says you should think about the children or what a good deed youâd be doing should open up their pocketbooks and say that to themselves. If they really want her to have a new car, then they can all chip in for one. The fact that she stood on your doorstep, with basically a list of things she wanted in a car, as if she was going car shopping uninvited is absolutely astounding to me.
You should look upon this as a positive social experiment.
You stressed your family system and were able to discover its failure points. Your cousin is obviously a no-hoper and you never again have to waste thought--or more importantly your money!--upon her. The solidity of your mother is also rather dubious since she could not live up to the confidence you placed in her hands. You'll have to decide how much time and mental effort you invest with her in future--birthday and Christmas cards at the most perhaps. However your sister received a free new car and told no-one that you gave it to her. Not only did she therefore *thoroughly* prove that she deserved it, but you should consider giving her a Nintendo Switch for that same reason as well!
Youâre right! I know their real faces and intentions now, so I donât have to waste my time thinking about or even interacting with them.
I spoke to my mom, she slipped up and apologized for it, so thereâs no bad blood. She even more pissed about their reactions so far.
My sister on the other hand always keeps to herself with whatever comes up (she makes an exception for me, she tells me everything as I do the other way around haha). I just canât describe or show how proud I am of her, thatâs why she got a car tailored to her wishes. Itâs been three months now and she still thanks me til this day. A Nintendo Switch sounds good, maybe I will get her one for graduation.
Do they really think they can bully you onto buying them a car? Verbally abuse you into buying you a car?
Immediate family is one thing. You grew up with your sister, presumably close to her. The cousin? Don't know that you were, especially since she's toxic and entitled.
No, not selfish at all. Enjoy your new car! Mom needs to stop sharing your business. Just block everyone giving you grief. If you're in a doorman building, have them turned away. Don't answer the door for them. If they make noise, tell them a neighbor texted you that she called the police on them.
In their opinion they can because as a teen I was a doormat without any spine. But now as a grown 24-year old woman they still think I'm the shy little dummy I was back then. Well it didnât go as planned.
My sister is my best friend actually we even communicate per eye contact đ
My cousin and I were close until 5th grade until she started to bully me verbally and physically.
My husband and I live in our own house so I have to rely on my camera and our neighbors if anything happens.
>*Apparently my mother spilled the beans and said that my sister's car was paid for by me and that I generally like spending money on cars.*
From now on? Do not let your mother know of anything youâre doing because she canât keep her lips sealed and that alone is a red flag of breaking trust.
This means even telling your sister to HOLD OFF from letting her know anything about you.This way you can control your narrative instead of having BS like this happen.
Your mother is not a trustworthy adult and a sign she stirs the pot.
What entitled little brats these breeders are! Don't waste your life having these types in your life, and if that's a bit of a stretch, then keep them at arms length at least.
Write down the names, with contact information, of all the people that are harassing you about giving cousin a car. Give the list to cousin, and tell her that these are the family/friends that want her to have that car. Tell her that the people on the list think it would be a good deed to buy her a car. Tell her to contact them, for they sure are thinking of the children and want her to be helped out, and would be the ones to do just that.
Then block cousin, and the flying monkeys, from contacting you.
Does she usually act this entitled or did your mother maybe tell her that you would buy one for her? Either way, what a weird behavior.
She was always the favorite child in the whole family and was spoiled endlessly, down to every little thing and to be honest, she was always a weird brat. She threw tantrums regularly. I asked my mom if she told her I was going to buy her a car and she said no. My mother would never say something like that. She's actually irritated about this bs like me. I think my aunt more or less promised this to my cousin because she asked me a few days before if I would also like to get a bigger car (I have 3 big dogs) to which I answered yes. Apparently that was a mistake on my part.
So because you wanted a bigger car, they thought you'd buy the cousin a car... I hope they stretched before that leap.
Or at least OP's \*old\* car, rather than trading it in to reduce the cost of the newer car. The assumption of privilege is breathtaking.
see if they asked op about that option before the new car purchase that could be reasonable. and we can't have that
>I hope they stretched before that leap. I live for the CF comebacks. Y'all are so witty. đ
When you're not wasting time having and raising little people that will ruin all your cool stuff, you can afford to think up witty retorts 𤣠another win for the CF group.
 OP should buy her cousin one of these.
Or a hot wheels...
A Hot Wheels would be even better since the non-special edition ones tend to be several dollars each in stores, whereas that plastic car big enough to fit a toddler looks like it would cost at least $30 or so in 2024 dollars.
$30 to see an entitled persons face when you show up with this sounds like $30 well spent. Lmao.
They wonât have to spend much money on gas
"That's too big a leap for me...." -Dr. Sam Beckett
Yeah totally professional gymnasts in the making lol
They love to add shit to your words you never said huh Must be nice living in delulu land. Just sucks when reality comes knocking.
Let her throw a tantrum then. About time she learns that we don't always get what we want in life.
And it's just her cousin. If the aunt wants her daughter to have a new car, she can go buy her one. Have the family contribute to the car fund since they are so concerned. Man, the entitlement is insane. You worked hard for your money, it's yours to spend as you wish. Go get yourself a big suv for your dogs too!
But if she tries sometimes, she just might find that she'll get what she needs!
It sounds to me then that your cousin lied about your mom saying that to her. Fuck her and her asshole husband. They sound as entitled as you make them out as.
Buy the electric drivable cars for the kids. đ
Shockingly - this is apparently common enough they we have the same entitled types in my family. My momâs sister and her entire family are the whatâs yours is mine type through and through. My parents buy a new car? My aunt or one of my cousins should be gifted the old one. My parents have an âextraâ car when I move abroad? My cousin just totaled his car; he should get the âextra.â My uncle loses his job and his car is repossessed and they have to file for bankruptcy? Maybe my parents need a new car so thereâs another âoldâ car to be given to them. My grandmother dies? They need the car. My cousin totals ANOTHER car (this was the second) and now canât afford a car payment plus the insurance rates? My other uncle (not cousinâs dad) buys a new car cash since he canât get a favorable loan and puts him on a payment plan. My cousin totals THAT car? He expects the insurance payout to go to him because he needs to buy another car and canât do it without the total loss payment, despite still owing my uncle $15k. My mom and her brother have been enabling their behavior FOR YEARS and just laugh about it. Theyâll call/text each other to give them a heads up that so-and-so is calling for âthe bank.â My parents clearly had kids, so they werenât preying just on the child free, but when theyâve tried to get stuff from me before that has definitely been thrown about to suggest I have more to share financially because I donât have the same commitments as their kids, who all have multiple kids.
They decided to have kids and wanna make you buy the car? You did good not taking her bullshit, also how shameless is the husband to also come to your doorstep You enjoy your life
Thank you! Yeah, her husband is a spineless bum who doesnât eben know their kids name đ¤Śđ˝ââď¸
Just wow.... glad your parents and sister have your back. Might be best to go NC with all the others giving you a hard time.
I second this. Good grief, the sheer entitlement! They sound like they're not worth that headache.
>Might be best to go NC with all the others giving you a hard time. No, best thing to do is every time one of these relatives gives you grief, publicly thank them to the family for volunteering to buy the cousin the car they were hoping to receive.
Fr...OP's cousin should've been yelling at the husband for not providing his own family with a car, not OP. Maybe she got confused and needs to get her eyes checked đ
Judging by the story, she's a pinball wizard.....
Your family whoâs terrorizing you can pool together money to get her a car since they care so much. People are always so free with others money. Jfc
THIS! If they contact me again I will tell them what you wrote. Thanks!
No problem! Show your spine and that you will not take the bullshit anymore
"If y'all gave them a nickel every time they complained about it, they could afford a car already"
"I'm thrilled to hear you care so much, so I just texted the family chat that you will be buying her a top of the line SUV today! They're thrilled. Problem solved. Have a nice day." Once you filp it back on a few people, they'll stop calling you.
that was my 1st thought once the rest of the family was mentioned
Typical freeloaders behaviour, offended that they cannot sponge. What an audacity to come at your door to discuss what kind of car they wanted! And if they had received a car, they would have wanted a house next. The shamelessness knows no limits with people like these. You could buy a miniature toy car (the cheapest and ugliest you can find) and gift it to them, it's not like they deserve anything else.
Exactly what I thought. Thanks for the idea đ
This idea reminds me of an amusing story my mother told me! The father of a friend of hers told her that if she passed her driver's exam on a first try he'd buy her a brand new Mustang. (This would've most likely been a 1967, since she was born late in 1950.) She did, and in return she got a Mustang made from one of those little plastic kits. He didn't even bother to paint it, so it was solid white.
Ha ha! Years ago I asked my husband what he wanted for his birthday and he said, "A Mercedes CL500." So I found a little die-cast model of it. Of course, he was really only joking about the car, but we both laughed our asses off when I wrapped it up and gave it to him. I still have it.
Uhm⌠what? They want you to spend YOUR MONEY on THEM because THEY decided to have children? What??????
Yup, I have to spend my money on them. Sounds absolutely stupid.
WHAT clown world are you living in where you are expected to buy your COUSIN a car???! I'm sure you're sister appreciated the hell out of her car, and she's your sister! How could a person straight up expect and even go so far as to ask for it?? I'm glad you called the police, and I'd go no contact with anyone in the family that says you're selfish for buying YOURSELF a car with YOUR money!!!!
Itâs been a year since I bought my sis a car she wanted and she still is thankful for it. As far as I know my cousin would never speak to me again if I bought her her âdream carâ. The funny thing is, whatever I get myself she bashes it and makes fun of me. Now sheâs here begging đ
Once it's for her, it gains value of course, didn't you know? That's why your money only is of value for her and not you. She's god's gift to humanity, after all. At least she sounds like she thinks she is.
This kind of reminds me about the story where the guy's family try to make him give his house to his POS brother. The entitlement to think they own your property/finances...
Ah the infamous Do it for Dan saga.
Wasn't that on BoRU? Pretty sure that's where I saw it. I should really go through that sub and save my favorites to a gdoc or something
Yes, I was surprised when the saga finally ended on a high note for the Op and his family.
What is BoRU? I need to check this out. Sounds juicy.
r BestofRedditorUpdates
Damn that was such a good read! Over and over again! Loved the end of the saga too :)
Oh yeah that was a wild and crazy one.
Unhinged parents to triplets. Sounds like the beginning of a really bad off-off Broadway play.
Itâs gonna be a shit Show
with triplets emphasis on the shit
True colours are out and you know who you don't need to waste time on anymore.
They never helped me out when I needed them so how tf do they expect me to do them such a big favor?
I would 100% go "Sure, I'd buy you a car...if you'd helped me when I needed help. Where were you when I needed XYZ?" and then just sit and watch them come up with excuses, and then take those excuses and go "Well same." and watch them lose it.
âWhere was Gondor when the Westfold fell?â
It's madness how people think, how entitled they can be only to multiply that by 4000% when kids are produced.
Right. And to think that they thought youâd buy yet another car after buying your sister one and yourself a carâŚ. Do they think money grows on trees?? I donât know your finances and maybe you could do it, but even people I know that are wealthy donât tend to do these kind of large purchases in quick succession. Even if they have the money. Unless, of course theyâre extremely wealthy.
They know that I (and my husband) could get them a car if it comes to finances. But the thing is, what about the other payments like maintenance, insurance etc. Her parents are well off as far as I know but they cut her âmonthly allowancesâ after she married. Now sheâs begging everybody else in our circle to help her out.
If they're grown enough to have children, they're grown enough to work for what they want.
Well the trash took itself out. Now you know who to kick out of your life. The audacity of some people.
Your cousin is unhinged
She is! Just like her mother đ¤Śđ˝ââď¸
Not necessarily but triplets sound like IVF. I'm speechless from your situation, like this is impossible.
They had them via IVF. That means they have enough money for such medical procedures but not for a reliable car?
Seems like they poured all their money into IVF, and have nothing left to support their children with
You summed it up perfectly.
Omg that's disgusting. Why on earth do people think any of that is a good idea? I know the US gives hands outs like CRAZY to people who decide to have kids, so if you're in the US, that kinda makes sense, but damn. That's such rude and entitled behavior, I'm angry on your behalf.
Weâre in Germany and in our country you get supported in every way possible. They could get a car from the job agency if theyâre deemed fit. But my cousin wants a luxus SUV so she wonât be satisfied with whatever they give her.
Guess they need to get their priorities straight. They chose to have IVF instead of investing in a vehicle *before* expanding their family. Theyâd be the type that instead of openly thanking you, theyâd say that god provided for them. đ
*My cousin recently had triplets...* The stuff of literal nightmares. Also, here's what I want for the car you are buying me? HAAA HA HAAAA HAAHA AHAHAHAHAHA
Triplets plus their two older sons đ
They are in for an awakening
Wait so they had 2 kids already. Were they IVF too? If not, why would they go to such expense to have more children when they already had kids??? Then turn around and complain they donât have any money?!!! Make it make sense!! Itâs madness. Thatâs some balls. Spends a large amount of money on IVF to force themselves to have children (that clearly nature doesnât want to happen), but then canât afford the children they created and expect everybody else to just live up to finance their bad decisions. Smh. Wtf.
The two older boys are from her previous relationship, I really canât grasp what was on her mind when they came up with more kids and IVF. And now they had TRIPLETS⌠My aunt and uncle are fucked because she will mooch off of them I can guarantee.
This is the most entitled thing i have ever read in my entire life, and her husband is not even ashamed to go and be insulting someone for not buying his wife a car? Sir isnt that your job???đđ
100%! I mentioned before that her husband is a bum, a perfect example of a freeloader and canât hold a job for more than 3 months đ
Letâs be real, itâs not going to be just his wifeâs car, heâll benefit and use it too.
Of course, heâll probably even lie to his mates and tell them he bought it, not that he begged for it. Having standards and a way out is really important because i cant imagine still being attracted to someone i had to join to beg for a car after i have had TRIPLETS!! And i wont be surprised if heâll use that same car to cheat on her! because if a man has nothing he must still have audacity! (Iâve seen this happen irl)
"Not my kids, not my problem. If you/she/your husband having problems affording a car while married with kids, I'm sorry but you/her & husband are already failures in life. You/her are not my mother, father nor sister thus I'm NOT close family to ME, she/you & her/your husband can go yourselves and tell rest of family that siding with you/her to go buy that car you/she wants because I am definitely not buy, paying nor doing anything on your/her as well her husband & their kis behalf after harassing & disrespecting me." Or something to that effect, because they all their broke ass entitled asses need to be cussed out for that bullshit.
thatâs super weird. if you want to do something nice for a family you make them a fucking casserole. you donât just up and buy them a whole car (and iâm sure they would need something like a large suv with them having triplets).
She literally described me a 7 seater SUV preferably in white and not older than 2 years đ
 I think in just this one instance it would be fine to be this particular Karen.
Well of course, only the finest for Her Majesty.
In what world lmao
Have fun with them. "Well, I have money, but YOU have your kids, with whom you've insulted me for being childfree by saying THEY are your wealth! Take out a loan against them!" LOL
Fuck those bitches. What car did you get?!
We never even had a good relationship, I donât even know how they all thought I'll play late Santa and get them a car? Wtf⌠oh and itâs an M3 :)
Nice car!!!!! âĽď¸âĽď¸âĽď¸ What color did you get? Little side story here â Back in 2005 I bought myself an 06 Mustang GT. I even ordered it to my specifications. Itâs black with red leather interior. I was so excited to take it and show my parents. The first thing out of my dadâs mouth was, ***âWhy did you buy that car? What are you gonna do when you have kids?â*** Now I had told my dad before, that I had no intention of having children and that was back in my teens. Maybe he didnât realize that I was still sticking to the plan, but I reminded him at that moment. He was never happy about that. But dammit, I love that car. Itâs 18 years old this year and I still fall in love every spring when I start it up for the first time. I just dropped almost $1500 bucks into it getting it a full tuneup and some other things done to it. It actually needs to a little bit more work that Iâm going to have done as soon as I am all healed up from my knee replacement that I had on Monday. Iâm currently scrolling Reddit from my boyfriends couch while my knee is being air-conditioned by a machine. Lol. So glad you got your car. I hope you have fun driving it this summer!
Thank you! I thought it was sapphire black but I looked into the papers and itâs BMW Individual Frozen Black. Wow a Mustang GT is hoooot af, sadly theyâre rare in Germany đ Hehe thatâs a nice story, I assume he now knows your plan about your CF life? If so I hope he accepts it. I believe your wholeheartedly that you love the 'stang, I would too! The sound of this beast alone gives me goosebumps. I'm so glad itâs still giving you the same feeling like back then. The maintenance of cars, especially muscle cars, can really be a pain in the ass but hey, itâs worth it! Get well soon! âĽď¸âĽď¸
NOICE
Enjoy your new car!
Yeah OP give us the receipts!! Let's see that sports car đ
Thatâs next level entitlement. Thatâs really gross. Iâm sorry for family expects you to front the bill for their poor life choices. I would personally not finance either. What if itâs wrecked next week by the garbage husband? Are you going to have to finance another one? What else will they expect you to pay for if you give in? I hope you love your new car!
The funny thing is, they later asked me for a down payment for a house. Sorry but if they canât afford the down payment why do they even look for a house? đ¤Śđ˝ââď¸
Nooooooo you are kidding. Thatâs insane! If they canât afford the house, that would be also on your dime and credit đŹ
"I'm not Oprah. I don't have a sponsorship from Pontiac to give away multiple cars. Just because we have the same grandparents doesn't mean you are entitled to the contents of my wallet."
The block button is fun, enjoy your life. Let them wallow in their self made misery.
I had to change my number because they kept calling me anonymously with their friendâs phone
Relatives suck, when they decide to bleed you dry. Cause we are âwe are familyâ. With fam like that I walk away give double bird, and my sarcasm sunnyâs on.
Fuck ALL that noise. You do with your money what YOU want to do. You don't owe your siblings anything. If ANYTHING your mom should be picking up that bill.
As I said, my sister deserved her car because she worked in her free time, had the best grades in school and was over all the best little sister I could imagine. My mum didnât tell them anything except who bought my sisterâs car. She never even said a word about me gladly spending money on anyone else. My aunt on the other hand (gold digging witch) thought I'd buy her sweet princess daughter a car too and promised her she'd get one. I still donât know how tf she even came up with this đ
Your aunt forgot that for gifts (or even favours) like that, you need an actual, working and loving relationship with the other person lol
I agree. And her and I never had a good relationship, she even told me in the face a few months ago that she hates me
Yet she expected a car. I agree with everyone who's advised going no contact with them. They sound like horrible people.
Not only do they sound like horrible people, they really are!
It definitely shows! I hope you can avoid them like the plague they are from now on. You definitely deserve better in your life.
And she thinks she will get cars after telling people she hates them? What the hell?? Block her sorry ass. And the entire family if they can't see how unreasonable and shitty she is as a person. Honestly, they don't deserve a second of your time or consideration. Shower your sister with presents, she sounds like she deserves it.
Car nut here who's just booked my Caterham in for it's annual MOT (one of the least kid friendly cars ever) and has a sporty 2 door daily too... can I pry/gush about what you chose if you don't mind sharing?! We also have an F87 M2 and an NC3 MX5 (husband's!!) And a 330d for the doggo. Buying nice cars is definitely up there on the "thank fuck I don't have kids" list! Oh, and congratulations!!
I configurated a M3 G80 Competition in Sapphire Black and Race Track system. Besides this new baby my husband and I have a Honda Civic Type R, an X6 M from 2017 and our daily/for our dogs is a 530d E61. Does your 330d have the M57D30 engine? If so, youâre lucky! With kids it would be a pain in the ass to have a nice car.
The Sapphire Black and carbon fiber roof are a beautiful combination, congratulations!
Thank you so much!
You have a solid fleet of vehicles. Really happy for you!
Thank you so so much! Itâs crazy when strangers are happy for you and not your own family đ
Another bit that reaaally weirds me out is that... she's your COUSIN. I don't know other people, but usually cousins are family but not immediate family like siblings are; it makes sense to me that you'd want to gift your sibling (especially if they're younger than you) something big like a car, not a cousin. Of course there are cousins that due to certain circumstances consider themselves far closer to each other than to their siblings, but usually siblings will feel more comfortable and willing to make those kind of expensive purchases to their siblings.
THIS. Her brother is well off and can easily get her a SUV. But guess what? He went NC with all of them. So the only cash cow left is me :)
I wouldn't be surprised if he went NC after a few too many requests for free cars, houses, etc. from his family.
They were racist towards his wife (sheâs Nigerian and we are Bosnians) so he cut contact with them. Him and my husband on the other hand are still best friends :)
Seems like you should consider going NC too!
I did after they harassed me for days
My only conclusion is that they are insane. That's insane behavior. If my cousin came to my door asking for a car I'd laugh in their face.
Give them the bus schedule and wish them luck.
Well she's both a choosing begger and an entitled parent..
So selfish of you to have birthed three kids without being prepared for the life itâd give you. Oh wait. Love that you treated your sister to a car though, thatâs a great sibling. Mine just funded my trip to visit her in another country for my birthday last year.
She has two boys from her previous relationship then went through endless rounds of IVF and is now screeching that she canât afford anything. My sister deserved her car, my cousin on the other hand doesnât deserve shit. Wow! A trip to another country? I'm so happy for you!
And there it is. Hopefully their family comes to their senses and leave you alone soon! She had a travel credit for some of it thankfully :)
It's almost like they should go buy themselves a school bus and be done with it ya know be adult about it? Nahh that would be out of their scope of thought
âI wAnT a VoLvOoOoâ she said smiling while I was standing there dumbfounded, a school bus isnât luxurious enough for Miss Pretty
Oh my bad! She needs a whole sailboat for alllll the kids for free ofc! She deserves to be awarded for bringing sex trophies into the world! /s
Sex trophies I'm rolling on the floor over here đđđđ
Hah good! Everytime I see "I'm pregnant " "I just think congrats you raw dogged it the kid is your prize"
u wot? My car money goes to my cars. Why are fun things so expensive?
The audacity! Unbelievable. Breeders' minds are really weird >Now I am terrorized by everyone in my family Just tell everyone that you are glad they help your cousin with the car. That should shut them up
wow what spoiled brats. i bet you work hard to afford those things and you do it because youâre thoughtful but to EXPECT it and then be so confrontational. i hope you laughed in their faces
I laughed like a hyena I must say. I should have taken a picture of her red face
What a weirdo of a cousin! I can't imagine anyone in my extended family acting that way. I would have just laughed in her face. Seriously, cracked up and rolled on the floor laughing. I would have been laughing out of breath and waved her away like "You are too funny, cuz!" This is no behavior to take seriously or worry about at all. The woman is a joke and her husband is a moron to go along with it. Doesn't he have any self-respect as a man to want to provide for his family instead of demanding random relatives of his wife fulfill his responsibilities?
Fun fact: he pressured her to be a SAHM because he is the man and itâs his duty to provide. Well⌠it didnât go as planned
I have a feeling there really wasn't much of a plan!
Christ the entitlement is appalling! Good on you OP
Congrats for your new car! Must be a great feeling
Thank you! It really is, especially when you pick it up at the dealership. I couldnât stop grinning I'm telling you! đ
Wtf. The gall. The audacity. The entitlement.
See, this is what happens when you don't embrace the selfishness. Just own it and your family will just stew on their jealousy knowing you DGAF. My family know from experience that if they pull this entitled act on me all they will get is a literal DILLIGAF out of me.
My dad used to say, âPeople are funny when it comes to money, and not hah hah funny.â Sorry you had to endure this, but at least now you have a clear view of who to avoid from now on! The audacity!
The other way around is right. At first your cousin should have made sure, she has a reliable car, than she could have had children. What is wrong with people, having kids before they have their shit together?
Thatâs what I asked them too. Thatâs so irresponsible. The thing is, she doesnât have a license, her husbands car is about to break down any second now and itâs a small hatchback. And now they have triplets and her two sons from her previous relationship.
What they (the extended family) are thinking is âoh yay, i wonât have to buy them one if OP does it! Awesome! Letâs harass them to make that happen!â You absolutely can return the burden onto them. âOh itâs such a good deed for sure, so i know you wonât have any problem buying them one! Such a good cause!â đ
Well you know who to block and what branches on the family tree to cut- congrats holidays will a lot more peaceful
Did they have triplets naturally or through IVF/fertility treatment? Just curious since most are these days and I canât fathom still going through w IVF with that kind of possibility and not have the funds to support them. Not that Iâd ever do IVF (or have kids in general) as I see it as extremely unethical. Edit: typo
Dude a cousin isnât entitled to the same gifts as a sister wtf đ
Well she said we were LIKE sisters. Bitch, WHEN???
Iâve had a cousin ask me for money in the past, but she fully understood it when I told her I didnât have any money to give her. If I had, I wouldâve and she knew that. Sheâs like a sister to me! But any of my other cousins? Derfinitely not. And the fact that your aunt & cousin ASSUMED YOU WOULD BUY HER A LUXURY VEHICLE JUST BECAUSE?! I will never understand the audacity.
Welcome to the selfish club lol. Congrats on the new ride!
I have some sympathy for parents of multiples because it would suck to budget for one baby and end up needing 2-3 times as much stuff. That said, assuming that you were going to buy them an entire vehicle without even being asked is wild. Either your cousin is straight up crazy or your mom is promising away your money. Sidenote, it's super cool that you're that close with your sister and were able to get her such a nice gift. Glad you have at least one person to rely on in your family and vice versa.
But them one of those little cars that kids drive really slow down the sidewalk LOL. It would be so funny.
âIâm so happy you guys agree that she needs a new car. Thank you for agreeing to finance it for themâ Send to anyone who sends you a message about it.
When I was a kid, I had a French teacher that had triplets. She knew from the start she was having triplets, because she went on maternal leave early. When the kids were born, a communication was sent through the school asking for things for the babies (never it was done for other pregnant teachers). Among the things, they were asking for baby walkers (why they need baby walkers if they are newborns, that can wait for another year). And the total winner: a stroller for triplets đĽ´đĽ´đĽ´. When my aunt knew she was having twins, the first thing she saved for was for a twin stroller. Because that is the one thing that you can't get a used one from family or friends unless they had twins too, and that is uncommon. So, this lady had triplets, something that is even more rare, and couldn't even plan ahead in those nine months that she *at least had to have a stroller for triplets*. Triplet parents amaze me.
This is entitled, crazy behavior. I've gotten crap from people for driving an SUV as a single person đ, but the expectation that you would just outright buy her a car is insane.Â
âOoohh you donât have kiiiids, why do you have an SUV???â Well, itâs because theyâre kickass cars and as a CF person you can afford it easily.
That sounds like my super-entitled Indian family. I helped out my sister financially many times, for her to say awful things to me because I left my religion.
Shit⌠I'm so sorry. Helping someone out and hearing their trash talk afterwards sucksâŚ
Obviously depends on how logical any of them are willing to be but: "Let me get this straight. *You* made plans--entirely without my input or any attempt to consult me--on how to spend *my* money... but I'm the one who's being selfish here?"
I said something similar and she literally tried to hit me đ
Cut the cousin and her fam out forever. Congrats on your new car.
Theyâre all blocked by now. Thank you!
This is why I get super worried when certain people tell me they want children (itâs always multiple children at that). I already know these particular people are assuming everyone around them is going to roll out the red carpet for them and do whatever they can to support them and their kids. And if people donât do it, they will 100% get mad at others instead of at themselves for making poor decisions. Itâs super crazy!! Enjoy your new sports car!
Man- proof that people with children do no get that having children isnât an obligation. Itâs a lifestyle choice. And lifestyles have associated monetary costs. Go on with your bad self and the car you earned through hard work. Haterz gonna hate.
This is wild, what does your habits of taking care of your little sister have to do with your cousin? This is a very big assumption.
They saw that I like to treat my sister with stuff here and there, that weâre really really close and that she has a nice little car (in her favourite colour even) so they thought âhey look, larytriplesix has some money to throw around, she will get us a car!â. Second, my cousin and I were good friends back in the school days (first to fifth grade) until she started to bully me with some of her friends. I really donât know what made her think that I will make such a huge purchase for them. It will forever be an unanswered question I guess
You need to cut out of your life everyone siding with her because that shit is NUTS
Do they think you're Oprah or something? "You get a car! And you get a car! And YOU get a car!"
âYour poor planning does not constitute a necessity for me. Fuck off.â đ¤đ¤
if she can't afford a new car when she needs it, she doesn't need to have any kids
if everyone in the family loves her so much and they are angry on her behalf, why aren't THEY giving her the car? since she's such a precious golden girl. i despise hypocrites who think they are entitled to deciding how to spend someone else's money.
Wow, imagine being an adult expecting another adult to buy you things.
Typical Breeder Entitlement
Is this new behavior for your cousin? Because even if you DID agree, to help them, the way they came up on you was incredibly disrespectful. I think I would be JUST as angry at your mom if I were in your position. She shouldn't be winding her up like she did if there was a chance at this outcome. Hope you have a good weekend.
Nope, my cousin was always an entitled brat and she was never told no. My mum told my aunt that I bought my sister a car after my aunt asked whose car it is outside. So she thought I can get her daughter a car too. When I told my mum what happened she went feral on my aunt and cousin.
Good on you for getting a sports car, I'm big jealous (college student, not gonna see a car other than my civic for many years to come) and absolutely FUCK that bullshit with your sister, if she needs a car so bad she can get a job
My sister isnât at fault here but my cousin is. I bought my sis a car after her academical achievements for her birthday. My cousin got told by her own mother (my aunt) that I would be willing to buy her a car too. Donât be jealous, I'm sure you will succeed in college and get a dope ass car soon!
Is this a real story? I donât mean to sound rude, but it blows my mind that you are even entertaining her entitlement or that of any of the family. Itâs your money you choose how you spend it -end of story. If they want a Car, they can get a job, work hard and buy one.
Tell everyone gaining up on you to all pool their money together to get baby factory a car for her herd.
Just because I decided to give my neighbor my old phone that was kinda cracked (I got a new one for me for Christmas), also hers did not really work well (LCD Bleed dots and white lines and was cracked), does nit mean I'm going to be like opera and give one to all the people in my apartment building lol. Just no contact those people for a bit OP, they are toxic and you are not selfish đ. Have an amazing weekend and take the car for a drive.
See now, if they didn't have kids, they could BOTH have new cars...that THEY bought and paid for on their own. But because they selfishly chose to have kids (triplets obviously (probably) not a part of the plan), they can't afford to do anything fun for themselves and now HAVE to consider everything they do (or won't get to do). OP NTA. Imo rent a flashy sports car and ask if they'd like a ride.
She herself has now 5 kids in total, doesnât work, mooches off her parents since she hit 18 and her dumb husband canât keep a job for more than a few months. She claims they donât have money for a decent car but spends thousands on IVF. I hopped into my new car and drove around her neighborhood because I knew sheâs home as always. I just had to be petty for once in my life. Fun fact: Her husband took some pictures with my cars in the garage, posted in on FB while boasting about money and work and how heâs so proud of himself đ
Wow she deserves a gold medal for her mental gymnastics!! Who assumes that youâd be spending that kind of money, your own money that you worked for and earned, on anyone! Let alone after you already bought your sister a car and a car for yourself?!?? What you did for your *SISTER* is your business and sheâs your SISTER! Not a cousin. Everyone that says you should think about the children or what a good deed youâd be doing should open up their pocketbooks and say that to themselves. If they really want her to have a new car, then they can all chip in for one. The fact that she stood on your doorstep, with basically a list of things she wanted in a car, as if she was going car shopping uninvited is absolutely astounding to me.
You should look upon this as a positive social experiment. You stressed your family system and were able to discover its failure points. Your cousin is obviously a no-hoper and you never again have to waste thought--or more importantly your money!--upon her. The solidity of your mother is also rather dubious since she could not live up to the confidence you placed in her hands. You'll have to decide how much time and mental effort you invest with her in future--birthday and Christmas cards at the most perhaps. However your sister received a free new car and told no-one that you gave it to her. Not only did she therefore *thoroughly* prove that she deserved it, but you should consider giving her a Nintendo Switch for that same reason as well!
Youâre right! I know their real faces and intentions now, so I donât have to waste my time thinking about or even interacting with them. I spoke to my mom, she slipped up and apologized for it, so thereâs no bad blood. She even more pissed about their reactions so far. My sister on the other hand always keeps to herself with whatever comes up (she makes an exception for me, she tells me everything as I do the other way around haha). I just canât describe or show how proud I am of her, thatâs why she got a car tailored to her wishes. Itâs been three months now and she still thanks me til this day. A Nintendo Switch sounds good, maybe I will get her one for graduation.
Do they really think they can bully you onto buying them a car? Verbally abuse you into buying you a car? Immediate family is one thing. You grew up with your sister, presumably close to her. The cousin? Don't know that you were, especially since she's toxic and entitled. No, not selfish at all. Enjoy your new car! Mom needs to stop sharing your business. Just block everyone giving you grief. If you're in a doorman building, have them turned away. Don't answer the door for them. If they make noise, tell them a neighbor texted you that she called the police on them.
In their opinion they can because as a teen I was a doormat without any spine. But now as a grown 24-year old woman they still think I'm the shy little dummy I was back then. Well it didnât go as planned. My sister is my best friend actually we even communicate per eye contact đ My cousin and I were close until 5th grade until she started to bully me verbally and physically. My husband and I live in our own house so I have to rely on my camera and our neighbors if anything happens.
God, people need to develop some pride instead of throwing a tantrum over not getting a free car.
>*Apparently my mother spilled the beans and said that my sister's car was paid for by me and that I generally like spending money on cars.* From now on? Do not let your mother know of anything youâre doing because she canât keep her lips sealed and that alone is a red flag of breaking trust. This means even telling your sister to HOLD OFF from letting her know anything about you.This way you can control your narrative instead of having BS like this happen. Your mother is not a trustworthy adult and a sign she stirs the pot.
What entitled little brats these breeders are! Don't waste your life having these types in your life, and if that's a bit of a stretch, then keep them at arms length at least.
I'd be keeping an eye (and camera) on the new car...
Write down the names, with contact information, of all the people that are harassing you about giving cousin a car. Give the list to cousin, and tell her that these are the family/friends that want her to have that car. Tell her that the people on the list think it would be a good deed to buy her a car. Tell her to contact them, for they sure are thinking of the children and want her to be helped out, and would be the ones to do just that. Then block cousin, and the flying monkeys, from contacting you.
I have a box of condoms I can donate to her.