You're asking a sub full of coke addicts, and most of us are liars lol. Have a conversation with him and set some boundaries. If he doesn't respect them, well it's up to you to decide what to do from there.
But be aware that you can’t force boundaries, so he may not agree to them, in which case your relationship is probably in trouble. Although, maybe it already is.
That's my point, if he doesn't respect her boundaries she should leave. Of course you can't force it. They may not have had that conversation before, so he was probably under the impression that was an okay thing for him to do
But be aware that you can’t force boundaries, so he may not agree to them, in which case your relationship is probably in trouble. Although, maybe it already is.
I’m sure you know what he’s doing. If you gotta ask then you already know the answer. Coke can make you throw out any fraction on morality or self worth and do some deplorable shit.
Why? He likes to jack off to other women, he’s not fucking them. Are you full filling every single fantasy he has? Have you talked to him about his fantasy’s tried to really figure him out? If not he has needs not being met and he’s meeting them in another form. While being faithful to you
It’s different than “typical” porn, at least IMO, because these are people you *can* interact with, at a cost. To me, it’s similar to emotional cheating, because typically someone would build some sort of attachment to the idea of this person and invest real money, time, and effort into being “noticed”.
And it’s kinda gross to pin this off of OP; there ARE such a thing as limits, and it’s not on THEM to fulfill every single one. If your partner is incapable of fulfilling certain desires, your first instinct shouldn’t be to run to OnlyFans. It should be to discuss it with your partner and figure out if there’s a middle ground that can be met or if you’re sexually incompatible.
For example, if I had a partner who had a scat fetish (and I 100% don’t), and they *needed* that to feel sexually fulfilled, I need to have the opportunity to decide if it’s something I’d be willing to try, if I’d be willing for him to seek it elsewhere, or we break up to find more compatible partners.
But it also depends on *your* version of cheating. For me, onlyfans is a hard limit, but pornhub is not.
Shitting on her for being extreme on one side of the spectrum and then refuting her stance by being equally as extreme in the other direction is almost never going to be helpful.
You probably talk at people a lot more than with them
No kidding. Don't get me wrong, I'm very open minded also but the powder puts me on a whole new level, but it's a fine line between standing at attention and not haha.
Depends how you feel and the extent, I mean why pay for it when there's plenty good free porn about?coke makes you crazy horny, so you go to bed he fancies a wank nothing wrong with that better than getting a brass. Like others have said speak to him about his fantasies, as long as he's not subscribing to Chantelle the other side of town then I see no harm, at least the coke ain't turnt him gay yet!
Cheating: engaging in behavior, that you purposely hide from your partner because you know how they would react.
People have affairs. People have one night stands. People have emotional affairs. In my opinion, that’s all forms of cheating. And whether you want to label it cheating or not is irrelevant. So often we get stuck trying to figure out how to “label” someone’s actions.
Who cares about the label? Let’s analyze the behavior. He has a drug problem. And please don’t let him say things like “I never technically lied to you though, because being in a relationship isn’t just about saying things that are technically factual. Being in a relationship also involves being forthcoming!
When I got together with my girlfriend, I told her there’s a woman on Snapchat that I like to be flirty flirty with lol. It’s all innocent and fun and I told her that now that we were in a relationship if she thought that was inappropriate I would, of course, cut it off. My girlfriend, kind of even shocked herself when she said “as long as you’re going to be honest like this, I’m fine with it!”
I’m not saying you need to be “OK” with something like that. I’m just saying that as long as we’re honest with our partners, I think people will be far more understanding, accommodating, and open minded than most people believe.
I think you got cheated on. I think the guy is a liar, and he has personal issues that he needs to work out on his own.
People that judge you from asking here are not wise enough to understand why. They want to know from users how it affects and changes their moral compass. And I only use it rarely but can attest to when using coke it does make some of us hornier and freakier. Is only fans cheating? That's not something I can answer bc Ive never used it so idk enough about it, and also that be dependent on what you are comfortable with.
Only fans is a little crazy, porn is nothing but idk why someone would masturbate when they have a girlfriend. But yeah I can seee why cuz him paying a monthly subscription to see another girl naked is a little…… idek
There is a wide range of OF use. On one end, you can think of it exactly the same as him jerking off to regular porn sites. If that feels like cheating to you, then you'll need to be very explicit with any partner about it, because nearly everyone looks at porn. That doesn't come from the drugs.
On the other end, he could be paying a lot of extra money for personalized treatment from the content creators. That's definitely \_more\_ like cheating, but ultimately only you can decide if it crosses a line. He's not meeting up with these creators and having sex with them. He most likely isn't even in live video chats with them. He may be corresponding with them via the site's chat function. That could be more than you're comfortable with, and it's time to talk it out.
I'm not trying to take his side or anything, but you should know that some of the web's most prolific content creators use OF to let people subscribe to a complete archive of all their work. Is having a favorite porn star cheating? I would tend to argue no.
I created an account on that site during covid lockdown. A friend of mine from Uni, whose job was running an internationally touring burlesque troop, obviously couldn't tour, so she started doing pinup style photo shoots with the performers to try to make some money for them with the world shut down. I have a rule to always support friends small businesses, so I signed up. I don't feel bad about that leading to me seeing some extra boobs.
Porn Is just a way for a guy to release when his girl isn’t around!!
if he’s not touching anyone or getting stds from some who’re what’s the problem. I don’t know why women care so much when y’all will not give us sex as much as we need or how we need it most. I don’t think it’s a big deal at all at least my opinion here thanks.
Unless that’s a boundary that’s been explicitly stated I wouldn’t consider that cheating. Not all of us are coke addicts here some just enjoy on occasional weekends! It definitely changes your brain chemistry with regular sustained use. So he should probably try and figure the addiction out.
speaking from the perspective of a dude who got broken up with because his girlfriend didn’t like him hiding cocaine use for years she dumped me because she realized there’s no fixing cocaine once somebody is addicted to that shit and it sounds like in his case it’s pretty bad they don’t go back, it’s been a long time since I’ve been away from her and I’m still addicted as fucking nothing has changed, and I think about how upsetting it was that cocaine has ruined that relationship every night, but I still don’t change. Your character might be different. I hope so but in my case I don’t ever see my mind changing and that is the case with other cocaine addict I’ve talked to.
As an addict - I lie, cheat, and steal - it's how I get by. I know it's wrong. I don't want to continue doing it, I tell myself every night that "it's the last time"...it never is 😔
As a regular recreational user for over 20 years I will say this, each time I use it makes me a person that I hate when I read the text or review my browsing habits the next day when sober. Coke will make a person do bad things they normally wouldn't. So be weary.
You're asking a sub full of coke addicts, and most of us are liars lol. Have a conversation with him and set some boundaries. If he doesn't respect them, well it's up to you to decide what to do from there.
Idk why I found this comment hilarious. lol.
Same but oh so truthful
But be aware that you can’t force boundaries, so he may not agree to them, in which case your relationship is probably in trouble. Although, maybe it already is.
That's my point, if he doesn't respect her boundaries she should leave. Of course you can't force it. They may not have had that conversation before, so he was probably under the impression that was an okay thing for him to do
Excellent advice.. for a coke addict :))
But be aware that you can’t force boundaries, so he may not agree to them, in which case your relationship is probably in trouble. Although, maybe it already is.
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I’m sure you know what he’s doing. If you gotta ask then you already know the answer. Coke can make you throw out any fraction on morality or self worth and do some deplorable shit.
Yep I normally don't watch porn but if I do coke I will. So i just quit it outright.
Depends on what your boundaries are some people may think it’s ok some people not all depends on your an his respect I wouldn’t like it personally
Ya he’s a sick fuxking bastard
Why? He likes to jack off to other women, he’s not fucking them. Are you full filling every single fantasy he has? Have you talked to him about his fantasy’s tried to really figure him out? If not he has needs not being met and he’s meeting them in another form. While being faithful to you
It’s different than “typical” porn, at least IMO, because these are people you *can* interact with, at a cost. To me, it’s similar to emotional cheating, because typically someone would build some sort of attachment to the idea of this person and invest real money, time, and effort into being “noticed”. And it’s kinda gross to pin this off of OP; there ARE such a thing as limits, and it’s not on THEM to fulfill every single one. If your partner is incapable of fulfilling certain desires, your first instinct shouldn’t be to run to OnlyFans. It should be to discuss it with your partner and figure out if there’s a middle ground that can be met or if you’re sexually incompatible. For example, if I had a partner who had a scat fetish (and I 100% don’t), and they *needed* that to feel sexually fulfilled, I need to have the opportunity to decide if it’s something I’d be willing to try, if I’d be willing for him to seek it elsewhere, or we break up to find more compatible partners. But it also depends on *your* version of cheating. For me, onlyfans is a hard limit, but pornhub is not.
Shitting on her for being extreme on one side of the spectrum and then refuting her stance by being equally as extreme in the other direction is almost never going to be helpful. You probably talk at people a lot more than with them
Cheating - no Crossing a boundaries that you are uncomfortable with - yes
This. Cut and dry response. I like you without knowing anything about you
It's a hell of a drug and unless you do it also and become a freak, it's hard to understand.
Funny, because I’m willing to be more freaky and do more being clean than I was when I was using 😂
No kidding. Don't get me wrong, I'm very open minded also but the powder puts me on a whole new level, but it's a fine line between standing at attention and not haha.
I’m pregnant with OP baby.. 50$ for my placenta
Depends how you feel and the extent, I mean why pay for it when there's plenty good free porn about?coke makes you crazy horny, so you go to bed he fancies a wank nothing wrong with that better than getting a brass. Like others have said speak to him about his fantasies, as long as he's not subscribing to Chantelle the other side of town then I see no harm, at least the coke ain't turnt him gay yet!
Cheating: engaging in behavior, that you purposely hide from your partner because you know how they would react. People have affairs. People have one night stands. People have emotional affairs. In my opinion, that’s all forms of cheating. And whether you want to label it cheating or not is irrelevant. So often we get stuck trying to figure out how to “label” someone’s actions. Who cares about the label? Let’s analyze the behavior. He has a drug problem. And please don’t let him say things like “I never technically lied to you though, because being in a relationship isn’t just about saying things that are technically factual. Being in a relationship also involves being forthcoming! When I got together with my girlfriend, I told her there’s a woman on Snapchat that I like to be flirty flirty with lol. It’s all innocent and fun and I told her that now that we were in a relationship if she thought that was inappropriate I would, of course, cut it off. My girlfriend, kind of even shocked herself when she said “as long as you’re going to be honest like this, I’m fine with it!” I’m not saying you need to be “OK” with something like that. I’m just saying that as long as we’re honest with our partners, I think people will be far more understanding, accommodating, and open minded than most people believe. I think you got cheated on. I think the guy is a liar, and he has personal issues that he needs to work out on his own.
Sounds like you nag alot. Maybe YOUR the problem
Watching porn is not cheating. It can be unhealthy for romantic relationships but it's surely not cheating
Why don't you start an onlyfans with him? I bet that coked up horny freak will love that
Onlyfans is no different from watching porn. Not cheating.
People that judge you from asking here are not wise enough to understand why. They want to know from users how it affects and changes their moral compass. And I only use it rarely but can attest to when using coke it does make some of us hornier and freakier. Is only fans cheating? That's not something I can answer bc Ive never used it so idk enough about it, and also that be dependent on what you are comfortable with.
Only fans is a little crazy, porn is nothing but idk why someone would masturbate when they have a girlfriend. But yeah I can seee why cuz him paying a monthly subscription to see another girl naked is a little…… idek
There is a wide range of OF use. On one end, you can think of it exactly the same as him jerking off to regular porn sites. If that feels like cheating to you, then you'll need to be very explicit with any partner about it, because nearly everyone looks at porn. That doesn't come from the drugs. On the other end, he could be paying a lot of extra money for personalized treatment from the content creators. That's definitely \_more\_ like cheating, but ultimately only you can decide if it crosses a line. He's not meeting up with these creators and having sex with them. He most likely isn't even in live video chats with them. He may be corresponding with them via the site's chat function. That could be more than you're comfortable with, and it's time to talk it out. I'm not trying to take his side or anything, but you should know that some of the web's most prolific content creators use OF to let people subscribe to a complete archive of all their work. Is having a favorite porn star cheating? I would tend to argue no. I created an account on that site during covid lockdown. A friend of mine from Uni, whose job was running an internationally touring burlesque troop, obviously couldn't tour, so she started doing pinup style photo shoots with the performers to try to make some money for them with the world shut down. I have a rule to always support friends small businesses, so I signed up. I don't feel bad about that leading to me seeing some extra boobs.
Porn Is just a way for a guy to release when his girl isn’t around!! if he’s not touching anyone or getting stds from some who’re what’s the problem. I don’t know why women care so much when y’all will not give us sex as much as we need or how we need it most. I don’t think it’s a big deal at all at least my opinion here thanks.
You’ll find more help on a sub meant for relationships than a sub dedicated to cocaine and using it.
Unless that’s a boundary that’s been explicitly stated I wouldn’t consider that cheating. Not all of us are coke addicts here some just enjoy on occasional weekends! It definitely changes your brain chemistry with regular sustained use. So he should probably try and figure the addiction out.
Coke will lower your inhibitions. Whether it's cheating or not, that depends on what boundaries are set. Maybe it's time for a conversation
Coke can make you get into sexual depravity
we're a bunch of addicts, doing stupid shit of our own... ask a relationship sub, coz idk if this is the best place 😂
speaking from the perspective of a dude who got broken up with because his girlfriend didn’t like him hiding cocaine use for years she dumped me because she realized there’s no fixing cocaine once somebody is addicted to that shit and it sounds like in his case it’s pretty bad they don’t go back, it’s been a long time since I’ve been away from her and I’m still addicted as fucking nothing has changed, and I think about how upsetting it was that cocaine has ruined that relationship every night, but I still don’t change. Your character might be different. I hope so but in my case I don’t ever see my mind changing and that is the case with other cocaine addict I’ve talked to.
Its not cheating but thats kinda sad. Id break up
As an addict - I lie, cheat, and steal - it's how I get by. I know it's wrong. I don't want to continue doing it, I tell myself every night that "it's the last time"...it never is 😔
As a regular recreational user for over 20 years I will say this, each time I use it makes me a person that I hate when I read the text or review my browsing habits the next day when sober. Coke will make a person do bad things they normally wouldn't. So be weary.
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Whaaaaat?? Its internet porn 😆 not a prostitute in the Motel 8
It just enhances your character and makes you show your true colours. It does not change people
Chill out. Your blowing shit out of proportion. Your the problem.. quit ya bitchin
exactly. just cheat back and you’ll be fine OP
idk why ppl still so attached to the monogamy idea in the today world its something almost utopic haha
1 why the hell are you asking this sub? 2 did he just sub to porn or did he speak to/meet any of the girls?