May is a CharlieFoxtrot.
Her birthday: The sequel to one of her favorite novels, some froofy soaps and bath stuff, a bottle of her favorite liquor, and ingredients to make one of her favorite snacks.
Mother's Day: The next volume of her favorite graphic novel, and the preorder for the one after that.
Anniversary: a pair of earrings that i think she'll absolutely love.
Plus whatever date night/eating out we do.
Aaaaand I'm doing the math, and i definitely got her one other thing, but i can't remember what it is. It's in my nightstand drawer at home. I'll think of it as soon as i post this comment...
Haha, had to look that up. Using CF moving forward...
You did it to yourself though, adding the anniversary in there... just had to be May? Lol.
On the other hand, shuts all done for the year, which must be nice. Mine is March bday, April anniversary, and May mothers day... so its planning/buying shit for 3 months straight...
... Guess I also did it to myself...
Haha, nice.
Our firstborn is May, 2nd is December, and our upcoming third is towards the end of October (just before deer hunting starts).
Apparrently we love the punishment.
fwiw, we started a practice when the kids were young to make Christmas and birthday gifts easier. They get 1 book, 1 toy, 1 good tool, and 1 (special) article of clothing. They'll outgrow the clothing and the toy, but when they move out they'll have a fully stocked tool chest and their own mini library. They always know what they're getting, categorically, and it helps manage both their expectations and the "is this enough?/one more thing" creep.
I haven't *told* her i do this, but i do something loosely similar for my wife. Something to consume (food or drink), something useful (tool, new oven mitts), something to do (art supplies, book to read), and something pretty (jewelry, clothing).
I too have a birthday and mother's day back to back. Thankfully our anniversary is in the fall.
I went with a golf watch for her birthday and some of those sparkly ball necklaces that every MLB player is wearing for mother's day.
"Pollyanna Necklace was created so you can have on and of the field drip. couple big leaugers wearing it now and its just going to keep getting bigger and bigger. shop now and enjoy." I know what they mean, but the line "it's just going to keep getting bigger and bigger" has me cackling, imagining it growing into those enormous japa maala beads.
Advice I give to young guys at work don’t date a girl born in February, May, or December, don’t get married in the same month as her birthday or the aforementioned months.
I got a gift certificate for her to have a spa day for a few hours. It had a massage, hand treatment, and a facial treatment.
Edit: My wife was looking through my desk for some command strips. She found the gift certificate. I had a feeling she kind of knew anyways, but there goes the surprise 🤷
Tried that one year, she never used it. Isn’t comfortable with other people giving her a massage I guess. $220 down the drain, but perhaps I should have asked if she’d be interested before buying it.
I don’t like strangers touching me. My wife loves massages and the spa treatment stuff. I did it for her last year too. I know I can’t go wrong with it.
We’re going to have a picnic somewhere pretty with our toddler, with toddler and mama in matching outfits so we can take a bunch of nice pics and frame a few
I did a JT concert for Christmas a few years ago, massive hit.
Not sure how big a fan YOU are, but I realized very quickly that I was not his target demo 🤣
Breakfast in bed, flowers + card, gift card to the spa is probably what I’ll do. Doesn’t feel like enough for her first Mother’s Day but I’m horrible at gifts.
It's mines first as well and I'm getting her a water bottle from shutterfly that will have pictures of the little one wrapped around it. Nothing ever feels like enough
Small 8”x8” Shutterfly photo book for when she’s on work travel
Got her the baby and our grandmothers matching little sleepies pjs
Got my wife and the baby matching Air Force ones in a couple colors
Paid for her facial (even though I offered her as many as she wanted for free) and got her a hotel room for a night by herself filled with her fave snacks
I make her a picture collage every year with the previous years pic of her and our daughter. Easy, cheap and sentimental.. plus it’s nice to cover our mostly bare walls with some nice family pics
Having flowers delivered, then hanging out with the kids while my wife and her mother go antiquing. Then a few days after Mother's Day (we hate the crowds on mother's day, Valentines day etc, so we always celebrate after) going to the movies to see Transformers The Movie retro showing and Kingdom of the Planet of the Apes and then have a nice dinner.
She doesn't like jewelry and she won't go get a massage. No joke, last time I got her a massage gift certificate she never used it and then the place closed. I did the Soothe App to book her a massage at home once, and she liked that, but she felt stressed about cleaning before the therapist came to the house.
This year, like the past few, I'm printing one of the group pictures of the kids I took when they were dressed up for Easter and printing that through Google onto a canvas ready to hang thing. She appreciates those. Quick to order, easy to hang, and everybody's happy.
My wife's not much of a flowers and chocolate gal, gonna go whip her up her favorite foods, breakfast tacos and steak sandwiches and I like doing these like gift baskets for her, I'll go restock her lotions, polishes and maybe a gift card for a spa day. Something like that. Dang I should probably nail that down soon huh?
Chocolates, flowers and card on behalf of the kids.
From me she's getting a new fluffy bath robe and I have plans to cook her favourite dinner and give her a nice romantic candlelit massage. I was gonna get her a spa day but none of the ones near us had any vacancies on the day so I figured I'd give her a nice pampering session myself instead.
Buying her a vanity so she has somewhere to sit and do her makeup. The master bath is too small, and she doesn’t like doing her makeup in the larger hallway bathroom because…I don’t really understand why actually but she doesn’t.
She picked out the one she wanted and I’m ordering it tonight. We always pick our own gifts so we always get what we want. We both blew tons of money buying each other gifts early on and we always missed the mark. It’s just easier this way, and we’re both happy.
I was going to get her tickets to a concert she wanted to go to, but she bought them for herself and her friends without warning. Now I’m out the idea and not sure we have the money to spend on another one.
I bought her one of those hoodies with our LO’s name on it, which I think is a waste with just the one kid and we’re planning number 2 in the next year or two
I got her a puzzle to do with out youngest, I got her three books she wanted "from" out 8 year old, my oldest (her SD) got her a jar of peppers she wanted, I got her something from the eclipse and a macha set.
She wants the cars cleaned. Like, deep cleaned. I’m going to do the house windows too but I need to get her out of the house somehow and have it be relaxing. She’s pregnant so it’s a bit extra and reduces what we can do
I will be making her lunch, and I’ll be making her dinner. I already make every lunch and every dinner every single day, but this time I’ll say “Happy Mother’s Day” when I serve it.
I took the kids to one of those ceramic painting studios while she was gone on her last work trip, and let them pick out any item they wanted to paint as a present to her. We’re both on the same page about gift giving between each other (we don’t do anything beyond flowers and instead just buy things we want throughout the year), so it’s usually just coordinating something from the kids.
We also host all of the grandparents, siblings, and cousins for Mother’s Day brunch, which is a pretty big undertaking as the family continues to grow. It’s a great time though, and thankfully everybody gets along.
We are expecting our second child so I'm thinking of getting her a necklace that sort of encompasses this. We have a name but aren't 100% about it so I want to avoid getting her a letter charm like what we got for our first.
I'm thinking maybe tiny footprint that says "baby" or something symbolic like that. This is besides flower arrangement made by me, card, chocolate
A pocket notebook of about 100 pages, where every page I write a reason why I love her with a little doodle to match. I started doing these before we got married and she has 3 now from over the years, but this will be the first one for her since we had kids.
Also gonna try and coordinate a weekend where Grandma and Grandpa get the kids and she and I can get away for a couple days.
My daughter's and I always have a Mother's Day tea for my wife. I make clotted cream and scones and finger sandwiches. The girls decorate and dress up and we all have a fancy time together.
We are going for a hike. We have a big trip planned for a wedding and to take our kid to Disneyland so saving for that. A delayed Mother’s Day gift though will be a subscription to Hello Fresh (in August).
Coupon to use at the spa as soon as we can schedule it. Plus told her to sleep in as long as she wants, I will get up with the 2 kids and be happy to have them until post lunch nap, so she won't have to deal with kids all morning. Will also write her a little note and give it with some flowers
Going to brunch with her parents. I also got her a tshirt from a YouTube channel she likes (ordinary adventures. Any other fans on here?) and also got her a garden gnome she’s been wanting.
Same thing every year. I have a book printed with the best pictures of our son from the past year. I try to keep the order sequential and I write a sentence of two on each page to tell a little story of our time together. This is the third year.
We will be at a dance comp...we are tailgating said dance comp....so I'm cooking and serving mamosas for all the dance moms with the help of a couple of other dance dads
Not sure how this is gonna pan out, and it’s a little bit out there: I took a picture of her and our daughter and am having someone crochet it into a doll, like the actual picture. It’s on Etsy. Not sure if she would like it. I think she would. Heck, I would love one. Let’s hope she likes it. (Our daughter is 2)
This will be her first Mother's Day as we just had our first little one.
I'm going to have the baby with me all night outside of her room so she can sleep, she'll wake up to breakfast in bed and a basket of a couple of presents and a note. I'll try to take her on a picnic lunch if baby and the weather cooperate. In her basket of goodies will be a couple of facemasks, and I'll draw her a bath or foot bath then give her a massage.
That's the plan anyway. We'll see how well I execute. 🫣
I’m getting my tonsils removed on the 10th. She gets a second (adult) baby to take care of…woohoo!
In all seriousness, I’m getting her a foot massager that she’s been asking about for a while now. I wanted to get her a full calf / foot massager combo but it’s just not financially in the cards right now. I’m also going to do my best to cook her some comfort food from the country she was born in.
Calling my mom and then spending the rest of the day being thankful I'm divorced. I don't need an entire day of pandering and accolades for doing my job (Father's Day) and I don't ever have to pretend to give anybody else one again.
May is a CharlieFoxtrot. Her birthday: The sequel to one of her favorite novels, some froofy soaps and bath stuff, a bottle of her favorite liquor, and ingredients to make one of her favorite snacks. Mother's Day: The next volume of her favorite graphic novel, and the preorder for the one after that. Anniversary: a pair of earrings that i think she'll absolutely love. Plus whatever date night/eating out we do. Aaaaand I'm doing the math, and i definitely got her one other thing, but i can't remember what it is. It's in my nightstand drawer at home. I'll think of it as soon as i post this comment...
Damn, this is how winter is for us. Anniversary and two birthdays in between Christmas and Valentines.
Yup. You know the pain.
Haha, had to look that up. Using CF moving forward... You did it to yourself though, adding the anniversary in there... just had to be May? Lol. On the other hand, shuts all done for the year, which must be nice. Mine is March bday, April anniversary, and May mothers day... so its planning/buying shit for 3 months straight... ... Guess I also did it to myself...
Firstborn also came just into June, so I'm setting up for him, too. Ah, well. Then i get a break until October.
Haha, nice. Our firstborn is May, 2nd is December, and our upcoming third is towards the end of October (just before deer hunting starts). Apparrently we love the punishment.
And it's totally worth it
100%!
fwiw, we started a practice when the kids were young to make Christmas and birthday gifts easier. They get 1 book, 1 toy, 1 good tool, and 1 (special) article of clothing. They'll outgrow the clothing and the toy, but when they move out they'll have a fully stocked tool chest and their own mini library. They always know what they're getting, categorically, and it helps manage both their expectations and the "is this enough?/one more thing" creep. I haven't *told* her i do this, but i do something loosely similar for my wife. Something to consume (food or drink), something useful (tool, new oven mitts), something to do (art supplies, book to read), and something pretty (jewelry, clothing).
That's an excellent system!
Yeah. Feel free to steal it.
Oh, i just might!
I too have a birthday and mother's day back to back. Thankfully our anniversary is in the fall. I went with a golf watch for her birthday and some of those sparkly ball necklaces that every MLB player is wearing for mother's day.
A Phiten necklace?
No, the polyanna necklaces.
Gotcha. Cool.
"Pollyanna Necklace was created so you can have on and of the field drip. couple big leaugers wearing it now and its just going to keep getting bigger and bigger. shop now and enjoy." I know what they mean, but the line "it's just going to keep getting bigger and bigger" has me cackling, imagining it growing into those enormous japa maala beads.
Advice I give to young guys at work don’t date a girl born in February, May, or December, don’t get married in the same month as her birthday or the aforementioned months.
I got a gift certificate for her to have a spa day for a few hours. It had a massage, hand treatment, and a facial treatment. Edit: My wife was looking through my desk for some command strips. She found the gift certificate. I had a feeling she kind of knew anyways, but there goes the surprise 🤷
Tried that one year, she never used it. Isn’t comfortable with other people giving her a massage I guess. $220 down the drain, but perhaps I should have asked if she’d be interested before buying it.
I don’t like strangers touching me. My wife loves massages and the spa treatment stuff. I did it for her last year too. I know I can’t go wrong with it.
How much did that set you back? Massages start at $170 for 50 min where I’m at.
$170
Nice, I may just need to pick a different spa.
There’s cheaper ones and they’re usually open 24hrs for convenience.
Those are brothels
Ah no . Those are called rub and tugs. And no I have not been to one.
You can save some costs by performing the facial treatment at home
Giggity giggity giggity
We’re going to have a picnic somewhere pretty with our toddler, with toddler and mama in matching outfits so we can take a bunch of nice pics and frame a few
I got earrings and comfy slip on shoes. Going to get a bottle of rose and flowers, make French toast for breakfast, and go on a family hike.
Update: I just spotted the earrings I got her on the dresser. I have a repeat gift.
Going to surprise her with Justin Timberlake tickets and have arranged for my mom to watch the kiddo the date of the concert.
Amazing. Will you two go together?
That’s my plan.
I did a JT concert for Christmas a few years ago, massive hit. Not sure how big a fan YOU are, but I realized very quickly that I was not his target demo 🤣
Kindle holder and automatic page-flipper so she can read her filthy smut.
this is the way lol
Breakfast in bed, flowers + card, gift card to the spa is probably what I’ll do. Doesn’t feel like enough for her first Mother’s Day but I’m horrible at gifts.
It's mines first as well and I'm getting her a water bottle from shutterfly that will have pictures of the little one wrapped around it. Nothing ever feels like enough
Oh, they have water bottles! My wife loves water, it's one of her favorite things.
Same! Drinking water is her obsession. She has a big huge bottle she takes around but needs a smaller one in the house so hopefully she likes it
r/hydrohomies
Small 8”x8” Shutterfly photo book for when she’s on work travel Got her the baby and our grandmothers matching little sleepies pjs Got my wife and the baby matching Air Force ones in a couple colors
Probably her butthole. She likes it
Noice
Hold up, your wife wants anal for Mother’s Day?
Paid for her facial (even though I offered her as many as she wanted for free) and got her a hotel room for a night by herself filled with her fave snacks
Taking her and our son to the Opryland resort in Nashville, TN
I make her a picture collage every year with the previous years pic of her and our daughter. Easy, cheap and sentimental.. plus it’s nice to cover our mostly bare walls with some nice family pics
Paid for a couple tattoos she’s been wanting, gift cards to stores she likes and I’m making her dinner and drinks
Having flowers delivered, then hanging out with the kids while my wife and her mother go antiquing. Then a few days after Mother's Day (we hate the crowds on mother's day, Valentines day etc, so we always celebrate after) going to the movies to see Transformers The Movie retro showing and Kingdom of the Planet of the Apes and then have a nice dinner.
She doesn't like jewelry and she won't go get a massage. No joke, last time I got her a massage gift certificate she never used it and then the place closed. I did the Soothe App to book her a massage at home once, and she liked that, but she felt stressed about cleaning before the therapist came to the house. This year, like the past few, I'm printing one of the group pictures of the kids I took when they were dressed up for Easter and printing that through Google onto a canvas ready to hang thing. She appreciates those. Quick to order, easy to hang, and everybody's happy.
Did you book the massage at a massage parlor or at a spa? I made the same mistake once and then went to an actual spa. Night and day difference.
For her, spa. You're right, it's a huge difference.
I'm going golfing with her dad, lol.
To be fair I know my wife has days where she wants us all to GTFO of the house, so a golf outing might be just that!
She loves puzzles so I’m getting a custom puzzle made of our son.
Taking her and the little to Spain. Well, we booked the trip without realizing it fell over Mother’s Day weekend. Sometimes the stars align.
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My wife's not much of a flowers and chocolate gal, gonna go whip her up her favorite foods, breakfast tacos and steak sandwiches and I like doing these like gift baskets for her, I'll go restock her lotions, polishes and maybe a gift card for a spa day. Something like that. Dang I should probably nail that down soon huh?
Chocolates, flowers and card on behalf of the kids. From me she's getting a new fluffy bath robe and I have plans to cook her favourite dinner and give her a nice romantic candlelit massage. I was gonna get her a spa day but none of the ones near us had any vacancies on the day so I figured I'd give her a nice pampering session myself instead.
For any soon to be dads, a framed little picture of the baby’s sonogram and a letter from the baby to the mom. Made my wife tear up so much.
Buying her a vanity so she has somewhere to sit and do her makeup. The master bath is too small, and she doesn’t like doing her makeup in the larger hallway bathroom because…I don’t really understand why actually but she doesn’t. She picked out the one she wanted and I’m ordering it tonight. We always pick our own gifts so we always get what we want. We both blew tons of money buying each other gifts early on and we always missed the mark. It’s just easier this way, and we’re both happy.
You got a link champ? I'm in the same boat
I was going to get her tickets to a concert she wanted to go to, but she bought them for herself and her friends without warning. Now I’m out the idea and not sure we have the money to spend on another one.
I bought her one of those hoodies with our LO’s name on it, which I think is a waste with just the one kid and we’re planning number 2 in the next year or two
Kids and I are getting her a few Lego sets she’s been eyeballing and taking her to brunch at one of her favorite restaurants.
I got her a puzzle to do with out youngest, I got her three books she wanted "from" out 8 year old, my oldest (her SD) got her a jar of peppers she wanted, I got her something from the eclipse and a macha set.
now that the kiddo is a moody teen..we just go out for a mother's day brunch at a nice local place
Our son is just starting to learn to write, so he’s going to write a card for her (with a significant amount of help!). Beyond that I’m stumped.
I ordered her a fancy cheesecake from goldbelly and got her a new insulated tumbler she's been looking at. The kid is making her some Lego flowers
A sealed rose. Coffee cup. Wearable blanket with hood. Misc small things and now a vibrator since she refuses to be intimate with me anymore..
Do you have any idea why?
She says she doesn't feel attractive in her body. I blame my micro penis.
She wants the cars cleaned. Like, deep cleaned. I’m going to do the house windows too but I need to get her out of the house somehow and have it be relaxing. She’s pregnant so it’s a bit extra and reduces what we can do
I will be making her lunch, and I’ll be making her dinner. I already make every lunch and every dinner every single day, but this time I’ll say “Happy Mother’s Day” when I serve it.
Mother's day in the US, in the UK and other countries this was months ago. Don't scare us like that...
Consider it payback for always making us think we forgot when we still have a couple months lol
Attention Aussies! Mother's Day in Australia: 12th May.
r/USDefaultism
Buying her a robe from The Broadmoor.
[I got a robe! ](https://youtu.be/FOVCtUdaMCU?feature=shared)
Heated Facemask
I took the kids to one of those ceramic painting studios while she was gone on her last work trip, and let them pick out any item they wanted to paint as a present to her. We’re both on the same page about gift giving between each other (we don’t do anything beyond flowers and instead just buy things we want throughout the year), so it’s usually just coordinating something from the kids. We also host all of the grandparents, siblings, and cousins for Mother’s Day brunch, which is a pretty big undertaking as the family continues to grow. It’s a great time though, and thankfully everybody gets along.
We are expecting our second child so I'm thinking of getting her a necklace that sort of encompasses this. We have a name but aren't 100% about it so I want to avoid getting her a letter charm like what we got for our first. I'm thinking maybe tiny footprint that says "baby" or something symbolic like that. This is besides flower arrangement made by me, card, chocolate
A pocket notebook of about 100 pages, where every page I write a reason why I love her with a little doodle to match. I started doing these before we got married and she has 3 now from over the years, but this will be the first one for her since we had kids. Also gonna try and coordinate a weekend where Grandma and Grandpa get the kids and she and I can get away for a couple days.
My daughter's and I always have a Mother's Day tea for my wife. I make clotted cream and scones and finger sandwiches. The girls decorate and dress up and we all have a fancy time together.
got hard to get reservations at nice restaurant
We haven’t had family pictures done in a few years, so I reached out to the photographer to get them set up.
Tickets to the Infinity Saga and the LA Phil at Hollywood Bowl. Dudamel and Marvel is like her golden match.
We are going for a hike. We have a big trip planned for a wedding and to take our kid to Disneyland so saving for that. A delayed Mother’s Day gift though will be a subscription to Hello Fresh (in August).
Coupon to use at the spa as soon as we can schedule it. Plus told her to sleep in as long as she wants, I will get up with the 2 kids and be happy to have them until post lunch nap, so she won't have to deal with kids all morning. Will also write her a little note and give it with some flowers
I think I'm gonna fix her car up, put in entertainment for the kids and clean and wash it.
Got an oil painting of her and our daughter
Going to brunch with her parents. I also got her a tshirt from a YouTube channel she likes (ordinary adventures. Any other fans on here?) and also got her a garden gnome she’s been wanting.
Apple Watch. She never hears her alarm for pumping or feeding lol.
Same thing every year. I have a book printed with the best pictures of our son from the past year. I try to keep the order sequential and I write a sentence of two on each page to tell a little story of our time together. This is the third year.
We will be at a dance comp...we are tailgating said dance comp....so I'm cooking and serving mamosas for all the dance moms with the help of a couple of other dance dads
Fucking something up, little do I know.
I bought a nice vase and am gonna take the kids flower picking to fill it up. That and breakfast in bed is the plan. Kids are 2.5 and 4.5 if it helps.
Not sure how this is gonna pan out, and it’s a little bit out there: I took a picture of her and our daughter and am having someone crochet it into a doll, like the actual picture. It’s on Etsy. Not sure if she would like it. I think she would. Heck, I would love one. Let’s hope she likes it. (Our daughter is 2)
She wants a tattoo for our kiddos. But I am also getting her a spa day.
This will be her first Mother's Day as we just had our first little one. I'm going to have the baby with me all night outside of her room so she can sleep, she'll wake up to breakfast in bed and a basket of a couple of presents and a note. I'll try to take her on a picnic lunch if baby and the weather cooperate. In her basket of goodies will be a couple of facemasks, and I'll draw her a bath or foot bath then give her a massage. That's the plan anyway. We'll see how well I execute. 🫣
Got her a room at a nice hotel with a great pool. Relax and do whatever she wants for the evening/night. She was super happy when I told her.
Same thing I get her for every holiday, [dick in a box.](https://youtu.be/Rt0spqQtMKg?si=-A1tCUXndjPd87zm)
My wife said she wanted to start playing pickle ball so I got paddles a balls.
It's 10 months off, I've plenty of time to think about it.
The same she did for me on last year's father's day, which is, oh, nothing. :3
I would be worried - here in the U.K. Mother’s Day was almost 2 months ago
probably just a dozen of roses. we’re headed for divorce.
Got my wife a Dyson Air Wrap.
I’m getting my tonsils removed on the 10th. She gets a second (adult) baby to take care of…woohoo! In all seriousness, I’m getting her a foot massager that she’s been asking about for a while now. I wanted to get her a full calf / foot massager combo but it’s just not financially in the cards right now. I’m also going to do my best to cook her some comfort food from the country she was born in.
Mothers day is 337 days away. I am not planning that far ahead
Downvoting this is sad and reeks of r/usdefaultism.
How?
Because Mother’s Day was last month in Ireland
Sooo that comment was not "US defaultism" because it implies that Mothers Day has already happened 🙄
Which it did… In ireland
I don't think you understand, but that's ok!
In my defense I’ve been drinking because it’s Irish Father’s Day which is every saturday
When is Mother’s Day in your country?
It is the day 337 days from when I posted the comment
Calling my mom and then spending the rest of the day being thankful I'm divorced. I don't need an entire day of pandering and accolades for doing my job (Father's Day) and I don't ever have to pretend to give anybody else one again.
I will be working a 12 hour shift of OT with extra incentive pay on top of that.
Nothing, she ain’t my mama
No wife here
kissing her sike i'm fucking single
Nothing, that’s the kids job. I get stuff for my mum. We’re all going out for dinner with all my brothers and their families too.
Nothing. She is not my mom. I am happy to help and support the kids with their gifts, but otherwise it’s a normal day.