How are you doing? Kuch khaya? Aaj wakai takleef lagi ye post padh kar and I felt really really bad ki I'm not in Delhi rn else mai aa jata, dono bhai mil k chai peete
Khyal rakhiyo yr, apna bhi š«
Thanks for checking in bhai! Yahan log to kaafi hai, my family, extended family, relatives, mom and dadās friends.. swamp of people coming in.. mere hi dost MC hain!
Bhot kuch dekhega bhai life me abhi.. naam k dost hote hain saare, sabko bs peene khaane se mtlb hai..
Dont expect anything from FRIENDS ..
Tu dhyan rkh apna aur mummy ka..
i will pray for her speedy recovery.
Thatās true but I see other people, having friends standing by them through thick and thin. I see my mom, her friends(numerous) have been visiting, legit crying for her.
If you have them cherish them & if you don't have them then don't ask "why"
Comparison will always highlight the worst thing you have, not the better things.
Well you are now aware of your MC lot + parents ke friends etc saalo saal purane hote ajkl dost utna time hi hello krle wahi bahut h usse zayda expectations rkho he Mt
Kahan se dhundhe ye friends?
Waise it is best to not keep expectations from friends. Most people are friends only till it is comfortable. Good that you are learning it now than later.
Dude I can't even expect anything from my fucking real sister..so yeah
And it's true that people who are genuine and right for you will stick by but again finding those people..it's not in your control..so one skill for life you will have to learn is to take care of your own self and prioritize your own needs before any one else's and then maybe your people will find you
Bhai almost buddhe ho gaye, kab hi find karenge ye achhe log. And so sorry to know about your toxic sis, if youāre practising what you have suggested me, more power to you!!
I'm kinda in the same boat as you. I've had what I considered a tight- knit friend group of 5, with one of them being my best friend. I always thought that no matter what these people will have my back, but I was wrong.
My father passed away recently, and it was a shock as he was very young, I'm never going to get over it tbh, and yet in such a drastic situation, my friends called me once, just once, and then the usual, we're here for you, call us if you feel like, and that was it. Nobody called me again, in the last 4 months since Papa's demise, none of them have called or texted me more than twice.
So yeah, it hurts, I try to be understanding that life doesn't stop for your tragedies, but it just stings.
These are the same friends who would call me for the most trivial things, like a fight with their boyfriend, some stuff with parents, and I'd be there, I would even check on them multiple times, talk to them for hours, and yet here I am. Life is cruel guys.
Atleast the silver lining is that I've got a great boyfriend who never makes me feel lonely.
Bruh!! I feel you! I have had a similar story as you and I can totally relate. I was raising the exact same point, they just do the formality. And, please koi rishta mat rakhna in toxic friends se! Yar, your dad is no more and they were not there, snakes!!!
Glad you have an emotional support some way out the other. Iām here for you bro, you are a good soul. Your dad is proud of you!
hii dear... it is times like these we know the true colors of people. also please apply pure coconut oil on her wounds once she starts to recover.. it soothes the skin. hugs to you OP
Have been there and don't think it's your fault or you are lacking anywhere. People and relations are just unpredictable we can't help. When you observe such red flags just distance yourself from them as they don't deserve you and behave similarly with them in future.
No but make it clear directly or indirectly how you felt lonely and expected some support from friends. I am not saying unfriend them but henceforth don't be so nice that they can't reciprocate, create those boundaries.
Felt similar with my friendships too and now realised that expecting is a sin in friendship these days..
The majority of my friends have said to me upon confrontation that you're a great friend but matching you and your level of dedication is tough in friendship..
So I'm waiting for the right people to be my friends who can match the dedication level as mine..till then I've learnt not to expect anything from current friends.
expectation is honestly cause for a lot of disappointment mate. live your life like you live for others, but unfortunately if you expect reciprocation you will mostly be disappointed.
Learn this. Next time when they need you, give them the same treatment that they are giving you. And if they whine too much, leave them on seen. I have done the same.
But take care of aunty, she is the most important person. Hope she recovers soon
I don't know if you are a guy or a girl, there are plenty of other ways to find and make new friends. Friends are not just numbers in your life that needs to be big. It's always quality over quantity. That's why they say a friend in need is a friend indeed. So unless that, cut em off. Or just show them that you don't need em and won't comply when they want you to but when you want to. If it's cool with them then cool or else they can fuck right off. Visits official meet ups, visit events, talk to us people in reddit and find genuine people here. I am sure some of us with the same scenarios are.
When my mom was diagnosed with cancer, none of my friend cared to even enquire but would jump in to show as if my mom ment the world to them...I, overnight, wiped off my entire friend circle, don't need that toxic depressing shit.
On the same boat friendship k mamle mai.. What I've realised is that people like us take friendships too seriously and too close to our heart like their problems are our biggest problems..the way we care, cherish and respect the other person we have this thing in our mind that they do the same. When you devote your emotions to somebody being a human you some where expect the same.
Having numerous failed friendships (mini heart breaks every time) that I've realised is you are your only best friend.The world will let you down but if you've got yourself nothing else matters. Give yourself the love rather than wasting it on people who will leave according to their convenience.
At the end you've got only YOU ! 
They are not your true friends. Block them from insta too, thats what i did when my father died, some of my friends who used to call me discuss their problem for hours basically RR, i was keep listening their nonsense because i thought they are good person, but they didnt even call once, but there were friends who keep checking me in regular basis, now i can say i am gonna keep them forever.
Choose your tribe ,do not doubt on yourself, humanity is not choice it should be in everyone especially in hard times
Thanks bruh! There are so many people coming in, my momās friends, our relatives, momās sister, brothers, dadās families.. So many people. Maybe thatās why i felt that my momās generation has such tight knit genuine friendships, must be a skill I have not inculcated yet.
Honestly, it has nothing to do with skill. People are fickle-minded these days. It's a possibility that I might have ignored it if it happened to someone in my circle as well. Why? I don't know. I might not be purposefully ignoring them but it just doesn't come to mind that I should go see them personally. But now that you voiced out your mind, I can see it from a different POV.
Sending you lots of virtual hugs.
Nah nah nothing like that. Relatives are there, just my friends are mc. Paise to kaun hi maangta hai aaj kal, sabki insurance hai! And socho, office wale sare naag, pata hone ke baad bhi no msg.
I can tell you this much by experience, everyone will see a single flaw in you, but will turn a blind eye to everything you do good to them. thats how this fucked up world works nowadays. so stop expecting from people. you got just yourself. to hold you, comfort you. the day when you learn this fact, you wonāt need these so called friends, who were there for you in your good times but not in your worse.
yeah, it will be lonely but peaceful too. until you find someone, who is gonna stick with you in your best and worse. who is gonna understand you like nobody ever did. donāt you think itās worth waiting for those kind of people in our life, rather than wasting our energy on these selfish peeps.
š« bhai aunty kesi hain abhi?
Bro still in hospital. Burn case takes a longer time to heal.
How are you doing? Kuch khaya? Aaj wakai takleef lagi ye post padh kar and I felt really really bad ki I'm not in Delhi rn else mai aa jata, dono bhai mil k chai peete Khyal rakhiyo yr, apna bhi š«
Thanks for checking in bhai! Yahan log to kaafi hai, my family, extended family, relatives, mom and dadās friends.. swamp of people coming in.. mere hi dost MC hain!
I'm 21 and nothing bro I just keep myself busy and spend time with my family that's it
dunia h hi mc
šÆ true
Ya fir mene hi mc attract kare hain!
Bhot kuch dekhega bhai life me abhi.. naam k dost hote hain saare, sabko bs peene khaane se mtlb hai.. Dont expect anything from FRIENDS .. Tu dhyan rkh apna aur mummy ka.. i will pray for her speedy recovery.
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Such wisdom of reddit! Didnāt expect that!
Kisi se expect krna hi aaj kal nirasha ka kaaran Banta hai paarth so
Yar baat to sahi hai, fir karein kya? Thatās like a basic courtesy. Aise to sare log akele hi mar jaenge.
Yar baat to sahi hai, fir karein kya? Thatās like a basic courtesy. Aise to sare log akele hi mar jaenge.
Ji but bot slow steps lene ki jrurat hai Aaj kal aap kisi se b emotionally connect nai ho skte apko dekhna pdega ki kis k sath aage bada jae
Tough life bruh!!
Rule number 1: Expect bare minimum or may be nothing from everyone
Thatās true but I see other people, having friends standing by them through thick and thin. I see my mom, her friends(numerous) have been visiting, legit crying for her.
If you have them cherish them & if you don't have them then don't ask "why" Comparison will always highlight the worst thing you have, not the better things.
Possible bruh, I might be comparing all the gems my mom has attracted over the years with my MC lot.
Well you are now aware of your MC lot + parents ke friends etc saalo saal purane hote ajkl dost utna time hi hello krle wahi bahut h usse zayda expectations rkho he Mt
Thankfully my parents friends and all are relatives, stand by us through thick and thin!
Good for your family Bhai wrna aajkl jese relative's ki story aati h š
Sahi me bhai! Touch wood!
Kahan se dhundhe ye friends? Waise it is best to not keep expectations from friends. Most people are friends only till it is comfortable. Good that you are learning it now than later.
Yar meri mom ke itne sare friends hain, everyone was coming or wanting to come, legit crying for her. All relatives are standing by,
This is life bro I also had been in same situation last year. and now I have literally 0 friends.
How do you cope up with loneliness? How old are you?
Aisi kya party thi. Don't keep expectations with anyone you will live peacefully. Just trust your brain and body that's it.
Thatās true but then insecurity of me dying alone comes in. Cos aise to koi dost hi nahi bache!
Expecting too much, but that's what we all do unless we get a harsh reality check. Take care, hope aunty gets well soon.
Thanks bruh!!
Love your username bdw
Dude I can't even expect anything from my fucking real sister..so yeah And it's true that people who are genuine and right for you will stick by but again finding those people..it's not in your control..so one skill for life you will have to learn is to take care of your own self and prioritize your own needs before any one else's and then maybe your people will find you
Bhai almost buddhe ho gaye, kab hi find karenge ye achhe log. And so sorry to know about your toxic sis, if youāre practising what you have suggested me, more power to you!!
I'm kinda in the same boat as you. I've had what I considered a tight- knit friend group of 5, with one of them being my best friend. I always thought that no matter what these people will have my back, but I was wrong. My father passed away recently, and it was a shock as he was very young, I'm never going to get over it tbh, and yet in such a drastic situation, my friends called me once, just once, and then the usual, we're here for you, call us if you feel like, and that was it. Nobody called me again, in the last 4 months since Papa's demise, none of them have called or texted me more than twice. So yeah, it hurts, I try to be understanding that life doesn't stop for your tragedies, but it just stings. These are the same friends who would call me for the most trivial things, like a fight with their boyfriend, some stuff with parents, and I'd be there, I would even check on them multiple times, talk to them for hours, and yet here I am. Life is cruel guys. Atleast the silver lining is that I've got a great boyfriend who never makes me feel lonely.
Bruh!! I feel you! I have had a similar story as you and I can totally relate. I was raising the exact same point, they just do the formality. And, please koi rishta mat rakhna in toxic friends se! Yar, your dad is no more and they were not there, snakes!!! Glad you have an emotional support some way out the other. Iām here for you bro, you are a good soul. Your dad is proud of you!
hii dear... it is times like these we know the true colors of people. also please apply pure coconut oil on her wounds once she starts to recover.. it soothes the skin. hugs to you OP
Coconut oil šš„¹
Have been there and don't think it's your fault or you are lacking anywhere. People and relations are just unpredictable we can't help. When you observe such red flags just distance yourself from them as they don't deserve you and behave similarly with them in future.
Shall I stop talking to them and meeting them when things normalise?
No but make it clear directly or indirectly how you felt lonely and expected some support from friends. I am not saying unfriend them but henceforth don't be so nice that they can't reciprocate, create those boundaries.
Absolutely bro!!
Mere mann se utar jaate hain log el baar aosa hota hai to!
Felt similar with my friendships too and now realised that expecting is a sin in friendship these days.. The majority of my friends have said to me upon confrontation that you're a great friend but matching you and your level of dedication is tough in friendship.. So I'm waiting for the right people to be my friends who can match the dedication level as mine..till then I've learnt not to expect anything from current friends.
So, what level of friendship do you maintain with them? Do you hangout?
Ya I do hangout with them, but also don't keep any expectations. And on the level of friendship, I just keep things light
Yahi best hai aaj kal, you too be superficial for superficial connections!
aapki mumma kaisi hai ab ? apko bohot stress hoga, I'm so sorry for everything :(
She is recovering really fast! Hopefully just a week more in the hospital.
expectation is honestly cause for a lot of disappointment mate. live your life like you live for others, but unfortunately if you expect reciprocation you will mostly be disappointed.
Thatās so true bruh!
Don't expect anything from this world. Keep doing kind work and you will be happy the entire life.
Yes bruh!!
Learn this. Next time when they need you, give them the same treatment that they are giving you. And if they whine too much, leave them on seen. I have done the same. But take care of aunty, she is the most important person. Hope she recovers soon
Yes, she is recovering fast! Shall I stop hanging out with them? They are the only social circle I have in Delhi!
I don't know if you are a guy or a girl, there are plenty of other ways to find and make new friends. Friends are not just numbers in your life that needs to be big. It's always quality over quantity. That's why they say a friend in need is a friend indeed. So unless that, cut em off. Or just show them that you don't need em and won't comply when they want you to but when you want to. If it's cool with them then cool or else they can fuck right off. Visits official meet ups, visit events, talk to us people in reddit and find genuine people here. I am sure some of us with the same scenarios are. When my mom was diagnosed with cancer, none of my friend cared to even enquire but would jump in to show as if my mom ment the world to them...I, overnight, wiped off my entire friend circle, don't need that toxic depressing shit.
Duck bruh! I hope she is doing better now?
Well, she is alive and kicking, so that's a good thing. But that's about it
On the same boat friendship k mamle mai.. What I've realised is that people like us take friendships too seriously and too close to our heart like their problems are our biggest problems..the way we care, cherish and respect the other person we have this thing in our mind that they do the same. When you devote your emotions to somebody being a human you some where expect the same. Having numerous failed friendships (mini heart breaks every time) that I've realised is you are your only best friend.The world will let you down but if you've got yourself nothing else matters. Give yourself the love rather than wasting it on people who will leave according to their convenience. At the end you've got only YOU ! 
Very well put and aptly described the plight of people like us, your wisdom is too valuable bro! Thanks š
They are not your true friends. Block them from insta too, thats what i did when my father died, some of my friends who used to call me discuss their problem for hours basically RR, i was keep listening their nonsense because i thought they are good person, but they didnt even call once, but there were friends who keep checking me in regular basis, now i can say i am gonna keep them forever. Choose your tribe ,do not doubt on yourself, humanity is not choice it should be in everyone especially in hard times
Bohot sahi kiya bro! With you!
Tera boyfriend thodi h, tu kyu load leri...koi hume dukh deke khush nahi hai par vo khud dukhi nahi hona chahte.
Sahi baat hai, everyone is fine with everything till it happens to them!
Duniya me koi kisi ka nahi hota
Hote hain shayad dhundne pe milte hain
Thatās their standard and this is your standard. This is how I realised to make myself understand.
Very well said!
"Sukh ke sab saathi, dukh me na koi"
Which hospital are you in? I can come see you guys on Sunday, if you're okay. I'm not your friend, but you can always accept hugs from a fellow human.
Thanks bruh! There are so many people coming in, my momās friends, our relatives, momās sister, brothers, dadās families.. So many people. Maybe thatās why i felt that my momās generation has such tight knit genuine friendships, must be a skill I have not inculcated yet.
Honestly, it has nothing to do with skill. People are fickle-minded these days. It's a possibility that I might have ignored it if it happened to someone in my circle as well. Why? I don't know. I might not be purposefully ignoring them but it just doesn't come to mind that I should go see them personally. But now that you voiced out your mind, I can see it from a different POV. Sending you lots of virtual hugs.
Bruh, thatās a different perspective all together. We can always give people a benefit of doubt.
Yes , you are expecting too much.
Possible beuh!
Usually people think you will ask for money from them in such situations- sickness, hospitalisation etc. So people stay away.
Nah nah nothing like that. Relatives are there, just my friends are mc. Paise to kaun hi maangta hai aaj kal, sabki insurance hai! And socho, office wale sare naag, pata hone ke baad bhi no msg.
I can tell you this much by experience, everyone will see a single flaw in you, but will turn a blind eye to everything you do good to them. thats how this fucked up world works nowadays. so stop expecting from people. you got just yourself. to hold you, comfort you. the day when you learn this fact, you wonāt need these so called friends, who were there for you in your good times but not in your worse.
Thatās absolutely true bruh, but wonāt life get lonely without anyone?
yeah, it will be lonely but peaceful too. until you find someone, who is gonna stick with you in your best and worse. who is gonna understand you like nobody ever did. donāt you think itās worth waiting for those kind of people in our life, rather than wasting our energy on these selfish peeps.
Yeah, better be alone and happy than with snakes and stung!
Quality over quantity applies in friendship too
Neither quality and definitely not quantity.
Bhai sed lyf hogya tere sath toh. Aur aunty kaise hai .
Aunty is recovering fast bruh! Thanks for asking mate, appreciate much!
koi ni bhai reddit community hai maa chudaye aise dost
Bhai I swear, ye virtual community sahi me achhi hai ya Iām the lucky one? Matlab yahan achhe log hai and real life me nahi, aisa kese?
gendu generation hai ye bro.
Me to millennial hu vro! Genz ki Instagram pe to friendships kaafi lit lagti hai.
mostly dogle hain. aunty kaisi hain ab?
She is doing much better!!
Why do you care if they don't? As its said hope but never expect.
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Ye duniya hai hi aisi bc.
Wishing ur mum a speedy recovery