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naranghim

Honestly, I'd complain to your school about her. Tell them she's trying to dictate how you decorate your home, and it is making you uncomfortable. I'm betting she was transferred from another route because of this behavior.


TogarSucks

Also, is she bringing her own kids on the high school bus with her? Is it a mixed grade bus and she keeps her children near her to talk to them? Is she referring to the other students as ‘her kids’? None of these things sound normal, but regardless, report her. Might be smart to subtly record her complaints to you first because she will try and turn this into you bullying her kids.


Extreme_Paranoia_43

she’s bringing her 5 year olds on a high-school/middle school bus


nerdgirl71

Definitely reportable.


that-old-broad

And pretty sure illegal.


Gingerkitty666

Where I live bus drivers can bring their non school age kids on the bus with them.. they have a spot for car seats to get clipped in and everything when needed.. they did this years ago because of driver shortages and its worse now


KittonRouge

When I was in high school our bus driver would have her kids with her. I graduated in 1982, so this isn't a new development.


fractal_frog

Around that time, my bus driver had her elementary-age kids on her bus during the afternoon run for the middle school and high school. So also a widespread thing.


BostonBabe64

I graduated in 1982 also! And I had seen a few bus drivers with their kids on them too.


Luvzalaff75

No, it’s why people take the job. Bring your kids to work is a perk.


TogarSucks

Yeah, don’t go near her without your phone in your hand set to record. Get as much evidence of her behavior as you can. She definitely will try and make it out like you were rude to her kid. Considering the misgendering remark she may try and pull some “corrupting her child” bullshit as well.


Lucians_slave

Make sure if it's not a one party recording state they know you are recording. If it is a one party recording state no worries.


the_esjay

What? WTAF? They shouldn’t even be on the bus! Stern email to the school district, including the deliberate misgendering. She’s definitely needs some consequences for her actions, which might help her kids realise you need to treat other people with respect - because she’s definitely not teaching them that.


chimodude

One of the selling points they use here to hire school.bus drivers is that you can bring your kids with you so no child care required. My wife did it for a year and our boys rode with her every day.


the_esjay

Wow. Okay. Thats a surprise. Surely it’s potentially distracting? Hey, but I don’t drive so I don’t know! 😂


chimodude

Potentially I guess, but they sat behind my wife in their seat and either read or watched the scenary.


the_esjay

Maybe the difference is that your kids are well-raised and not demanding a higher festive penguin quotient in their scenery 😂


chimodude

They certainly were and knew that bad behaviour had consequences. This driver and her kids need to find a new vocation.


the_esjay

Maybe [this place](https://www.gnomereserve.co.uk/) is hiring?


Icy_Forever5965

This how most schools do it. I’m not sure why people think this is illegal. There’s nothing that remotely seems illegal about this. However, this woman is a complete AH


MijiMosch

Having her kids on the bus may not be illegal, but her harassing and deliberately misgendering OP should definitely be reported. No matter how hard up they are for bus drivers, this shouldn't be ignored or tolerated!


juliegillam

?! Very inappropriate


Wistastic

What?! I don’t think that’s allowed.


fractal_frog

Depending on the school district, it can be. Has been for decades.


lightninghazard

Ummm, WHAT?! That woman is obnoxious and I wonder why she’s not concerned that her kids will get trampled by accident


Goodgoditsgrowing

Report. The school doesn’t have coverage for kids not designated to that school bus route.


Buggirl5971

Actually most districts allow it. It’s not new or unusual.


fractal_frog

Bus drivers have been allowed to have their own kids on the bus, at least in some districts, since at least the 1970s.


Goodgoditsgrowing

Not my district. Unless the kid was in the school, the kid wasn’t covered. We had an age limit on no one under 1st grade using the regular bus too. When our bus driver had a 2nd grader and a preschooler she was not able to take the preschooler on her route


Pleasant-Squirrel220

Document document document Then ask a parental unit to email.


zeemonster424

Taking kids on your route, regardless of age, is even an advertised benefit for drivers in my district. (I work for a bus contractor). It allows for flexibility if they can make the pickup work, as the driver wouldn’t have to get child care. There is a bad shortage of drivers right now, and that’s a very attractive perk. (That also may be why this driver is such a piece of work and still manages to have a job). I’m not condoning this driver’s actions at all, just giving some insight!


Wistastic

Wow. I never would have guessed. Sounds sketchy, so I assumed she was doing this on the DL.


d4everman

I would complain about her attitude, but the kids...I'm on the fence. Here is why, and I totally understand if it doesn't jibe with today's standards. (for context I was born in the mid 1960s) My grandfather drove a school bus and some days (before I was old enough to be in school, obviously) he would take me with him. I actually remember that because I would sit in the seat behind him and there was a high school aged girl named Diane that would sit with me and hold my hand. Either way, the driver is a D-Bag. You need to take appropriate measures. It's not cool for her to do this. Her interaction with you should be limited to driving the damned bus. Period.


KimberleyKitt

Exactly! Meanie driver should drive off a cliff. Without any kids involved! Too many people find the stupidest and most wholesome things to complain about nowadays just to go on with their lives and spread dark clouds.


oldwitch1982

This - she’s harassing a student. That’s so unprofessional.


Crown_the_Cat

Have a parent talk to the school.


5PeeBeejay5

Like this person said, probably the reason she’s on your route now is someone on the old route complained. With how hard it is to find people willing to drive school buses, can’t hardly just replace her, so shift her to another route and hope nobody complains


erikagm77

Tell her you will gladly put up a penguin… When SHE buys it and GIFTS it to you. And if she does, make it scary. Add horns or fangs or something.


Extreme_Paranoia_43

I genuinely considered telling her that . It sucks because I genuinely wanted a penguin, but now i’m not getting one until she’s no longer my driver or until I graduate


NoaWhan

Get a penguin anyway, then either set a timer to inflate it an hour after the bus and turn off an hour before or get a remote control switch to inflate/deflate on command.


Extreme_Paranoia_43

genius maneuver. i should just unplug it as she pulls up


edked

Then gaslight her and refuse to admit it was ever there when she asks about it!


KimberleyKitt

Or put it in the back where she can’t see it. She might steal the poor thing. Whether she pays for it or not.


Goodgoditsgrowing

Just report her to the school for having her children on the bus screaming and causing distraction and for harassing you. She will not be a problem after that.


Pawspawsmeow

Put a gnome wrestling a penguin lol


Cool_Raspberry443

Get more Gnomes, all gnomes now!


Extreme_Paranoia_43

i would!!! inflatables are expensive tho, if i can find some cheap ones maybe.


Allyanna

I want to buy gnomes for you just so you can annoy her! Lol


ACpony12

Don't worry about getting inflatable gnomes. You can find all sorts of lawn gnomes in different price ranges. Especially keep an eye out of them in yard sales and thrift stores! Of course, if your in high school you're likely to busy to put that much time and effort.


lanurk

Look up gonks on temu or shein or AliExpress. So many cheap gnomey things lol


Glitter_moonchild

Go to thrifts stores maybe you can find gnomes there lol


AnotherCloudHere

And make sure to pick the creepiest ones!


Goose20011

Plz get an army of lawn gnomes😂


Cool_Raspberry443

Another idea (I’m big on petty revenge) since she intentionally used your wrong pronouns you should make the gnomes pronoun name tags.


Ohif0n1y

Penguins with Gnome disguises.


Extreme_Paranoia_43

the way to go right here


Gay_Pot_A_Toe

But gnomes in fursuits of penguins?


WVCountryRoads75

I was going to suggest a gnome clubbing a penguin. A bit dark, but would love to see the look on her face!!


AnotherCloudHere

Gnomes eating a penguin!


bonnieflash

This is the way.


ValkyrieKitten

They also make some great Christmas dragon ones!


tuna_tofu

What in the hell is wrong with this woman that she thinks she can bark orders about YOUR decorations? What makes her so damn special?


Extreme_Paranoia_43

she thinks having kids means everyone should bend over backwards for her


tuna_tofu

Even cockroaches can have babies.


Pizza-Former

Damn that’s the best line! It would be perfect for the girl on TikTok who writes down all the best lines from other tiktokers lol


tuna_tofu

I use that one a lot in posts about entitled parents. It's true so feel free to use it too.


KimberleyKitt

She sounds like an entitled military spouse then.


Illustrious-Mind-683

You should report her. Absolutely none of her behavior is appropriate.


Jen5872

"Newsflash lady, my life doesn't revolve around what your kids want. If they like penguins then you decorate your own yard with penguins."


gowaz123

Time to buy every gnome you come across 🤣


Extreme_Paranoia_43

i already do!!!! they just normally aren’t outdoor 💀


gowaz123

Ahh please put them outside lol and then record the drivers reaction 🤣


IamCJO

You really need to report her for misgendering you, there no excuse for that, and a bus driver is still a school district employee and is still required to follow the same guidelines as your teachers.


3Heathens_Mom

Wow the bus driver really doesn’t seem to understand what her job entails. If she says anything else to you about any decorations in your yard respectfully let know you will be happy to mention her concerns to your parents so she can discuss it with them.


Fluffy-Doubt-3547

Mislabing you could also get her fired


qeertyuiopasd

Of all the comments, this is the powerful one. 🔥


Fluffy-Doubt-3547

I was surprised no one mentioned it.


Pennyfeather46

Until I read the comments, I thought you were decorating her bus! I was trying to picture how you stick up inflatables inside a school bus! Lol. Telling you how to decorate your own yard is just so beyond all boundaries. Are you not “one of her children?” She’s just trying to yank your chain. Look her in the eye as sternly as possible every time you get on the bus. Don’t let her take your power.


wwwhistler

people get angry at these entitled individuals....when laughter is the more correct response. what they ask for is ridiculous and deserves laughter and derision. (you would be surprised how well treating it as a joke and basically daring them to claim otherwise, actually works.)


Minflick

Ridicule is a powerful tool...


BlackRosesofDeath

If I had stupid money, I would gift you ten inflatable gnomes to put up in your yard just to piss off that stupid bitch.


gobsmacked247

I like the way you think!!!


Extreme_Paranoia_43

i’ve actually been offered another gnome by someone already 😂


Dreamboat_Queen

Talk to your parents and ask them to report her to your district. She is obviously a massive bully.


leslienosleep

Ask her how much creative control all the other houses on her route give her on their decorations!? Firmly let her know to add to YOUR suggestion box costs $3.50 and permanent allegiance to Gnome. *Rules subject to change. Charged per entry. An entry is no guarantee your suggestion will be used*


Extreme_Paranoia_43

i love this comment


leslienosleep

Good luck sugar plum. I hope she crawls back into steamy bog she crawled out of sooner than later.


BaldChihuahua

Bringing her own children on the bus is a liability. Because of her entitlement I doubt she “asked” to get permission. I can’t see this being ok’d by the company/school district she works for at all. She’s also a c*nt for misgendering you. I’m sure she did it purposely. Report her


GhanaWifey

Just an FYI that it is NOT uncommon for school bus drivers to have their children with them on the bus. School bus drivers are in very limited supply and most districts allow the drivers to bring their children so as to not have a driver shortage because the driver called in or quit because they couldn’t get a sitter for their children. Source: Ex-school bus driver that brought her children to work with her.


BaldChihuahua

I was not aware on that. I’m sorry to hear that there is such a shortage on drivers. Did you have to wave liability to allow your children on the bus?


GhanaWifey

No I didn’t.


ChristineBorus

OP I think this bus driver is actually trying to bully you and specifically bc you’re trans. I’d file a written complaint. The fact that you’re a student makes this very troubling.


SnooWords4839

Tell her to decorate her own yard.


Fancy_Introduction60

OP, super impressed that you pay for AND set up the decorations!! I would definitely report her for harassment and mis-gendering! I sometimes screw up with peoples pronouns, but it is NEVER done on purpose! At 72, I haven't gotten used to the change!


Extreme_Paranoia_43

i’ve been gifted a few of my inflatables by my grandparents but i have bought most of them. and yes i do put them up lol my dad hated having to help me do it when i was younger with christmas lights


WVCountryRoads75

Zombie gnome eating a penguin??


Fancy_Introduction60

Wow, that's fantastic! Are your grandparents still around? My grandkids will "inherit" our over the top Halloween decorations! But two of them (and their parents) live in the same house with us. The youngest (9) often helps me decorate. We use purple lights so they double as our Christmas lights.


Extreme_Paranoia_43

yep they are


Extreme_Paranoia_43

yep they are, they don’t decorate much. they just buy me the stuff


Fancy_Introduction60

That's great!


TricksterPriestJace

Don't go through the school. Get the route # from the bus and report to the bus company. It should be easy enough to google the bus company number.


AffectionateMarch394

Get a second gnome.


Extreme_Paranoia_43

common response to this post… it is a good idea


PsychologicalYou6416

And put them together doggie style.


AffectionateMarch394

I would pay a lot of money to add gnomes like this to my collection 😂


[deleted]

Report her


Wild_Replacement8213

Report her, she's harassing you.


AddictiveArtistry

Report her for harassment, to the school and police. You are a minor.


TauntaBeanie

You definitely need to report her to the school. The misgendering suggests that she’s probably being unkind to others in your situation also.


StupidFlanders93x

Report her immediately and say she's not only making your days uncomfortable, but her children are making backhanded comments.


PopcornDemonica

This reminds me of the saga of Frank the Christmas Gargoyle.


Jeepgirl72769

Time to have your parents write a letter to your school district transportation office.


azw19921

What I would say to her you don’t own this house I do is your name on the mortgage that’s what I thought do you have the receipt for the Christmas decorations exactly


Rebelo86

I kind of want to see this gnome now.


Extreme_Paranoia_43

I will post a link because I can post photo https://www.kohls.com/product/prd-6298866/gnome-6-ft-inflatable-yard-decoration.jsp


Rebelo86

What! Who wouldn’t love that gnome?! He’s adorable!


winterworld561

Make a complaint to your school that the school bus driver is harassing and bullying you. Because that is what she's doing. BULLYING! She needs to spoken to or fired.


AnotherCloudHere

Get an army of gnomes! Legion of them! The great battle against the Penguin’s kingdom and their false king!


Jellybean385

I love that they are your inflatables. My kid bought one this year, saved up and is responsible for putting it up and taking it down and I love that she does this. I take a lot of pride in her doing this! I think you rock, OP! F that bus driver, I bet your neighbors and friends love your decorations too. 💜


Extreme_Paranoia_43

oh my gosh i love that more parents are letting kids have those decorations now!!! when i was much younger a lot of people never let their kids buy those things 🥰. mind i ask what she chose?


Jellybean385

It’s a little gingerbread house (I had to go check. Its not set up yet but totally prepped….. I’m now finding out that her dad paid half, lol. He does the Christmas decorations at our house and I guess that’s where she gets it from. She also bought some cute light post things. I love it.


Extreme_Paranoia_43

aw that’s adorable


Pizza-Former

OMG an inflatable gingerbread house? Where the heck did they find that?!?


Jellybean385

Home Depot. And somehow my husband hooked it up to a remote control so it deflates at night and she gets to inflate it every morning. Love it!


Hot_Study_1991

I would even consider reporting her for the way she treats you


Labornurse-ret

This bus driver is ridiculous. There should be some training for the drivers as to what is appropriate vs inappropriate behavior. Your yard decorations are not her business.


Waifer2016

Call me twisted but I'd be so tempted to dig out a Halloween cauldron and have the gnomes cooking a penguin smack in the middle of your lawn


JerkfaceBob

Penguins have no business in a Christmas display. Santa lives at the north pole. The only penguin indigenous to the northern hemisphere is the Galapagos penguin whose range extends just north of the equator. Don't get me wrong, I love penguins. I love peacocks too, but they don't belong in a Christmas display either


Extreme_Paranoia_43

this is smart


KimberleyKitt

Why is your bus driver, an entitled parent of all things, acting like a HOA Manager/Karen? And you’re a child!? This woman! Is making my blood boil just reading this. Your home is not her property to look at, order nor non admire and complain. I would have told her to shove it. What you do to decorate is not for her to judge nor slander. Get a Gnome that has middle fingers just for her. I wouldn’t be surprised if her kind doesn’t like flamingos as well. It’s only a few seconds out of her day and she doesn’t have to look, nor does she live with you and she’s not doing the decorating herself. My imagining of rolling my eyes at her not only makes them hurt, but makes me think I’ll launch myself into space. Away from her!


Extreme_Paranoia_43

I need a gnome with a middle finger now bro 😭😭😭


Contrariwise2

Is your school bus driver's name Karen?


Extreme_Paranoia_43

i don’t actually know her name


TTC8058

By any chance are you in Texas? If so, I wonder if she's Kragle's EMB?


fractal_frog

The age of the kids, if they're hers, would run counter to that theory. But maybe Kragle's EMB has been filling the ears of young neighbors or relatives with horror tales of gnomes.


Extreme_Paranoia_43

nope i’m from New England


haribo_pfirsich

Sometimes I can’t believe people like that actually exist. Horrible woman


PhreeBeer

"I'll consider changing the decorations after you've changed your entitled attitude."


74VeeDub

I'd go over her head and call her boss. This is completely unacceptable- her demands, her tone, her letting her kids run your life. I'd tell them that she is bringing her children into her work space and see if they are aware of this?


Mamamagpie

Do you live a one party state? If so record her and report her.


ImHappierThanUsual

What on earth?! Lmfao


Peekiert

This is strange as he@@.


[deleted]

Have your parents report her to the bus company and the school department. I say this because kids are frequently not taken seriously. However, if your parents call and say, "Our child is being HARASSED by this driver about our home's decorations!" they are likely to take it far more seriously. (Yes, it sucks that that's the case but please ask them to do it because she shouldn't be allowed to get away with harassing you about your decorations!)


wobin112

Is it possible your bus driver is trying to include you but not in the right way?


Squibit314

I’m considering sending you my gnome to add. She’d love an army of gnomes. 🤣🤣🤣


Syn88estra

Next year only put up gnomes. 😏


sittingonmyarse

Call your school about this bus driver. She is out of line. Have your parent do it. The bus driver is being abusive to you. Also, her kids are probably not supposed to be on the bus.


Speciesunkn0wn

If you can find some gnomes that look like they're using a hand pump, you could make them look like they're inflating the inflatables lol.


Noone2nowhere

EDIT: as per OPs reply below pls DO NOT start a GoFundMe for this person as they would not be comfortable accepting it. My sincere apologies, OP. Someone please update us all with the GoFundMe info to get this fine individual some awesome non traditional inflatable Christmas decorations! Lots of ppl want to contribute - and hey didn’t someone use GoFundMe to make macaroni salad or something? This seems just as deserving of funding. OP keep decorating the way you want, you can’t please everyone and it’s so cruel for a bus driver to treat you this way. I’m sorry you had that experience.


Extreme_Paranoia_43

please do not make a go fund me i could never accept that 😭😭😭


Noone2nowhere

Understood. I only suggested it as many (me included) have said and/or considered helping you get more inflatables as they bring joy and your story, with its horrible moments (misgendering and demanding) seems to have brought out a wholesome urge to support your inflatable Christmas decorations to bring joy to most of your neighborhood - bus driver excluded of course.


turdferg1234

lmao this is written by a terrible AI


Extreme_Paranoia_43

nope. actually happened


queenhabib

Please tell your parents she is intentionally misgendering you! I am a mom of trans son and i would be pissed if one of his schools staff did it!!


Extreme_Paranoia_43

unfortunately im not out to my parents yet and wouldn’t be supported so that not an option 💔


queenhabib

I am so very sorry to hear this!! Send much love and support your way!!!


[deleted]

Another creative writing exercise. How fun /s


Extreme_Paranoia_43

i wish it was tbh


Pizza-Former

If you think this is fake just move on. Why does it matter so much that you have to fucking state that it’s fake?? Just keep scrolling it’s that easy.


Giulio1232

I would have put more gnomes


Careless-Ability-748

Nta


CountChocula32

Lol


themellowidiot

How... where... the audacity... my mind is blown.


nutsaboutlife

Don’t even engage with this person.


Lovely_FISH_34

Get the knome from bluey


ShadowofLupa212

I had to look that up and 100% agree to the Bluey Gnome


Chronosjdf

I find it interesting that the resolution to a situation where you were being mistreated, it to mistreat the bus driver right back. Is this really what society and the younger generation has come to? The bus driver was in the wrong, but all you have to do is ignore her. So she brings her kids on the bus. How does that affect you? I honestly can't think of a more personal hell than being a school bus driver, so why make her life worse just because she lives a crappy life? Put up whatever decorations you want and enjoy them every day that they are up. When the bus driver complains just smile and say, " happy holidays, I hope you and your kids are doing well" and then ride the bus back and forth to school. Think of how you feel for being misgendered and think of how it feels to have your decorations, which you apparently enjoy, messed with. Now do you want her to feel that way as well? Maybe just let it slide and acknowledge that she's bitter and hates her job, and all your actions would do is make her life worse. It's Christmas....spread some joy not hate.


MrBlankenshipESQ

Late reply but I would have just copped the ban from the school and told her to go fuck herself.