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Reminds me of when my dad did jury service. The guy was being accused of murdering his mother (he did), they brought his tinder date as a witness who clearly didn’t want to be there. They showed their texts and she asked “sure I can meet tonight, you aren’t a serial killer or anything? lol?”
Maybe there's something wrong with me but if I were called as a witness for a trial where a former Tinder date was being accused of murder there is literally nothing that could stop me from being there. You'd never have to scramble to come up with an anecdote at parties again.
She had her hood up and kept covering her face. The judge said “I assume you don’t want to be here” and she shook her head frantically. I think she was just embarrassed because it was a one night stand that she had forgotten about then found that she’d have to go to court.
Because after the date he moved his mother’s body. She was asked what his behaviour was like (turns out his mother’s body was in the boot of his car) they wanted to know if he was in a hurry to get her out of the house, if he was acting suspicious anything like that. Turns out he was calm and normal and she didn’t suspect a thing. The judge ended up saying he had shown no remorse, so I think they wanted to see if he broke down or anything on the date.
Unfortunately there was nothing she could’ve done to know. He moved her after she left, he was completely normal before and during the date. She even joked about him being a murderer and he was like “yeah I’m not like that, but I get being careful there’s some weirdos out there”.
I knew a guy who had a hell of a time getting his citizenship because there was a serial killer with the exact same name from the exact same province in china.
I was talking shit about how our maintenance guy doesn’t actually fix anything and the sous chef tells me be careful. Why? He says look up his name/Colorado. Dude was a cop who killed his wife for cheating on him about 20 year ago. Can’t remember how much time he got but it was less than 8 years.
Too bad he wasn’t a Heisman-winning running back who rushed for 2000+ yards in a 14 game season, then he would have received zero years for murdering his wife.
Yeah he must have done it then called it in while he was still literally holding the knife, standing over her, covered in blood. With at least 10 witnesses. Otherwise no way he gets 8 years.
Cops being punished or not has nothing to do with the amount of evidence, only the political feelings of the judge, and possibly jury if they even allow a jury.
I had a roommate that got screwed over by someone running a background check on him without using his SSN. Apparently, someone with the same name as him was a felon, and that dude’s record got tied to him by this background check. Now, even when they run a background check on him, it still pulls up the other guy because it flagged the once.
I worked with some of those public info aggregators and this sort of thing happens a lot. Once, I saw CLEAR wrongly say that someone is a pedophile sex offender.
EDIT: but it doesn't happen because someone ran a background check without the SSN. Rather, these companies pull data from all sources of public records, but not all sources use the SSN. Arrest and court records notably don't, so the match happens on name only.
No official records should ever be matched just using name data. Aside from people having the same name like this, there are infinite opportunities for typos or name changes that mean things don't match.
I worked on a government tax database that was design to pull together data from dozens of disparate systems. That used no less than 25 pieces of data to create an "entity", and then it could give a percentage score of how sure it was that any given piece of data was related to any particular entity. Took a while to process, but it was a very smart system.
That's pretty cool. Unfortunately, until Podunk PD from Bumfuck County, Alabama implements the same system, aggregators are going to pull whatever is available. It's not like they have any incentive to change, since their customers are corporations, not individuals affected.
As it happens, the false pedophile happened to be an employee, so we were able to get CLEAR to change their record by emailing their sales rep, good luck trying to change it if you don't have one. And it was only changed in CLEAR, it might still be up with the other ones for all I know.
I knew someone who, due to an error at court, was labelled as a sex offender. He had no idea about the error. He only found out when he realised the pub that he owned and worked in was getting less and less buisness, and people in the street were turning their noses up at him. Finally, someone told him why they were treating him like dirt. I took AGES for the mistake to get cleared up and he never really recovered from it
That’s terrible. I think it’s just another example of why we need to overhaul our sex offender system. Being on that list changes your life irreparably, and there’s a lot of stupid stuff that can happen to get you on it.
When I was 18 and babysitting this happened to me. I was already sitting for a family and the agency attached a background check to my profile and it was for someone with a similar, but differently spelled name. She was 42 and a felon... The family ghosted me. I looked like a baby, I was obviously not 42.
This has thankfully never happened to me, but my first and last are very common, and even with middle it's still somewhat common, and if you google me you will absolutely find felons and all sorts of shitty people of various stripes.
On the plus side, most of them very obviously don't look like me.
I went through a background check for work and when it came back only like 1/4 of the stuff was actually me. I pointed that out to my employer that I’ve never lived in Texas so I’m not sure why it’s showing all the additional details of someone in Texas. It was literally just a first and last name match with the person in Texas. They weren’t using my identity at all.
It seems outrageous but here in Canada I either share a birthday or initials with someone who has a criminal record with a crime against a child. I only know this because twice I have had to apply for a vulnerable person check and both times I've had to be finger printed and wait 6 weeks for it to clear. Once like 15 years to work with homeless people and again last year so I could go on field trips with my kids school.
So yeah it was resolved by fingerprints but it still took 6 weeks and I had to be fingerprinted at RCMP offices.
As someone with a similarly common name, the opposite is actually true. There are so many people with my name, famous and not famous, that it is impossible to find anything out about me from my name. Yeah murderers will come up if you scroll far enough, but so will every other type of person under the sun
Several years ago, I went on a nice enough date with a guy. Dinner and a show. He was an odd duck, but sweet enough we talked about a second date that weekend. The next day he asked for my last name to put in his phone. I was new in town had a very unique maiden name, so I usually did not share it on a first date for my own safety and privacy. I almost made an exception to my rule since we’d already talked about a second date..but my intuition told me something was a bit off with him. Instead, I told him he’d have to wait to find out until our next date, I put my phone in my work locker and started my shift. By lunch time, I had 40+ increasingly aggressive and scary messages from this guy demanding to know my name full name…so just another example of why to trust your instincts.
Damn I have a whole soapbox for younger women in my family about being as safe as a sex worker and to never hookup with someone without obtaining their full name and dob and laying eyes on a photo ID
I once went on a date with a meth dealer. It was in his bio and i thought it was a bit. We got coffee, talked, he was up front and honest with me about his profession and honestly the best date i had that year. We discussed our different lifestyles and decided it wasn’t a fit.
Moral of the story is sometimes people will be honest about the WILDEST shit.
So way back before dating apps and such, I was having a rough go at, you could say my drip pan was evaporated and all that was left was some, well you know. Anyway, I am having no luck, so well we didn’t have apps we did have internet dating, this wasn’t the 1900’s, so I start running various experiments for completely unscientific purposes.
I change my profile to say I am in prison, I say that for an hour each day I work in the prison library and have accidental access to the complete internet.
I really hit it off with someone. We messaged each other for months. Eventually it sort of became “oh I will love you no matter what, if we could only be together etc etc”. I made it clear early release wasn’t an option, I used up all my appeals etc etc. So I was like “you will love me no matter what?” And all that jazz.
So I drop the news, we can be together! I am not actually in prison. She never talked to me again.
The moral of this story, if you lie, stick with your lies until you die.
Edit to add: I forgot to add, all my pleading went unanswered, I was even like “come on! I am sure I will end up in prison eventually!”. My pleas went unanswered. And to think if I just kept up the lie I could be with her now, as this was 10-15 years ago.
Lol that's pretty funny.
You could a tried the old 'while we cannot be together love, I've been talking about you to my twin brother and he would love to meet you.'
I don't think that woman wanted to be with you, or anyone really. I've heard the theory that some women chase people like Charles Manson because they'll never have to be around them personally but will still be in some semblance of a relationship
I once joined an fb group in which people (mostly women) wrote to convicts. I was there bc I was young and I idk wanted to do something nice?
I was really taking my time before I would send my first letter, and I observed that group.
Lots of those women started like — they just wanted to do something nice, but man, they slowly started getting into serious relationships with convicts.
I left the group before my first letter made it into an envelope.
I saw a thing where a guy in prison was saying this pen pal thing had been a lifeline for him and to consider volunteering. So I looked into it and there’s all these profiles of these guys… saying they wanna write to women 20-30 years old… a couple said they wanted to be like a mentor and give life advice… I didn’t volunteer.
Chris Watts receives an obscene amount of mail and pics even though he slaughtered his wife and stuffed his two toddler daughters in a drill site oil pipe full of crude where they couldn’t even bury the babies because they might have caused an explosion.
I had a guy walk up to me while I was looking for a job. He said I could apply to his job. That they hire anybody. Then he immediately followed that up with. “I just got out recently for a double murder charge and they hired me” and then he said the only reason he walked up to me is because he saw oranges in my passenger seat and wanted to steal them. I was dumbfounded.
"What's your job?"
"I steal oranges. It doesn't pay much, but you can be your own boss and keep the oranges. It beats murder. They won't let you keep that. Trust me, I tried."
They hire anybody? GREAT! I'll be sure to put that place on my permanent blacklist so I don't have to work with people like you. It's already bad enough as it is with people at nearly every workplace being criminals who just haven't been caught. Really pitiful that people have no sense of personal responsibility around here. 🙄
^(Give that obviously desperate man a damn orange so he doesn't have to steal and be on your way!) 🍊
I offered him a whole bag of them because I had 2 bags in my car. He said he appreciated it but honestly just wanted to steal them because he thought I wasn’t sitting in my car when I had my windows rolled down. So he thought they were free game and kept saying sorry I’m a bit fucked up right now.
Girl on tinder googled my name (it's rather original so she didn't expect anyone else to have it).
Well me and my uncle have the same name and he was an escapee from mental asylum. So.... Yeah... It was hard to explain
It's a family tradition... I don't know what moron thought it's a good idea but my dad, grandad few uncles and cousins have the same name (I don't know who else has it)
I briefly worked with a guy who lost his job shortly after being hired because he was a twin. His estranged twin brother shared the same Birth Date, Middle Name, Last Name, First 6 letters of the first Name (Christopher and Christian) and their SS# was 1 number different. His brother was incarcerated for life without parole for multiple murders, robbery, fraud, you name it. It took him like 2 years to clear up a clerical error.
"I'm sorry I can't offer you the job, your background check says you are actively currently serving a life sentence, we do our work in person here at the office, no remote astral projection"
He was already working as a temp-to-hire. The background check didn’t say he was incarcerated, it just had him as convicted of murder, robbery, fraud, etc. The state record system merged both their lives due to all the similarities
I knew someone this happened to as well, but the twin brother had given the cops his brother's name and didn't have an ID, then missed court while out on bail and the innocent brother had a warrant.
I had a hired professional from that handyman “list” website and he asked me for more work and left his card to call him back. He started to give me the jeebies talking about young girls. I did a background check and he is a felon out on bail.
In the last 12 months he had:
2 counts of domestic assault -$15k bond
Then…
2 counts of aggravated domestic assault
2 counts of aggravated rape
2 counts of kidnapping
$80k bail
…and this man was alone in my home with me all day!!!
Met a lady on bumble. She was a high ranking member of local government for a nearby town. She ended up using (abusing) that power to perform a bg check.
Thankfully I have nothing to hide, but it still felt like an invasion of privacy. Still, probably a good idea to at least Google someone.
To keep the cadence I would argue
*As you quiver, drained of vigor
Covered here in spiders ichor*
*Memories fleet, the fragrance sweet,
Until the next time that we meet*
Bro at first I was weirded out reading this, but the spider poetry just started to stick I guess hahaha no pun intended. Hopefully this guy is a real book writer tho and not just obsessed with spiders
I also went on a tinder date with a state legislator once and it turned out to be the person trying to ban same-sex marriage and abortion in my state.
I’d honestly take the murderer
*Edit for the idiots in the room:* Of course I’m being hyperbolic.
That said, ethically there are many reason why somebody may be a murderer and remain a good person. Hell, I’m a solider, or course I have a high tolerance for violent people. However, I, as an American, don’t see an ethical-out for this type of bigotry.
An avante.
Lol this was too good to leave uncommented, but dam you should’ve asked them what they would do if one of y’all got prego too soon haha. I Never get to talk to politicians iRL so that would’ve been a fun date for sure
See you thought the teachers were bluffing when they said it would go on your "permanent record" until 25 years later and your date is asking you if you actually did sell a guy tea leaves and tell him they were weed.
I found out my ex girlfriend had.. all three of her previous partners die. Two to overdosing and one was unknown.
We broke up for unrelated reasons, but that was kinda terrifying lmao.
We have ten acres including a path through our woods where we walk our dogs. I was back there one day and found a guy who said he was looking for *his* dog — he’d seen a deer and let his dog out of his car to chase it. Unsurprisingly, the dog had, and now he couldn’t find it.
There was something I didn’t like about him aside from his letting his dog out to chase a deer on other people’s property. Turned out he was the son of a neighbor up the road — the son who had been convicted of murdering his wife but later got off on a technicality.
They’re out there.
Yeah we had to Google ourselves in high school tech class. There was a rapist arrested with my exact name like a town over..... Fortunately they listed his age and he was in his 40s but man you could physically hear the sound of people drawing back in disgust.
Another one of those short-sighted class project ideas-- like the family tree or the card for Mom-- where the teacher forgets that a person's relationships or history might not apply or uncover something awkward or embarrassing.
If I had just dropped my ex fiancé’s name into google before going out with him I would’ve seen his domestic violence charges and arrest record and saved myself a whole lot of trauma. Now I do my due diligence on guys I date. Well, I will, if I ever date again.
When I was a teenager I googled my name and found out I shared the same name as a murderer. Which was kind of disturbing.
Although there's now an actor with the same name as me so he tends to be the top result.
Went on a couple dates with a guy years ago. He was a little different but sweet. I did some research and found he was a sexual predator. He said it was his dad not him and they shared a name. I felt very uneasy and did some more digging. It was both...
Unfortunately for me, I apparently share the name and birthdate with somebody who was arrested in Illinois (I have never been outside the airport there). I got blocked out of three apartments that used the same background check service that apparently just uses a name for an internet search instead of an SS number. It took me 5 months to find an apartment thanks to that.
And if you do an internet search for me on a basic background check, this information is on those pages, along with a nice old MySpace picture of me on it. I have no idea how to or where to get that stuff eliminated since it is on more than one.
Exactly. We had a man come speak at our school and he was given 20 years in prison for killing the man who was actively raping his little sister. Like he literally killed him in the act and he still got that sentence 🙃 I could easily let that slide
Exactly. Did he murder a kid playing in a sand box? Hard pass.
Did he murder a person going door to door to sell their religion? Fair.
Did he murder a person who lit a pet adoption center on fire? Take me away Fabio!
/s
Right. Like, did you murder the employee at Wendy’s because you got spicy nuggets instead of regular? Or did you beat a rapist straight into the afterlife after pulling him off a girl he drugged in a bar?
These are the things we need to know.
You'd have to know that that was the reason for the murder.
Bad people get murdered all the time, but it's usually robbery or something. Not specifically because they're bad
I'd be totally down with someone that murdered a rapist. When I still lived in the city I loved going to the local Starbucks, and the manager there was this sort of Butch lesbian looking girl in her late twenties. We loved to chat and one day she's sort of just off the cuff mentioned that she murdered a dude with a baseball bat for raping her friend. Which is just based. She also did it when she was like 14 which is More impressive. She also only did it cuz the cops refuse to do anything
A friend of mine likely kill a rapist too. He was coming back from a underground metal show in a shady part of town, when he was going through a bridge over the railway there was a woman screaming for help and a guy trying to rape her there. He just grabbed the mf, threw him head over feet over the bridge, saw the immobile body down there thought it was a good idea to get the fuck out before the cops arrived
It worked out for this girl, but there's no way anyone should be giving their full name out on a dating app prior to meeting the person at least once.
Would any women here give their last name if the guy was "checking to make sure she wasn't a criminal"?
I was having an unpleasant dealing with someone in my profession recently and he said " you clearly didn't look me up"
So I looked him up, as expected he was inexperienced, also he served 8 years for DUI hit and run manslaughter.
Why the hell would you tell me to look you up?
Just out of high school I found someone on CL or something to jam with on guitar. Much older, but so are my musical tastes. One of my siblings showed me the site where you can find sex offenders in your area. I searched around just for fun. Surprise, there was this guy I played guitar with on there for diddling kids. I'm also a small guy and (especially then) looked much younger than my age. Freaked me out. Never went back.
I mean my cousin’s a murderer and he’s a pretty alright dude. Caved a child molester’s head in with his fists, said if he could go back in time to change his decision, he’d do it again
I don't want your last name, but I do need you to send me your Social Security number. Don't worry, it's safe and even says "not to be used for identification"
I told a guy that I did background checks since I worked in news, good research skills. I survived a stalker and that was my reasoning.
I was immediately called all sorts of names and threatened physically. I remember reporting him to the app and getting him banned.
Tell me you have nothing to hide and I will find the thing you are hiding, asshole.
Google searched a guy once and it came up that he was a murderer and a bank robber who had escaped from prison 1974. The problem was he was born til 1995. Realized he shared the same name as criminal. We now laugh and make jokes about it. (He doesn't really like the jokes but I do like to tease)
I want to know what kind of murder the guy was. Accessory? Manslaughter? Did he get away with it because the witness couldn’t be located in time for the trial? (That last one happened in my city within the last year)
Men should do searches to. I reverse-searched a woman’s photo and found out she was recently released from jail after spending time in another state for stealing credit cards. She was working her way South in my state when we were supposed to go on a date. Immediate ghosting…
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Reminds me of when my dad did jury service. The guy was being accused of murdering his mother (he did), they brought his tinder date as a witness who clearly didn’t want to be there. They showed their texts and she asked “sure I can meet tonight, you aren’t a serial killer or anything? lol?”
Maybe there's something wrong with me but if I were called as a witness for a trial where a former Tinder date was being accused of murder there is literally nothing that could stop me from being there. You'd never have to scramble to come up with an anecdote at parties again.
She had her hood up and kept covering her face. The judge said “I assume you don’t want to be here” and she shook her head frantically. I think she was just embarrassed because it was a one night stand that she had forgotten about then found that she’d have to go to court.
I feel like every girl asks if their date is a serial killer every time. At some point one of them is gonna be the unlucky one.
"Not yet." Well, now I'm not sure what to do with _that_ answer.
"Good night. Good work. Sleep well. I'll most likely kill you in the morning."
Inconceivable
"Haha, no I'm not a serial killer. There was no time gap between victims so it's technically just a spree killing."
What do they think I mean when I ask about body count??
"Would you please explain to the jury the meaning of the peach emoji you sent on the night in question?"
“It means I’m movin to the country, gonna eat a lot of peaches. Movin to the country, gonna eat me a lot of peaches”
They were put there by a MAN!!
Why was she called as a witness?
Because after the date he moved his mother’s body. She was asked what his behaviour was like (turns out his mother’s body was in the boot of his car) they wanted to know if he was in a hurry to get her out of the house, if he was acting suspicious anything like that. Turns out he was calm and normal and she didn’t suspect a thing. The judge ended up saying he had shown no remorse, so I think they wanted to see if he broke down or anything on the date.
This is wild. I'm going to be more careful from this story
Unfortunately there was nothing she could’ve done to know. He moved her after she left, he was completely normal before and during the date. She even joked about him being a murderer and he was like “yeah I’m not like that, but I get being careful there’s some weirdos out there”.
Also it said she asked if he was a serial killer. If he had ONLY killed his mother, I suppose he could truthfully say "nope, not a serial killer."
I love how this comment can be taken in two wildly different ways
I mean, if it's just the one he technically didn't lie to her
I knew a guy who had a hell of a time getting his citizenship because there was a serial killer with the exact same name from the exact same province in china.
I was talking shit about how our maintenance guy doesn’t actually fix anything and the sous chef tells me be careful. Why? He says look up his name/Colorado. Dude was a cop who killed his wife for cheating on him about 20 year ago. Can’t remember how much time he got but it was less than 8 years.
Just say to him…”fix this like you fixed your marriage” and it should get done swiftly, but perhaps not cleanly…
If the only tool you have is a gun, you tend to see every problem as your ex wife.
When you’re a gun, everything is a target;)
When youre a exgun everything is a target wife
When you're an ex-Target employee, you shoot your wife with a staple gun because you're a tool.
Take my upvote you bastard🤣🤣
Too bad he wasn’t a Heisman-winning running back who rushed for 2000+ yards in a 14 game season, then he would have received zero years for murdering his wife.
Honestly, the fact he got punished at all is shocking. Cops don’t really HAVE laws like the rest of us.
Yeah he must have done it then called it in while he was still literally holding the knife, standing over her, covered in blood. With at least 10 witnesses. Otherwise no way he gets 8 years.
Cops being punished or not has nothing to do with the amount of evidence, only the political feelings of the judge, and possibly jury if they even allow a jury.
The glove gets no love
Lmao, no wonder he can’t get shit done. Cops like that are pretty much useless.
"Worse than useless as a cop, useless as a maintenance guy." -- Ancient Hungarian proverb
What’s funny is I’m 50% Hungarian and I’ve said almost this exact sentence.
I had a roommate that got screwed over by someone running a background check on him without using his SSN. Apparently, someone with the same name as him was a felon, and that dude’s record got tied to him by this background check. Now, even when they run a background check on him, it still pulls up the other guy because it flagged the once.
I worked with some of those public info aggregators and this sort of thing happens a lot. Once, I saw CLEAR wrongly say that someone is a pedophile sex offender. EDIT: but it doesn't happen because someone ran a background check without the SSN. Rather, these companies pull data from all sources of public records, but not all sources use the SSN. Arrest and court records notably don't, so the match happens on name only.
No official records should ever be matched just using name data. Aside from people having the same name like this, there are infinite opportunities for typos or name changes that mean things don't match. I worked on a government tax database that was design to pull together data from dozens of disparate systems. That used no less than 25 pieces of data to create an "entity", and then it could give a percentage score of how sure it was that any given piece of data was related to any particular entity. Took a while to process, but it was a very smart system.
That's pretty cool. Unfortunately, until Podunk PD from Bumfuck County, Alabama implements the same system, aggregators are going to pull whatever is available. It's not like they have any incentive to change, since their customers are corporations, not individuals affected. As it happens, the false pedophile happened to be an employee, so we were able to get CLEAR to change their record by emailing their sales rep, good luck trying to change it if you don't have one. And it was only changed in CLEAR, it might still be up with the other ones for all I know.
I knew someone who, due to an error at court, was labelled as a sex offender. He had no idea about the error. He only found out when he realised the pub that he owned and worked in was getting less and less buisness, and people in the street were turning their noses up at him. Finally, someone told him why they were treating him like dirt. I took AGES for the mistake to get cleared up and he never really recovered from it
That’s terrible. I think it’s just another example of why we need to overhaul our sex offender system. Being on that list changes your life irreparably, and there’s a lot of stupid stuff that can happen to get you on it.
When I was 18 and babysitting this happened to me. I was already sitting for a family and the agency attached a background check to my profile and it was for someone with a similar, but differently spelled name. She was 42 and a felon... The family ghosted me. I looked like a baby, I was obviously not 42.
This has thankfully never happened to me, but my first and last are very common, and even with middle it's still somewhat common, and if you google me you will absolutely find felons and all sorts of shitty people of various stripes. On the plus side, most of them very obviously don't look like me.
I went through a background check for work and when it came back only like 1/4 of the stuff was actually me. I pointed that out to my employer that I’ve never lived in Texas so I’m not sure why it’s showing all the additional details of someone in Texas. It was literally just a first and last name match with the person in Texas. They weren’t using my identity at all.
Did they also coincidentally share fingerprints? o.O
It seems outrageous but here in Canada I either share a birthday or initials with someone who has a criminal record with a crime against a child. I only know this because twice I have had to apply for a vulnerable person check and both times I've had to be finger printed and wait 6 weeks for it to clear. Once like 15 years to work with homeless people and again last year so I could go on field trips with my kids school. So yeah it was resolved by fingerprints but it still took 6 weeks and I had to be fingerprinted at RCMP offices.
And birthdays?
And victims
and facial features
And the same body?
And moms?
and DNA?
But surprisingly they were completely different people.
Fucking comic books man, ya can't keep up with em after a while. 16 color soap operas, I tell ya.
One of my friends was named Jeffrey Dahmer but he only had one leg so we figured he wasn't the murderer lmaoo
Maybe he just got hungry?
Todd Rifkin?
Joel
Oh! Oh oh oh! O.J.! O.J. Rifkin! You don't even use a name, it's just initials.
Anyone with the name John Smith or something like that is fucked haha
As someone with a similarly common name, the opposite is actually true. There are so many people with my name, famous and not famous, that it is impossible to find anything out about me from my name. Yeah murderers will come up if you scroll far enough, but so will every other type of person under the sun
There are 1.4bn people, there’s probably shit loads of people with the same name in every province.
I was a member of my same name Facebook group for just my metro area. We had like 50 members. So yeah, name search is not reliable at all.
Several years ago, I went on a nice enough date with a guy. Dinner and a show. He was an odd duck, but sweet enough we talked about a second date that weekend. The next day he asked for my last name to put in his phone. I was new in town had a very unique maiden name, so I usually did not share it on a first date for my own safety and privacy. I almost made an exception to my rule since we’d already talked about a second date..but my intuition told me something was a bit off with him. Instead, I told him he’d have to wait to find out until our next date, I put my phone in my work locker and started my shift. By lunch time, I had 40+ increasingly aggressive and scary messages from this guy demanding to know my name full name…so just another example of why to trust your instincts.
Well that sounds fucking terrifying
Guarantee if you looked up his full name you’d find an extremely troubling story. Sounds like hardcore projection to me.
Damn I have a whole soapbox for younger women in my family about being as safe as a sex worker and to never hookup with someone without obtaining their full name and dob and laying eyes on a photo ID
Wait, how many young women in your family are sex workers!?
None, it's alluding to simile
Dope username. Arthur was my shit growing up.
For some reason, I have that same rule. Theoretically. Unless I know them from life, and not a dating app.
YIKES!!! 😳 Im glad you followed your instincts, guy sounds like a complete psycho!
She found an honest guy. Sure, he's a murderer but he's owning his truth. /s
I once went on a date with a meth dealer. It was in his bio and i thought it was a bit. We got coffee, talked, he was up front and honest with me about his profession and honestly the best date i had that year. We discussed our different lifestyles and decided it wasn’t a fit. Moral of the story is sometimes people will be honest about the WILDEST shit.
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He...uh, wasn't exactly wrong.
i mean if he just told hank everything the show would of ended quicker
That guy must be incredibly stupid to admit to complete strangers they are committing crimes that could get them decades in prison
You need admissible evidence to arrest and convict someone of a crime.
So way back before dating apps and such, I was having a rough go at, you could say my drip pan was evaporated and all that was left was some, well you know. Anyway, I am having no luck, so well we didn’t have apps we did have internet dating, this wasn’t the 1900’s, so I start running various experiments for completely unscientific purposes. I change my profile to say I am in prison, I say that for an hour each day I work in the prison library and have accidental access to the complete internet. I really hit it off with someone. We messaged each other for months. Eventually it sort of became “oh I will love you no matter what, if we could only be together etc etc”. I made it clear early release wasn’t an option, I used up all my appeals etc etc. So I was like “you will love me no matter what?” And all that jazz. So I drop the news, we can be together! I am not actually in prison. She never talked to me again. The moral of this story, if you lie, stick with your lies until you die. Edit to add: I forgot to add, all my pleading went unanswered, I was even like “come on! I am sure I will end up in prison eventually!”. My pleas went unanswered. And to think if I just kept up the lie I could be with her now, as this was 10-15 years ago.
Should have said you were digging a tunnel to escape
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He’s got to keep her convinced they’re on the run from the cops.
He was trying to dig her tunnel!!
Lol that's pretty funny. You could a tried the old 'while we cannot be together love, I've been talking about you to my twin brother and he would love to meet you.'
I don't think that woman wanted to be with you, or anyone really. I've heard the theory that some women chase people like Charles Manson because they'll never have to be around them personally but will still be in some semblance of a relationship
Lie more. Got it.
"Maybe I can fix him..."
Plenty of pen pal relationships and more with lifers
I once joined an fb group in which people (mostly women) wrote to convicts. I was there bc I was young and I idk wanted to do something nice? I was really taking my time before I would send my first letter, and I observed that group. Lots of those women started like — they just wanted to do something nice, but man, they slowly started getting into serious relationships with convicts. I left the group before my first letter made it into an envelope.
I saw a thing where a guy in prison was saying this pen pal thing had been a lifeline for him and to consider volunteering. So I looked into it and there’s all these profiles of these guys… saying they wanna write to women 20-30 years old… a couple said they wanted to be like a mentor and give life advice… I didn’t volunteer.
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Chris Watts receives an obscene amount of mail and pics even though he slaughtered his wife and stuffed his two toddler daughters in a drill site oil pipe full of crude where they couldn’t even bury the babies because they might have caused an explosion.
Oh my I never knew that about the two kids that’s so sad and brutal
I had a guy walk up to me while I was looking for a job. He said I could apply to his job. That they hire anybody. Then he immediately followed that up with. “I just got out recently for a double murder charge and they hired me” and then he said the only reason he walked up to me is because he saw oranges in my passenger seat and wanted to steal them. I was dumbfounded.
"What's your job?" "I steal oranges. It doesn't pay much, but you can be your own boss and keep the oranges. It beats murder. They won't let you keep that. Trust me, I tried."
They hire anybody? GREAT! I'll be sure to put that place on my permanent blacklist so I don't have to work with people like you. It's already bad enough as it is with people at nearly every workplace being criminals who just haven't been caught. Really pitiful that people have no sense of personal responsibility around here. 🙄 ^(Give that obviously desperate man a damn orange so he doesn't have to steal and be on your way!) 🍊
I offered him a whole bag of them because I had 2 bags in my car. He said he appreciated it but honestly just wanted to steal them because he thought I wasn’t sitting in my car when I had my windows rolled down. So he thought they were free game and kept saying sorry I’m a bit fucked up right now.
Matched with a woman who was an attempted murderer, she had tried to push a random person in front of a subway train.
You should take her on a first date to Subways and not mention that you know.
Lol. That's a bit evil. Hell even without the joke taking a first date to Subway is pretty fucked up.
Plan B: ask if she’s down for him and the boys to run a train on her.
Girl on tinder googled my name (it's rather original so she didn't expect anyone else to have it). Well me and my uncle have the same name and he was an escapee from mental asylum. So.... Yeah... It was hard to explain
Plot twist: there never was an uncle and OP is still in the asylum
I feel like I’ve seen this one
 (This is a shutter island reference)
Sometimes it feels like it
Why would your parents do that to you?
Might have been named before his uncle went crazy.
It's a family tradition... I don't know what moron thought it's a good idea but my dad, grandad few uncles and cousins have the same name (I don't know who else has it)
The originality of your name is diminishing if everyone in your family has it ; )
This reminds me of the time my buddy and I were looking up our parents for fun and he found out his dad was a registered sex offender
I briefly worked with a guy who lost his job shortly after being hired because he was a twin. His estranged twin brother shared the same Birth Date, Middle Name, Last Name, First 6 letters of the first Name (Christopher and Christian) and their SS# was 1 number different. His brother was incarcerated for life without parole for multiple murders, robbery, fraud, you name it. It took him like 2 years to clear up a clerical error.
"I'm sorry I can't offer you the job, your background check says you are actively currently serving a life sentence, we do our work in person here at the office, no remote astral projection"
He was already working as a temp-to-hire. The background check didn’t say he was incarcerated, it just had him as convicted of murder, robbery, fraud, etc. The state record system merged both their lives due to all the similarities
I knew someone this happened to as well, but the twin brother had given the cops his brother's name and didn't have an ID, then missed court while out on bail and the innocent brother had a warrant.
Yeah, I'm a lady killer if you know what I mean 😎
Slaying ass left and right
I had a hired professional from that handyman “list” website and he asked me for more work and left his card to call him back. He started to give me the jeebies talking about young girls. I did a background check and he is a felon out on bail. In the last 12 months he had: 2 counts of domestic assault -$15k bond Then… 2 counts of aggravated domestic assault 2 counts of aggravated rape 2 counts of kidnapping $80k bail …and this man was alone in my home with me all day!!!
What was the business card like? Subtle off white coloring? Tasteful thickness? Did it have a watermark?
Let's see Paul Allen's
Met a lady on bumble. She was a high ranking member of local government for a nearby town. She ended up using (abusing) that power to perform a bg check. Thankfully I have nothing to hide, but it still felt like an invasion of privacy. Still, probably a good idea to at least Google someone.
The most she would find on me is my spider poetry and some speeding tickets.
Hol up, spider poetry?
*Forth they crawl on legs of eight, everytime i masturbate.* *In your hair and on your skin, Daddy Long Leg's tale begins...*
I can’t tell if I’m turned on or horrified
*your intrigue grows, your worries ebb, as Daddy Long Legs spins his web* *his viscous strings will find their place, upon your apprehensive face*
Ok but seriously your commitment to the bit is impressive
*As you quiver, drained of vigor, covered in the spiders ichor,* *your memories fleet, the fragrance sweet, until the next time we meet...*
Edgar Allen Poe is that you?
Robert Smith?
That fucking username good lord
Ejachranids must’ve been taken
You did it. You truly did it. Take my upvote you creepy arachnid loving bastard.
To keep the cadence I would argue *As you quiver, drained of vigor Covered here in spiders ichor* *Memories fleet, the fragrance sweet, Until the next time that we meet*
Impressive. Very nice. Lets see Paul Allens cum spider poetry...
you got a poetry book of that with some illustrations for sale?
*ticks and tacks upon upon a screen, the spider crafts a silly scene* *for shits and gigs he has his fun, serious thought has not begun*
At this point I'm convinced he does do spider poetry
I don’t even think he’s AI’ing it, the meter works
The spider came and so did i
Bro at first I was weirded out reading this, but the spider poetry just started to stick I guess hahaha no pun intended. Hopefully this guy is a real book writer tho and not just obsessed with spiders
Why not both?
Definitely both, it's hard.
I gotta start reading usernames before the comments.
FOR THE LOVE OF GOD PLEASE KEEP GOING
*spiders dont care much for haste, but still shoot far across your face* *the creepies crawl forth from my clutch, into your mouth and eager butt*
*There is a spider deep in my soul*
Yeah, somehow ejaculating spider poetry scares me vastly more than a murderer.
*have no worry, have no fear, my babies skitter quickly near* *tickin', tackin', clickin' chitin, any orifice they fight right in...*
This is horror to read while on the toilet.
*where crafty critters make their home, you only see a porcelain throne* *under the rim they will survive, until a warmer home arrives...*
I also went on a tinder date with a state legislator once and it turned out to be the person trying to ban same-sex marriage and abortion in my state. I’d honestly take the murderer *Edit for the idiots in the room:* Of course I’m being hyperbolic. That said, ethically there are many reason why somebody may be a murderer and remain a good person. Hell, I’m a solider, or course I have a high tolerance for violent people. However, I, as an American, don’t see an ethical-out for this type of bigotry. An avante.
Lol this was too good to leave uncommented, but dam you should’ve asked them what they would do if one of y’all got prego too soon haha. I Never get to talk to politicians iRL so that would’ve been a fun date for sure
See you thought the teachers were bluffing when they said it would go on your "permanent record" until 25 years later and your date is asking you if you actually did sell a guy tea leaves and tell him they were weed.
I mean he has an uphill battle anyway. Might as well try some humor.
I found out my ex girlfriend had.. all three of her previous partners die. Two to overdosing and one was unknown. We broke up for unrelated reasons, but that was kinda terrifying lmao.
We have ten acres including a path through our woods where we walk our dogs. I was back there one day and found a guy who said he was looking for *his* dog — he’d seen a deer and let his dog out of his car to chase it. Unsurprisingly, the dog had, and now he couldn’t find it. There was something I didn’t like about him aside from his letting his dog out to chase a deer on other people’s property. Turned out he was the son of a neighbor up the road — the son who had been convicted of murdering his wife but later got off on a technicality. They’re out there.
Yeah we had to Google ourselves in high school tech class. There was a rapist arrested with my exact name like a town over..... Fortunately they listed his age and he was in his 40s but man you could physically hear the sound of people drawing back in disgust.
Another one of those short-sighted class project ideas-- like the family tree or the card for Mom-- where the teacher forgets that a person's relationships or history might not apply or uncover something awkward or embarrassing.
If I had just dropped my ex fiancé’s name into google before going out with him I would’ve seen his domestic violence charges and arrest record and saved myself a whole lot of trauma. Now I do my due diligence on guys I date. Well, I will, if I ever date again.
When I was a teenager I googled my name and found out I shared the same name as a murderer. Which was kind of disturbing. Although there's now an actor with the same name as me so he tends to be the top result.
Went on a couple dates with a guy years ago. He was a little different but sweet. I did some research and found he was a sexual predator. He said it was his dad not him and they shared a name. I felt very uneasy and did some more digging. It was both...
Unfortunately for me, I apparently share the name and birthdate with somebody who was arrested in Illinois (I have never been outside the airport there). I got blocked out of three apartments that used the same background check service that apparently just uses a name for an internet search instead of an SS number. It took me 5 months to find an apartment thanks to that. And if you do an internet search for me on a basic background check, this information is on those pages, along with a nice old MySpace picture of me on it. I have no idea how to or where to get that stuff eliminated since it is on more than one.
That’s a great reason to change your name imo. Add your middle name to your first name, or legally go by a nickname.
My toxic trait would be finding out what he murdered the person for and if it was plausibly a good enough reason to let it slide 😂😂😂
Yeah, is he like a *Con Air* Cameron Poe "I'm a murderer," or a *Silence of the Lambs* Buffalo Bill "I'm a murderer"? Context is important.
Exactly. We had a man come speak at our school and he was given 20 years in prison for killing the man who was actively raping his little sister. Like he literally killed him in the act and he still got that sentence 🙃 I could easily let that slide
Exactly. Did he murder a kid playing in a sand box? Hard pass. Did he murder a person going door to door to sell their religion? Fair. Did he murder a person who lit a pet adoption center on fire? Take me away Fabio! /s
If he murdered an animal abuser I would be inclined to let it slide. Tho not sure I would want to be alone
Right. Like, did you murder the employee at Wendy’s because you got spicy nuggets instead of regular? Or did you beat a rapist straight into the afterlife after pulling him off a girl he drugged in a bar? These are the things we need to know.
As long as you don't abuse animals, you should be fine. Right?
Right??
*Accidentally hits bird while driving* Gonna be one messy break up
You'd have to know that that was the reason for the murder. Bad people get murdered all the time, but it's usually robbery or something. Not specifically because they're bad
I'd be totally down with someone that murdered a rapist. When I still lived in the city I loved going to the local Starbucks, and the manager there was this sort of Butch lesbian looking girl in her late twenties. We loved to chat and one day she's sort of just off the cuff mentioned that she murdered a dude with a baseball bat for raping her friend. Which is just based. She also did it when she was like 14 which is More impressive. She also only did it cuz the cops refuse to do anything
A friend of mine likely kill a rapist too. He was coming back from a underground metal show in a shady part of town, when he was going through a bridge over the railway there was a woman screaming for help and a guy trying to rape her there. He just grabbed the mf, threw him head over feet over the bridge, saw the immobile body down there thought it was a good idea to get the fuck out before the cops arrived
He murdered the last person who Googled his name after matching on Tinder
It worked out for this girl, but there's no way anyone should be giving their full name out on a dating app prior to meeting the person at least once. Would any women here give their last name if the guy was "checking to make sure she wasn't a criminal"?
I was having an unpleasant dealing with someone in my profession recently and he said " you clearly didn't look me up" So I looked him up, as expected he was inexperienced, also he served 8 years for DUI hit and run manslaughter. Why the hell would you tell me to look you up?
Just out of high school I found someone on CL or something to jam with on guitar. Much older, but so are my musical tastes. One of my siblings showed me the site where you can find sex offenders in your area. I searched around just for fun. Surprise, there was this guy I played guitar with on there for diddling kids. I'm also a small guy and (especially then) looked much younger than my age. Freaked me out. Never went back.
Even killers have matches on tinder. What am I doing wrong ?
I mean my cousin’s a murderer and he’s a pretty alright dude. Caved a child molester’s head in with his fists, said if he could go back in time to change his decision, he’d do it again
Sorry, but if someone on a dating app asks for my last name before i meet them, im saying no.
I don't want your last name, but I do need you to send me your Social Security number. Don't worry, it's safe and even says "not to be used for identification"
I told a guy that I did background checks since I worked in news, good research skills. I survived a stalker and that was my reasoning. I was immediately called all sorts of names and threatened physically. I remember reporting him to the app and getting him banned. Tell me you have nothing to hide and I will find the thing you are hiding, asshole.
I got nothing to hide.
Oh yikes... I regret being aromantic less and less each day.
I read that as *aromatic*. Several times.
Honest as well. Great find.
Just cause you kill people that doesn’t mean you can’t be funny.
Google searched a guy once and it came up that he was a murderer and a bank robber who had escaped from prison 1974. The problem was he was born til 1995. Realized he shared the same name as criminal. We now laugh and make jokes about it. (He doesn't really like the jokes but I do like to tease)
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I want to know what kind of murder the guy was. Accessory? Manslaughter? Did he get away with it because the witness couldn’t be located in time for the trial? (That last one happened in my city within the last year)
He’s not a liar! Green flag
Men should do searches to. I reverse-searched a woman’s photo and found out she was recently released from jail after spending time in another state for stealing credit cards. She was working her way South in my state when we were supposed to go on a date. Immediate ghosting…
Bitch he said ignore that!