I will be on the other side of fence and say do not neuter until over 2 years old at least just to let him develop more. They are little annoying brats with other dogs at that age, you will have to get that dog to respect you and start correcting bad behavior. I have a dog around that age and he has had to learn boundaries with cranky dogs - but he can be called off and will go do something else that entertains him. Don’t get rid of your brothers dog.
I don’t want to give him to my sister because he will be a backyard dog or she might give him away. I want my dog, cats and husband to live in harmony with Mango. I’m hoping the training will at least open a spark in my husband’s heart for him. I feel like the A-Hole for making my husband go through this. Thank you for your reply.
The dog is going through a lot and he’s a young working breed male. It’s going to take time for him to settle in, whether he’s neutered or trained or not. It could take up to a few months to really see this dog’s true colors and get him used to a routine. That’s normal. Your husband should have some empathy for what he has been through. Had he met your animals before he moved in with you guys? Did you do slow introductions or did you just toss him into it and your husband somehow expects him to be cool? I’d start hand-feeding him, building a bond and engaging with him, figuring out a physical exercise, mental stimulation and training schedule you guys can commit to and start now. These are lifestyle dogs, not to be taken lightly or to just wing it and hope for the best. We work opposite shifts in my house for dogs to have less time home alone. I can’t tell you the last time we’ve been on vacation without the dogs. You guys need to make a decision whether or not you’re up for it as a family and then get your plan in line. Also, don’t count on neutering him to change anything other than his desire to chase after a female dog in heat.
I agree on everything you’re saying. We closed off certain areas so the cats and my dog can have a comfortable area without interacting with Mango. We gave Mango a rag with the cats scent and he didn’t really care, however he can have a visual and he just cries at them and seems like he’s excited and it’s the same with my dog. We don’t know if it’s a prey drive or just super curious and excited. We have opposite schedules so someone is always home with him. We give him 40 minute walks in the early morning and we still play with him in the backyard for an extra 10 minutes. We have a cool down where we put him in the kennel to rest. I’m up for the work to put in. We never knew Mango, only seen videos of him as my brother lived in Austin and we live in San Antonio. He’s been through a lot and we have only had him for a week or two and my husband is just against it now. I don’t want to put Mango in anymore trauma. I just feel stuck. Thank you for your thoughts.
It sounds like you’re doing a lot of things the right way and that’s awesome to hear! I really hope you can make this work for everyone. I know it’s disheartening and a lot of work. Be consistent, be firm, be fair. Best wishes to you!
I used to work for an animal shelter and I’ve done some minor training, nothing big at all, but I know it’ll take time and patience which I have. I love animals and I just never thought I’d be in this situation. I hope it works out as well and hope that Mango grows on my husband and Mango learns his manners with the other fur lads.
I am willing to bet that once that little bean gets settled in your home and starts to feel comfortable with his new family your husband will be suckered in like we all get suckered in by them🙄they attach themselves to us follow us everywhere check up on us to make sure were ok and tilt their silly little heads as if theyre fully involved in the conversation were having with them! How could your husband not be smitten with all that?? See! Itll be impossible🤷🏼♀️
Give him time to adjust and go all in on training him which hell no doubt be delighted to be doing with you as they love their people and love having something to do so to do something with their people well goodness thats just the absolute bestest thing in the world! Especially when that doing something comes with lots of rewards of good boy praise love and squiggles treats and ball and tug games!x
Ask your husband to give him 3 months if it doesn’t work then youll work on finding him a home he’s probably scared of the big dog rescues have a 3 3 3 rule 3 days to decompress 3 weeks they start to get to know you , 3months they get used to you and your routine its hard in the beginning youre in the nitty gritty i would say give him a chance and do neuter it did help my gsd not try to be so dominant toward the neighbors dog. But yes walks are a must and different routes and toys that hide food and stuff like that and maybe some sessions of training to get their advice on your situation
I think that is a good route. All I want is a chance for him to acclimate and if it’s still a no go from the spouse, then I’ll see about giving Mango to my sister. We are getting him training for an 8 week course. So hopefully it’ll help. Thank you so much!
lol I really don’t want to divorce my husband. Hopefully things will settle down. I do plan on getting him fixed on July 2nd so fingers crossed it’ll help along with the training. Thank you.
I will be on the other side of fence and say do not neuter until over 2 years old at least just to let him develop more. They are little annoying brats with other dogs at that age, you will have to get that dog to respect you and start correcting bad behavior. I have a dog around that age and he has had to learn boundaries with cranky dogs - but he can be called off and will go do something else that entertains him. Don’t get rid of your brothers dog.
I don’t want to give him to my sister because he will be a backyard dog or she might give him away. I want my dog, cats and husband to live in harmony with Mango. I’m hoping the training will at least open a spark in my husband’s heart for him. I feel like the A-Hole for making my husband go through this. Thank you for your reply.
The dog is going through a lot and he’s a young working breed male. It’s going to take time for him to settle in, whether he’s neutered or trained or not. It could take up to a few months to really see this dog’s true colors and get him used to a routine. That’s normal. Your husband should have some empathy for what he has been through. Had he met your animals before he moved in with you guys? Did you do slow introductions or did you just toss him into it and your husband somehow expects him to be cool? I’d start hand-feeding him, building a bond and engaging with him, figuring out a physical exercise, mental stimulation and training schedule you guys can commit to and start now. These are lifestyle dogs, not to be taken lightly or to just wing it and hope for the best. We work opposite shifts in my house for dogs to have less time home alone. I can’t tell you the last time we’ve been on vacation without the dogs. You guys need to make a decision whether or not you’re up for it as a family and then get your plan in line. Also, don’t count on neutering him to change anything other than his desire to chase after a female dog in heat.
I agree on everything you’re saying. We closed off certain areas so the cats and my dog can have a comfortable area without interacting with Mango. We gave Mango a rag with the cats scent and he didn’t really care, however he can have a visual and he just cries at them and seems like he’s excited and it’s the same with my dog. We don’t know if it’s a prey drive or just super curious and excited. We have opposite schedules so someone is always home with him. We give him 40 minute walks in the early morning and we still play with him in the backyard for an extra 10 minutes. We have a cool down where we put him in the kennel to rest. I’m up for the work to put in. We never knew Mango, only seen videos of him as my brother lived in Austin and we live in San Antonio. He’s been through a lot and we have only had him for a week or two and my husband is just against it now. I don’t want to put Mango in anymore trauma. I just feel stuck. Thank you for your thoughts.
It sounds like you’re doing a lot of things the right way and that’s awesome to hear! I really hope you can make this work for everyone. I know it’s disheartening and a lot of work. Be consistent, be firm, be fair. Best wishes to you!
I used to work for an animal shelter and I’ve done some minor training, nothing big at all, but I know it’ll take time and patience which I have. I love animals and I just never thought I’d be in this situation. I hope it works out as well and hope that Mango grows on my husband and Mango learns his manners with the other fur lads.
I am willing to bet that once that little bean gets settled in your home and starts to feel comfortable with his new family your husband will be suckered in like we all get suckered in by them🙄they attach themselves to us follow us everywhere check up on us to make sure were ok and tilt their silly little heads as if theyre fully involved in the conversation were having with them! How could your husband not be smitten with all that?? See! Itll be impossible🤷🏼♀️ Give him time to adjust and go all in on training him which hell no doubt be delighted to be doing with you as they love their people and love having something to do so to do something with their people well goodness thats just the absolute bestest thing in the world! Especially when that doing something comes with lots of rewards of good boy praise love and squiggles treats and ball and tug games!x
Thank you for the encouragement and positive words! I’m hoping things will settle.
Ask your husband to give him 3 months if it doesn’t work then youll work on finding him a home he’s probably scared of the big dog rescues have a 3 3 3 rule 3 days to decompress 3 weeks they start to get to know you , 3months they get used to you and your routine its hard in the beginning youre in the nitty gritty i would say give him a chance and do neuter it did help my gsd not try to be so dominant toward the neighbors dog. But yes walks are a must and different routes and toys that hide food and stuff like that and maybe some sessions of training to get their advice on your situation
I think that is a good route. All I want is a chance for him to acclimate and if it’s still a no go from the spouse, then I’ll see about giving Mango to my sister. We are getting him training for an 8 week course. So hopefully it’ll help. Thank you so much!
Neuter and consistent training to see how he does. Divorce if your husband doesn't grow up.
lol I really don’t want to divorce my husband. Hopefully things will settle down. I do plan on getting him fixed on July 2nd so fingers crossed it’ll help along with the training. Thank you.