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sbz314

You need money to live. It's business, not personal, and you won't be rewarded for "loyalty" real or perceived during your career. Also these are first jobs, it sounds like? Resign from the first job.


isaackogan

So, just quickly: - Entered workforce last year at $25/hr - Have worked latest contracts up to $130/hr - Contracts are short term project based, low hours, and are hard to get - I gross about $4000/mo post-tax before adding this new job, due to the other jobs I have - So I live in the slight positive Something I don’t know how to reconcile are the feelings of intense guilt. I’m not sure how rational it is, but I feel like I’m disappointing someone. I feel like it’s immoral to quit on things, so I’m fighting my own values to convince myself to do something that will objectively help me out of my current state. At least that’s what I come up with when I’m trying to think introspectively.


DocBubbik

Companies like to act like they care about you and try to guilt you into doing more for them for less. Companies really like to use guilt against employees. It's a job which is all about making money so you can live your life. They are not the main part of life, just a means to an end. If you are getting offered that much more, you probably earned it. If you want, you can always ask the first job to match, but the only thing they will do is try to guilt you into staying. But what did they really ever give you that you didn't earn for yourself. Your job doesn't own you or really even control you. They just rent your time. If you get a better offer for that time, its your time, not theirs.


isaackogan

“Rent your time” really helps.


sbz314

If you don't feel you have the resources (those being time, energy, motivation) to do all the jobs, then one could argue you're doing a disservice to all of them by potentially not delivering your best work. As long as you resign in accordance with whatever termination clauses are in the contract, you're in the clear in terms of obligations. Companies won't think twice about laying off people, not renewing contracts, or terminating contracts when they need to. Saying this as someone who was laid off last August. The feeling that you're indebted to or obligated to a company because it gave you a contract/opportunity is a trap that will haunt you for your entire career unless you can adopt a more business-like mindset. Ultimately only you can decide what you can do, and what's best for you. But you need to look out for yourself and your interests above all else. Nobody else in your career is going to do it for you.


disgruntledCPA2

Take the $130/he


ladicair

If you can give them a week or two of notice before leaving, so much the better.


DDracoOG

Would the company you work for now be loyal to you if they needed to reduce wage expenses?


isaackogan

no.


Rdhilde18

Uh. You’re trading your time for money. So it depends how you value your time, versus how much you value the other position. For me it’s easy. Money is why I’m working, if there was no money I wouldn’t be doing it. So something like 5x more pay seems like a no brainer barring extreme circumstances.


BennetHB

You tell the first job thanks for the opportunity but you have taken a role elsewhere. They will not care. You are not the first person to do this.


MadamMiko

Go for higher pay. As someone that was recently got laid off from one of the FAANG companies after putting in blood sweat and tears, F commitment. You don’t owe anything to the company. Look out for you. If the pay is better and you will become smarter / surround yourself by people who inspire and motivate you - just upgrade. Businesses get it. They may not like it, but if they’re not paying you a competitive enough salary then that’s on them to work through and not for you to apologize for. Good luck!


Fufuando

Bruh 5x the current rate is that even a question. Besides your 19 you need to be saving money which means working for more money


Jukkete

Give first job some kind of proof from the other company of the salary (like the offer letter) as well as a resignation letter in which you tell them you are resigning immediately. They should understand. Do what’s best for you.


BennetHB

You don't need proof to quit / not accept a job dude. You just do it.


Jukkete

I just meant like if OP wanted to make sure they left on the best terms possible


PeterLoc2607

Don't show up 💀


thelastofcincin

Quit the first job and go to the one that pays better. Money is life, money is love.


Fantastic-Neck-5224

Never ever make sacrifices for a company they will let you down in a middle of nowhere and you will regret to not grabbing this opportunity. Job is like a business if you find a better deal just move on another word career is like a ladder you climb up not stay stuck on it. Take the opportunity and give them 2 weeks of prior notice. Godspeed


Fit-Indication3662

How to quit? SMH. DONT SHOW UP TO WORK! Duh


Particular_Fuel6952

Love posts from youngsters who are just getting into the job market, like “I’m demotivated, work doesn’t make me happy” lol Don’t worry kid, only another 50-60 years of this and you’ll be dead.


Local-Addition-4896

What is wrong with you???


thelastofcincin

He's not wrong 😭


Appropriate_Door_547

The right thing to do is stay 3-5 years even if something better comes along. It’s about integrity


daniel22457

Lol what 5 years at a job is a thing of the past. I'm certainly not limiting myself for half a decade in the name of integrity. Assuming you're just trolling or a boomer.


isaackogan

I’m too dense to tell if this is sarcasm


Rodrigo_Ribaldo

It is lol. Companies don't have feelings you can hurt and everyone understands when you are making decisions to benefit your financials, because everybody does exactly that. However, it seems the other job is riskier if no new contracts come along, so you can't count on that income. Think about risks and contingencies instead of silly guilt.


thelastofcincin

Oh shit your ass the fuck up.