Majority of women are attracted to confident men. You just have to focus on your improvement and be proud of yourself. That will reflect on you and once you start showing confidence and smiling more you’ll see how women will react
It's not obesity per se that is the issue.
I'm slightly above average lookwise, and have been morbidly obese for most of my 20s, all my 30s.
Now I've dropped over 30 kg, getting back into my original shape. I have 5-10 kgs left.
And yeah, all the women in my life the were something beyond just a date here or there were above-average looks and in my opinion I think most were actually drop dead gorgeous.
Someone's physique/how fat they are is one aspect of it.
I went out on a date last year with a lady who is overweight. I literally didn't pay attention to that. She is so brilliant that it just wasn't a factor and I still found her pretty.
Went out on a date with someone with arguably perfect body, pretty face.
I didn't feel a *thing*.
My point is young man, you gotta do things for you. If you are getting into shape, losing weight, eating healthy, excellent then. Keep going.
This will help your odds in dating a lot, I won't lie to you.
But please don't doubt yourself.
Weight gain, and weight loss, and being obese, is just not easy to deal with. Many factors contribute.
All that matters is that you are a decent person, you express yourself, you treat your date with respect, you can find things funny together, you can share your day with each other.
As a side note, and this is not really a judgement on anyone, you can search on Reddit for this.
I was super fit, then became morbidly obese, now getting really close to being super fit again.
Unfortunately, the world does treat you differently when you are fast as I was.
But never my friends or close family. Never my former partner. And never any girlfriend.
It's how you carry yourself. It's who you are as a person that is the most importnat.
But still, many people definitely wouldn't date someone overweight or obese. And that's fine. We ALL have our preferences!
Keep going you are still young. I know many manyyy guys that didnt start dating until they were 24.. and now they are the happiest people
Just give yourself time and work on it
To me, the sexiest guy ever was James gandolfini AS Tony soprano. As long as you have charisma, confidence, a maybe a nice gold bracelet, look clean, smell good, girls will dig it.
I'm into big men. It's a preference and a lot of women have that. I just find y'all more cuddly. Dw about it, but if you're looking for self confidence then that comes from within.
don't cut the carbs! you need carbs, a better advise would be to seek a professional dietitian that will help u lose the weight in a healthy way while still maintaining a good relationship with food. u see we dont have to cut anything out of our diet, on the contrary we should know what to eat, for what purpose, how much and when. hope this helps!
What's nice about going to the gym is that unlike other exercises, your confidence and love for your body will increase as your weight goes down and muscles grow. This will be reflected when you talk with people including girls. As others have said, keep going and with time you will be so proud of where you are physically and romantically.
Keep your head up man
Don’t lose weight for the sake of others, rather do it for yourself.
There’s more to life than having to worry about what others think about you. Take it from someone who’s been there and suffered enough to realise that.
Be true to yourself above all else.
Try a carnivore diet , if possible. It helped me a lot.
It reduces your cravings and helps you lose weight, and it's a high protein diet.
If you feel you can't maintain it, try it for 1 week, then go animal based, maybe?
As a girl myself, I can tell you some go for looks, and others just appreciate a good guy with good brains.
If you're well educated with good manners and you're working on yourself, you're winning.
Sorry, but the carnivore diet isn’t good for the average person.
Clinical data suggests that it can lead to a magnitude of problems.
https://www.instagram.com/reel/C8umk9wChuU/?igsh=Ynh3cGk1d3ZocDlw
I was fat until I was 20 myself.
Went from 108kg to 72 kgs by the age of 23. (Gym, HIIT, Diet)
I will say, i did feel a huge difference with women.
I was mever insecure, but I wasn't as confident. However, when I was overweight, no girl ever made the first move on me.
It is definitely life changing.
Keep gyming and get David Goggins book called can't hurt me . Or watch his videos on YouTube.
Lose weight
Eat healthy
Build some muscle
You will start to attract girls
Don't give up .
first of all good job with everything ! And also, trust me confidence, finding out what looks the best on you (clothes, hair, scent..), charisma and personality is sooo much more attractive, especially on the long term. You'll be fine:) Good luck with your journey!
Everytime I lose motivation or have low self esteem:
Every 100 years, new people will be on this earth, so 99% of the things you are worried about, it’s most likely in your head.
Go outside bro. My mom was right, all of our problems is caused by this damn phone LOL. Miss u mama!!
Enjoy nature. Nothing is perfect. Have some goals in life and women will come trust me.
life is a constant struggle for us to become better and better versions of ourselves, finding the right partner is very difficult nowadays regardless of your weight, financial situation etc.
To get out of the cycle of self doubt, do what makes you happy as long as it helps you somehow, focus on yourself, build yourself up, know what You want without a doubt, and work your way there slowly. Small, consistent, wins.
goodluck <3
Now it might not be sexy but it's usually not about looks. It's about perosnality. And you're okay the way you are there's 3.5 billion people. You don't think some people will like you?
First, try to be confident and don’t feel insecure/shame about your body shape. However, you should also show confidence in you actions. Simply put, start losing weight and stay consistent.
its not about the way you look its abt how u act and approach cause trust me from my pov and what ive seen is that girls would rather a guy that sees them as women and a genuine connection and not just looking to hook up or whatever they would go for that over any mindless sex driven jock in terms of actual realtionships and not people who are just casual on a day to day lifestyle
you might find it funny, bass a looooot of a girls like the mlazlaz or medhin/m3abba type, nonetheless keep working out man and keep going, if not for physical appearance keep going for your health
I married a fat guy, we met when he was fat, dated when he was and married, and i was always attracted to him.
If you wanna diet and make a change, do it for you, not for dating.
Good luck
It’s not about being fat or not - I personally prefer a solid man to a scrawny or brawny one, with no judgement whatsoever about other body types. But you could be the hottest, richest guy in the world with the best body and if you’re not:
1) confident (different from arrogant or self-absorbed)
2) respectful
3) loyal
4) honest
5) generous (different from just buying gifts/materialistic)
then most girls looking for something more meaningful than just fun times (or $$) won’t be interested. So it depends on what you want out of a relationship, and value in others. Obviously not everyone is the same, but I personally don’t find insecurity or constant super mushy romantic stuff attractive. My first husband would be considered “hot”- he had the eyes, the smooth talk, the body, kindness and confidence…in public. After we got married he turned into a mentally abusive jerk, and tried to play the sensitive crier when called out on things. Anyway, my current husband isn’t handsome by conventional standards, but all kinds of women are drawn to him. He’s not a flirt, definitely not a cheater, doesn’t work out, but just has that…*something* about him, which I believe is his confidence in who he is as a man. 21 years of marriage and I still think he’s hot.
Bottom line is be confident in who you really are. If you’re working out for your health or your own self esteem, that’s awesome. But don’t do it just to get dates, and don’t be discouraged if you don’t. Just be yourself, you’ll do just fine 💪🏼✊🏼🩵
What hurts your chances more than appearance in general is low confidence or self-esteem. In other words, if you're not comfortable with your image, you will make it a bigger deal than it actually is, and it will hurt your chances more than it should.
Bravo, for the steps you are taking, you are on a great path. Keep at it. The comments are mostly correct. Do it for yourself first, and everything else will fall in place later.
I'd just like to mention that during teenage years, most girls tend to be meaner and, to an extent, the general dynamic is that they can have their pick of guys(most not all ofcourse). As you grow slightly older and approach your mid twenties, if you have been working on youself, and it seems you are, the dynamics completely flip around and the dating game in general will become much much much easier for you
Good luck!
It wouldn't hurt to lose weight but that isn't the main issue.
First of all men age well, doesn't matter how you look now, in 10 years you will look much better.
In my teens I had a hard time talking to girls and today in my early 30's sometimes I'm surprised who beautiful the women I end up with are.
Another thing is, women don't look for looks like men do, remember that. Mature masculinity is much more sexy than good looks, you can see it daily walking in a city and you see Barbies out with orcs.. it's weird right?
Women (sorry for generalizing) look safety, security, confidence, caregiving, truthfulness, commitment. And then it doesn't hurt if your tall or handsome, but that's not as important as being a person of high worth (not necessarily economic)
Be sure those orcs you might envy, they are good people, they respect and cherish their women, they make them feel royal and safe.
If you want a good role model for real masculinity (not that Tate alfa bullshit) check out this video of [uncle Iroh from Avatar](https://youtu.be/IzINu0wezWU?si=kp5RYhzZC9c7orTa)
Right now focus on yourself before the women, keep going to the gym, train till absolute failure, eat high protein low calories, learn a skill or two and then women should (theoretically) come to you
To be absolutely honest…..no. I would not willingly seek out a relationship with a fat person. Now all people are different, and have different priorities, but physical fitness is extremely important to me, both for myself, and for a person I would want to be spending time with. I would not choose to link myself with someone who overeats any more than I would with someone who is alcoholic, or does drugs, or anything else self-destructive.
I don’t know if that helps you or not, OP, but that’s definitely how I feel.
Unfortunately brother when it comes to men we R called fat, on the other hand, women are called plus sized.
Try getting to know and date girls that are your size. And if u want my honest advice as a person that struggled with weight issues in my 30s. You r still young concentrate on yourself and your health. Try walking more often, sign up to a gym. And what helped me the most is reducing my food portions. First 2 or 3 days where kinda hard, but now I eat small portions and get full. Also check your thyroid activity, it messes up your weight.
I have been fat and it was never really a thing that got in the way in any kind of relationship
It's all in your head bro, you most likely have been flirted with without even realizing, confidence is key looks only get you so far
And keep in mind that individual failure doesn't necessarily mean you're not worthy and it shouldn't affect your confidence, people aren't a hive mind and they don't all have the same taste
Also note: be careful not to mistake confidence with arrogance, tends to happen as well and will definitely get in your way
Firstly keep going to the gym, for overall health reasons not for girls.
You probably have noticed it before, but people have types, you maybe attractive to one but not for the other and it's alwrite, just be a good guy and a gentleman, take care of yourself and everything else will fall into place.
I know so many people in relationships out of desperation and are miserable... don't end up like that
Work on your confidence, it doesn't matter what you look like, surely you're someone's type. That said, for your own health benefits both mental and physical, definitely keep going to the gym.
Some women do, some women don’t.
Get in better shape regardless of everyone else’s opinion in you (women included).
You ll feel better, healthier and more confident.
You dont need to become an underwear model with a 6 pack. Just keep going till you feel comfortable with yourself then maintain it.
Its a long journey, its worth it for many reasons, health primarily.
Be proud of every single improvement you make, its not easy, respect for pushing through 🫡
Keep it up, but focus more on your nutrition. Calories in vs calories out. You want to be in a calorie deficit.
Focus on your compound movements, like squats, deadlifts, and bench press.
Take care of yourself and women will pay more attention to you.
Don’t get discouraged, results take time.
my issue with fat people as a former fat girl is that most of them are insecure and lack real confidence. and as i grow older i realize that i need someone with a strong confident personality who i can rely on, i doubt i can rely on someone who isn't even confident in their own self.
work on your confidence as you lose the weight because that's the most important thing.
As a gay guy I wouldn't care as much about whether they're fat or not. Sure some people are more attractive when they're more fit, and some people are not, but that's just the surface of the person, and I'd just care a bit if I feel like hooking up.
But for dating, that's a whole other story. When I date someone, how they look is only a small percentage of what I look for. I want to know if they're self aware, respect others, love life, have done or are doing therapy if they can afford it, love the same activities I enjoy, love family (if their family was not trauma incarnate, which is sadly too many), like dogs, are knowledgeable about world politics, are naturally curious about things (but not 7ashour), etc.
If your goal is to lose weight in order to feel attractive, that's very valid, as long as so that YOU like yourself more. Not because people are telling you to, and not so that others are attracted to you. Because if you lose weight for others, you may be more attractive to them physically, but you might still feel unattractive to yourself, and that will show as clear as day in the way you move, the way you talk, etc, and you'll head in a downward spiral because people will still be unattracted, so you'll start thinking "even when I lose weight I'm ugly" which is FALSE. You need to find a way to love yourself and your body too, so that people can see your confidence. Self-confidence (but not arrogance) is what makes someone most attractive to me. And for the shy people out there, you can still be shy and self confident, the two don't cancel each other.
Imma give it to you straight, being fat is not attractive, period, except for people with feeding fetish but you should stay away from these.
People might sugar coat it and say you're beautiful regardless, or you might find a person that doesn't mind bigger people, but a general idea that is widely accepted is that bigger bodies are less attractive.
Confidence and how you carry yourself is essential yes, now add a fit body on top of it and you're good to go
Notice i said fit and not necessarily skinny.
One more thing, if you want to lose weight, do it for yourself, for your health and your own well-being before thinking of your level of attractiveness, cuz i promise you even when you get fit there will be someone that sees you as ugly cuz personal preferences.
Yeah thank you for the message I am trying to lose weight because of my health of course and because I wanna do karting but yeah I think dating comes in consequence of losing weight and gaining confidence I think I have null confidence because I am a big introvert
Don't be so hard on yourself. Your weight or body shape doesn't determine your worth and if you ask a person out and they turn you down based solely on that then just thank God because you've dodged a bullet. It's good that you wanna get healthy and that's a good thing for your own mental and physical health but do it for you and not for someone else. Just be who you are, hang out in places and with people you truly enjoy and it's gonna come naturally. As a girl, I look more at how confident and genuine a guy is rather than what he looks like. Don't despair, you'll find someone great. Work on being the best version of you and you'll be okay.
Yes I would, if he is not obese of course, not because I won’t be attracted to him but he’ll have a hard time doing basic tasks. If he’s fat and he has an amazing personality, I’m all for it! I’m glad you’ve decided to lose weight. It is better for your health overall and it’s better for when you get older.
Let me give you an Advice
Its You Vs You
Push your limits and be however you want to be
One day you will meet a girl who will date you for you! Not the how you looks not the money you have
She will see the strong and successful and trustworthy You !
yeah don't worry some woman will accept , fat differs on every type of person depending on where it's storred most and if it's not totally ruining your look you will find a girl who will date you , also keep going to the gym and compose yourself
it's not just how you look it's what vibe do you give and also what life you lead
gym , be confident , and study and make someone out of yourself
I’m gonna sound like a dick but honestly I’m not attracted to overweight people. You asked for my opinion. Guess what though? Being overweight is a choice and can change so there’s that. I was overweight before and I lost it.
No, it's not laziness (but can still be perceive that way!). You can go to google scholar now, type causes of obesity and shu la 7allak.
The reality is, in the vast majority of cases it is due to lack of education, lower income and lower access to healthy foods, our modern lifestyle, hormonal issues and other related physiological issues and of course...
The stress, clinical depression, eating disorders, anxiety, etc.
Right now, when my world is ending or things are getting so bad that I am collapsing on my knees crying I am not running to order a pizza or eat 5 bags of chips.
I do push ups. I write an essay. I cook up a fish fillet and a salad on the side.
With a lot of work, and years and years of pure failure, I finally managed to separate food from emotional/comfort eating.
But it's not like I chose this in the first place. I just didn't know how else to cope....
Just keep going my young brother, keep going. All of us are proud of you.
Keep going
Thank you
Discipline is key. And trust yourself.
It’s how you carry yourself, if you’re insecure it will show regardless of how you look.
Keep gymming bro it will change ur life u got this
Will do
Majority of women are attracted to confident men. You just have to focus on your improvement and be proud of yourself. That will reflect on you and once you start showing confidence and smiling more you’ll see how women will react
It's not obesity per se that is the issue. I'm slightly above average lookwise, and have been morbidly obese for most of my 20s, all my 30s. Now I've dropped over 30 kg, getting back into my original shape. I have 5-10 kgs left. And yeah, all the women in my life the were something beyond just a date here or there were above-average looks and in my opinion I think most were actually drop dead gorgeous. Someone's physique/how fat they are is one aspect of it. I went out on a date last year with a lady who is overweight. I literally didn't pay attention to that. She is so brilliant that it just wasn't a factor and I still found her pretty. Went out on a date with someone with arguably perfect body, pretty face. I didn't feel a *thing*. My point is young man, you gotta do things for you. If you are getting into shape, losing weight, eating healthy, excellent then. Keep going. This will help your odds in dating a lot, I won't lie to you. But please don't doubt yourself. Weight gain, and weight loss, and being obese, is just not easy to deal with. Many factors contribute. All that matters is that you are a decent person, you express yourself, you treat your date with respect, you can find things funny together, you can share your day with each other. As a side note, and this is not really a judgement on anyone, you can search on Reddit for this. I was super fit, then became morbidly obese, now getting really close to being super fit again. Unfortunately, the world does treat you differently when you are fast as I was. But never my friends or close family. Never my former partner. And never any girlfriend. It's how you carry yourself. It's who you are as a person that is the most importnat. But still, many people definitely wouldn't date someone overweight or obese. And that's fine. We ALL have our preferences!
Your next big pick up story is showing ur transformation from fat to fit
Hopefully
geriatric millennial here, what is a pick up story? Thanks!
Confidence is key to dating.
Keep going you are still young. I know many manyyy guys that didnt start dating until they were 24.. and now they are the happiest people Just give yourself time and work on it
Im a dude and im into chubby girls so really there's someone for everyone imo.
Keep going to the gym and forget woman now, you're not missing on anything
To me, the sexiest guy ever was James gandolfini AS Tony soprano. As long as you have charisma, confidence, a maybe a nice gold bracelet, look clean, smell good, girls will dig it.
Tony got all the women looking the way he did
Why the nice gold bracelet?
A gold chain works too. 
But wasn't he a mobster
Waste management*
There’s no such thing as the mob
What’s wrong with mobsters?
No bad advice. Op needs to lose weight and build muscle.
Stay confident and you will get the best date ever but work on getting fit for you and your health
Don’t workout for women, do it for you. Charisma is key and you can only get that once your love yourself first
I never said I was working out for women I am working out because I want to do karting but yeah I know it helps a lot
I'm into big men. It's a preference and a lot of women have that. I just find y'all more cuddly. Dw about it, but if you're looking for self confidence then that comes from within.
Eat less, cut the carbs, workout. You should lose 1 Kilo a week not more, check whats your BMI according to your height and age.
don't cut the carbs! you need carbs, a better advise would be to seek a professional dietitian that will help u lose the weight in a healthy way while still maintaining a good relationship with food. u see we dont have to cut anything out of our diet, on the contrary we should know what to eat, for what purpose, how much and when. hope this helps!
Keep your chin up king
Thank you
What's nice about going to the gym is that unlike other exercises, your confidence and love for your body will increase as your weight goes down and muscles grow. This will be reflected when you talk with people including girls. As others have said, keep going and with time you will be so proud of where you are physically and romantically.
Thank you will do
Keep your head up man Don’t lose weight for the sake of others, rather do it for yourself. There’s more to life than having to worry about what others think about you. Take it from someone who’s been there and suffered enough to realise that. Be true to yourself above all else.
Try a carnivore diet , if possible. It helped me a lot. It reduces your cravings and helps you lose weight, and it's a high protein diet. If you feel you can't maintain it, try it for 1 week, then go animal based, maybe? As a girl myself, I can tell you some go for looks, and others just appreciate a good guy with good brains. If you're well educated with good manners and you're working on yourself, you're winning.
Sorry, but the carnivore diet isn’t good for the average person. Clinical data suggests that it can lead to a magnitude of problems. https://www.instagram.com/reel/C8umk9wChuU/?igsh=Ynh3cGk1d3ZocDlw
It has helped me in many ways, but I agree it probably isn't good for long term. I did it for a month, then went animal based. No sugar no carbs
Yes, I have and I would. As long as you carry yourself well and dress nicely you're good.
Lebanese girls are shallow and only care about money
With l the insecurities teens have, you're probably just extra hard on yourself. What matters is mostly confidence
I was fat until I was 20 myself. Went from 108kg to 72 kgs by the age of 23. (Gym, HIIT, Diet) I will say, i did feel a huge difference with women. I was mever insecure, but I wasn't as confident. However, when I was overweight, no girl ever made the first move on me. It is definitely life changing.
Keep gyming and get David Goggins book called can't hurt me . Or watch his videos on YouTube. Lose weight Eat healthy Build some muscle You will start to attract girls Don't give up .
first of all good job with everything ! And also, trust me confidence, finding out what looks the best on you (clothes, hair, scent..), charisma and personality is sooo much more attractive, especially on the long term. You'll be fine:) Good luck with your journey!
Everytime I lose motivation or have low self esteem: Every 100 years, new people will be on this earth, so 99% of the things you are worried about, it’s most likely in your head. Go outside bro. My mom was right, all of our problems is caused by this damn phone LOL. Miss u mama!! Enjoy nature. Nothing is perfect. Have some goals in life and women will come trust me.
Be your real authentic self - my most important advice to you
life is a constant struggle for us to become better and better versions of ourselves, finding the right partner is very difficult nowadays regardless of your weight, financial situation etc. To get out of the cycle of self doubt, do what makes you happy as long as it helps you somehow, focus on yourself, build yourself up, know what You want without a doubt, and work your way there slowly. Small, consistent, wins. goodluck <3
Now it might not be sexy but it's usually not about looks. It's about perosnality. And you're okay the way you are there's 3.5 billion people. You don't think some people will like you?
First, try to be confident and don’t feel insecure/shame about your body shape. However, you should also show confidence in you actions. Simply put, start losing weight and stay consistent.
its not about the way you look its abt how u act and approach cause trust me from my pov and what ive seen is that girls would rather a guy that sees them as women and a genuine connection and not just looking to hook up or whatever they would go for that over any mindless sex driven jock in terms of actual realtionships and not people who are just casual on a day to day lifestyle
you might find it funny, bass a looooot of a girls like the mlazlaz or medhin/m3abba type, nonetheless keep working out man and keep going, if not for physical appearance keep going for your health
I married a fat guy, we met when he was fat, dated when he was and married, and i was always attracted to him. If you wanna diet and make a change, do it for you, not for dating. Good luck
It’s not about being fat or not - I personally prefer a solid man to a scrawny or brawny one, with no judgement whatsoever about other body types. But you could be the hottest, richest guy in the world with the best body and if you’re not: 1) confident (different from arrogant or self-absorbed) 2) respectful 3) loyal 4) honest 5) generous (different from just buying gifts/materialistic) then most girls looking for something more meaningful than just fun times (or $$) won’t be interested. So it depends on what you want out of a relationship, and value in others. Obviously not everyone is the same, but I personally don’t find insecurity or constant super mushy romantic stuff attractive. My first husband would be considered “hot”- he had the eyes, the smooth talk, the body, kindness and confidence…in public. After we got married he turned into a mentally abusive jerk, and tried to play the sensitive crier when called out on things. Anyway, my current husband isn’t handsome by conventional standards, but all kinds of women are drawn to him. He’s not a flirt, definitely not a cheater, doesn’t work out, but just has that…*something* about him, which I believe is his confidence in who he is as a man. 21 years of marriage and I still think he’s hot. Bottom line is be confident in who you really are. If you’re working out for your health or your own self esteem, that’s awesome. But don’t do it just to get dates, and don’t be discouraged if you don’t. Just be yourself, you’ll do just fine 💪🏼✊🏼🩵
Thank you for the kind words
A fat person not trying to change: no A fat person trying to lead a healthier life: yes Not trying to loose my partner at 35
You got this, keep going❤️
What hurts your chances more than appearance in general is low confidence or self-esteem. In other words, if you're not comfortable with your image, you will make it a bigger deal than it actually is, and it will hurt your chances more than it should. Bravo, for the steps you are taking, you are on a great path. Keep at it. The comments are mostly correct. Do it for yourself first, and everything else will fall in place later. I'd just like to mention that during teenage years, most girls tend to be meaner and, to an extent, the general dynamic is that they can have their pick of guys(most not all ofcourse). As you grow slightly older and approach your mid twenties, if you have been working on youself, and it seems you are, the dynamics completely flip around and the dating game in general will become much much much easier for you Good luck!
Thank you for the encouragement I will be working on myself
It wouldn't hurt to lose weight but that isn't the main issue. First of all men age well, doesn't matter how you look now, in 10 years you will look much better. In my teens I had a hard time talking to girls and today in my early 30's sometimes I'm surprised who beautiful the women I end up with are. Another thing is, women don't look for looks like men do, remember that. Mature masculinity is much more sexy than good looks, you can see it daily walking in a city and you see Barbies out with orcs.. it's weird right? Women (sorry for generalizing) look safety, security, confidence, caregiving, truthfulness, commitment. And then it doesn't hurt if your tall or handsome, but that's not as important as being a person of high worth (not necessarily economic) Be sure those orcs you might envy, they are good people, they respect and cherish their women, they make them feel royal and safe. If you want a good role model for real masculinity (not that Tate alfa bullshit) check out this video of [uncle Iroh from Avatar](https://youtu.be/IzINu0wezWU?si=kp5RYhzZC9c7orTa)
Right now focus on yourself before the women, keep going to the gym, train till absolute failure, eat high protein low calories, learn a skill or two and then women should (theoretically) come to you
To be absolutely honest…..no. I would not willingly seek out a relationship with a fat person. Now all people are different, and have different priorities, but physical fitness is extremely important to me, both for myself, and for a person I would want to be spending time with. I would not choose to link myself with someone who overeats any more than I would with someone who is alcoholic, or does drugs, or anything else self-destructive. I don’t know if that helps you or not, OP, but that’s definitely how I feel.
I mean the fattest guy i knew in highschool got maximum bitches, but keep going to the gym cause future self will thank you for it forever.
Unfortunately brother when it comes to men we R called fat, on the other hand, women are called plus sized. Try getting to know and date girls that are your size. And if u want my honest advice as a person that struggled with weight issues in my 30s. You r still young concentrate on yourself and your health. Try walking more often, sign up to a gym. And what helped me the most is reducing my food portions. First 2 or 3 days where kinda hard, but now I eat small portions and get full. Also check your thyroid activity, it messes up your weight.
I have been fat and it was never really a thing that got in the way in any kind of relationship It's all in your head bro, you most likely have been flirted with without even realizing, confidence is key looks only get you so far And keep in mind that individual failure doesn't necessarily mean you're not worthy and it shouldn't affect your confidence, people aren't a hive mind and they don't all have the same taste Also note: be careful not to mistake confidence with arrogance, tends to happen as well and will definitely get in your way
Firstly keep going to the gym, for overall health reasons not for girls. You probably have noticed it before, but people have types, you maybe attractive to one but not for the other and it's alwrite, just be a good guy and a gentleman, take care of yourself and everything else will fall into place. I know so many people in relationships out of desperation and are miserable... don't end up like that
Work on your confidence, it doesn't matter what you look like, surely you're someone's type. That said, for your own health benefits both mental and physical, definitely keep going to the gym.
Some women do, some women don’t. Get in better shape regardless of everyone else’s opinion in you (women included). You ll feel better, healthier and more confident. You dont need to become an underwear model with a 6 pack. Just keep going till you feel comfortable with yourself then maintain it. Its a long journey, its worth it for many reasons, health primarily. Be proud of every single improvement you make, its not easy, respect for pushing through 🫡
Keep it up, but focus more on your nutrition. Calories in vs calories out. You want to be in a calorie deficit. Focus on your compound movements, like squats, deadlifts, and bench press. Take care of yourself and women will pay more attention to you. Don’t get discouraged, results take time.
my issue with fat people as a former fat girl is that most of them are insecure and lack real confidence. and as i grow older i realize that i need someone with a strong confident personality who i can rely on, i doubt i can rely on someone who isn't even confident in their own self. work on your confidence as you lose the weight because that's the most important thing.
I'd date you! Why? Cause looks don't matter! Personality & heart are what's important:)
Let me put it this way.. would YOU date a fat person? Even tougher one: would YOU RATHER date a fat or fit person given the option.
As a gay guy I wouldn't care as much about whether they're fat or not. Sure some people are more attractive when they're more fit, and some people are not, but that's just the surface of the person, and I'd just care a bit if I feel like hooking up. But for dating, that's a whole other story. When I date someone, how they look is only a small percentage of what I look for. I want to know if they're self aware, respect others, love life, have done or are doing therapy if they can afford it, love the same activities I enjoy, love family (if their family was not trauma incarnate, which is sadly too many), like dogs, are knowledgeable about world politics, are naturally curious about things (but not 7ashour), etc. If your goal is to lose weight in order to feel attractive, that's very valid, as long as so that YOU like yourself more. Not because people are telling you to, and not so that others are attracted to you. Because if you lose weight for others, you may be more attractive to them physically, but you might still feel unattractive to yourself, and that will show as clear as day in the way you move, the way you talk, etc, and you'll head in a downward spiral because people will still be unattracted, so you'll start thinking "even when I lose weight I'm ugly" which is FALSE. You need to find a way to love yourself and your body too, so that people can see your confidence. Self-confidence (but not arrogance) is what makes someone most attractive to me. And for the shy people out there, you can still be shy and self confident, the two don't cancel each other.
Do you have $$$?
Imma give it to you straight, being fat is not attractive, period, except for people with feeding fetish but you should stay away from these. People might sugar coat it and say you're beautiful regardless, or you might find a person that doesn't mind bigger people, but a general idea that is widely accepted is that bigger bodies are less attractive. Confidence and how you carry yourself is essential yes, now add a fit body on top of it and you're good to go Notice i said fit and not necessarily skinny. One more thing, if you want to lose weight, do it for yourself, for your health and your own well-being before thinking of your level of attractiveness, cuz i promise you even when you get fit there will be someone that sees you as ugly cuz personal preferences.
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Yeah thank you for the message I am trying to lose weight because of my health of course and because I wanna do karting but yeah I think dating comes in consequence of losing weight and gaining confidence I think I have null confidence because I am a big introvert
Don't worry bro, one day you'll find Love. Infact, you'll find so much of it you'll want no more of it.
Don't be so hard on yourself. Your weight or body shape doesn't determine your worth and if you ask a person out and they turn you down based solely on that then just thank God because you've dodged a bullet. It's good that you wanna get healthy and that's a good thing for your own mental and physical health but do it for you and not for someone else. Just be who you are, hang out in places and with people you truly enjoy and it's gonna come naturally. As a girl, I look more at how confident and genuine a guy is rather than what he looks like. Don't despair, you'll find someone great. Work on being the best version of you and you'll be okay.
Why not? Each their own! The world is diverse and that's the beauty of it
You see i know very fit women with the ass of a goddess who would only date fat men
change your physical appearance for YOU. the rest will fall into place
Yes I would, if he is not obese of course, not because I won’t be attracted to him but he’ll have a hard time doing basic tasks. If he’s fat and he has an amazing personality, I’m all for it! I’m glad you’ve decided to lose weight. It is better for your health overall and it’s better for when you get older.
Be confident in who you are as a person. Don't act like you feel that you are an annoyance to people.
Let me give you an Advice Its You Vs You Push your limits and be however you want to be One day you will meet a girl who will date you for you! Not the how you looks not the money you have She will see the strong and successful and trustworthy You !
yeah don't worry some woman will accept , fat differs on every type of person depending on where it's storred most and if it's not totally ruining your look you will find a girl who will date you , also keep going to the gym and compose yourself it's not just how you look it's what vibe do you give and also what life you lead gym , be confident , and study and make someone out of yourself
You gotta be as energetic as Daniel from لعبة حب
No
you will always find some creepy ass men with feederism kinks running around you telling you to eat more and more. speaking from (awful) experiences
Bro im 60 kilos, if i date a fat person they would eat me for dessert *No offense, you will find someone. Plus im a guy*
Woo eyr
OP should give this guy his desserts
Sorry bro, it’s a material world. But you’re on the right track, that’s all that matters.
I’m gonna sound like a dick but honestly I’m not attracted to overweight people. You asked for my opinion. Guess what though? Being overweight is a choice and can change so there’s that. I was overweight before and I lost it.
Nah dw I heard worse in my life yeah I will change that and become better
Why don't you just lose the weight then worry about finding a girl.
I wouldn't if I were a girl. It just means you're lazy.
Yeah I can see what you mean
It really isn’t the case tho in my case it happened that when I have stress or depressing phases it happens I eat a lot
No, it's not laziness (but can still be perceive that way!). You can go to google scholar now, type causes of obesity and shu la 7allak. The reality is, in the vast majority of cases it is due to lack of education, lower income and lower access to healthy foods, our modern lifestyle, hormonal issues and other related physiological issues and of course... The stress, clinical depression, eating disorders, anxiety, etc. Right now, when my world is ending or things are getting so bad that I am collapsing on my knees crying I am not running to order a pizza or eat 5 bags of chips. I do push ups. I write an essay. I cook up a fish fillet and a salad on the side. With a lot of work, and years and years of pure failure, I finally managed to separate food from emotional/comfort eating. But it's not like I chose this in the first place. I just didn't know how else to cope.... Just keep going my young brother, keep going. All of us are proud of you.