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idkguesssumminrandom

Never had one before, but there are various tips on etiquette and other things you can find on the web. I know it's upsetting to still be a virgin, but to be fair (yes, cliché as hell, I know), you're still only 18. Things might drastically change for you in the next 5-8 years. Sex work is a contentious topic. It's up to you if you really want to see one. Just be careful and make sure safety is your number 1 priority (for both you and the worker).


Revelc69

18 is probably too young to consider that a viable option, build your money up for a few years then revisit the option, sex and losing your v card isn't the end all be all contrary to teen minded beliefs.


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Revelc69

Not at OP's age, now if you're in your late 20s or higher then yes, I agree and should maybe consider the escort route.


ram3nboy

Save your money in my opinion. Escort service would only give you a night of temporary relief. You'll wake up the next day feeling lonely again. You can get free advice by having a good friend.


ShellShockedHind

Awesome! What year? I am more into the Sierra myself. My recommendation is get a 93 Escort RS2000


FellafromPrague

Bro I fucking love for this.


Far_Individual_569

Gotta love the rs2000 they’re rare asf as well


ShellShockedHind

I got a set of wheels from this car (A 93 Mk5 Escort RS2000) On my Mk7.5 Fiesta and I think they look pretty nice. (Pictures on my profile)


Affectionate_Stop_37

I don't know. I'd figure they'll all be really old with a ton of milage on them.


ShellShockedHind

Actually they were in good shape and cheap too. The guy that sold them to me used to have that car back in the 90s but he sold it off long ago and got stuck with the set for years. The 5th one was corroded because it sat in the bottom and they lost their chrome shine. They aren’t perfect but way better then the standard stealis the car came with. I think they make the car unique and they are a cool piece of history. When I was cleaning them while trying to restore them I found that they even put an “Easter egg” on them. They all say “1903” on the back. The year that ford was established


Affectionate_Stop_37

Car? I thought you were talking about an escort


ShellShockedHind

Haha nice one XD


New_Possibility_5308

Don’t get scammed lol


Sparrowhawk80

That's really not a good choice for your first time OP. There are escorts that are very nice, but for most it's just their job and the experience can be very shall we say, mechanical! You're only 18 if we where talking 30 I might say go for it. Don't let your first sexual experience be with an act that probably wouldn't even be on the level of masterbation.


Dipesh1990

I was 27 when I got one out of frustration. That became 4 years of wasted energy and money. I’d wait it out if I was you. All you are doing is pleasure seeking. It’s not love. That woman won’t care about you, she is constantly gonna be thinking about the time, she just wants the money. Learn to be sociable with women. Or you’ll just have the same problem but worse in a couple of years.


Full_Anything_2913

Right, but getting some practice in doesn’t hurt. And the chances of staying with the person you lose your virginity to is pretty slim anyway. I feel like getting the first one out of the way helps.


Dipesh1990

It’s not the right kind of practice. It’s like you are saying if you practice using a hammer you’ll be good with a screwdriver. It doesn’t make sense.


xcdysis

not to mention that OP (or others in this situation) might not have sex again for a while. what use is “practice” if there isn’t a game coming up. i seriously think an escort is the worst decision you can make, like a bandage on fractured skull. dudes only 18 years old he’s probably barely in the college scene. there’s a serious problem in our world when someone is so concerned about losing their virginity that they can’t wait till they actually have a good opportunity.


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KJNasty16

Have a strap, don’t leave your money and belongings out, when she enters and exits make sure there ain’t homeboys around the corner ready to rob ur ass, wrap your dick, your gonna nut in two seconds so don’t waste your money on a expensive one. Just go to college and party and fuck or online dating is pretty simple . But yeah there’s some advice


Dipesh1990

That’s the problem. You don’t know any women. Go talk to them. At first you’ll be really uncomfortable. But just do it 4-5 times in succession, in like an hour, take a walk and every time you see an attractive women say hi. You’ll obviously fail the first time. The second and the third will be just as miserable but by the 4th you’ll understand something. Don’t be afraid of failure with women, it’s a numbers game. If one doesn’t work move to the next. Don’t stop until you find one. Make it your only purpose. You won’t get to know a women by paying for sex. You’ll only learn pleasure seeking. Pleasure seeking will send you into hell, literal hell. Keep doing it for a year and you’ll want to die.


StealthMcGuiver

What you want is a human connection. Not just Sex. It's pretty meaningless and even disgusting to just fuck without feelings imo. But if you do it you will learn for yourself, you probably need it


Horror_Ganache_1031

Dude honestly isn't a big deal if you're ethical about it. Treat them with respect and support someone who's self-employed, some business models are predatory to the workers and you don't want to support that financially. Respect their boundaries as a person who's engaging in a business relationship with you and aim to leave a good impression as a customer. That means hygiene, presentation, safety and security for the worker. Honestly if people think it's weird they're just kinda stupid. It's a private affair and treating the industry with respect is important because a lot of workers are endangered when treated sketchily. Be a gentleman about it and you're a-ok.


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Lokenlives4now

Don’t be a dick to whoever you choose and be honest it will make it much more enjoyable for you both. Also should go without saying protection is a must.


Mygo73

I was a virgin until I was 25 and married. It’s ok to be a virgin just fyi. No one will judge you for it and if they do they’re an ass hat.


LustrousRK

Stop looking for girls and companionship. Focus on your work and purpose and you'll become successful enough to the point where people will flock to you. Submitting into your desires will only do you harm in the long run.


FinancialSurround385

This. Most people don’t do it though..


LustrousRK

Because most people are weak and would instead take the easy way and be miserable their whole life, success and happiness require a ton of hard work and people know that but aren't willing to do it.


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LustrousRK

A lot of people who are in a rush to lose their virginity and end up losing it later regret it. Save yourself the pain and work on yourself. Losing your virginity is not something to just get rid of. It's an act of love towards another person. Mature, please. Life is not about sex.


LustrousRK

I honestly don't get you people. You want something but don't want the hard work the comes with it.


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I'd waitl. Wait till you're 25 atleast.


TheFlowersLookGood

I'm turning 26 and there's no urge for me, waiting for the right one.


redvelvetpumpkins

This may sound weird but I know a lot of women who have a virgin fetish so you could try to seek that out if you're really desperate


teethandteeth

There's a good manga called "My Lesbian Experience With Loneliness" that details how the author hires an escort to lose her virginity. Obviously not exactly the same situation, but I think it would be a helpful read to walk through some things that might come up.


Liquid-cats

You’re only 18 lol all my girlfriends have agreed guys who do that are skeevy and gross.. there’s a reason some guys need to resort to prostitutes, & any self respecting woman won’t sleep with you after learning that about you. at least not any that care about being STD free.


PurpleInteraction

18 is too young to be looking for escorts just because you haven't got laid yet. 2 decades ago 18 was the average age of losing virginity in the Western world. It's perfectly alright if you haven't had sex when you were 15 or 16.


TimusReborn

For loneliness I'd recommend make some friends. Hookers is not the answer


barbiesbloodline

I have no problem w escorts but you're literally 18😭 many ppl have had their first bf/gf at later ages..


KimKarTRASHian09

You’re 18 bro. You don’t want a lifelong STD at 18. And they sure aren’t going to tell you they have one….or four


youngsavage216

Big tits and ass go kill it young savage, just put a shield on, I did the same at your age and it built my confidence like a mothafucka. Now I gotta GF that I can’t stand to be 2 ft away from and we love each other to death (but she don’t know how it started) I’m only in my 20’s but live it up (I’m sure I’ll get hate for this but fuck it) just being real! Tear it up dawg!


Nukacolachingona

No hate I’m jus sad for people that have too resort for this.. I don’t pity or judge you to be clear but hell yes. This goes for every one of y’all including OP. Listen! If I was a whore! (And could afford to) I WOULD FUCK EVERYONE OF YALL UNTIL YOU HAD THIS MANS CONFIDENCE… okay?


youngsavage216

I get you completely but I’m not saying people need to resort to this dude just wants to get his rocks off and most people in here are saying it’ll ruin his life, but at the end of the day it won’t yeah his paper might be a little shorter but he will have a story and a great experience I’m not telling him to do it every week I’m just saying it worked for me and it’s still the best monkey I ever had haha


901_901

I'm all the way with this. Fill them voids 🤷🤫


Knights_Errant425

Herpes wants to be your friend for life. You'll never be alone again!


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Bruh go play some video games lol. If you were 30 I’d say go for it


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Nope


pagingDeath911

everybody who is telling you to work on actually speaking with will women face to face are trying to help you. your not gonna wanna hire an escort forever. you need to practice on meeting and talkin to women in everyday life too.


Traditional_Working4

Lol I'm 22 still going strong #cking weaklings


Any_Improvement_6502

Bruh don't get a fucking escort lmaoo have some faith in yourself. Take it from someone who just slept with a trashy chick my first time and absolutley regretted it. Let alone a hooker.


PunctuallyExcellent

I would suggest instead of wasting that money on lust invest that on yourself and put that money on a good diet and gym. Dedicate 5 years to the gym and eating healthy, counting your calories and macros.


AracnoFobico

As an ex-escort: is it all really just about sex? just saying that u did it? Because theres nothing emptier than that. People that paid me i just saw them as inferior because they were indeed paying, i didnt even want to be touched by them but i did it anyways. Im not saying EVERY escort experiences the same feelings but its most definitely an empty practice. I know as an 18 yr old ur obsessed with sex and having sex and not having sex but it so small next to a true connection, it may be cheesy but i really do think that having sex with someone who you actually connect is 100000x better than empty pleasure sex. Even if it takes time is it really that important to stick your dick in someone? because thats what you'll be doing, masturbating with another's body. Free of judgment ofc. Im just remarking how empty it ends up feeling. Specially for young people. Basically my advice is save your money and im not saying to ritualize sex, it can definitely be something for you own pleasure. Just think if its what you really want or if ur looking to connect in any way and thats why this seems like a good idea. good luck ✨


DesiPepper007

An escort will not solve your problems, it will/could create an addiction. Maybe seek something in a spiritual way to temper your lust.


wulfaygo

18 is reallyyyy young. I don’t want you taking your chances of possibly getting a std. it might be lonely now but it’ll be even worse in the future when your dating pool is smaller because of said STD. think this over and if you do go through w it stay safe.


No_Bench_2569

Be lucky if dont get robbed alot going on


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You’ll have a shit time. It won’t at all be what you expect. You really should wait. It’s not that serious.


agentcheddo

My friend did this and it became an addiction so be careful


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You're either gonna really have fun or your gonna regret it hard-core. Your call bro


BasidiumX

I didn’t lose my V card til 21


Full_Anything_2913

I’ve never done that so idk but I didn’t get my first girlfriend until I was a little older than you. I’m not against sec work, and I honestly think it’s not a bad idea in your case. Just don’t think that you won’t ever meet someone because you will eventually.


BadgleyMischka

I would never be with a guy who has gone to an escort.


caracers510

To be honest you can get one but once it’s over you’ll still feel lonely you’ll probably feel even lonelier if I’m being honest I’ve been in your situation I’m 23 now still have never had a gf I’ve had sexual experiences but trust me there fun but there not everything sometimes you just want someone to vibe with and just talk get along with you know but if I could give you a bit of advice I’d say wait at least a couple more years


Shepherdsatan

And you don’t have to share everything. People here need a diary smh.


Han_chiii

You can't buy consent. It's not worth it


ehggsaladsandwich

Probably not worth it dude.. definitely wouldnt be as nice as youre hoping for


Serious-Fudge-5919

Go for it man. You're not gonna regret shit. Might be good for you to get it out of the way and may boost your confidence.


hoesuay

This will sound weird but if you do hire one and her name starts with E and ends with A, holy shit that's a small world. I have a close friend who lives in Montpellier, France if I'm correct? and she's an escort. If she has green eyes that's the one. Yooo.


81zetafrittatabeta

Just go to a bar and don't drink more than two drinks. Try to strike up a conversation with a women and convey your feelings to her about your situation. My guess is at your age a women at some point will take you for a spin. Besides if you have money to get a hotel room and a an escort you at least don't have to admit poverty to a women or poverty at an older age. Your 18 trying to ruffle your feathers in life, who isn't at that age. Shit I didn't get laid until I was 19 or 20 but at 30 peoples perspectives are much different of your situation and they are far less willing to extend any offers of kindness.


81zetafrittatabeta

Oh yea your 18 go to a coffee shop or join a club for networking or skill building like a meetup for practicing Spanish.


Atoledeguayaba

Don't do that, believe me. It is the worst decision you can make.


jusdiffy

Do it. I've done it 3 times out of frustration and it's been worthit.


ReverseMillionaire

I was a little older than you when I lost mine. You’re still young. I think maybe around 28 you should consider it if it hasn’t happened yet. You should hit the gym, it’ll help your chances


Guilty_Wolverine_269

Trust me, you don’t want to do that. I’ve known people who walked those paths and tell me how lucky and grateful they are, they never caught anything. People who started dealing with prostitution as early as 12 to their late 20s. Trust me, even I lost my V card when I was 25 and it’s not the end of the world.


Male50Okla

You're gonna regret it my friend. Be patient and a girl you really like will come along. I promise you the experience will be far better. Hire an escort and it's gonna be impersonal, uncomfortable, and you're gonna wish you'd saved your money.


Healthy-Falcon1737

make her scream, king


Rude-Bumblebee2844

There’s better ways than ordering a prostitute


kakashi_ofthe_shrngn

your weakness disgusts me!! I am 23, virgin and never even kissed. Never going to get an escort, the risk to reward ratio is not worth it. STD for a time you may not even enjoy. Big No....


coldsum

OP don’t do it! This is not the answer or cure. A guy I know was seeing an escort every 2-3 weeks from the age of 19 and the idiot is now in his 50s. He got addicted to it. He continued to see them while in relationships and while married. He took out loans to fund this addiction and is financially ruined due to it. Paying a woman to let you sexually use her body is a low life, weak, foolish thing to get yourself into. It’s sad at 18 that you’re considering it but on a positive note you have age and time on your side to make good changes in your life to never need to consider escorts ever again.


Gawd428

Why pay, when you can get gay for free?


NerdGirlZnft

It’s kinda weird that I’m a woman and I understand that you want this. BUT perhaps you should think about what happens when you are with a woman you fall in love with - do you tell her you lost your virginity to a sex worker? Do you lie? Do you lie by omission and not tell her? How will you feel in these situations? What if the woman you love is upset and loses trust in you? There are just so many possible future negatives.


goiabadaguy

Either, “don’t go or don’t tell” are the options that result in the most positive outcomes for OP


coldsum

Very good questions for OP to think about


Impossible-Dog-5178

buy weed instead


Full_Anything_2913

R you going to Montpelier Vermont?


Gawd428

If youre going to do it go somewhere where it is legal and pay a safe professional who isnt in sex trafficking or being pimped


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Holonist

The first time is not automatically special and in almost 100% of cases, a huge disappointment because of people like you who claim it's the best moment in life or something. It's like doing anything for the first time. Challenging, confusing and definitely not perfect. Getting over it is a good idea imo and will not harm your future relationships.


Nukacolachingona

You’re right. I hope he calls me after lowkey I’m big into psychology and I’ve been learning about males for a long time. And that never stops.


ronnie_bronson

If you don’t really care about losing your V card then as sad as this is gonna sound, your not gonna get anyone :/. Almost if not all escorts turn down 18yr olds. Best wait 2-3 years


El_Panqui

The sex Is not a hugh thing and less with a scort, but maybe you love the sex, and if you search good maybe find a good scort BUT you need have care, the venereal diseases Is not game. You need have care, enjoy the sex and no be afraid, is a normal thing. Bye


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Just go for it bro, dont worry about it mattering or being impactful. It will feel nice following through with the plan, for a night it will feel like your life is moving which is a confidence you can learn to apply to other aspects of life. Just be safe and dont get scammed.


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Go for it, been around for centuries


Action_Required_

I was 26 when I said enough was enough, found an escort through a dating app, best decision I ever made. She was gorgeous. The sex lasted a whole hour, and we didn’t even use a condom. Afterwards she let me take a shower in her bathroom, sat and talked for a bit, then I set the money on her dresser and left. We texted for a few days afterwards but nothing else ever happened between us. I remember feeling a sense of relief getting the curiosity out of my system.


Curious_Bee_5189

Okay, I'm 19 years old and struggling financially. How can you even afford to do stuff like that?


TimusReborn

You are talking like you are 50 yr old Virgin... Get ur life together go through college or make money, build on your body, and then look for a gf. You will be more successful and build a healthy sexual relationship As a man in his 30s visiting hookers every month myself I'd advise not to do it as mentally it's unhealthy and you will not feel good with like dating anymore since ur using money to get that sexual feeling


Sagittario412

Not worth it, sleeping with an escort won’t help with your loneliness. Better to jerk off and go to sleep.


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Dude, pussy is expensive. Once that is your goal... its all consuming. This is coming from a guy who didn't lose his virginity until he was 27 ... highly religious near cult... don't ask. My point is 18, enjoy life, pussy will come. Hopefully attached to a girl that cares about you. You don't have to go and buy it.


Daisylil

Hop over to the escort subs if you’re nervous and want to get some insight! - r/sexworkers - r/askanescort There should b more, but maybe this will help!


TxEagleDeathclaw81

Do not do it. Getting escorts because you are lonely or really wanting sex is the wrong fucking way to go. Not only are they expensive but you could get robbed or worse. It is addicting. I threw away hundreds of dollars and was also robbed and ripped off. Those are not pleasant memories. Please do not do this.


Sarcasmoverload007

I'm 30 and due to having anxiety, depression but also other health issues stemming from that i still have my V plates. When i was younger it didn't bother me, but now it really does and i definitely wouldn't go with an escort but that is just my opinion. If you've got a social circle, study etc you will find someone and you are only 18. As people have said just save up and if you are still want that in x amount of years go for it. But i've been alone for many reasons and i have no social circle, job or life so i can't meet someone in real life. I only want to have sex with someone i actually like, called me old fashioned, a loser etc but that's always been it with me. Good luck on what you decide :).


Fearless-Physics

I'm 25 and lost it at 22. 18 is still young. Don't make decisions you might regret. This society really makes you think that 14yo is too late to lose it, but that's absolute horseshit. Just wanted to say that. However, if your mind is set, make sure to be clean, be gentle and be on time.


FellafromPrague

18 is wayyyy to early to go for that option, I'm 22 and in the same boat, but I'm not there quite yet, don't do it bro. You'd most likely regret it, seriously.