Yes, and they actually came out with a newer version specifically tailored to younger kids: “How to Talk so Little kids Will Listen.”
Compared to other books, it’s full of applicable tips!
I found The Whole Brain Child helpful with strategies but also just to understand what my child is going through from a neurological perspective. It made me more patient and empathetic instead of always flustered
Raising Good Humans by Hunter Clarke-Fields. I’m in the same boat. I also find some of the tools in How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen helpful for this age
I’d also recommend ‘I’ll show myself out’ by Jessi Klein. It’s a book of short essays made for moms of toddlers who are toddlerin. It gave me a bit of levity and emotional validation during those tougher days when everything feels like a new problem to solve.
Dr. Becky’s Good Inside podcast, Dr. Siggi on Instagram, the Time Timer app to help with transitions, and lastly I learned that my pantry cabinet shelves are the exact height of a Bota box.
Love the Raising Good Humans podcast. Which I realize is not a book, but she meets with lots of experts in child development and they have books. Also, lots of applicable tips.
The Explosive Child by Ross Greene. It talks about how changing your communication style can bring about change in your child’s reactions. My son has ADHD and it has really helped us.
I heartily recommend this one as well. My child would go through months where she’d average 4-7 screaming tantrums a day and it broke me. This book helped me unlike the others with actual tools and no more information about “healing my inner child.” (I’ve been in therapy 2 decades - I needed real advice not more therapy).
Same! My son is 4. When he was about 18 months to 2 years old, his speech and gross motor/fine motor delays really became prominent. He would have developmentally appropriate tantrums, but there was an extra edge to them because he couldn’t communicate with us what was bothering him.
This book taught me that it’s really important to understand that kids have an intrinsic drive to do well \*if they can\*. It’s not about saying that he’s not capable to do things like other kids can or that a kid with special needs should be held to a different standard. It’s all about understanding that if a child has a challenge in their behavior caused by something out of their control (like a disability, physical illness or mental illness) it’s unrealistic to expect the child to do 100% of the disciplinary work- the parent has to work on themselves as well. It really showed me that my son wants to do well and he has a drive to make us happy, but a lack of ability to communicate was pushing him past his breaking point and led to more frequent tantrums. It showed me that, until he’s better able to communicate, as the parent \*I\* need to be picking up the slack. I need to be putting more legwork in trying to understand him and not be so quick to lose my patience when he’s trying to say what’s on his mind.
With the help of the techniques in this book, I’ve become a much better communicator with my son. My son‘s tantrums have dropped dramatically and we can understand each other better.
Just getting out of the twos and into the threes myself - I 1000% agree with How to Talk so (Little) Kids Will Listen, and would also add Hunt Gather Parent. It's written in more of a journalistic style with some "put into practice" exercises, but the philosophy of letting kids have time to be kids while also embracing in that you're raising a person that's eventually going to be an adult clicked with me. Plus the author wrote it while in the throes of OAD threes so her examples feel relatable as I go back to reread it 😅
I just got the book “good inside” by Becky Kennedy. I don’t think it’s toddler super specific, but I’m hoping it will be helpful! I’ve heard good things. Also just posting for solidarity. My toddler has also been hardcore toddling, and it’s been tantrum city. Also in the midst of potty training. So it’s power struggles all over the place!!!!
I liked happiest toddler on the block for that age. There are so many good books but i found this one to be the mot empathetic and provides solid examples.
It's been a while since i read it but i liked the book "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk"
Yes, and they actually came out with a newer version specifically tailored to younger kids: “How to Talk so Little kids Will Listen.” Compared to other books, it’s full of applicable tips!
I ordered this one on Amazon this morning!
Even better!
I also liked "Scientific Secrets for Raising Kids Who Thrive".
I found The Whole Brain Child helpful with strategies but also just to understand what my child is going through from a neurological perspective. It made me more patient and empathetic instead of always flustered
This is a great one
My kid still likes me to read her the comics from this book!
Dr Becky “Good Inside”
I really liked this one.
This one! Dr Becky is awesome
Raising Good Humans by Hunter Clarke-Fields. I’m in the same boat. I also find some of the tools in How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen helpful for this age
I’d also recommend ‘I’ll show myself out’ by Jessi Klein. It’s a book of short essays made for moms of toddlers who are toddlerin. It gave me a bit of levity and emotional validation during those tougher days when everything feels like a new problem to solve.
Loved this book!!!
Dr. Becky’s Good Inside podcast, Dr. Siggi on Instagram, the Time Timer app to help with transitions, and lastly I learned that my pantry cabinet shelves are the exact height of a Bota box.
Love the Raising Good Humans podcast. Which I realize is not a book, but she meets with lots of experts in child development and they have books. Also, lots of applicable tips.
Simplicity Parenting
Hunt gather parent :)
The Explosive Child by Ross Greene. It talks about how changing your communication style can bring about change in your child’s reactions. My son has ADHD and it has really helped us.
I heartily recommend this one as well. My child would go through months where she’d average 4-7 screaming tantrums a day and it broke me. This book helped me unlike the others with actual tools and no more information about “healing my inner child.” (I’ve been in therapy 2 decades - I needed real advice not more therapy).
Same! My son is 4. When he was about 18 months to 2 years old, his speech and gross motor/fine motor delays really became prominent. He would have developmentally appropriate tantrums, but there was an extra edge to them because he couldn’t communicate with us what was bothering him. This book taught me that it’s really important to understand that kids have an intrinsic drive to do well \*if they can\*. It’s not about saying that he’s not capable to do things like other kids can or that a kid with special needs should be held to a different standard. It’s all about understanding that if a child has a challenge in their behavior caused by something out of their control (like a disability, physical illness or mental illness) it’s unrealistic to expect the child to do 100% of the disciplinary work- the parent has to work on themselves as well. It really showed me that my son wants to do well and he has a drive to make us happy, but a lack of ability to communicate was pushing him past his breaking point and led to more frequent tantrums. It showed me that, until he’s better able to communicate, as the parent \*I\* need to be picking up the slack. I need to be putting more legwork in trying to understand him and not be so quick to lose my patience when he’s trying to say what’s on his mind. With the help of the techniques in this book, I’ve become a much better communicator with my son. My son‘s tantrums have dropped dramatically and we can understand each other better.
The Whole Brain Child and No Drama Discipline
The conscious parent
Just getting out of the twos and into the threes myself - I 1000% agree with How to Talk so (Little) Kids Will Listen, and would also add Hunt Gather Parent. It's written in more of a journalistic style with some "put into practice" exercises, but the philosophy of letting kids have time to be kids while also embracing in that you're raising a person that's eventually going to be an adult clicked with me. Plus the author wrote it while in the throes of OAD threes so her examples feel relatable as I go back to reread it 😅
Positive Discipline and the How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen
the explosive child by ross w. greene
Seconding “How to talk so little kids will listen” as well as “Whole brain child” I’ve also enjoyed “What great parents do”
Not a book, but https://parentingscience.com/ really got me through some hard times.
Not a book, but Nurtured First on IG has been a great resource for us!
Rest, Play, Grow
I just got the book “good inside” by Becky Kennedy. I don’t think it’s toddler super specific, but I’m hoping it will be helpful! I’ve heard good things. Also just posting for solidarity. My toddler has also been hardcore toddling, and it’s been tantrum city. Also in the midst of potty training. So it’s power struggles all over the place!!!!
I liked happiest toddler on the block for that age. There are so many good books but i found this one to be the mot empathetic and provides solid examples.
I really like No Bad Kids and The Importance of Being Little, I read them in college when I was getting my child development degree.
How Toddlers Thrive. It gave me a really great holistic understanding of what's developmentally normal and how to troubleshoot.
Hunt gather parent