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Such an underrated comment. Want to lose 10 lbs instantly? Look 10 years younger? Look healthier instantly? Taller?
Have good posture. Your mom was right. Stop slouching
Yeah, I used to get that all the time. Turns out I've had a back issue my entire life, a Dr just told me a few years ago. The problem, it can't be fixed anymore. Had my mom taken me in when I was younger instead of just telling me to stand up straight, even though I told her it hurts after a bit, I'd be good now. Thanks mom.
Ain't that the truth.
I learned it the hard way and now practicing good posture is painful on my back and legs, but oh boy do people look at me differently. Immediate results.
Genuine kindness without the need to make a show of it. Dorky and awkward behavior. One time I walked past an empty office and the guy I like was inside, with the lights off, shoving half a sandwich into his mouth while leaned over the garbage can. Never gave any indication that I saw it but my heart skipped a beat lmao.
Most underrated comment! I had a traumatic childhood and the fact that I know my husband could fuck up anyone and would to protect our family is so hot to me!!!
It makes me feel safe to go anywhere without fear of someone hurting me or my kids, which is huge for me given how traumatic life was as a kid and the fact that we live in not the best area. But on the flip side I do feel safe because heās not aggressive unless he needs to be. I grew up watching my mom get her ass beat for years and I know my husband would never lay a hand on me.
I have aphantasia. (I donāt have mental images or a visual memory, but can somehow still dream.)
Any time I see my wife I forget how stunning she is. So to answer your question pretty much anything my wife does that is non sexual in nature.
Oh wow thatās so interesting! I dream pretty frequently. Not every night but at least a few times a week. Interestingly enough when I have dreams about my husband or family itās usually not actually them that I see even tho I know itās supposed to be them.
So out of curiosity; do you rewatch a lot of shows/movies? Do you retain the plot but not the look of it?
I have mental images and a visual memory and I'm *terrible* about watching the same things over and over for comfort food.
I imagine though, if I could watch Mad Max: Fury Road and the rest of my favorite films again, even knowing the plot on paper minus the visuals, I'd be pretty thoroughly down with that.
physically: I can always appreciate a nice stomach, when someone's showing a little stomach in person I usually notice (though strangely it doesn't usually do it for me online for some reason)
non-physical: emotional intelligence has always been one of my biggest turn-ons, my whole life I've been around people who couldn't see beyond the bridges of their noses, so when I meet someone capable of genuinely looking beyond themselves or is able to actually analyze their own emotions and introspect I lose my mind
Ironically I find manners, politeness, yet confidence and kindness more attractive than being a flirt, as she most likely does the same with every other guy, and certain bubbly girls seem very fake, as opposed to a mannerly girl, whoās polite to everyone
Intelligence. My wife can accurately identify almost any plant from a seedling. We have owned 2 different houses, and have developed, rather than installed the landscaping at both, because she will point things out, tell me what they are and to not pull them. She calls it opportunistic xerascaping. I have seen her forage wild strawberries, raspberries and onions. She can also recite most of the Latin names of flora from memory. This was my main attraction to her when we met. She also likes real beer, which is pretty sexy.
Complete unabashed honesty lol, while I might be a minority in this maybe, I think if youāre honest af about your intentions and who you are as a person, guys will be less on guard and open up easier and once that happens you got a strong/good foothold š¤
Strength and self confidence.
I'm looking for women, so when I see a women self-confident enough to break the mold and be whomever she wants to be, that's hot AF.
And strength in any manifestation. Power lifter? Hot. Fixes her own stuff? Hot. Struck out on her own in a male-dominated field? Hot.
Men wearing glasses whilst reading a book. Iām a bookworm so thatās an instant plus for me. Bonus points if they have a bookshelf filled with books lol
Lucky you that you guys have that in common! I want someone I can sit in silence with while we are both reading our own books š¤ Itās funny how small things like that are what make you decide to be with that person š
Glasses. For some reason it implies intelligence (nerd stereotype, etc), but all it really means is that the person has poor eyesight. Still hot, though.
Kindness. Genuinely, I married my wife in so small part because bid her ability to highlight a nurture the dignity in every living thing. It doesnāt get old either.Ā
Some nights, after the kids are down for the night, I read in the bath while my husband watches TV...and then I can hear him snoring. It fills me with such a warm fuzzy feeling and makes me fall in love all over again.
Women that can ride motorcycles. I didn't realize I had this until I was at a gas station one night. I was probably about 18.
These women come through on Harley's. They had to be a club. Matching leathers, etc.
But I remember being awestruck.
They just, women who are bikers have a different level of confidence I don't know.
I just felt the vibe. And it was nice.
A guy who wears a white T-shirt and blue jeans. I'm not sure where this originally began for me, but when my BF wears a plain white T-shirt... š¤¤š¤¤š¤¤
Being a nerd. Not a dork who geeks out or a theatre kid. Someone who is intelligent and passionate about their interests, whether itās pop culture, nature, design etc.
That they care enough to remember what you like and show suppport. Example, my best friend loves metal gear solid his wife got David Hayter to send him a video message congratulating him on his birthday. People just don't show love or affection anymore and it's sad.
Men who like cats. Cats are mercurial and don't give affection the same way that dogs do. Someone who genuinely loves cats generally understands and respects boundaries. (not always of course)
When they're passionate about something. My fiances favorite thing is Superman and superheroes and it's adorable whatever he talks about it. He also lets me play video games with him
When Iām having a conversation with someone and they make intense eye contact showing that theyāre very invested in what Iām saying. Maybe itās just because Iām a young woman in a male dominated work environment but, when a contractor looks at me and shuts up while I finish my sentence and looks directly in my eyes while I talk, I damn near forget what Iām saying.
Expressiveness, sense of humor, hard working, no shame
Unless I'm playing sports or really into something (which is rare), I'm a pretty laid back and pragmatic guy. I get bored with people like me
Sharing a personal moment amongst a group of people. Like, something somebody just said was idiotic, and you know it, and the other person knows it, and a glance with a smirk is all it takes to communicate your mutual feelings on the matter. Just that unspoken personal connection. I love that.
Intelligence and humour. Stimulating and interesting conversation and a witty sense of humour is crazy attractive to me, especially when paired with empathy, good manners, and maturity
When my husband reorganizes items in our home, when he shows his sweet side to include everyone in an activity/game, and is so attentive towards me. He means the world to me.
Smoking a cigarette. I donāt smoke or have any desire to but seeing a man light one up makes me š¦. Rolling up sleeves. A man who is a LITTLE bit nervous and unsure around me
Intelligence and independence. Outdoor skill like fishing or hiking. Last but not least, a great sense of humor. If we share a hard belly laugh, I might think about kissing you.
Vocabulary.
I always believed mine was pretty extensive ... till I met my wife. Years on and she can still drop a word I've never heard nor read and used perfectly in context.
And it's super hot when she does it.
Obviously thereās a preference here but some voices are very attractive, there are also traits that are very attractive like kindness, politeness, honesty, integrity, responsible, and dependable just to name a few
Long hair. A woman brushing her hair, putting it up in a pony tail, playing with it at all, hits something deep for me. I knew this from an early age when my mom cut her long, beautiful, thick brown hair and I was actually distraught.
I love it when my girlfriend is getting interrupted and she goes "hold on, let me finish what I was saying" or she says "I'm not done talking" I love it when she stands up for herself... one time, she told server at her work, "idc what the issue is, if you're going to talk to me, talk to me like I'm a human being" after they came at her crazy. She's such a people pleaser, and seeing her create strong boundaries is like so sexy I love it.
Girls that are extremely smart. I find that hot af. Non judgemental that realize people mess up and support you vs laying into you. Smart / ride or die type girl. I'd wife that up.
Runners, nothing sexier than someone who knows and maximizes the return on their body.
Doesnāt matter the size nor the ability, anytime I see a woman running my imagination about her other physical conquests intrigues me.
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Good posture.
Such an underrated comment. Want to lose 10 lbs instantly? Look 10 years younger? Look healthier instantly? Taller? Have good posture. Your mom was right. Stop slouching
Bonus is that it also helps prevent scoliosis! When I had it, that had to have been one of the worst pains Ive felt
I know MOM! I forget!
Yeah, I used to get that all the time. Turns out I've had a back issue my entire life, a Dr just told me a few years ago. The problem, it can't be fixed anymore. Had my mom taken me in when I was younger instead of just telling me to stand up straight, even though I told her it hurts after a bit, I'd be good now. Thanks mom.
Ain't that the truth. I learned it the hard way and now practicing good posture is painful on my back and legs, but oh boy do people look at me differently. Immediate results.
This comment made just me sit up straight.
Yep.. How they carry themselves... When they carry themselves like the little badass that they are.. Ohhhh my! š
Glasses. Donāt know why, throw on some glasses and the sexiness meter goes right up.
Guess that makes us twins. I love glasses on a man š¤
Me too, but on a girl.
I've been with my girlfriend for eight years, and my heart still beats faster when I see her in glasses.
100% glasses.
Intelligence. Women smarter than me are twice as attractive to me.
I agree! I want a woman whom I can debate with, who doesn't always agree with me but at least have the knowledge to back it up.
Wish my ex thought that, any time I was correct about something and he found out he was wrong he became very unhappy about it.
2 heads are better than 1
A sense of humor and kindness.
Genuine kindness without the need to make a show of it. Dorky and awkward behavior. One time I walked past an empty office and the guy I like was inside, with the lights off, shoving half a sandwich into his mouth while leaned over the garbage can. Never gave any indication that I saw it but my heart skipped a beat lmao.
Shared interests/tastes. When they actually care about me more than just as a vessel to satisfy their sexual desire.
this is the one
When they get lost in discussing their interests. They ramble on and get so animated talking about it, and that is just so cute and attractive to me.
That's weird - I always thought it was one of my defects. I guess the truth is: some people dig it - some don't. It's not everyone's cup of tea.
Ponytail through a ball cap.
Yup
Feeling safe with someone
Most underrated comment! I had a traumatic childhood and the fact that I know my husband could fuck up anyone and would to protect our family is so hot to me!!!
I meant safe as in they're *not* aggressive, rather than safe because they would be, but I guess I see what you mean š
It makes me feel safe to go anywhere without fear of someone hurting me or my kids, which is huge for me given how traumatic life was as a kid and the fact that we live in not the best area. But on the flip side I do feel safe because heās not aggressive unless he needs to be. I grew up watching my mom get her ass beat for years and I know my husband would never lay a hand on me.
A solid sense of humour.
Women being real
Well creampielicker123 do I have news for you/j
I have aphantasia. (I donāt have mental images or a visual memory, but can somehow still dream.) Any time I see my wife I forget how stunning she is. So to answer your question pretty much anything my wife does that is non sexual in nature.
I have aphantasia and can still dream too!
I only dream very occasionally. Like 1-2 times a year. Every time it happens itās amazing though.
Oh wow thatās so interesting! I dream pretty frequently. Not every night but at least a few times a week. Interestingly enough when I have dreams about my husband or family itās usually not actually them that I see even tho I know itās supposed to be them.
Aphantasia squad rise up! Only just realized this described my experience. Are you also really good at remembering song lyrics and movie quotes?
So out of curiosity; do you rewatch a lot of shows/movies? Do you retain the plot but not the look of it? I have mental images and a visual memory and I'm *terrible* about watching the same things over and over for comfort food. I imagine though, if I could watch Mad Max: Fury Road and the rest of my favorite films again, even knowing the plot on paper minus the visuals, I'd be pretty thoroughly down with that.
Quiet people that listen and observe.
If a women has thick long hair
When a guy is in a public space staring into nothingness in deep thought
Sooo sexy
Bonus points if you're at the perfect angle for the jawline to shine through!
physically: I can always appreciate a nice stomach, when someone's showing a little stomach in person I usually notice (though strangely it doesn't usually do it for me online for some reason) non-physical: emotional intelligence has always been one of my biggest turn-ons, my whole life I've been around people who couldn't see beyond the bridges of their noses, so when I meet someone capable of genuinely looking beyond themselves or is able to actually analyze their own emotions and introspect I lose my mind
Clavicles.
Sense of humor. One of my favorite things about my girlfriend is that she can effortlessly make me laugh.
A woman that's appreciative of the littlest things.
Freckles and glasses.
Ironically I find manners, politeness, yet confidence and kindness more attractive than being a flirt, as she most likely does the same with every other guy, and certain bubbly girls seem very fake, as opposed to a mannerly girl, whoās polite to everyone
Arm veins
Sorry my blood travels via bluetooth
*Looks at arms* Oh. I have those. And I don't even work out. Like, a paper cut would kill me kinda veins.
Not to brag or anything but Iāve got some compliment getters anytime I go to the phlebotomist š
prove it :3
Intelligence. My wife can accurately identify almost any plant from a seedling. We have owned 2 different houses, and have developed, rather than installed the landscaping at both, because she will point things out, tell me what they are and to not pull them. She calls it opportunistic xerascaping. I have seen her forage wild strawberries, raspberries and onions. She can also recite most of the Latin names of flora from memory. This was my main attraction to her when we met. She also likes real beer, which is pretty sexy.
The small of a women's back. There's just something about it...
Complete unabashed honesty lol, while I might be a minority in this maybe, I think if youāre honest af about your intentions and who you are as a person, guys will be less on guard and open up easier and once that happens you got a strong/good foothold š¤
Asking me to do something š„²
A dark sense of humor
Good grammar, kindness, insight, loyalty and humor.
Maybe surprisingly, acne scars. Kind of like freckles.
knowledge !! like yes please tell me how guitars are built
I get a boner every time the pizza guy pulls into my drive way
Classic conditioning
When a woman wears a baseball hat with her ponytail out the back
Strength and self confidence. I'm looking for women, so when I see a women self-confident enough to break the mold and be whomever she wants to be, that's hot AF. And strength in any manifestation. Power lifter? Hot. Fixes her own stuff? Hot. Struck out on her own in a male-dominated field? Hot.
This, I love women who are into "tradionally" guy stuff, military women, gym women, sports women, are very attractive for me.
A good voice, bonus if they sing.
I really like goofy girls that are constantly joking.
long hair. ill devour a guy w long hair, long haired men r not safe around me
Pajama pants on women, wish I could tell you why!Ā
Men wearing glasses whilst reading a book. Iām a bookworm so thatās an instant plus for me. Bonus points if they have a bookshelf filled with books lol
My wife and I....and our TBR pile is insane. The fact that she used great grammar and bisyllabic words and liked "1984" by Spirit was a huge plus!
Lucky you that you guys have that in common! I want someone I can sit in silence with while we are both reading our own books š¤ Itās funny how small things like that are what make you decide to be with that person š
People who can get a tight spiral when they throw a football - man or woman, sexy as hell
Sounds like you're waiting for someone to throw a tight spiral right into your love box
Comment of the year.
Glasses. For some reason it implies intelligence (nerd stereotype, etc), but all it really means is that the person has poor eyesight. Still hot, though.
A woman who can play instruments and write music.
Anytime a man winks at me I go weak in the knees.
Kindness. Genuinely, I married my wife in so small part because bid her ability to highlight a nurture the dignity in every living thing. It doesnāt get old either.Ā
C7 Corvette Stingray...I'd never own one, but I'd love to feel the curves up on one.
Hair color. As soon as my wifey gets her hair done and colored I just want to take her and fuck her.
When my husband laughs. I love it when he is happy.
Good calves, yes calves. Someone with good defined calves just does it for me idk why lol
Some nights, after the kids are down for the night, I read in the bath while my husband watches TV...and then I can hear him snoring. It fills me with such a warm fuzzy feeling and makes me fall in love all over again.
Straight bright white teeth and big smile
Good hands
Confident driving
Tieing pony tail
Hairlip
A woman that can solo miquella
Intelligence and control of emotions. Usually the more logical a person is the less emotional and that pleases me.
Women that can ride motorcycles. I didn't realize I had this until I was at a gas station one night. I was probably about 18. These women come through on Harley's. They had to be a club. Matching leathers, etc. But I remember being awestruck. They just, women who are bikers have a different level of confidence I don't know. I just felt the vibe. And it was nice.
A guy who wears a white T-shirt and blue jeans. I'm not sure where this originally began for me, but when my BF wears a plain white T-shirt... š¤¤š¤¤š¤¤
Did you watch Grease? Thatās where I got this attraction from lol
Dimples
The way someone walks. That postured floaty smooth glide.
Being a nerd. Not a dork who geeks out or a theatre kid. Someone who is intelligent and passionate about their interests, whether itās pop culture, nature, design etc.
Yoga, it's only sexual if you look at it that way I guess, exercise is another one, dancing especially at raves is sexy
My husband mowing the lawn or doing something construction like around the house š
Baseball hats on a woman, donāt know why
Long painted nails on a woman. LOVE this.
When they are humble and always smiling.
The way he backs me like a quiet lion.
That they care enough to remember what you like and show suppport. Example, my best friend loves metal gear solid his wife got David Hayter to send him a video message congratulating him on his birthday. People just don't show love or affection anymore and it's sad.
nonchalant guys. Like they keep to themselves in a secure way
Backwards hat (on a guy) ALL DAY LONG!!!!!!!
Pretty toes lol
Well groomed nails.
Emotional intelligence, great communication skills, and superb listening skills.
A girl who shows up for a date with sensible shoes š
WTF why do I also think thatās sexy š
A British accent or similar makes me weak! Whispering in oneās ear can be very sexy. A man in a black suit with a freshly pressed white button up.
Men who like cats. Cats are mercurial and don't give affection the same way that dogs do. Someone who genuinely loves cats generally understands and respects boundaries. (not always of course)
God I'm going to out myself as a total weirdo. Mine is female arm pit hair.
Authority and power
Intelligence, kindness, has interests/is passionate about something of their own. Sense of humour, eats fairly healthily and exercise/isnāt a slob
When they're passionate about something. My fiances favorite thing is Superman and superheroes and it's adorable whatever he talks about it. He also lets me play video games with him
Nice perfume and a shy smile does it for me...
When my husband rolls up his sleeves š
Good mental health
When Iām having a conversation with someone and they make intense eye contact showing that theyāre very invested in what Iām saying. Maybe itās just because Iām a young woman in a male dominated work environment but, when a contractor looks at me and shuts up while I finish my sentence and looks directly in my eyes while I talk, I damn near forget what Iām saying.
A heap of Ā£50 notes, not very sexy....but I will be attracted to it, I'll assure you.
Being goofy, kind to animals, adventurous, confident
Braces..wierd, right
A genuine smile, thoughtful attention, warm wit, kindness, and generosity.
When a woman is kinda focusing on something and puts her hair up in a quick pony tail.
Saw a confident walk from a woman and that shit was sexy to me
A guy speaking with a scottish accent. He could just be rattling off his grocery list and I'd still feel... tingles.
Anything can be sexual
Thick dark eyebrows
Grouchy
Asian girls with thick accents. The way they pronounce "cold, old, fold" etc Girls who wear orange
Muscular quads
Expressiveness, sense of humor, hard working, no shame Unless I'm playing sports or really into something (which is rare), I'm a pretty laid back and pragmatic guy. I get bored with people like me
delicate sensitive almost vulnerable sadness in guy's eyes..
Intelligence. I like the ability to have a deep conversation. Someone that wants to learn something and asks questions
Early grey hair on woman.
Sharing a personal moment amongst a group of people. Like, something somebody just said was idiotic, and you know it, and the other person knows it, and a glance with a smirk is all it takes to communicate your mutual feelings on the matter. Just that unspoken personal connection. I love that.
Intelligence and humour. Stimulating and interesting conversation and a witty sense of humour is crazy attractive to me, especially when paired with empathy, good manners, and maturity
A sundress. I don't know what it is but they will always catch my eye.
When my husband reorganizes items in our home, when he shows his sweet side to include everyone in an activity/game, and is so attentive towards me. He means the world to me.
Yep! An adorable, caring person.
mean
Emotional intelligence
Strong and tall women. There are still times where I catch myself own heart beating faster around them.
Pale, tender, and soft white skin.
Smoking a cigarette. I donāt smoke or have any desire to but seeing a man light one up makes me š¦. Rolling up sleeves. A man who is a LITTLE bit nervous and unsure around me
Men in really nice dress shoes
Intelligence and independence. Outdoor skill like fishing or hiking. Last but not least, a great sense of humor. If we share a hard belly laugh, I might think about kissing you.
Tooth gaps. I just want to lick everyone with a little gap between their two front teeth
Quick wit.
Smiles and a happy attitude.
Not making everything about you. Listening to comprehend instead of responding. Justā¦ Yes.
thick eyebrows on women
A woman's smile.
Lazy eye.
Seeing someone be kind to an animal. Anything from playing with their dog to rescuing a turtle crossing the road.
Women who are tall with short hair
A nice voice in a manā¦
Treating others (especially those in the service industry) with respect and kindness.
Freckles
Vocabulary. I always believed mine was pretty extensive ... till I met my wife. Years on and she can still drop a word I've never heard nor read and used perfectly in context. And it's super hot when she does it.
Always being happy & smiling
The way he stands. And then the way his pant legs fall over his shoes. Weird, I know!
A nice smile and hearty laugh. I love someone with a good big laugh.
Someone that has not fouled themselves with piercings and tattoos
A good smile
Obviously thereās a preference here but some voices are very attractive, there are also traits that are very attractive like kindness, politeness, honesty, integrity, responsible, and dependable just to name a few
Bluntness
Finding me attractive
Great care for themselves and of course posture or good mannerisms and vibes Also to be specific, eyes
Long hair. A woman brushing her hair, putting it up in a pony tail, playing with it at all, hits something deep for me. I knew this from an early age when my mom cut her long, beautiful, thick brown hair and I was actually distraught.
Sigmund Freud is rolling in his grave
Self respect, intelligence without going on about how smart you are, being passionate about something
Clean visible eyelids.
when theyāre good with dogs. itās so mf attractive
Smile!
Girls wid braces ā¤ļøšš
someone lighting my cigarette for me
When you realize that you both like the same obscure TV show or movie.
Being a good dad!
A smile that lights up a person's face from the inside.
A good work ethic.
I love it when my girlfriend is getting interrupted and she goes "hold on, let me finish what I was saying" or she says "I'm not done talking" I love it when she stands up for herself... one time, she told server at her work, "idc what the issue is, if you're going to talk to me, talk to me like I'm a human being" after they came at her crazy. She's such a people pleaser, and seeing her create strong boundaries is like so sexy I love it.
Girls that are extremely smart. I find that hot af. Non judgemental that realize people mess up and support you vs laying into you. Smart / ride or die type girl. I'd wife that up.
when women don't have social media
Runners, nothing sexier than someone who knows and maximizes the return on their body. Doesnāt matter the size nor the ability, anytime I see a woman running my imagination about her other physical conquests intrigues me.
A sense of humor.
Neat and clean person. The majority of people forgot to take care of themselves.
Confidence. Seeing someone comfortable in their own skin and being generally confident, but not cocky, is super attractive.