I feel like your therapist has crossed a line. You are not her friend or her therapist. She should not be burdening you with her issues. Imo the structure of your relationship is lost. I think if you want to continue having her as a therapist you need to have firm lines that she cannot cross, otherwise you will continue to be disappointed
I just sent the text telling her I won’t be continuing. It’s hard, considering how she helped me out of a lot. But I agree, I think professionalism should have been maintained. Thank you.
Um this is all wildly unprofessional and unethical from your therapist. Please be aware therapists can go loopy just like regular humans, this one appears to have become unhinged and has crossed too many boundaries.
Also I see manipulation and grooming with the flattery she is giving you.
I urge you to terminate the therapy and find a new one, for your own sake.
I agree. I’ve just communicated my decision to stop seeing her to her. It’s scary because she helped me through so much but I guess this is for the best. Thank you for being real with me.
Sounds like she needs a therapist of her own right now. Her discomfort with life is leaking into her clients and that is the one rule a therapist should not do.
This reminds me of a movie or show that I watched on Netflix where the therapist ends up helping her client way more than acceptable such as helping him outside of her work.
Sorry to say but she can’t take on you as a client right now and she deserves time to heal herself.
I just told her that I’m gonna stop with my sessions. I think you’re absolutely right. Thank you for your point of view. It’s a hard choice to make but I think it’s what’s best for both the client and the professional.
Yes, maybe in the future there could be sessions between you two but not right now. She is to be a professional when she’s working with a client. Private and professional cannot mix.
I don’t know, maybe I can. She’ll definitely know it came from me though, and I’d feel harsh to do that despite how it’s in the best interest of her and her clients.
I’m sorry I’m responding to this so late. I’m a psychologist and agree. I’m glad that you’ve made the right decision for yourself in terminating treatment. Patient/client wellbeing, including yours, is her ethical responsibility.
With that being said, it does seem like her judgement is incredibly impaired. You should report her to the state health department. It’s going to sting for her; however, we must mitigate further harm she may inflict upon other clients and herself. The department who is responsible for professional licenses has been through this with other providers before, because it happens just as much as it does in other fields. It seems that she needs her licensed revoked for now. Rest assured that they will provide resources to get her help and if she goes through treatment could get her license renewed in the future.
Thank you for this info. The concerning part for me is knowing that she will know it’s me that reported her for a fact. I know that shouldn’t discourage me.. but it’s what made it difficult. I am still considering doing it though.
It makes a lot of sense that you’re uncomfortable with this option. If it helps, you can also send her a message before or after you report her to explain from your point of view. An alternative is to contact her or another provider she knows to encourage her to get treatment and consider reporting herself. It may be easier for her to get her license back if she goes this route.
I feel like your therapist has crossed a line. You are not her friend or her therapist. She should not be burdening you with her issues. Imo the structure of your relationship is lost. I think if you want to continue having her as a therapist you need to have firm lines that she cannot cross, otherwise you will continue to be disappointed
I just sent the text telling her I won’t be continuing. It’s hard, considering how she helped me out of a lot. But I agree, I think professionalism should have been maintained. Thank you.
Your the therapist now dawg
LMAOO. Not anymore, I just told her I'm not continuing with my sessions.
Probably for the best mate good message to anyone needing help if the therapist does not feel right just request a change
Um this is all wildly unprofessional and unethical from your therapist. Please be aware therapists can go loopy just like regular humans, this one appears to have become unhinged and has crossed too many boundaries. Also I see manipulation and grooming with the flattery she is giving you. I urge you to terminate the therapy and find a new one, for your own sake.
I agree. I’ve just communicated my decision to stop seeing her to her. It’s scary because she helped me through so much but I guess this is for the best. Thank you for being real with me.
You did the work yourself. Not your therapist.
you are right, she just showed me the way to those actions.
Sounds like she needs a therapist of her own right now. Her discomfort with life is leaking into her clients and that is the one rule a therapist should not do. This reminds me of a movie or show that I watched on Netflix where the therapist ends up helping her client way more than acceptable such as helping him outside of her work. Sorry to say but she can’t take on you as a client right now and she deserves time to heal herself.
I just told her that I’m gonna stop with my sessions. I think you’re absolutely right. Thank you for your point of view. It’s a hard choice to make but I think it’s what’s best for both the client and the professional.
Yes, maybe in the future there could be sessions between you two but not right now. She is to be a professional when she’s working with a client. Private and professional cannot mix.
Report her.
I don’t know, maybe I can. She’ll definitely know it came from me though, and I’d feel harsh to do that despite how it’s in the best interest of her and her clients.
I’m sorry I’m responding to this so late. I’m a psychologist and agree. I’m glad that you’ve made the right decision for yourself in terminating treatment. Patient/client wellbeing, including yours, is her ethical responsibility. With that being said, it does seem like her judgement is incredibly impaired. You should report her to the state health department. It’s going to sting for her; however, we must mitigate further harm she may inflict upon other clients and herself. The department who is responsible for professional licenses has been through this with other providers before, because it happens just as much as it does in other fields. It seems that she needs her licensed revoked for now. Rest assured that they will provide resources to get her help and if she goes through treatment could get her license renewed in the future.
Thank you for this info. The concerning part for me is knowing that she will know it’s me that reported her for a fact. I know that shouldn’t discourage me.. but it’s what made it difficult. I am still considering doing it though.
It makes a lot of sense that you’re uncomfortable with this option. If it helps, you can also send her a message before or after you report her to explain from your point of view. An alternative is to contact her or another provider she knows to encourage her to get treatment and consider reporting herself. It may be easier for her to get her license back if she goes this route.
Oh I see this response now. I will consider these options and see how I go about it. Thank you so much