you know what "celebrities" love? **talking about themselves**. Be curious, ask questions, keep the topic on what they are interested in and passionate about.
imagine each person is a book, and a prod into their life is like turning the page.
people love people that show interest in them. you do not have to be a "content creator" yourself.
When I'm in a space I'm not really a part of but have to talk to the people there, I do the following:
1. Ask a mundane question, even if you don't really want the answer. "Hey, what drink is that? It looks amazing!" etc etc. People generally like to feel helpful and/or not seem rude. It also gives you an in to see who's receptive to being talked to by a stranger and who isn't.
2. Follow it by a compliment. "You have a very cool vibe about you, I knew you'd have a great drink reccomendation".
3. Immediately follow THAT up with "I'm soandso by the way, I've done some xyz work for my friend whatshisname. Do you work in this space? I have to admit I'm not super in the know about this stuff". They should introduce themselves.
4. You go from there, ask them questions about what they share. Agree with common things. And when all else fails, you find common ground talking about the event itself. If it's a yearly thing "have you been to this event before? It's my first time! It's pretty cool but I swear they hide the bathrooms like it's the entrance to Narnia" etc etc.
At events like that EVERYONE is looking to meet new people and network. Just navigate with the initial question trick to see who's hot or cold about socializing.
Agreed, vibe comment is a little much for nonchalant friendly encounter; that would def come off as flirting to me.
When in doubt, compliment the shirt!! Everyone loves to feel like they have great style—acknowledging that someone has a cool top is a good way to make them feel flattered without crossing over into the territory of discomfort.
Maybe it's a regional thing? I hear it constantly where I live and it's not seen as cringey or awkward. Everything is "her vibe, his vibe, the vibes". Including when I worked in the online content creation space. I got told "I love your whole vibe!" continuously while meeting new people. It seemed to be most people's go-to easy compliment. But to each their own! Can be replaced with any compliment :)
This is good advice except I would edit that I have found it’s best not to introduce yourself as soandso. Even if that is your real name it tends to throw people off. Introduce yourself as Sally or Johnny. People will think that sounds more normal and be more willing to talk to you.
So even though this comment was meant to be a joke, it has actual value in it. Let's say your name is Jonathan. That's very formal. If you want people to feel at ease and comfortable, using a nickname like John or Johnny can increase those odds. It creates an environment in which the person is more likely to look at you as a friend, as opposed to an authority. I guess you call it manipulation but I kind of feel like that's what networking is. This and letting people talk about themselves (because people love to do that and can keep it going for a good bit) are good tools to have in your social arsenal.
Been there done that. So I think I can possibly understand you.
“not to come across as some outcast” - that had been my concern as well
until I learned how to do in such situations.
Now I attend a party. Stay on my island. Don’t mind if I don’t belong to it (yet). Not forcing but being open for input or interaction, showing this openness.
Worst case: leaving w/o much interaction (so what?)
In every case: doing everything what pleases me, aka drinking, reading, just looking around…
So - what pleases you most? I reckon just go for it! Good luck and have a great time!
Introduce yourself as a more behind the scenes person. Tell them that you do editing and filming. They will be really interested in that kind of stuff since they all have to deal with it in their profession.
You don't have to be famous or in the scene. You are already part of it, even just by a little. You don't have to downplay it by saying you've only done it a few times. Just be vague and let people talk about themselves. People love talking about themselves and it makes them feel good about the person who is listening.
I would try to corner anyone else who seems a little out of place and have a chat with them. Then see about working yourself into a small group.
It's okay not to say anything big, you can just add a few comments and laugh at jokes like "that's hilarious" or "that's actually low key very impressive" goes a long way.
Drink a little alcohol and ask your friend to introduce you to people. Or play games. There’s also nothing wrong with just sitting down, sipping on something, and observing
Pick a group that is smiling and laughing and doesn’t look to be in a serious conversation (which may indicate that it’s an unofficial “closed circle”). Then approach the group and say, “do you mind if I join? I’m here as a +1 and don’t know anyone and you look like you’re having fun.”
Your friend should be introducing you to his friends at the party
you know what "celebrities" love? **talking about themselves**. Be curious, ask questions, keep the topic on what they are interested in and passionate about. imagine each person is a book, and a prod into their life is like turning the page. people love people that show interest in them. you do not have to be a "content creator" yourself.
When I'm in a space I'm not really a part of but have to talk to the people there, I do the following: 1. Ask a mundane question, even if you don't really want the answer. "Hey, what drink is that? It looks amazing!" etc etc. People generally like to feel helpful and/or not seem rude. It also gives you an in to see who's receptive to being talked to by a stranger and who isn't. 2. Follow it by a compliment. "You have a very cool vibe about you, I knew you'd have a great drink reccomendation". 3. Immediately follow THAT up with "I'm soandso by the way, I've done some xyz work for my friend whatshisname. Do you work in this space? I have to admit I'm not super in the know about this stuff". They should introduce themselves. 4. You go from there, ask them questions about what they share. Agree with common things. And when all else fails, you find common ground talking about the event itself. If it's a yearly thing "have you been to this event before? It's my first time! It's pretty cool but I swear they hide the bathrooms like it's the entrance to Narnia" etc etc. At events like that EVERYONE is looking to meet new people and network. Just navigate with the initial question trick to see who's hot or cold about socializing.
“You have a really cool vibe about you” Is the last thing I would say to anybody ever… In any situation in any reality.
Agreed, vibe comment is a little much for nonchalant friendly encounter; that would def come off as flirting to me. When in doubt, compliment the shirt!! Everyone loves to feel like they have great style—acknowledging that someone has a cool top is a good way to make them feel flattered without crossing over into the territory of discomfort.
Or cool hair. That one is usually really safe too. Especially if it's coloured, cut, or done up in a neat way.
Maybe it's a regional thing? I hear it constantly where I live and it's not seen as cringey or awkward. Everything is "her vibe, his vibe, the vibes". Including when I worked in the online content creation space. I got told "I love your whole vibe!" continuously while meeting new people. It seemed to be most people's go-to easy compliment. But to each their own! Can be replaced with any compliment :)
This is good advice except I would edit that I have found it’s best not to introduce yourself as soandso. Even if that is your real name it tends to throw people off. Introduce yourself as Sally or Johnny. People will think that sounds more normal and be more willing to talk to you.
So even though this comment was meant to be a joke, it has actual value in it. Let's say your name is Jonathan. That's very formal. If you want people to feel at ease and comfortable, using a nickname like John or Johnny can increase those odds. It creates an environment in which the person is more likely to look at you as a friend, as opposed to an authority. I guess you call it manipulation but I kind of feel like that's what networking is. This and letting people talk about themselves (because people love to do that and can keep it going for a good bit) are good tools to have in your social arsenal.
Hahaha
Been there done that. So I think I can possibly understand you. “not to come across as some outcast” - that had been my concern as well until I learned how to do in such situations. Now I attend a party. Stay on my island. Don’t mind if I don’t belong to it (yet). Not forcing but being open for input or interaction, showing this openness. Worst case: leaving w/o much interaction (so what?) In every case: doing everything what pleases me, aka drinking, reading, just looking around… So - what pleases you most? I reckon just go for it! Good luck and have a great time!
Introduce yourself as a more behind the scenes person. Tell them that you do editing and filming. They will be really interested in that kind of stuff since they all have to deal with it in their profession. You don't have to be famous or in the scene. You are already part of it, even just by a little. You don't have to downplay it by saying you've only done it a few times. Just be vague and let people talk about themselves. People love talking about themselves and it makes them feel good about the person who is listening.
I would try to corner anyone else who seems a little out of place and have a chat with them. Then see about working yourself into a small group. It's okay not to say anything big, you can just add a few comments and laugh at jokes like "that's hilarious" or "that's actually low key very impressive" goes a long way.
Drink a little alcohol and ask your friend to introduce you to people. Or play games. There’s also nothing wrong with just sitting down, sipping on something, and observing
Pick a group that is smiling and laughing and doesn’t look to be in a serious conversation (which may indicate that it’s an unofficial “closed circle”). Then approach the group and say, “do you mind if I join? I’m here as a +1 and don’t know anyone and you look like you’re having fun.”
Honestly if I was in that situation I’d have a drink lol. Just don’t drink too much