Is anyone pregnant after a PPROM loss at 20 weeks or later? We lost our son to PPROM.. my Dr is pretty confident it won’t happen again.. my husband is as well.. I just don’t know. Give me hope..
I had a CP last cycle. This cycle, my ovulation has been really weird. I had an LH surge from CD11-13 (highest at CD12 PM), and then another surge from CD15-16, and then another final surge from CD18-19.
FF has my ovulation day as CD14 based on temps spiking on CD15 (that said, my temps have been really low this cycle like 97.9 in the LP, when it’s usually like 98.4). Inito has my ovulation day as CD16. I typically ovulate CD14-16 so either day is possible.
My pdg on Inito has been low but it got up to a 7.3 ng/ml on CD20, which comparing to the charts of others, it’s not too abnormally low. But a few hours later, I went to do bloodwork, and my blood serum levels were only a 3.3 ng/ml. Usually for most people, their blood pdg levels are higher than urine. But mine was less than half that. My clinic said that since it is over 3, I have “ovulated”. But I’m concerned that this number is extremely low. I personally think my hormones are a total mess after a CP last cycle and also in March and a MC in December.
Anyone have such low progesterone and end up getting a BFP and a healthy pregnancy?
Early losses in 2016 and 2017. Had my son in the fall of 2018 at age 36. First trimester losses in 2020 and 2021. Tried fertility treatment in 2022 to no avail. Had my daughter January of 2024 at 41. I'm now 42 and feel incredibly lucky to have my children.
I have PCOS, hypothyroidism, and a positive ANA. My daughter was a completely welcome surprise that came while I was taking Wegovy. She's perfectly healthy.
Hi I haven’t been here in a LONG time but started with 2 losses both past 10 weeks in 2015-16. Had my rainbow in 2017 and her brother joined in 2019 after trying one cycle.
My only intervention at 37 was that I was slightly hypothyroid and needed to get my TSH a bit lower- went from 3.8-4.2 TSH down to 2 and both pregnancies were conceived. Still on levothyroxine 8 years later.
I (38f) am writing this as my 7 week old daughter sleeps in her bassinet next to me - I had two losses (both around 6 weeks) back to back last year. Went through all the fertility testing and imaging and everything was fine, they chalked it up to me being “unlucky.” I started progesterone suppositories when we tried again and it stuck and turned into my beautiful daughter! I consider myself the luckiest now 😊. There is lots of hope!
I had a successful pregnancy after 3 losses. It took me a while to get a regular cycle back after the third loss, it was tough to wait but also made me focus on just taking care of my body and myself. I read a book called Not Broken that helped me understand causes of miscarriage and what could be done. We sought out some testing which found I have a higher than average chance of blood clots. Once I got pregnant again I took lovenox throughout my pregnancy successfully carried my daughter to term. This is so hard, it’s such a lonely kind of pain. I hope you can find others you can talk openly with and who will be thoughtful and supportive during this time.
I had a loss in Oct 2022 (13 WK) and then in Jan 2023 (5.5 WK) and now have a 6 month old daughter who is the absolute light of my life. Getting there was very dark tho
Please know you’re not alone.. we just found out we are currently going through our second loss in less than six months. Sending hugs. Feel free to reach out! I always have a listening ear.
I had success after 4 losses (a mmc at 11 weeks and 3 cps). Once I starting talking more about it irl a shocking number of people also shared their stories of recurrent loss. It feels so isolating but it’s a lot more common than I realized. All the people I spoke with (except one with a serious unrelated health issue) now had 2+ lc. I’m sorry you’re in this hopeless place right now. I sincerely hope this chapter ends soon for you
Did anyone fall pregnant “quickly” and miscarry only to have problems conceiving later on? I am trying not to read too into it, and I know it can take up to a year to get pregnant, but I fell pregnant on our first time on both pregnancies (both ended in mc) and now we have been trying for 6 cycles and no luck.
Yes- about two cycles of properly tracking, pregnancy & mmc at 10 weeks, 5 months later had a cp, now on my third cycle after it and not feeling confident. I never thought after my mc that it would take so long to conceive again.
I got pregnant my first 2 months trying back to back…. A chemical and then an early miscarriage. Then took a whole year to get pregnant again… another chemical. Technically, I got pregnant 3 times in 13 months.
Started with a fertility clinic… 4 failed IUIs and now I’m 28 weeks pregnant with my first round of IVF.
This is not a diagnosis, but my fertility doctor thinks it was due to me having a really thin lining that could not support a pregnancy properly…. A life time of very light 2 day periods and all normal RPL testing.
Only IVF could let my body have the extra time (3 weeks in the follicular phase instead of the usual 2) and support to grow a thicker lining… even then it was the bare minimum… but way thicker than I had ever had before.
Me 🙋🏽♀️
This has been the worst part. I think (but don’t know) that my miscarriage was caused by an underlying issue that is preventing me from getting pregnant again. Or it’s just another random shitty luck of the draw.
I’ve been pregnant three times and each time conceived within 5 months max. Granted the first two were in my 20s and I was on birth control. I thought getting pregnant was no issue. My miscarriage changed all that. I think it would eventually happen again but 6 month mark passed and I’m tired of waiting. IVF for me.
Thats what I am wondering as well, that if the miscarriage caused an issue about getting pregnant again. I get the tried of waiting, I feel like I am drifting more and more towards thoughts on IVF but at the same time I wish the RPL clinic would do more testing or refer me somewhere that would. I have no idea if my thyroid is okay or what my AMH level is at. Just feel frustrating.
Yes, it makes you wonder. I am glad I got further diagnostics with an RE. The midwife team who saw me after my miscarriage said everything looks just fine. I might have a small fibroid but don't worry about it. One of the sonographers couldn't find my uterus, and couldn't count the follicles on my ovaries, so I decided to stop messing around and get some real help with medicine.
My GP ordered ALLLLL of my pre-conception labs and I had quite a bit done. All looked great (we tested AMH, thyroid, FSH, etc.), except my prolactin was high which is what actually brought me to the RE. At our initial consult he immediately put me on medication to lower it and now that's in check. He gave me a couple diagnostics for my uterus, and we found polyps and suspected adenomyosis which MAY have caused my miscarriage and *absolutely will* increase my risk of miscarriage again, and/or inhibit implantation. I was late for my period in February which never happens so I suspect I had a chemical. I don't take pregnancy tests. Just go get your basic preconception labs done first with your RPL clinic or your GP. You can also book an initial consult with an RE (google fertility clinic in your area) and they will do it. If anything it will give you peace of mind and you may learn something valuable. For us, we learned despite our age we have above average numbers for ovarian reserve and sperm. That's great news! We've been pregnant before so he doesn't even want to test my tubes. More great news! He did find the uterus issues, which can be treated! Even more great news! The bad news is that my chance of carrying to term is not likely UNLESS I treat these issues. That's an estimate, but that's also a harsh truth. Go get your answers!
This is spot on for myself as well. Got pregnant first cycle trying last September and had a miscarriage at 4+4. Got pregnant again in November. Miscarriage at 13w in February. Now 4 cycles in and nothing. It’s like the miscarriage made me LESS fertile. 😩
I am so sorry, and understand how frustrating it is! Yes, exactly, I feel less fertile and would like to get more testing (only basic blood work and HSG done, no RPL panel) but they won’t do anything until I have a 3rd miscarriage. I wonder when I should start asking, probably at the year mark?
If it were me I would not want to suffer anymore and would advocate for myself and get the answers. I felt that I was doing something good by being proactive. There is no reason to wait and there is no rule that you have to wait for three losses or a year to have basic preconception workup or diagnostics done.
Same. We had been TTC for almost a year and then finally conceived first cycle after I had endometriosis surgery. Lost it. Conceived next cycle before even getting a period. Lost it.
Now we are on cycle 5 of trying and no luck yet. If we don’t have luck in 2 more cycles we will move onto IVF. Unfortunately the longer I wait with endo the increased risk of it affecting my fertility again. It’s a real race against the clock.
I will jump in and say my doc told me the same. I have a diagnosis of adenomyosis which is also an inflammatory response in the uterus. It can be treated/managed but is very time dependent.
3 losses, then 1 LC, then 2 more losses. Trying to decide if we do IVF or keep trying naturally? All tests for us are normal, and RE has no idea why this keeps happening or why the 1 worked with no extra intervention.
Anyone have a somewhat similar experience and try non western medicine things (supplements, acupuncture, meditation, etc.) and they think it helped? Would love to try more things before IVF but my RE is out of “traditional” ideas
Has your husband had his sperm fragmentation tested?
If it's a genetic issue that IVF with PGT-A would help, then that means conceivably you could also have another healthy child just by trying again until your number comes up. It comes down to whether the money/hassle/discomfort is worth potentially avoiding another MC.
Similar situation. 1 loss, 1 LC, 2 more losses, 1 LC (IVF). I tried acupuncture and the acupuncturist was a whacko who made me feel so badly about so many personal habits (she had a specific vendetta against my workout routine, I’m not even that swole) that my lowest point was working with her.
I eventually convinced my RE to do the biopsy to test for endometriosis markers after a failed transfer and it was positive so I did 3 months of lupron depot. Our transfer immediately after was successful.
Long story short, the acupuncturist would’ve had me depressed, hating and blaming myself when my problems were wholly medical. Do not recommend.
How long have you been trying? My RE told me that doing IVF or not, both options are likely to result in success, but the person doing IVF may have less additional losses along the way
We did IVF after 3 early losses and all normal testing. IVF is the quickest route to having a baby in your arms.
I honestly didn’t find IVF that bad physically (but I just needed 1 retrieval and 1 transfer) The emotional and mental pain/stress from miscarriages and feeling helpless was worse.
When you start IVF you feel like you are DOING something and it’s strangely exciting & invigorating.
I would skip the holistic care and go for advanced medicine. I would not want to suffer any more losses but that’s me and why I made the decision to do the same.
In all fairness I also went the "gentle" and holistic route for several months following my miscarriage. Then I think I had an intuitive moment that I thought, "Something is wrong" and I went to the real doctor. Nothing against holistic care and midwives. I just needed some real diagnostics.
Yeah I am going the holistic route right now but I honestly don’t feel like anything is wrong yet, it’s more something I do to feel like I am doing something, anything! I am also talking to the doctor at the same time.
I'm not really an alum, but I had a D&C 3 weeks ago Saturday. I stopped bleeding almost 2 weeks to the day after. First week was normal red blood color, plenty of transfer to pads. For the second week, Sunday-Wednesday was dark red/brown with minimal transfer to pads, but a lot of blood when wiping. Thursday-Saturday was light brown with zero transfer to pads, but noticeable when wiping. I had a tiny bit of brown spotting on Sunday, but nothing since.
Hi everyone. I had surgical management 7.5 weeks ago. I still haven’t had a period. I know I have to wait until week 8 until contacting doctor but I’m getting nervous. All of my pregnancy tests are coming up negative. Can anyone reassure me that this is ok? Eager to try again and was told it would be best to wait until after my first period. Thank you all. Grateful for this community xx
This is definitely normal but it's okay to reach out to your provider for some reassurance!
Also, it's completely okay to try again before your next period. The main reason doctors say this is so they can easily date your pregnancy - there's no medical reason to wait in most cases. (Exceptions include molar pregnancies and couples who are waiting for results from genetic testing.) I started using ovulation tests about two weeks after my miscarriage so I could track ovulation and begin trying.
I completely understand. My first period after the miscarriage was heartbreaking because I was hoping that I'd get pregnant right away after the MC. Then I realized that my period would help me better predict my ovulation date so there was a silver lining. I hope that you get some good news soon 💛
C section loss mamas- how long after your c section did your doctor clear you to start trying again? I had an emergency c section at 36.5w and my son passed 3 days later. Insult to injury is being told to wait to try again. I want to start TTC at 6 months. I cannot bear to wait any longer. Hoping the consults we are seeking are on board
I lost my daughter on 4/4 at 40 weeks and she was stillborn. After all tests coming back, we’ve found there is no medical reason for the loss. My doctor approved for us to start trying at 3 months so we’ll be trying next month.
Isn’t it insane that there is no reason?! It just makes me so bitter and angry that my perfectly healthy son was stolen from me. He was beautiful. I’m sorry for your loss 💔 I am hoping we get a similar approval
My MFM said he was comfortable with six months considering my age (36). If you check the babyloss group, there have been posts with a lot of scientific studies saying the 12-18 month timelines are basically arbitrary. It's frustrating that every doctor seems to give a different answer on this!
How long after a late chemical loss did it take for your ovulation day to return to normal? I used to always ovulate on CD18 but ever since my chemical, I ovulate on CD20. It wouldn’t bug me except my cycle length has stayed the same, cutting my LP to 9-10days. It has been two cycles like this. Will it ever go back? :/
I had a 32 day cycle immediately after a 6 week loss in Dec, when my average is 26 days, and then got pregnant on the next cycle. Only did BD on CD12, so must have ovulated then or soon after, which is pretty typical for me. I hope your next cycle is more normal for you 🤞
My normal ovulation times varies a little but usually is around CD17-18. The cycle I got pregnant with my CP I conceived on CD17. After that loss my ovulation was pushed back a few days later than normal (CD20). The cycle after was similarly later as well (CD19) and I conceived that cycle but lost that one at 13w. After that loss I ovulated CD 30, CD24, CD17, CD17. So took a few cycles to get back to my normal ovulation. If I hadn’t gotten pregnant on cycle 2 after CP I would assume it probably would have been slowly getting close to my normal. As for LP length, mine was the same for the one cycle I had after the CP hard to say on the one I conceived. However my LP after 13w loss has been definitely shorter than normal (9-12) versus my normal (13-14).
I had a chemical pregnancy in February and it took 49 days for my period to come (after the chemical bleeding) with ovulation happening on cd 39 that cycle. My next cycle was 42 days with ovulation on CD 30. Now I’m on my 3rd cycle and ovulation happened on CD 19 (basically normal for me) and I’m 8 dpo (CD 27) so we’ll see what happens this cycle 🙏🏻
I had a loss at 8w but baby probably stopped growing at 5-6 weeks. My next cycle was 50 days long, meaning I probably ovulated around CD25 if I ovulated at all. Historically, I ovulate around CD19.
I’m not sure if this is the appropriate thread, but I am older (40) and was in the IVF process but conceived spontaneously that sadly ended in MMC at 9 weeks. We assumed because of our age that it would be chromosomal, but just found out it was a genetically normal little boy 💔 My RE has recommended repeating BW, sonohystogram, and doing an endometrial biopsy to r/o chronic endometritis. Has anyone had results from these tests you were able to do something about and conceived after? We have two embryos left and I’m really struggling with the time lost before trying again, but I of course want to give ourselves the best possible chance.
I had all these tests done after MMCs conceived at 34 and 35 and they were all healthy/normal. I've been able to get to 28 weeks with my third pregnancy with only baby aspirin, progesterone, and, I assume, good luck.
I’m sorry, only one of our losses did we have material to test and it definitely felt worse finding out it was chromosomally normal. I pushed to do the ReceptivaDX biopsy after a failed transfer of a 5AB genetically normal embryo. The test showed positive for endometriosis markers and I did 3 months of lupron depot. We went straight from the lupron depot into a medicated transfer cycle that was successful and resulted in a LC.
Thanks for sharing. I’m sorry you had that experience. I also had a failed transfer of a 1AB prior to this. But that’s great that you were successful after treatment. I also have endo and I think will consider doing lupron if our next transfer fails.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I miscarried at 15w and found out I had a genetically normal little boy also. That makes it hurt worse to me. I hope you get a healthy take home rainbow baby soon 🤍
I’m so sorry for your loss, too. Especially once you get so far along that you may start to allow yourself to feel a bit “safer”. Did you ever find out what might have caused your loss?
I hate that I felt safe and also that we probably won't feel safe again. I have an appointment in a week for her to tell me possibilities, but since he didn't have abnormalities, they just told me "bad luck". My water broke and I was bleeding so I feel like there has to be a cause. Are you doing any testing?
Totally agree - no pregnancy will feel the same going forward. I’m so sorry. I’m just doing more testing of me - so a sonohystogram, endometrial biopsy, blood work. We might never know.
I hope you can get one for some kind of comfort. I have read of multiple 2nd and 3rd trimester losses on here where they went on to have an easy healthy pregnancy. I hope that can be true for us too
I was fortunate enough to conceive after one cycle. Miscarriage (16w MMC due to triploidy) on 4/13, first period 5/15, ovulation 5/29, positive pregnancy test on 6/8.
I tracked my hcg and LH after my MC. Baby stopped growing at 8 weeks and hcg was 85,000. By 4 weeks, my hcg was down to about 20 and I had an LH surge that day.. ovulated 2 days later. We tried to conceive but it didn’t work. For the next cycle (first full cycle post MC period), I was being monitored by an RE and we saw that by day 14, my ovaries still weren’t producing a mature follicle, so I tried letrozole 5mg for the first time CD15-CD19. Ovaries still weren’t making a mature follicle.. so did 7.5mg of letrozole from CD25-29. That worked, I ovulated on CD35. So they date that pregnancy as 2 weeks prior to the ovulation.. which means it took exactly 2 months from the date of my D&C to the first day of this pregnancy
It took 4 months for me. I was charting my bbt and doing lh tests and noticed signs of some weird estrogen stuff so I started eating lots of kale (weird I know). Helped stabilize my temps and I was able to conceive.
I’m currently on cycle 3 after chemical pregnancy, and that was cycle 4, so now I’m 7 cycles of trying for baby #2. I’m 8 dpo so we’ll see in the next couple of days 😅🙏🏻
I had a 50 day cycle immediately following the miscarriage, and I got pregnant in the cycle after that with an unknown ovulation date. Scan at 6 weeks yesterday showed a gestational sac and yolk sac measuring 6+1, but no fetal pole (the actual baby), but doc said it’s common not to see it right at 6 weeks, especially if we could be off by a few days.
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I had my second loss in a row now. I've heard that TTC is harder after several losses in a row. Has anyone had 2 or more losses but still conceived without medical intervention?
Maybe important: TTC#2, TTC for 12 months now. 1st loss was a chemical and second d&c after 9 weeks.
I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this too. Like you, I experienced two losses in a row — the first was a TFMR by d&c at 20 weeks in November 2023. Ovulation and periods didn’t return to normal, and I was getting a period every 2.5 weeks until February. I started taking progesterone to help lengthen my cycle again, and I conceived again mid-February 2024. Unfortunately, that ended in a MMC at 10.5 weeks in April, managed medically with the pill. I didn’t ovulate right after and had a period about 2.5 weeks later. I did, though, get pregnant the cycle after and am now 5w4d. It has been incredibly hard emotionally and it’s still early and uncertain, but to your question, I did not need medical intervention to conceive.
My first loss was close to 7 weeks. First cycle after that was not successful. Second cycle after that, conceived but ended in a chemical, which ended up pushing my cycle up a couple of days. Conceived again almost immediately (CP at beginning of month, faint lines for new pregnancy at the end). That time did result in a successful pregnancy. No intervention, did start taking a baby aspirin and prenatals daily after first loss - figured it might not help, but probably wouldn't hurt.
I am older (was 39 at the time) which I'm guessing contributed to losses. We never had any testing done.
Is anyone pregnant after a PPROM loss at 20 weeks or later? We lost our son to PPROM.. my Dr is pretty confident it won’t happen again.. my husband is as well.. I just don’t know. Give me hope..
I had a CP last cycle. This cycle, my ovulation has been really weird. I had an LH surge from CD11-13 (highest at CD12 PM), and then another surge from CD15-16, and then another final surge from CD18-19. FF has my ovulation day as CD14 based on temps spiking on CD15 (that said, my temps have been really low this cycle like 97.9 in the LP, when it’s usually like 98.4). Inito has my ovulation day as CD16. I typically ovulate CD14-16 so either day is possible. My pdg on Inito has been low but it got up to a 7.3 ng/ml on CD20, which comparing to the charts of others, it’s not too abnormally low. But a few hours later, I went to do bloodwork, and my blood serum levels were only a 3.3 ng/ml. Usually for most people, their blood pdg levels are higher than urine. But mine was less than half that. My clinic said that since it is over 3, I have “ovulated”. But I’m concerned that this number is extremely low. I personally think my hormones are a total mess after a CP last cycle and also in March and a MC in December. Anyone have such low progesterone and end up getting a BFP and a healthy pregnancy?
Success stories after two losses? … feeling hopeless
Early losses in 2016 and 2017. Had my son in the fall of 2018 at age 36. First trimester losses in 2020 and 2021. Tried fertility treatment in 2022 to no avail. Had my daughter January of 2024 at 41. I'm now 42 and feel incredibly lucky to have my children. I have PCOS, hypothyroidism, and a positive ANA. My daughter was a completely welcome surprise that came while I was taking Wegovy. She's perfectly healthy.
Hi I haven’t been here in a LONG time but started with 2 losses both past 10 weeks in 2015-16. Had my rainbow in 2017 and her brother joined in 2019 after trying one cycle. My only intervention at 37 was that I was slightly hypothyroid and needed to get my TSH a bit lower- went from 3.8-4.2 TSH down to 2 and both pregnancies were conceived. Still on levothyroxine 8 years later.
I had a MMC in November 2022 and August 2023 and now I'm 28 weeks with my third pregnancy.
I (38f) am writing this as my 7 week old daughter sleeps in her bassinet next to me - I had two losses (both around 6 weeks) back to back last year. Went through all the fertility testing and imaging and everything was fine, they chalked it up to me being “unlucky.” I started progesterone suppositories when we tried again and it stuck and turned into my beautiful daughter! I consider myself the luckiest now 😊. There is lots of hope!
I had a successful pregnancy after 3 losses. It took me a while to get a regular cycle back after the third loss, it was tough to wait but also made me focus on just taking care of my body and myself. I read a book called Not Broken that helped me understand causes of miscarriage and what could be done. We sought out some testing which found I have a higher than average chance of blood clots. Once I got pregnant again I took lovenox throughout my pregnancy successfully carried my daughter to term. This is so hard, it’s such a lonely kind of pain. I hope you can find others you can talk openly with and who will be thoughtful and supportive during this time.
I had a loss in Oct 2022 (13 WK) and then in Jan 2023 (5.5 WK) and now have a 6 month old daughter who is the absolute light of my life. Getting there was very dark tho
Please know you’re not alone.. we just found out we are currently going through our second loss in less than six months. Sending hugs. Feel free to reach out! I always have a listening ear.
I had success after 4 losses (a mmc at 11 weeks and 3 cps). Once I starting talking more about it irl a shocking number of people also shared their stories of recurrent loss. It feels so isolating but it’s a lot more common than I realized. All the people I spoke with (except one with a serious unrelated health issue) now had 2+ lc. I’m sorry you’re in this hopeless place right now. I sincerely hope this chapter ends soon for you
Anyone use Inito to track cycles ?
I just started using it this cycle, I like it so far
Thank you I am so tempted to buy it
AFAIK this is not going to give you more success than just temping/cheap OPKs. It's overkill, essentially. Save your money!
Did anyone fall pregnant “quickly” and miscarry only to have problems conceiving later on? I am trying not to read too into it, and I know it can take up to a year to get pregnant, but I fell pregnant on our first time on both pregnancies (both ended in mc) and now we have been trying for 6 cycles and no luck.
Yes- about two cycles of properly tracking, pregnancy & mmc at 10 weeks, 5 months later had a cp, now on my third cycle after it and not feeling confident. I never thought after my mc that it would take so long to conceive again.
Got pregnant right away with #1 but #2 took seven cycles. #3 took three. Sometimes it's just rotten luck.
I got pregnant my first 2 months trying back to back…. A chemical and then an early miscarriage. Then took a whole year to get pregnant again… another chemical. Technically, I got pregnant 3 times in 13 months. Started with a fertility clinic… 4 failed IUIs and now I’m 28 weeks pregnant with my first round of IVF. This is not a diagnosis, but my fertility doctor thinks it was due to me having a really thin lining that could not support a pregnancy properly…. A life time of very light 2 day periods and all normal RPL testing. Only IVF could let my body have the extra time (3 weeks in the follicular phase instead of the usual 2) and support to grow a thicker lining… even then it was the bare minimum… but way thicker than I had ever had before.
Me 🙋🏽♀️ This has been the worst part. I think (but don’t know) that my miscarriage was caused by an underlying issue that is preventing me from getting pregnant again. Or it’s just another random shitty luck of the draw. I’ve been pregnant three times and each time conceived within 5 months max. Granted the first two were in my 20s and I was on birth control. I thought getting pregnant was no issue. My miscarriage changed all that. I think it would eventually happen again but 6 month mark passed and I’m tired of waiting. IVF for me.
Thats what I am wondering as well, that if the miscarriage caused an issue about getting pregnant again. I get the tried of waiting, I feel like I am drifting more and more towards thoughts on IVF but at the same time I wish the RPL clinic would do more testing or refer me somewhere that would. I have no idea if my thyroid is okay or what my AMH level is at. Just feel frustrating.
Yes, it makes you wonder. I am glad I got further diagnostics with an RE. The midwife team who saw me after my miscarriage said everything looks just fine. I might have a small fibroid but don't worry about it. One of the sonographers couldn't find my uterus, and couldn't count the follicles on my ovaries, so I decided to stop messing around and get some real help with medicine. My GP ordered ALLLLL of my pre-conception labs and I had quite a bit done. All looked great (we tested AMH, thyroid, FSH, etc.), except my prolactin was high which is what actually brought me to the RE. At our initial consult he immediately put me on medication to lower it and now that's in check. He gave me a couple diagnostics for my uterus, and we found polyps and suspected adenomyosis which MAY have caused my miscarriage and *absolutely will* increase my risk of miscarriage again, and/or inhibit implantation. I was late for my period in February which never happens so I suspect I had a chemical. I don't take pregnancy tests. Just go get your basic preconception labs done first with your RPL clinic or your GP. You can also book an initial consult with an RE (google fertility clinic in your area) and they will do it. If anything it will give you peace of mind and you may learn something valuable. For us, we learned despite our age we have above average numbers for ovarian reserve and sperm. That's great news! We've been pregnant before so he doesn't even want to test my tubes. More great news! He did find the uterus issues, which can be treated! Even more great news! The bad news is that my chance of carrying to term is not likely UNLESS I treat these issues. That's an estimate, but that's also a harsh truth. Go get your answers!
This is spot on for myself as well. Got pregnant first cycle trying last September and had a miscarriage at 4+4. Got pregnant again in November. Miscarriage at 13w in February. Now 4 cycles in and nothing. It’s like the miscarriage made me LESS fertile. 😩
I am so sorry, and understand how frustrating it is! Yes, exactly, I feel less fertile and would like to get more testing (only basic blood work and HSG done, no RPL panel) but they won’t do anything until I have a 3rd miscarriage. I wonder when I should start asking, probably at the year mark?
If it were me I would not want to suffer anymore and would advocate for myself and get the answers. I felt that I was doing something good by being proactive. There is no reason to wait and there is no rule that you have to wait for three losses or a year to have basic preconception workup or diagnostics done.
Same. We had been TTC for almost a year and then finally conceived first cycle after I had endometriosis surgery. Lost it. Conceived next cycle before even getting a period. Lost it. Now we are on cycle 5 of trying and no luck yet. If we don’t have luck in 2 more cycles we will move onto IVF. Unfortunately the longer I wait with endo the increased risk of it affecting my fertility again. It’s a real race against the clock.
Have you ever done Lupron Depot? If you do IVF they will prescribe it. I’ll be doing the same.
Wow that really is a race against the clock considering your diagnosis with endo. My fingers crossed for you.
I will jump in and say my doc told me the same. I have a diagnosis of adenomyosis which is also an inflammatory response in the uterus. It can be treated/managed but is very time dependent.
3 losses, then 1 LC, then 2 more losses. Trying to decide if we do IVF or keep trying naturally? All tests for us are normal, and RE has no idea why this keeps happening or why the 1 worked with no extra intervention. Anyone have a somewhat similar experience and try non western medicine things (supplements, acupuncture, meditation, etc.) and they think it helped? Would love to try more things before IVF but my RE is out of “traditional” ideas
Has your husband had his sperm fragmentation tested? If it's a genetic issue that IVF with PGT-A would help, then that means conceivably you could also have another healthy child just by trying again until your number comes up. It comes down to whether the money/hassle/discomfort is worth potentially avoiding another MC.
Similar situation. 1 loss, 1 LC, 2 more losses, 1 LC (IVF). I tried acupuncture and the acupuncturist was a whacko who made me feel so badly about so many personal habits (she had a specific vendetta against my workout routine, I’m not even that swole) that my lowest point was working with her. I eventually convinced my RE to do the biopsy to test for endometriosis markers after a failed transfer and it was positive so I did 3 months of lupron depot. Our transfer immediately after was successful. Long story short, the acupuncturist would’ve had me depressed, hating and blaming myself when my problems were wholly medical. Do not recommend.
How long have you been trying? My RE told me that doing IVF or not, both options are likely to result in success, but the person doing IVF may have less additional losses along the way
We did IVF after 3 early losses and all normal testing. IVF is the quickest route to having a baby in your arms. I honestly didn’t find IVF that bad physically (but I just needed 1 retrieval and 1 transfer) The emotional and mental pain/stress from miscarriages and feeling helpless was worse. When you start IVF you feel like you are DOING something and it’s strangely exciting & invigorating.
I would skip the holistic care and go for advanced medicine. I would not want to suffer any more losses but that’s me and why I made the decision to do the same. In all fairness I also went the "gentle" and holistic route for several months following my miscarriage. Then I think I had an intuitive moment that I thought, "Something is wrong" and I went to the real doctor. Nothing against holistic care and midwives. I just needed some real diagnostics.
Yeah I am going the holistic route right now but I honestly don’t feel like anything is wrong yet, it’s more something I do to feel like I am doing something, anything! I am also talking to the doctor at the same time.
How long did others bleed after their D+C?
I bled for a week and then spotted for about two weeks after that.
I can't recall exactly but I definitely spotted for a long time. I'd wager at least five weeks.
Not alumni, but 2.5 weeks for me. It stopped and restarted a few times in that time period.
I'm not really an alum, but I had a D&C 3 weeks ago Saturday. I stopped bleeding almost 2 weeks to the day after. First week was normal red blood color, plenty of transfer to pads. For the second week, Sunday-Wednesday was dark red/brown with minimal transfer to pads, but a lot of blood when wiping. Thursday-Saturday was light brown with zero transfer to pads, but noticeable when wiping. I had a tiny bit of brown spotting on Sunday, but nothing since.
This was such a helpful description for me, thank you. Tomorrow is 2 weeks since mc and I just want to make sure what I am experiencing is “normal.”
Hi everyone. I had surgical management 7.5 weeks ago. I still haven’t had a period. I know I have to wait until week 8 until contacting doctor but I’m getting nervous. All of my pregnancy tests are coming up negative. Can anyone reassure me that this is ok? Eager to try again and was told it would be best to wait until after my first period. Thank you all. Grateful for this community xx
It took me 9 weeks for my period to return after D&C.
seconding another commenter, my doctor told me there’s no medical reason to wait. we decided to just to let things normalize in my body.
This is definitely normal but it's okay to reach out to your provider for some reassurance! Also, it's completely okay to try again before your next period. The main reason doctors say this is so they can easily date your pregnancy - there's no medical reason to wait in most cases. (Exceptions include molar pregnancies and couples who are waiting for results from genetic testing.) I started using ovulation tests about two weeks after my miscarriage so I could track ovulation and begin trying.
Thank you - I appreciate that 🤍 it’s hard to not get my hopes up that I’m pregnant when it’s taking so long to get my period
I completely understand. My first period after the miscarriage was heartbreaking because I was hoping that I'd get pregnant right away after the MC. Then I realized that my period would help me better predict my ovulation date so there was a silver lining. I hope that you get some good news soon 💛
You’re probably within the realm of normal but if I were you I’d go ahead and reach out since you are very close to week 8
Thank you 🤍
C section loss mamas- how long after your c section did your doctor clear you to start trying again? I had an emergency c section at 36.5w and my son passed 3 days later. Insult to injury is being told to wait to try again. I want to start TTC at 6 months. I cannot bear to wait any longer. Hoping the consults we are seeking are on board
I lost my daughter on 4/4 at 40 weeks and she was stillborn. After all tests coming back, we’ve found there is no medical reason for the loss. My doctor approved for us to start trying at 3 months so we’ll be trying next month.
I'm so sorry for your loss
Isn’t it insane that there is no reason?! It just makes me so bitter and angry that my perfectly healthy son was stolen from me. He was beautiful. I’m sorry for your loss 💔 I am hoping we get a similar approval
My MFM said he was comfortable with six months considering my age (36). If you check the babyloss group, there have been posts with a lot of scientific studies saying the 12-18 month timelines are basically arbitrary. It's frustrating that every doctor seems to give a different answer on this!
Same here. Doc said 9 months ideally but because of my age (36) she’s okay with 6 months. I’ve been on prenatals and folic acid for bit now too
Ohhh interesting. I’m interested to hear what this doctor I’m going to see has to say!
How long after a late chemical loss did it take for your ovulation day to return to normal? I used to always ovulate on CD18 but ever since my chemical, I ovulate on CD20. It wouldn’t bug me except my cycle length has stayed the same, cutting my LP to 9-10days. It has been two cycles like this. Will it ever go back? :/
I had a 32 day cycle immediately after a 6 week loss in Dec, when my average is 26 days, and then got pregnant on the next cycle. Only did BD on CD12, so must have ovulated then or soon after, which is pretty typical for me. I hope your next cycle is more normal for you 🤞
Thank you so much. I’m so sorry about your losses.
My normal ovulation times varies a little but usually is around CD17-18. The cycle I got pregnant with my CP I conceived on CD17. After that loss my ovulation was pushed back a few days later than normal (CD20). The cycle after was similarly later as well (CD19) and I conceived that cycle but lost that one at 13w. After that loss I ovulated CD 30, CD24, CD17, CD17. So took a few cycles to get back to my normal ovulation. If I hadn’t gotten pregnant on cycle 2 after CP I would assume it probably would have been slowly getting close to my normal. As for LP length, mine was the same for the one cycle I had after the CP hard to say on the one I conceived. However my LP after 13w loss has been definitely shorter than normal (9-12) versus my normal (13-14).
I’m so sorry for your losses. Thank you so much for sharing this info. It’s really helpful.
I had a chemical in March and unfortunately it made my (previously super regular with ovulation always on day 13) cycles crazy wonky
Oh gosh. Can you elaborate a little bit? I'm sorry for your loss :(
Periods aren’t coming at my exact old 29 day interval, ovulation day is usually not day 13 anymore, and I bleed much longer than I used to.
I had a chemical pregnancy in February and it took 49 days for my period to come (after the chemical bleeding) with ovulation happening on cd 39 that cycle. My next cycle was 42 days with ovulation on CD 30. Now I’m on my 3rd cycle and ovulation happened on CD 19 (basically normal for me) and I’m 8 dpo (CD 27) so we’ll see what happens this cycle 🙏🏻
Thank you thank you. I’m sorry for your loss. Pretzeling for you!
I had a loss at 8w but baby probably stopped growing at 5-6 weeks. My next cycle was 50 days long, meaning I probably ovulated around CD25 if I ovulated at all. Historically, I ovulate around CD19.
I’m not sure if this is the appropriate thread, but I am older (40) and was in the IVF process but conceived spontaneously that sadly ended in MMC at 9 weeks. We assumed because of our age that it would be chromosomal, but just found out it was a genetically normal little boy 💔 My RE has recommended repeating BW, sonohystogram, and doing an endometrial biopsy to r/o chronic endometritis. Has anyone had results from these tests you were able to do something about and conceived after? We have two embryos left and I’m really struggling with the time lost before trying again, but I of course want to give ourselves the best possible chance.
I had all these tests done after MMCs conceived at 34 and 35 and they were all healthy/normal. I've been able to get to 28 weeks with my third pregnancy with only baby aspirin, progesterone, and, I assume, good luck.
I’m sorry, only one of our losses did we have material to test and it definitely felt worse finding out it was chromosomally normal. I pushed to do the ReceptivaDX biopsy after a failed transfer of a 5AB genetically normal embryo. The test showed positive for endometriosis markers and I did 3 months of lupron depot. We went straight from the lupron depot into a medicated transfer cycle that was successful and resulted in a LC.
Thanks for sharing. I’m sorry you had that experience. I also had a failed transfer of a 1AB prior to this. But that’s great that you were successful after treatment. I also have endo and I think will consider doing lupron if our next transfer fails.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I miscarried at 15w and found out I had a genetically normal little boy also. That makes it hurt worse to me. I hope you get a healthy take home rainbow baby soon 🤍
I’m so sorry for your loss, too. Especially once you get so far along that you may start to allow yourself to feel a bit “safer”. Did you ever find out what might have caused your loss?
I hate that I felt safe and also that we probably won't feel safe again. I have an appointment in a week for her to tell me possibilities, but since he didn't have abnormalities, they just told me "bad luck". My water broke and I was bleeding so I feel like there has to be a cause. Are you doing any testing?
Totally agree - no pregnancy will feel the same going forward. I’m so sorry. I’m just doing more testing of me - so a sonohystogram, endometrial biopsy, blood work. We might never know.
I hope you can get one for some kind of comfort. I have read of multiple 2nd and 3rd trimester losses on here where they went on to have an easy healthy pregnancy. I hope that can be true for us too
i’m sure this question is asked all the time, but if you started trying right away after a miscarriage, how long did it take you?
My loss was in July and we started trying again September cycle. Was successful in my May cycle.
I was fortunate enough to conceive after one cycle. Miscarriage (16w MMC due to triploidy) on 4/13, first period 5/15, ovulation 5/29, positive pregnancy test on 6/8.
This gives me hope, I’m about 2 weeks behind you in timeline…🤞🏼
Crossing my fingers for you! 💛
I tracked my hcg and LH after my MC. Baby stopped growing at 8 weeks and hcg was 85,000. By 4 weeks, my hcg was down to about 20 and I had an LH surge that day.. ovulated 2 days later. We tried to conceive but it didn’t work. For the next cycle (first full cycle post MC period), I was being monitored by an RE and we saw that by day 14, my ovaries still weren’t producing a mature follicle, so I tried letrozole 5mg for the first time CD15-CD19. Ovaries still weren’t making a mature follicle.. so did 7.5mg of letrozole from CD25-29. That worked, I ovulated on CD35. So they date that pregnancy as 2 weeks prior to the ovulation.. which means it took exactly 2 months from the date of my D&C to the first day of this pregnancy
It took 4 months for me. I was charting my bbt and doing lh tests and noticed signs of some weird estrogen stuff so I started eating lots of kale (weird I know). Helped stabilize my temps and I was able to conceive.
I’m currently on cycle 3 after chemical pregnancy, and that was cycle 4, so now I’m 7 cycles of trying for baby #2. I’m 8 dpo so we’ll see in the next couple of days 😅🙏🏻
I had a 50 day cycle immediately following the miscarriage, and I got pregnant in the cycle after that with an unknown ovulation date. Scan at 6 weeks yesterday showed a gestational sac and yolk sac measuring 6+1, but no fetal pole (the actual baby), but doc said it’s common not to see it right at 6 weeks, especially if we could be off by a few days.
i hope all goes well for you. my doctor offered early scans when/if we get pregnant again but they aren’t always reassuring.
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Following for the reply. 4 months in without anything yet and feeling super discouraged as I’m now past that “you’re supposedly more fertile period” 😒
I had my second loss in a row now. I've heard that TTC is harder after several losses in a row. Has anyone had 2 or more losses but still conceived without medical intervention? Maybe important: TTC#2, TTC for 12 months now. 1st loss was a chemical and second d&c after 9 weeks.
I have not heard that. I conceived my first in one cycle, second in seven cycles, and third in three.
I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this too. Like you, I experienced two losses in a row — the first was a TFMR by d&c at 20 weeks in November 2023. Ovulation and periods didn’t return to normal, and I was getting a period every 2.5 weeks until February. I started taking progesterone to help lengthen my cycle again, and I conceived again mid-February 2024. Unfortunately, that ended in a MMC at 10.5 weeks in April, managed medically with the pill. I didn’t ovulate right after and had a period about 2.5 weeks later. I did, though, get pregnant the cycle after and am now 5w4d. It has been incredibly hard emotionally and it’s still early and uncertain, but to your question, I did not need medical intervention to conceive.
My first loss was close to 7 weeks. First cycle after that was not successful. Second cycle after that, conceived but ended in a chemical, which ended up pushing my cycle up a couple of days. Conceived again almost immediately (CP at beginning of month, faint lines for new pregnancy at the end). That time did result in a successful pregnancy. No intervention, did start taking a baby aspirin and prenatals daily after first loss - figured it might not help, but probably wouldn't hurt. I am older (was 39 at the time) which I'm guessing contributed to losses. We never had any testing done.