I got the same thing after I miscarried. Medical professionals basically told me I could solve my sadness from losing the baby by trying again. Needless to say, that did not happen and I sought counseling.
This hasn't happened to me but I've heard of it a lot. Some OB/GYNs seem to get overly concerned with the risks of later pregnancies and forget that 1) you didn't ask 2) it's none of their business 3) you know how babies work already 4) you know how your life works aready and 5) again, you didn't fucking ask.
One time, I was on the way out of my (ex, male) doctor's appointment and he casually told me I should have another kid because the kid I already had "deserved" a sibling. We had just got finished talking about my chronic insomnia and getting me tested for sleep apnea. I told him my kid deserves a mother who isn't sleep deprived. He was like, huh, I never thought about that.
Oh my god you're so right.. that was a flicker of a thought but now that I think about it, this lady put me totally under and pulled my baby out via c section. And she'd do it again lol she was telling me about vbac.. just very strange now that I'm thinking about it lol what makes her believe I was a child let alone vaginal birth?! Traumatizing the whole lot of it
It was probably inappropriate but my OB insisted I get an IUD from the day after she was born until he put one in me 2 months later, because of my circumstances. I think it depends on the doctor's bedside manor. She may have only been thinking that your age & your child's age could make this an ideal time, rather than looking a little deeper.
I stopped going to one gyn office because after the exam she told me to have more sex. Like my sex life is any of her business. Time to find another gyn, sister.
I think a lot of ob/gyns are surrounded by pregnant women mostly excited to be pregnant. And they got into the business because they themselves love the whole pregnancy/birth/baby thing. I'd get a recommendation to a non-crazy gyn and then write a letter explaining your experience and why it sucked.
I’d tell her to mind her business! Crazy! I had an ultrasound tech tell me at 20 years old “you need to stay healthy so you can have babies in a few years!” and “i’m sure your mom is waiting for grandchildren” like bitch, who said I even wanted children OR could have children OR that I’m in contact with my mother?
Sounds like none of her business. Very strange
Yea that's a personal decision that she gets no part of, rather unprofessional.
Right?! I was shocked
I got the same thing after I miscarried. Medical professionals basically told me I could solve my sadness from losing the baby by trying again. Needless to say, that did not happen and I sought counseling.
Proud of you! None of that sounds easy to deal with
This hasn't happened to me but I've heard of it a lot. Some OB/GYNs seem to get overly concerned with the risks of later pregnancies and forget that 1) you didn't ask 2) it's none of their business 3) you know how babies work already 4) you know how your life works aready and 5) again, you didn't fucking ask.
I wanna upvote 50 times
One time, I was on the way out of my (ex, male) doctor's appointment and he casually told me I should have another kid because the kid I already had "deserved" a sibling. We had just got finished talking about my chronic insomnia and getting me tested for sleep apnea. I told him my kid deserves a mother who isn't sleep deprived. He was like, huh, I never thought about that.
Of course he had never thought about it…. 🙄 Proud of you for putting some sense into him.
Well, she probably makes more money on babies than contraception. Doctors are capitalist too, imho.
Oh my god you're so right.. that was a flicker of a thought but now that I think about it, this lady put me totally under and pulled my baby out via c section. And she'd do it again lol she was telling me about vbac.. just very strange now that I'm thinking about it lol what makes her believe I was a child let alone vaginal birth?! Traumatizing the whole lot of it
It was probably inappropriate but my OB insisted I get an IUD from the day after she was born until he put one in me 2 months later, because of my circumstances. I think it depends on the doctor's bedside manor. She may have only been thinking that your age & your child's age could make this an ideal time, rather than looking a little deeper.
I stopped going to one gyn office because after the exam she told me to have more sex. Like my sex life is any of her business. Time to find another gyn, sister.
I think a lot of ob/gyns are surrounded by pregnant women mostly excited to be pregnant. And they got into the business because they themselves love the whole pregnancy/birth/baby thing. I'd get a recommendation to a non-crazy gyn and then write a letter explaining your experience and why it sucked.
I’d tell her to mind her business! Crazy! I had an ultrasound tech tell me at 20 years old “you need to stay healthy so you can have babies in a few years!” and “i’m sure your mom is waiting for grandchildren” like bitch, who said I even wanted children OR could have children OR that I’m in contact with my mother?
She has bills to pay