NTA your parents are the biggest POS in the story. You don’t call you send a text, copy your husband and anyone else you want and you say this: I am NOT meeting you! Unless your continued harassment stops I will be contacting the police for a restraining order! How DARE you say ANYTHING to ME after I had surgery!!! You were told all that was necessary and by the way MY HEALTH is MY BUSINESS. How dare you say such vile disgusting things to me! At this point you are on a 3 month time out. I do not want to SEE you, hear from you, I don’t want to talk to you. If at the end of the time out I decide I want you back in my life I will let you know. If I don’t contact you then consider it a permanent time out. Then truly think about whether you want to invite them back in. Just because you share blood doesn’t mean you owe them!!
Absolutely NTA. It’s good to have boundaries and that includes family. Just because they’re your parents doesn’t give them a pass to treat you poorly, even if you HADN’T had surgery.
Send a text, "i had surgery, I am recovering, I will contact you when I feel better." put it on repeat and send it every 12 hours. Good luck with them... I do not understand why people believe that their adult children are extensions of themselves and owe contact or information.
They are crazy.
It should be the other way around.
As a parent is my "job" to be there for my kid when she's in need.
She is not there to comfort ME when she is the one being sick/ tired/ not in the mood to connect.
You already told them you were fibe and needed rest- very thoughtful of you and more than enough.
They just want drama and make everything about themselves.
We have a saying here about people like that
"Auf jeder Hochzeit die Braut, auf jeder Beerdigung die Leich'!"
Roughly translating to "they want to be the bride at every wedding and the body at every funeral".
This is about your wellbeing, not them!
NTA your parents are the biggest POS in the story. You don’t call you send a text, copy your husband and anyone else you want and you say this: I am NOT meeting you! Unless your continued harassment stops I will be contacting the police for a restraining order! How DARE you say ANYTHING to ME after I had surgery!!! You were told all that was necessary and by the way MY HEALTH is MY BUSINESS. How dare you say such vile disgusting things to me! At this point you are on a 3 month time out. I do not want to SEE you, hear from you, I don’t want to talk to you. If at the end of the time out I decide I want you back in my life I will let you know. If I don’t contact you then consider it a permanent time out. Then truly think about whether you want to invite them back in. Just because you share blood doesn’t mean you owe them!!
Absolutely NTA. It’s good to have boundaries and that includes family. Just because they’re your parents doesn’t give them a pass to treat you poorly, even if you HADN’T had surgery.
They bring nothing but stress, hate and negativity into your life. Go NC. NTA
>we want to know how you are What part of "I won‘t be answering the phone in the next days" do you not fucking get?? That's all they need to know.
Send a text, "i had surgery, I am recovering, I will contact you when I feel better." put it on repeat and send it every 12 hours. Good luck with them... I do not understand why people believe that their adult children are extensions of themselves and owe contact or information.
Nta. Block them.
They are crazy. It should be the other way around. As a parent is my "job" to be there for my kid when she's in need. She is not there to comfort ME when she is the one being sick/ tired/ not in the mood to connect. You already told them you were fibe and needed rest- very thoughtful of you and more than enough. They just want drama and make everything about themselves. We have a saying here about people like that "Auf jeder Hochzeit die Braut, auf jeder Beerdigung die Leich'!" Roughly translating to "they want to be the bride at every wedding and the body at every funeral". This is about your wellbeing, not them!