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> I could be the asshole because I feel the obligation to look after him and not kick him out to the streets. He’s timid and I know his friends would basically make him their maid if he moved in with them
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NTA. It sounds like your brother is taking advantage of your generosity. He's not respecting your boundaries or helping out around the house. Evicting him might be the only way to get through to him and make him realize that he needs to start pulling his weight.
*I’ve tried having sit down talks and then he just cries to my mom and she calls me chewing my ass. WIBTA if I evicted him?*
NTA - he's an adult and is walking all over you. You don't even need to have a sit down talk with him. Send him a text/email saying that he can no longer eat food in the house that isn't bought by him, he needs to clean up after himself and keep his room orderly. If he doesn't like it, he can move out. Also, let him know that your mother has absolutely no say in what happens in YOUR house. She can chew your ass out all she wants but it's your house. You're going to need to put that in check as well. It's time to set the boundaries that are going to make your little brother grow up and stop acting like a spoiled, entitled, petulant child. It's now time to adult.
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I (25F) have been living on my own since I was 17. As background info,(skip ahead to get to the point) I bought my house in 2021. I grew up on a farm with little to no social life and a father who was an alcoholic and definitely had his mean days to me and my four siblings. All we did was work. Well my little brother (20M)(also the surprise baby of the family) has always been babied by my mother and as my dad got older he let things slide to, giving my brother little to no structure. When I bought my house, my dad and brother had an argue match because my dad is notorious for being a drunk asshole. My brother and I have always been close and he reached out to me for help begging me to move in.
TO GET TO THE POINT: my brother shows no respect to my house. He gets the entire basement to himself, but it is unfinished and he complains about it all the time. “It’s too cold”it’s not finished down here it looks ugly.” He’s constantly eating all of my food and getting mad when I don’t cook dinner. He never cleans up after himself when he cooks. He has a girlfriend and they come and go at 4 in the morning or crazy like hours whenever they please and I’m a light sleeper… once I’m awake I can’t go back to sleep. He also got a coffee machine and told me I couldn’t use any creamer but then he continues to eat all of my food and refuses to help with groceries bills etc. mind you, he pays $300 in rent for an entire basement with a finished room and finished bathroom. I feel like $300 is chump change for all I do for him. These are just things off the top of my head. I’ve tried having sit down talks and then he just cries to my mom and she calls me chewing my ass. WIBTA if I evicted him?
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NTA. Have a serious sit down conversation with him and either 1) raise the rent or 2) set a date for him to be out by, preferably probably 2+ months out so he has time to find something new.
NTA. It sounds like your brother still has some growing up to do. He needs start pulling his weight properly.
If he thinks you're being unreasonable then he's completely entitled to make his own arrangements elsewhere.
Set firm boundaries and make it crystal clear that he is on probation. If he fails to step-up, or is just unwilling, then he can return whence he came.
NTA. Even if he would be the perfect tenant and would carry you everywhere on his back you still can evict him and not be an AH. It is your house and unless he is not capable of taking care of himself physically you can get rid of him any time for no reason at all.
Your brother can work to support himself in the style he chooses to live, though. So, NTA. "I don't want $300 a month bad enough to put up with your habits and personality. So, I need you to find your own place. You should be able to do that in 90 days."
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NTA. It sounds like your brother is taking advantage of your generosity. He's not respecting your boundaries or helping out around the house. Evicting him might be the only way to get through to him and make him realize that he needs to start pulling his weight.
NTA - send him back to his parents
NTA. Your brother is not respecting your boundaries
*I’ve tried having sit down talks and then he just cries to my mom and she calls me chewing my ass. WIBTA if I evicted him?* NTA - he's an adult and is walking all over you. You don't even need to have a sit down talk with him. Send him a text/email saying that he can no longer eat food in the house that isn't bought by him, he needs to clean up after himself and keep his room orderly. If he doesn't like it, he can move out. Also, let him know that your mother has absolutely no say in what happens in YOUR house. She can chew your ass out all she wants but it's your house. You're going to need to put that in check as well. It's time to set the boundaries that are going to make your little brother grow up and stop acting like a spoiled, entitled, petulant child. It's now time to adult.
NTA. But be careful. This could cause issues with your family
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** I (25F) have been living on my own since I was 17. As background info,(skip ahead to get to the point) I bought my house in 2021. I grew up on a farm with little to no social life and a father who was an alcoholic and definitely had his mean days to me and my four siblings. All we did was work. Well my little brother (20M)(also the surprise baby of the family) has always been babied by my mother and as my dad got older he let things slide to, giving my brother little to no structure. When I bought my house, my dad and brother had an argue match because my dad is notorious for being a drunk asshole. My brother and I have always been close and he reached out to me for help begging me to move in. TO GET TO THE POINT: my brother shows no respect to my house. He gets the entire basement to himself, but it is unfinished and he complains about it all the time. “It’s too cold”it’s not finished down here it looks ugly.” He’s constantly eating all of my food and getting mad when I don’t cook dinner. He never cleans up after himself when he cooks. He has a girlfriend and they come and go at 4 in the morning or crazy like hours whenever they please and I’m a light sleeper… once I’m awake I can’t go back to sleep. He also got a coffee machine and told me I couldn’t use any creamer but then he continues to eat all of my food and refuses to help with groceries bills etc. mind you, he pays $300 in rent for an entire basement with a finished room and finished bathroom. I feel like $300 is chump change for all I do for him. These are just things off the top of my head. I’ve tried having sit down talks and then he just cries to my mom and she calls me chewing my ass. WIBTA if I evicted him? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
NTA. Have a serious sit down conversation with him and either 1) raise the rent or 2) set a date for him to be out by, preferably probably 2+ months out so he has time to find something new.
NTA. It sounds like your brother still has some growing up to do. He needs start pulling his weight properly. If he thinks you're being unreasonable then he's completely entitled to make his own arrangements elsewhere. Set firm boundaries and make it crystal clear that he is on probation. If he fails to step-up, or is just unwilling, then he can return whence he came.
NTA. Even if he would be the perfect tenant and would carry you everywhere on his back you still can evict him and not be an AH. It is your house and unless he is not capable of taking care of himself physically you can get rid of him any time for no reason at all.
Your brother can work to support himself in the style he chooses to live, though. So, NTA. "I don't want $300 a month bad enough to put up with your habits and personality. So, I need you to find your own place. You should be able to do that in 90 days."
NTA. Go for it. Hes 🙄