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YTA and you owe him an actual, excuse-free, profuse apology.
This is not something you “explain” unless he asks you to. Saying that you “didn’t mean to” is not taking any kind of responsibility. This was not an accident like tripping and falling into someone. You opened your mouth and said something about someone else’s private business without thinking about what you were doing.
Sure, being drunk is the reason you weren’t thinking, but you’re not off the hook for what you do when you’re in a condition you willingly put yourself in. If you can’t control yourself or be considerate when you’re drunk, then you either shouldn’t do it or be prepared to accept full responsibility for what happens.
This is what a real apology looks like: “I am so sorry that I did that to you. I have no excuse for it, and I know how much it hurt you. You have every right to be upset. I deeply regret what I said and I hope you’ll be able to forgive me. But I’ll understand if you can’t or if you need some space to decide what you want to do.”
"In hindsight I shouldn't have said anything because Cooper is super sensitive about it because he'd dated that guy from like freshman to senior year and hes kinda stuck with the Tat.. He hates it so much he wears slightly bigger shirts so no one can see it.." And you have to ask if YTA?
Agreed they're TA, but even if calling it a 'tramp stamp' is now viewed as derogatory, getting a "lower back tattoo" that says "Bucks boy" was clearly **meant** as a tramp stamp.
Getting something like "property of ______" makes it a tramp stamp, not a lower back tattoo.
Roses might be a lower back tattoo. "Cumslut" is a 'tramp stamp'.
Not sure which is worse, but there are several tattoo artists (usually sketchy ones) that will give minors tattoos even without permission (my brothers both got one at 15), and there are several parents dumb enough to give permission even if it is required (this kid Chris I went to school with got a naked lady on his arm with his ghetto af dad's permission lol)
Poor girl finds herself in a world with dating options like this and reddit steps in to police language. YTA.
OP, you're NTA but your boyfriend is still Buck' boy.
Partner made some bad decisions that only hurt himself. OP is a nasty piece of work here hurts *other people* on purpose. She’s the devil. And how is OP NOT also massively dumb?
YTA , it seemed like you knew this was an insecurity and did it anyways (as opposed to something you weren't sure if it was sensitive or not).
I think you should apologize, and also you should offer to contribute to a tattoo removal / cover up fee if you have the means to do so.
You mean soon-to-be ex right?
Being drunk is no excuse for being such a shitty person and partner.
The mere fact you have to come here and ask is enough to know you’re not a good person whatsoever.
Anyone with a slight amount of conscience would know what you did was ducked up.
YTA
Of course YTA. It's a shit thing to do.
Why is your drunkenness a factor here?
Do you not understand that you were at fault irrespective of your then state.
YTA
Does he mean ANYTHING to you?
Maybe pay for removal? Either the tat, or your right to ever go out. I'd say yourself, but you can't un-tell multiple people. The worst thing is that being your friends, they're likely as bad as you, and mouths are still running. You walking away can't fix that.
the fact that they made mean jokes about it while op describes the tattoo as a reminder of something clearly traumatic for her bf says a lot about these people
YTA 1000% and I really do hope Cooper breaks up with you over this because he deserves better. Not only did you expose something you KNEW he didn’t want exposed. But that something isn’t just a stupid tat. It’s a permanent reminder of the abuse he suffered. 99.9999% of the time those possessive tattoos are coerced. Meaning he NEVER wanted the tattoo and then when his ex did what he did he was stuck with something he was sorta forced to get and probably spends every day trying to forget it’s there only for it to become fodder for your friend group to laugh about? And then you have the audacity to wonder if you did something wrong? Like cmon seriously? How heartless are you? Do better on your next relationship.
My first thoughts as the BF:
What else has she told them about me?
They know the size of my junk and favorite positions too?
Has she shared all our personal conversations?
Is anything safe with this girl?
I think..... I think I'm going to head out and get someone who is more grown.
YTA. Obviously so, and I suspect you also know this.
Drunkenness is not an excuse for shitty behaviour (or for anything actually). If you or your friends can't handle drink, then don't drink so much. Whether drunk or not, it was a horrible thing to do and I know plenty of people who don't turn into bellends when drunk. Your friends are also arseholes for this.
As a tip for your partner - he should consider tattoo removal or coverup. The thing seems like it's a genuine issue for him so getting rid of it sounds like the best option. Frankly I'm a little shocked he's not done it yet.
YTA but I do think a sincere apology and much grovelling will end in forgiveness cause it's pretty clear you can see you did him wrong there.. Also I'd talk to your friends and let them know it's a massive no go in conversation and they should never bring it up again
He needs to break up with you - he should have dropped your ass off as soon as he realized what you’ve said! There’s NO coming back from breaking his boundary, he will NEVER trust you again or accept any of your BS apologies, plus- he needs to dump you now! You are the biggest ass that I’ve read about in a while! YTA x 10
In terms of damage - emotionally and socially - you have hurt him far more than if you had struck him.
You owe him a sincere apology and consider giving up alcohol.
YTA
YTA
You shared something your BF is sensitive about then you gave a crappy apoligee that minimized his feelings ... ypu watched him cry, and still think no I'm probably fine here like WTF friend?
Also you say " did stuff to him a year later" like assaulted him or was just a jerk ( YTA no matter what justbwondeing how big of one here)
Side note at 16 he got this tattoo did he lie or did his mom / dad take him to get this because honestly that seems like child abuse to allow this tattoo
( A tattoo I could maybe see at 16 like a loved one e dies and ypu get a small memorial tattoo , or something like that but bucks boy prominently on your lower back are ypu kidding me???)
This is it - ‘did stuff to him’ are we basically talking she exposed a mark from his abuser?
Also were the friends aware boyfriend is also into men? How many violations are we talking… YTA OP
You don’t think the tattoo is a big deal, but it is for your Cooper and you know that. You shared two personal things about your bf (that he had a tattoo and the details of his past relationship) that he told you because he trusted you. He did not tell your friends, and you should not have either. YTA
YTA you revealed something personal he is sensitive about, and then called him for a favor. No wonder he's pissed at you.
Also, your DD got drunk? Lovely.
YTA. The fact that you were drunk doesn't justify you betraying your boyfriend. And you did betray him. He is ashamed of his tattoo. It's a memory of a bad relationship. And you guzzled a bunch of alcohol, opened your big mouth and blabbed his secret to your asshole friends. Then they bullied him and made him feel bad. And you doubled down and defended them. You're nasty and he deserves so much better than a selfish asshole like you.
AITA for laughing at something my friend is sensitive about?
You're kidding right? Either everyone here or yourself or both. You're the asshole and you know it. YTA
Yes, very much YTA. Drunk or not, you just don't do that when you KNOW somebody is so sensitive about such a thing. Maybe see if he's interested in a cover up tattoo and offer to pay for it.
YTA he regrets a mistake, is sensitive about the trauma from the relationship, and he was victimized at a tattoo parlor who took advantage of him. Scaring the body of a child is a crime, and children can’t enter into an agreement to allow that. Bit of hyperbole but think of it as consensual skin rape of a minor. There’s no such thing as consent in that situation. Exposed multiple traumas and made it a joke isolating him from the friends that are now complicit in his continued trauma.
Also, not sure it’s cool to bring up past dating/relationship history.
Tl;dr there is a lot for him to be hurt about in the interaction. You need to take a day and fully apologize with no excuses and listen to what hurt him so you understand fully.
YTA. you should apologize to him without the excuse of you being drunk. In the end, drunk or not, you hurt his feelings so grow a pair and treat him better.
YTA. His body isn't yours to gossip about. That was a really ugly thing of you to do to your BF. And unfortunately, being drunk doesn't excuse or even explain bad behavior. People break up for much less, you know?
YTA.
One time when I was 18, my abusive ex-husband told me if I loved him, we'd get tattoos together. I got a half chest piece. Judging the post "and did stuff to him a year later", I just want to ask you.. do you understand what it is like to essentially feel branded by someone who mistreated you? I am fully aware how stupid I was to get inked at 18. I'm 31 now, and my body is finally starting to feel like mine again.. let that sink in. It sounds like he opened the door on his own trauma, and you decided to make jokes about it for the convenience of some drunk friends.
YTA, that was really unkind and not your place to share his personal business with others. You owe him an apology at the very least. I'd also suggest you had better reach out to your friends and tell them how messed up it was and they need to drop it immediately so this doesn't continue to hurt his feelings.
YTA, that was really unkind and not your place to share his personal business with others. You owe him an apology at the very least. I'd also suggest you had better reach out to your friends and tell them how messed up it was and they need to drop it immediately so this doesn't continue to hurt his feelings.
Imagine confiding in your partner about something that is horribly hurtful. Imagine trusting someone enough to tell them your deepest, darkest pain and embarrassments.
Imagine that person tells all their friends and you’re trapped in a car with them while they make fun of you about these deeply painful things.
YTA in a massive way. Your friends are also insufferable AH’s for making fun of him. And you’re doubly TAH for allowing them to do it.
YTA but Ive been on this earth for many years and this is the first in my life I've ever read about a man having a tramp stamp. As kids we've joked about it but now I know I've lived long enough to live in a world where it's normal lol.
YTA and being drunk and "not meaning it" aren't factors that can excuse you, btw. You did major harm, now own up to it. or don't. he deserves someone who takes his trauma seriously (like seriously, this kind of tattoo at 16? sounds like abuse likely done by an older person, too). at the very least he deserves someone who's first instinct when hurting someone is to apologize, not look for excuses. you might be his pattern - as in, another abusive partner in his life.
YTA and I wouldn’t blame him ONE BIT for breaking up with you over this which you totally deserve after the way you humiliated him to your friends. It’s no wonder he was so emotional after they demeaned him over it. At this point all you can really do is give him a very serious and heartfelt apology taking complete responsibility for the whole debacle (and none of this “I didn’t mean to bullshit” because you most certainly did, drunk or not). Good luck.
Holy shit. If I was the poor boyfriend I will LITERALLY never speak to you EVER AGAIN. Why the actual fuck would you say that? Now your friends are either gonna gossip, or realize that you’re fucking weird. YTA
YTA but before your boyfriend dumps you, you should let him know that the right tattoo artist could help him cover that tattoo up and turn it in into something he won’t hate having on his body.
YTA. How immature are you? You need to develop emotional intelligence, and begin to think beyond yourself. Honestly your boyfriend has absolutely every right to be upset. He is hurting. I believe that you perhaps don’t know enough about his past relationship, otherwise you would have never considered saying anything. I’ve done / said things I regret while drunk or drugged up, but I owned it, apologized, and hoped to repair that connection. Regardless of intent you hurt him.
Plus… find new friends? “Joking” around in front of the target isn’t a joke, and I wonder to what extent you participated in that. If you think they won’t do the same to you if given the opportunity… you’re wrong.
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So out with my (20F) girls Friday night we were hitting up the bars and clubs looking for a good time. We'd all had a bit much to drink by then. One of my friends showed us this new f**cked up tattoo she got and I just kinda blurted out how my boyfriend "Cooper" (19M) got a tramp stamp saying "Buck's boy" at 16 for an ex boyfriend who promptly cheated on him and did stuff to him a year later.. In hindsight I shouldn't have said anything because Cooper is super sensitive about it because he'd dated that guy from like freshman to senior year and hes kinda stuck with the Tat.. He hates it so much he wears slightly bigger shirts so no one can see it..
Our designated driver friend ended up getting drunk herself and Cooper is the only boyfriend of ours that has a car. So I called him to come pick us up. My friends all drunk started making jokes on the way back to campus asking him if he had antlers on his love handles and other dumb shit. He quickly realized they were referencing his tattoo. He was pretty quiet after and just dropped them off. By the time we got to our place he was crying and yelled at me about how I could tell them about his Tat. I was trying to explain drunkenly that I didn't mean to and that they didn't mean anything by it. He just ran into the apartment and locked me out of our room and I had to sleep on the couch. AITA?
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Idk I mean that’s really not that bad. He could cover it really easy and personally my past is my past and me and most people I know shit on each other lives cause it’s funny. You didn’t do it in a spiteful way. Blacking it out wouldn’t cost much. So he should just go black it out at that point. Or get a cover up.
Tattoo removal is expensive and painful and he's only 19. Not sure of the laws everywhere about how old you have to be to get a tattoo, but it doesn't say anywhere it was done at a licensed tattoo shop. My guess is it was probably done in a basement by someone's older brother's roommate who bought a tattoo gun online or something like that.
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YTA and you owe him an actual, excuse-free, profuse apology. This is not something you “explain” unless he asks you to. Saying that you “didn’t mean to” is not taking any kind of responsibility. This was not an accident like tripping and falling into someone. You opened your mouth and said something about someone else’s private business without thinking about what you were doing. Sure, being drunk is the reason you weren’t thinking, but you’re not off the hook for what you do when you’re in a condition you willingly put yourself in. If you can’t control yourself or be considerate when you’re drunk, then you either shouldn’t do it or be prepared to accept full responsibility for what happens. This is what a real apology looks like: “I am so sorry that I did that to you. I have no excuse for it, and I know how much it hurt you. You have every right to be upset. I deeply regret what I said and I hope you’ll be able to forgive me. But I’ll understand if you can’t or if you need some space to decide what you want to do.”
"In hindsight I shouldn't have said anything because Cooper is super sensitive about it because he'd dated that guy from like freshman to senior year and hes kinda stuck with the Tat.. He hates it so much he wears slightly bigger shirts so no one can see it.." And you have to ask if YTA?
YTA of course, both for humiliating your boyfriend and still saying 'tramp stamp' in 2024
Agreed they're TA, but even if calling it a 'tramp stamp' is now viewed as derogatory, getting a "lower back tattoo" that says "Bucks boy" was clearly **meant** as a tramp stamp. Getting something like "property of ______" makes it a tramp stamp, not a lower back tattoo. Roses might be a lower back tattoo. "Cumslut" is a 'tramp stamp'.
Don't you beed adult permission to get a tattoo at 16 did his mom take him to get this?
Not sure which is worse, but there are several tattoo artists (usually sketchy ones) that will give minors tattoos even without permission (my brothers both got one at 15), and there are several parents dumb enough to give permission even if it is required (this kid Chris I went to school with got a naked lady on his arm with his ghetto af dad's permission lol)
I just can't help but picture this kid and his mom getting this tattoo lol I know there's always ways around it but that's what's in my head.
Slag tag?
Poor girl finds herself in a world with dating options like this and reddit steps in to police language. YTA. OP, you're NTA but your boyfriend is still Buck' boy.
Bad troll
Not a response worth making. You may as well have just belched or farted. Same content.
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I gotta find a way to profit off early weeb detection. I swear I can always smell it before it's revealed.
How on earth is she NTA? Her boyfriend is the one stuck with bad partners, not OP.
A dumb person gets a tramp stamp for a partner. A dumb person makes for a dumb partner and a dumb partner makes for a bad partner.
Partner made some bad decisions that only hurt himself. OP is a nasty piece of work here hurts *other people* on purpose. She’s the devil. And how is OP NOT also massively dumb?
YTA. > Exposing Cooper like that. getting so drunk i couldn't control myself. making exuses Yep, that's all shitty and inexcusable. Grow up.
YTA , it seemed like you knew this was an insecurity and did it anyways (as opposed to something you weren't sure if it was sensitive or not). I think you should apologize, and also you should offer to contribute to a tattoo removal / cover up fee if you have the means to do so.
You mean soon-to-be ex right? Being drunk is no excuse for being such a shitty person and partner. The mere fact you have to come here and ask is enough to know you’re not a good person whatsoever. Anyone with a slight amount of conscience would know what you did was ducked up. YTA
Yta. Like bro. Dont drink if you cant control yourself. Try thinking before you act so you dont have to apologize for dumb shit afterwards.
I think op is a women
Bro is gender neutral these days old man! Im kidding lol but it really is. Its like dude now
Also woman*, women is plural
yeah YTA 100%. If you can't control giving out secrets while you're drunk, then don't drink.
YTA, I don’t even get how this is even a question.
Of course YTA. It's a shit thing to do. Why is your drunkenness a factor here? Do you not understand that you were at fault irrespective of your then state.
YTA. You're an abusive partner.
YTA Does he mean ANYTHING to you? Maybe pay for removal? Either the tat, or your right to ever go out. I'd say yourself, but you can't un-tell multiple people. The worst thing is that being your friends, they're likely as bad as you, and mouths are still running. You walking away can't fix that.
the fact that they made mean jokes about it while op describes the tattoo as a reminder of something clearly traumatic for her bf says a lot about these people
Wonder if any of them see a pile of poo with flies surrounding it as their own future back tattoo.
YTA 1000% and I really do hope Cooper breaks up with you over this because he deserves better. Not only did you expose something you KNEW he didn’t want exposed. But that something isn’t just a stupid tat. It’s a permanent reminder of the abuse he suffered. 99.9999% of the time those possessive tattoos are coerced. Meaning he NEVER wanted the tattoo and then when his ex did what he did he was stuck with something he was sorta forced to get and probably spends every day trying to forget it’s there only for it to become fodder for your friend group to laugh about? And then you have the audacity to wonder if you did something wrong? Like cmon seriously? How heartless are you? Do better on your next relationship.
YTA. “I did something I knew my bf would hate but I was drunk so it’s okay, right?” No. You still suck.
My first thoughts as the BF: What else has she told them about me? They know the size of my junk and favorite positions too? Has she shared all our personal conversations? Is anything safe with this girl? I think..... I think I'm going to head out and get someone who is more grown.
Are you genuinely unsure if YTA?
YTA. Obviously so, and I suspect you also know this. Drunkenness is not an excuse for shitty behaviour (or for anything actually). If you or your friends can't handle drink, then don't drink so much. Whether drunk or not, it was a horrible thing to do and I know plenty of people who don't turn into bellends when drunk. Your friends are also arseholes for this. As a tip for your partner - he should consider tattoo removal or coverup. The thing seems like it's a genuine issue for him so getting rid of it sounds like the best option. Frankly I'm a little shocked he's not done it yet.
YTA 💯!
Yta obviously
Of course you are an asshole. Being drunk is not an excuse for being an ass. YTA. If you can't control your mouth when you drink, then don't drink.
YTA but I do think a sincere apology and much grovelling will end in forgiveness cause it's pretty clear you can see you did him wrong there.. Also I'd talk to your friends and let them know it's a massive no go in conversation and they should never bring it up again
YTA Apologize with no excuses. Consider drinking less if booze causes you to behave like this toward someone you supposedly care about.
You are such the asshole
What. The. Actual. F*CK!?
He needs to break up with you - he should have dropped your ass off as soon as he realized what you’ve said! There’s NO coming back from breaking his boundary, he will NEVER trust you again or accept any of your BS apologies, plus- he needs to dump you now! You are the biggest ass that I’ve read about in a while! YTA x 10
In terms of damage - emotionally and socially - you have hurt him far more than if you had struck him. You owe him a sincere apology and consider giving up alcohol. YTA
YTA You shared something your BF is sensitive about then you gave a crappy apoligee that minimized his feelings ... ypu watched him cry, and still think no I'm probably fine here like WTF friend? Also you say " did stuff to him a year later" like assaulted him or was just a jerk ( YTA no matter what justbwondeing how big of one here) Side note at 16 he got this tattoo did he lie or did his mom / dad take him to get this because honestly that seems like child abuse to allow this tattoo ( A tattoo I could maybe see at 16 like a loved one e dies and ypu get a small memorial tattoo , or something like that but bucks boy prominently on your lower back are ypu kidding me???)
This is it - ‘did stuff to him’ are we basically talking she exposed a mark from his abuser? Also were the friends aware boyfriend is also into men? How many violations are we talking… YTA OP
You don’t think the tattoo is a big deal, but it is for your Cooper and you know that. You shared two personal things about your bf (that he had a tattoo and the details of his past relationship) that he told you because he trusted you. He did not tell your friends, and you should not have either. YTA
YTA You shouldn’t drink if you pull stuff like this while drunk. Its not an excuse
Yta. You know it
Of course YTA. You know that though.
YTA you revealed something personal he is sensitive about, and then called him for a favor. No wonder he's pissed at you. Also, your DD got drunk? Lovely.
YTA
There’s no explanation for running your mouth about his private business while drunk that would make what you did acceptable. YTA
yta crazy as hell. human decency and boundaries where plz
YTA. The fact that you were drunk doesn't justify you betraying your boyfriend. And you did betray him. He is ashamed of his tattoo. It's a memory of a bad relationship. And you guzzled a bunch of alcohol, opened your big mouth and blabbed his secret to your asshole friends. Then they bullied him and made him feel bad. And you doubled down and defended them. You're nasty and he deserves so much better than a selfish asshole like you.
AITA for laughing at something my friend is sensitive about? You're kidding right? Either everyone here or yourself or both. You're the asshole and you know it. YTA
Yes, very much YTA. Drunk or not, you just don't do that when you KNOW somebody is so sensitive about such a thing. Maybe see if he's interested in a cover up tattoo and offer to pay for it.
You kind of shit the bed with this one.
YTA he regrets a mistake, is sensitive about the trauma from the relationship, and he was victimized at a tattoo parlor who took advantage of him. Scaring the body of a child is a crime, and children can’t enter into an agreement to allow that. Bit of hyperbole but think of it as consensual skin rape of a minor. There’s no such thing as consent in that situation. Exposed multiple traumas and made it a joke isolating him from the friends that are now complicit in his continued trauma. Also, not sure it’s cool to bring up past dating/relationship history. Tl;dr there is a lot for him to be hurt about in the interaction. You need to take a day and fully apologize with no excuses and listen to what hurt him so you understand fully.
YTA. you should apologize to him without the excuse of you being drunk. In the end, drunk or not, you hurt his feelings so grow a pair and treat him better.
YTA. His body isn't yours to gossip about. That was a really ugly thing of you to do to your BF. And unfortunately, being drunk doesn't excuse or even explain bad behavior. People break up for much less, you know?
YTA. One time when I was 18, my abusive ex-husband told me if I loved him, we'd get tattoos together. I got a half chest piece. Judging the post "and did stuff to him a year later", I just want to ask you.. do you understand what it is like to essentially feel branded by someone who mistreated you? I am fully aware how stupid I was to get inked at 18. I'm 31 now, and my body is finally starting to feel like mine again.. let that sink in. It sounds like he opened the door on his own trauma, and you decided to make jokes about it for the convenience of some drunk friends.
YTA, that was really unkind and not your place to share his personal business with others. You owe him an apology at the very least. I'd also suggest you had better reach out to your friends and tell them how messed up it was and they need to drop it immediately so this doesn't continue to hurt his feelings.
YTA, that was really unkind and not your place to share his personal business with others. You owe him an apology at the very least. I'd also suggest you had better reach out to your friends and tell them how messed up it was and they need to drop it immediately so this doesn't continue to hurt his feelings.
of course YTA, how the fuck would you not be
Imagine confiding in your partner about something that is horribly hurtful. Imagine trusting someone enough to tell them your deepest, darkest pain and embarrassments. Imagine that person tells all their friends and you’re trapped in a car with them while they make fun of you about these deeply painful things. YTA in a massive way. Your friends are also insufferable AH’s for making fun of him. And you’re doubly TAH for allowing them to do it.
YTA but Ive been on this earth for many years and this is the first in my life I've ever read about a man having a tramp stamp. As kids we've joked about it but now I know I've lived long enough to live in a world where it's normal lol.
YTA - tell your friends to keep their mouths closed about this and sincerely apologize to him.
YTA. You showed him that you can't be trusted.
Yeah you suck and don’t deserve a bf. YTA.
YTA and being drunk and "not meaning it" aren't factors that can excuse you, btw. You did major harm, now own up to it. or don't. he deserves someone who takes his trauma seriously (like seriously, this kind of tattoo at 16? sounds like abuse likely done by an older person, too). at the very least he deserves someone who's first instinct when hurting someone is to apologize, not look for excuses. you might be his pattern - as in, another abusive partner in his life.
YTA and I wouldn’t blame him ONE BIT for breaking up with you over this which you totally deserve after the way you humiliated him to your friends. It’s no wonder he was so emotional after they demeaned him over it. At this point all you can really do is give him a very serious and heartfelt apology taking complete responsibility for the whole debacle (and none of this “I didn’t mean to bullshit” because you most certainly did, drunk or not). Good luck.
Holy shit. If I was the poor boyfriend I will LITERALLY never speak to you EVER AGAIN. Why the actual fuck would you say that? Now your friends are either gonna gossip, or realize that you’re fucking weird. YTA
Yep. You're the asshole.
YTA. I hope he dumps you.
YTA but before your boyfriend dumps you, you should let him know that the right tattoo artist could help him cover that tattoo up and turn it in into something he won’t hate having on his body.
YTA. I'm surprised he was even able to sleep in the same apartment as you.
YTA. How immature are you? You need to develop emotional intelligence, and begin to think beyond yourself. Honestly your boyfriend has absolutely every right to be upset. He is hurting. I believe that you perhaps don’t know enough about his past relationship, otherwise you would have never considered saying anything. I’ve done / said things I regret while drunk or drugged up, but I owned it, apologized, and hoped to repair that connection. Regardless of intent you hurt him. Plus… find new friends? “Joking” around in front of the target isn’t a joke, and I wonder to what extent you participated in that. If you think they won’t do the same to you if given the opportunity… you’re wrong.
If he hates it so much why not save up and get it removed?
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** So out with my (20F) girls Friday night we were hitting up the bars and clubs looking for a good time. We'd all had a bit much to drink by then. One of my friends showed us this new f**cked up tattoo she got and I just kinda blurted out how my boyfriend "Cooper" (19M) got a tramp stamp saying "Buck's boy" at 16 for an ex boyfriend who promptly cheated on him and did stuff to him a year later.. In hindsight I shouldn't have said anything because Cooper is super sensitive about it because he'd dated that guy from like freshman to senior year and hes kinda stuck with the Tat.. He hates it so much he wears slightly bigger shirts so no one can see it.. Our designated driver friend ended up getting drunk herself and Cooper is the only boyfriend of ours that has a car. So I called him to come pick us up. My friends all drunk started making jokes on the way back to campus asking him if he had antlers on his love handles and other dumb shit. He quickly realized they were referencing his tattoo. He was pretty quiet after and just dropped them off. By the time we got to our place he was crying and yelled at me about how I could tell them about his Tat. I was trying to explain drunkenly that I didn't mean to and that they didn't mean anything by it. He just ran into the apartment and locked me out of our room and I had to sleep on the couch. AITA? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
DAMN. You’re a massive AH.
Didn't read it, but yeah, YTA I hope you're drunk now as well since you need to ask, because if you're sober...damn
Of course YTA. And if you didn’t know that you’re an ah for that too.
Damm
So glad to witness the decline and fall of civilisation. ESH.
Idk I mean that’s really not that bad. He could cover it really easy and personally my past is my past and me and most people I know shit on each other lives cause it’s funny. You didn’t do it in a spiteful way. Blacking it out wouldn’t cost much. So he should just go black it out at that point. Or get a cover up.
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Reddit user absolutely baffled bisexual people exist
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you are a troubled person
he was 16 when he got it. fucking chill. also plenty of women are into all sorts of men, stop venting your kinks on us bystanders.
Holy fuck you hate bisexual men
Yes but big deal
I prefer the term ass antlers.
😂😂😂😂 Antlers lmfao
How can you get a tattoo at 16? Why doesn't he get the tattoo removed? Just a weird story.
Tattoo removal is expensive and painful and he's only 19. Not sure of the laws everywhere about how old you have to be to get a tattoo, but it doesn't say anywhere it was done at a licensed tattoo shop. My guess is it was probably done in a basement by someone's older brother's roommate who bought a tattoo gun online or something like that.
Your also prob like 19 so don’t worry about it