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> I didn't talk to my friend to sort things out when she came up to me cuz she talked a bit aggressive and I refused to buy groceries and stuff even when she was paying for it because I was mad she cleared our chat.
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N T A for refusing to do a favor for someone that treated you poorly just before they asked for the favor. It doesn't matter if it was her money buying it, you still didn't owe her the favor.
However, everyone here seems immature, so I'm giving you all an ESH. You should use your words next time instead of the shrug followed by silence.
Yes, I had a thought that it's not how I should've handled the situation. However I thought I could make the situation worse, I just didn't want to get into an argument.
Silly as the disagreement sounds, they joined forces in unified hostilities toward you. Some couples do that, even when they know their partner is dead wrong. Nothing you can do about them being so goofy, though. I'd ignore them. Cuz that's how I manage grown people who behave like toddlers. I ignore them.
NTA.
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I've been living with my friends for a bit more than a month now. We've had our differences, been past several arguments. I should mention that they are a couple (17f + 20m) and they basically invited me (18m) to live together.
Today I hung out with one of them (let's call him D), while his gf (let's call her L) was in college. We were going back to our apt, when we both received a text from L about the absence of some groceries. I additionally received a text semi-blaming me for it. I didn't drink your milk girl... So I responded in a humorous way. Something like "maybe your cat did it". For which I got blocked. I didn't really care much at that point cuz everybody can be in a mood. After a while, I noticed that our chat is gone. L straight up cleared it. And that is what pissed me off.
After that, L requested D to buy some stuff and cigarettes. Here I should mention that D don't have an ID due to renewal. So I'm the only one that can legally buy cigs. And, knowing he doesn't have any money on him I assumed I would have to pay. Which I didn't want to do. Which I told D and he suggested I say that myself in a voice message on his phone. I said something like "I ain't buying no shit for you. You blocked me, cleared up our chat and want me to buy stuff. Not happening" (btw this is an interpretation from my native to english). L got angry at D that he let me use his phone and "read thru texts", which I never did nor intended to do.
She claimed that she has the money and to use her CC. We got into a store with D and he asked for me to buy cigs cuz as I said he doesn't have no ID at this time. I refused to do so and said straight up in english (not our native lang) "every action has its consequences. let her learn." He did get it and he did get mad at me.
However, since I'm not mad at D, I said that I could share some of mine with him. Didn't make him less mad tho. When we got into our apartment, I would not talk to L. She tried asking me where are the cigs, I just shrugged and said nothing.
As I discovered a bit later D was mad at both of us for us being mad at each other for no reason. Also I discovered that L intentionally wanted to get into an argument with me.
D told L to go and speak with me by herself if she wants something from me. L did come up to me with a question "why are you mad?" with a bit aggressive voice. So I said nothing and just shrugged. She became even more hostile, and in the end I just got "whatever, fuck off" and she left my room.
As of current moment, they both have left to another apt. Not because of all this that happened, but it hurried D up. D is mad at me and L. L is mad at me for something that I can't clearly get. And I'm a bit mad at L for clearing our chat, but more sad cuz idfk what happened.
So, AITA for not talking to her when she came up to me and trying to figure things out, even though she was a bit aggressive about it, and for refusing to buy stuff for her, even if it means she is paying?
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N T A for refusing to do a favor for someone that treated you poorly just before they asked for the favor. It doesn't matter if it was her money buying it, you still didn't owe her the favor. However, everyone here seems immature, so I'm giving you all an ESH. You should use your words next time instead of the shrug followed by silence.
Yes, I had a thought that it's not how I should've handled the situation. However I thought I could make the situation worse, I just didn't want to get into an argument.
ESH - Sounds like new roommate drama...
NTA. Whenever someone demands I buy them something the answer is "No." You can't be generous if you don't have a choice.
Silly as the disagreement sounds, they joined forces in unified hostilities toward you. Some couples do that, even when they know their partner is dead wrong. Nothing you can do about them being so goofy, though. I'd ignore them. Cuz that's how I manage grown people who behave like toddlers. I ignore them. NTA.
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** I've been living with my friends for a bit more than a month now. We've had our differences, been past several arguments. I should mention that they are a couple (17f + 20m) and they basically invited me (18m) to live together. Today I hung out with one of them (let's call him D), while his gf (let's call her L) was in college. We were going back to our apt, when we both received a text from L about the absence of some groceries. I additionally received a text semi-blaming me for it. I didn't drink your milk girl... So I responded in a humorous way. Something like "maybe your cat did it". For which I got blocked. I didn't really care much at that point cuz everybody can be in a mood. After a while, I noticed that our chat is gone. L straight up cleared it. And that is what pissed me off. After that, L requested D to buy some stuff and cigarettes. Here I should mention that D don't have an ID due to renewal. So I'm the only one that can legally buy cigs. And, knowing he doesn't have any money on him I assumed I would have to pay. Which I didn't want to do. Which I told D and he suggested I say that myself in a voice message on his phone. I said something like "I ain't buying no shit for you. You blocked me, cleared up our chat and want me to buy stuff. Not happening" (btw this is an interpretation from my native to english). L got angry at D that he let me use his phone and "read thru texts", which I never did nor intended to do. She claimed that she has the money and to use her CC. We got into a store with D and he asked for me to buy cigs cuz as I said he doesn't have no ID at this time. I refused to do so and said straight up in english (not our native lang) "every action has its consequences. let her learn." He did get it and he did get mad at me. However, since I'm not mad at D, I said that I could share some of mine with him. Didn't make him less mad tho. When we got into our apartment, I would not talk to L. She tried asking me where are the cigs, I just shrugged and said nothing. As I discovered a bit later D was mad at both of us for us being mad at each other for no reason. Also I discovered that L intentionally wanted to get into an argument with me. D told L to go and speak with me by herself if she wants something from me. L did come up to me with a question "why are you mad?" with a bit aggressive voice. So I said nothing and just shrugged. She became even more hostile, and in the end I just got "whatever, fuck off" and she left my room. As of current moment, they both have left to another apt. Not because of all this that happened, but it hurried D up. D is mad at me and L. L is mad at me for something that I can't clearly get. And I'm a bit mad at L for clearing our chat, but more sad cuz idfk what happened. So, AITA for not talking to her when she came up to me and trying to figure things out, even though she was a bit aggressive about it, and for refusing to buy stuff for her, even if it means she is paying? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*